Latest / No Time to Waste Podcast - w Marcus Murray / The Enemy Called Distraction
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- 0:00SPEAKER_00: All right.
- 0:01SPEAKER_00: I want to welcome you out to the No Time to Waste Podcast Studio.
- 0:04SPEAKER_00: And I am your guide, Marcus Murray.
- 0:07SPEAKER_00: And today we're talking about one of the greatest things that is an obstacle to our success.
- 0:13SPEAKER_00: I believe by the end of this episode, you will gain some very powerful information that will show you how to overcome one of the greatest minions to our destiny and our purpose, and that is distraction.
- 0:26SPEAKER_00: So let's start really quick by talking about it.
- 0:29SPEAKER_00: One of the things that I'll share with you, I'm not sure if you've ever been in a situation where you set goals or you made plans.
- 0:36SPEAKER_00: It may have been at the start of a year, different things of that nature.
- 0:39SPEAKER_00: And you kind of write down what it is that you'd like to achieve.
- 0:42SPEAKER_00: You take the moment to write and you lay out a mission or you lay out a vision for the future.
- 0:47SPEAKER_00: And somehow things just seem to happen that derail you.
- 0:51SPEAKER_00: And by the end of the year, you show up and you haven't accomplished anything that you originally set out to do.
- 0:58SPEAKER_00: Why is that?
- 0:59SPEAKER_00: It's distraction.
- 1:00SPEAKER_00: Now, in this season that we're in in our culture and in our world, distractions are so prevalent that it's almost impossible to defeat them unless we identify them.
- 1:13SPEAKER_00: So one of the things that we're going to do in this brief episode is we're going to identify the top 20 distractions in four different categories that are literally destroying people.
- 1:25SPEAKER_00: When I say destroying, I don't mean like utterly demolishing them, but literally keeping them from achieving what it is that they've been placed on the planet to do.
- 1:36SPEAKER_00: What's interesting is that a man that does not have a compass or a guide will end up anywhere because he has no clue where he's going.
- 1:45SPEAKER_00: The purpose of navigation or OnStar or guidance or all of the different tools that we use, like Google Maps, Apple Maps, all of those are necessary to help us make it from point A to point B.
- 1:59SPEAKER_00: We have to have a starting point and we have to have a goal.
- 2:03SPEAKER_00: But in today's society, we are being bombarded at such an enormously intense frequency that it's virtually impossible for a person without intentionality to stay on track, on focus, and actually achieve their objectives.
- 2:21SPEAKER_00: So today, I believe that if you take good notes, we're going to break out of it and it's going to really, really be helpful for you.
- 2:28SPEAKER_00: So let's just get started and deal with the different areas of distraction.
- 2:33SPEAKER_00: And of course, as usual, I had to write it down to make certain I don't miss anything that's important.
- 2:39SPEAKER_00: First, let's talk about digital and media distractions.
- 2:43SPEAKER_00: The interesting thing about digital and media is that it's all over us, it's all around us, it's the everything from the television to the cell phone, everything is digital.
- 2:55SPEAKER_00: Siri, um, um Alexa, all of these different things are constantly listening to us and constantly uh providing additional data, additional stimuli.
- 3:07SPEAKER_00: It's like constant.
- 3:08SPEAKER_00: If you think about it though, the human mind was not meant to sustain this ongoing uh bombardment of data and information.
- 3:19SPEAKER_00: That's not how man was created.
- 3:21SPEAKER_00: So the peace, when we think about peace and we think about time with God, the peace of God, the presence of God, it's usually in a quiet place that we get an opportunity to actually connect with our creator.
- 3:36SPEAKER_00: But the way current culture is set up, we are bombarded.
- 3:41SPEAKER_00: Why is that?
- 3:42SPEAKER_00: Because there are different classes of people.
- 3:45SPEAKER_00: There are the people that will be the working class that'll never get out of that conundrum.
- 3:50SPEAKER_00: And then there will be the elites, those that have been able to break out of the working class phenomena to literally become business system owners.
- 3:59SPEAKER_00: And it's by design, I was sharing with someone earlier this week that the beauty of being in America is we are in a capitalistic society, which means basically you can come up with any idea, any idea that you can possibly conceive of and actually monetize that.
