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Train Your Mind, Discipline Your Life: The Key to Success · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Victory starts in our mind. When your vision is limited,
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  Speaker 1: your life will be limited. It's amazing what happens when
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  Speaker 1: you enlarge your vision, when you believe big, when you
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  Speaker 1: pray bold prayers, when you dream great dreams. Too often
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  Speaker 1: because the disappointments delays things that haven't worked out, we've
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  Speaker 1: watered down our dreams. We've lowered our expectations. We're not
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  Speaker 1: stretching believe in for great things, believing to get well.
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  Speaker 1: Are you putting limits on what God wants to do
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  Speaker 1: in your life? Are you focused on what you think
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  Speaker 1: can happen only in your ability.
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  Speaker 2: Your The existence is constantly an engagement with the universe,
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  Speaker 2: but your mind becomes against the universe. If you create
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  Speaker 2: a psychological condition that you're against or you're in competition
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  Speaker 2: with the universe or the customers, obviously we'll feel crushed
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  Speaker 2: for small things.
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  Speaker 3: Your default mode is to say, I'm an impostor, I'm
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  Speaker 3: a loser, I'm not likable, nobody likes me, I'm not lovable.
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  Speaker 3: It has become part of your default mode network, and
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  Speaker 3: it's super important for you to realize that just like
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  Speaker 3: I could go from being a right hander and teach
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  Speaker 3: myself how to be a left hander. It is the
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  Speaker 3: exact same process for you to go for somebody who
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  Speaker 3: defaults to thinking negative garbage to becoming somebody who thinks directly.
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  Speaker 3: And just like learning to go from writing with your
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  Speaker 3: right hand to teaching yourself to write with your left hand,
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  Speaker 3: it is going to be a process, not an event.
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  Speaker 3: It is going to require you to switch out.
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  Speaker 4: Of the mode where you automatically grab the pen with
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  Speaker 4: your right hand and you direct your thoughts to deliberately
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  Speaker 4: grab this pen with your left hand.
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  Speaker 5: So then as you begin to think about a new possibility,
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  Speaker 5: and your brain begins to fire in new sequences and
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  Speaker 5: new patterns and new combinations, and you begin to plan
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  Speaker 5: your behaviors, and you begin to review in your mind
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  Speaker 5: mentally rehearse who you're going to be in your life,
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  Speaker 5: the mere action of mental rehearsal begins to install the
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  Speaker 5: neurological circuits in your brain. Now your brain is no
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  Speaker 5: longer a record of the past. Now it's in fact
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  Speaker 5: a map to the future. And if you were then
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  Speaker 5: to begin to emotionally embrace your future before it's made manifest.
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  Speaker 5: In other words, you're not waiting for your healing to
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  Speaker 5: feel wholeness. You're not waiting for your new relationship to
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  Speaker 5: feel love. You're not waiting for the mystical moment to
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  Speaker 5: feel awe. You're not waiting for your success to feel empowered.
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  Speaker 5: That's the old model of reality, of cause and effect.
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  Speaker 2: Everything we as human beings have created on this planet
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  Speaker 2: were they essentially first created.
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  Speaker 6: In our minds.
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  Speaker 2: All that you see, which is human work on this planet,
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  Speaker 2: first found expression in the mind, then it got manifested
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  Speaker 2: in the outside world. The wonderful things that we have
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  Speaker 2: done on this planet and the horrible things that we
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  Speaker 2: have done on this planet both have come from.
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  Speaker 7: The human mind.
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  Speaker 2: So if we are concerned as to what we create
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  Speaker 2: in this world, it's extremely important that first of all,
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  Speaker 2: we learn to create the right things in our minds,
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  Speaker 2: how we keep our minds. If we do not have
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  Speaker 2: the power to keep our minds the way we want it,
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  Speaker 2: what we create in the world is also going to
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  Speaker 2: be very accidental and happizart. So learning to create our
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  Speaker 2: minds the way we want is the basis of creating
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  Speaker 2: the world the baby wants.
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  Speaker 7: Well, it's about training the mind too, right. The mind
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  Speaker 7: needs to adjust and the mind that's like a muscle.
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  Speaker 7: It needs to reshape itself to be able to take
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  Speaker 7: on a new way of thinking, in a new way
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  Speaker 7: of behaving, and you know, progressively hold that new shape.
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  Speaker 7: And that only comes through repetition and patience and slow
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  Speaker 7: hot of doing the same thing over and over again.
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  Speaker 8: If you change the picture in your mind, you change
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  Speaker 8: the chemistry, change the faith. So I give an example.
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  Speaker 8: If I have a picture of love in my mind,
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  Speaker 8: the brain releases complementary chemistry dopamine, pleasure, oxytocin bond with
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  Speaker 8: your love one growth hormone, which does exactly what it says.
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  Speaker 8: That enhances your growth. And that's why when people fall
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  Speaker 8: in love, the chemistry of the brain going into the blood,
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  Speaker 8: the culture medium enhances vitality. People glow when they fall
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  Speaker 8: in love. People are healthy when they fall in love,
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  Speaker 8: as it's not an accident chemistry of your culture medium.
