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An Unlikely Affair: Sober Sex Doesn’t Have to Suck · Untraditionally Lala

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  Speaker 1: Hi Amber, Hi LEVELA. Welcome to an Unlikely Affair.
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  Speaker 2: Hey babes, Welcome back to an unlikely affair.
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  Speaker 1: Hey babe, Hey ams, Hey, what's up girl? What's up girl?
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  Speaker 1: How do you feel? How do you feel about the
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  Speaker 1: first episode that aired last week?
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  Speaker 3: Fantastic?
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  Speaker 4: I think we actually should. Have you ever watched the
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  Speaker 4: Ellen DeGeneres show.
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  Speaker 1: You know how she like, I don't live under that
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  Speaker 1: much of a rock.
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  Speaker 3: You know how she comes out and she starts dancing.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I feel like we should play like really good
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  Speaker 4: music at the top of each episode.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, like a banger, Yeah, like a real like yeah. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: We'll start with fifty fifty cent yeah. Oh my god,
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  Speaker 2: I'm the of the perfect mashup. It should start with
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  Speaker 2: Taylor Swift and I bet she'll only charges like five
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  Speaker 2: million dollars for this one line. Jah, the cati is
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  Speaker 2: sharp enough to kill a man. And then fifty beats
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  Speaker 2: fifties beat drops.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god, that'd be sick.
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  Speaker 2: Did you see my Instagram post that I did the
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  Speaker 2: like a a few weeks ago?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's so.
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  Speaker 4: Good now her listen. I like Taylor Swift is like
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  Speaker 4: a she.
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  Speaker 5: She knows how to write because we all are like this,
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  Speaker 5: she wrote my experience, yes, yes, right, yes, So this
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  Speaker 5: episode because we are a couple of weeks into the
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  Speaker 5: new year.
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  Speaker 2: And I want to talk about sex and dating because
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  Speaker 2: I think I've told you this, but this is the
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  Speaker 2: first time since I mean it's been probably four or
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  Speaker 2: five years where I have finally said to the universe,
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  Speaker 2: I am open to you bringing a man into my life.
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  Speaker 1: What.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I know. It's it was like a big and
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  Speaker 2: it felt like I was gonna vomit as I was
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  Speaker 2: saying that, And people have asked me and I almost
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  Speaker 2: like retreat because I'm like, oh, they see me. They're like,
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  Speaker 2: I feel like you have a wallup because you're afraid.
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  Speaker 2: And I'm like, I don't like that word because I'm
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  Speaker 2: not afraid of anything. But I'm like, oh, they definitely
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  Speaker 2: are calling me out on my shit. They're like psychoanalyzing
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  Speaker 2: me right now, Like I am afraid of so many things.
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  Speaker 2: I think I can finally admit that I definitely have
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  Speaker 2: abandonment issues for whatever reason PTSD.
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  Speaker 1: I have very little trust.
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  Speaker 2: In humanity as a whole, you know, so to be
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  Speaker 2: like I don't trust humans, but.
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  Speaker 3: Let me welcome this man.
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  Speaker 1: Into my life and come, you know, share a space
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  Speaker 1: with me.
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  Speaker 2: So to put that wall down and be like, this
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  Speaker 2: is you being afraid and you can still be an
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  Speaker 2: independent person because my biggest thing is like I cannot
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  Speaker 2: lose my independence. It's like, okay, so don't you can
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  Speaker 2: have two things at once.
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  Speaker 4: Maybe that's your fear, is losing your independence. It's not
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  Speaker 4: necessarily about trust, right, I mean, I'm sure like there
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  Speaker 4: is a lot of things that play right right, right,
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  Speaker 4: but that might be a bigger piece of the pie
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  Speaker 4: than you actually think.
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  Speaker 2: Well, yeah, when you go from being in a situation
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  Speaker 2: where you feel a little bit codependent in many areas
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  Speaker 2: and then you have to rise to the occasion and
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  Speaker 2: you gain all of this independence and you're like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: like I'm doing it. Oh my gosh, like chew, chew,
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  Speaker 2: We're fucking off to the races.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: I think my thing is how do you do it?
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  Speaker 4: You know, like, how do you have a relationship? How
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  Speaker 4: do you date? That was really scary figuring out how
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  Speaker 4: to date. I know there's a lot of I don't
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  Speaker 4: want to say rules, but like there's.
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  Speaker 3: A lot of rules.
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  Speaker 2: There's a lot of rules, I know, and it's very
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  Speaker 2: intense and I'm it's funny because I'm like, I don't
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  Speaker 2: like to play games. But then if I have a
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  Speaker 2: man who's like, I want to take you on a date.
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  Speaker 1: I want to do this, I'm like, oh, you're very available.
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  Speaker 1: Don't love that.
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  Speaker 2: But then the guy who's like he's you know, he's like,
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  Speaker 2: i'll call you later, and then he calls me back
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  Speaker 2: to after two days. I'm like, oh, I'm digging this,
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  Speaker 2: you know. Yeah, pit in my stomach. Yeah, that's so
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  Speaker 2: a familiar way.
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  Speaker 3: So do you like someone that takes the lead?
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  Speaker 4: Would you say you want someone who's like, Okay, I'm
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  Speaker 4: sending you a calendar invite for you know, February tenth, and.
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  Speaker 1: We're gonna go out.
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  Speaker 2: I couldn't even tell you what I'm into because there
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  Speaker 2: have been friends where they want to set me up
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  Speaker 2: and they're like, but what's what's your type? And I
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  Speaker 2: can tell you all day physically what I want, but
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  Speaker 2: they're like, right, like, what's your type of human person?
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  Speaker 1: And I'm like, I don't even know. I think when
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  Speaker 1: it enters my life, I'm just gonna know.
