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#54 - 5 Ways to Have Constant Joy in Your Life! · Brandon Fogal Evolution

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  How to have constant, never-ceasing joy in your life.
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  We're going to try to break that down into five steps, and I'm going to try
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  to give it to you in a memorable fashion, the five C's, and I hope it's beneficial to you.
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  I know it's been beneficial to me, so let's just dive into it.
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  Okay, so this video right here has actually been very like on my mind,
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  very heavily on my heart, because it's been something that I, it's a constant battle.
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  I'm not going to say I got everything perfect in my life at all whatsoever.
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  So I got to put that out there. I'm upfront and honest about that.
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  But these, these, this has been really helpful for me.
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  And I, I'm going to start it off with, if you're actually watching this right
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  now, if you're seeing the video, I, I'm holding up some, pills,
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  some pills, you know, and it's going to go with my first point, which is chemical.
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  The first point of having constant joy, which is chemical in my life.
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  And I'm me and my wife, we're actually trying to put this together.
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  I've had a lot of, I've had a lot of issues in my life.
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  You know, I've had a lot of things that I've battled through and I still battle
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  through, but not to the extent and to the degree that I used to.
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  And a big, huge part of it was for me was getting the chemicals in my brain
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  kind of going in the right direction. I think there was a lot of things that
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  were crossed, a lot of things that were messed up.
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  I got on actual medication. This right here is not actual medication.
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  This is just natural supplements that my wife, the scientist.
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  I don't think she was just doing it.
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  Maybe not just to help me, but just to help herself because it was tough in
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  the living environment she was going through because she was in the house every
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  day with me and seeing the battle, the struggle, and it definitely just bled
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  over into our whole family life.
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  So it was a constant trial and error and taking, removing of different natural supplements.
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  I think she'd do a lot better job of explaining how she stumbled upon this and how she found this,
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  but in the future, we're going to try to put together
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  a breakdown of what's helped me specifically
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  and what could be helpful for you and we'll put that
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  out in future videos and i'll try to put like a link to it
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  and everything but we're trying to get it all formulated you know so
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  it look it's easily easily received by anybody that comes across this comes
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  across it so so i'm gonna i'm actually gonna take this right in front of you
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  this is my my daily my daily pills my daily pills here and actually oh it's
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  gotten a lot smaller from what it used to be if you're looking at this Right now I'm looking at,
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  there's five in there and I just choke it.
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  And I do that every morning. And it's definitely, I don't, I couldn't tell you
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  one word, one name of the things that I take.
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  She's the brains behind the operation. I just, I just do what I'm told, I guess. I don't know.
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  I've never questioned it, but it's definitely, I could tell you firsthand experience.
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  It has definitely changed my life.
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  Something has majorly changed.
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  And whatever's happening up in this, in this noggin or whatever,
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  I don't know what's going on, but it's definitely allowed me to see things, to not be so messed up.
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  I don't even know a good, pleasant way of saying it, but a way of not being
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  so messed up. It's helped me a lot.
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  And we'll, we'll put that out there. I'll go further into that in future videos,
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  but I think it's, it starts there in a sense.
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  And, and out of these five C's, these aren't the prior, or like the priority
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  or primacy of my order of which one is more valuable upon the other.
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  If you have an idea of which is the most valuable out of these five C's that
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  I give you, put it in the comments.
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  Or if you have any other suggestions, something that's helped you or that could
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  help someone else, put it in the comments.
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  I would love to see that. And that would be very helpful for me.
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  So getting your mind straight by going, if you need that, not everybody is there.
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  Some people don't have a brain that is, that is like that, you know, that needs that.
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  So if you don't praise God, but if you do, you do, you know,
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  and I did go through a lot of medication in my past and it just messed me up.
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  And I did a lot of like, just substance, like I just, alcohol was always a way
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  that helped, helped, helped me in a sense.
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  It helped me. I would say alcohol definitely helped me.
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  And it, you, I used it as like a numbing effect in a lot of ways to,
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  to kind of just that escapism.
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  You know, you hear about, you know, you're just going through life.
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  You're raw dogging it. You know, you don't need to be raw dogging it.
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  And I agree, you don't need to be raw dogging it.
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  And everybody, that's your freedom of choice, what you want to do.
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  Coming, getting away from alcohol has helped me in a lot of ways,
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  but I, it did numb me in a lot of ways, the same way that actual prescribed medication did.
