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Loyalty vs. Opportunity: Will You Sacrifice Your Future? · J&B Live Podcast

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Again, tonight we're asking a question that can end friendships.
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Break up family, ruin business deals or partnerships, or even mess with your
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peace. Yes, it can, guys.
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So if someone gave you the opportunity of a lifetime, just think about it.
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Somebody said, well, just think about it.
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By taking it meant leaving behind. This is an opportunity of a lifetime.
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Leaving behind the people who help build you, what would you do?
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They offered you a lifetime opportunity.
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What would you do? And I think earlier at Broker J3, you said you would take it, right?
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Yeah, yeah. I probably would, Dr. B. I probably really would.
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So what would you do? Would you stay loyal or would you choose that opportunity?
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That is the real question here. Okay, guys, this is what we're saying.
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The right one is right here, guys. Somebody going to be mad tonight because
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there's nothing wrong with choosing an opportunity that's best for you.
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Okay? Don't blame us. We told y'all right from the start where we keep it raw,
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real, and relevant, guys. That's what we do.
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All right. So tonight we're talking about it.
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What is loyalty and what does it really mean? We're going to define it because,
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again, a lot of people throw that word around, you know, like it's candy.
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Yeah, they sure do. they throw it around like it's nothing yes they do okay guys so loyalty.
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Should mean trust, consistency. It should mean support and standing beside people
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during hard seasons, during those difficult times.
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But loyalty should never mean staying somewhere where you're dying inside emotionally,
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physically, financially.
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Guys, it doesn't mean all of that. No, it doesn't.
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You know, so again, let me ask this question. How many of you guys stayed loyal
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to a bad job and got nothing but stress.
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Y'all know those jobs demand more. Or better yet, just think about it.
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Staying loyal to friends who never celebrated you.
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Any of your victories that you had, they never celebrated none of their victories.
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But themselves, of course, they celebrated those.
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Yeah, or you stay loyal to family members who only call you when they need money.
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Yeah, you know how those family members are. Sometimes people confuse loyalty with suffering.
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Okay, now. Now, we started early off tonight and asked a question.
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So, guys, let us know in the comments, have you ever stayed loyal for too long?
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Okay, that's a tough question, guys. So, now, some of you guys maybe are quiet.
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I need to hear from you guys. I already know the comments looking like,
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what, I stayed loyal to my company for 15 years, and then guess what? I got replaced.
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And somebody else said, my so-called friends got mad when I finally leveled up.
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It happens all the time. Yeah, it's common these days. That's going to be the norm, guys.
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Okay, Dot B, let's talk about it. All right, guys, so let's look at when opportunity comes knocking.
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Say it again, Broker J. When opportunity comes not to me. Okay,
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guys. So here's when things get a little complicated.
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Opportunity does not always arrive at a convenient time. It does not always come when you want it to.
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It just shows up unexpectedly.
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Yeah, that's how that normally works. That's what it does. You know, and guess what?
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Sometimes opportunity shows up looking really messy.
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Yes, it does. So let's say you finally get your dream job, guys. You know how it is.
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You've been looking for that dream job and you finally get it. But guess what?
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It's in another city. But your family is saying, don't leave us. Don't go. Don't go.
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Or your friend's saying, oh, you done changed now.
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Okay? Yeah. So let me make some people mad.
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Unfortunately, somebody got to do it. You're bad, right? Some people want you
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loyal because your growth threatens their comfort.
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Yeah, yeah. They want to keep you at a certain level. So I'm thinking about
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this. I'm saying to myself, you said it broke the day three. So true.
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They want to keep you at a certain level. They don't want you to rise above them.
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They want to keep you at a certain level. You see, they loved your struggle.
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Yeah. You know, because you were struggling with them.
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But now that you got options, now all of a sudden you acting funny.
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You ever heard that before?
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Oh, you acting funny. I done heard it before, guys.
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Yes, I have. But you should say, no, maybe I'm finally healing or maybe I'm finally growing.