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  Speaker 4: That and from my experience and tell me.
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  Speaker 1: Because you're well rounded in.
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  Speaker 4: Dating, yes, remember I got married at twenty divorced at
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  Speaker 4: twenty seven, I think twenty seven, twenty eight. Then I
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  Speaker 4: was in another six year relationship after that. So then
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  Speaker 4: I woke up what almost three years ago.
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  Speaker 3: Something like that.
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  Speaker 4: It's crazy where the time goes. And I'm like, I'm
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  Speaker 4: a single mom, I have grown children, I have a career.
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  Speaker 3: How the hell do you date?
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  Speaker 4: Like, I really didn't know, and so I had to
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  Speaker 4: go back and actually learn. And when I first started dating,
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  Speaker 4: I hated it. I was like this is terrible, Like
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  Speaker 4: this is so exposed. And then I and then I
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  Speaker 4: got sober.
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  Speaker 1: Which is a whole different game.
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  Speaker 4: Then I'm like, okay, now I'm dating sober, I'm having
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  Speaker 4: sex sober.
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  Speaker 2: I turned into a squirter once I had sober sex. Sorry,
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  Speaker 2: it's true, that's how it happened.
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  Speaker 1: That's hot.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. And then I was like I got to start dating.
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  Speaker 4: And then I realized you date because you learn what
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  Speaker 4: you like and.
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  Speaker 3: What you don't.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, I like after.
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  Speaker 4: Every experience, whether it's four dates or six weeks or
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  Speaker 4: three months, now I have a list of like, oh,
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  Speaker 4: this is my non negotiables now, Like so I'm you
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  Speaker 4: learn about yourself and like my I'll never forget.
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  Speaker 1: I had a girlfriend who was like, I.
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  Speaker 4: Was like, I'm done dating, no more, I'm not doing it.
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  Speaker 4: She's like, Amber, you have to treat dating like a job.
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  Speaker 1: You just have to. You have to.
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  Speaker 4: It's a part time job. You have to put yourself
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  Speaker 4: out there. Do you want to find a man? Do
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  Speaker 4: you want to find a partner?
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  Speaker 3: Yes?
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  Speaker 4: Okay, Well guess what, sitting at home in your fucking robe,
• 6:15
  Speaker 4: in your bed at seven pm is awesome that it
• 6:19
  Speaker 4: sounds amazing. You're not gonna have the fine. I was like, Okay,
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  Speaker 4: I need to find someone that likes that lifestyle. But
• 6:25
  Speaker 4: she was right, and I'm still like I haven't. No,
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  Speaker 4: i haven't found my person yet. But I know very
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  Speaker 4: quickly now I see red flags now right, just like
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  Speaker 4: the guy that I was dating this past few months,
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  Speaker 4: I knew very quickly. I almost ignored the signs.
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  Speaker 1: No, you almost painted the red flags green.
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  Speaker 2: Yes.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: And then I was like, Nope, you're not going to
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  Speaker 4: abandon yourself this time. You're not doing it. And so
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  Speaker 4: I was like, Okay, one more try. We're gonna give
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  Speaker 4: this like one more, like, you know, throw them a bone.
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  Speaker 4: It was a bad day. And then I spent more
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  Speaker 4: and more time. I was like, oh, it's not a
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  Speaker 4: bad person, just not my guy, not your guy. And
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  Speaker 4: so I had to have the courage to say, okay,
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  Speaker 4: what is the language of, like, listen, you're a great guy,
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  Speaker 4: We're just not a match. And I had to realize
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  Speaker 4: I've gotten broken up with before and I was like
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  Speaker 4: in fetal position for three days and my kids are like,
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  Speaker 4: what's wrong with you?
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  Speaker 3: I'm like nothing. And then it's like I'm not going
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  Speaker 3: to be.
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  Speaker 4: For everyone and everyone's not going to be for me.
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  Speaker 3: And that's okay.
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  Speaker 4: That's a hard truth that I had to learn. And
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  Speaker 4: it's like okay, now now I'm like, bring it on,
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  Speaker 4: I'm ready.
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  Speaker 2: You know what. I went into twenty twenty six with
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  Speaker 2: that that mindset without even trying. It was like, even
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  Speaker 2: with friendships that have have dissolved, it's like, you're not
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  Speaker 2: a bad person.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not a bad person.
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  Speaker 2: Doesn't matter who's right or wrong, we're just not for
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  Speaker 2: each other anymore.
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  Speaker 1: There's real people wrong with it. Yeah, it's all good.
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  Speaker 4: Do you know what my favorite thing to do is now?
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  Speaker 4: When I'm dating, I love playing games. Those dating games
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  Speaker 4: you ask questions, Yeah, so fun.
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  Speaker 1: They're so fun.
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  Speaker 4: You get to know someone because you know, I get like, yeah,
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  Speaker 4: it's nice going to dinner. But sometimes you're like, I
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  Speaker 4: don't want to ask the same questions, or maybe we
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  Speaker 4: don't want to go to dinner. We just want to
• 8:13
  Speaker 4: hang out watch a movie, but we're not jumping into
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  Speaker 4: bed with each other, but we want to. I still
• 8:18
  Speaker 4: want to get to know them, right. There's like a
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  Speaker 4: couple of different games that I've ordered online and the
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  Speaker 4: games are amazing, and you really get to know someone.
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  Speaker 3: Oh I love this. Yes, yes, I'll send you the links.
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  Speaker 1: They're really good.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And I also feel like there have been so.
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  Speaker 2: Many times where I think about dating and I think
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  Speaker 2: of all of the reasons why it won't work. I'm like, well,
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  Speaker 2: ocean sleeps in my bed, and I can't do this
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  Speaker 2: because this is going to happen and I need to be.
