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143. Celebrations · The Shift Podcast

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  Welcome to Frontline Static, we will get to hear interviews with
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  some of my clients journeys of getting into flight and how they
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  utilize coaching to help them create success of getting hired
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  with less confusion and more ease.
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  Make your dream a reality of getting into flight.
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  Listen in as you hear some of the stories of the people
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  getting there and come join the flight prep group.
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  Hey you guys, welcome to podcast episode 143 titled Celebrations
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  Today. I felt like it was really
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  fitting to talk to you about something that we do inside of
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  my programs and pretty frequently with my one-on-one
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  clients too. We always start every call with
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  what are some wins updates? What are some things that you're
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  proud of? This is something that I've been
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  trying to practice in my life in the last year.
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  Yeah, I think it's really easy to become the person who beats
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  themselves up, and I spent a lot of time doing this, and I can
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  still kind of go in and out of my own thoughts.
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  It's really easy to be kind to other people, but being kind to
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  ourselves, especially in moments that are really tough, can be
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  hard. And this is something that I
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  have actually been practicing on a regular basis that if in any
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  moment I'm feeling down or I'm experiencing a lot of
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  disappointment or I can just feel myself being really low for
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  the day, I talk about what I'm really proud of.
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  And this is just like kind of another way of saying what
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  you're grateful for. And sometimes gratitude isn't
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  easy for me to get to. And so sometimes I just have to
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  think about what are some things that I'm really proud of.
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  I spent the earlier half of today doing a photo shoot for
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  something that's going to be coming out soon for you guys, a
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  new offer. And I'm not ready to share that
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  with you guys yet, but it is coming soon.
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  And I'm just really excited to share this with you and bring it
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  to you guys. And so that's why I really
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  thought that today was a good episode to talk about
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  celebrations. Doing this fold photo shoot was
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  kind of a culmination of where I've come in my identity as a
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  coach in the last four years of running my coaching program.
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  And I just remember timid little me going from being a nurse for
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  so long, doing flight nursing for almost 7 years, and then
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  really knowing that I had this deep desire to grow a business
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  to help more people who wanted to get in flight and just give
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  them to the tools of life coaching that I had learned
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  through the Life Coach school when I was certified.
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  And I remember the extreme amount of fear, just fear of am
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  I making the right decision for my family?
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  I'm carrying this financial decision of making really good
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  money as a flight nurse. And now really, you know, I had
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  several one-on-one clients at the time and I think it was
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  already running groups as well. And so income was coming in, but
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  it wasn't nearly as close as what I was making as a flight
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  nurse. And so this was a big time in my
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  life where I had to take a leap into an identity that I wasn't
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  yet And, and, and financially, you know, the pressure that came
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  along with it. And I really, in that moment,
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  decided to step into the next version of where I wanted to be
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  in five years because I thought to myself, in five years, what
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  do I want to look back and be so proud of?
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  And I knew my oldest was getting ready to graduate and my twins
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  weren't that far behind. And I really wanted to spend
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  some of their last high school years really getting the
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  opportunity to go to all of their swim meets, their water
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  polo games, and just spend more time with them before I knew
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  ultimately they were going to be moving out of the house.
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  And so I knew I wanted to create this life.
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  And I could just feel this pole in this direction to really
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  coach people and then specifically nurses and medics
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  who wanted to get to this flight goal, really help mentor them
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  and support them and getting to their goals and dreams.
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  And so this was a big leap and I felt myself step into who I
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  wanted to be 4 years ago now and everything that I wanted to
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  create four years ago for my five year future.
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  Back then when I left, I mean, I guess I left flight.
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  It's only been two years since I left flight full time because I
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  was still, I started my, my life coaching business while I was
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  still flying, went part time then per DM and then left
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  totally. But it's only been two years
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  since I left full time. And I remember thinking about
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  where do I want to be in five years?
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  And I am already that person in two.
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  And I'm just so proud of taking a chance on myself and saying,
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  hey, I'm not that person yet, but this is who I want to be.
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  This is what I want and this is where I want to go.
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  And so I want, it's been like a pivotal realization for me doing
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  this photo shoot today, getting ready to, you know, bring out a
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  new offer to you guys and just step into my next version of me
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  to have cut that timeline of where I wanted to be two years
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  ago. I wanted to be who I wanted to
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  be in five years to only two. And now I'm starting to think,
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  who do I want to be in the next 10 years?
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  And I really think that this new offer is going to represent
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  where I'm going. And I just want to offer you
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  guys to do the same, to feel the inspiration of being able to
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  allow yourself to be proud, to step into the next version of
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  yourself, to step into your next identity with, with fear, with
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  doubt, with hopefulness, with desire and motivation.
