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Put It In God's Hands · Have A Little Faith with Delilah

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Speaker 1: Hello, Welcome, my friend. Welcome to another addition of have
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Speaker 1: a little faith. Right now, with everything going on in
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Speaker 1: the world, we need to have more than a little
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Speaker 1: bit of faith, more than a scooch of faith. A
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Speaker 1: little bit of faith isn't going to get you very
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Speaker 1: far with all the Craig Kray going on. I need
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Speaker 1: a lot of faith. I need faith that is based
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Speaker 1: not on how I feel, because come on, I'm post metapausal.
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Speaker 1: My feelings change like the weather, like the wind. I
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Speaker 1: need a faith that is based on a rock, something
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Speaker 1: that doesn't shift like my emotions or my moods. I
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Speaker 1: need a faith that is firmly grounded and rooted in
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Speaker 1: historical facts. I need a faith that is built on
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Speaker 1: the rock that never changes, that never wavers. I need
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Speaker 1: a faith in a God that is unchanging, that is
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Speaker 1: everlasting to everlasting, that is the same yesterday, today and always.
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Speaker 1: I can put my trust and my faith in a
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Speaker 1: God that doesn't change with trends, with fashions. I want
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Speaker 1: to put my faith in something that is not shifting sand,
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Speaker 1: but a solid rock. Putting things in God's hands is hard.
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Speaker 1: Putting my life in his hands is hard. Putting my
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Speaker 1: future in his hands, my children in his hands is hard,
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Speaker 1: but it is necessary. It's a powerful thing. Having the
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Speaker 1: willingness to let go and let God doesn't mean you're weak.
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Speaker 1: It means your faith is strong. It's an act of
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Speaker 1: trust and surrender to the one probably the only one
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Speaker 1: that can actually help. When we face uncertainty, when we
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Speaker 1: face fears, when we are in the midst of situations
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Speaker 1: beyond our control, we tend to make bad decisions. I
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Speaker 1: tend to make bad decisions when I am on a
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Speaker 1: roller coaster, especially of emotions. I make really bad decisions.
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Speaker 1: God wants us to step up to our responsibilities, but
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Speaker 1: he also wants us to let go, to let go
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Speaker 1: when we have to. Letting go of control is not
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Speaker 1: about giving up who. Some people hold on so tightly
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Speaker 1: to control, they grasp it with both hands, they wrap
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Speaker 1: their legs around it. No, no, it must go my way.
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Speaker 1: You must see things my way. Let's be real. That's
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Speaker 1: an illusion. You're not in control. But when you put
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Speaker 1: that in God's hands, you're saying I've done all that
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Speaker 1: I can and God, I have to trust you with
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Speaker 1: the rest. You got to put it in his hands
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Speaker 1: and trust him with the outcome. Life often brings circumstances
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Speaker 1: that don't make sense. It's overwhelming when that happens. When
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Speaker 1: you are brother in law who is the closest thing
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Speaker 1: to Jesus that you have ever seen, is in a
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Speaker 1: hospital fighting for his life. And it's not because he's
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Speaker 1: made bad choices. It's not because he's out getting wasted,
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Speaker 1: smoking packs of cigarettes, killing himself. It just happens. Sometimes
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Speaker 1: when your sister is diagnosed with stage four and you're thinking,
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Speaker 1: how can this be. She's the one that ground her
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Speaker 1: on wheat, that made her on flour, that avoided toxins
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Speaker 1: and poisons and pharmaceuticals. How can this happen? But when
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Speaker 1: somebody's just a good person to the core of their
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Speaker 1: being in you, you love them and you want to
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Speaker 1: fix it, and you desperately want the outcome. You want
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Speaker 1: so hard to let go and trust God. In today's podcast,
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Speaker 1: we have Bernadette. She's a mess with a man who
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Speaker 1: is manipulating her. Let's let Bernadette tell her own story.
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Speaker 1: How is your beautiful autumn going thus far?
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Speaker 2: It's going magnificently.
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Speaker 3: Well, I got some Ryan's Organic apple cider. However, in
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Speaker 3: your honor, I'm having a nice cup of tea and
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Speaker 3: just just so excited to talk to you and catch up.