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  Speaker 1: Focused on this and not that.
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  Speaker 2: And for the first time again without even trying, it's
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  Speaker 2: just like it just happened, where it's like we don't
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  Speaker 2: need to think about those things.
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  Speaker 1: No, just go out and meet someone and like let
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  Speaker 1: it go where it goes.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, you have to say to yourself, I give I
• 9:00
  Speaker 4: give myself permission to love and to be loved.
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  Speaker 1: I did that, you did.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. I literally went outside and I was like, all
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  Speaker 2: of these things that I'm feeling, I need to like
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  Speaker 2: speak it out loud to the universe that I am
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  Speaker 2: open to all of these things, Yeah, coming into my life.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and it will happen.
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  Speaker 4: Watch Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And I just feel so calm and chill, and I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: I know what needs to be done. I'm not panicked
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  Speaker 2: about anything. I was like, there's no conversation that's too
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  Speaker 2: difficult for me to have, there's no roadblock that I
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  Speaker 2: haven't faced before.
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  Speaker 1: Bring it the fuck on. How do you.
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  Speaker 4: Feel about dating someone sober versus not sober?
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  Speaker 2: So I've dated a few people being sober, and I've
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  Speaker 2: also had, like I've gone on this journey of just
• 9:55
  Speaker 2: sleeping with people and having a really, really firm boundary.
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  Speaker 1: Of I can't.
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  Speaker 2: I had an nothing to give you except for this.
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  Speaker 2: So I haven't dated someone since before I conceived Sosa,
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  Speaker 2: you know, because you have to remember she was a
• 10:12
  Speaker 2: well thought out human being coming into the world, and
• 10:15
  Speaker 2: then I was pregnant and then a year postpartum. So
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  Speaker 2: the past few months it has strictly been just.
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  Speaker 1: Sleeping with people.
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  Speaker 2: So the difference with dating someone sober, I'm very in
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  Speaker 2: tune with what they're saying and how they're saying it.
• 10:35
  Speaker 2: At the beginning, the first time I slept with anybody,
• 10:39
  Speaker 2: the intention was to have a one night stand, and
• 10:41
  Speaker 2: we ended up dating each other, and I thought he
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  Speaker 2: was so wonderful and sexy and I have so much
• 10:47
  Speaker 2: love for him. Still, I feel like he revived my soul.
• 10:50
  Speaker 2: I don't know who this was, and we still the dawn.
• 10:53
  Speaker 2: I mean they was captured on vander pump Roules, like
• 10:56
  Speaker 2: I met him on vander pump Roles. Oh so crazy,
• 11:01
  Speaker 2: and literally the intent was like get la La laid
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  Speaker 2: and it was the first time that I had had
• 11:08
  Speaker 2: sober sex.
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  Speaker 1: We ended up keeping in touch, and like.
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  Speaker 2: I think, had the timing been different, he would he
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  Speaker 2: could have very well been my person, but he was
• 11:17
  Speaker 2: in chaos. I was still in chaos, and the timing.
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  Speaker 1: Was just off. I will say now.
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  Speaker 2: I can't imagine being fucked up and dating someone and
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  Speaker 2: sleeping with them because I know how that ends. It's
• 11:32
  Speaker 2: used to calm my gut and silence my mind, and
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  Speaker 2: I just can't have that. I need to be aware
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  Speaker 2: of everything you're saying. The stakes are so much higher.
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  Speaker 2: I have two little girls, I have a career. I like,
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  Speaker 2: my life is exactly how I told God in the universe.
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  Speaker 2: I wanted it to be structured. It is that so
• 11:51
  Speaker 2: to think about dating intoxicated because I can't just have
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  Speaker 2: one bad move.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah move, like signed my life over to them. Yeah,
• 12:01
  Speaker 1: so I get attached.
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  Speaker 3: I will never forget the last time.
• 12:16
  Speaker 4: I had sex with someone and I was drunk and
• 12:22
  Speaker 4: on weed gummies. That was literally the catalyst that brought
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  Speaker 4: me into the rooms because I woke up and I
• 12:29
  Speaker 4: was like, who are you? Oh, I know who he was,
• 12:34
  Speaker 4: but I was like, this feeling is like so empty,
• 12:41
  Speaker 4: and like I feel like like an empty human being.
• 12:45
  Speaker 1: It was so bizarre.
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  Speaker 4: Also, like literally we started the night out with pizza,
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  Speaker 4: then we went to cold then we had cold Stone delivered.
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  Speaker 5: Then it was a bottle Creamy Lady over here, a
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  Speaker 5: bottle of wine.
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  Speaker 4: By myself, by the way, bottle wine. Then he came
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  Speaker 4: out and I was like, oh, have you ever tried
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  Speaker 4: apple weed gummies?
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  Speaker 1: I was like, that sounds fun. No, yeah, that's exactly
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  Speaker 1: what I said, So that sounds fun.
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  Speaker 4: And then all of those four things like put together gas.
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  Speaker 3: You're like, I'm gonna live the realm, your legs.
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  Speaker 2: Behind your head.
• 13:26
  Speaker 4: You know, maybe the acid balanced out the milk. I'm
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  Speaker 4: not quite sure. Listen, I loved acid to no, no, no,
• 13:33
  Speaker 4: the acid, the acid in the wine. Oh no, I've
• 13:37
  Speaker 4: never done acid. I've never done acid. But anyways, that
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  Speaker 4: that's what brought me into the rooms.
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  Speaker 3: And I don't First of all, I.
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  Speaker 4: Don't remember having sex. Okay, who knows what happened that night.
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  Speaker 4: You probably ate his ass whole. That happens to me
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  Speaker 4: every time.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know how, but for some reason, I'm gonna
• 13:55
  Speaker 2: end up down there and I'm like, what's happening? Oh?