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  And I just want to offer you guys, it's going to start with
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  what you're proud of now. And that's why you know, I can
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  so easily be pulled from the future that I'm going to, not
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  from the fact that I think it's going to be better in the
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  future. It's not better once I get
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  there. It's just allowing myself to ask
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  myself what I deeply desire, but then also feel proud of where
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  I've come from, where I am now, and where I am going.
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  And I want to invite you guys to do the same.
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  I want to invite you guys to be pulled from your future, to
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  think about where you want to be, what you want to do, the
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  identity you want to be, your goals, your dreams, your deepest
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  desires. What highly motivates you when
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  you can think about having anything that you want.
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  What would that look like, even if it's different from you now
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  and to really be pulled from the future that you want to become
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  because it's possible and you can do it.
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  And, and, and the, and the more you can latch onto that
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  identity, the quicker you're going to get there.
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  And I really do believe that when I set the goal to be this
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  life coach with 100 clients in one program, when I set that
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  goal two years ago for five years in my future, the reason
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  why I've gotten here before the five years is because I've
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  adapted that identity quicker. And a couple things that I want
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  to offer you guys that might be helpful in your journey too, is
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  what's helped me along that way, along with like celebrating and
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  allowing myself to feel proud, is also learning to embrace my
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  weaknesses. Learning to say, hey, this is
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  what I'm really weak at. Hey, I've never been a life
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  coach before. I've never created programs
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  before. I'm going to be weak at it.
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  And then also loving my strengths and the parts of me
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  that I really hold dear, the parts of me that I feel like I'm
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  so proud of. And for me, it comes down to my
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  values. It comes down to integrity,
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  transparency, loyalty. I think these are all things
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  that made me a really good flight nurse and a really good
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  nurse. And these are the things that I
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  really dug deep into for my programs and for the people that
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  I'm helping. And for you guys who are
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  listening to this podcast, that's really, I leaned into my
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  strengths and then also embraced my weaknesses and has extreme
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  compassion for them. I also want to offer you don't
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  be afraid to get really clear about what those are.
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  I think when I could stare my weaknesses in the face, both as
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  a nurse and as a life coach, it made me understand like, yes,
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  these are my weaknesses. Some of the things might always
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  be my weakness and it's OK. Like there's just things I'm not
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  good at. There's things that I may never
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  get good at and then there's things that I can continue to
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  strive to be better at, but getting clear about what those
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  are and also being OK with them I think is really key to
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  stepping into the future. You.
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  One thing that I want to acknowledge as well is that you
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  have to be willing to go first. I got a lot of Flack from really
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  leaving nursing in general, especially a high paying job and
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  one that I had been working my whole nursing career to get to
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  and one that I deeply enjoyed. You know, I really left that
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  career before I felt like I was ready and I was just really
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  pulled by my future self telling me that was a leap I needed to
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  make when I was doing it. What I kept equating it to was I
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  don't know, I was thinking like a a coach or like a pro athletic
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  coach, whereas like sometimes they sometimes people are
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  playing it like, let's just say the NFL, like high athletic in
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  the NFL athletes and they get injured and that's what takes
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  them out. And sometimes they leave out
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  with a bang and they leave because they're on the top of
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  their game and then they retire. And that's really how I wanted
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  to go out in flight. I wanted to go out with a bang,
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  wanting to go out really still loving the job and helping
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  increase the desire and motivation for other people to
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  get there and go out on my own terms.
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  Even when I didn't feel ready because of the future, I was
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  pulled by and that took a lot of what's the word I'm looking for
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  trust in myself and also being willing to be the leader and go
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  1st and listen to my desire. Even though I had fear, even
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  though I had doubt, even though I felt imposter syndrome to step
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  into this life coach role and even when the people that I
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  thought would come with me didn't necessarily believe in
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  me, I held that belief for them. Another thing that I'm really
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  proud of and I hope that like these things examples I give you
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  give you examples in your life is I now can look back my my
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  oldest is going to be 20 on Sunday and my twins are going to
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  be 18. They all three had the same
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  birthday. My twins were born on my oldest
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  birthday. And so it's just really neat to
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  be able to to have them all celebrate on the same day while
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  it is also exhausting. But I just remember how hard it
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  was going through nursing school with three kids under the age of
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  two. My oldest was 2.
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  I just had my twins. I think they were like 5 months
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  old when I started nursing school.
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  I worked full time in the ICU and then I went to nursing
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  school the other four days in didactics and clinicals.
