Latest / All In with Allie / Year End Review for 2023. My Stage 3 Mediocrity

Transcript

Year End Review for 2023. My Stage 3 Mediocrity · All In with Allie

0:00
Hello. In this episode, I am going to tell you about my self
0:03
diagnosis with stage three mediocrity, and we're going to be giving a year end
0:07
review. What I would do the same, what I would do differently.
0:10
If you can already tell what the vibe of that it's going to be.
0:14
This is going to be enlightening. Get excited. Welcome to Aline with Ali
0:23
Podcasts, the podcast for online business owners and entrepreneurs who are ready to create
0:27
the life and business of their dreams. I'm so happy you are here.
0:32
Do you want to know the one thing that will set me off pretty much
0:36
faster than anything else? Tech issues? Can we talk about it? Can
0:39
we talk about how I can meditate, I can be in the best mood,
0:46
I can do breath work and just really be in a really good place
0:55
right thinking like, Wow, look at you go. You're really calm,
1:00
cool and collected. You're really managing your emotions well lately, and then enter
1:07
a freaking tech issue. Doesn't matter which one, and I am set the
1:11
f off. Okay, let me just tell you so. I come in
1:15
here, I'm ready to record. We finally have like a podcast setup that
1:19
I feel really good about. I feel like the last episode I got my
1:23
lighting right, I know, like I figured out how to hook up my
1:26
mic to the stupid video thing, and like we I've literally been thinking all
1:34
week. Yeah, I really like, Okay, we got it. Like
1:38
I know what I'm doing. I like the setup. Everything sounds good,
1:42
cool, I know how to do it all. And then I go to
1:44
sit down today and I'm like ready to record. I've got to set amount
1:47
time to record and bam, the video thing that streams my phone to the
1:53
thing it's just crashing and it's it's not working. So I'm really working on
2:06
not lighting things on fire when I get upset, like immediately, and trying
2:12
to pivot a little faster than what I normally do, because what I tend
2:15
to do is I'll fixate on it and then I'll overthink it, be like
2:20
is this a sign from the universe? Am I not supposed to record right
2:23
now? Was my idea? Is stupid? Did I not do this topic?
2:28
You know? Like then my little brain goes into a little spiral and
2:30
next thing you know, thirty nine minutes have gone by and I've been sitting
2:34
in a chair and nothing has changed. So what I decided to do this
2:38
time, I did text my beautiful podcast team, and they're trying to like
2:44
figure out what's going on. But in the meantime, I was like,
2:46
you know what, I have a perfectly fine webcam. It's not as good
2:52
of quality as the iPhone, it's fine. It'll work in a pinch.
2:55
We hooked it up and here we are, y'all. Have a good day.
3:02
See you next week. Oh my gosh. Okay, So we're going
3:08
to do a year and review today and I've got mixed emotions about it.
3:15
I feel I'm a little like, ah, I'm a little I'm not super
3:21
excited to talk about it. This is not my favorite year end review,
3:23
but this is something that I do. I've been doing it for the past
3:27
couple of years, and you know, I'm dedicated to being honest with you,
3:35
so honesty over everything. So we're we're gonna get into that because I
3:40
think it's super helpful. I know, for me, I like hearing these
3:44
because I want to hear what you did that you would do again if you
3:50
saw success in something, and what you wouldn't do if you could go back
3:53
in time or going into a new year. I think that that's super helpful,
3:57
and I think it's really nice if we could, I'll be open and
4:00
honest about those sort of things. So that's gonna be the vibe of today's
4:04
episode, and we're just gonna go there. It's gonna be great. But
4:13
quickly, a little update, because last week I went in on some craziness.
4:18
I opened a few can of worms. I talked about how my ninja
4:26
is leaving the business at the end of the month. So I am hiring
4:30
new people and since then, I've done interviews. I'll give you an update
4:33
on that. I'll give you a little tax updates. I told you last
4:38
episode. Listen, if you've not listened to last episode, goes to it.
4:41
A lot of you really really enjoyed it, which I appreciate you saying
4:46
that, because I do feel like last week it was just a little bit
4:50
it was a little less contrived. I really try not to be too contrived
4:55
here, but sometimes we're super focused and it's just like, Okay, here's
4:59
what we're here to talk about. Let's get it done. Wambam. Thank
5:01
you, ma'am. And I feel like you kind of like it when the
5:06
train goes off the tracks a little bit, which I also enjoy that.
5:11
So for those of you that reached out and expressed your feelings and excitement over
5:17
last week's episode. Thank you very much, and again, if you haven't
5:24
listened to it, go listen to it because it's pretty wild. There's a
5:27
lot going on. We talked about hiring, firing, a six figure tax
5:30
bill, and a random inheritance that nobody saw coming. So that's exciting.
5:39
So a few updates since last week. I well, okay, so last
5:46
week I put a call to action that I was hiring, right, I
5:48
need to replace Sarah in my business. I'm looking actually for a couple of
5:54
different roles because one of the mistakes that I made with Sarah was giving her
5:59
too rod of a job description and it just really wasn't fair and it wasn't
6:05
efficient, it wasn't effective, or ended up not being effective. So I'm
6:10
doing things differently in that I'm hiring somebody specifically for customer experience and maybe like
6:16
a kujab Be expert. I don't know, we're filling it out. So
6:20
I put a call to action in my stories. This is actually how I've
6:24
found everybody who I've hired on my team and how I suggest other people to
6:29
do it is if you have like a pretty decent audience. There are a
6:33
ton of incredible talent out there and a lot of people that would love to
6:40
fill possibly the position that you need in your business. So that's what I
6:46
did. I just put something very simple, Hey, we're looking for somebody
6:49
to come in and support with customer experience. I'm not going to baby you.