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Speaker 1: I'm actually making apple cider this year because I found
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Speaker 1: an old, funky apple cider press, an antique hanmade apple
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Speaker 1: cider press at a garage sale I went to like
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Speaker 1: five years ago, and I just got it refurbished and working.
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Speaker 1: So the thing cost me like fifty bucks at the
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Speaker 1: garage cell, but it's probably cost me five hundred to
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Speaker 1: put it back together.
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Speaker 4: But think about it, It'll be good for.
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Speaker 1: Generations to come, for generations, for generations, and the kids
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Speaker 1: are going to have fun because we're going to have
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Speaker 1: like an apple cider pressing party with their friends. Wow,
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Speaker 1: it's all good.
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Speaker 2: How we're exciding.
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Speaker 1: So what can I do for you tonight?
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Speaker 3: I just felt inspired to call you and to say hi.
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Speaker 3: I have a bit of a dilemma and it's not
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Speaker 3: a pretty one.
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Speaker 2: I'm sorry to.
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Speaker 1: Say, Honey. I love Delilah dilemmas. It makes me feel
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Speaker 1: not so bad about all the horrible messes I've put
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Speaker 1: myself in.
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Speaker 3: Well, you know, they say they'd be careful who you
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Speaker 3: fall in love with, but you can't always felt it.
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Speaker 1: You can't help it. The heart wants what the heart
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Speaker 1: wants left.
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Speaker 3: Shoot, thank you for saying that. Well, Unfortunately, I fell
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Speaker 3: in love with a creep. Oh and every time I
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Speaker 3: was around him, I lit up like a Christmas tree.
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Speaker 3: I supported him in his job. I you know, he
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Speaker 3: was dating someone else, and I said, oh, well, thanks
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Speaker 3: for bringing me to life and I'm out of here.
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Speaker 4: Seebye.
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Speaker 3: They just can't we be friends.
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Speaker 2: And I'm like, okay, I guess.
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Speaker 3: And so I supported him in his job because I
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Speaker 3: was really good at you know, I at his his
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Speaker 3: job basically, and I brought him fortune and fame, and
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Speaker 3: I you know, I did everything I could to help him,
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Speaker 3: and he started, uh yeah, he invaded my privacy. I
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Speaker 3: had found out he'd been a corrections officer and he's
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Speaker 3: really good at hacking. He's an electrin he's an engineer.
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Speaker 3: And it's been really ugly for a long time. Nine
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Speaker 3: years of yeah, torture and torment, and no one seems
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Speaker 3: to really cure Delilah.
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Speaker 1: Okay, okay, okay, I need to just stop and give
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Speaker 1: you an award because I didn't think anyone could top
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Speaker 1: my knuckleheadedness, but you you might have done that.
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Speaker 3: He's happy, he's breaking the law and he is not
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Speaker 3: being clot and I'm not smart enough with my devices.
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Speaker 2: I've got some proof, Delilah.
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Speaker 3: I've done everything.
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Speaker 4: He's ruined my life.
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Speaker 1: Literally, here's the thing where our abilities and God's begin,
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Speaker 1: Where our abilities, where our talents, Where are capabilities, where
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Speaker 1: our wisdom, where our technology ends, Now God begins.
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Speaker 3: I've been slowly getting myself better, and that's why when
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Speaker 3: he came along, I was still doing some major healings
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Speaker 3: and I could support him in his job and help
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Speaker 3: his dream come true.
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Speaker 4: And I did.
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Speaker 2: I did what I could.
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Speaker 3: I was a friend, nothing else. And yeah, I admit
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Speaker 3: in the beginning I did some stupid things, you know.
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Speaker 3: I let him woo me and impress me and all.
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Speaker 2: This, and yeah, he broke up with the girl he.
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Speaker 3: Was dating, and you know, but just just I just
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Speaker 3: knew he was bad news. And I said, no, I'm good,
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Speaker 3: but he wouldn't leave me alone. And I've done everything
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Speaker 3: to get away from him. And at this point things
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Speaker 3: are so critical because I'm about to go unders.