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  Speaker 8: But now I say, but wait, what if I have
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  Speaker 8: a picture of fear? I go, oh, well, love chemistry
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  Speaker 8: doesn't come out when fear is in the picture. The
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  Speaker 8: brain releases stress hormones and factors that affect the immune
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  Speaker 8: system and growth of the system. And I go, oh,
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  Speaker 8: my goodness, I say, why is irrelevant. Changing my thought
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  Speaker 8: changes my chemistry. The chemistry adjusts my biology. So if
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  Speaker 8: I can control my thoughts, I can control the chemistry,
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  Speaker 8: and therefore I control the biology.
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  Speaker 6: But if you want to get better results, you're going
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  Speaker 6: to have to shift from sinking to building. You're going
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  Speaker 6: to have to shift from worrying to saying, you know what,
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  Speaker 6: I got this. That's what my set is all about.
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  Speaker 6: My set is about having confidence in yourself. My st
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  Speaker 6: is about saying, I don't care what comes up. I
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  Speaker 6: don't care what obstacles come my way. I have this
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  Speaker 6: under control. Why Because if I think it, I can
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  Speaker 6: imagine it. I can envision it, and then I can
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  Speaker 6: help this thing come to pass. Oh I hope I'm
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  Speaker 6: helping y'all today. These are the themes that you've got
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  Speaker 6: to focus on at the end of the day. Mindset matters.
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  Speaker 9: Alfred Adler saw ambition as the quintessential attempt to overcome
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  Speaker 9: our insecurities. The more competitive people are, he argued, the
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  Speaker 9: more insecure they are underneath, such that displays of superiority
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  Speaker 9: can be interpreted as compensatory mechanisms for an underlying inferiority complex. Thus,
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  Speaker 9: low confidence is a problem only you don't care enough
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  Speaker 9: about it to attempt to gain competence. One thing I
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  Speaker 9: can see that high achievers have in common is that
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  Speaker 9: they self medicate their insecurities with success. Although we are
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  Speaker 9: repeatedly told that exceptional achievers oh their success to their
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  Speaker 9: high confidence or self belief, it is more feasible to
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  Speaker 9: attribute it to their insecurity. Why else would anybody work
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  Speaker 9: so hard and continue to work hard even after accomplishing
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  Speaker 9: much more than most people. In that sense, one could
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  Speaker 9: argue that the only difference between successful and unsuccessful people
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  Speaker 9: is that the former care much more about their insecurities,
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  Speaker 9: so they are driven to work hard to overcome them.
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  Speaker 9: And the key point is that they work not on
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  Speaker 9: their insecurities but on achieving big things. Success is the
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  Speaker 9: best medicine. People sometimes think I'm confident, but only because
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  Speaker 9: I fake it. Deep inside, I am certain of nothing
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  Speaker 9: and believe only in working hard for what I want.
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  Speaker 9: I hardly ever, feel overconfident, but focus on my insecurities
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  Speaker 9: to push me to work harder instead of putting the
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  Speaker 9: energy toward improving my confidence. Although I have done reasonably
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  Speaker 9: well in my career, I would be devastated if I
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  Speaker 9: felt I had already reached my biggest accomplishments. The thought
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  Speaker 9: of complacency scares me. Thus, insecurities lead to ambition, which
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  Speaker 9: eclipses low confidence by focusing your attention on your goals
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  Speaker 9: rather than yourself, leading to higher levels of achievement, which
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  Speaker 9: in turn can give you realistic confidence. Conversely, the security
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  Speaker 9: and confidence that may result from having things too easy
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  Speaker 9: or being overly pleased with yourself are likely to hinder
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  Speaker 9: ambition and threaten potential improvements. When we tell people that
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  Speaker 9: they can achieve anything they want so long as they
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  Speaker 9: have high confidence, their motivation to work hard decreases. When
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  Speaker 9: we tell people that everybody is equally capable of achieving anything,
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  Speaker 9: we create in them high expects and a false sense
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  Speaker 9: of entitlement, which reduces their willpower in every domain of competence, education, careers, sports, relationships,
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  Speaker 9: and health. Some people are naturally better endowed than others,
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  Speaker 9: in that they are pretty much born with an advantage
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  Speaker 9: over their peers. For example, being born to a wealthier
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  Speaker 9: family will give you access to better health and education.
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  Speaker 9: Being naturally more physically attractive will make you a more
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  Speaker 9: desirable romantic partner, and a better genetic makeup will make
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  Speaker 9: you healthier and increase the probability of living longer. All
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  Speaker 9: these inborn characteristics are comparable to height in that you
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  Speaker 9: cannot do much to alter them. If you think about
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  Speaker 9: confidence as height and performance is jumping high, it should
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  Speaker 9: help you understand and remember one of the key lessons.
