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Episode #271: Offering Support Without Taking Over · Tea Time w/Amie & Bev

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  Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, welcome to tea time with Damien bed. What's up, sister.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: It seems like the month of transitions. It seems like
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  Speaker 3: the last few months it's transitions. Yeah, and then we're
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  Speaker 3: on a full moon, right, we have a full moon
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  Speaker 3: coming up tomorrow tomorrow.
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  Speaker 2: I was listening to a guy.
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  Speaker 3: He was it was an older guy, and I don't
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  Speaker 3: It was on TikTok, so you know it's freaking factual true.
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  Speaker 3: But I will tell you that he was talking about
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  Speaker 3: that we receive information about three hours actually before the
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  Speaker 3: full moon, that we download information. So how valuable and
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  Speaker 3: important it is to put out your water, which.
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  Speaker 2: I like to do. I like to have.
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  Speaker 3: I have blue bottles because I love blue blasts, but
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  Speaker 3: I like to put it out the under the sun
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  Speaker 3: and go through the moon cycles and stuff too, and
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  Speaker 3: then I'll drink it after it's been out for a
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  Speaker 3: few days so it's all charged zip And I know
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  Speaker 3: it's the difference. So I was preparing my water when
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  Speaker 3: you sent me the message. Otherwise I would have been
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  Speaker 3: on here earlier in preparation. And it's like, if it's
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  Speaker 3: true or not true, well, I guess that's whatever.
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  Speaker 2: I decide to believe.
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  Speaker 3: So if I want to believe and set my intentions
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  Speaker 3: that's the way it is, then that's the way it is.
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  Speaker 3: It's so funny because I didn't have any idea what
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  Speaker 3: we're going to be talking about. I'm like, I don't
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  Speaker 3: know because I have I feel like I'm so far
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  Speaker 3: from spirituality lately.
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  Speaker 1: That's are you in your jacked up stage?
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  Speaker 4: I am.
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  Speaker 3: I'm in my spiritually jacked phase, you know, going through
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  Speaker 3: the processes.
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  Speaker 4: Yep.
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  Speaker 3: That's my brain grandkids for like the last eleven days,
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  Speaker 3: and so it's been let me tell you something, let
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  Speaker 3: me tell you something, good girl. I you know, it's
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  Speaker 3: funny that it's so easy to think that because I've
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  Speaker 3: raised kids that I have all the answers. I never
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  Speaker 3: thought that I had all the answers, but I felt like, well,
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  Speaker 3: if they would do this or do that, do that,
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  Speaker 3: and it's like they're doing the best they can, honestly
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  Speaker 3: and recognizing it's not my job to fix It's not.
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  Speaker 2: There nothing wrong that I need to fix anything.
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  Speaker 3: The one things that I think are wrong that I
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  Speaker 3: need to fix are things that maybe I experienced that
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  Speaker 3: I felt was wrong. And so that's an inside job.
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  Speaker 2: It's not. It's not my kids and my grandkids. It's not.
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  Speaker 3: They're doing the best they possibly can. I don't know
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  Speaker 3: how they do. I don't even know how they do.
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  Speaker 3: What they do right now is like after having the
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  Speaker 3: kids is like, good lord, you can't fold close that
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  Speaker 3: little boy, the youngest one, is like he's out there
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  Speaker 3: unfolding everything as you fold it.
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  Speaker 2: You're trying to cook dinner.
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  Speaker 3: He's climbing over the baby gate to get into the kitchen,
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  Speaker 3: like he is freaking fast. And so it's like it's
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  Speaker 3: it's awesome and also recognizing like putting one down, then
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  Speaker 3: the other one had to wait till you could lay
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  Speaker 3: them down too.
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  Speaker 2: So it was like it was a process and it
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  Speaker 2: was extended.
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  Speaker 3: It was late nights every single night, getting up at
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  Speaker 3: you know, going to bed around eleven twelve, and then.
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  Speaker 2: Getting up early, you know, because that's just the way
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  Speaker 2: it was.
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  Speaker 3: So it's I have learned a lot in the last
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  Speaker 3: few weeks, but the biggest thing I will take out
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  Speaker 3: of is my kids are doing the best they can.
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  Speaker 2: They could always use more help.
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  Speaker 3: Honestly, I think that we're recognizing that, we could recognize
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  Speaker 3: that for our families not to think that we have
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  Speaker 3: to go in and fix it or be judgmental about anything,
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  Speaker 3: because that's not what our jobs are. We're guides, that's
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  Speaker 3: all that's we'd guide, that is it. It is not
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  Speaker 3: my job to go in and fix what I think
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  Speaker 3: is could be different. It's functional for how the kids
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  Speaker 3: are and and then their in their lives and that chaos.
