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Be Your Own Cheerleader · Natty Unfiltered

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  Welcome back to Nadian Filtered Podcast. The space where
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  you get real about identity, confidence and rediscovering
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  yourself beyond motherhood.
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  Now in this episode, I want to talk about
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  you being your own cheerleader.
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  Yes. If you're waiting for someone else to believe
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  in you before you move forward, this episode
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  is your wake up call. Why do
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  you always feel that external
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  validation feels so necessary? I think
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  that most of us have that in us.
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  There's some who don't really give
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  a damn what people are going to think. They going to do what they
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  want to do, they're going to wear what they want to wear, they're going to
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  live their life the way they want to live. But a
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  lot of us, we seek that external validation
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  and a lot of times it hurts us because we
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  are not moving forward with our lives because we're so
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  consumed by what other people think.
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  And a lot of successful people,
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  they've done what they think, feel they wanted
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  to do not. They didn't sit around and waited
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  for somebody to cheer them on and to tell them all the good stuff
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  about themselves in order for them to start
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  their business, be on social media.
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  They just went ahead and did it and maybe they started
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  being scared, but then something clicked and they just,
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  you know, I'm just going to go do it. And they became
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  successful and they built a community of like minded
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  people, a community of women, a community
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  of moms who support them
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  every step of the way. They became the inspiration
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  for other moms, of what is possible.
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  They became inspiration for other women who
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  are about to become moms or new moms.
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  And that's, I feel that this is what life
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  is about. It's being a better version of yourself,
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  of being your own cheerleader, of being
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  successful in what you're doing
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  and inspiring others to do the same,
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  to show others what is possible
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  without blockages, without someone else's
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  approval, without somebody else's opinion.
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  As women and especially as moms, we're conditioned to
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  look outward for reassurance. We want the likes,
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  the comments, the encouragement, the you're doing great texts
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  and when they don't come, then doubt creeps
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  in fast. Oh boy. I mean, I can relate to that. Whenever you
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  put like content out there and
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  I know that for quite some time I'm not getting as
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  many likes or the comments. Oh my gosh,
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  there are so many thoughts are going in my head of why
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  this is happening, why people don't like me, what is wrong with this content?
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  Am I not pretty enough and do I
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  not sound right? Why is somebody else
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  is getting more likes and their content is
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  not, is not that great? I mean, there's so many things
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  that I know that for me have gone through my head,
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  but at some point you just kind of start
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  to tune that out and you focus on yourself
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  and you focus on how I can better
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  myself and you know, supporting other
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  moms and in return you'll get that support.
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  So when you want something good for others, the good comes back to you and
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  you have to realize that. And I had to realize that. That silence doesn't mean
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  failure. It usually means you're early growth
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  often happens in seasons when where no one is
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  watching, clapping or validating you. And that's
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  where real confidence is built. I know that
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  so many times that I would create a content and
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  I know that people would see it, but I wouldn't get the
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  comments, the likes and then I would see people just
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  out and about and they would make comments
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  and say, hey, I love the content. I love when you do
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  the videos about cooking or they mention something about the
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  kids that kind of like gave me this,
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  oh, a spark and just like, oh, so people are
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  watching, people are liking it, but they're just not showing
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  that, but they are liking it. So I think that it
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  does help when people with comment that they're liking and what
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  they like so that it gives you an idea that,
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  okay, people are liking it, I should be creating more content like this.
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  But in a lot, a lot of times when you don't get that the
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  feedback or you're not seeing, you're seeing the like low views
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  or really not much of an engagement can
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  bring you down. It can, it can't make you question of
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  why are you doing it and maybe I should quit. But through
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  those times, I feel like you shouldn't quit. You should continue on.
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  You should create the content that you
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  feel passionate about, that feels right for
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  you and that you're doing it, you know,
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  to, from a good place and that
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  you're doing it to inspire others with your content and
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  learning to be the voice you needed.
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  This is the moment in adulthood where you realize no
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  one is coming to save you, motivate you, or give you permission.
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  The moment is, is uncomfortable, but it
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  is powerful. Being your own cheerleader.
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  Cheerleader means learning how to speak to yourself with
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  encouragement instead of criticism.
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  Criticism, it's saying I'm proud of
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  myself even when results are not visible yet.
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  And that's not arrogance, that's emotional maturity.