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  Speaker 9: Even if you cannot alter your height, you can always
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  Speaker 9: learn to jump higher, and being born short should make
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  Speaker 9: you work extra hard to achieve your galth and here's
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  Speaker 9: the beauty of it. Once you do, you will feel
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  Speaker 9: better about your height too. To stay with a sports metaphor,
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  Speaker 9: if you want to run like you say Bolt the
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  Speaker 9: fastest man on Earth, you better start training now, Train
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  Speaker 9: all the time, and stop doing anything else. It will
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  Speaker 9: also help if you avoid thinking that you have the
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  Speaker 9: same natural talent for running as Bolt does, even in
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  Speaker 9: the unlikely event that you do, because if you believe
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  Speaker 9: you do, you will be unaware of your limitations and
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  Speaker 9: likely train less. Most of us are average at what
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  Speaker 9: we do. Being aware of this is especially useful if
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  Speaker 9: you want to be better than average. When you struggle,
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  Speaker 9: you need to be realistic about it in order to improve,
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  Speaker 9: and being fully aware of your problems is the biggest
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  Speaker 9: incentive to work hard to bring about positive change. The
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  Speaker 9: contestants on the Biggest Loser are usually people who have
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  Speaker 9: been severely overweight since childhood. What is most interesting from
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  Speaker 9: a psychological perspective is that these people start with extremely
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  Speaker 9: low levels of self esteem, as one would expect given
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  Speaker 9: their situation. Yet season after season they're willing to expose
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  Speaker 9: themselves intimately to millions of TV viewers in an attempt
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  Speaker 9: to achieve something that is extremely difficult and totally outside
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  Speaker 9: their confidence zone. This is a wonderful example of how willpower,
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  Speaker 9: especially the desire to improve Trump's the inhibitory effects of
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  Speaker 9: low confidence. If you really want something, you will work
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  Speaker 9: hard to attain it. If what you want is to
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  Speaker 9: recover your confidence, then you should focus on improving your performance.
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  Speaker 9: Work hard on your accomplishments, and your confidence will take
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  Speaker 9: care of itself.
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  Speaker 10: There's great power in self reliance. Self reliance means you
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  Speaker 10: simply look mostly to yourself. It would be nice if
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  Speaker 10: someone just gave you this. It would be nice if
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  Speaker 10: everyone did their job exactly as they're supposed to do it.
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  Speaker 10: But here's what you've got to do. Primarily lie on yourself.
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  Speaker 10: Primarily say I'm the person responsible, and I will learn
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  Speaker 10: the necessary skills so that I can help people learn
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  Speaker 10: their skills. If I need lots of people to do
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  Speaker 10: certain things to build my organization, that is what I
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  Speaker 10: must have. But I've got to be the final backstop.
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  Speaker 10: I've got to be the final one that people can
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  Speaker 10: rely on so that if this is missed, and this
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  Speaker 10: is missed, I can catch up. I can fill the gap.
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  Speaker 10: I can do the job. We have to do it
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  Speaker 10: when we conduct meetings. We have to do it when
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  Speaker 10: we conduct training. We have to do it when we're
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  Speaker 10: in a class of just a few what someone might
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  Speaker 10: have missed. We're there to fill in self reliance. Primarily,
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  Speaker 10: we're learning to count on yourself so that you can
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  Speaker 10: do this, never complain and never explain. Here's the next
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  Speaker 10: key power, and that's image. There's many parts to image.
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  Speaker 10: The image that others see you as, the image you
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  Speaker 10: have with other people, and that's very important. How other
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  Speaker 10: people see you. If they don't see you as a leader,
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  Speaker 10: chances are they won't pay attention. If they don't see
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  Speaker 10: you as being in control, chances are they won't have
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  Speaker 10: the trust. If they don't see you as knowing where
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  Speaker 10: you're going, what you want to accomplish, they probably won't follow.
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  Speaker 10: But if people can see you, if you have the
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  Speaker 10: image of someone that's in charge, in control, in control
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  Speaker 10: of your life, your future, your destiny, in control of
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  Speaker 10: the situation. If they see that, that kind of image
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  Speaker 10: is powerful, It helps to win the day. It attracts
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  Speaker 10: other people. People want to be around people that are
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  Speaker 10: in control, that are powerful, but they know how to
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  Speaker 10: use their power. Influential, but they know how to use
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  Speaker 10: their influence. That kind of image is important. But here's
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  Speaker 10: a very important image, and that is your image of yourself.
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  Speaker 10: The way you dress, the way you talk, the way
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  Speaker 10: you think, your capacity for learning, all of that is
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  Speaker 10: an important image that you have of yourself. The image
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  Speaker 10: that you have that if it needs to be learned,
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  Speaker 10: you could learn it. If there's a book that needs
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  Speaker 10: to be mastered, you could master it. If there's a
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  Speaker 10: skill that needs to be learned, why couldn't you get
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  Speaker 10: busy now and learn that skill. That kind of self
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  Speaker 10: image that I am continually trying my best to be
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  Speaker 10: the best I can. Because one of the most important
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  Speaker 10: places you have to look is into the future. Yes
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  Speaker 10: you've got to look into the path. Yes you've got
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  Speaker 10: to look around, but one of the most important places
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  Speaker 10: you have to look is in the mirror.