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  Speaker 2: But I also recognize that's not my chaos anymore. It's
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  Speaker 2: not something I want as my chaos.
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  Speaker 4: Right, and and it would be uh, instead of just assuming.
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  Speaker 1: That you know what they need or.
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  Speaker 4: Thinking you have the answer or you know how to
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  Speaker 4: do it better or anything, is like just simply ask, hey,
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  Speaker 4: where do you need help? How can I help you?
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  Speaker 4: Because their idea of help may be completely on the
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  Speaker 4: other side of the spectrum of what you think it
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  Speaker 4: is as an observer, Yes, and so yeah, asking the questions,
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  Speaker 4: getting the input, getting the feedback. Where do how can
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  Speaker 4: I help you? Where do you need help? What can
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  Speaker 4: I do to help your life be a little easier
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  Speaker 4: because I see there's a lot going on here.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, but because they're busy, you know, you know, trying
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  Speaker 3: to not have daycare, babysitters and all that stuff so
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  Speaker 3: that they're all working together the best they can and
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  Speaker 3: trying to make things work. And it's like I see it.
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  Speaker 3: I see the manipulation from the littles. Yeah, I mean
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  Speaker 3: I see a.
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  Speaker 2: Lot of stuff. But it's again, it's that my stuff.
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  Speaker 3: That's their family dynamics, that's how they get their needs met.
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  Speaker 2: It's not it's not even for me to judge in it.
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  Speaker 3: That's been a huge thing for me, and it's and
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  Speaker 3: also appreciating my own downtime and how valuable it is
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  Speaker 3: there your downtime when you have littles. It's so easy
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  Speaker 3: to think that because we used to always say, you know,
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  Speaker 3: take the time, find take a breath or whatever, but
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  Speaker 3: sometimes you don't even have that. You get a kid
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  Speaker 3: arching into the bathroom while you're in the bathroom, or
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  Speaker 3: you don't have time to yourself to take a shower.
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  Speaker 3: So it's like recognizing all those things. But it's like
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  Speaker 3: then it's taken advantage of that time that you when
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  Speaker 3: you're at work and you can take a breath, or
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  Speaker 3: when you're driving that you can breathe easy, or it's
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  Speaker 3: finding the little times that you can And I don't
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  Speaker 3: know what that looks like for someone with an active
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  Speaker 3: life style like that, and honestly, I don't want to
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  Speaker 3: know what it looks like they've got. Our jobs are
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  Speaker 3: to lead them back home, to guide them back into themselves.
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  Speaker 2: That's it.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, And that goes for everybody, and I gotta do
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  Speaker 3: it for me first, and so that's what that's what
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  Speaker 3: I've been doing.
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  Speaker 4: The last few months nice at a at a coaching client,
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  Speaker 4: and that was one of the things. She lives with
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  Speaker 4: her daughter, and her daughter is a talker, and so
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  Speaker 4: when after working all day long, the daughter's an adult
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  Speaker 4: has a child as well, so they all live together.
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  Speaker 4: But the mom, it was like, you knows, you know,
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  Speaker 4: I work all day, I'm taxing my brain on all
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  Speaker 4: these things I'm learning, and I'm struggling with it and
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  Speaker 4: you know, in certain ways.
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  Speaker 1: And then I.
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  Speaker 4: Get home and she just wants to talk and talk
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  Speaker 4: and talk and talk and talk and and well, in
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  Speaker 4: that is she has a fifty minute drive home, and
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  Speaker 4: I said, what do you do on your drive home?
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  Speaker 4: And she's, well, I'm listening to a podcast where I'm
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  Speaker 4: listening to you. I said, okay, maybe that fifty minutes
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  Speaker 4: in your vehicle is your time to decompress on your
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  Speaker 4: way home, breathe, enjoy the quiet, you know, and then
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  Speaker 4: you're kind of ready. You already know she's going to
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  Speaker 4: be a talker when you get there. She wants she's
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  Speaker 4: excited about sharing her day, so you can mentally prepare yourself,
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  Speaker 4: as you know, to walk in the door and know
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  Speaker 4: she's gonna just start talking. And she started practicing as
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  Speaker 4: she's like, Wow, what a difference. So, yeah, life just
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  Speaker 4: be when you're sitting on the toilet that you take
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  Speaker 4: three deep breaths and that's all you have. But how
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  Speaker 4: many times a day do you go to the bathroom, Yeah, exactly,
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  Speaker 4: or you're you have to go to the grocery store.
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  Speaker 4: Just take a moment and take a few deep breaths
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  Speaker 4: while you're sitting in the parking lot or ile who cares.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah one.
