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"Common Sins and Struggles" by Joey Morgan - Part 11 · Cumberland Trace Church of Christ (Formerly Lehman Ave Church of Christ)

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Well, good morning, everyone.
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So we're going to continue in our common sins and struggles class in this quarter.
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We've got a couple weeks left, and this, what we're going to study, might go into next week.
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It might be all that we end up finishing.
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We'll have to see how it goes.
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So maybe I haven't got you yet with whatever your most common sin or struggle is, but I
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might get you today.
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Maybe I've got something that you've all struggled with even this last week, and it's not trying
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to get your grass cut, because that's what I've been struggling with, is trying to get
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my grass cut.
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Well, the last couple of weeks, we've looked at the common struggle of the love of money
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and how the Bible tells us that it's the root of all sorts of evil, and I feel like today
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we're going to look at what is the root, if not all, or at least most of all, sins
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and struggles, and that's selfishness.
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Because in this study so far, we've looked at laziness.
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What's that?
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It's someone choosing to do only what I want to do and only when I want to do it.
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Notice the words in that.
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When I want to do it and only what I want to do.
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Well, we've looked at anger.
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Someone doesn't do something that I want them to do, it makes me angry.
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Something is done not the way that I like it, it makes me angry.
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It's just something that comes from me because I don't like the way something is.
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Well, we've looked at pride.
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My way is the best way.
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My way is the right way.
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You're going to see my and I in everything that we've covered so far.
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We looked at swearing and gossip.
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It's about sharing information that I know, whether it hurts somebody or not, I don't
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care because I know it and I want to share it and I want what I know to be out there.
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Being overly critical, you know, my opinions are what's best.
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I know what's right.
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The love of money.
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I want it to take care of my needs.
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I want it to take care and be my security.
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So lots of I and my and all those.
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But those are just the ones that we've talked about even within this study, kind of the
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common things.
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But we could mention, you know, murder.
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We didn't cover murder.
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But what is murder?
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It's the killing of someone, but why does somebody do it?
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Well, I don't want this person to be in this world anymore because it affected me in whatever
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way.
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I mean, somebody does that because it's what they want to do.
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Adultery.
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I want either somebody else's spouse or it doesn't matter to me how much I hurt my spouse
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because I want what I want when I want it, whatever it is.
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Stealing.
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I want something and don't care if it costs someone else something.
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Most sins and struggles that we deal with, if not all of them, are going to come back
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to selfishness.
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It's I want what I want and it doesn't matter to me how it affects someone else.
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It doesn't matter what it costs someone else.
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I want what I want.
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So selfishness is the root of nearly everything that is a sin and it's hard for me to think
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of something in all honesty.
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I don't know if anyone can think of something where it's really not.
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Selfishness is also one of those things that can hide in plain sight like others that we've
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talked about.
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Most of us aren't going to go around and just say, you know what, I'm selfish.
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That's just how I am.
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Now some people I have actually heard them say that, they do know that about themselves,
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but most of us aren't going to go around and say I'm lazy.
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Most of us aren't going to walk around and say I'm prideful.
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Most of us also aren't going to walk around and say I'm selfish because we've got a view
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of what laziness is, we've got a view of what prideful is, we've got a view of what
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selfishness is and we'll make it fit what we're, that's not us.
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But selfishness often disguises itself as we've talked about in others as different
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things.
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What are some ways that selfishness might appear or that the world might say this is
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okay and it's not being selfish, but what are some ways that that might happen?
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Somebody might say that person's not selfish, they've just got a lot of ambition.
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Is it wrong to have ambition?
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No.
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But sometimes whenever we have goals that we want to meet in life and we decide I'm
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going to do whatever it takes, that sounds good.
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And to a degree that's okay, it depends on what your end goal is and what your purpose
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is with that.
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But if you're like I've got goals, nobody's going to stand in my way, it doesn't matter
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what it costs someone else, I'm getting to my goal.