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  And then as soon as I graduated nursing school, my very first
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  day on the ICU as a new grad, I found out I was pregnant with my
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  4th, surprisingly. And I just look back on that
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  time and I am just so proud, so proud of getting through the
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  hard time acknowledging, like for some of you guys, I know you
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  know, this nursing school is the hardest time.
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  It's like the hardest that you've ever worked.
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  And I'm just so proud of myself for taking the initiative to
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  say, nursing is what I want and I'm going to get through it and
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  I'm going to do it. And it's not going to be easy,
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  but I can do the hard. And I think that moment really
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  helped me grow my capacity to do hard things and, and really
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  propelled me into who I who I became as a critical care nurse
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  and eventually who I became as a flight nurse because I allowed
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  I, I wasn't afraid of the hard. I didn't shy away from it.
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  I just allowed myself to tell myself I could do it and that I
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  would figure it out. I allowed myself to want to work
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  and get to my dream of flight. I get asked all the time how was
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  it having kids, young kids and working full time and doing
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  flight and working 24 hour shifts and to me honestly it was
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  the best ride ever. I felt like it was so important
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  to me for my kids to see an example of their parent really
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  going for their goals and dreams.
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  Really knowing that it's and showing them there is a
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  struggle. It's not easy, but showing them
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  and giving them examples of if, if whatever you want, even if
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  it's hard, you can do it and you can do it together as a family
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  and as a team. And honestly, there were hard
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  moments, but I always, I didn't put the pressure of having
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  children on myself. Like people ask me that.
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  I'm like, I'm, what do you mean? I'm like, nursing was the best
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  job ever. I had four days off when I
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  worked in the hospital, only worked three days.
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  I worked nights, so I was still home during the day when I
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  needed to be. I was tired, but that was OK.
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  And then when I went into flight nursing, 24 hour shifts was a
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  dream for me because I went from working 12 hour shifts in the
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  hospital to 7 to 824 hour shifts a month.
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  And then I also had five days off in a row.
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  So I really felt like it was my opportunity to be it like almost
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  a full time stay at home mom really with the five days off in
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  a row and I could help out in my kids class and still have a full
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  time job and one that I really loved going to.
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  And it was just a good outlet, too, from me being outside a mom
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  of four to really doing something that I love.
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  And I think that's so important to portray to your kids.
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  Now that I'm going to have three adult kids, I really tell them,
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  you know what, go after what you love.
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  Maybe it's not school, maybe it's not the standardized way of
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  doing things. Maybe it's entrepreneurship, but
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  go after the thing that you love because I promise you it's going
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  to be worth it. And so I think it's because I've
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  always been able to have like just the greatest thoughts about
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  what's it like to raise a family and be the example of going
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  after your goals and your dreams.
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  And we just always made it work and it was fun.
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  And I included my kids and a lot of the flight stuff.
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  They got to visit me on the base and see the helicopter.
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  And it was just so cool to integrate my dream and love and
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  both being a mom at the same time.
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  And I just wanted to offer you guys the same thing.
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  I think it really matters to go first.
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  I think it really matters to show your children and your
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  family examples of what it's like to follow what you want and
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  what you deeply desire. I think it's really important to
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  allow yourself to dream big. And I also think it's important
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  to show your kids the example of the hardship, the joy, the love
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  of getting to what you want and, and, and that it's all worth it.
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  Because life isn't always easy. Even if you do take the easy
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  route, even if you do stay comfortable and you don't go
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  after the big dream, it's still not easy.
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  It's even harder because then you feel stuck and then you tell
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  yourself I should be doing more and you probably should be
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  because you're not working towards your goals and your
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  dreams and you're telling yourself it's going to be
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  harder. But I just want to offer you
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  guys it is harder to stay where you are and to feel stuck and to
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  work in a department that you don't like.
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  And I want to encourage you guys as you're dreaming big to have
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  fun with this part. This is where you get to create
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  and give yourself permission to do it exactly how you want to do
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  it. And remember, nothing is the
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  wrong way. You don't have to be the A
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  student, just really take time. If you could like take a moment
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  and just say, if I could have any job in the world, if I could
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  do anything in the world, what would that be?
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  And really taking time to acknowledge that this is what I
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  did the last six months and this is the offer that I'm going to
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  be creating that has come from this.
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  And so I'm really excited to be sharing this with you guys soon.
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  And I want you guys to know that it doesn't have to feel good
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  while you're jumping into the next level of yourself or while
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  you're switching identities. You just have to feel aligned
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  with your purpose. Immediately.
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  When I decided to create this new offer for you guys, lots of
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  fear came up and I thought, am I ready?