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  Speaker 1: Poor, poor poor who blank blank?
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  Speaker 2: You know.
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  Speaker 4: My favorite thing, favorite thing is is to actually like
• 14:08
  Speaker 4: find really fun names for the guys so they don't
• 14:10
  Speaker 4: have no one knows who I'm talking about. Right, Yeah,
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  Speaker 4: that's like the best. It's like code language. Anyways, we
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  Speaker 4: should do that.
• 14:21
  Speaker 1: We should do that, and we'll have it on the
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  Speaker 1: wall so we remember.
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  Speaker 3: Back to having sex.
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  Speaker 1: Sober sex can be so good.
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  Speaker 4: Once you get over the hump of like the you're
• 14:33
  Speaker 4: like being comfortable totally.
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  Speaker 1: It's so good.
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  Speaker 3: And then you could listen to your body, like I
• 14:38
  Speaker 3: literally do a check in, like, okay, how are you
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  Speaker 3: feeling right now?
• 14:41
  Speaker 4: Remember, okay, how does this? How do I feel lying
• 14:43
  Speaker 4: next to this person?
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  Speaker 1: Right? Because you don't, I'll go straight to my head. Right.
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  Speaker 4: If I listen to my body, my body is gonna
• 14:50
  Speaker 4: tell me exactly what's going on. Like you feel safe,
• 14:53
  Speaker 4: this person is actually like not good for your nervous system.
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  Speaker 1: You feel dysregulated, you feel whatever it is, like it's right, no,
• 15:01
  Speaker 1: I've lost No. Sober sex is great.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, And the other part of it is like, and
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  Speaker 2: I don't know how this is for you.
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  Speaker 1: Some women are.
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  Speaker 2: Blessed with having a G spot inside the cookie I do.
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  Speaker 1: Oh you're so lucky. Yeah, we have to talk two.
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  Speaker 2: It takes a lot to get me to like get
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  Speaker 2: there really. Oh yeah, yeah, everything has to be working
• 15:26
  Speaker 2: at once. I have to be very comfortable with you,
• 15:29
  Speaker 2: and you also have to know what you're doing. And
• 15:31
  Speaker 2: there's like a rhythm that you if one thing is off.
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  Speaker 1: Like good for you, but like it didn't happen for me.
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  Speaker 3: Oh you know.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, So.
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  Speaker 2: Being sober during sex, I now know that, like I
• 15:48
  Speaker 2: don't need to fake it, Like this is also supposed
• 15:50
  Speaker 2: to be enjoyable for me, so I know exactly what
• 15:54
  Speaker 2: needs to happen in those moments to make all parties happy,
• 16:00
  Speaker 2: which didn't even occur to me when I was drinking.
• 16:03
  Speaker 2: It was all about the other person and chaotic and
• 16:06
  Speaker 2: I vaguely remember a lot of things, but it's a
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  Speaker 2: lot of hair and dick and vaginas and assholes.
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  Speaker 3: Like truthfully, oh my gosh, I can't It.
• 16:16
  Speaker 1: Was very, very fun. I'm so fun. I'm just now,
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  Speaker 1: like I know, when.
• 16:20
  Speaker 3: Things feel yucky, I'll never forget.
• 16:24
  Speaker 4: Towards the end, Yeah, begging me to bring another woman in,
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  Speaker 4: begging and I.
• 16:29
  Speaker 1: Was like, no, have you had a threesome before?
• 16:33
  Speaker 4: No, I can't do it now I'm sober. No, you
• 16:38
  Speaker 4: can't do it now for sure.
• 16:39
  Speaker 3: I don't know if I would like it.
• 16:41
  Speaker 2: And you couldn't have feelings for the person. It would
• 16:44
  Speaker 2: have to be strictly like. The only times I've had
• 16:46
  Speaker 2: threesomes are with men that I have no attachment to.
• 16:52
  Speaker 4: Oh, and obviously chicks. What do you think about husbands
• 16:57
  Speaker 4: that want to sit in the corner and watch their
• 17:00
  Speaker 4: wives get banged by another guy.
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: Here's the thing, my judgmental mind wants to go.
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: To your dark and.
• 17:08
  Speaker 2: Disgusting m hmm, okay, but then I have to remove myself.
• 17:14
  Speaker 2: And if all parties are consenting adults, then like, what's
• 17:18
  Speaker 2: wrong with that? Do you have something amiss?
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: Maybe? But you're not my person. I don't have to
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: deal with you.
• 17:23
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 17:24
  Speaker 1: So if you and your wife that's your thing and.
• 17:26
  Speaker 2: She's cool with it, and the guy who's banging your
• 17:28
  Speaker 2: wife is cool with you watching, then like, by all means,
• 17:30
  Speaker 2: go for it. But like you and I don't have
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: anything in common.
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I don't even watch.
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: Like the porn I watch is so basic and I
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: know I'm not addicted because I literally fast.
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: Forward to like where it gets good.
• 17:41
  Speaker 2: I'm like, I don't need the four play Let's just
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: get to the fucking point in and out four minutes.
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I got kids to take care of.
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: Banging on the door, Mom, I'm like, you're really killing
• 17:51
  Speaker 2: the vibes.
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: I'm like, mom's taking Wait does yours go underwater? No?
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: I just the water. Don't tell anyone. I leave the
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: water running.
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: But I figure there are people who don't bathe, so
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: I'm just baiting for them.
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: I've bought a house full of moms. Ye, child, I
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: could really be a vibe killer.
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah, me and my vagina are like what, that's why
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: you want.
• 18:17
  Speaker 4: That's why you need an office.
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, what is one thing in twenty twenty
• 18:29
  Speaker 2: six that's in for you and out for you.