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  Speaker 3: And the thing on the other side of that is,
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  Speaker 3: we don't know how long that person's going to be here.
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  Speaker 3: So sometimes on a soul level, I feel like and
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  Speaker 3: it makes me feel emotional. On a soul level, we
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  Speaker 3: don't know how much time that we have with those people,
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  Speaker 3: whether there are children or not. To say, there's no
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  Speaker 3: such thing as death, really, there's no it is. It
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  Speaker 3: doesn't even exist fabricated shit anyways. A shift for stenergy,
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  Speaker 3: Yeah it was, but it's like just recognizing that it's
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  Speaker 3: to appreciate those moments that we have I instead of
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  Speaker 3: me getting wrapped up in all the stuff. Not to
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  Speaker 3: say that I didn't a couple of times, but it's
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  Speaker 3: taking that breath and then recognizing, I don't know how
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  Speaker 3: long I have these people in my life. Honestly, I
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  Speaker 3: don't know how long they're going to be in this
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  Speaker 3: experience with me, And so I would find myself just
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  Speaker 3: an appreciation of everything again, like appreciating the kids, the
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  Speaker 3: grown kids, like they're doing the best they can and
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  Speaker 3: trying to, you know, make ends me and doing their
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  Speaker 3: jobs and yeah, you know, there's so much. There's so
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  Speaker 3: much that goes into all of it. So it's just
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  Speaker 3: recognizing all that.
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  Speaker 2: His time is so weird here it is.
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  Speaker 3: I listened to sad Guru and he said something about
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  Speaker 3: when have you ever seen a dead man? And the
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  Speaker 3: guy says, well, I've seen a dead body before, and
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  Speaker 3: he says, but that's not a dead man.
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  Speaker 2: I said, you never He says, you never die.
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  Speaker 3: You never die ever. You transition from one place to
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  Speaker 3: the next. But you never die, so what's to be
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  Speaker 3: scared of.
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  Speaker 2: Like the way he was.
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  Speaker 3: Just supplying that information was pretty astounding to myself because
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  Speaker 3: I was like, that's true.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, I've seen a dead body before. I've seen
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  Speaker 2: dead bodies before. It's but it's a.
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  Speaker 3: But the essence of that that body is not there anymore.
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  Speaker 3: And so there's a shift to talk about shifting gears.
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  Speaker 3: But hey, I'm just saying that's just this is how.
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  Speaker 2: My brain works.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, no worries. You know, when you go going back
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  Speaker 4: to I don't need to fix anything. I'm gonna I'm
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  Speaker 4: gonna apply that to a work environment because we just
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  Speaker 4: had this experience that, uh, two people at work or
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  Speaker 4: but butting heads in their own way. Of course, my
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  Speaker 4: belief is they're vibrational match to each other.
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  Speaker 1: They're going to figure it out or they're not. It's like,
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  Speaker 1: you're bringing this on yourself.
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  Speaker 4: And the one person who is having the major tiff
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  Speaker 4: ah apologize to the other person for their behavior, where
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  Speaker 4: they other person is very a lot younger, like by
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  Speaker 4: fifty years younger almost, and she.
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  Speaker 1: Didn't apologize back. So that was.
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  Speaker 4: Not received well that she didn't apologize. Also, so then
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  Speaker 4: it was I got involved because I kind of let
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  Speaker 4: it be. And then the one that was having the
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  Speaker 4: major issues that said, I need to talk to you.
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  Speaker 4: And this was like the next day, it's like, sure,
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  Speaker 4: well she brought this up. Well I apologize to her,
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  Speaker 4: and she didn't apologize to me, okay, And then it
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  Speaker 4: was and I said good morning to her and when
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  Speaker 4: she walked in and she didn't say anything.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 4: So you're going to allow your joy, your good mood
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  Speaker 4: to be affected by somebody saying good morning to you
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  Speaker 4: or not, or apologizing or not. So it doesn't matter
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  Speaker 4: if it was her or me or anybody else in
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  Speaker 4: this building. If we don't say good morning, that's our business.
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  Speaker 4: We don't have to say good morning to you. Yeah,
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  Speaker 4: you have to be responsible for your joy and how
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  Speaker 4: you're going to receive that. And if you're going to
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  Speaker 4: let it ruin your entire day, that's on you. That's
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  Speaker 4: your responsibility, not mine, hers or anybody else's. So go
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  Speaker 4: thinking along the lines of needing to fix anything, I
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  Speaker 4: was not willing to, And I said, I'm not going
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  Speaker 4: to control this situation and make her apologize because your
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  Speaker 4: your good mood is contingent on what she does, and
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  Speaker 4: that's not on her, that's on you. So I removed
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  Speaker 4: myself from that fixer mode and thinking them thinking that
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  Speaker 4: it was her, thinking it was my responsibility to fix
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  Speaker 4: this situation.