- 4:17SPEAKER_00: You can turn it into something productive, you can actually transform generations and the future with a great idea.
- 4:25SPEAKER_00: That's the wonderful thing about being a part of a capitalist society.
- 4:29SPEAKER_00: But the flip side of being a part of that same society is that there the society is based on the fact that many people will never think outside of the box.
- 4:40SPEAKER_00: They will stay stuck and they will continue to be the minions that make the whole machine work, allowing those that had the great ideas to ascend to levels they never dreamed possible.
- 4:52SPEAKER_00: So what does that mean?
- 4:53SPEAKER_00: You are not stuck.
- 4:55SPEAKER_00: You are not stuck.
- 4:56SPEAKER_00: The world may tell you that you're stuck or that there's no way out or there's no hope, but there actually is.
- 5:03SPEAKER_00: The strategy, though, in order to achieve unparalleled success, is the elimination of distraction.
- 5:10SPEAKER_00: Sometimes distraction is in the form of people, sometimes it's in the form of things.
- 5:16SPEAKER_00: We are going to dissect the people and the things that actually create the greatest amount of distraction.
- 5:23SPEAKER_00: Now, this is not a totally comprehensive list of distractions, but this will get us on the right path so that we can begin to eliminate them and overcome them.
- 5:34SPEAKER_00: So in the first area being digital and media.
- 5:37SPEAKER_00: So we'll talk about digital and media, we'll talk about work, we'll talk about mindset and emotion, we'll talk about lifestyle and environment.
- 5:45SPEAKER_00: So the distractions that are digital would be social media scrolling.
- 5:51SPEAKER_00: So the way that social media is designed, it keeps you looped into watching and re-watching everyone that's similar to this one person or one category that seems to have captured your attention.
- 6:05SPEAKER_00: Remember, the whole goal is of distraction is to keep your attention away from your goal, your objective, your plan, your purpose, and to put it on an assigned purpose, plan, objective, a distraction.
- 6:20SPEAKER_00: So social media is one of the things where we're constantly uh looking at endless feeds and we're looking at lives of people that we don't even know.
- 6:31SPEAKER_00: We're just watching them.
- 6:32SPEAKER_00: And then there is the notification overload.
- 6:36SPEAKER_00: I'm not sure if you've been sitting with someone, maybe at lunch, maybe even at your dinner table, one of the kids, and while you're sitting there, you can hear their cell phone ping, ping, ping.
- 6:46SPEAKER_00: Those those constant uh notifications, those are a form of distraction because each time the ping happens, it it clears the mind of whatever you were thinking about, and it forces you to think about this cell phone.
- 7:02SPEAKER_00: So you may have been thinking about a great idea, a great recipe, something wonderful that you wanted to say, and then ping, and now you look at the phone.
- 7:11SPEAKER_00: Now it takes even more energy for your mind, you have to have an incredible mind to be able to overcome the ping and then come back to exactly where you were.
- 7:22SPEAKER_00: Most people can't do that.
- 7:24SPEAKER_00: It's a lot of work on the mind, unnecessary work.
- 7:28SPEAKER_00: So we want to stop the pings.
- 7:30SPEAKER_00: Next thing streaming video binges.
- 7:33SPEAKER_00: What you'll find the way the algorithms in social media are designed, once you find the type of video that you like watching, it says, aha, she likes this or he likes this.
- 7:45SPEAKER_00: And all of a sudden, you're on this endless loop of videos being force-fed into your phone.
- 7:52SPEAKER_00: Online gaming.
- 7:54SPEAKER_00: Most people think online gaming is harmless.
- 7:57SPEAKER_00: It's it's it's the farthest thing from harmless because what it's doing, it pulls us out of reality and takes us into an alternate reality where we stay for extended periods of time.
- 8:09SPEAKER_00: Extremely destructive.
- 8:11SPEAKER_00: News cycles, all right?
- 8:13SPEAKER_00: I've been known to watch the news, and I've also felt when I've been pulled into a news cycle where I not only get the news, but I can't get out.
- 8:24SPEAKER_00: So now all of a sudden, I'm watching um uh uh media personality after media personality on a particular channel, for example, and it and they're all talking about the exact same thing, the exact same talking points, the exact same tragedy, the exact same thing.