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  It's kind of teaching yourself your mindset to,
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  to stay Positive to say to yourself, hey,
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  I am creating something that is,
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  I know is, I'm sure it's touching others.
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  I know it's making a difference. I might not see the results
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  or the feedback now, but I know that
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  I'm doing it for myself. And I know that if I've gone
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  through it, then other people have gone through it.
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  And you just build that building that strong mindset,
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  a positivity and that's gonna just shine it through.
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  And other people and other moms are going to see that
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  and they're gonna feel inspired by it.
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  And confidence is created offline.
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  Confidence isn't created by posting a video.
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  It's created by showing up again after one
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  flops. It's built in the repetition,
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  the consistency and the quiet discipline.
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  No one sees motivation.
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  It, you know, it fades, but identity
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  lasts. So when you start seeing yourself as someone
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  who finishes what she starts, your actions
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  naturally align with that belief and
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  confidence in something that most of us are
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  not born with it. We learn to
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  be confident. We learn to program ourselves to
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  be also positive and
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  show up as a confident person, speak as
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  a confident person, not take shit
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  from others. Standing up for yourself.
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  And when you are like, let's say you're creating videos
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  and you creating videos where you talk into
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  the camera, your confidence in talking to the camera
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  is not going to be right off the bat. It's going to come the more
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  you with time because the more you do it, the more comfortable
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  you're going to get, the more confident you're going to get and
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  a lot of your videos are going to flop, a lot of your videos are
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  going to fail. But that's okay. How else are you going to
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  learn? You are going to learn through the repetition.
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  You are not going to learn it after doing a couple of
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  videos. Professional speakers didn't become professional
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  speakers overnight. It took their time, they took courses,
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  they took classes to become a bigger speaker.
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  You don't become a great video creator and
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  speaking to the camera when you press start to record from
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  the start to the end. Try recording a video with
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  getting your point across without so many stops.
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  It's going to take time to program yourself
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  and teach yourself how to create a
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  great videos. But that's going to take time and
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  then that's going to take consistency. And a lot of people don't realize
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  how much time it takes because let's say if
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  you start following somebody who they're great at content,
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  they're great and getting their point across on
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  their videos, but they've been doing it for quite some
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  time and they stayed consistent with it.
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  Being emotionally self sourced means
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  you don't collapse when feedback is slow or
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  non existent. You learn how to regulate disappointment without
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  quitting the skills that this skill changes
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  everything not just in business but in life.
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  So when you believe isn't dependent on
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  outside applause, you become resilient,
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  you become steady and grounded.
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  Disappointments are very hard to deal
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  with. It's hard to overcome because
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  I think we all like to always be accepted
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  anything we start to be successful to hear
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  positive feedback and we don't,
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  when we don't get either of those or
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  none of those or maybe we get one out
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  of three, whatever, we,
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  we get really disappointed, we get down on ourselves
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  and a lot of times we just fold. And that's
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  not time to fold, it's time to keep
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  on going. And if you need to ask somebody
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  else for like your close friend, just say,
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  hey, can you help me out with this? Can you look at
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  my videos? Can you look at this sort of
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  my, I don't know, business plan, Give me your honest
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  opinion and then take that and basically run
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  with it and just talk about it. That will help
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  you to improve in your craft because
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  you have somebody who's looking from the outside and they know you as a person
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  and they can say, hey, maybe you should change X,
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  Y and Z to get your point across much better, to make
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  your content to be better.
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  And that's the only way that you can improve.
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  So you don't need lotto support, you need
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  deeper self trust. When you learn how to cheer for yourself,
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  no one can take that power away from you.
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  It is hard to learn. You do want people
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  to cheer you on, to always say,
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  hey, you great, you're awesome.
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  But a lot of times you need to be your own cheerleader.
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  You need to be your own positive thinker.
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  You need to be your own encouragement.
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  If you're going to rely on somebody else always cheering
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  you on, let me tell you, you are not going
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  to succeed. You're not going to be mentally
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  strong, you're not going to learn how
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  to deal with disappointments.
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  So you need to learn how to be your own cheerleader,
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  how to build your strong mindset, how to
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  always stay positive. Because other people are going to see that
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  and you are going to become that star
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  for other people. They're going to see you how
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  you handle different situations, different issues.
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  And that's the best gift that you can
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  give yourself in 2026. So thank
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