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Well the world might say that's ambition, but sometimes that ambition, if you're honest
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with yourself, might have a little bit of selfishness tied into it.
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Self-protection, it's about my well-being even at the cost of someone else, it might
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show up as convenience, it's about my comfort and ease, doesn't matter what kind of burden
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it might place on somebody else, as long as I'm comfortable, as long as it's easy for
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me, it doesn't matter to me what happens to someone else, and again it can even show
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itself in pride.
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Here's the main phrase, I'm just doing what makes me happy.
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You've probably heard that over and over, it's a big saying that goes on in the world
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today is you should be happy and you should do what makes you happy, and you can go up
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to some of those things that we've talked about in the struggles and sins, there's that
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word me again.
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I'm going to do what makes me happy.
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So the Bible's very clear that selfishness is a danger because of that fact.
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You know, selfishness and the mindset that you are the very center of the universe puts
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somebody in a position where you're not, because none of us are the center of the universe.
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You know, it's not about us.
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At the center of selfishness is the mindset, what do I want, what benefits me, how does
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this affect my comfort, how does this affect my happiness, how does this affect my life,
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and again, over and over, my and I.
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And when selfishness controls us, it's going to damage the things around us.
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So if somebody is a selfish person or if we have selfishness within our lives and maybe
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you've noticed it in your life, and maybe you were selfish at a time more so than what
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you are now, or maybe you're right in the thick of it right now, what are some things
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around us that can be affected by our selfishness relationships?
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That was my number one on the list.
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You know, not a lot of people like to be in a relationship with a selfish person when
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it's all about them.
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That's not really a relationship.
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That's a one sided thing.
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What else?
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Influence is affected.
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What else we have?
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Children end up being affected by it.
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Marriages will weaken if it's a selfish marriage.
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Friendships are going to break.
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We're sitting here in church this morning with the church.
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You think churches have ever divided over selfishness?
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You think there's ever been issues because of selfishness?
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But it doesn't just affect those around us.
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Us being selfish isn't just bad for the person who has to deal with us as the selfish person
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and always have to be giving and giving because we're selfish.
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It also affects us.
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It becomes a problem for us as well.
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One of the biggest problems that's going to happen if we are a selfish person is that
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our spiritual growth is going to stop.
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You're no longer looking to become more like what God wants you to be.
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Why is that if you're a selfish person?
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That's who he wants us to be more like, right?
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Well, if I'm someone who feels like I'm the center of the universe, what does that mean
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I really feel about myself?
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I mean, who is the center of the universe?
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Yeah.
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Christ.
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God.
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So, that means I'm really putting myself in the position of I think everything's here
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for me.
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Well, then I'm not going to grow very much in my spiritual walk if I'm not going to listen
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to anybody else, which would also include who is at the center of the universe.
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That's God.
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My spiritual growth is going to stop because I don't see any need to because everything's
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really here for me anyways.
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Your way is already best.
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Your ideas are all that matters.
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You aren't looking to God for what's actually best for you.
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And that's a very dangerous mindset to have.
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Again, selfishness doesn't disaffect those around you in a bad way because you're selfish.
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It's not good for you either.
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So we're going to look at within this study, what is selfishness?
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Why is it dangerous?
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Examples of selfishness in scripture, how selfishness destroys relationships.
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And then also if this is a struggle that we're dealing with, how is it that we're going to
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overcome this?
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So let's go ahead and turn to Philippians chapter two and define biblically what is
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selfishness.
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Because again, if we had to throw a dictionary one on it, we're probably just going to say
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someone who is all about themselves, someone who chooses what's in their best interest,
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all those kinds of things that go along with that.
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But over in Philippians chapter two, we're going to read verses one through four where
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Paul says,
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Therefore, if there is any consolation in Christ, if any comfort of love, if any fellowship
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of the spirit, if any affection and mercy, fulfill my joy by being like minded, having
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the same love being of one accord of one mind.