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: When it comes to dating.
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: Ooh you said you have like a list of non negotiables.
• 18:36
  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I heard.
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: I did.
• 18:37
  Speaker 4: Well, I'm gonna say ins and out.
• 18:40
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 18:43
  Speaker 4: Okay, Well we already kind of like touch base on
• 18:47
  Speaker 4: like emotional safety, but consistent actions like be consistent if
• 18:55
  Speaker 4: you're consistent with the things that you say and you do,
• 18:58
  Speaker 4: and you like you'll say like Okay, you know, it
• 19:01
  Speaker 4: would be really nice to go to this place, or
• 19:05
  Speaker 4: I want to go try this restaurant, or I really
• 19:06
  Speaker 4: would love Oh there's a new hike. I want to
• 19:08
  Speaker 4: take you on the seke like I want a follow
• 19:11
  Speaker 4: through Like that is so sexy to me. Yeah, takes
• 19:18
  Speaker 4: responsibility and apologizes. I really need someone who can communicate
• 19:23
  Speaker 4: and say, like, you know what, let me say that differently.
• 19:27
  Speaker 3: That just totally came out like the wrong way, right.
• 19:31
  Speaker 4: I need that emotional intelligence to be able to like
• 19:34
  Speaker 4: get through issues well if.
• 19:36
  Speaker 2: They can't do that, then you're dealing with someone who's
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: slightly narcissistic.
• 19:40
  Speaker 4: But a lot of people can't. A lot of people
• 19:43
  Speaker 4: can't do that. It's really hard to apologize for some people.
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: It's my favorite thing to do. Really, Yeah, I want
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: to move on, huh, let it go.
• 19:52
  Speaker 3: And I think the most one of the other things
• 19:55
  Speaker 3: that I put was.
• 19:57
  Speaker 4: Understand that, like my my family comes first, my girls
• 20:02
  Speaker 4: come come first, and like I am a package deal,
• 20:05
  Speaker 4: Like you're not going to just get like seventy five percent,
• 20:09
  Speaker 4: like you're getting all of Amber and everything that she
• 20:12
  Speaker 4: comes with. I don't need anyone to take care of
• 20:14
  Speaker 4: my children, but you have to know how important because
• 20:18
  Speaker 4: I'm still raising them.
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: My kids aren't older.
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: Like they're and by the way, even when they turn eighteen,
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: it's a whole different setting.
• 20:24
  Speaker 3: It's not over and it's never over, never over.
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: So uh.
• 20:31
  Speaker 4: And someone that encourages my career, that's a big one.
• 20:34
  Speaker 4: Like anytime I sit down with someone that's not that
• 20:36
  Speaker 4: I'm not dating in the industry, because I'm not dating
• 20:38
  Speaker 4: anyone in the industry.
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: I told her she can't.
• 20:41
  Speaker 4: I say, like, you know, like when they ask me,
• 20:45
  Speaker 4: what do I do I'm like, oh, I'm an actor,
• 20:47
  Speaker 4: Like I really want to be like you, like like
• 20:50
  Speaker 4: I'm I'm an actor, just so you know, like I
• 20:53
  Speaker 4: have to really let them know because it's like a
• 20:55
  Speaker 4: different This is like a different beast. This is not
• 20:58
  Speaker 4: like a I work a nine five and I'm a
• 21:01
  Speaker 4: plate's instructor and whatever. This is like my job entails
• 21:06
  Speaker 4: a lot of me wearing my emotions on my sleeve, right,
• 21:09
  Speaker 4: being gone for long periods of time. There's a lot
• 21:13
  Speaker 4: of trust, a lot of communication. So again, like my
• 21:16
  Speaker 4: family and my career and my sobriety really goes sobriety,
• 21:21
  Speaker 4: family and career always come first, right, So yeah, I
• 21:25
  Speaker 4: mean literally my list is I put at the end,
• 21:29
  Speaker 4: I do not chase. I do not settle. That's a
• 21:32
  Speaker 4: big one. Do not settle. And I choose a partner
• 21:34
  Speaker 4: who meets me where I am growing grounded and continuing
• 21:38
  Speaker 4: to be real.
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: I love it.
• 21:49
  Speaker 3: What about you?
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: You know, I'm news to this, so I'm not entirely sure.
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: But I did have a conversation with someone who I've
• 21:57
  Speaker 2: been talking to and it's very casual and I enjoy
• 22:03
  Speaker 2: his conversation, and honestly, it was just about consistency is
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: big for me.
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: Also, I love quality time with somebody.
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: You know, I'm not someone who needs extravagant things. I
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: don't need to go out to nice dinners. I don't
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: need to have you shower me with gifts or send
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: me flowers. It actually literally does nothing for me. And
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: I guess I could fixate on the part of, oh,
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: they're thinking about me enough to do this, but my
• 22:37
  Speaker 2: mind just doesn't go there. Anyone who will take time
• 22:41
  Speaker 2: to like be with me, call me, send me messages
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: like those are things that I crave. I just crave
• 22:48
  Speaker 2: consistency and honesty. Yeah that is and it sounds like
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: the bare minimum, but those are actually the hardest things
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: for people to.
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: Give to you. You know, it's very easy.
• 23:00
  Speaker 4: To well, we know that, we know that on a
• 23:02
  Speaker 4: personal level, it's easy just to throw a gift at
• 23:04
  Speaker 4: someone and say, like, you know it. But that's not
• 23:09
  Speaker 4: that's a quick fix.
• 23:11
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and it doesn't. It just doesn't do for me
• 23:14
  Speaker 2: maybe what it used to do. I'm going to know
• 23:18
  Speaker 2: what I want and don't want when it's around me.