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Speaker 1: I need you to listen to me, yes'am, because all
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Speaker 1: your hearing is the fear in your head, which is
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Speaker 1: very real. It's not imaginary. It's very real. You have
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Speaker 1: done everything with the police. You have done everything in
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Speaker 1: your ability to make your life safe. So where your
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Speaker 1: abilities end, where you say I can do no more,
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Speaker 1: is where God can finally begin. Did you ever hear
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Speaker 1: the story of the little girl that broke her her
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Speaker 1: favorite doll?
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Speaker 2: No, don't know that.
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Speaker 1: One little girl had a doll, a porcelain doll, and
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Speaker 1: she dropped it and she broke it, and it broken,
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Speaker 1: the porcelain broken half. And she takes it to her
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Speaker 1: dad and she says, Dad, I drop my favorite doll.
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Speaker 1: I love this doll. I broke it. He says, Okay,
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Speaker 1: leave it right there on the kitchen table, honey, and
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Speaker 1: when you get up tomorrow it'll be better. May not
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Speaker 1: be perfect, but you can have your dolly back. And
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Speaker 1: she says, but Dad, you're not paying attention. I'm telling you,
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Speaker 1: I broke my favorite porcelain doll. You can't make it better.
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Speaker 1: He goes, Actually, I can. And if you will leave
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Speaker 1: it right there on the dining room table when you
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Speaker 1: get up tomorrow, it'll be better. Won't be perfect, but
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Speaker 1: you can play with your DOLLI And she screams and
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Speaker 1: she wails and she cries and she throws herself on
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Speaker 1: the floor, and she says, but you just don't understand, Dad,
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Speaker 1: I love this doll so much and it's broken, and
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Speaker 1: she just a fit and Dad keeps saying the same thing.
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Speaker 1: She keeps saying the same thing. Finally, she grabs her doll,
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Speaker 1: stomps up the stairs, mad and disappointed, and goes to
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Speaker 1: bed holding her broken doll. And the next day she
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Speaker 1: comes down and she says, I knew you wouldn't do it.
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Speaker 1: You couldn't fix it. My doll is still broken. And
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Speaker 1: he said, baby girl, you never let it go.
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Speaker 4: Yeah.
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Speaker 1: The glue that Dad needed to fix the porcelain was toxic.
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Speaker 1: He wasn't going to mix it up around his daughter.
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Speaker 1: He just wanted her to trust him enough to let
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Speaker 1: it go and let him work on it, and she
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Speaker 1: couldn't do it. Can you trust him enough to let
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Speaker 1: this go into his hands? I'm not saying stop fighting,
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Speaker 1: I'm not saying stop being wise to protect yourself, but
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Speaker 1: doing all that you have done isn't doing enough, and
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Speaker 1: you need a higher power to take over. Are you
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Speaker 1: willing to let go of this and let God fix
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Speaker 1: it or not?
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Speaker 4: Yes?
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Speaker 1: I am, then do it. Put it in his lap
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Speaker 1: and leave it there.
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Speaker 2: It's as I have from praying, honey, all along. You
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Speaker 2: really don't understand. I've done everything I know to do.
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Speaker 1: I know you have, and I agree. I'm agreeing with that.
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Speaker 1: You have done all that. You can give it away,
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Speaker 1: give it to him, totally, give it to him and
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Speaker 1: leave it in his lap.
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Speaker 2: Oh gosh, the while of.
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Speaker 1: Let it go, Let it go, leave it in the
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Speaker 1: arms of the father. He knows what you need. He
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Speaker 1: knows what this person needs. He knows what this guy needs.
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Speaker 3: I even pray for him that God will just help him.
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Speaker 1: He will. But you can't. You gotta let it go.
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Speaker 3: Okay, Well, because I've thought of just getting rid of all.
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Speaker 1: The device again. You're trying. You're oh wow, I know,
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Speaker 1: oh wow.
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Speaker 3: I'm yeah, just saying here, you want them, you want
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Speaker 3: my devices? Just take it out.
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Speaker 4: I'm through.
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Speaker 3: I can't do anything to help you anymore.
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Speaker 1: Just leave me a littone, put it in God's hands
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Speaker 1: and leave it there.
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Speaker 4: I guess me.
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Speaker 2: I'm because I can't do anything.