- 8:41SPEAKER_00: And before you know it, one, two, three, four hours have passed.
- 8:46SPEAKER_00: Why is this so important?
- 8:48SPEAKER_00: There is a purpose and a destiny in your life that intentionally, the enemy, the adversary, the one that wars against who you were called to be, your destiny, the person that's warring against who God wants you to become, that person, that thing is actually fighting against you on a daily basis, and digital media distraction is one of the tools that he'll use.
- 9:13SPEAKER_00: Let's think about work, because maybe uh social media is not your uh um vice.
- 9:20SPEAKER_00: Maybe it's just working.
- 9:22SPEAKER_00: So have you ever been caught in the email loop where all of a sudden all you're doing is checking all of these emails?
- 9:29SPEAKER_00: What happened to the day that we received four and five emails in a day?
- 9:34SPEAKER_00: I'm not sure about you, but there have been days that I've received over 150 emails.
- 9:40SPEAKER_00: What?
- 9:41SPEAKER_00: What is that important?
- 9:43SPEAKER_00: If they're only 24 hours in a day, only eight hours in a traditional working day, how in the world can we get to all of these emails?
- 9:52SPEAKER_00: How about multitasking?
- 9:54SPEAKER_00: That's a thing in a work environment where we think it's good.
- 9:58SPEAKER_00: Oh man, I'm I'm and and you interview people and they actually show up for the interview and they list as one of their strengths their ability to multitask.
- 10:08SPEAKER_00: What if I told you that multitasking can actually be a weapon used against you, where all of a sudden you've got so many tasks open, so many screens open on your computer, so many stickies on your desk or your bulletin board that you're actually less effective.
- 10:26SPEAKER_00: It looks very engaged, but in reality, it's a distraction.
- 10:32SPEAKER_00: What's another one?
- 10:33SPEAKER_00: Purposeless meetings.
- 10:35SPEAKER_00: And people hate to think this.
- 10:36SPEAKER_00: They hate to even say it.
- 10:38SPEAKER_00: Nobody wants to offend anyone because everyone's so sensitive.
- 10:42SPEAKER_00: So you definitely don't want to tell them that that meeting is purposeless, and I don't think we need to be here.
- 10:48SPEAKER_00: But guess what?
- 10:49SPEAKER_00: If you're actually going to achieve your purpose and your destiny, we've got to come to the table with truth and reality.
- 10:56SPEAKER_00: You cannot suspend truth or reality for the benefit of not wanting to offend a different person.
- 11:03SPEAKER_00: No, no, no, no, no.
- 11:05SPEAKER_00: We've lived too long.
- 11:06SPEAKER_00: When we get to this point in life where we have more years behind us than ahead of us, we have to stop playing games.
- 11:13SPEAKER_00: When we see things that don't make sense, the reason there's an expression that looks like this is because that doesn't make sense.
- 11:21SPEAKER_00: And we have to be able to say that.
- 11:23SPEAKER_00: It doesn't make sense.
- 11:25SPEAKER_00: And I cannot suspend what I know from years of living as reality to accept your short brief time on the planet and your newly developed insight and call that reality.
- 11:39SPEAKER_00: No, that doesn't make sense.
- 11:41SPEAKER_00: Well, there's another thing that affects us in the workplace, and that's perfectionism.
- 11:47SPEAKER_00: You've seen it.
- 11:48SPEAKER_00: I'm sure you've been there.
- 11:49SPEAKER_00: We've all been there where you start cleaning off your desk, and then all of a sudden you're overcleaning it, you're polishing it too much, too much.
- 11:56SPEAKER_00: The other thing is busyness.
- 11:58SPEAKER_00: Busyness is not productivity.
- 12:00SPEAKER_00: Busyness can actually be a tool of distraction.
- 12:03SPEAKER_00: So what happens, we can appear to be busy, and in reality, we're not progressing.
- 12:09SPEAKER_00: So when that happens, we're now caught in a loop.
- 12:13SPEAKER_00: So we just talked about the digital media loop and the work and productivity loop.
- 12:18SPEAKER_00: But let's talk about mindset and emotion.
- 12:21SPEAKER_00: Well, there's the comparison culture that we're all being affected with.