6:55
This is not for you. If you want to be a coach or
6:57
you want to be a business owner. This is like a full support role,
7:01
you know. And I was just super blunt about it. I created
7:04
a very simple application on Google Forms that essentially was like, tell me a
7:13
little bit about you, what's your job experience. I don't know, I
7:16
can't even remember what I put, but it wasn't too in depth, but
7:19
it was just get a good feel for the person. One thing that I
7:25
did that I'm happy about that I would do again is I gave like a
7:29
little practice at the end of it. Since this application was for customer experience,
7:33
I put at the end, hey, pretend you have to send an
7:40
email to a client because they defaulted on a payment, Like what would be
7:43
that email? Just to get a feel for their writing and the effort that
7:48
they put into the practice and that actually proved to be really helpful because I
7:55
got to see, like, if you're going to be emailing on my behalf,
7:58
you need to know how to speak, and you need to know how
8:00
to write, and you need to have a good intuition and troubleshoot and all
8:05
the things. So anyway, that was really helpful to see what the interview
8:11
ease or the applicants came up with. And anyway, we got I think
8:18
eighteen eighteen or nineteen applications. I only talked about it one time. I
8:22
didn't feel the need to talk about it anymore. I went through each I
8:26
narrowed it down to three women, and I've interviewed them all. I've finished
8:31
the last two interviews as I record this yesterday, and I love every single
8:37
one of them. This is actually what happened last time. So last time,
8:41
some of you well remember the time that I was interviewing and I ultimately
8:46
hired Sarah. I had the same issue. I narrowed it down. I
8:50
narrowed it down to like way more. I want to say, I interviewed
8:56
like six or eight women, which was way too many and very overwhelming,
9:00
but I genuinely loved every single one and it was so hard to narrow it
9:05
down, and this time I picked three I had a maybe like might be
9:09
a good fit, and two that were definitely good fits. And now I'm
9:16
like, dang, how can I how can I somehow hire every single one
9:24
of these women? They're just they were great. So my task by the
9:30
end of the week is to figure out what we're going to do there.
9:33
I'm filling two different positions, so we'll see. We'll see how that goes.
9:39
I'll keep you updated, But so far, so good. There.
9:45
Tax update, our new tax daddy, the new CPA and bookkeeper. He
9:52
seems to be great. He really knows his stuff. He's on it.
9:56
Granted it has been, you know, a good week and a half,
10:00
so we'll see. My last one was really good too, But he just
10:05
you can just tell he lives for the shit. So that's kind of what
10:09
I need. And he's very knowledgeable, and I don't know, we like
10:15
him. So he's already saved us a ton of money. And Chris and
10:20
I have not talked about divorce yet, so I feel like that's a good
10:24
sign. It was touch and go there for a little bit. Like I
10:28
said, I thought I was either going to lose him to a heart attack
10:31
or divorce and we're still going strong. Well, I wouldn't say strong,
10:37
we're hanging in there. So fingures crossed that we have successfully crossed that bridge
10:43
and we can move on with our lives. I will say this again in
10:48
case you did not listen to the last episode. Pay your quarterly taxes.
10:52
Okay, it's just not worth it to not do it and stay on your
10:56
tax people. And just the don't ask, don't tell approach don't work.
11:03
Okay, I've tested it for you. So there's that. And now we're
11:13
just gearing up for the holidays. This year, I'm hosting, which I'm
11:20
very excited about. We were going to go down to Louisiana, that's where
11:26
my grandparents live, and we were going to do Christmas there, but luckily
11:33
they decided that, like obviously, you know, they're my grandparents are older.
11:37
I think the idea of getting the house ready for guests felt very overwhelming
11:43
to them, understandably so, so luckily for us, they decided to drive
11:48
up here for Christmas. So we will be hosting my grandparents, my dad,
11:54
my stepmom, and maybe a couple of my brothers for Christmas and I'm
11:58
really really looking forward to that and not what happened last year. So if
12:07
you're new around here or if you forgot last year, I had an incredible
12:13
business year and I wanted to celebrate and decided that I wanted to throw this
12:18
really massive New Year's Eve party. And I was inviting like most of my
12:26
family and a ton of my friends. And in my sweet little naive mind,
12:35
I was like, it's cool. You know, everybody likes to have
12:39
a good time. Everybody kind of like I felt like it would be a
12:43
good mesh of people, you know, because you know how sometimes it's like,
12:48
ah, this group is way too conservative, this group is way too
12:50
crazy. It would be weird, it would be awkward. Well, my
12:54
group is just all around crazy, like friends and family mine anyway, They're
12:58
all freaking insane. So I was like, cool, let's just like mix
13:03
us all together. I got a massive salet in the Smoky Mountains. What
13:09
could go wrong? And the answer to that is a lot, a lot
13:15
can go wrong. And it ended up being damn near a nightmare. I
13:20
didn't talk to like several family members for three or four months. I still
13:26
haven't talked to one of my family members. The one that cussed me out.
13:30
Still haven't talked to that one. So yeah, let's just say your
13:37
girl has gone from sweetly naive and optimistic to wise and wary. That's where
13:45
I'm at. So this year we're keeping it low key and moving forward.
13:48
I've decided if I do something like that again, friends and family will remain
13:54
separate. Okay, So that's the Those are my updates. Oh last thing
14:01
that I will update you on is in the last episode I mentioned that I
14:05
was about to launch three different offers. My Managen was just going off last
14:13
week and I was like, Yolo, let's put these offers out there.
14:16
I'm really excited about them all. And they are out and they are on
14:22
presale until the end of the year. So I'm launching I'm just going to
14:26
tell you these really quickly. I'm not even going to give you a description,
14:30
but just so you know if you want to look into them, because
14:33
you definitely want to get the pre sale of these so that you don't have
14:37
to pay full price. So I'm launching two eight week group intensives called Well
14:45
one is called Reinvention, which is like a branding intensive, and then the
14:48
other one is called Freedom which is like a passive revenue intensive group intensive both
14:56
eight weeks and right now on pre sale for over a thousand dollars off of
15:00
each of those, So if you want to learn more, go to my
15:03
Instagram or go to the show notes and you can get the details on that.
15:07
And then I'm also launching this will be in February, but I'm pre
15:11
launching it right now, and it's called real Conversions, so for like Instagram
15:15
reels are eel conversions, so using reels to get max conversions and sales in
15:22
your business. And I'm excited about this because it's not only going to be
15:24
a training but we're also going to do a four week challenge together two so
15:31
that is also on pre sale for like three hundred dollars off right now,
15:33
So if you want to go look into those, go do that link in
15:37
the show notes. Okay, so year in is it year in review or
15:43
year end review, doesn't matter, let's do both. So I titled this
15:50
podcast. I think this is the title we're going to go with anyway that
15:52
I self diagnose myself with stage three mediocrity, and that's just me being haha
16:00
hard on myself. But also I'm just being honest, That's how I feel.