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It's okay for you to say that. Yeah. Ain't nothing wrong with leveling up.
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You're not always going to stay where everybody else is.
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Especially if you got plans for your life and you got big dreams and you're
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working towards that, doesn't matter what nobody says.
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Maybe God finally opened the door, okay?
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Let's look at this scenario okay guys so what's the
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scenario it's a better job offer that's what
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it is okay okay as a woman he worked
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on the same company for 12 years and she was low hard working and very respected
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on the job suddenly another company offers her double her salary better benefits
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and check this out she can work remote at home her current boss says i thought you were family.
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Yeah, they always throw that up, right, Broker G3? Yeah, and see, first of all,
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Jobs calling you family? That's a red flag right there. Ain't no family. Okay.
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Because when layoffs happen, guess what? With that same so-called family,
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certainly family becomes paperwork. Yeah.
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So you should be aware of those jobs that call you family.
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Wouldn't you leave? Would you leave? Would you stay? Comment below loyalty or opportunity.
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I'm looking. I'm leaving. I'm out of there. Opportunity for me, Dr.
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B. me too double my salary better
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Thank you guys for joining us this evening. So what are we talking about now,
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BrokerJobby? What we're talking about is relationships.
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Now, this part is really, really deep, guys, when we're talking about loyalty or settling, okay?
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And it may get a little messy. So, you know, bear with us with this because
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I'm quite sure it's going to touch some people when we get into this relationship situation.
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Okay. So not only are we talking about messy.
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We're talking about relationship messy. So it takes us up a level. Yeah, real messy, Doc B.
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Okay. What happens when somebody loyal to you, but they are no longer aligned with your future?
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And oftentimes we get caught up in that situation where we meet people,
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have a relationship, and they no longer align with where we're trying to go.
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But this is a tough one, Broker J3.
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You know, they're good people. They faithful.
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But they don't want growth. Now, it's a lot of people in your life that love
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you just the way you are. They don't want to see you grow.
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Of course, they don't want to see you fall, but they don't want to see you grow.
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They want to see you right where you are.
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Okay, guys, this happens to a lot of us.
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One person is evolving and thriving and just blossoming while the other person is just stuck.
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That's sad, guys. And you know what happens when that happens,
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guys? that guilt that enters the room. You understand?
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Because now one person is working.
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If leaving makes them disloyal, or if staying means that they're abandoning themselves.
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Yeah, so this is tough.
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So guys, let's talk about now the relationship dilemma.
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Say, for instance, a man has been friends.
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His girlfriend has been with his girlfriend for eight years.
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They've been together for eight years.
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She loves him deeply, but she refuses to go to work. You know,
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we got some people these days that don't want to work. Some out there, Dr.
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Some refuses counseling as well and resists growth. They don't want to go anywhere.
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They want to stay stagnant right where they are.
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Meanwhile, he gets opportunities that require more ambition.
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Should he stay loyal or should he move on? You know, I think in a situation
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like that, it deserves a conversation.
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Babe, this is what's happening. You know, I'm progressing with the job and I
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want to take advantage of these opportunities.
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I'd love for you to be with me. But, you know, if not, you know,
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hey, he's got to move on. You know, this is vice versa, even if it was a winner.
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Yeah, yeah. Okay, audience, what do you think?
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Okay, should he move on? Yeah, share your thoughts with us and let us know what you think.
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Should he move on or should he remain loyal? We're talking about this evening.
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Loyalty versus opportunity.
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Somebody in the comments said love ain't enough. And sometimes it ain't enough.
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You need more than love to keep a relationship going because you can love each
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other, but you still have other issues going on.
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Because that love may have brought you together, but that love may not keep
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you together. Exactly. Exactly.
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Okay, guys. So another viewer says build together or just go ahead and just separate.
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Just separate and just go
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your separate ways that's what he's saying Hotcake
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from New Orleans says stop dragging dead weight
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okay now that dead weight can drag you down right that's exactly what I mean
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yeah yeah yeah alright Trenton M thank you for joining us White Jones appreciate
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it Thomas Haney and welcome back man of God I remember saying that before thank
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you for joining us we appreciate you guys Okay,
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so let's take a deeper dive, Broker J3.