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Speaker 1: All right, I'll find a song for you. Thank you, sweetheart.
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Speaker 1: Good night, You're awesome.
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Speaker 2: Have a good night.
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Speaker 1: Next, I have a call from James James is an
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Speaker 1: incredible dad that's worried about his adult children. That is
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Speaker 1: a situation a lot of us can relate to. Let's
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Speaker 1: listen to James right now. What can I do for you? James?
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Speaker 4: My kids are glowing up during college, but I still
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Speaker 4: worry all the time. And I know they're doing the
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Speaker 4: best they can. But as a parent, and they don't
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Speaker 4: know what, you know, there's only that's worrying happening. And
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Speaker 4: I trunk that they can do what they have to.
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Speaker 4: And as a kid growing up, I remember the times
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Speaker 4: when I didn't know what to do.
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Speaker 1: So what kind of things do you worry about? Are
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Speaker 1: you talking about? You worry about them being heard on campus?
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Speaker 1: Are you talking about you worry about them making bad choices?
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Speaker 1: What are you worrying about?
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Speaker 4: Well, they it's about doing their best, you know, not
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Speaker 4: taking the easy way out in terms of like oh
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Speaker 4: I don't want to do an assignment or I'm not
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Speaker 4: going to try and get into something. And you know,
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Speaker 4: now they're going to graduate from college and they have
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Speaker 4: to find a job, and I'm like, you really have to.
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Speaker 1: Do it, James, Why why did they have to do that?
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Speaker 1: I didn't graduate from college. I took the easy way.
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Speaker 4: Well, and that's the point. That's why I'm saying, like,
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Speaker 4: I feel like there's things I want them to do.
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Speaker 4: As a parent. You almost help us, she say, God,
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Speaker 4: let things happen and protect them and just be who
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Speaker 4: they are. You know, that's the whole thing of it.
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Speaker 1: Okay, So take a deep breath here, because I'm about
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Speaker 1: to I'm about to dump some Mama Delilah wisdom on you. Okay.
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Speaker 4: I love it good.
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Speaker 1: I believe that all of our days are written before
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Speaker 1: a single one comes to pass. That God knows before
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Speaker 1: he sends our little souls down here. He knows us.
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Speaker 1: He knows our talents, our gifts, our insights. He knows
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Speaker 1: the trauma that's going to happen to us and how
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Speaker 1: that is going to shape us. He knows the good
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Speaker 1: things that are going to happen to us and how
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Speaker 1: that will also shape us. And He has a purpose
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Speaker 1: for us. Our parents don't know any of that. They
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Speaker 1: are the vessels that He sends our souls to and through.
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Speaker 1: And if they are good parents, they will do their
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Speaker 1: best to present opportunities for growth and wisdom and love.
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Speaker 1: If they are bad parents, they pile on the trauma
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Speaker 1: and then we spend the rest of our life overcoming that.
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Speaker 1: But they parents don't determine the path their kids are
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Speaker 1: going to take, not up to us to pick whether
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Speaker 1: they're going to be an engineer or a doctor, or
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Speaker 1: a street sweeper or a disc jockey on the radio.
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Speaker 1: If my parents had picked my path, they would not
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Speaker 1: have chosen for me to be in broadcasting. Believe me you,
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Speaker 1: I never graduated college. I don't have a degree in anything,
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Speaker 1: and I've been fired twelve times. Dude. The school is
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Speaker 1: great for some people, it's not great for everyone. Everybody's
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Speaker 1: got their path and hoping they do good or hoping
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Speaker 1: they study, or hoping they succeed is foolish.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, today's society, everybody thinks, oh, just open the app
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Speaker 4: and it will happen, you know, like it's so instantaneous
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Speaker 4: and everything's like a ten minute. They're so focused, and
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Speaker 4: I'm like, you have to dedicate time and focus and
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Speaker 4: do you need to do because it doesn't just open
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Speaker 4: an app and you're done. It's more than that. But
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Speaker 4: they're still warning, and I'm still warning, and we always learn.
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Speaker 4: And I really appreciate your thoughts and your understanding.
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Speaker 1: I hope and pray that you find some peace and
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Speaker 1: that you because our adult children become our best friends.