16:06
I'm a little disappointed in how this year went for a few different reasons.
16:12
And I say that not to be hard on myself, even though I
16:17
kind of am, but really just as a way to take full responsibility for
16:23
ultimately what's my job, which is to lead the ship. And there were
16:30
just too many times that I look back and I just see so many areas
16:37
that I compromised with my vision, with my standards, and it showed.
16:45
It showed. It shows in how I feel right now. It showed and
16:51
how I felt many moments throughout the year, and it also shows in my
16:56
results. And I'm gonna be I'm just let me frank with you right now.
17:00
It's kind of weird to talk about this because and this is something that
17:04
I've reflected on a lot this year. It's really interesting being a business coach
17:11
and a podcaster because obviously I would love people to want to work with me,
17:19
right Like, I know what I am doing in so many areas.
17:23
I'm a great coach. I know that I am a fully belief that proof
17:29
is in the pudding with the clients that I work with. And I'm also
17:33
running a business and business ebbs and flows, and thus far my business has
17:38
been like this upward trajectory, which has been really great and really fun to
17:42
talk about. And this year there was a little bit of a dip,
17:45
and there's good reasons for the dip. But it's so interesting when you have
17:51
a podcast because there's a little bit of pressure to glaze over the hard stuff
18:00
and to not really talk about the dips, to not really be honest about
18:07
the things that I would do differently and the things that I did mess up
18:10
and would change because you're like, I think naturally you're worried, or at
18:18
least I was worried that that's going to reflect on whether people want to work
18:22
with me or not. Right Like, if you hear that I've had a
18:26
lower year this year, you'd be like, eh, well, I thought
18:30
I wanted to work with her, but maybe not right Like, that's that's
18:33
definitely a fear of mine. And this really stood out to me because with
18:41
this podcast, I refuse to lie, I refuse to be and I'm not
18:48
saying this to sound good or like to get on to get a pat on
18:52
the back, like this it's going somewhere, like I have somewhere to go
18:55
with this, But like, I will not be that podcaster that that inflates
19:02
how I feel or what I've done or what I'm experiencing to look good,
19:07
to look like a badass, to look like I have it together all the
19:11
time. That's not fair and it's not realistic. And I'm not saying other
19:15
people do that. I actually don't know because I don't listen to other podcasts
19:19
like mine, But I can imagine that there are other people out there business
19:23
coaches that feel the same amount of pressure. And my podcast is a very
19:30
big priority of mine. As a matter of fact, it's my number one
19:33
priority because this is going to be the thing that God willing I retire with
19:41
right. I love it that much. I have big vision. I have
19:42
big plans for the podcast. I have goals to be like one of the
19:45
top business podcasters or entrepreneurship podcasters on the planet. I'm going for it.
19:55
That's something that I truly believe is possible for me, and I want that,
20:02
but not at But like with that, there's got to be a level
20:07
of honesty and yeah, this is just something that's come up for me where
20:14
it feels I don't know, I just can see I guess like I have
20:18
empathy for people who do what I do and podcasts because it does feel weird
20:26
to be honest about these things. The fear is real for sure, that
20:30
it's going to reflect on people's desire to want to work with you and get
20:37
in your programs. But I just decided, you know what, at the
20:40
end of the day, I know that speaking the truth can never steer me
20:47
wrong, right, me speaking my truth, me being honest and painting an
20:51
honest picture for you as somebody who also wants to be an entrepreneur or is
20:55
an entrepreneur, or wants to be a coach or a business owner, I
20:59
know that even if there are short term losses or what looks like short term
21:04
losses in the beginning, by telling the truth, I know at the end
21:07
of the day, I will never be punished by God, by the universe
21:11
for being honest. So I'm fully dedicated to that. So in this podcast,
21:15
I'm just gonna tell you like it freaking is and be real because it's
21:22
just what happened. Okay. It's interesting because as also as I was reflecting
21:29
on how I wanted to share this, you can look at any situation through
21:34
any lens right, I can look at this situation through the lens of here's
21:40
where I've messed up, Here's what could could have been better, Here's where
21:44
I compromised. And I was a little like I just I was a little
21:51
not miss not. I don't know, I was going to use a very
21:55
derogatory term, but I'm gonna I'm gonna lock it up. I can look
22:00
at it through that lens. But then I can also look at it through
22:02
the lens of and here are the things that I did really freaking well,
22:07
And here are the things that I am proud of and the places I didn't
22:11
sacrifice. And there's definitely both, and that's duality, and that's going to
22:15
be every situation ever. So this is why I'm going to tell you,
22:18
Okay, here are the things that I would do differently. Here are the
22:22
things that I would do the same. I'm going to tell you things that
22:23
I definitely messed up on that moving forward, it's a priority of mine to
22:29
shift and to be better about. And I'm going to tell you the things
22:32
that went really well also. Okay, So I think the big thing as
22:37
I was reflecting on this is there was just a lot of compromise there were
22:41
a lot, and I understand why it happened because this year just to like
22:48
zoom out. As I've shared many times, the end of last year was
22:55
a doozy, had a baby, lost my mom, holiday season was freaking
22:59
crazy. So going into this year one, I was going into it very
23:06
slow, very fragile. And one of the things I actually didn't write this
23:12
down, so I'm going to say this right now. One of the things
23:15
that I wish I had done that I did not, and I'm actually very
23:18
disappointed that I didn't do this for myself. I wish I had taken more
23:25
time off for myself. I wish after my mom passed that through the holidays
23:32
or maybe even January, I honored my feelings of needing to rest and just
23:37
needing to regroup, to be with my babies, to just kind of just
23:45
ease in slowly. But I didn't do that because we ended last year.