• 23:22
  Speaker 2: And when I did start dating, I noticed that I
• 23:26
  Speaker 2: was attracting men who were kind of similar, very sexy
• 23:33
  Speaker 2: but similar in trait to what I had dealt with
• 23:36
  Speaker 2: in my past.
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: And that's when I knew we we have to like.
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: Press pause on the dating aspect of things, because.
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: You are just not mentally there.
• 23:46
  Speaker 4: Well, that felt safe that because it felt familiar.
• 23:50
  Speaker 2: Well, amber, that's a real freaking problem when someone's trying
• 23:53
  Speaker 2: to be sweet and cute and intimate with me and
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: it feels awkward, and then when they choose to pick
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: a five or things get chaotic that I thrive in conflict.
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: It was like, Oh, this is something we really need
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: to look into. There's also the aspect of I've noticed
• 24:09
  Speaker 2: with men who have come into my life over the
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: past few years they either are a little too camera
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: hungry or they want nothing to do with it, And
• 24:17
  Speaker 2: that's a very fine line. You also have to know
• 24:20
  Speaker 2: that we can have a personal life, but to some
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: degree privacy is going to become a bit non existent
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: because this is my life and this is how I
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: afford the wonderful things that I have and I get
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: to do. It's how I'm able to send my kids
• 24:40
  Speaker 2: to school and.
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: Provide for them.
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: So if you can't look at it from that lens,
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: then I'm not the girl for you, because there may
• 24:49
  Speaker 2: be a time where we get into it and I'm
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: filming a show and I'm going to have to talk
• 24:53
  Speaker 2: about my life and the moment that I stop doing that,
• 24:56
  Speaker 2: they're going to pry and pry and pry until you
• 24:59
  Speaker 2: run away, right, And I'm not.
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: Sticks are too high now.
• 25:04
  Speaker 4: But that's a livelihood that takes someone who's really grounded
• 25:08
  Speaker 4: and secure. Yeah, So like that those are something that
• 25:11
  Speaker 4: like I would highly suggest, like asking does this person
• 25:14
  Speaker 4: feel really grounded in who they are right and are
• 25:17
  Speaker 4: they secure?
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: Because there's a lot of haters.
• 25:20
  Speaker 4: There's gonna be a lot of shit talkers. Yeah, and
• 25:22
  Speaker 4: they have say you know what, I'm not even like
• 25:24
  Speaker 4: paying attention, Like I don't receive that message like whatever
• 25:27
  Speaker 4: that person negative negative energy or whatever they're saying about
• 25:30
  Speaker 4: me online or on TV or whatever.
• 25:31
  Speaker 3: It's like, no, I'm good.
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I also think that they're there could be and
• 25:37
  Speaker 2: I'm trying not I'm for the sake of conversation on
• 25:39
  Speaker 2: the pod. I'll mention that I do think about this
• 25:42
  Speaker 2: at times, but honestly, like I said earlier, like going
• 25:45
  Speaker 2: into this year, there's just things where I'm like, I
• 25:48
  Speaker 2: don't need to plan.
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: Let's just meet someone and just see where it goes.
• 25:52
  Speaker 4: Just don't look bad person, and don't give me crazy
• 25:54
  Speaker 4: shit to have to like say like red flag.
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you go out into this streets and you slip
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: up and you cheat. We're breaking up.
• 26:02
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna say that you fucking cheated, But it ends
• 26:03
  Speaker 2: with dad. Yeah, don't be a monster.
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: And the blessing is I'm not gonna have kids with you,
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: So if you fuck up, I'm done with you. Bye. Yeah.
• 26:11
  Speaker 3: Oh but no more else what no more kids with someone?
• 26:15
  Speaker 2: Well, that's another thing that I gave to the universe
• 26:16
  Speaker 2: is I'm like, you know, I'm not gonna say that
• 26:19
  Speaker 2: I would never have kids with someone because I don't know.
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: I never thought that one of my babies would be
• 26:23
  Speaker 2: born via sperm donor.
• 26:24
  Speaker 4: I had my life.
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: If you want to tell me that in my twenties,
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: I would have laughed at you.
• 26:28
  Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, Like on what.
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: Planet would I have to go do that? And it's
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: like right, yeah, no, that's how closed minded and ignorant
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: I was. Getting a sperm donors for people who can't
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: find a man. You're a fucking idiot. It's entirely not true.
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: Same sex couples get sperm donors all the time. People
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: who don't want to deal with a man.
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I had never thought like I just my eyes
• 26:54
  Speaker 2: have been opened to many things. I never thought i'd
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: be in the situation with Ocean, being a single mom
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: and being in a custody batter.
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: Never thought I would be seeking a sperm donor.
• 27:03
  Speaker 2: Never in my wildest dreams did I think that my
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: household would consist of.
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: My mom and my brother.
• 27:08
  Speaker 2: And never in my wildest dreams did I think I'd
• 27:11
  Speaker 2: be on reality TV and going out and saying, Wow,
• 27:14
  Speaker 2: I am able at thirty five to own two houses
• 27:17
  Speaker 2: by myself.
• 27:18
  Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, But think about that, Oh my gosh,
• 27:21
  Speaker 4: that like life is just gonna like happen the way
• 27:25
  Speaker 4: it's supposed to know.
• 27:26
  Speaker 3: I so like, I totally see you with a boy.
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: I think you would.
• 27:31
  Speaker 4: Crush having a son, you'd kate you, guys.
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: My daughter, Ocean, has been begging me for a brother,
• 27:40
  Speaker 2: and I told her, I was like, you know, if
• 27:41
  Speaker 2: mommy has another baby, like we don't, I don't get
• 27:43
  Speaker 2: to choose if it's a boy or a girl.
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: You know, Sosa came and she just happened to be
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: a girl.