- 12:26SPEAKER_00: Why is it that people believe looking at others on social media for the purpose of comparison, looking at what they're doing, where they're going, and then comparing it to your life?
- 12:37SPEAKER_00: That is a distraction.
- 12:39SPEAKER_00: Anytime you're comparing someone else's um uh uh portrait of what they're living, it's really, it's really a curated um uh moment that they're presenting to the world.
- 12:52SPEAKER_00: You're looking at that.
- 12:53SPEAKER_00: That's not even their reality.
- 12:54SPEAKER_00: Do you know how many people are broken and fractured and their families are just in total disarray and and yet they've got 300,000 followers?
- 13:05SPEAKER_00: Would you be surprised to know that typically people do not follow reason, logic, and wisdom?
- 13:11SPEAKER_00: They follow foolishness.
- 13:13SPEAKER_00: Do you know that foolishness is more attractive than wisdom?
- 13:17SPEAKER_00: It's the way that it works in this current culture.
- 13:20SPEAKER_00: So people, the Bible says, in all thy getting, get an understanding.
- 13:25SPEAKER_00: And if you're going to pursue a thing, let wisdom be that thing you pursue.
- 13:30SPEAKER_00: That's not what happens.
- 13:31SPEAKER_00: If we start studying the greats in social media and marketing, they say the more stupid, the more foolish, the more asinine a video, the more likes, the more views, the more clicks, and the more shares it will receive.
- 13:47SPEAKER_00: Wouldn't you then have to surmise that the whole goal is distraction?
- 13:55SPEAKER_00: And who is it that wants to destroy your future if it isn't the adversary to your soul?
- 14:05SPEAKER_00: Do you realize that the person that you will become in the future can only be provided for by the person that you are now?
- 14:15SPEAKER_00: And if we allow people to keep us distracted, they will actually thwart the achievement of our ultimate goal and destiny, which believe it or not, is not money, but security, peace, health, well, fear of missing out.
- 14:34SPEAKER_00: That's another one of the emotional distractions.
- 14:37SPEAKER_00: Um, people putting you in a position that somehow because you're not in a particular place, you're missing out on something.
- 14:44SPEAKER_00: That's a that's a that that's a weapon.
- 14:47SPEAKER_00: Um worrying, right?
- 14:50SPEAKER_00: Worrying and complaining, that's another tool of distraction.
- 14:54SPEAKER_00: What happens when we waste time worrying and complaining, we're not problem solving because we're using the creative part of our mind to actually go through these loops of just it's almost like doom scrolling calamity.
- 15:12SPEAKER_00: Well, people pleasing, that's another one.
- 15:16SPEAKER_00: I just uh found myself in a situation where I refrained from saying how I felt because I didn't want to displease a person at this age in my life to refrain from giving the truth because I don't want to offend a person is foolish.
- 15:37SPEAKER_00: And it makes no sense.
- 15:39SPEAKER_00: I still remember when I reached the age of 50, which has been a bunch of years ago, when I turned 50, I realized wait a second, I've been on the earth half of a century.
- 15:50SPEAKER_00: Why is it that I'm people pleasing?
- 15:54SPEAKER_00: Uh-uh.
- 15:54SPEAKER_00: We're done with that.
- 15:56SPEAKER_00: And you, you as of today, are done with that.
- 15:59SPEAKER_00: But let's talk about lifestyle.
- 16:01SPEAKER_00: These are some of the things, again, that are distraction minions that will actually uh counteract or destroy the achievement of our destiny and purpose.
- 16:12SPEAKER_00: One very easy is clutter.
- 16:15SPEAKER_00: I'm going to challenge each person today with this.
- 16:18SPEAKER_00: Make a decision to do something, declutter something.
- 16:22SPEAKER_00: Maybe it's your desk at work, maybe it's your closet, maybe it's your bedroom.
- 16:26SPEAKER_00: If you have clutter in your bedroom, your closet, or on your desk, there you are literally under attack and you may not be aware of it.
- 16:35SPEAKER_00: So I made a decision today that on the other side of this podcast, I'm cleaning off my desk and I'm going to declutter my personal space.
- 16:44SPEAKER_00: And I'm going to encourage each person to do the exact same thing.
- 16:48SPEAKER_00: But there's another lifestyle distraction, and that's toxic relationships.