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Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind, let
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each esteem others better than himself.
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Let each of you look not only for his own interest, but also for the interest of others.
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So four verses, what all does Paul say in these verses concerning selfishness?
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What all are in just these four verses that Paul says concerning selfishness?
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He says don't have, what's it say?
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Selfish ambition.
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In verse three, let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit.
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So he says, don't have anything to do with that.
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Anything you do, don't let it be done with selfish ambition.
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There's that word ambition that I mentioned at the beginning.
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He says instead of that, or what's that also mean?
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The opposite of that, so don't let anything be done in selfish ambition, instead, what's
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the reverse of that?
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What's the opposite of that, what's he say?
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Esteem others better than themselves or yourselves, which means that's the definition of selfish
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ambition or selfishness is esteeming others or esteeming yourself better than others,
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if it's the opposite.
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Don't let anything be done in selfish ambition, instead, esteem others better than yourself.
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That means that selfish ambition is esteeming yourself better than others.
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Now did Paul say, don't think about your needs at all, that we're supposed to just go through
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life and 100% never even think about ourselves?
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No, notice that Paul does not say it is wrong to care about your needs, look what he said
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in verse 4.
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He says, let each of you look out not only for your own interest, I mean we have to look
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out for our own interest, we can't just walk around not thinking about things, but he says
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don't only think about your own interest.
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And I think that's where that might hit all of us.
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We often think about others maybe at times, but we also maybe spend a little bit more
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time thinking about ourselves and our own interest, and the problem is when self becomes
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the absolute priority over everyone else, that's the problem, that's selfishness.
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Selfishness says my way matters most.
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Selfishness says my feelings matter most.
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Selfishness says my preferences are what matter most.
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You can also have this mindset inwardly and outwardly.
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We can be selfish.
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There are people you know or you maybe will admit to this about yourself that your actions
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show this kind of mindset.
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You may come to find out you're selfish because someone may even tell you in that instance
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because they see it.
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You're always going about making sure you're first and they see you doing the things outwardly
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that just doesn't seem like you might care about other people, it's all about you, you,
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you.
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But you can also just be a person who thinks this way, makes your decisions this way, still
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even appear kind to others, maybe outwardly you may seem like that you're not a selfish
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person but if inside in your thoughts you're always still thinking my way is best, my way
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is the only one that matters, my feelings are the ones that matter the most, my preferences
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matter the most, that's hard for us to recognize it because no one's ever going to tell us
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that because it's an inward struggle that we might be having.
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We have to realize that ourselves.
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So we might be so selfish that outwardly it appears to people and we might actually get
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called out on it but it's also an inward struggle that we have to be honest with ourselves
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and just say do I always think about myself all the time or do I even spend any amount
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of time thinking about other people.
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It's that outward look at others and you having that mindset that's going to gear you away
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from selfishness because the more you are outwardly looking and thinking about other
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people and all those things, that's the opposite of it and that's what's going to gear you
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away from it.
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So maybe again you're not sure if that's you, maybe you're not sure if this is a struggle
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that you're dealing with, what are some of the warning signs that you can look for or
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what are some ways that selfishness might show up in a person that maybe somebody might
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not immediately recognize?
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What are some ways that you would say if a person's doing this, they might have a little
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bit of a selfishness problem?
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Because again you might not think you have a selfishness problem but then you might do
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some of these things and then it's a switch that goes off and you say maybe I do need
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to think about what I'm thinking about.
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Maybe I do need to take a little bit deeper look into myself because that's what you have
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to do with all these things that we've talked about.
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Most of these aren't an easy thing for us to see in ourselves.
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It's very easy to see in other people often times but not in ourselves.
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What about someone who has to always, these are the kind of things I'm looking for, so
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if you have some, what if you always have to win arguments?
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What's that say?
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I'm always right, right?
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Everybody else is wrong, my way is best.
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So if you're a person who you just always got to win the argument, that's you saying
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that my way and what I think about this is the right way and you need to listen to that.