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We're going to look at friendships. Are they lower or just comfortable?
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You know, that's a good question because I think that can go both ways,
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Dr. B. All right, let's go deeper.
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Because some friendships survive off history and not health.
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We already know about that. Some of y'all got friends that still y'all are friends
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just because y'all been friends for years.
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For a long time. But that doesn't necessarily mean that y'all really are friends.
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Yeah. Now, you have been friends for a long time. Yeah. That's all that means.
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That's it. That's it. But they get that twisted a little bit,
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guys. But guess what, guys?
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This right here, all of that is true. You've been friends for a long time.
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That's it. But you still can't get that twisted. So just because you've known
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each other for over 20 years now, does that mean that we're still good for each other?
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You know, hey, I'm going to tell you like this. You know, I've had some friends,
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you know, since since high school.
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You know, some I still talk to here and there now and then chat via Facebook or whatever.
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And some I don't talk to at all. It's not that I don't care about them no more.
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It's just, hey, that was 20 years ago. Okay, guys, some people are loyal to
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the memory of who someone used to be.
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So that's what they always see. And guess what, guys? Not only that is,
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when they think of that person, they see that old image of that person,
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maybe when they were in their teens or their early 30s or whatnot.
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That's what they're hanging on to. All right, now talk about it, Dot B.
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Okay, guys. So some people grow apart. That's normal.
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They have different priorities, different mindsets, and then even different goals, Broker J3.
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Yeah. And then, you know, that's where the guilt trip comes in,
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Doc B, when those goals and those mindsets start changing.
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You know, and be honest, when somebody say, you changed, you know what?
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Instead of saying, no, I haven't changed, tell them the truth.
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Yes, I have changed. Everybody should change.
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I've grown. And in fact, if you're in the same place that you were five,
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ten years ago, then that's a problem. I don't care how you see it. That's a problem.
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So, guys, that terminology, you've changed, that is a good thing. You know what they do.
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You've changed. There's nothing wrong with changing. Yeah. And you're too good
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now or you forgot where you come from.
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Uh-huh. Yeah, they throw that back in your face. Yeah, now, we done heard that
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before. I know I've heard that before, you know, like, you don't forget where you come from.
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Know and not and it's what's funny is no i didn't
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forget where i came from that's why i'm working so hard now
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because i want to have a better future from where i came from and guess what
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guys i have heard that so many times before and somebody even threw that up
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in my face some years ago i told them my response to you've changed or you you
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think you don't got too good is i told them no.
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I did not want to forget. I don't want to forget where I came from because that
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is what made me who I am today.
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So I never want to forget. But a lot of people want to throw that back up in
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your face, thinking that you're going to get offensive and you're going to offensive
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at what they're saying and you're going to say something negative.
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But no, I don't want to forget where I came from.
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So let me say something controversial about me.
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Sometimes changing is exactly what will save your life. Yeah, absolutely.
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So growth will offend people who benefited from you, you know,
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from your lack of boundaries.
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Say that again for the people in the back. Okay. Growth will offend people who
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benefited from your confusion, your low self-esteem, or your access to the energy.
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And that's how it usually is, Dr. B. That's how it usually is.
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Just exactly how you just called it. Exactly how you just called it.
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Okay, guys. So, and when people stop extending yourself to people,
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then suddenly you become the villain.
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They look at you, they try, in other words, to look at you as a villain. But guess what?
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Guys, you've got to protect your peace. This is not betrayal.
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Yeah, you have to protect your peace, guys. Do it at all costs.
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Protect your peace no matter what.
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Protecting your peace is not betrayal and you want to do it at all costs.
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Exactly exactly you sure do you have to protect it at all costs,
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Again, as Doc B said, you could have been anywhere else, but you're here.
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So we really appreciate you guys for stepping in. As Doc B said,
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sometimes you have to protect your peace, and it's not betrayal.