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Speaker 1: They are so fun when they become adults. I hope
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Speaker 1: that you are able to relax and trust that God's
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Speaker 1: got them so that you can just enjoy these wonderful
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Speaker 1: human beings that you were blessed to get to raise.
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Speaker 1: Because it sounds like you were an extremely loving and
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Speaker 1: involved dad, So thank you for that.
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Speaker 4: And they're becoming my parents now because I tell they
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Speaker 4: don't do that, you shouldn't do that, so let's should
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Speaker 4: do it all comes around.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, you don't have to worry about them being the
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Speaker 1: kind of flunkies that are doing nothing but opening a
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Speaker 1: n app Dad, You've done well, Okay.
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Speaker 4: I appreciate it. Thank you.
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Speaker 1: The next story I want to share with you is
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Speaker 1: from a listener named Crystal. Cristel is currently trying trying
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Speaker 1: to reconcile with her ex, but she's trying to do
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Speaker 1: that on her own strength, on her own timeline. Let's
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Speaker 1: listen to Crystal right now. Hi, Crystal, welcome to the
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Speaker 1: Delilah Show. What can I do for you on this
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Speaker 1: autumn evening?
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Speaker 5: Well, I just wanted to Colin and Uh, I don't
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Speaker 5: know that my boyfriend's listening, but I wanted to know
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Speaker 5: how much I love it, and like we've been through
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Speaker 5: all the ups and downs and we're finally back in
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Speaker 5: a good place, and it's just want to let him
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Speaker 5: know that I did a guarret for him and love everything.
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Speaker 4: That he does.
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Speaker 1: So you've been through it just recently or in the past,
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Speaker 1: like over the last year.
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Speaker 5: Like we met last year and our relationship moved really quickly.
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Speaker 5: Long story short, we got married just to get divorced,
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Speaker 5: and now we're back together trying to figure everything out,
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Speaker 5: and we're talking about possibly getting remarried. So I mean,
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Speaker 5: we're just about a pass now.
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Speaker 1: How long were you together before you got married?
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Speaker 5: We met in January and we got married in September.
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Speaker 1: And how long were you married before you were divorced?
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Speaker 5: Probably almost a lot of things happened and we were
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Speaker 5: in a great spot and we couldn't couldn't figure out
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Speaker 5: how to work it out.
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Speaker 4: But we're figuring it.
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Speaker 1: Out now, Crystal. How old are you?
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Speaker 2: I'm thirty five.
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Speaker 1: How old is your your whatever he is now, he's thirty.
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Speaker 1: And are there children that you're you're dragging through this?
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Speaker 5: He has a five year old son from his previous marriage.
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Speaker 4: We were each married before.
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Speaker 1: But before you guys do the on again, off again,
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Speaker 1: on again, off again, why don't you go get some
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Speaker 1: counsel and figure yourselves out.
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Speaker 5: We're working on getting in the counseling together. So we're
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Speaker 5: on that step right now.
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Speaker 1: Okay, But before we talk about remarriage, and I'm not
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Speaker 1: saying you shouldn't, I'm just saying, before you have that conversation,
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Speaker 1: let's spend some time figuring yourself out and let him
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Speaker 1: spend time figuring himself out.
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Speaker 5: We're discussing it, and we're like figuring things out and
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Speaker 5: we're not moving. That's the time, Like we're taking your time,
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Speaker 5: if that makes sense.
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Speaker 1: Okay, So what blew up your marriage in a matter
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Speaker 1: of weeks?
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Speaker 5: His son got sick, and so if he just was
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Speaker 5: that in the right head space.
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Speaker 1: So again, it sounds to me like you both need
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Speaker 1: to work on yourselves and figure out what's going on
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Speaker 1: before you talk about let's get married again. Yeah, Like we.
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Speaker 2: Moved really quickly, like way too quickly.