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What about someone who refuses to apologize?
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That means they think they've done nothing wrong because again it's my way and how I
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did that is the way that it was supposed to be done.
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Demands attention, being unwilling to serve, being a servant, it's pretty hard for a selfish
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person to be a servant because a selfish person expects to be served and not to serve.
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Always talking about ourselves, that's the opposite of kind of humility what Chuck just
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mentioned.
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Selfishness, controlling behavior, unwillingness to compromise, all sorts of things that we
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should look for in ourselves and say where's this coming from?
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Why am I this way?
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Those are some maybe outside things or physical things or worldly things that you might see
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in a person and the way that they deal in their relationships but it can also affect
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spiritual things.
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What are some things that would happen in our spiritual walk that will, selfishness
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will keep us from doing?
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Anybody have any thoughts on that?
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Yeah.
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And become more of a servant and to do the things that God would want us to do but then
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there's also the motivation side of being a servant.
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A selfish person could still maybe do some serving within our group and again make them
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maybe feel like I'm, maybe I'm not as, I can't be selfish because look at all the things
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that I'm doing but what's the motivation behind why they're doing the things they're doing
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because you can have selfish motivations for the reasons why for you to continue to do
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things in a way that maybe benefits you in some form or fashion and we're going to talk
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about some of those examples but maybe someone wants attention for their good works and want
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praise for their serving, gets angry when they're not recognized for those things, becomes
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upset, maybe when things aren't done in the way that they wish that they were done within
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the congregation, those things can affect us or selfishness can affect us in that way
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as well so it's dangerous because it can even affect us and keep us from doing good work
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so selfishness again is just always putting self obviously above anything else and how
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it can show up in our lives but where does it come from?
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Where does selfishness come from?
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Go over to James chapter 3, we're going to look at verses 13 through 18 and see what's
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the root of selfishness, where does it come from?
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And selfishness says I deserve, I should come first, I should get my way and James
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over in chapter 3 beginning at verse 13 says, who is wise and understanding among you?
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Let him show by good conduct that his works are done in the meekness of wisdom but if
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you have bitter envy and self-seeking in your hearts, do not boast and lie against the truth.
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This wisdom does not descend from above but is earthly, sensual and demonic.
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For where envy and self-seeking exist, confusion and every evil thing are there but the wisdom
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that is from above is first pure and then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full
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of mercy and good fruits without partiality and without hypocrisy.
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Now the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.
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So verse 14 tells us that envy and self-seeking, thinking everything is about us, it's not
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how we're supposed to be.
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It's not how God created us to live and he says that way of thinking is from what?
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From a worldly or fleshly view of things.
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And then in verse 16 he tells us when those things are present, confusion and every evil
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thing is there.
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And then verse 17 and 18 he tells us how God created us to be.
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When we apply the wisdom that's from where?
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From above, from God, look at the list and tell me if these aren't the opposite of selfishness.
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He says peaceable, how's peaceable the opposite of selfishness?
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Takes two people to make peace, doesn't it?
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Takes two people to have peace with one another, that means there's not one person that's just
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like, my way, doesn't matter to me what you think, doesn't matter to me what your thoughts
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are on this, you need to agree with what I say, that's what selfishness does, a peaceable
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person is those who make peace and it takes two people to make peace with one another.
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Willing to yield, you think a selfish person is going to yield?
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Not likely, probably not.
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Full of mercy, what's mercy?
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It's showing forgiveness or compassion to those who maybe have affected you.
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That's not typical of a selfish person.
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And then also be without partiality.
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That means not showing partiality between you and someone else.
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Does a selfish person do that?
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Not typically because again it's, I'm better than you, my way is better, everything's about
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me.
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That means you're showing partiality to who?
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Yourself.
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I'm partial to myself.
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So you can't be without partiality and be selfish because you're always partial to yourself.