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: The next morning, she wakes up and she says, Mommy,
• 27:50
  Speaker 2: I had the best dream. I had a dream that
• 27:53
  Speaker 2: you were pregnant again and you gave me a little brother,
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: and we all lived together and all of us were
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: really there for each other. And I about died.
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: Oh. I was like, who are you? Where did you
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: come from?
• 28:10
  Speaker 2: Do you know? My biggest thing right now is teaching
• 28:12
  Speaker 2: her like Sosa is your best friend. There are gonna
• 28:14
  Speaker 2: be times that you fight, but when people in this
• 28:16
  Speaker 2: world are mean to you, she's gonna be your safe
• 28:18
  Speaker 2: space and you're gonna be her safe space.
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: You have to protect each other at all costs.
• 28:22
  Speaker 2: So for her to say we were really there for
• 28:24
  Speaker 2: each other, I'm like, oh my gosh.
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: Maybe you know.
• 28:28
  Speaker 2: Chris Medina said he does see me having a baby
• 28:30
  Speaker 2: with a man.
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: So I'm like, again, I threw it to the universe.
• 28:35
  Speaker 4: And I did the same thing. I said the same thing.
• 28:36
  Speaker 4: I was like, I'm not having any more kids.
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: I'm done.
• 28:38
  Speaker 4: I have my kids are twelve and almost sixteen, Like
• 28:42
  Speaker 4: I'm done. But then I was like, wait, that's old behavior.
• 28:46
  Speaker 4: Just like you know what, just give it, give it
• 28:48
  Speaker 4: to the universe. Whatever happens. Yeah, like I look at
• 28:51
  Speaker 4: Jen Meyer who's having a baby, and she's forty eight
• 28:53
  Speaker 4: years old, and I'm like.
• 28:55
  Speaker 3: Fuck yeah, great's she really inspired me?
• 28:58
  Speaker 4: Like she looks stunning and beautiful and happy and in
• 29:01
  Speaker 4: love and like she's glowing. And I'm like, wait, why
• 29:04
  Speaker 4: are you putting like a And she has two kids,
• 29:07
  Speaker 4: older kids, right, and like why are you putting a?
• 29:09
  Speaker 4: Like why does it have to be a yes or no?
• 29:11
  Speaker 4: If it if it's meant to happen, it's gonna happen.
• 29:14
  Speaker 5: No.
• 29:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah, my higher power has placed me exactly where, like
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: the stuff, the stars were aligned the moment I entered
• 29:21
  Speaker 2: this world, My journey was already said, like.
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: I have no freaking say.
• 29:25
  Speaker 2: I am here and there's gonna be road bumps, and
• 29:28
  Speaker 2: I know that if.
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: Something is a fight, I'm like, okay, this is God.
• 29:32
  Speaker 2: And by the way, if I keep fighting, I'm gonna
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: get what I want and it's gonna be wrong for me.
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: So just take this as a fucking sign. Yeah you know. Yeah,
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: I love a good psychic.
• 29:42
  Speaker 4: By the way, we need to. I want a psychic
• 29:43
  Speaker 4: on the show.
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: Let's bring Medina on. I really love for him to
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: read me.
• 29:46
  Speaker 2: Let me tell you something very quickly before we wrap
• 29:48
  Speaker 2: it up. There is a vanity aspect of having a third,
• 29:52
  Speaker 2: of course, and I'm okay to admit this. I love
• 29:55
  Speaker 2: being pregnant. It's like my most favorite thing, so I
• 29:57
  Speaker 2: want to experience it again.
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: But since my.
• 30:00
  Speaker 2: Second baby, I've looked at your body. Your body does
• 30:02
  Speaker 2: not look like my stomach. Depending on how I move,
• 30:06
  Speaker 2: it's a little creepy my stomach. And I don't want
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: anyone to be like, oh, shut the fuck up. I'm
• 30:12
  Speaker 2: being vulnerable right now. No matter who you are, what
• 30:15
  Speaker 2: you look like, we all sit here and look at
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: ourselves and go, I don't love this.
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: I'm telling you my stomach, I just I get nervous.
• 30:27
  Speaker 2: The third we're gonna have a real We're gonna have
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: a real granny issue happening.
• 30:30
  Speaker 4: No, okay, first of all, that's not true. I've seen
• 30:34
  Speaker 4: your naked body. We've been through this in the first episode.
• 30:38
  Speaker 4: You're beautiful and if you don't like the way you look,
• 30:42
  Speaker 4: you could change it. Yeah, that are you exercising.
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: I've been really bad the past, people so very bad.
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: I look like the Grinch, you know, he has like a.
• 30:52
  Speaker 2: Little ass with a pot belly and like little little boobs.
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: I did inquire about a boob job. She's calling me today.
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: I'm very excit. I did about that for you too.
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: I come in next next episode, I'm gonna have fucking knockers.
• 31:04
  Speaker 4: Bro, you're gonna have to move the mic back four
• 31:08
  Speaker 4: inches or maybe four feet.
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: Right, listen, you get your boobs done.
• 31:13
  Speaker 3: I want a BBL.
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: Well, if you're getting a BBL, soul am I.
• 31:17
  Speaker 4: I'm dying for I just don't want to do any
• 31:19
  Speaker 4: more squads.
• 31:20
  Speaker 3: I hate leg days.
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: I do too.
• 31:22
  Speaker 3: They're the worst.
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: And by the way, I work so hard to get it, perky,
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: I missed one week and I'm like.
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: She's back to this. Why am I putting in so
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: much work?
• 31:29
  Speaker 3: Yes, yes, I think a little BBL.
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: It's the most dangerous surgery you can get, is it?
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: You can die? Yeah, it's really dangerous. I'm willing to
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: take the risk.