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  And it, it gave a short term, short-term fulfillment effect,
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  but a long-term not-so-good effect for me.
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  That's why going to the natural supplements overall has definitely helped me.
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  All right, let's quickly move on. Number two, circumstances.
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  Embrace the journey. Embrace the journey. I'm always thinking about when you're
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  going in life, there's always something you're aiming towards,
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  you're going for, whatever it is.
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  It might be a person in your life, like a figure in your life that you think,
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  Like, man, they got it all together.
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  Everything that they touch is gold. Their life must be so amazingly awesome.
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  I immediately go to Elon Musk. That's who I go to.
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  I mean, he, like, that is a guy, like, if I wanted to be, have a huge,
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  amazing, contributing business that's going to help the world,
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  I don't think I'm ever going to attain to the level of Elon Musk.
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  I don't think I'm going to ever reach that mountaintop.
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  And so I could easily, whatever I got to, whatever point in my life I got to,
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  there could always be something better and there could always be something else
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  I could shoot towards, you know?
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  And so enjoying the journey along the way, every moment...
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  Along the way would is so huge for me because when you reach that pot of gold
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  at the end of the rainbow, you're just going to want to reach another pot of gold.
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  And instead of just every moment, like actually maybe just taking a,
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  taking a step back, reflecting and just taking a breath, you know, I don't know.
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  I don't know if you've seen any videos like by Sam Harris, he's,
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  he's an atheist, you know, he doesn't believe in God.
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  So I disagree with him on that, but he does a lot of stuff of kind of meditation
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  and really focusing in on your, your breathing and being aware of every,
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  like you have all these senses that we just kind of, we just compartmentalize
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  it that like, if we really just sat back and we just kind of absorbed all the
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  feelings that we are experiencing daily,
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  like from the thing, our fingertips to the air going in our lungs.
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  If we just took a step back and actually experienced in the fullest sense,
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  the moment of the now we have now in what we're going through. We don't have tomorrow.
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  We don't even really have yesterday. We can remember it vaguely,
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  but we have every moment we have now and just and enjoying the now really stepping back.
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  Don't being worried about the future because that's going to produce anxiety.
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  Don't be regretting and just tearing yourself up over the past because that's
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  just going to bring guilt or regret.
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  But really focusing in on every moment, no matter how chaotic,
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  no matter how much stuff has hit the fan in your life and in your mind.
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  But really understanding that, hey, it doesn't matter.
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  It really, none of this exterior world that is happening around me,
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  it doesn't really, I mean, it matters in a real sense, but.
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  For you personally and how to cope and how to have joy, it doesn't matter.
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  You can be in the crazy, you could be in a war, a battle environment,
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  out on the front lines and have the most serene peace imaginable.
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  And it's all about your attitude. It's all about your mental mindset and just
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  realizing I can be at peace in this moment and every moment and just relish
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  in every moment. Number three, comparison.
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  This, this kind of ties into when I was bringing up Elon Musk and just anyone
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  else out there, whoever, whoever your person out that you are.
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  Inspires you, who, who like draw, like makes you want to be better.
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  Once you be want to get the most out of you, whoever that is.
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  I mean, it's good to actually have that, to have someone that really drives
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  you like the, like a benchmark that you want to kind of shoot towards,
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  go towards, maybe eclipse if you can.
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  But, but at the end of the day, comparison can always be that ugly.
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  I don't even know. I don't want to, I don't know what to even say on that.
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  Ugly something, ugly duckling. I don't even know.
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  I had a lot of things popped in my mind and I was just like,
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  everyone I was filtering. I don't say that. Don't say that.
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  And then, but, um, that ugly duck duckling that can just be a thief.
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  If it, if comparison can always be a thief of your joy, no matter what,
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  you know, you, you want to get that, that promotion at work,
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  or you want to get that, attain that reward or attain, attain that award.
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  And you see someone else get it, or you see someone else have something amazing happen in their life.
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  And instead of being joyful for them.
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  And that's something that I have really struggled with. I want to actually want
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  the best more for other people than myself.
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  So say something else happens really good for someone else.
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  And my immediate reaction in my heart would probably be like,
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  and, and just covetousness. Like that's the word, that's the word for me,
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  covetousness and jealousy.