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Selfishness does not come from the desires that God has given us, is what James is saying,
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but it comes from when we give in to the desire of the world and the things that are in it.
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James then continues in chapter four about what envy and self-seeking causes in verses
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one and two.
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He says, where do the wars and fights come from among you?
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Do they not come from your desires for pleasure that warn your members?
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You lust and you do not have, you murder and covet and cannot obtain.
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You fight and you war.
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Where does James say conflict comes from?
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Right there in the middle of verse one.
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He says, where does the fights and the wars come from among you?
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Where do these conflicts come from?
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Do they not come from, what's he say?
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Your desires.
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Your desires for pleasure that warn your members.
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What's that?
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What's your desires?
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It's what you want, right?
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So you could read that, where do wars and fights come from among you?
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Do they not come from when you want what you want for your pleasures, for your desires,
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the things that warn your members?
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Again, does it not come from selfishness is essentially what he's saying.
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Do you have something, brother?
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Without it being pure in the sense of even our motives and all the things that go around
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and the actual purity of the action and all the things that go along with that, the rest
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of it kind of goes off to the side.
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But conflict comes from selfishness.
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Why do you think selfishness causes so many conflicts?
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So think about the times in which maybe you've had a conflict with people or maybe you've
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known of groups of people who've had conflicts with one another.
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Why is selfishness at the kind of root of most conflicts?
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Why do you think that is?
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Or what are some things that causes conflict between people that you would say selfishness
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is usually in that?
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Clashing of desires.
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People oftentimes want control, don't they?
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Selfishness is a lot of times in that.
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Pride gets involved between two people and then it's, well, I have my pride and I want
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to have it go my way.
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People stop listening to one another.
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People demand their own way.
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People become easily offended.
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If you think about nearly every conflict, whether it's marriages, whether it's friendships,
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whether it's problems within churches, whether it's work disputes at your own work or conflicts
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on the world stage, I mean, just wars in general, just the wars that go on between countries,
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wars that go on between people within countries, usually at the root, both sides are heavily
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focused on themselves.
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They've got their side of the story, someone else has theirs, and it causes whatever that
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conflict is.
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It's unwillingness to look inwardly at your own self and figure out maybe that you have
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some issues and that you have to do something wrong because a selfish person is never going
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to probably look at themselves in that way because, again, you just feel like everyone's
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here for you.
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Imagine in a real world example, there's two people in a marriage and the husband says,
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she doesn't appreciate me enough.
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Maybe the husband feels his wife does not appreciate him enough.
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And then the wife says, well, he doesn't pay enough attention to me.
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Now appreciation and attention matter.
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They do.
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But if both spouses become consumed with what they are not getting and they only think about
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what they are not getting and how they are affected in their relationship and they don't
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think about anything else, only how they are being affected, only how they are being neglected,
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the marriage becomes a competition between the two of who's going to win this war.
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Who's the one who is most at fault?
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And if selfishness is ever involved in that, you're never going to, they're never going
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to be peaceable, unwilling to yield, all the things that we just covered that James said
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up above that.
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Because a partnership with two people who are peaceable, willing to yield, full of mercy,
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without partiality and without hypocrisy are going to have more success if both people
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in that relationship are having those two problems than two people who are selfish.
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It's just never going to probably work out.
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And you can change the example of those two married people to two coworkers.
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You can change that example to two brethren.
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You can change it to two leaders on the world stage.
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And it's going to be exactly the same.
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If selfishness gets involved, that's where James says, that's where the wars and the
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conflicts come from among you.
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It's because you're only thinking about your desires and yourself and all those things.
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Or they, to a degree, yes, and then they also think we should compromise sometimes on some
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of our things, but they don't think they should ever compromise on their things as well.
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But selfishness is going to keep score, is essentially what I'm saying, and there has
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to be a winner.
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And if you're a selfish person, guess who you feel like has to always be the winner?
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It's going to be you.
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Selfishness is going to lead you to conflict, is what James is telling us.