23:52
You know, last year was my highest revenue year in business, which I'm
23:56
very proud of. But with that, you know, I like, so
24:02
I gained all this momentum last year and then had a baby, lost my
24:06
mom holidays, so there was like this dip and all I wanted to do
24:11
was to control, right. I had lost so much control at the end
24:18
of last year, so I was like, Okay, what's the one thing
24:21
I can control my business. Let's get it. Let's get that momentum back
24:25
up and running. So I hit the ground, running as hard as I
24:30
could. But the issue was is I had just ran a freaking ultra marathon
24:34
the year before and then essentially proverbially like lost a leg at the end and
24:44
tried to like get up and do it again, if that makes sense,
24:47
right, Like I had got the wind knocked out of me, and instead
24:49
of just like regrouping, resting, stretching a little bit, nourishing myself,
24:56
I got back up on the freaking track and started running as hard as I
25:02
could. And what that resulted in was not my best, not my best
25:11
right, And what disappoints me about that decision is, first and foremost,
25:17
what that did for me. It you know, probably wasn't the best.
25:21
Can't go back in time, and like, I'm good now. And two,
25:25
what I was modeling for other people out there, you know, I
25:29
think it would have been really powerful. And I think that that was such
25:33
a beautiful opportunity for me to say yes, I had built all of this
25:38
momentum and I'm so grateful for that, and I know that I can do
25:44
it again, but only when I feel ready. But the messed up part
25:48
about it is in my mind, I kind of manipulated my emotions enough to
25:56
think that I was ready. That's the crazy part. Because I had mentorship
26:02
conversations, I had conversations with Chris, had conversations with other people and business
26:07
owners I really trusted, and all of them were saying the same thing,
26:12
just chill, You're okay, You're good. But my drive and I guess,
26:18
like again reflecting on the situation, had me feeling like, no,
26:26
this is the only thing that I feel like I can control. I feel
26:29
my best when i'm winning, when I'm getting results, when i'm supporting people,
26:34
when i'm creating. So I'm going to get back to that. But
26:40
I just ended up trying to do something big on essentially an empty tank.
26:45
So that's a huge, huge regret of mine, and if I could go
26:48
back in time, I would absolutely do it differently. Another thing that muddies
26:56
the waters a little bit is the fact that I also had really high overhead
27:03
this year, like really really high, and I had really high overhead in
27:07
twenty twenty two, which was fine with an employee, with the mentorship that
27:12
I'm investing in, not to mention everything else that we have going on in
27:18
our life we have, I've really high overhead. So there was a very
27:22
real business owner responsibility to keep things moving. So I've shared before that one
27:34
of my big goals this year was to scale and to create more passive offers
27:42
and more passive revenue. And I started that this year and got a lot
27:48
up and running and it's been great. But if I had done that sooner
27:56
in twenty twenty two, I would have had more of a cushion to feel
28:00
like I could rest, and I just didn't have that in the beginning of
28:03
the year. So on one hand, I am disappointed, But on another
28:07
hand, I have compassion for that version of me because I was doing what
28:14
I needed to do as a business owner, not to mention, had a
28:18
mastermind up and running, I had a membership that I was launching. There
28:23
was a lot going on that I know if I needed to, Like,
28:29
if I had reached out to clients and said I need a breather, I
28:32
need a break, I'm sure most of the people would have understood that,
28:37
but I just didn't. So all that to say that was one thing that
28:44
regret isn't the word. But I would like to think if I had another
28:49
situation that presented itself later on in the future, I would like to think
28:53
that I would handle it differently, hopefully more on the side of self care
29:00
and not hustle. Okay, so definitely compromised there. As I shared in
29:10
the last episode, there were moments that I compromised in my standards too,
29:14
Standards with people that I was working with, and the energy and the I
29:23
guess level of work that I and we can do. I think standards is
29:27
the best word for it. But the standards that I had set that I
29:33
allowed myself just I mean to compromise on for whatever reason, And looking back,
29:41
I can see where that just puts. It just changes the vibe.
29:47
Right when you set a vision for yourself and you're quote all in on it,
29:53
and then you're gonna get tested, right, You're gonna have opportunities to
30:00
to prove how dedicated you are to said vision to what it is that you
30:07
want to create. Right, There's no there's no scenario where you say I'm
30:11
gonna do this thing and then it just boom, it happens and it's all
30:15
simple, and it happens really fast and amazing. One of my favorite sayings
30:18
that my coach says is leaders are bridges, and bridges get tested. And
30:26
there there were many moments last year that I can see where I was being
30:30
tested as a leader, and I didn't exactly pass the vibe check, right.
30:37
I just I wobbled, I went backwards. I didn't hold true to
30:44
what I said that I actually wanted. And again, I could see that
30:48
in many different things, in the offers that I was putting out in some
30:55
in some regard, I was really good about that, actually, and we'll
30:57
talk about that. But the people that I allowed in my life, the
31:04
level of work that I allowed to take place in my business and as part
31:08
of my brand, and how again, how I was showing up as a
31:15
leader of a brand I can I can see where where I definitely was wobbling.
31:22
I don't know how else to say that, so I'll just keep it
31:25
at that, because I could talk about it probably all for a freaking hour.
31:29
I wobbled a lot my self belief as well. That's an area that
31:33
I'm disappointed about and I can say that because I don't like to constantly compare
31:44
me to a later or an earlier version of myself. I don't like to
31:48
constantly compare me the twenty twenty two version of me to twenty twenty three version
31:53
of me, because we are not the same person anymore. There's been so
31:57
much that has changed, and change for the better, for sure, So
32:04
it's not fair to say, well, in twenty twenty two, I did
32:07
this, but I didn't do it in twenty three. I was fucking different.