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  Speaker 1: And I and I didn't.
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  Speaker 4: And she didn't receive that well, and I'm like, your
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  Speaker 4: joy is your responsibility. I can't fix that and nobody
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  Speaker 4: in here can. So you need to figure that out.
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  Speaker 4: It was like, not what she was expecting from me.
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  Speaker 3: No, you know, it's it's also recognizing an attachment to
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  Speaker 3: an outcome, doing something in it with an expectation of
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  Speaker 3: something to go your way, apologizing because you're expecting the
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  Speaker 3: other person to apologize, which which also takes it into
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  Speaker 3: not being a very genuine apology. Right, So just because
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  Speaker 3: we say the words, yeah, the words don't matter. They
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  Speaker 3: come out flat, They come out flat, and perhaps the
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  Speaker 3: other person knew that, and maybe energetically the other person
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  Speaker 3: knew that I'm just throwing this out there the possibility,
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  Speaker 3: and so they responded the way they felt. They knew
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  Speaker 3: that it was not possibly knew that it was not
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  Speaker 3: a genuine apology, and so did not have any response
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  Speaker 3: to it. And then I've and I've been that person
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  Speaker 3: before apologizing like that, because we were taught when we
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  Speaker 3: were kids to go apologize even though we weren't sorry.
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  Speaker 2: But you need to go apologize.
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  Speaker 3: I've had this experience with my grandkids the same thing,
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  Speaker 3: and I understand where my grandson's constantly saying, I'm sorry.
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  Speaker 2: Well, it's okay to say it, I'm sorry.
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  Speaker 3: I said it's not necessary, but it's not okay to
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  Speaker 3: continue doing the same thing over and over and over
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  Speaker 3: again and saying sorry like that's going to fix everything.
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  Speaker 3: It's time to adjust the way you're doing things. Maybe
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  Speaker 3: shift gears, do something a little differently, say it a
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  Speaker 3: little differently, don't do it again.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So it's like those responses.
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  Speaker 3: So there's been I feel like we were having so
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  Speaker 3: many parallels that are happening right now in everybody's lives,
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  Speaker 3: and it's so similar. I'm at my daughter's house and
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  Speaker 3: I'm thinking, gosh, I could probably clear up some space,
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  Speaker 3: or I I could recommend, hey, whatever cups, Maybe have
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  Speaker 3: two cups per child out in a cupverod because they're
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  Speaker 3: limited on space, and put the rest into a box
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  Speaker 3: into the garage and you don't have to throw it away.
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  Speaker 3: But you got it and so instead of even recommending
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  Speaker 3: anything that because nobody asked for my opinion, because I
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  Speaker 3: don't need to fix it, I recognize that I need
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  Speaker 3: to do that.
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  Speaker 2: In my own house.
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  Speaker 3: So when I came home, Freeman had already started clearing.
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  Speaker 3: He had cleared a counter, he'd already cleared the cabinet,
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  Speaker 3: he was already doing new things parallels right. He was
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  Speaker 3: already doing the things that I was doing at my
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  Speaker 3: daughter's house, trying to shift things around, and I ended
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  Speaker 3: up not doing it, and then and just cleaning under
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  Speaker 3: underneath the things that were there and putting things back
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  Speaker 3: to where they hat where it was. So it's like
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  Speaker 3: it's just but but there was there's an energy out
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  Speaker 3: there to do those kind of things. There's an energy
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  Speaker 3: about these talking about saying sorry all the time.
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  Speaker 2: There's an energy with all the stuff.
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  Speaker 3: And how I mean, how many times have we gone
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  Speaker 3: to the gone out to eat dinner and we told
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  Speaker 3: the server thank you. We've talked about this long time ago,
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  Speaker 3: but we never really Actually those are just slot words
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  Speaker 3: they hear all day long.
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  Speaker 2: But what if when you do that, you say thinking, you.
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  Speaker 3: Put your hand on your heart, or what if you've
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  Speaker 3: stopped for a second and think, I really do appreciate
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  Speaker 3: everything she's done, and then you say the thank you,
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  Speaker 3: like there's so much things that we can do that
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  Speaker 3: get us in connection with those fields that now that
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  Speaker 3: that's being felt to the other person in that appreciation
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  Speaker 3: is contagious. And now that person's walking around and she's
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  Speaker 3: serving people and having more fun or he is and
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  Speaker 3: having a blast. Because why because you did it differently
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  Speaker 3: than everybody else? Did you shifted her energy? You were
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  Speaker 3: that little drop in the pond.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah?