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He said when you put your desires only first above anything else, he said that's where
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the wars and fights are going to come from among you.
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You lust and you don't have, you murder and you covet, and you can't obtain.
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You want what you want, you want who you want, you can't have it, you're not obtaining it,
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it's going to cause you to fight more if all you care about is your desires and that's it.
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So now let's talk about some biblical examples of selfishness.
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It comes in many examples, really, any place you see people choosing what they want over
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God or others, we could go through numerous accounts in the Bible and talk about selfishness
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and how it's in this story or this event and all these, because like I said, it's at the
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root, in my opinion, of nearly everything that we deal with in our lives.
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One example, the first one we've already looked at, if you want to turn to Genesis
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4, I'm going to give you the Clifton notes version, but we've already looked at when
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we spoke about anger, we talked about Cain.
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If you remember in Genesis 4, Cain became angry because Abel's sacrifice was accepted
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and his was not.
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And in verse 4 and 5 of Genesis 4, we were told that the Lord respected Abel and his
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offering but he did not respect Cain and his offering and Cain was very angry and his
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countenance fell.
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And then God told Cain, I'm not sure why you're angry.
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It's on you.
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In verse 7, he said, if you do well, you'll be accepted like your brother.
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He's like, you're the one, I don't know who you're angry at and what you're angry about
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except for maybe you should be a little angry at yourself, is essentially what he says.
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That's kind of the opportunity for correction that God gave Cain there.
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He's like, you have the opportunity, you had the same opportunity as your brother and you
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still have the opportunity.
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If you do well, you're going to be accepted.
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But he just didn't accept his original sacrifice.
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So he gave him an opportunity for him to do the right thing, do what God asked.
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And when we talked about that, we talked about Cain concerning anger.
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We talked about jealousy.
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Some of you mentioned that he was probably jealous of Abel.
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And then we talked about murder.
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So some other things that we've talked about throughout this course of this study.
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But what else was involved prior to the murder?
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What else happened?
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You know, Cain had to make a decision to offer what was right or what he wanted to offer.
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And God told him in verse 7, if you do well, you'll be accepted.
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You've got the choice.
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You can offer what you were supposed to.
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You can offer what is right.
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Cain could have accepted that correction by God and decided to offer what was right at
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that time.
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He said, you know what, I need to offer what I'm supposed to.
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I need to offer my best.
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I need to offer whatever it is.
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He could have accepted the correction by God.
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Cain could have humbled himself.
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That's what it's going to take to do that, like what Chuck mentioned a minute ago.
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Cain could have improved his sacrifice and been accepted.
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But did he do any of that?
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Why did he not do any of that?
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I don't know why exactly, but I'd agree with you.
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I mean, it doesn't tell us exactly why he didn't do what he did, but apparently he didn't
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want to correct himself.
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He had the opportunity to.
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He had the opportunity to do what was right, and then he would be accepted.
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But he didn't do that.
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Remember I said at the beginning, a selfish mindset is dangerous because you will not
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listen to anyone else, and that includes God.
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You will not accept correction because what you want is what you want.
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It doesn't matter if someone corrects you on it.
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Cain refused correction, and selfishness often refuses correction because self-centered people
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hate to admit their fault, like what you mentioned.
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So that's one example.
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Turn over to Luke chapter 15, we'll probably finish with this one today and we'll pick
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up on a couple more examples and then continue on next Sunday, but I think we'll probably
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finish up with this one.
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Luke chapter 15, of course, the story of the prodigal son you're all familiar with.
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It's in Luke 15, 11 through 32.
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Not going to read the entire story.
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But over in Luke 15, beginning of verse 11, it says, then he said, a certain man had two
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sons.
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He said, and the younger of them said to his father, father, give me the portion of goods
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that falls to me.
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So he divided to them his livelihood, and not many days after, the younger son gathered
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all together, journeyed to a far country, and there wasted his possessions with prodigal
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living.