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So let's just...
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Start minding our own business and begin doing well financially for ourselves. Okay.
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It's just like when your old friends say to you, you don't come around anymore.
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You acting brand new. Oh, yeah. They shouldn't say that. Or you don't forgot about us. Uh-huh.
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Uh-huh. Yeah. I've heard that before. Okay, guys.
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So every time he comes around, they laugh.
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It's this person that we're talking about. They laugh at his goals and pressure him into old habits.
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And so that's not good for that person as well.
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So guess what? I wouldn't want to come around anybody that's laughing at me
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and laughing at my goals and trying to pressure me into old habits.
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I'm done with those old habits. Those old habits are in my rear view mirror.
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So I don't want to hang around anybody that's trying to pressure me.
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Yeah, I know that's right. That'd be sometimes that's,
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yes i do okay okay guys
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so is he being this lord or is he protecting his
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future i think he's actually be protecting his
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future and i wouldn't use this law as the term he's protecting his future because
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that's where he is at the stage in his life because everybody can't go where
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god is trying to take you guys god is sometimes trying to elevate you trying
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to take you to another level He's trying to level us up.
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And so we can't not try to get to what he has for us.
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I tell people all the time, what God has for me is for me.
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You know, there's nothing that you can do to prevent that because it's for me.
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So that's why we have to embrace that.
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Yeah. So this question for everybody, have you ever had to outgrow your friendships?
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I know I've had to leave print on them.
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I've had to do it. out be and don't feel
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ashamed about it yeah one of our viewers said misery
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loves company all right yes it does
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and i've had to separate to elevate so thank
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gg thank you for joining us and success ruby red 99 all right now okay big big
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mike from miami said my circle got smaller but healthier yeah There's nothing wrong with that.
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top gift first we appreciate every single one of you broker j3 let's take a
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look at family versus loyalty our family loyalty as a matter of fact versus
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personal purpose yeah that's that's a good one, Dot B.
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That's a good one. So family.
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You know why because family royal loyalty
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it runs deep yes it does it always has
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sometimes family expectations can delay
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your s and your destiny so you have to think about that i hate to say this but
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sometimes family can prevent you from reaching where you need to be all family
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members are not for you i kid you not guys some family members are not always
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in your corner this This is, you know, like I said,
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this is going to be a heartbreaker to some people, but they are not.
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Some family members are not always on your team. No, they're not.
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You know, somebody is going to log off after this one. They may. They may. And it's okay.
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But let's be honest. How many people stayed in their hometown because their
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family made them feel guilty?
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Instead of them moving off to a city where you could have made more money.
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Billions. You know, and they had a better life for their family,
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but they decided to stay at home because their family told them,
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you know, made them feel guilty for trying to leave home.
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Now, my family didn't make me feel guilty. I grew up in Miami.
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You know, and after college, I moved to Atlanta.
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You know, I love my family. I love my hometown.
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But Atlanta, there was more opportunity for me. So I had to leave.
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Now, you know, it's amazing because, you know, I have had family members that
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have moved to Atlanta since I have.
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But if you have family members that are trying to keep you back for whatever
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reason, you have to think about yourself.
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Okay, guys. So or guys, are you the person that gave up on your dreams because
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somebody said, who do you think you are?
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Or you will never amount to nothing.
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Guys, that has stuck with so many people's head, and that has affected so many people.
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Okay, guys, have you ever been in that situation?
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You know, that's, that's, that's a good one right now. Or, or better yet,
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you just like your mama or your daddy.
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Now, now that one may hurt some people because, you know, depending on how the
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mama and daddy, you know, were or are at a particular time, you know,
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or, you know, I forgot about this one.
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Oh, you think you better than us. Yeah, they do that as well.
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Okay, guys. So sometimes family can unintentionally hold you back because they
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fear losing access to you guys. Guys, we need you to add your comments in the comment section.
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Let us know your city and state. Let us know what you're thinking.
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We want you to join in in this conversation. That's right.