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Speaker 1: I'm not judging you, because God knows I have made
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Speaker 1: every every bad decision in the book. When it comes
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Speaker 1: to marriage and divorce. I am not in standing in
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Speaker 1: judgment of you at all. You don't have to explain anything,
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Speaker 1: you don't have to validate what you did. I've been there,
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Speaker 1: done that, got the T shirt and a bag of chips,
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Speaker 1: and I'm I'm just speaking out of my own experience
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Speaker 1: and my own bad choices. I wish that I had
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Speaker 1: taken the time to slow down and learn about myself
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Speaker 1: before I just kept trying to fix something when really
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Speaker 1: the thing wasn't what was so broken? I was, Yeah,
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Speaker 1: that's all not judging ya.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, And I.
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Speaker 5: Listened to your show on I daily, like every day
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Speaker 5: when I come home from work, I listen.
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Speaker 1: And then, if you've been doing that for years, you
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Speaker 1: heard me going through my painful divorce, all the foolishness
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Speaker 1: I've been through.
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Speaker 5: Shortly after, like him and I split up, and then
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Speaker 5: we stopped talking for a little bit. But then when
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Speaker 5: we started reconnecting that entire time that we weren't together,
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Speaker 5: I started listening to you.
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Speaker 1: Oh so this has been recently. You found me if
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Speaker 1: you had listened to me back in the eighties, who
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Speaker 1: was my life a hot mess?
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Speaker 5: So sometimes I've been really thinking and kind of I
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Speaker 5: listen every night when I come home from work.
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Speaker 2: Sometimes we'll say a Bible.
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Speaker 5: Verse, and one that really sticks with me is Matthew
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Speaker 5: Chapter nineteen, verse twenty six. With God, all things are possible.
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Speaker 1: Amen. Amen, Amen, Amen. I love that all things, not
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Speaker 1: some things, all things. Yes, you have a wonderful autumn,
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Speaker 1: and I hope that you guys are able to figure
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Speaker 1: things out.
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Speaker 2: Thank you.
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Speaker 1: Diana is struggling with a daughter who is choosing not
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Speaker 1: to communicate with her right now, a daughter who is
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Speaker 1: shut down, gone silent, and Diana is trying to force
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Speaker 1: an outcome. She is trying to make things go the
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Speaker 1: way she thinks they should go. And I understand, who
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Speaker 1: boy do? I understand that it's painful when you want
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Speaker 1: to help. It's painful when you want to connect. It's
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Speaker 1: painful when somebody chooses to close the door. Sometimes you
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Speaker 1: can't help. Sometimes you can't connect. Sometimes all you can
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Speaker 1: do is let go and let God.
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Speaker 4: Hi.
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Speaker 1: Welcome to the Delilah Show. Who is this Lilah?
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Speaker 6: This is Diana.
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Speaker 2: How are you hello?
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Speaker 1: Diana? I am wonderful. What can I do for you?
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Speaker 6: My daughter and I had a long fight like three
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Speaker 6: years ago, and I have been trying.
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Speaker 2: To be, you know, to get back with her. I've
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Speaker 2: tried everything.
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Speaker 6: I've written letters, I've apologized, even if it wasn't my fault.
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Speaker 6: I've told her I loved her, I told her I
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Speaker 6: needed her, and she says, you're a terrible mother. My others,
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Speaker 6: my son is like, mom, you're the best year everything.
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Speaker 6: My whole family has tried to talk to her and say,
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Speaker 6: you need your mother, You need to talk to your mom.
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Speaker 6: It's been three years. She has a daughter that I
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Speaker 6: haven't seen in three years. We were so close, and
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Speaker 6: I don't know what to do. And every letter I've written,
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Speaker 6: every card I've given, any gift I've given, I don't
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Speaker 6: know if she's gotten it. She's I don't know what
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Speaker 6: to do. I go to counseling.
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Speaker 1: I what does your counselor say when you go to counseling.
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Speaker 6: They just tell me to relax and maybe she'll come around.
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Speaker 1: You know, is this a counselor you trust and feel
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Speaker 1: is wise? Yeah? So why are you not listening? I
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Speaker 1: am no, No, you're not because but you're not listening.
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Speaker 1: You're going to a counselor because you want counsel you
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Speaker 1: want wisdom that is beyond your experience. The counselor is
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Speaker 1: giving you wisdom and you're ignoring it and trying desperately
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Speaker 1: to fix something that you didn't break. Right, You are
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Speaker 1: trying desperately, frantically to put Humpty Dumpty back together again,
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Speaker 1: And you're not the reason Humpty Dumpty's broken. The Humpty
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Speaker 1: Dumpty jumped off that wall his own self.