32:10
Okay, like duh, that's gonna happen. But I can see I
32:16
can definitely see a difference in belief for sure. I don't know what was
32:23
going on this year, but I and this is where I'm self diagnosing myself
32:30
with stage three mediocrity. This is where that's coming from, because I can
32:36
see such a difference in energy, not like literal physical energy, We've already
32:45
talked about that, but in in yeah, in my self belief and what
32:52
I'm doing. I can see where I fort sure kind of got off track
32:57
a little bit and there was just so much more doubt. And I genuinely
33:02
don't know what that was about. It's very bizarre to me. I don't
33:07
know if it was like a little bit of upper limit theory or if it
33:10
just if I genuinely needed a freaking year to darn near a year to recoup
33:22
and get back on track and heal from what happened at the end of twenty
33:28
twenty two, which I'm sure is partly a fair statement. I feel very
33:32
different now than I did for most of the year, So I pray I've
33:37
turned a corner. But like, let me just take you back, okay,
33:42
because this is very important, and this is something that I'm really contemplating
33:47
and feeling into going into twenty twenty four. So at the end of twenty
33:54
twenty one, let me just remind you what happened the end of twenty twenty
34:00
one. I experienced like a pretty big jolt of growth in the fall and
34:06
going into the winter, and that's when I first got in my coaches world.
34:13
So like, I just felt this new level of inspiration and I felt
34:16
this new level like I kind of rebranded and reinvented myself and I was on
34:23
fire right and there was one very powerful pivotal moment where I knew that I
34:32
wanted to be part of my coaches My coach is Melanie and Layer, and
34:37
I wanted to be in her mastermind, but I had inquired about it.
34:40
The investment was more than I could I could have even fathomed paying at the
34:45
time. So in my mind at the time, I was like, I'll
34:47
do that at the end of twenty twenty two. My business will probably be
34:52
ready by then, so at the end in a year, I'll join her
34:55
mastermind. We've all said that, right, We've all put the thing on
34:59
the vision board and say, Okay, in the future, I'm gonna do
35:01
that, which is fine. But there was a moment December twenty twenty three
35:08
or I'm sorry, twenty twenty one, where I was like, or I
35:15
could just decide I'm ready now, Like do I have it or not?
35:19
Do I believe in it or not? Who am I? Who am I
35:22
going to be right now going into a new year? And I made the
35:27
decision, No, I am going to be the person who can carry that
35:35
level of investment in addition to all of the other overhead that I have,
35:38
in addition to the level of lifestyle and all things like, I'm deciding that
35:44
I am that person who can handle and hold and create all of that now,
35:50
screw waiting for a year. I'm gonna do it now. So I
35:54
reached out to my coach. I dropped twenty grand right now then, and
36:00
next thing I knew I was part of this mastermind And that was like going
36:07
into twenty twenty two. That is the energy I brought into it. It
36:09
was so potent, it was so powerful. It was pure self belief,
36:17
pure creation mode, pure just like you know, positive expectancy, speaking things
36:28
into existence. Like that's how I entered twenty twenty two. I got pregnant
36:34
that month, Like in January, I was pregnant. I was creating life.
36:38
That was another thing that was like a thing that tested me because I
36:43
then was worried, like, gosh, are people going to want to work
36:45
with people who are pregnant? I had ever been pregnant as a business owner
36:47
before. How is that going to affect my business? What if I don't
36:51
feel good? And then that was another moment where I just decided. I
36:54
just decided, this is going to be the best thing that ever happens to
37:00
in my business. No matter what happens, it's going to be the best
37:01
thing. I don't know what that means, what that looks like, but
37:06
I'm deciding right now that like this is going to be the best year I
37:10
ever have in business. And that is the energy. It carried me through
37:15
the year. I and you know, to be fair, the facts are,
37:21
I felt freaking amazing. I had so much energy past the first trimester.
37:25
I had so much energy, highly creative, and it just all freaking
37:31
worked. And I kept that level of I'm the one right like that was
37:40
the vibe. I'm the one. I'm creating life, I'm creating an incredible
37:45
business, I'm creating change for my clients, I'm creating a legacy, I'm
37:50
creating a name for myself. And that it just it freaking carried me.
37:55
And then I had a beautiful, healthy baby boy in September and knew that
38:01
things were going to slow down. Lost my mom in October. Wasn't planning
38:07
on that that, you know, and it would just that's when things changed.
38:12
And then when I entered this year, there was I mean, there's
38:16
not been one point this year that I have felt that level of fire and
38:22
self belief and connection to what I'm here to do and what I'm capable of.
38:28
Not one time, not for lack of trying. I'll tell you that,
38:32
but I just I don't know, I don't know. I really think
38:44
if I had to guess, it was because maybe, I mean, there's
38:49
obviously a lot of different factors. Like I said, I'm not the same
38:52
person that I was in twenty twenty two as I am now. There's a
38:54
whole other, whole ass human in our family who is still a baby,
38:59
who's still awaking up at multiple times the night. We're you know, co
39:00
sleeping, nursing the whole nightme, which is beautiful and a blessing and all
39:06
the things, but also definitely affects the vibe and energy levels. You know.
39:15
Obviously it takes time to heal from losing somebody as close that I was
39:22
to my mom and just other things that have happened, you know. So
39:30
that's just a huge I just it's such a clear distinct difference to me that
39:37
I'm I'm taking with me going into the new year, right Like, my
39:45
biggest desire for myself right now is to reconnect to my vision at that level
39:52
like I was in twenty twenty one. I lost that. I again,
39:57
I just something really in interesting happens when in this this is just my experience,
40:02
and I've heard some other people talk about this too, but I'm you
40:07
know, I'm just going to share it from my experience. But when you
40:09
hit these new levels of revenue and success, there is this pressure to keep
40:19
it going and there is this fear that can creep in, and for sure
40:23
crept in for me, where it was like what if, what if you
40:28
don't do it again? What if it goes away? What you know,
40:32
what if whatever? All of the worst case scenarios, and if you're not
40:37
careful, that ends up being the thing that you focus more on versus the
40:43
create, like what are you creating? And I can absolutely say that's something
40:47
that I was guilty of. It was this kind of chase. It was
40:52
like I was chasing a level of results that I had hit before, but
40:59
as a different you know, it's like I had I'm not I'm and I'm
41:08
not probably supposed to do that again, but I was trying to redo it
41:15
because for whatever, you know, whatever reasons, we do that to ourselves.
41:21
So did that for sure? Did that all right? And let's look
41:30
at it through like another lens, you know, And I think that this
41:32
is really important to do it. I do think a hallmark of somebody who
41:43
has great entrepreneur potential or you know, a leader. Hallmark of a leader
41:50
is being able to take responsibility and full ownership of whatever the results in situation
41:57
is okay, and looking at the facts and just being real about it,
42:01
not sugarcoating it, not making excuses. And I also think it's important to
42:08
look at the positives as well, and for all of the what could be
42:13
perceived as quote unquote negative that I just shared, which isn't even y'all,
42:17
I still had an incredible year in business, Like incredible year in business.