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  Speaker 4: And interesting enough, between these two, the one person having
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  Speaker 4: the biggest issue with the whole thing was seeing that
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  Speaker 4: the other person was wrong. And the other person had
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  Speaker 4: already told me because she cried about what all the
• 15:44
  Speaker 4: things that were happening the day before, and she told
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  Speaker 4: me in her tears, I didn't do anything wrong. So
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  Speaker 4: of course she's not going to feel like she needs
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  Speaker 4: to apologize for anything. She didn't feel like she did
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  Speaker 4: anything wrong, whereas the other ones having her perception of
• 16:02
  Speaker 4: whatever was happening and then blowing it up no doubt
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  Speaker 4: in her head, bumping it up into this bigger picture
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  Speaker 4: that she was believing to be true, but the other
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  Speaker 4: person was not living in that same space with her
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  Speaker 4: to believe that she was wrong. So just that matter
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  Speaker 4: of perspective from that person, So your perspective of their
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  Speaker 4: living conditions and what you could see as an observer
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  Speaker 4: what could be shifted and change. Whereas they're in it
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  Speaker 4: every day and they're just seeing the chaos and the
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  Speaker 4: amount of stuff they have, and they got to do
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  Speaker 4: something with it, and they have these kids and they
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  Speaker 4: got all this, they got to work, and they just
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  Speaker 4: can't focus or have this clear vision of what to do.
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  Speaker 4: But at the same time, you're recognizing it over here
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  Speaker 4: and then at your own home it's taking place because
• 16:56
  Speaker 4: of that energy. I have that too, Like I'm just like, wait,
• 17:01
  Speaker 4: I was just thinking about this and it's happening now.
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah, talk about steps.
• 17:06
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 17:07
  Speaker 2: So it's it's closed, it's it's everything.
• 17:09
  Speaker 3: It's like it's we don't need, we don't need all
• 17:12
  Speaker 3: the stuff, and it gets kind of overwhelming when you
• 17:14
  Speaker 3: have so much, so many options, honestly, Like I would
• 17:18
  Speaker 3: have ten or fifteen coffee cups, probably ten coffee cups
• 17:20
  Speaker 3: in there. I used one or two, so I took
• 17:23
  Speaker 3: all the rest of them, put them in a box
• 17:24
  Speaker 3: and put them away so that when something happens to
• 17:25
  Speaker 3: one of mine. I have a backup line, I have
• 17:28
  Speaker 3: extra stuff, or I have something for somebody to take
• 17:30
  Speaker 3: on the road.
• 17:31
  Speaker 2: Whatever.
• 17:32
  Speaker 3: But it's just it's just little things like that, right,
• 17:34
  Speaker 3: It's just it's and it changes our whole space. That
• 17:37
  Speaker 3: changes the dynamics, that changes the way the energy fills
• 17:41
  Speaker 3: in the space, changes everything.
• 17:43
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and that and they seem to just multiply. The
• 17:51
  Speaker 4: coffee cups, the lids, the plastic containers, they just somehow multiply.
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: And you're like, where the heck did all this come from?
• 18:00
  Speaker 4: And to keep downsizing it.
• 18:04
  Speaker 3: It's true a long time ago about going through the
• 18:07
  Speaker 3: closet and getting rid of stuff, you know what I mean.
• 18:10
  Speaker 2: And I've got stuff in my closet.
• 18:11
  Speaker 3: I like the color of it, I don't wear it
• 18:14
  Speaker 3: so and I don't, but I don't have a backup plan.
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: Well, I'm not going to get new stuff until I
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: get rid of the old stuff. That's just the way
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: it is. Yeah, it is. I mean, it just doesn't
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: make sense because you've got a clear space.
• 18:25
  Speaker 4: Well, and along those lines, I've had people just give
• 18:28
  Speaker 4: me bags of clothes. So if I bring clothes in,
• 18:32
  Speaker 4: I'll make a point to pull clothes out and get
• 18:37
  Speaker 4: rid of whatever it is.
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: It's like an exchange.
• 18:41
  Speaker 4: I'm exchange in my own closet, but I get rid
• 18:43
  Speaker 4: of the stuff that I don't want. So yeah, it's
• 18:49
  Speaker 4: and then it's all energy and too much of it,
• 18:54
  Speaker 4: too much clutter, too much of anything. My husband's even
• 18:58
  Speaker 4: mentioned he's like, we don't even need half the stuff
• 19:02
  Speaker 4: that's in our kitchen. And almost every time I open
• 19:07
  Speaker 4: a drawer or anything, I think that, I'm like, why
• 19:09
  Speaker 4: do we have this? We've had these, I haven't used
• 19:12
  Speaker 4: them in like five years?
