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Two things can be true at the same time · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey, good morning everybody from
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  the chicken coop so Today, I want to talk to you about the
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  fact that two things can be true at the same time.
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  Now you've heard me probably mention this on the podcast
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  before but today I want to just focus on it because I think it's
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  important for us to understand the Dynamics of it.
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  Two things can be true at the same time, I can be exhausted
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  and I can be completely and totally happy about being
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  exhausted or just about the exhaustion because I did a
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  really great day of work. You know, when I finish coaching
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  everybody at the End of the day, I can be spent mentally, but I
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  can feel really happy about the job that I did or I can be
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  completely in love with my husband and know how much I love
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  him yet. I want to kill him because he
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  said that my son could, you know, go off and put a fish tank
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  into the bedroom. Those two things can actually be
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  true at the same time and we I think we forget that things are
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  not absolutes to things can. True.
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  At the same time, you know, I was coaching a couple this week
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  and I said to them the very same thing, two things can be true at
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  the same time, you can be in love with each other and you can
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  want to throat punch each other at the same time and they
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  started laughing about it. But it's true and I think that
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  we forget how hard it is to be in interaction with other people
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  when we have our expectations and they don't know them.
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  So it leads to these moments of Discord and moments of
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  discomfort when we are not clear about our expectations and it
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  sets us up to be in conflict in our lives.
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  And if we can remember that two things can be true at the same
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  time, it eases us out of the anger, it eases us out of the
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  frustration. It puts us into a place of
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  awareness that we are very complex, emotional being Human
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  beings are incredibly complex, emotional beings, you know, it's
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  long, debated aspects of, you know, feelings emotions, which
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  comes first. How does one trigger another?
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  And the truth comes down to this, we might understand some
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  of the mechanics around feelings and emotions, but we still don't
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  have Clarity on where they all come from.
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  Where thoughts come from? How does an idea come into your
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  head? There's a lot of Gray gray
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  space. If you will, I want to say gray
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  matter. Meaning that that's in the brain
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  but there's a lot of gray space here.
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  Nothing is absolute. There isn't black and white here
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  and just like, you know, we want people to give us Grace.
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  We have to provide Grace for others and in the in the
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  acknowledgement that two things can be true.
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  At the same time we can make decisions from a more graceful
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  place and we can make our Actions from a more graceful
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  place, but you first have to allow yourself to recognize two
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  things can be true at the same time and then you have to
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  decide, okay? Well, if two things are true at
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  the same time, which one of those two things do I want to
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  put my focus on which and I'm not saying you ignore the
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  problems, please understand? This is not about ignoring the
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  problems. This is about having Grace with
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  it all, so that you can heal, what's not, right?
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  And what you can, you know, put your attention.
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  Attention on grows, we all know that where your attention goes
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  things grow. So you have to recognize that
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  when you are in your state of frustration and you are putting
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  your attention on the frustration, the frustration
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  grows. But if two things are Possible
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  at the same time like I love you and I can't stand the things you
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  do then you have to say am I you know focusing on the fact that I
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  love the person or am I focusing on the problem?
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  And again this does not mean that you don't deal with the
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  issues that need to be dealt with.
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  What it means is that you understand, there is a higher
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  action in mind, and that is the love.
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  The love is always present, so, and I'm using that as the exam,
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  But this can be done in any any situation and you can figure out
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  which one is the higher important emotion for you to
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  focus on now. I mean, I'll be the first one to
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  admit my husband and I drive each other.
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  Crazy. There's no question about the
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  fact that we can irritate each other absolutely without
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  question. That's called being in a
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  relationship and we stick it out because we love each other
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  because that's more important to us than anything and we've been
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  some through some really crappy things.
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  Let me tell you the crappiest of crappy and we have stuck it out
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  because we love each other and just because we have made stupid
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  choices and said stupid things and done stupid.
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  Things doesn't mean we give up on each other because two things
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  can be true at the same time and you get to process that and
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  consciously think through which is the one I want my energy to
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  go to which is the one I want to grow.
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  You know, there's that old American Native American saying
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  about Two wolves inside of us and you know, there's the Dark
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  Side in that light side of the wolf.
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  And then the question is well, which one grows?
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  Whichever one you feed and I butchered that probably terribly
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  but the reality is whatever you put attention to grows, just
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  like I can plant two seeds in the ground.
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  I can give them both the dirt. I can put the seeds in.
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  Both the cups which one is going to grow, which one is going to
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  thrive. The One eye water and the one I
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  feed the other one will stagnate and do nothing.
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  It will just sit in the dirt, a seed in the dirt is not enough.
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  It needs to be nurtured and this is how this works.
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  So I want you to think about this today, two things can be
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  true at the same time what are you two things that you need to
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  put your awareness to and figure out because that's what's going
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  to make the difference in your life.
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  Okay guys I will see you tomorrow.
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  Have a blessed day. Bye.