42:24
It just didn't look like it was and it wasn't quite as big revenue wise
42:30
as it was in twenty twenty two. So it's like, does that mean
42:36
it's a loss technically, but also still incredible and still something to be proud
42:43
of all things considered. So let's look at the positives. One had an
42:49
incredible year in business, still still in business. This is a lie,
42:52
right, I have a healthy, beautiful baby boy who was not here a
43:02
year ago, right, or he was here a year ago. But like
43:06
you know, in twenty twenty most of twenty toy two, like I could
43:12
end it right there, that is enough to be thankful for and happy about
43:16
like, he is healthy, he is happy. We have like an incredible
43:21
bond. He sleeps with me every single night, and it's been like the
43:24
most beautiful gift I've ever given myself that I didn't even realize I was giving
43:29
myself. The cruise is thriving, Rhett is thriving. Me and Chris are
43:35
doing well besides the tax thing. For the most part, I have beautiful
43:38
relationships with friends like I maintained a really good balance of business and pleasure.
43:46
I had a lot of fun this year. I even though I didn't take
43:51
the break that I think I have the opportunity and could have taken for myself
43:54
at the beginning of the year, I've had and maintained a really good,
44:00
healthy work life balance, which that's definitely my list of things that I would
44:04
do again next year or moving forward. I'm really proud of myself. I
44:08
didn't for the sake of just creating more and earning more money. I didn't
44:15
push myself past the point that I didn't want to be pushed or I didn't
44:19
feel needed to be pushed again just to make money and get another client or
44:25
whatever. So I'm very proud about that. I I've learned so much.
44:35
At the end of the day, too, your business is going to ebb
44:39
and flow no matter what. So I'm just so happy. I just so
44:45
happened. I look at my business through the lens of years, right,
44:49
Like I've been in business for you know, since twenty eighteen, So I
44:52
look at my business in years. So depending on where you zoom in or
44:57
zoom out of your business, you're either in a higher or low. That's
45:00
normal. There's no business that just like goes up straight constantly all the time.
45:07
It just depends on where you're looking. So right now, when you
45:09
zoom into my business, you see that it's a little bit lower than where
45:13
it's been. But who's to say that next year it doesn't double, triple,
45:16
quadruple. Who freaking knows. Who's to say that this year wasn't my
45:21
year slow down to speed up? Who freaking knows. So this is my
45:25
opportunity, and this is so important. Like if you aren't listening to this
45:30
and you resonate with this and you feel like you're experiencing some of the things
45:34
that I'm experiencing, yes, let's be honest about it. Yes, let's
45:37
take notes on the things that we sucked at and that we know we can
45:40
be better, because that's important just as a leader, we need to take
45:45
responsibility and we need to make positive changes in our business. And let's shift
45:52
the narrative to where moving forward, we're still the hero and we're still the
45:59
freaking captain of this ship. Right, We still we're still the one to
46:02
make these things happen, because that is going to dictate what you what we
46:08
create moving forward. So that's what I'm saying. Moving into twenty twenty four,
46:15
You're not gonna catch me being like, uh, last year was men.
46:21
You're dealing with stage three mediocrity. No, no, no, no,
46:24
I'm this is this is my you know, twenty four hours to be
46:30
down in my dumps, which I don't even feel bad about it me just
46:34
being honest. But like, after this conversation, we're done, okay,
46:40
Like it's just like what are we creating? What's going? Right? Like
46:45
where are we going? That's all I care about. Like there's there's no
46:49
rear view mirror after today. This is just what I promised you and I'm
46:53
giving it to you dirty, but moving on, we're looking at it through
47:00
the lens of like okay, and what's happening now and what do we do
47:05
about this? With the level of wisdom and knowledge that we have. I
47:08
worked with some of the most incredible women this year. I Again, one
47:14
of the things that I that I am really happy that I did well was
47:16
maintaining the work life balance that I wanted, not selling all of my time,
47:24
which is one thing that I did wrong in twenty twenty two. Even
47:30
though it resulted in a ton of revenue, I sold all of my time.
47:34
So I'm pretty sure. I did a year end review at the end
47:37
of twenty twenty two and that's one of the things I said, like,
47:39
hey, made a shit ton of money, but I sold all of my
47:43
time and moving forward into the next year won't be doing that. And I
47:47
held true to that. So that being said, the women that I did
47:52
work with I got to really pour into and focus on and connect with,
47:58
and I'm really really happy about that. That's something that went really well.
48:07
Let's see, I've maintained my health and my wellness. I have not stopped.
48:15
I've been really really good even through my pregnancy with ry I worked out
48:19
the whole way through and then once I was ready to get back into it
48:22
after having him. I've been really consistent. I had a trainer for a
48:25
while, a shout out Ali Burke. She came to the house. But
48:30
then I was kind of feeling like I needed to shake it up and switch
48:34
it up a little bit, so I started working out at Burn boot Camp.
48:39
I don't know if you have one of those in your area, but
48:42
I've been working out at Burn since the summer. I don't know, maybe
48:45
like May or June. I can't remember. And it has been a game
48:50
changer. I love it so freaking much. I mean I could spend like
48:55
a whole episode talking about the things that I love, but I'm just gonna
48:59
say I switched to Burn. I've been super consistent. I work out every
49:04
single week, at least three times a week, usually sometimes upwards of five
49:08
or six days a week. So I'm really thankful for that. My health
49:14
has been really good, you know, like the really big important things,
49:20
the things that ultimately matter, are thriving and not I'm I realize not everybody
49:29
can say that, and that's not lost on me, and I'm very fortunate
49:32
and thankful that I can say that to you right now. So that is
49:37
a massive, massive win because I did that right though. It was something
49:40
that I was intentional about and I've maintained and I'm very proud of. So
49:47
please, when you hear me talking about this, please know the level of
49:52
gratitude that I feel for my life in general and my business and my clients
49:57
and everything that's taken place this year is so high and so witch and it's
50:05
just there. Okay, So duality, right, depending on what lens you
50:10
look at any situation. You can look at the good and what went wrong.