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: Why do I so?
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: In time.
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: Keeps us on our toes.
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: For sure, it does well.
• 19:23
  Speaker 3: And I think the thing is, we go around a
• 19:25
  Speaker 3: lot of times we just don't even we're not in
• 19:27
  Speaker 3: the now, So you don't even recognize half that stuff's
• 19:29
  Speaker 3: even there because you're so busy in your head.
• 19:32
  Speaker 4: Or you know, you're just focused on the one thing
• 19:34
  Speaker 4: that you need out of the cabinet and you you
• 19:36
  Speaker 4: finally you grab it, and you don't really acknowledge the
• 19:39
  Speaker 4: rest of it that's there, that's.
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: Taking up space.
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: That's true.
• 19:45
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and then just recently I had a change in
• 19:50
  Speaker 4: an organization I'm in and I became the voted in
• 19:54
  Speaker 4: as the president and so gifts. So I have people
• 19:59
  Speaker 4: in the club giving gifts, and I've mentioned this before.
• 20:03
  Speaker 4: I appreciate them. I love the representation of goodness flowing
• 20:10
  Speaker 4: my way. And now I have these material objects that
• 20:15
  Speaker 4: I'm like, where am I going to put it?
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: How often am I going to use it? What am
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: I going to do?
• 20:22
  Speaker 4: So I'm like, listen, if you want to give me,
• 20:24
  Speaker 4: give me a gift card to a restaurant or something
• 20:27
  Speaker 4: something I can enjoy and eat.
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: I love food, so I'm all about that.
• 20:35
  Speaker 3: Nice I ask, like, there's so many different things that
• 20:38
  Speaker 3: you could do, but it's so useful and never even
• 20:40
  Speaker 3: thought about it. So we're having this conversation, but really,
• 20:44
  Speaker 3: there's so many amazing things that we can do as
• 20:46
  Speaker 3: far as gifts, go big up something like that.
• 20:49
  Speaker 4: But one thing I've noticed too is more people are
• 20:52
  Speaker 4: talking about repurposing. So the business or the company I
• 20:58
  Speaker 4: work for, the or the organization I worked for, the organization,
• 21:01
  Speaker 4: the nonprofit organization I'm in, We're all just like, we
• 21:06
  Speaker 4: have all these decorations, we have all these things. Why
• 21:10
  Speaker 4: are we not repurposing them? Why do we keep buying
• 21:12
  Speaker 4: more decorations. Every time we have an event, how can
• 21:17
  Speaker 4: we reuse the things that we're paying storage on?
• 21:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that makes sense, So.
• 21:26
  Speaker 4: Yes, we're just it's just interesting. And some of it
• 21:32
  Speaker 4: for sure has to do with, you know, the generations
• 21:36
  Speaker 4: before us with their mindset of having to hoard things
• 21:41
  Speaker 4: because they didn't know what was going to happen from
• 21:44
  Speaker 4: day to day. Or they went through the depression and
• 21:46
  Speaker 4: the money was not flowing in, so they had to
• 21:51
  Speaker 4: whatever they had they kept and figured out a way
• 21:54
  Speaker 4: to reuse it.
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: In some way.
• 21:55
  Speaker 4: Right, we aluminum foil and they just clean it and
• 21:59
  Speaker 4: folded nice and keep it in the closet. So I
• 22:03
  Speaker 4: think it's we're just coming to that generational another generational
• 22:07
  Speaker 4: shift where we're just taking a look and looking at
• 22:11
  Speaker 4: our stuff and going do I really need all this? Why?
• 22:18
  Speaker 4: And there's stuff in my office right now that I've
• 22:21
  Speaker 4: I've been looking at for a while thinking I don't
• 22:24
  Speaker 4: think I need this anymore.
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: I think it's time for to move.
• 22:28
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and I hear you on that so much stuff
• 22:33
  Speaker 3: like that, But I feel like it's a I don't
• 22:37
  Speaker 3: think it's just that it's just happening with us. I
• 22:39
  Speaker 3: think it's happening with everybody. We're going through a shift,
• 22:41
  Speaker 3: and I think we're recognizing the stuff that we value. Like,
• 22:44
  Speaker 3: take a look around us. Our homes aren't built to
• 22:47
  Speaker 3: last for hundreds of years. They're not ye they're disposable homes.
• 22:50
  Speaker 3: They're not made the way they used to be made.
• 22:52
  Speaker 3: They're not there's no expectation for us to live in
• 22:55
  Speaker 3: a place for very long.