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Speaker 2: Right, And I understand that.
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Speaker 6: I just you know, I mean, this is a third
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Speaker 6: birthday that I'm not invited to and it hurts, right,
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Speaker 6: But you know what Amelia looks like.
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Speaker 1: Honey, Honey, listen to yourself. I know you said you're
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Speaker 1: going to counseling, but do you hear yourself. Yeah, you
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Speaker 1: are not listening to your counselor and letting go and
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Speaker 1: letting God put this together. You are frantically trying to
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Speaker 1: fix it. And the more you try to fix it,
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Speaker 1: the further away she is going to run. She has
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Speaker 1: set a boundary and said, Mom, leave me alone. I
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Speaker 1: don't want to be connected to you right now. And
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Speaker 1: instead of respecting that and saying okay, I love you,
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Speaker 1: I'm here, should you change your mind? You are grasping
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Speaker 1: at straws, and that is pushing her further and further
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Speaker 1: and further away because you're not getting the response you want.
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Speaker 1: You're becoming desperate. Okay, that's not going to help you, guys. Reconcile, right.
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Speaker 2: It just doesn't seem like she ever wants to.
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Speaker 1: But that's her right, that's her choice life itself. You
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Speaker 1: don't get to determine how she reacts or interacts with you.
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Speaker 1: That's that's way outside of your control.
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Speaker 4: Right.
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Speaker 1: Has she mentioned that you got some control issues?
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Speaker 2: No, not really. I know I probably do.
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Speaker 1: Learn this phrase. It saved my sanity and it might
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Speaker 1: save yours. Let go and let God. Let go of
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Speaker 1: the need to have the outcome be what you want
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Speaker 1: it to be, and let God work through everything. Let
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Speaker 1: go of the need to have your expectations meant, and
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Speaker 1: let God bring loving relationships into your life.
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Speaker 2: My husband, he's there for me all the time.
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Speaker 6: And you know, if I didn't have him, I don't
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Speaker 6: know where I'd be with God.
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Speaker 2: But I mean, you know.
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Speaker 1: Let go of the need to control the outcome of
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Speaker 1: this relationship with your daughter.
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Speaker 2: Okay, thank you.
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Speaker 1: And let God work through everything.
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Speaker 4: All right, thank you?
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Speaker 2: Because I need him to sift in my wife all
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Speaker 2: the time. He's even here listening to me at times.
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Speaker 1: It's so all the time. He will never leave you
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Speaker 1: nor forsake you, never ever, ever, ever, ever, Even if
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Speaker 1: our own flesh and blood turns their back on us,
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Speaker 1: God will never turn his back on you. And the
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Speaker 1: only one that's going to be able to heal your
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Speaker 1: daughter's heart from whatever has pushed her away is the
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Speaker 1: Almighty Right. So let him.
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Speaker 2: Okay, thank you so much.
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Speaker 1: God, bless you. I pray your family is healed, is reconciled,
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Speaker 1: that you guys are able to have a wonderful future.
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Speaker 1: But you're gonna have to just sit back, take your
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Speaker 1: hands off of this completely. Let Jesus take the wheel. Girlfriend.
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Speaker 1: Thank you, God bless you. This entire podcast is meant
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Speaker 1: to encourage you, to encourage you to put everything in
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Speaker 1: God's hands. He cares. He cares as much about the
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Speaker 1: small things as he does about big things. I know
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Speaker 1: it can be hard to trust, sometimes nearly impossible. And
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Speaker 1: it's not something you do once and it's done. It's
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Speaker 1: a process. You do it over and over and over.
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Speaker 1: It is so worth it. Thank you to my callers.
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Speaker 1: Bernadette James Crystal, and of course Diana. Your stories hopefully
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Speaker 1: will touch many other hearts. I will be back next
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Speaker 1: time with another f episode of Have a Little Faith.
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Speaker 1: Do Me a favor. Take some time out of these
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Speaker 1: beautiful autumn nights to slow down and love someone
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Speaker 6: Delight