• 31:43
  Speaker 4: I mean, I just want like three four inches same
• 31:47
  Speaker 4: like Seriously, that makes a big difference.
• 31:49
  Speaker 2: I'm trying to actually live like Cardi b But that's fine.
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: It's hot, she's fucking banging.
• 31:54
  Speaker 3: She's hot.
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: I want to have to use your customed made Oh no,
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: that's annoying because my my thigh to ass to Torso Ratio,
• 32:05
  Speaker 2: is that wild.
• 32:09
  Speaker 4: Let's do this after you have the third baby, because
• 32:11
  Speaker 4: you are gonna have another baby.
• 32:13
  Speaker 1: Really, you see that in my future?
• 32:14
  Speaker 2: I do all right, I really do think it's a boy.
• 32:16
  Speaker 2: I do all right, you know what, giving it to
• 32:19
  Speaker 2: the universe. Yeah, and maybe we just have it together. Well,
• 32:21
  Speaker 2: don't tup me with a good time.
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: No, I really like I would sope you down for them.
• 32:25
  Speaker 2: Remember if I did that with you, we would really
• 32:27
  Speaker 2: be we would exile men for sure.
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: That's a real problem.
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: We're talking about how we're open. We have a baby together.
• 32:34
  Speaker 2: I do paint me lesbonic. Okay, I'm never going back.
• 32:40
  Speaker 2: Scary out there.
• 32:42
  Speaker 3: It is scary out there.
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: I see some of the men that my friends end
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: up with, and I'm like that this is what's out there. No,
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: You're like, sure, I'll marry you.
• 32:50
  Speaker 4: I was like, No, I said, I'm gonna move to Montana.
• 32:54
  Speaker 4: And I did sa ionna find myself like a cool cowboy,
• 32:57
  Speaker 4: not like just just just a very liberal cowboy. Yes, yes,
• 33:03
  Speaker 4: And I get out there, and first of all, they
• 33:06
  Speaker 4: call Bozeman Montana. Yeah, Bo's angelis because everyone from La
• 33:11
  Speaker 4: is moving to Bozeman, okay, which is like, fine, I
• 33:13
  Speaker 4: have nothing against that, but the men on the dating apps.
• 33:17
  Speaker 4: Before I deleted my hinge, it was like, if I
• 33:22
  Speaker 4: see another fricking guy holding a dead fish like like this,
• 33:30
  Speaker 4: or a pair of antlers like this, that's what I
• 33:33
  Speaker 4: was like, the dude, that's that's terrible.
• 33:37
  Speaker 3: Like, if that's what you like to do, fine, okay,
• 33:39
  Speaker 3: I'm not going to judge you.
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: I'm judging. I don't.
• 33:41
  Speaker 3: I don't want to see it. That tells me nothing
• 33:44
  Speaker 3: about you.
• 33:45
  Speaker 4: That tells me that you know how to shoot a
• 33:46
  Speaker 4: gun and you know how to catch a fucking fish. Okay,
• 33:48
  Speaker 4: And so does my twelve year old daughter, Like it's
• 33:52
  Speaker 4: so bad.
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: It's so it's so excary.
• 33:54
  Speaker 4: And that's why I was like, dude, I'm done. I'm
• 33:56
  Speaker 4: not I'm done with dating apps.
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: I'm done. Yeah, it's it's.
• 34:00
  Speaker 3: A wh you know what I wanted to do.
• 34:01
  Speaker 4: I wanted to start a business to help guys with
• 34:04
  Speaker 4: their profiles.
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: It's actually fucking genius, yes.
• 34:09
  Speaker 4: Because there's so many guys that I've I've actually gone
• 34:12
  Speaker 4: on date dates with that I'm like, I just give
• 34:14
  Speaker 4: him a try, Like, just give him a try and
• 34:17
  Speaker 4: I'm oh, you're so much cuter in person, like your
• 34:19
  Speaker 4: your photos are not great. Guys don't know how to
• 34:21
  Speaker 4: do photos, and I don't want to see a selfie.
• 34:23
  Speaker 2: At selfie, I get it because I am the worst
• 34:27
  Speaker 2: at taking photos. I mean and no, truly, you got
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: to take a lot for me to find one that
• 34:32
  Speaker 2: I like.
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: Like a lot. Okay, truthfully, I'm not kidding.
• 34:37
  Speaker 2: And maybe it's because I'm looking at myself and I'm
• 34:39
  Speaker 2: weird about the nose tilt and I'm also getting a
• 34:41
  Speaker 2: jaw line this year too.
• 34:47
  Speaker 4: Yeah, you're gonna make one plastic surgeon real happy.
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: Yeah, getting in there.
• 34:53
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I can't the next time we see you're feeling wrapped.
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: Yeah, insert needles and dicks here. That's all I care about. Yeah,
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: but I'm open to a relationship here me God anyway, Oh,
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: this is a fun episode. I had.
• 35:12
  Speaker 2: I had little bullet points. But you and I are
• 35:14
  Speaker 2: good at tangentine. Yeah, my most favorite thing to do.
• 35:17
  Speaker 2: You want to sign us off?
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: Oh?
• 35:19
  Speaker 4: Oh okay, all right, well I don't even know what
• 35:22
  Speaker 4: to say, but let's do it.
• 35:23
  Speaker 3: Okay, guys, thank you everyone for joining in to an
• 35:25
  Speaker 3: unlikely affair.
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: Thank you, La La Thank you.
• 35:28
  Speaker 3: It's been a real pleasure.
• 35:29
  Speaker 4: It's been a real pleasure. Pleasure is that all I'm
• 35:34
  Speaker 4: supposed to say.
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: We'll catch you guys next week.
• 35:36
  Speaker 3: Bye bye,