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You've Got Decisions: Decade Long Stagnant Relationship · Decisions, Decisions

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  Speaker 1: If you would like to have us answer your questions.
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  Speaker 1: If you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, or
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  Speaker 1: a terrible throuffle, guess what You've got decisions. You've got
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  Speaker 1: decision pu Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So hey, guys, welcome to another you Got Decisions.
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  Speaker 1: Weezy is in Europe and so I am joined.
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  Speaker 2: By Eddie, who is also apparently Mandami's personal DJ in
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  Speaker 2: New York City.
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  Speaker 3: I've just had the pleasure of DJing Forum twice this year.
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  Speaker 3: That's it.
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  Speaker 1: That's crazy twice. Yeah, he's like, is he as cool
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  Speaker 1: as he looks online?
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  Speaker 3: He's mad chill, He's mad chill. I was just talking
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  Speaker 3: about it on Twitter. How he asked me for what.
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  Speaker 3: I don't even know if you know the song, but
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  Speaker 3: there's a song called what They Got to Be through
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  Speaker 3: s Berry.
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  Speaker 1: No No No.
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  Speaker 2: When you when you typed it, I said, what the
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  Speaker 2: fuck song is that?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah?
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  Speaker 3: Is a Dominican classic?
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  Speaker 1: Is what that is?
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  Speaker 3: New York City knows what that's all about. So, but
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  Speaker 3: he asked me that. I was afraid because I'm like,
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  Speaker 3: I don't know what he's about to ask me. And
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  Speaker 3: that's a if not knowing what the mayor wants as
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  Speaker 3: a song request is by far one of the scariest things.
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  Speaker 1: But say the say the title again?
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  Speaker 3: What got that Beethos Berry? Why they got to beat Berry?
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  Speaker 3: What they got to bet thws Berry?
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  Speaker 1: What does that mean? I got?
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  Speaker 3: If I know there's no real legitimate meaning to that.
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  Speaker 1: It's okay, you guys know what the Beato got this berry? See.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know what language that is, but I was
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  Speaker 2: yelling Arabic last week.
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  Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, I am now a ruder from Morocco.
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  Speaker 2: I got tickets to my first that was my first football.
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  Speaker 1: Game and it was a World Cup game. That's crazy.
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  Speaker 1: World Cup game. Oh god, that's crazy. And now I'm actually.
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  Speaker 2: Being invited to another World Cup game on Saturday.
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  Speaker 1: Oh girl, you better go to these. That's yo, it's
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  Speaker 1: a ome. This is cool.
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  Speaker 3: It was last time. I think the last time the
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  Speaker 3: World Cup was in the States was in the nineties.
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  Speaker 1: Like nineties or ninety six or something like that. I think.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, so like this is like a very like, uh,
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  Speaker 3: lifetime event.
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  Speaker 1: It's kind of cool because I didn't know. I didn't know.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't know.
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  Speaker 2: Anyways, we're gonna get into y'all's questions. If you have
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  Speaker 2: a question, A pressing matter. You want to talk about
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  Speaker 2: a friend, if you have troubles in your relationships, if
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  Speaker 2: you want to just also ask.
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  Speaker 1: Me and Weezie anything that's been drilling your brain.
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  Speaker 2: Send it to decisions pod at gmail dot com.
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  Speaker 1: Now brought eding on to help me with this question
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  Speaker 1: for this week, and I love it. It's giving.
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  Speaker 2: This girl has a question about her friend so and
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  Speaker 2: and there's there's layers to this eden, so here there
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  Speaker 2: we go. The subject line.
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  Speaker 1: Is he ain't shit. Oh the situation, let's get into it.
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  Speaker 1: Here's the situation. And then she has a question. So
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  Speaker 1: the situation.
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  Speaker 2: I have a lifelong friend who has always deeply desired
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  Speaker 2: of family growing up. I always viewed her as one
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  Speaker 2: of the wisest people I knew, but watching her navigate
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  Speaker 2: love in her thirties has been frustrating. She is stuck
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  Speaker 2: in a decade long, on again, off again, stagnant relationship
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  Speaker 2: with a partner whose words and actions show he doesn't
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  Speaker 2: see her as a wife or mother. This has been
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  Speaker 2: her sole gold slash stream for her life since she
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  Speaker 2: was a kid, and still is today. It hurts to
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  Speaker 2: watch her watch everyone else get what she wants. But
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  Speaker 2: the constant relationship problems venting loop have become exhausting. Our
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  Speaker 2: friend group has given her every piece of advice possible,
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  Speaker 2: but she never takes action. It breaks my heart because
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  Speaker 2: it feels less like a setback and more like this
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  Speaker 2: is her abandoning her own dreams for a man.