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And that don't always mean that they are bad people.
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Sometimes they're just scared of change or just scared of seeing you leave.
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Yeah, guys. But just think about it now.
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Fear should not become your prison. Keep, you know, that keeps you trapped in
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your home town. keeping you trapped in your home town by telling you certain things.
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You know, a lot of folks that, you know, like, for instance,
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our kids, you know, they may not want to live in the same city or state.
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And that happens to the best of us. You know, a lot of times the small,
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especially small towns, they don't want to grow up in that small town.
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They want to expand and they want to go and live in other areas,
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experience other cultures.
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And there's nothing wrong with that. No, no, it's not.
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Yeah. It's not at all. You know, so and it's like that sometimes,
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you know, my oldest son, you know, went to the Navy, moved to Arizona.
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You know, came back to Atlanta.
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Stayed for a little while, and then now he's in Houston. Okay,
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guys. I love him, miss him, but he's his own man.
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Yeah, that happens. He has to live for himself.
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Okay, guys. Let's talk about the big move.
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Let's get into that. Okay, we're going to talk about this, guys. Let's think about it.
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A woman gets offered a life-changing opportunity across the country.
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Better yet, she's going to get more money.
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She's going to have a better environment and better opportunities for her children.
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But her parents tell her, okay, now, you know what? You're abandoning the family.
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Okay, Broker J3, what other statements they love, some of our family members love to make?
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You know, well, this is a classic right here. Family sticks together.
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Or you should stay close to home. Okay, guys. So what should she do in this particular situation?
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Is loyalty worth sacrificing her future? or does the opportunity become responsibility
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when children are involved? Okay, guys.
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So what do you do, guys? Would you move, type stay, or type go in the chat? We'd like to hear.
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Okay, guys. All right. We need those comments.
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So Bear says, right, with everything costly, now people moving out America to cheaper.
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Living that is true that is true that's true
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they're trying to determine an area where they
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can learn cheaper that dollar they're stretching that dollar
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yeah if i can i'll probably move to thailand but you
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know oh yeah thailand is changing their laws now so you
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know they're they're forcing you to to to
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get your your permanent visa ese visa
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or something like that with them so that way every 69
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days they stop that that border jumping so
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you can't border run yeah you can't can't do that anymore but you
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know if you are considering you know countries like that
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make sure you check into their visa laws
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so that you don't have any issues Thailand chain yeah
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yeah you're right there they sure are they check into it they've changed you
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know it's funny because you know we was there what six weeks six weeks yeah
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thank god we didn't have to worry about the the border the border run but we
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did we did go to a couple other countries in between in between so yeah But nonetheless.
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Guys, you know, keep sharing the live because this conversation is helping somebody
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make a hard decision right now.
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Okay, guys. So we appreciate you rocking with us tonight.
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And guys, don't forget, comments help push the algorithm.
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So let's keep those comments coming.
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We appreciate those because let's think about it. If you're thinking that,
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somebody else is probably thinking the same thing. They sure are, Doug B.
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Yeah. They sure are. So let's get into it. Let's look at faith,
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discernment, and knowing the difference between the two.
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All right, Dobby. Now, that's a real
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question because we talked about the friendship. We talked about the job.
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We talked about the relationship. We talked about the family.
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Now, we're getting into the faith, discernment, and knowing the difference because
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this loyalty thing, it goes deep into other passions.
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So, that's the real question. So, let's talk about that, Dobby.
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Okay, guys. So, here's the real question.
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Okay, okay. How do people know,
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How do people know when? All right.
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Okay, guys. So we're going to ask the question, how do people know when to choose
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loyalty and when to choose opportunity?
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Okay. You have to think about discernment.
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Okay. You ask yourself three things. The first one is, is this relationship, job, a situation?
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Helping me. You want to make sure that you are meeting your needs.
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Is it helping me grow or keeping me stuck? You have to ask yourself that question
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because loyalty should not suffocate your purpose.
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And then the second question you want to ask yourself is, is fear my decision?
