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Has Registered Nurse (RN) Become a Curse for Marriages In Diaspora? Nigerian Man Cries Out · DidiLawren

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  Hello and welcome back to another episode of Entre
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  the Japan cultural. Now this is not ending anytime
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  soon because there are also problems with people.
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  Migrating with your partner's, there are problems with people
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  going back home to get married. There are also problems with
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  Nigerians missing themselves. Ask for my getting married.
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  Now, the major issues that people are citing now is, which
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  are the men. The men are just whinging and
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  you're gonna die. We didn't want you on social
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  media right now, and I mean, we said men don't talk right now.
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  Yeah, yeah, whinging. So one of the problems that they
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  are saying is that the Mary registered knows all those of
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  them, who was Nigeria, bringing younger people to come here to
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  study and then get qualification as nurses.
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  So yeah. Complain about their wives, they
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  said that this women once they become a nose, they are no
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  longer submissive. Now, this conversation has been
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  going on for a very long time because a lot of people are
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  saying that especially people living in diaspora, they are
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  kind of blacklisting nurses at the moment.
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  I don't even know why, because nothing is not even the highest
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  and it is not even there is any jobs in diaspora I mean, not
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  this make money, don't get me wrong, but because they work
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  long hours, he appears that they are making a whole lot of money
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  but they have to put in the hours to get those money.
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  It's not easy. It's like standing for 12 hours,
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  straight, sometimes, 16 hours, and they have to come back home
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  to also perform their wifely duties.
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  Those who have kids, those who are husband's those who have
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  also extended family that they need to take care of even their
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  immediate knew your parents and all that.
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  So it is not easy. In this league.
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  I think one of the problems that people have or most of the men
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  complain about getting married to losses, or just getting
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  married to Nigeria women in dust for all going to Nigeria to
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  bring with me. I mean, I don't even know how
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  this may want to get married anymore because number one,
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  those ones getting married in diaspora.
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  A complain that this woman had to westernized this women.
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  They don't, they don't want to be submissive.
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  These women are these These women at that.
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  So some of them actually go back home to marry a submissive
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  woman. The idea is that you're going
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  back to Nigeria, guessing these women.
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  There were to call me and be submissive to them.
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  They're going to come here and be the traditional African wife
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  or your Lantern wife. Now, what did they don't
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  understand? Is that okay, the traditional
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  African or Nigerian wife is a homemaker.
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  She is not built or charade to go out there and think of the
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  family, the man who is looking for a traditional wife is
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  supposed to be the one doing all those things.
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  While she's at home, making him sacrificing a career
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  sacrificing, everything that she needs to sacrifice to make sure
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  that the home front is working. Now that is the traditional
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  wife, this man going back. Home to get these women.
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  They don't want any of those. They want somebody who is going
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  to be the traditional wife and on top.
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  Of that go out there work and support the family.
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  So the only traditional bits that they want is a woman who is
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  taking care of you. Who may have basically going to
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  be a homemaker, you willing to sacrifice a lot of things you're
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  going to be there for your husband, you're going to take
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  care of your husband, but at the same time, you're going out
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  there to work. And sometimes even and as much
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  as your husband, because I mean in Nigeria, you have situations
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  where bye. By women and limited to certain
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  things because of just cultural belief.
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  A woman would not want to end higher than a husband so that
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  the husband's ego not be affected.
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  But once you're in diaspora, nobody stopping anybody.
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  You can't even stop are because what you have to say, she's
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  going to leave you. So this man wants the
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  traditional things, but they don't want to provide as the
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  traditional men. And most of them when they go
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  back home to get married, they bring their wives.
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  The most of these people are cabdrivers Muslim people who
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  people are security men. I mean, the thing about that you
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  remain is when they come here because they have a whole lot of
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  responsibility. I give them credit for that.
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  They have to take care of their immediate family, and when they
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  do get married, they have to take care of their wives because
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  they feel that they have to provide us.
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  So, this gives very little room for development this leaves.
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  Very little room for improvements.
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  So let's say, when They call get here, and that entry level job
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  is what most of them gets talking.
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  Maybe they just get maybe one or two, one, two, three of those
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  jobs and that's what they're doing.