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  Speaker 1: Only bemoane every month at book club.
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  Speaker 2: I love her, but it's hard to watch someone I
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  Speaker 2: used to respect so much abandon herself the question. I
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  Speaker 2: want to be supportive, but should I keep offering the
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  Speaker 2: same ignored advice let it go, wait it out, or
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  Speaker 2: take some space to protect my piece?
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  Speaker 1: Thanks?
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  Speaker 3: Ooh, that's a really good question. I just want to
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  Speaker 3: say that it's always one of those friends. In every
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  Speaker 3: single friend group I hear about. It could be male, female,
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  Speaker 3: theyad them it only there's always one friend that's just
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  Speaker 3: like that.
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  Speaker 1: I agree this is tough, because what is it.
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  Speaker 2: You can lead a horse to water, but you can't
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  Speaker 2: make them drink it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah you can't.
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  Speaker 3: Man, I thought it was about a funble that I'm
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  Speaker 3: not gonna lie.
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  Speaker 1: Ah, listen, I want to wake if supported.
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  Speaker 2: You can't want for someone more than what they want
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  Speaker 2: for themselves. Those are all very true, and I think
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  Speaker 2: for where I've gotten, Especially as a woman in her thirties,
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  Speaker 2: you have to realize like there's a lot of people
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  Speaker 2: that haven't worked past their childhood traumas.
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  Speaker 1: A lot of people don't know what a healthy relationship
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  Speaker 1: looks like.
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  Speaker 2: I'd also be curious to know you didn't share it here.
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  Speaker 2: You said that she still wants to be a mother,
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  Speaker 2: But if she's been with this person on and off
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  Speaker 2: again for a decade or however long they've been together,
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  Speaker 2: I'm also curious if maybe one of them is has
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  Speaker 2: some sort of infertility struggle. I think it's interesting for
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  Speaker 2: someone to be on and off again with someone.
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  Speaker 1: For that long and they're not be a child conceived
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  Speaker 1: within that time.
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  Speaker 2: You asked, You asked, You said you want to be supportive,
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  Speaker 2: But should I keep offering the same ignored advice let
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  Speaker 2: it go or wait it out.
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  Speaker 1: I'll be honest with you.
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  Speaker 2: The best way to be supportive to me as a
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  Speaker 2: friend is for you to enjoy this friendship for what
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  Speaker 2: it is.
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  Speaker 1: So what do you get out of.
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  Speaker 2: This friendship with this with this girl?
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  Speaker 3: To me?
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  Speaker 1: When you become old? That's the yeah.
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  Speaker 2: But I say that to say, when you're a woman
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  Speaker 2: in your thirties. When you're a man in your thirties,
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  Speaker 2: you can't allow someone's romantic partnerships or selections or relationship
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  Speaker 2: to kind of infiltrate and make you think differently of
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  Speaker 2: who your friend is.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's why like for.
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  Speaker 2: Me, I would not be with damn neare any of
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  Speaker 2: the niggas that my friends have slept with or pro
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  Speaker 2: created with or chose to get married too. And it's
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  Speaker 2: fine because I choose my friends because of who they
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  Speaker 2: are to me and my friendship, not to who they
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  Speaker 2: lay in bed with.
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  Speaker 1: Right. I think Edi, when you said every friend group
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  Speaker 1: has this eden, Oh yeah, what do you do?
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  Speaker 2: Have you been in a position where all of your
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  Speaker 2: friends have not liked a partner selected by someone else,
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  Speaker 2: and how do you navigate that?
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  Speaker 3: Even as a guy, I've seen that internally and externally,
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  Speaker 3: as in I've seen other friend groups where they're like, h,
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  Speaker 3: this person is still with whoever named this is and
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  Speaker 3: it has gone on for over like five to seven
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  Speaker 3: to ten years, and it's like, why don't y'all do
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  Speaker 3: anything now? I don't think there's an expectation for your
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  Speaker 3: friends to like have to do something. I think the
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  Speaker 3: only thing you can do at one point is keep
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  Speaker 3: giving the same advice if at one point you do
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  Speaker 3: feel like that this is kind of harming you though,
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  Speaker 3: I think at that point you do need to give
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  Speaker 3: yourself some space because it's not It doesn't necessarily mean
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  Speaker 3: that you have to detach from that friend, but it
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  Speaker 3: does mean that you need to like give it some
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  Speaker 3: thought and realize, you know what, this is still my friend.