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And again, you know the rest of the story, and if you don't, make sure you read it.
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And how would we relate this story to selfishness?
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What would you see as selfish within this story, just in the first few verses that we've
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read?
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How does this kind of seem selfish, or what do you see?
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Yeah, couldn't wait for his father's death, he wanted what he wanted and he wanted it
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now.
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That's the J.D. Wentworth statement.
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I want my money and I want it now.
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I think that was that guy's name, I don't know, I remember a commercial whenever I was
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a kid.
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It was the Cash something or other, I don't know.
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But the younger son demanded his inheritance early, which is essentially saying, I want
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what's currently yours, and even though it would be his later, I want what is yours and
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I want it on my timeline.
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Again, it's I and my, you're going to see I and my all the time if you're thinking about
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selfishness.
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I want from your livelihood, how many of you, if you just had to give over a good percentage
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of whatever it is that you have right now to someone else, is that going to place a
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burden on you at this moment while you're still living?
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Probably so.
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Most people can't just give away a lot of their stuff and just be like, oh, now I don't
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have any of that even though I'm still living.
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The stuff that I was using to live on, I don't have it anymore because I gave it.
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I mean, that's going to place a burden, you would think.
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But he wanted from his father's livelihood, maybe even if it burdened him a little bit,
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he didn't think about that because a selfish person is not going to think that way.
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He wanted his freedom without responsibility of living under his father.
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Good inheritance comes from the fruits of labor, from the blessings, from being a part
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of the efforts within that family and however it is that God blessed them.
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I would also assume that the younger brother leaving put an extra load on the father and
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of the older brother.
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Obviously the older brother felt that way.
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He didn't give anything, any kind of thought to that, didn't think about that one bit.
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He says, I want the blessings without the obedience.
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I want the payout without the work.
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I deserve it.
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I deserve it.
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Where does selfishness eventually lead him?
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Well, broken, alone, empty.
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The younger son's circumstances eventually brings him pretty low.
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It says, make me like one of your hired servants there in verse 19.
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Once he hits the low point and he decides, oh, I had it pretty good at my father's, I
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want to go back and he says, just make me like one of your hired servants.
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The younger son's circumstances changed his mindset from being, I deserve it, to humble
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himself like what Chuck mentioned and realize that he had sinned and made a mistake.
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He was in the wrong.
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And again, selfishness, what he mentioned a minute ago, it's not going to cause you
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to do that.
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He releases entitlement and said, I'm not entitled to anything, just make me a servant.
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So he went from being selfish to humble and not selfish anymore.
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Essentially his attitude was completely different when he returned than what it was when he
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left and our attitude can often be an indicator if we struggle with selfishness.
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Again, what kind of attitude do you see in the younger son that you may see in other
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selfish people?
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I have entitlement.
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I have, he felt, deserving materialism.
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He wasted his possessions on himself only, it didn't say that he took his inheritance
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and just went and did a lot of good things and was very giving to other people or anything
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like that.
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No, it says he wasted it all on himself.
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Laziness, he didn't want to play a role in his inheritance, he just wanted it now.
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Pleasure seeking, wasted his possessions on his own pleasures.
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And then again, at the beginning of it, there's a lack of gratitude.
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He comes to finally have that, but he didn't have it at the beginning.
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When he had the mindset and the attitude of selfishness, he lacked all those things.
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He ended up turning around, his mindset changed once he was brought a little lower, once he
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humbled himself, but we see those things in him that can also be seen in us.
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And how it affected him, yeah, for sure, yeah, his mindset was how everything affected
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him a little bit, was a little bit selfish in that as well.
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But we'll pick up with two more examples next week and then again talk about how do we fix
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this problem if this is something seen in us, what is it that we can do about it?
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And then also the better example of what's the opposite of selfishness of that of Jesus
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who we're supposed to be conforming ourself or transforming ourself to be more like him.
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So we'll talk about that.
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Appreciate your comments.