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  So when I went back home to get married, to that traditional
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  woman, they are happy to sell kids, you know, first to get by
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  and support because they don't understand that.
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  Let's see, a man living in the house.
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  For our, he is living in a one-bedroom house, he is fine.
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  He's going to be able to pay those bills for once an
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  additional Partner is coming in and there's a possibility.
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  You're going to have children, that changes the dynamic of
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  their marriage, and their finances.
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  So there's a possibility he is going to try to get us to do
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  something, especially those ones are going back.
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  Home to get a woman, who's going to be submissive.
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  So they get these people, they train them, get them in schools,
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  especially, you know, most times nothing to get them to go to
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  school and then they start working now.
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  This is the power. Dynamic is dogs.
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  She's a submissive wife, she's doing everything.
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  She's a homemaker. She's not working.
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  She was going to school and doing all those things.
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  Now she is working. You trained her, all your helped
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  our training to be a registered nurse.
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  She is working 12 hours per day. Sometimes five six days a week
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  and probably any more than you do end because some of these
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  nurses they walked three different agencies and there any
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  more money than me Be the husband who is doing security
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  for husband, who is doing this. So the power Dynamic from the
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  financial aspect changes or not just for even from the physical
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  aspect because if she is working 12 hours per day and she will
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  not be able to be that traditional wife, who is going
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  to come back from work, who is going to?
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  She's been standing all day. She's not going to come back and
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  get into the kitchen. Do all those things.
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  I mean, if you are same, My even allow your wife to do that, they
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  wouldn't you just nothing nice person, you love, you problem.
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  And most of these men have problems because as far as
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  they're concerned, the appearance married was like
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  that. They are mother regardless of
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  whatever she was doing, she was going to get back home to take
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  care of the family, take care of the responsibility for those
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  that make it right, that doesn't make you right now.
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  That was a video, Frozen and social media when this man came
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  out on. And put his wife on blast for
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  ex-wife on blast saying that registered nurses ecause.
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  Listen, I'm just going to play that video for you to understand
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  what we're talking about. This is my story of you.
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  The question I want to ask is has this registered nurse
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  nursing become a curse for Nigerians that live in the
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  United States. Here is my experience.
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  I've only be hearing all these stories of our and becoming
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  Lions after a deadly RN degrees. But it's another ballgame
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  altogether when you actually experience it.
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  Yes, I've experienced this Registered Nursing dies in the
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  United States. This picture showing Marina to
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  Siri was my wife, we actually came from Nigeria together.
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  We have was successful, she successful in hard job and
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  successful also, in my own job. We both make good money.
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  So we had a home together. A home in Southern California,
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  that is worth over the be 1.2 million current value.
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  So sometime in 2021, we decided that we should take equity line
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  of credit. So we took out about two hundred
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  and thirty two thousand US dollars, two hundred and thirty,
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  two thousand US Dollars, we wanted to use this money for our
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  children's education. And, you know, some other things
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  that we need to take care of now as soon as this woman, Maureen,
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  are to save it. Maureen at this area.
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  As soon as this money got into her account this woman now
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  changed. She started spending money about
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  herself telling people that she's the one that really more
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  day and the mortgage, she the one I did it down payment that I
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  don't contribute anything into the leading.
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  Yes, she's decided to spend the money so when I requested for my
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  own share of the money, thanks get got very bad.
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  This woman actually called police on me and told the police
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  that I threatened to kill her. Well, of course, that was a lie.
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  Just so, you know, just like I said, I and my money on the
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  six-figure person and then I contribute 50/50 to the house.
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  But this lady just wanted to frustrate me took our money
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  started spending it and detecting how she wanted to
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  leave. Now, here's my evidence of being
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  taken to jail. So, Sometime, so, she lied to
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  police. If you look at this, this code
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  right here for 22, PC, that is police code that says you
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  threatened in America, you cannot threaten to kill
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  somebody. So, that's the booking number
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  and, and that is with. So they wanted me to appear in
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  court. In Bellflower Judicial District.
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  So that's the booking number. I have to pay out of so, does
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  the bail money right there, but they had to make me pay, I think
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  10% of that. So I paid about 5,000 for me to
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  get out of jail. Well, it's very sad.
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  It's very sad. I don't know, I don't know.
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  How would go to this extent? Well, the story went like this.