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  Speaker 3: Just to your point, this is still my friend. Like
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  Speaker 3: who they're with doesn't define our relationship, but it's taking
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  Speaker 3: a bit of a toll, and I'm gonna need to
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  Speaker 3: move back a little bit. I think that's super fair
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  Speaker 3: now when it comes to people, you know, let's say
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  Speaker 3: more internally on my end, I've just I'm usually the
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  Speaker 3: friend that I feel like gives that advice a thousand times,
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  Speaker 3: and that's my boy, and I just let it rock.
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  Speaker 3: And it's it's those damn it's those damn situationships, those
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  Speaker 3: damn situationships, them on and off and off against it's
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  Speaker 3: just rebranded as a situationship, and everybody's just accepting it
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  Speaker 3: because what that means in her all her twenties, Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: that's gonna give matter what she's going back to that
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  Speaker 3: place that hurts you that she is.
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  Speaker 2: In a decade law on again, off again stagnant relationship. Here,
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  Speaker 2: here's the thing I will say, and this is playing
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  Speaker 2: Devil's advocate here. Okay, you're saying that the friends around
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  Speaker 2: her are getting married and having kids. However, it doesn't
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  Speaker 2: mean those relationships and those friends have the type of
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  Speaker 2: relationship that she desires to have. Hear me out, I
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  Speaker 2: have friends who will give me advice or try to
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  Speaker 2: give me advice unsolicited as fuck about what I'm doing,
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  Speaker 2: and Bitch, the last thing I want to do is
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  Speaker 2: take advice from them, because what did Jordan would say?
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  Speaker 1: I wouldn't want their situation.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't want to take advice from someone who
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  Speaker 2: also is in an unhealthy dynamic, who might be miserable,
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  Speaker 2: who I look at and I don't envy. So like
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  Speaker 2: the way that you're saying, she's always wanted to be
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  Speaker 2: a wife, she's always wanted to be a mother. You
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  Speaker 2: did say she does want that now, But I wonder
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  Speaker 2: if you've had the conversation with what her and this
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  Speaker 2: guy have talked about, Like maybe it's something that's not
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  Speaker 2: conducive to her right.
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  Speaker 1: Now in her thirties. They probably do our fertility struggles
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  Speaker 1: and look at this economy. Bitchell wants to bring a
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  Speaker 1: kid into this world right now.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's the offest part.
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  Speaker 1: I wonder.
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  Speaker 3: I wonder on what his and what his objective is too,
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  Speaker 3: because it's like you would like to, Okay, look, you're
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  Speaker 3: gonna always hope for the best for your friend no
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  Speaker 3: matter what it is.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 3: It's like even if they're in a situationship, even if
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  Speaker 3: they're just in a fling. At the end of the day,
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  Speaker 3: everybody might have two different objectives.
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  Speaker 1: Yeap, he might.
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  Speaker 3: His objective might be maybe I just have her whenever
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  Speaker 3: I can, and her objective might switch to, now, maybe
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  Speaker 3: we can have kids. Maybe this could be real. And
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  Speaker 3: trying to tell your friend that and try to like
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  Speaker 3: drill that in their brain is top five toughest things
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  Speaker 3: in the world. It is matter what just like how
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  Speaker 3: she's been saying to her maybe a little past five years, now, hey,
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  Speaker 3: maybe he ain't shit, Maybe maybe you need to find
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  Speaker 3: somebody else. It's not gonna work. There's a defensive barrier
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  Speaker 3: every time of like, no, but he's fine, No, but
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  Speaker 3: he'll change, No, but she's cool, Nope.
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  Speaker 1: And that's the thing.
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  Speaker 2: She said, she always viewed this friend as one of
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  Speaker 2: the wisest people she knew. But someone who's wise in
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  Speaker 2: books or in academia or in their professional life doesn't
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  Speaker 2: mean they're always the wisest with choosing with their heart.
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  Speaker 1: And so I'm also curious.
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  Speaker 2: Because you say that this partner who has been around
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  Speaker 2: for the last ten years, their words and actions don't
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  Speaker 2: show that he sees her as a wife or mother,
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  Speaker 2: And I'd be curious to know if he actually said
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  Speaker 2: those things, or if maybe she's dealing with a man that,
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  Speaker 2: like myself, doesn't want kids and doesn't want marriage for
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  Speaker 2: whatever reason, and she's obliging by that because she loves
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  Speaker 2: this partner. And I think that there are some people
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  Speaker 2: like you know, I would hope that in now I
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  Speaker 2: would never give up what I want for a man,
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  Speaker 2: like I'm never gonna have a kid because my partner
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  Speaker 2: wants a kid.