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  Do people want this? And I just just feel so aligned
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  with my purpose. I feel so aligned with this is
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  what's needed right now in the world and it's going to feel
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  feel hard and I know I'm going to have fear, but I also want to
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  encourage you guys because I know this for myself and I know
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  this for you guys too. We can do hard if you can get
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  through nursing school, if you can get through healthcare, if
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  you can see and do the things that we do, you know, hard and
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  hard is where we grow. Hard is where we find out what
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  we're made of. Hard is where we grow our
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  capability and our capacity, and I think there's an opportunity
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  to get to your goals and to flight without the pressure.
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  I think one of the big reasons I got to flight in the way that I
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  did and how I was able to do it with so much love and
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  compassion, being a mom and with my family and not feeling guilty
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  about it, is because I didn't allow myself to have the
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  pressure of I need to get there. I got to make the money.
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  I got to do the thing. I got to get to the dream.
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  I told myself, I know I'm going to get there.
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  I want this for me and I want this for my kids.
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  And when I get there, I am going to help other people get there.
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  And so taking sometimes I think we have to remember, let's take
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  the pressure off ourselves. And the pressure starts with how
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  are we talking about our dreams? How are we talking about our
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  goals? Are we ready to talk about them
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  in a loving way that drops the pressure?
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  It's like the example of saying I need to do this versus like I
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  deeply desire to do this. And that's what I've been
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  telling myself the last six months as I've gone back and
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  forth of like, am I ready to integrate in a new offer?
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  I've always been a flight coach for the last four years.
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  Am I ready to integrate something else in?
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  And I really am pulled my my desire and this really big
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  motivation to fill this need in this world.
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  And I'm thinking about the next version of me now.
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  I'm thinking about where who do I want to be?
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  What's identity that I want to be in the next 10 years?
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  And it's scary creating it all over again.
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  And I'm really just working on believing in her and acting like
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  her every day. And it feels like right now,
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  it's hard. It feels like it's put, I'm
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  putting in a lot of effort to be her.
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  But I know the more I do that, that one day it will just click
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  and it'll be easy for me to step into her before I have achieved
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  her. And this is how you get to your
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  goals ahead of time. This is how you level up into
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  your next identity before the five years and two years like I
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  did before you become here. You don't have to feel ready.
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  You don't have to feel confident.
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  In fact, it feels scary, but so does staying in the same place,
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  especially when you know you are ready.
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  And I just really want to again, say loving ourselves, being
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  proud of our goal, connecting to what we truly want, releasing
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  the pressure is available to us. And this comes from the person
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  who puts a lot of pressure on herself.
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  I'm just like learning to talk to myself different without the
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  pressure, with just so much love and compassion.
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  And I just want to offer you guys, if you knew you were going
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  to get there no matter what, would you want to do it with
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  high levels of pressure or with love?
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  And that's a question I continue to ask myself.
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  And what I tell myself is I have a choice and I give myself
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  permission to do it with love and to feel proud.
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  And I'm going to invite you guys to do the same this year as we
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  work hard, as we level up, as we step into who we want to be
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  ahead of time. I am in it with you guys.
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  And you guys can follow along with me and feel my drive as I'm
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  working towards it. And I just want to invite you
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  guys to do the same. Celebrate, be proud of yourself,
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  where you are, where you've come from, and where you're going.
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  And on the day that this drops, we are going to be doing the
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  Flight Prep Academy preview calls the following week.
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  It's going to be Monday, February 9th, Wednesday,
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  February 11th, and Thursday, February 12th.
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  On each of those calls, you are going to get an insight of what
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  it's like to be on a weekly calls inside the Flight Prep
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  Academy and there's going to be a small teaching portion at the
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  beginning and then you're going to get the opportunity to see
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  what coaching is like. People from the Flight Prep
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  Academy are going to join us. You're going to watch them get
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  coached and anyone can come on and get coaching on their flight
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  plan as well. My goal for you is that you
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  create deep desire and motivation to just go for this
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  goal, that you get to see what it's like to be a member inside
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  the flight Prep Academy, get the support, get the community and
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  be on these calls. I'm going to put the link inside
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  this preview for or inside the show notes for the podcast.
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  Just click on the link. You can register for the days.
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  You can come to all three of them or just come to one or just
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  come to what works for you. But if you know flight is your
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  goal, these are the calls that you want to preview and get on
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  and follow along this year because I in the next couple
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  months, I'm going to tell you about my new offer and I'm
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  really excited to share it with you guys.
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  So make sure you join my e-mail list too and be on it so that
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  you're the first to know. All right, you guys, that's it
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  for this week. I will talk with all you guys
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  next week. Bye.
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  I hope to see all of you guys inside.