- 16:55SPEAKER_00: Hmm.
- 16:56SPEAKER_00: Hate to think about it, but when we're around people that are full of drama and negativity, um, that's a toxic relationship.
- 17:06SPEAKER_00: It just is what it is.
- 17:08SPEAKER_00: And when you run into it, you have to run away from it.
- 17:13SPEAKER_00: And that's a good thing because sometimes people are toxic because we are in their environment and we need to go and and they need to run.
- 17:23SPEAKER_00: Whatever it is, there should be a separation.
- 17:26SPEAKER_00: It's almost like the the the polar opposite concept of the ionic bonding.
- 17:31SPEAKER_00: What happens is energy is created when when when the explosion happens.
- 17:37SPEAKER_00: Sometimes this process of coming together and leaving is good.
- 17:42SPEAKER_00: It's a healthy thing.
- 17:43SPEAKER_00: So we have to avoid toxic relationships and also avoid overcommitting.
- 17:49SPEAKER_00: Overcommitting is one of the treacheries of our time.
- 17:53SPEAKER_00: I was just sharing with my wife that oftentimes we'll make commitments in different areas of our life.
- 18:00SPEAKER_00: And what we realize is if you overcommit, you're too available, too accessible, and you're not appreciated.
- 18:07SPEAKER_00: You also have to um uh moderate the amount of commitment and the number of commitments that you make so that people are glad to see you when you arrive versus knowing that you would be there.
- 18:21SPEAKER_00: No, when people say, Oh, I knew you would be here, that shows you a disregard.
- 18:26SPEAKER_00: They're not valuing you because I knew you'd be there.
- 18:30SPEAKER_00: No, man, it's so good to see you, is a different approach and a different posture and position.
- 18:36SPEAKER_00: So finally, um, there is constant noise in our backgrounds.
- 18:42SPEAKER_00: Um, that is something that is a distraction.
- 18:46SPEAKER_00: If you're not listening to classical music or worship in the low tones in the background, I would submit to you that more likely than not, you are experiencing a distraction.
- 18:59SPEAKER_00: And your mind actually needs a moment to be clutter-free and quiet.
- 19:06SPEAKER_00: It's only in the quiet, clutter-free moment, which is very similar, as we said in the beginning, to the time that we spend alone with God, where we're just quiet, just sitting, meditating on his presence and his peace, and just being quiet.
- 19:22SPEAKER_00: It's amazing what God can share with us in those quiet moments.
- 19:27SPEAKER_00: So I'm going to challenge everybody, remove the distracting background noise.
- 19:32SPEAKER_00: And finally, this is the last distraction of the 20 that I'll talk about, and it's consumerism and overspending.
- 19:40SPEAKER_00: Uh, spending more than investing.
- 19:42SPEAKER_00: I'm going to challenge each person that's listening to make a decision that maybe take a hiatus from spending.
- 19:51SPEAKER_00: Just say for one week, I'm not going to spend anything miscellaneous, nothing extra.
- 19:56SPEAKER_00: I'm going to focus my give, my spend dollar.
- 20:02SPEAKER_00: Um, that is another way to take control.
- 20:04SPEAKER_00: So the bottom line to all of this is we've talked about all of these distractions, but what is it that we can do to break the distraction cycle?
- 20:15SPEAKER_00: There are four things that help us in warring against distraction.
- 20:20SPEAKER_00: One of them is focus, presence, clarity, and intentionality.
- 20:27SPEAKER_00: Focus.
- 20:28SPEAKER_00: It is more important than ever that we are focused on our goals, on our own thoughts, on our own peace, on our own objectives, and and even from a business perspective, there are times because I'm in, remember, I am a strong proponent that everyone that is watching, when you have more years behind you than ahead of you, it's now time to use your influence in the marketplace.
- 20:58SPEAKER_00: I believe that you have the ability to create significant ongoing revenue if you get into the system today, if you find a tool, a vehicle that you can use, do something versus doing nothing.
- 21:12SPEAKER_00: Let's not let them push us into retirement.
- 21:15SPEAKER_00: But focus is going to be key.
- 21:18SPEAKER_00: And the way that we can achieve and maintain focus is by the use of a journal.