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Ask yourself those questions, guys.
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Those are two questions. You know, and you have to have judgment with that.
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Yeah. You know, so explain it a little bit, Dot B. Okay. So, guys, guess what?
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Ask yourself those three questions. I gave you the first two.
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And then the third one is, okay, so just think about it, guys.
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Sometimes we stay in a relationship or we stay at home because we're scared. We don't want to expand.
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We don't want to go beyond where we are because it's the unknown.
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But then, guys, you have to be willing to expand.
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And then the third one is, am I
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leaving for growth or am I escaping responsibility? Now, that's important.
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Yes, it is. Because opportunities should always align with integrity,
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guys. It should always align.
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Yeah, so basically loyalty matters, but not at the expense of your future.
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It does not. And opportunity matters as well, guys, but not if you destroy people to get there.
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You don't want to destroy anybody to get to the top.
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There needs to be a balance between the two, between opportunity and loyalty.
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Now that's it. Balance your loyalty and opportunities. Let's talk about this.
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Say you and your best friend started a business together, which a lot of people
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do, or a family member or whatever.
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You know, suddenly a major investor wants you and you only.
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I guess they feel like you're the real one behind the business.
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They see that you're the real go-getter and they want you.
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You'll be making a life, you'll be making life-changing money.
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So basically, Big dollar. Big dollar.
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Yeah. You know, we talk maybe six, seven figures. They want you. Yeah.
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Yeah. Okay. You know, but your friend isn't included. They don't want your friend.
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They don't want your friend. They just want you. They just want you.
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So do you stay with your company to stay loyal to your friend or do you take that opportunity?
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I say brokerage. They take that opportunity, guys. What do you think?
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What do you guys think? Please put it in the chat. If you and your friend started
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a business and a big-time investor only wanted you and offer you big money,
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do you stay with your company, with your friend, or do you take the opportunity?
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Put it in the chat, guys, because this is real here.
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Okay, guys, so what do you think? You know, that's the big question tonight.
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Okay, guys, so we want your honest answer. Go ahead and drop it in the chat.
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Drop it and let us know what you're thinking.
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Is it all right loyalty or opportunity guys yeah
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that's it come on now okay guys so my final thoughts
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on this episode tonight first again
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thank you guys for joining us we've got Lulie Hawk visitor 7107 Trey yeah luck
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man forward and forward Hampton yeah thank you guys for joining me so loyalty
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is beautiful when it's a healthy you know it could be a healthy relationship but Lord,
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it should never cost you your peace or your growth or your purpose.
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Sometimes God opens doors that require courage for you to walk through those doors.
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And sometimes the hardest thing
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you will ever do is disappoint people who expect you to stay the same.
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Okay. So the question is not whether people understand your decision.
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The real question is, will you regret not becoming who you were meant to be,
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who God meant for you to be.
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Now, that's the real question right now, Dot B. Yeah, it is.
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So, guys, let me say this before we go.
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Everybody cannot go with you into your next season.
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You know, we've said this so many times before, Dot B, and that doesn't mean
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you have to stop loving people.
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It doesn't mean that you've become arrogant. No.
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But sometimes being loyal to others makes you disloyal to yourself.
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Yeah. If the opportunity is aligned with your purpose, your growth,
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your peace, and your betterment, you may have to walk through that door even
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if people don't clap for you.
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Yeah. Because at the end of the day, you got to live with your decision,
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not the people judging you. That is correct. That is correct.
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Okay, guys. All right, Mr. Broker J3 now.
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Tonight was a good episode. Terrific.
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A lot of information that we hope you guys will find valuable.
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Yeah. And we hope you guys, hope we gave you guys something that you guys can
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really think about tonight.
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Because you know this really is a good topic and
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of the things that we said early on because this is really serious because a
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lot of people are are juggling between that loyalty and opportunity and we were
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saying earlier you have to make the choices that's best for you you know.
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We all want to be loyal, but overall, you have to be loyal to yourself.
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Okay, guys. So let's keep this conversation going.
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