50:14
You can look at the bad or the good and what went right and
50:16
the bad and what went wrong and everything in between. So what would I
50:22
do again? There's two things on this list. They're pretty general though,
50:30
what would I do again going into twenty twenty four Things that I will be
50:37
doing that I'm already doing and I will be continuing to do Number one,
50:43
not selling as much of my time. So this was it was a huge
50:49
win for I've had more time on my hands this year than I've had since
50:54
starting my business, and it's been so rewarding. I will say, I
51:00
could definitely have been better managing my time, and I'm reflecting on that,
51:06
and I'm already you know, I already know what I need to do to
51:08
clean that up a little bit, but that was really important to me that
51:15
that I maintained that. And there were a couple of times I kind of
51:17
like went off track a little bit, but I did well, and I'm
51:22
proud of myself and that will continue to move forward. Why because I simply
51:28
have other priorities. Like I said, my number one priority moving forward in
51:32
my business are certain certain coaching containers. For sure, like my business isn't
51:39
going anywhere, because like what would I talk about in the podcast. And
51:43
also I'm obsessed with my business. I'm obsessed with coaching. I'm obsessed with
51:47
the women that I get to work with. But the podcast is definitely a
51:52
higher priority than what it was in the past. So I want to make
51:58
sure that I'm leaving enough space to speak with the type of guests that I
52:02
want to talk to, record the type of episodes. I mentioned in the
52:07
last episode that I want to test out different things, like like different wellness
52:15
practices and different like this sounds so bad, but drugs like DMT, ayahuasca,
52:22
microdosing, mushrooms obviously when I'm not nursing anymore, things like that that
52:28
we're all a little curious about. I want to test it and share my
52:31
experience with you so that you can make an educated decision if you want to
52:36
try it. I want to have fun in ways like that on the podcast,
52:39
So in order to do that, I need to have a certain level
52:44
of time available to be able to do that. So that's going to continue
52:47
moving forward. But the business isn't going anywhere, don't worry. But in
52:52
order to work with me, it's going to be you know, there's only
52:57
going to be a limited amount of options, which is fine. So I'm
53:02
going to continue with that vibe. My membership. Last year was the first
53:08
year twenty twenty. Yeah, this year. This year was the first year
53:15
that I had my membership. I launched it officially in January, or it
53:20
began officially in January, and I was doing it for a year to test
53:23
it out. And I'm in love with my membership, in freaking love so
53:30
much so that we're going to continue doing it for at least another year.
53:36
And now there are two options for the membership because I got a lot of
53:39
requests for different ways to get in, So there are two different price points.
53:45
One you can come in and you can pick out a program each quarter,
53:50
and you get the two live hot seat coaching calls every month, so
53:54
twenty four calls in total with me. That's one option, and the second
54:00
option is all of it, So you get instant access to all of my
54:02
programs, plus the two monthly hot seat coaching calls with everybody else, and
54:07
two one on one calls that can be booked anytime while you're in the membership.
54:13
So I'm very happy about that. If you ever want to talk to
54:15
me about that, just hit me up because the price will continue to increase
54:20
as we add on more programs. And I'm just the level that I get
54:27
to pour into people, the level of value there, and also the women
54:30
that are in the membership are just chef's kiss incredible. So I'm so thankful
54:37
that I launched my membership and that's not going anywhere. So those are the
54:42
two main things I would do again, besides the obvious like continuing to take
54:47
care of myself. You know, I'm just talking about like business type things.
54:52
Those are really the only two things that I'm for sure like those things
54:55
are staying. Obviously, I've already talked about the podcast priority, but I
55:00
would do something differently with the podcasts, So let's talk about that. Now
55:04
Here are the things that I would do differently moving forward. I am not
55:08
going to do a mastermind moving forward in twenty twenty four. Now I might
55:15
if I get an idea, Like I'm a big fan of microminds, right,
55:20
that's what essentially reinvention and freedom are are like eight week micro minds.
55:25
Really love that, but an ongoing, long term, high level mastermind.
55:35
We did that last year. I loved it. It was fantastic, But
55:39
the amount of time that I was pouring into it, it's just it's not
55:45
a match for me right now. Who's to say. I might change my
55:49
mind in June, who knows, But for now, no mastermind. So
55:54
I feel really good and confident about that decision because it allows me to create
55:59
programs, more programs. It allows me to create some specific micro minds and
56:04
mini minds and pour into the membership and continue to pour into the podcast.
56:08
Second thing I would do differently moving forward more podcast So I really would love
56:16
to get back into the groove of putting out two episodes a week. That
56:22
is, like, I don't know, let me know how you felt about
56:25
that, Like, if you hear this and you're close to your phone,
56:28
DM me. Do you like two episodes a week or do you prefer one.
56:32
I feel like a lot of people liked it. It's just obviously there's
56:36
a lot that goes into that. It's more of an investment with my podcast
56:39
team. There's a lot more planning that needs to go into it. But
56:45
I'm down. So if that's something. If you're like, no, I
56:47
really love just being able to have multiple episodes like that excites you to see,
56:54
I'd consider it again. I'm kind of I mean, there's a part
56:58
of me that really wants to do that again, and the way that I
57:01
was doing it last year. I did this for a time last year and
57:05
we did solo episodes on Monday and interviews on Thursday. So I might go
57:12
back to that. But let me know what you think. Damn me on
57:15
Instagram and give me your honest opinion on that, because it might push me
57:20
over the edge either way. So more podcasts regardless, We're have more fun
57:24
on the podcast. We're gonna have some ideas up my sleeve. I want
57:28
to do more in person podcasts. All this requires time, so working on
57:31
it. Third thing that I would change moving forward being slow to hire,
57:38
quick to fire. We've all heard that saying, and I understand that more
57:43
now than ever, not saying I'm not going I'm not gonna be like a
57:45
trigger fire. You know, I'm a loyal person and I'm looking for lifers
57:52
on my team. But I just at ended that I gained so much wisdom
57:59
this year, and there are just so many times that I can look back
58:01
and be like, you know, the writing was on the wall, and
58:04
I chose to ignore it for whatever reason, it doesn't matter, but I
58:07
chose to ignore it. I overrode my standard and I compromised with what it
58:13
was that I said that I wanted and what I was willing to accept ultimately
58:19
in my business. So that's changing. Happy about that. Okay, that's
58:27
the third thing. And then the fourth thing that I have on here that
58:29
I would do differently. This is interesting, okay, but I put on
58:35
here I think I'm feeling following more of a business strategy next year. Shocker.
