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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: An Exercise In Patience · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey everyone, Emily body here. You are listening to five
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  Speaker 1: Minute Friday from Hurdle, Big Exhale. I am about to
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  Speaker 1: head home from Austin from my final I feel like
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  Speaker 1: I'm saying this and it's like famous last words knock
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  Speaker 1: on the wood dresser next to me from my final
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  Speaker 1: work trip of the year. Wow, what a year. This
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  Speaker 1: is not the episode where I reflect on twenty twenty four,
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  Speaker 1: but I can say that without a doubt it has been.
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  Speaker 1: It's been wild. I have been in so many different places,
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  Speaker 1: from Singapore and Tokyo, oh Man, to Los Angeles and Miami, Chicago, Boston,
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  Speaker 1: oh my god, the list goes on. And I was
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  Speaker 1: feeling a little bit anxious about going home because I
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  Speaker 1: literally do not have a single guaranteed next trip planned
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  Speaker 1: and that can be a little anxiety inducing, especially because
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  Speaker 1: I often am traveling for work and that is how
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  Speaker 1: I make a living. And then I chose to take
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  Speaker 1: a step back as I was talking about these feelings
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  Speaker 1: yesterday with a friend, and I thought, what an opportunity,
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  Speaker 1: this is, What an opportunity this is to be in
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  Speaker 1: one place, to do some reflecting, to really be where
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  Speaker 1: my feet are. When I sat down this week with
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  Speaker 1: Rashida at a Leka. Her episode will be live on
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  Speaker 1: the show on Monday. She said something that really resonated
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  Speaker 1: with me. She talked about the importance of patients, and
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  Speaker 1: she said that with patients, it is required to allow
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  Speaker 1: yourself to fully surrender to the timing of the universe.
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  Speaker 1: And so for me right now, I might not have
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  Speaker 1: my next bazillion opportunities lined up, but what comes with
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  Speaker 1: that is the opportunity to do some inventory, to ask myself,
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  Speaker 1: what's us for Emily, what does Emily want next? And
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  Speaker 1: use this time to my advantage, because, like I said,
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  Speaker 1: it's been a non stop year and so now is
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  Speaker 1: my chance to really ask myself is this serving me?
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  Speaker 1: And how do I really want to move forward instead
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  Speaker 1: of being a little bit on autopilot candidly. So that's
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  Speaker 1: my reflection for this week is maybe when we're not
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  Speaker 1: getting whatever it is that we want, and not to
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  Speaker 1: say that there's specifically something that I want right now,
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  Speaker 1: but when you don't get what you want, maybe you
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  Speaker 1: really are getting what you need. And maybe for me
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  Speaker 1: right now, what I need is this time where my
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  Speaker 1: feet are in one single place, in my very own home.
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  Speaker 1: My thought prompt for you this week? What do you
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  Speaker 1: need right now? Think about what's going on, think about
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  Speaker 1: where you're at, and ask yourself what's best for insert
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  Speaker 1: your name here, So for me, what's best for Emily?
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  Speaker 1: And now a listener question. Hey Emily, longtime listener. Thank
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  Speaker 1: you for the incredible show you put out. I especially
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  Speaker 1: look forward to five minute Fridays, a much needed pause
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  Speaker 1: to reflect after a busy week. My question for you
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  Speaker 1: is this, do you have any advice for making and
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  Speaker 1: maintaining close friends in your thirties. I'm engaged living back
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  Speaker 1: in my hometown, but most of my family and close
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  Speaker 1: friends have moved away or cut ties, and the friends
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  Speaker 1: we do have are paired up and less available. I
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  Speaker 1: play pickleball, and I have met some great people, but it's
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  Speaker 1: hard to move that connection to off the court. Any advice, thanks? Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I agree with you, this is definitely a challenging thing.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like the older you get, the harder it
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  Speaker 1: is to meet new people and really solidify those relationships.
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  Speaker 1: I appreciate what you pointed out that you play pickleball,
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  Speaker 1: because I would say that hobbies are the easiest way
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  Speaker 1: to break that barrier, right to open yourself up through
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  Speaker 1: activity into new relationships. If it doesn't feel like that
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  Speaker 1: is clicking, then ask yourself, what's something else that could
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  Speaker 1: be really fun for me. Maybe you want to try pottery,
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  Speaker 1: or maybe you go to a co working space and
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  Speaker 1: there are people the co working space that you can
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  Speaker 1: go out of your way to meet. Or perhaps it's
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  Speaker 1: simply opening yourself up to a different online community. There
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  Speaker 1: are so many different online communities that give you access
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  Speaker 1: to individuals in your surrounding area, and then through that
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  Speaker 1: you can make a decision on whether or not these
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  Speaker 1: are the kind of people that you actually want to
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  Speaker 1: meet up with. IRL. What I would say though about
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  Speaker 1: making friends as you get older is that you have
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  Speaker 1: this really amazing chance to get comfortable with the uncomfortable.
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  Speaker 1: So it won't be easy, but generally speaking, anything worth
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  Speaker 1: having isn't. So take a risk on you. I know
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  Speaker 1: that you have so much to offer whoever it is
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  Speaker 1: that you make their acquaintance right, and that also maybe
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  Speaker 1: it's gonna take some time. You might meet someone and
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  Speaker 1: think it could be great and then realize you don't vibe.
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  Speaker 1: Friendship is just like forming a romantic relationship. It's got
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  Speaker 1: to feel good, it's got to feel like you're in alignment.
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  Speaker 1: And you said in your question any advice for making
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  Speaker 1: or maintaining close friends. I would say when it comes
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  Speaker 1: to maintaining just everyone wants to feel like their priority,
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  Speaker 1: and so that might not be guaranteed constantly. You might
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  Speaker 1: not always be able to give the same bandwidth to
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  Speaker 1: your relationships. But reiterating that you care and planning ahead
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  Speaker 1: to provide time for that relationship, to nurture that relationship,
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  Speaker 1: knowing that for the right people, making that time won't
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  Speaker 1: feel like a hassle. It'll feel like something that excites you.
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  Speaker 1: It will feel that special word in alignment. I hope
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  Speaker 1: it helps. And if you have a listener question that
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  Speaker 1: you want me to answer, shoot us an email over
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  Speaker 1: at Hello at Hurdle dot us and maybe I'll get
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  Speaker 1: to it in an upcoming episode. Make sure you're following
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