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  So you can see the evidence that the case was actually discharged
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  by the district attorney. You can district attorney, you
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  can see that da reject and you know why, they rejected the case
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  because the Discover that this woman lied.
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  Okay, so that the chart number four to two, PC.
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  Okay, saying that I threatened to kill her.
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  So or her efforts is to get me to jail.
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  Now, get me prison so that she can keep the house to herself
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  and then spend the money. I've moved out of the house, I
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  rented an apartment that I'm leaving but I just want to work
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  to see that we Nigerians. Men are going through a lot in
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  the hands of this registered nurses.
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  When you see this woman, please, beware of her morning are to
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  Siri. She's on robo.
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  She is from a bottle. Delta State.
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  She is dangerous. She's fastidious.
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  She actually went telling my children when I were requested,
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  my children come to school and I spend the night in my own
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  apartment. She told them that she should,
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  did you not come to my place? Because I will read them.
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  That was what this woman took my own children.
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  Children that I that I changed her diapers.
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  We're going through a lot. We're going through a lot.
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  I can't say more than this, but the question remained The
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  question remains. Is this our anything?
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  It course for Nigerians you'll be the one to answer that
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  question. Thank you.
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  Now, Justice means a lot of things that Capo's have problem
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  with especially in diaspora are prophecies.
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  Because unlike in Nigeria, when a man buys a house, whether the
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  wife's name is on top of the sea, he he can go to court and
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  claimed everything and he will get away with it wasn't Aspera.
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  As long as that woman's name is that property.
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  That's in common May cling to it it has to be shared 50/50 or
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  based on whatever percentage that if you're married.
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  Has to be 50/50, so there's nothing you can do about it.
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  So, what happens is that, most men, they don't even like buying
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  properties in the abroad. They will say, oh, I want to
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  invest in Nigeria and the reason still rather rains and then
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  invest their money back home. And you find out that 95% of
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  properties or married couples, who buy properties in the
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  abroad. The deposits are always provided
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  by the wife because it will be like, Let me just bring the
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  deposit then you or also as a couple will be paying for the
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  rent that the men are happy to do that because they're like
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  okay I don't have anything to lose and I'm still going to pay
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  rent for when anything happens. They are happy to jump up and
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  say oh I've been paying mortgage while be paying this.
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  What I've been paying that but you are happy to pay rents.
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  So in this case, according to him, he was saying that the
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  woman said or the woman was completely that she was the one
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  that brought the deficit. He did not dispute that.
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  So it's a whole lot of problems where you see people who have
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  different ideologies, who have different, they don't even
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  aligned financially, they don't even a line, like I don't even
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  know how people get married these days because because my
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  Supposed to be a contract. I mean, in the olden days, what
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  I understand is a man, commits a brush price.
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  They said, okay, he is right for marriage and that right.
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  For marriage means that he wants a family of his own.
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  Some of them will tell you. Oh, I cannot be cooking every
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  day. I want a woman's woman who for
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  me or I cannot be clean. This house every day, I went to,
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  we must come and do those things.
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  Now, you are contracted a wife to do.
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  Those things people. People are thinking marriage has
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  changed. Marriage has never.
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  Never changed the fact that you have to pay the right.
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  Price is a contract. The fact that the woman has to
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  give you that dream for you to drink.
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  That is a contract. What we want to make it look as
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  if. Oh, now is just now that
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  marriage is a contract. No marriage has always been a
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  contract. I think when women are asking
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  for is partnership because things have moved from women
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  being the Homemaker and just sitting down the even if it's
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  one cup of carry that demands bring on a daily, Happy to use
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  that on feed the family. All right, now we may not be
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  have equal opportunities, especially, especially women, in
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  the abroad. They can get as much job as you.
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  In fact, they get more opportunities because they are
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  patient. They are happy to go through
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  three years, School tells, even having any financial success.
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  They are happy to go through the router.
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  Men on the other hand, they feel I have to show people that I
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  arrived. I've died have to show, I have
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  to put these in place to make sure that people know that I am
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  living the life with us. They would rather get three for
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  jobs rather than actually improve themselves.
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  So, you find out that most of the times, it is the women that
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  go to school, your qualification, get better jobs.