58:45
And here's the thing. I'm a many gen. I'm like a pure
58:51
many gen, which means I'm a fucking psychopath. I get different ideas all
58:58
the time, and I'm built am made to handle and create more than the
59:04
average person. That's like the hallmark of the many gen is we don't have
59:09
to really follow the standard rules. A lot of other people need more time,
59:15
need more space, need to do things one at a time. Many
59:19
Gen's we are here to be the ones that just blows it up and shows
59:27
people that limits are made to be broken. And you know, we're here
59:30
to really push the envelope on that. And that's me through and through,
59:34
at least when it comes to what I create as a business owner. So
59:38
for the past couple of years, I've been kind of doing this thing where
59:42
it's like I put out what I put out, you know, Like I
59:45
get I get different ideas to launch, I get different ideas for programs,
59:50
and I really follow my intuition on that and I just go with the flow.
59:57
And there are ways that that is I feel like we could do a
1:00:00
whole episode on this, and maybe we will, but there are ways that
1:00:05
that has served me very much for sure, But also especially leading a team
1:00:13
where it hasn't served me because I know what's going on in this crazy head
1:00:17
of mine. But when I have a team and I'm desiring people to have
1:00:22
my back and support me, there's got to be a level of predictability,
1:00:34
and I don't know strategy protocol. I don't know what the word would be,
1:00:40
but like there's got to be something to follow. Otherwise were there can
1:00:46
be no systems in place, it's just a hot ass mess, you know.
1:00:51
So I'm kind of feeling into especially with wanting to manage my time better
1:00:58
so that I can continue to put out what I want to put out my
1:01:00
business. I can continue to put out offers for you and run the podcast
1:01:05
in the way that I ultimately want to run it and grow it. There's
1:01:09
got to be a level of stability and predictability in my business. And I've
1:01:15
tested every way to run a business possible. I've done you know, the
1:01:22
the masterclass launch method, I've launched just whatever the hell I want to launch.
1:01:28
I've done self study only, I've done you know, high ticket only.
1:01:31
I've done it all, and I kind of have a feel for what
1:01:37
I want to do next year, but it's going to take me committing to
1:01:40
it and just deciding that we're we're doing this for X amount of time.
1:01:45
So I haven't decided what that is yet, but I think hiring these one
1:01:52
to two new new people on my team for us to be as effective as
1:01:57
we could be together. I think that's something that I'd like to try out,
1:02:02
and we'll see how that works with my managen mind. We'll see and
1:02:09
I'll keep you posted. But there's a big part of me that's like,
1:02:15
yeah, it's time to not to say if I get inspired, I can't
1:02:20
put out something random. But there needs to be like a baseline, foundational
1:02:25
strategy of something that I follow for the sake of greasing the wheel, so
1:02:34
to speak. You know what I mean. So you're girl, she can
1:02:39
talk, can't. I just start talking and I look down and I've been
1:02:43
doing it for an hour, so I think we've just about covered it.
1:02:47
Ultimately. This was a beautiful year and I'm very proud of it. It
1:02:52
just there are so many things that I know. I know I can be
1:02:57
better. That's just it. Expect more of myself. I believe in myself
1:03:02
more than I allowed my I allowed myself to prove and to show. And
1:03:12
I'm tired of dicking around. You know, this was a good year just
1:03:15
to kind of get back into it, learned a lot, gained a lot
1:03:21
of wisdom, but it's time to turn up the fire again. I'm ready
1:03:27
for that. I'm so ready for that. And I'm claiming right now that
1:03:32
twenty twenty three was my slowdown to speed up year. Even if I didn't
1:03:37
realize it at the time, even if it happened with me kicking and screaming
1:03:42
the entire time, it is what it is. That's what I'm claiming now.
1:03:45
And I look forward to recording this in a year and saying that I
1:03:50
hit multi millions and the podcast is number one on a million charts and all
1:03:54
the things I'm currently speaking into existence. So hold the energy with me.
1:04:01
I am cheering you on. However you feel about your year. You're still
1:04:05
here, You're alive. There's so much opportunity, there's so much potential.
1:04:11
But it's all about how you are going to continue moving forward and the energy
1:04:16
you bring into the new year and what you think and know is possible for
1:04:21
yourself. So if there's any doubt, anything that you need to clean up,
1:04:25
there, clean it up. It is worth every single minute, hour,
1:04:29
day week that you spend on clearing that nasty, old dark energy that
1:04:36
just it's the double is all it is. Clear it out. You are
1:04:42
a child of freaking God. Everything that you've ever envisioned that you want for
1:04:46
yourself. It's there for a reason, otherwise you would not have envisioned it.
1:04:50
But you've got to believe in yourself first. If you won't, why
1:04:54
should anybody else. So do that for yourself, maintain it. We go
1:05:00
this. I love you. Thank you for continuing to listen to me.
1:05:03
Thank you for however long you've been a listener. I'm so thankful for you.
1:05:09
I cannot even tell you. And God willing, we're up for another
1:05:16
very exciting fun year. Oh and last thing that I'll remind you of.
1:05:21
We are still doing the Delulu hat giveaway. So I'm making Delulu hats because
1:05:29
we're all all the best, most successful people, all our little Delulu.
1:05:32
So I'm making Delulu hats. And if you leave us a five, well
1:05:39
I was gonna say a five. Please leave us a fives review on iTunes,
1:05:43
screenshot it, DM me on Instagram, show me that you left the
1:05:46
review, or you can email it to us and we will put you in
1:05:49
a drawing. And we're giving like five or ten hats away once they get
1:05:53
made. Okay, so that's still happening. I love you. I will
1:05:57
see you here next week. Bye.