• 22:57
  Speaker 2: It's expected for things to break down. You have disposable
• 22:59
  Speaker 2: vehicle washers and drivers.
• 23:01
  Speaker 3: So there's so many things that are not made the
• 23:03
  Speaker 3: way they used to because they're mad to break down.
• 23:05
  Speaker 3: They're made so that you have to go out and
• 23:07
  Speaker 3: buy another product. So's it's but I think we're going
• 23:11
  Speaker 3: away from that. I really think it's starting to go
• 23:13
  Speaker 3: a different direction. And even recognizing like I'm not willing
• 23:17
  Speaker 3: to I'm not willing to buy everything that I need
• 23:21
  Speaker 3: from the grocery store, and I'm willing to stand there
• 23:24
  Speaker 3: in the next to the fruits and vegetables and body
• 23:26
  Speaker 3: chests everything and see if this is so, if this
• 23:28
  Speaker 3: is good.
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: For my body.
• 23:30
  Speaker 3: I'm not willing to buy the groceries and stuff that
• 23:34
  Speaker 3: I used to buy. I'm willing to go outside of there.
• 23:37
  Speaker 3: I'm willing to go to people that are selling their eggs,
• 23:39
  Speaker 3: you know, do it. Everybody has a craft, everybody has
• 23:42
  Speaker 3: something going on. And we got so caught up because
• 23:44
  Speaker 3: it was so easy to go to the supermarket and
• 23:46
  Speaker 3: everything was right there, or we got so because we
• 23:48
  Speaker 3: weren't taking the time because we're all in a big hurry,
• 23:51
  Speaker 3: but in a hurry to what to die. I mean,
• 23:54
  Speaker 3: because we already established that we don't die, but in
• 23:55
  Speaker 3: a hurry to skip out of this body. So it's like,
• 23:59
  Speaker 3: it's really just look at things and do we really
• 24:01
  Speaker 3: need to.
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: Rush around for things? It's not necessary.
• 24:05
  Speaker 3: And there's such great food out there that people are
• 24:08
  Speaker 3: growing locally, that's do that stuff.
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: There's just so many different options.
• 24:14
  Speaker 3: We get so caught up and thinking we've got to
• 24:16
  Speaker 3: have the ranch from the store that's got like fifty
• 24:18
  Speaker 3: thousand freaking ingredients when it really only takes a couple
• 24:21
  Speaker 3: of ingredients to make it.
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: So there's all these things. Because it became.
• 24:25
  Speaker 3: Easier, it was easier, it was simple, it was faster,
• 24:28
  Speaker 3: it was faster for what you know, we just lost
• 24:31
  Speaker 3: the processes instead of someone else doing it, so that
• 24:34
  Speaker 3: now we got someone instead of cleaning your own house
• 24:37
  Speaker 3: and you can afford it, how someone else come in,
• 24:38
  Speaker 3: or maybe barter in trade so that they can come
• 24:41
  Speaker 3: in and clean your house and you do something for them.
• 24:43
  Speaker 3: It's there's just a different way of looking at everything.
• 24:46
  Speaker 3: And then it's honoring a word. If you listen to
• 24:49
  Speaker 3: a lot of people, people don't honor their words. Their
• 24:51
  Speaker 3: words are just words. Oh oh gosh, I'm gonna get
• 24:54
  Speaker 3: rid of that. I'm going to give it to you,
• 24:56
  Speaker 3: and then you find out that it was given to
• 24:57
  Speaker 3: somebody else. There's no value. And I don't say that
• 25:01
  Speaker 3: like that. Nobody has value in words, but I see
• 25:03
  Speaker 3: it a lot frequently, just like using the word sorry.
• 25:06
  Speaker 3: It's just these words are just thrown around and they're
• 25:09
  Speaker 3: not being It's not the handshake as it used to be,
• 25:12
  Speaker 3: like shaken on something that this is our word, is
• 25:15
  Speaker 3: our word, and that's all that matters. We don't need
• 25:16
  Speaker 3: to sign a contract, we don't need anything. We just
• 25:19
  Speaker 3: shok hands. That is our contract. So it's interesting how
• 25:23
  Speaker 3: things have shifted, but I we see all that, but
• 25:25
  Speaker 3: I feel like a lot of it's shifting back to
• 25:27
  Speaker 3: that kind of energy, but in a more balanced way.
• 25:31
  Speaker 3: Maybe it was taken advantage of or maybe people weren't
• 25:33
  Speaker 3: honoring their word, and now we're going into space. I
• 25:36
  Speaker 3: feel like the words being honored, and besides that we
• 25:39
  Speaker 3: can become more and more telepathic. There's the words aren't
• 25:42
  Speaker 3: going to matter, and it's your integrity, your energy that
• 25:45
  Speaker 3: you're offering is what matters.