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  Speaker 1: Because that's not what I want.
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  Speaker 2: But I wonder if that's something she's willingly giving up
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  Speaker 2: right now because of her love for this partner.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, I'll say this to you truly and
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  Speaker 3: honestly as a person who has had these feelings internally before.
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  Speaker 3: I'm a strong believer of if he wanted to, you
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  Speaker 3: would straight up facts. I think, no matter what the
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  Speaker 3: situation is, it could be like he'll pick you up
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  Speaker 3: from somewhere, he'll buy you X, Y and Z, he'll
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  Speaker 3: make sure he'll he's taking care of he'll call if
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  Speaker 3: he wanted to, he would, And if you're talking about
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  Speaker 3: ten years and.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what I'm saying. Maybe he doesn't, maybe he
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  Speaker 1: doesn't want to.
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  Speaker 2: Might maybe he doesn't want to, and maybe she definitely knows.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe a kid in marriage aren't things that he wants
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  Speaker 2: for himself, and also with her one of those things.
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  Speaker 2: She wanted those things since she was a kid. She
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  Speaker 2: may have reached the point where maybe she doesn't.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, I feel like I'm maybe giving him too
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  Speaker 2: much bail. I will say, for your peace of mind,
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  Speaker 2: I think you should just simply remove yourself from caring
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  Speaker 2: about what what she gets romantically.
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  Speaker 3: And like, no, it's not I imagine your best friend,
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  Speaker 3: your mentor like you you like I feel like that
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  Speaker 3: you're gonna care about their well I mean, I think
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  Speaker 3: it's just their caring about their well being is one other?
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  Speaker 2: Is he not laying hands and he did. She didn't
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  Speaker 2: say he was abusive, as long as he's not laying
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  Speaker 2: hands drowning her bank accounts like mental is That's why
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  Speaker 2: I said she might have some self work that she
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  Speaker 2: has to do. But yeah, if he's not whooping her ass,
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  Speaker 2: then who's to say that you know what's best for her?
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  Speaker 3: I think you know, you do need to put space
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  Speaker 3: in between the two of you. Feel like it's hurting you.
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  Speaker 3: If it's it's if it's especially hurting your relationship, you.
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  Speaker 1: Think she should walk away from the friendship, not completely completely.
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  Speaker 1: You think she should step back from Like.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I've done that, I've stopped, I've step I've taken
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  Speaker 3: a step back from friendships before.
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  Speaker 1: But why you not have proper contact?
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  Speaker 2: But you you think she should step back from this
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  Speaker 2: friendship just because she doesn't agree with.
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  Speaker 1: Her romantic partner. More so just that she's choosing to
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  Speaker 1: say with him.
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  Speaker 3: Exactly, because at that point, it's just like if you're
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  Speaker 3: gonna just constantly feed girl, if you are writing in
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  Speaker 3: horrible decisions to let them know that you cannot deal
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  Speaker 3: with your own friend that you used to look up to,
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  Speaker 3: it might be that you need like a couple of days,
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  Speaker 3: maybe a month away from this friend to reevaluate.
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  Speaker 1: I think you need to both both. You need my
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  Speaker 1: own business.
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  Speaker 2: I'm like I said, the only way I've stepped away
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  Speaker 2: from a friend because of their relationships decisions has been
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  Speaker 2: if they were in an abusive relationship. Let me know,
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  Speaker 2: this man is abusing you and you decide to go back.
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  Speaker 2: And that's only because I don't want any parts in
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  Speaker 2: the decision that you make to be around someone who's abusive,
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  Speaker 2: and if he can abuse you, I don't want to
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  Speaker 2: be caught.
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  Speaker 1: In the crossfire.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like that becomes just a real sticky predicament
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  Speaker 2: and I can't be there while you make.
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  Speaker 1: The decision to get beat on.
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  Speaker 3: But if that fanishes what you've definitely I'm sure you've
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  Speaker 3: been in situations where you have a friend who's with
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  Speaker 3: a man, they the other whatever, I don't care. I'm
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  Speaker 3: mis say mane they have been with a man or
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  Speaker 3: are with a man you definitely don't like. Yeah, how
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  Speaker 3: have you handled that situation.
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  Speaker 1: I've let friends know that.