- 21:25SPEAKER_00: We're going to use a journal so that we can write, clear our minds, declutter our brains.
- 21:32SPEAKER_00: In that process of writing in a journal, it actually helps us achieve and maintain focus.
- 21:40SPEAKER_00: And focus is going to be the thing that helps us determine is a person going in the direction of my future or are they taking me away?
- 21:50SPEAKER_00: Next, presence.
- 21:52SPEAKER_00: Be 100% where you are.
- 21:56SPEAKER_00: So that means if you're at dinner with your spouse, You want to leave the cell phone on the counter or somewhere else on the charger.
- 22:05SPEAKER_00: Don't respond when the phone rings.
- 22:08SPEAKER_00: Be 100% present.
- 22:11SPEAKER_00: Because what happens if you're sitting like my wife Ladonna and I are now uh spending so much time together, it's so amazing, so wonderful.
- 22:21SPEAKER_00: For 30 years, we spent all of our time raising kids.
- 22:25SPEAKER_00: And now that our kids are adults and out of our home, it's like it's incredible.
- 22:30SPEAKER_00: I'm like, wow, I am really blessed to have a wife who's so amazing.
- 22:35SPEAKER_00: So we get a chance to engage in a different way.
- 22:38SPEAKER_00: Like I never, I never thought this was possible.
- 22:41SPEAKER_00: I forgot this was a thing.
- 22:43SPEAKER_00: And so we're spending time together.
- 22:45SPEAKER_00: So I have to be present.
- 22:48SPEAKER_00: And you have to be present wherever you are, be 100% there.
- 22:54SPEAKER_00: Because if I'm sitting with my wife, and then I allow the phone, the ping of the phone to take me away, and I look down at the phone, even though I'm here, all of a sudden, this person is taking me here.
- 23:07SPEAKER_00: Do you see the problem?
- 23:09SPEAKER_00: That's a problem.
- 23:11SPEAKER_00: Clarity.
- 23:12SPEAKER_00: Again, in our so in our journaling, it helps us with our presence, understanding our day-to-day activity.
- 23:20SPEAKER_00: And then it helps us achieve clarity.
- 23:23SPEAKER_00: The thing about clarity is that it's having alignment with your objectives and your goals, being absolutely clear.
- 23:32SPEAKER_00: When you journal and you're writing about something that happened or someone told you about a different concept, you can see whether or not it lines up because you're writing it out.
- 23:43SPEAKER_00: It helps you with clarity.
- 23:44SPEAKER_00: And number two, intentional, I'm sorry, number four, intentionality, choosing purpose over impulse.
- 23:52SPEAKER_00: One of the things about journaling, you get a chance to write down what happened during that day and you get an opportunity to see, was I just impulsive or was I on task, on purpose?
- 24:05SPEAKER_00: So one of the things about intentionality is it helps you uh refrain from taking immediate action for someone else's emergency.
- 24:18SPEAKER_00: Because sometimes people can call us with something that in their minds is emergent, but it really isn't.
- 24:25SPEAKER_00: It's just, they're just in their drama zone.
- 24:29SPEAKER_00: And we can allow that call to take us off of task.
- 24:34SPEAKER_00: So we're going to make the decision to be intentional.
- 24:37SPEAKER_00: Now, I know this was a lot of information.
- 24:40SPEAKER_00: I'm going to encourage each person to re-listen to this episode on distraction.
- 24:46SPEAKER_00: You can achieve greatness only if you overcome the distractions that are holding us back.
- 24:53SPEAKER_00: We just talked about 20 different areas.
- 24:56SPEAKER_00: That's a lot of areas of distraction.
- 24:59SPEAKER_00: That tells us that not like the days of old, there is an enemy warring against your purpose and the plan of God in your life.
- 25:07SPEAKER_00: So the only way to overcome it is to learn the techniques and the strategies and to be extremely intentional, clear, and focused.
- 25:16SPEAKER_00: So I'm so proud of you.
- 25:18SPEAKER_00: Thank you for tuning in.
- 25:19SPEAKER_00: Looking forward to seeing you.
- 25:21SPEAKER_00: The next episode will be talking about the seasons of life.
- 25:25SPEAKER_00: Take care for now, make it happen, and definitely seize the day.