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  I, I, I want, I want that. And, and I just got to change my mindset to saying,
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  be joyful for that person and just whatever,
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  like be actually like physically and everything you have in you like garner
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  it towards being happy for someone else, getting something good.
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  And don't compare yourself with someone else because it's all it's going to
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  do is just deflate you, destroy you, and make you like, it's going to take the wind out of your sails.
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  And I know it has definitely done that for me. So just removing all comparison.
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  And if you are, you are comparison, use it in a good way to strive to be like
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  somebody that you want to, that inspires you.
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  And then when other people have something great happen in their life,
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  use it as a way to make yourself a better person to wish the best for that person
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  and be happy for that person, that they are getting that amazing thing,
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  because you can find joy in that.
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  Because I do think it is better to give than to the received,
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  to have a generous spirit.
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  And I think we always got to be constantly refining our attitude in our heart.
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  Number four, connection. This is one probably out of all of these that I struggle with the most.
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  Some people are social butterflies. And some people have that just natural,
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  charismatic aura that is able to put them in whatever setting,
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  and they are the life of the party.
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  I mean, everybody just revolves around them, and they're fun, you know?
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  Not everybody has that extrovert personality, and it doesn't come naturally
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  to them, but I don't think you have to have that.
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  You might be a person that doesn't come naturally for you, but you can still
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  develop connection with some people, you know?
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  And I don't think we have to have a connection with everyone.
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  Something I have went through lately is I need to kind of root out the people
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  in my life that bring me down,
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  wish the best for them, hope the best for them, you know, and put the people
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  in my life that really get me going.
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  The people that like, like get me fired up.
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  You know, if somebody is in your life and they're just constantly bringing you
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  down, the Bible says, be at peace with all people as long as much as it depends
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  on you, be at peace with everyone.
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  So you want to do that, but you don't need to just force people in your life
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  that just completely just destroy and ruin your spirit.
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  Like always be putting around you people that are going to uplift you and just
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  weed out the people that are not, You know, wish the best for them,
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  you know, hope the best for them, but you don't need to surround yourself with them.
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  You got to find, you do got to find your tribe.
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  You got to find your tribe, people that are going to just get your,
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  your embers just glowing and get you excited about life and more productive
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  and pushing you in the way that you want to be going, not bringing,
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  bringing you down and pulling you down.
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  And then lastly, and you could say this one, like I said, these aren't a primary,
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  these aren't like my priority because you could say that this is the foundational one.
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  The last C is Christ.
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  For anyone to have, I think people that aren't Christians, they can have joy.
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  They can have peace in life in certain senses, but it's not going to be a lasting
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  joy, a lasting peace. It could be a flare-up.
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  It could be something that just, but it's not going to be ongoing the way that
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  I, I could even say this, I know.
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  I absolutely know that if Christ is not in your life and you have not surrendered
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  and submitted to him and given him your life, you're not going to find who you
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  truly are to the most fullest sense of you.
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  But also the waves are going to hit, the storm is going to happen.
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  And if you don't recognize that Jesus is in the boat, I mean,
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  he's in the boat with everyone, no matter where whoever's listening to this,
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  even if you're not a Christian, Jesus is right there with you.
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  He's right there with you, but it's the Christian is just recognizing he's in the boat with me.
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  No matter what storm happens, no matter what chaos upheaval happens in my life,
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  he's right here stabilizing.
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  And he's the one who can say to the sea, peace.
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  Be still. He can calm the storm in your heart.
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  He could calm the storm in our physical world at any moment,
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  but we can have that current, present peace right now because he is there.
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  I know Christ is the biggest part of joy.
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  To me, it's my joy did not begin actually till I found Christ. I don't know about you.
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  And I immediately go to C.S. Lewis, his book, and I've read it a couple of times, Surprised by Joy.
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  C.S. Lewis, he was the one who wrote Chronicles of Narnia.
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  He was a theologian in the 20th century, and he didn't always believe.
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  He was an atheist, but he came to Christ, and his book, Surprised by Joy,
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  is his autobiography of how that all happened, and that just stunning event,
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  and stunning where he was not looking for it and it caught him off guard.
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  The kingdom of God caught him off guard and he found actually joy in the most
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  unlikely place. And that was Christ.
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  So those are my five C's for constant joy. We'll leave it at that.
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  Have a wonderful day, everyone.