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  Speaker 2: I don't want to be around you and your partner
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  Speaker 2: at the same time, so I've asked them to not
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  Speaker 2: invite them to group outings. If it's just me and
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  Speaker 2: you hanging out, let's just me and you hang out.
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  Speaker 2: If you're around your partner and I call, maybe I'll
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  Speaker 2: let you go until he's not around. Like to me,
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  Speaker 2: the friendships that I that I have, I feel like
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  Speaker 2: I was your friend before this man, and nine times
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  Speaker 2: out of ten, I'll be here after this.
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  Speaker 1: Man, like if it's someone that's.
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  Speaker 2: Going to be temporary, right, And so if I don't
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  Speaker 2: like your partner, that's another thing. When you say I
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  Speaker 2: don't like there's a lot of men that I don't
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  Speaker 2: find attractive.
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  Speaker 1: I don't think are a good partner. You don't like
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  Speaker 1: for them, then I don't like for them.
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  Speaker 2: That's different than me genuinely not liking this because I
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  Speaker 2: think are abusing you. But yeah, when it becomes abusive
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  Speaker 2: and I just can't condone or want to be around
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  Speaker 2: someone that I know is hurting you, I just I
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  Speaker 2: basically just ask for our friendship to be outside of
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  Speaker 2: you're that that romantic partnership, right, So, and I think
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  Speaker 2: that's possible. So I don't think, but I do think
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  Speaker 2: that if you're getting to a place where this is
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  Speaker 2: affecting your.
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  Speaker 1: Peace, you you can still.
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  Speaker 2: Show up and be supportive to your friend in every
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  Speaker 2: other part of their life and just say, hey, listen,
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  Speaker 2: you're starting to sound like a broken record, and I
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  Speaker 2: can't want more for you than you want for yourself,
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  Speaker 2: So i'd appreciate you no longer bringing your relationship problems
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  Speaker 2: to me.
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  Speaker 1: And I've done that. I've done that, you witch.
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  Speaker 2: I don't want to hear about a nigga.
• 17:54
  Speaker 3: You call somebody else if you sound like a broken
• 17:58
  Speaker 3: record last ten years and it's I'm not gonna lie
• 18:02
  Speaker 3: and it's bothering you. Take that week break. I don't care.
• 18:06
  Speaker 3: Take that week break, separate yourself. It doesn't mean it
• 18:09
  Speaker 3: doesn't have to be forever. Sometimes you want a little
• 18:12
  Speaker 3: long time. Manny can't even be in the same place
• 18:14
  Speaker 3: on vacation for three days.
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: You can't, sir.
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: Don't be bringing up me and the way that I operate.
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: This is, this is her and her friends. And I
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: just think you need to tell your friend Haysis it's
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: been ten years. I want you to do better for yourself,
• 18:35
  Speaker 2: but you're not gonna leave until little woman's fit up.
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: But how many times did she you know, how many dangs?
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: Nothing you can do about it? How many times do
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: you think running that up. I mean not that I
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: want to quote R.
• 18:50
  Speaker 2: Kelly here, but literally, a woman will not leave a
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: situation until she is ready to leave it. So just
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: tell your friend, bitch, I'm sick of hearing you complain
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: about this nigga, and if you're not gonna leave, please
• 19:05
  Speaker 2: bent to this about this man to someone else, because
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: it's affecting my mental health and I can't take it anymore.
• 19:12
  Speaker 3: I like that approach. It's very it's very straightforward. And
• 19:15
  Speaker 3: if that don't work, you take that week break.
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: Oh my god.
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: Anyways, guys, if you want us to answer your questions,
• 19:23
  Speaker 2: send it on over to Decisions Pod at gmail dot
• 19:29
  Speaker 2: com at dean do you have any Fourth of July plans?
• 19:34
  Speaker 3: I'll be DJing somewhere in Brooklyn, so just catch me
• 19:36
  Speaker 3: on somewhere. Just find me at Thank You ed and
• 19:38
  Speaker 3: on my ig and you'll see everything that I'm doing.
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: I got you. I know that's right.
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: And if you are in New Orleans for essence beest,
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: please dm me. I will be out there doing man
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: on the street content and partying with you bitches, So
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: dm me if you're around, I'd love to grab a
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: drink with some members of the whore Hive and maybe
• 19:59
  Speaker 2: even get you on my microphone again. I will be
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: out there this weekend in New Orleans, baby. Anyways, thank
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: you guys so much. This is you got decisions again.
• 20:11
  Speaker 2: Send your questions to decisions pot at gmail dot com
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: and we'll see you motherfuckers next week, babe,