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  So you see two people married whether our mango in went back
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  home to get that woman to bring her over whether he was
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  revealing each to bring her. Once she gets here and get some
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  new people and get information and your back to school in the
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  next three, four years, you find out that power Dynamic has
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  changed. The financial Dynamic has
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  changed, even the thinking of the two of them has changed now.
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  This man is thinking I went to the Village to marry this
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  submissive wife and now she has even she met with the single the
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  always dancing group. Are the only has a single
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  mothers. I said oh she was mingling one
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  single mother and single mother corrupted her mind.
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  No they did. It is you that is in his system
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  that you should have adjusted your mindset your way of
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  thinking. If you want to be successful,
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  you have to know that there are certain steps that you need to
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  take. It's all about building houses
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  in the village. It's not about understand people
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  are taking loans walking for her new friend.
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  He let me know that he went back home.
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  For Christmas. And he saw that most of his
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  friends were doing better than in way better than he was doing
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  what he did was, he came back with so many loans.
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  Credit card was working seven days a week because he just
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  dropped out of circulation. People wonder what is going on
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  with this person. Why we are seeing him anymore.
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  He's bossy laughter, a beauty. He goes swimming.
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  He go seemed dead, like, neck-deep in debt just to prove
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  P points back home, too. Just to prove a point.
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  So, you see that kind of person is going to take him every 10-15
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  years, even if he wants to improve his life, he cannot do
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  that because of the credit card, that he has to pay because of
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  the loans that he has to pay and back home.
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  They're looking at him like this successful person or he is
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  leaving neck-deep in debt. Now that person was back home to
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  say okay let me get married. I need somebody to be here with
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  me to help me with all this death and loan people.
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  To get married to younger women who they feel would be success.
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  Submissive to them, they get them here and put them in
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  school, you know, after certain period, you can go to school
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  with loans and these women while bearing children while taking
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  care of their husbands. While making the home, they are
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  going to school and getting these qualifications.
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  And when they are qualified for these things, these men still
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  want to control them. You see want to control the
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  finances, they see want to say, okay?
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  Hey, You feel? You are ending all this money
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  now. Come on, give me so that will
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  pay off this team and that my house is is the rooftop.
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  I just want to put some roof on a roof the house and what they
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  want you to read the word, these women to bring that money to use
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  for their own benefit. Not knowing how can this is an
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  individual. This is a person with their
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  dreams, their struggle to get this money.
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  They struggle, they are not only is not meant for your projects,
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  your money is meant for whatever it is.
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  Happy to enjoy new in that project fine for most of the
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  times. These women are no happy to do
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  that which caused friction. So Nigerian men are lamenting.
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  You're saying that I brought women are horrible.
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  Now, I'm going back to Nigeria to get his wife.
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  Those wants to come here to become Tyga's.
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  So what are what do you guys want?
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  That is the question. I want to ask them what do men
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  want? Especially men in the Aspera.
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  Some of the nursing that they don't want to bring their
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  Writing rather go back home, get married and leave your family
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  back home and then be sending money.
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  Today be visiting them once a year and these are the same
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  people that will come online and complain about paternity that
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  the women are giving them children, that does not belong
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  to them. You're going back home for two,
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  three weeks. I respect that must be pregnant.
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  Carrying your child, and then you next, two years, your way
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  back onto like, what do they want?
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  I think that should be the question instead of this man
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  asking if I rain is a course, the question should be, what do
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  this new generation of men wants?
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  So if you know this answer, let us know in the comment section
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  because honestly, I am confused. So let me know in the comment
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  section. If you're a man and you know
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  what man wants, what men want us of marriage is more than the
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  marriage. If you will see one submission
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  and go to the village with Marwan woman, then don't bring
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  her to one, go to school, go to nursing school, and then you
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  expect an answer number. You have money, I give to you.
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  That is not No submission, she will not be.
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  Submissive you have a better chance, Mary knows who is really
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  in this country or wherever you are and they understand, then
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  you can see that because those ones who sit down and have it
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  proper conversation with you. If they are the traditional
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  type, you guys will have that conversation and understanding
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  before we get into it. But I think that conversation is
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  what most people don't want to have you just want to get
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  somebody that is naive and the Make me feel.
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  They can control. This is why they're having
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  problems. So thank you very much for
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