• 25:48
  Speaker 4: And you can't fake it, right, Yeah, that's the thing.
• 25:52
  Speaker 4: You can't fake it. You think you are and you
• 25:55
  Speaker 4: think you're bluffing people. But more and more people are
• 25:59
  Speaker 4: getting into and more I'm telling you, more and more
• 26:03
  Speaker 4: people are using the words intuitive and energy and listening
• 26:09
  Speaker 4: to the body, and and it's like, yeah, things are
• 26:15
  Speaker 4: definitely shifting. They have been for a while, but it's
• 26:18
  Speaker 4: getting more and more and more.
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: So I love it. Yep, I do too. I think
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: it's cool.
• 26:27
  Speaker 4: So it's going back to where we began was I
• 26:33
  Speaker 4: don't have all the answers and I don't have to
• 26:36
  Speaker 4: fix everything, and we can use what we're seeing or
• 26:42
  Speaker 4: perceiving and utilize it to help ourselves. So similar what
• 26:47
  Speaker 4: that was talking about was, yes, you know, I'm looking
• 26:51
  Speaker 4: at my daughter's home and realizing I.
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: Could do something different at my own home.
• 26:57
  Speaker 4: So she's usualizing this information from area to apply it
• 27:01
  Speaker 4: to her home, her area. But we can also do
• 27:04
  Speaker 4: that same thing within ourselves. So when you see people
• 27:08
  Speaker 4: and their behaviors, their words, their lack of integrity or
• 27:11
  Speaker 4: whatever that is, whatever you don't like about them, making
• 27:13
  Speaker 4: a mental note and am I showing up that way
• 27:16
  Speaker 4: as well? Is that something that I need to work
• 27:18
  Speaker 4: on within myself? So instead of thinking you're you're there
• 27:23
  Speaker 4: to try and fix somebody else, which we know you can't,
• 27:28
  Speaker 4: it's a it's a they're showing you something about yourself
• 27:33
  Speaker 4: that you could shift and change and grow and expand
• 27:38
  Speaker 4: in your own awareness, and they're just there to show
• 27:42
  Speaker 4: that to you. So just moving away from that fixer
• 27:46
  Speaker 4: mode or thinking you're going to fix something and just
• 27:49
  Speaker 4: utilize the information you're gaining from the experience with that person.
• 27:56
  Speaker 3: Yes, because it was all for me in the first place, honestly.
• 28:00
  Speaker 3: So much growth, so much growth. Yeah, every day telling.
• 28:05
  Speaker 4: You every single day and I'm in the people business,
• 28:08
  Speaker 4: like every single day, I'm peopling a lot. And so
• 28:13
  Speaker 4: I going on two years on this job, and man
• 28:18
  Speaker 4: talk about personalities and perceptions and interactions and energy and
• 28:26
  Speaker 4: all the things, and it's like Wow, it's been pretty
• 28:31
  Speaker 4: very interesting to be on this ride.
• 28:36
  Speaker 2: Nice, So I agree, I concur.
• 28:42
  Speaker 4: So, my friends, if these are conversations you're enjoying, this
• 28:46
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• 28:49
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• 28:54
  Speaker 4: and so but whenever we have our conversations, we find
• 28:58
  Speaker 4: that we're we're living our lives. I was on a
• 29:01
  Speaker 4: like you said, on a parallel levels, like we're each
• 29:04
  Speaker 4: experiencing similar things, and then we come together and talk
• 29:06
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• 29:07
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• 29:08
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• 29:13
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• 29:45
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• 29:48
  Speaker 2: To say the same thing, so I'll reiterates you're not alone.
• 29:51
  Speaker 3: Yes, And it's like when you think that you have
• 29:53
  Speaker 3: all these problems or these experience and nobody else is
• 29:56
  Speaker 3: experiencing it. I guarantee you that somebody else is. It's
• 29:59
  Speaker 3: just a little bit different than what yours looks like.
• 30:02
  Speaker 3: And to go back to those two people that were
• 30:05
  Speaker 3: seeing each other, you know, knowing one knowing that they
• 30:08
  Speaker 3: did everything wrong or right, and the other one knowing
• 30:10
  Speaker 3: that everything right.
• 30:11
  Speaker 2: What if they both did And that's the whole thing.
• 30:13
  Speaker 3: We get so caught up in expecting someone else to
• 30:15
  Speaker 3: do it the way we expect it to be done.
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: Which expectation is our own, that's our own. Bool. If
• 30:21
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• 30:25
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• 30:30
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