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60: How to Build Self Trust - It Doesn't Need to Make Sense to Anyone But You · The Oreaganic Podcast

• 0:00
  SPEAKER_00: Hello my friends and welcome back to the podcast.
• 0:02
  SPEAKER_00: As per usual, today's episode is inspired by a personal story that I think you guys would benefit.
• 0:08
  SPEAKER_00: It's gonna help at least one person who feels uncomfortable to share things with people because they feel like they are going to be judged.
• 0:15
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm here today to tell you that if you feel called to something, it only needs to make sense to you.
• 0:21
  SPEAKER_00: Like you do not have to explain yourself to anyone, you do not have to justify why you want to go to something, why you feel a certain way.
• 0:30
  SPEAKER_00: Like if you are in tune with your heart, in tune your with your intuition, and you are just following that and and like someone has something to say about it, it literally means nothing.
• 0:41
  SPEAKER_00: Like it should mean nothing to you.
• 0:43
  SPEAKER_00: And I am telling you, everything in your life basically only needs to make sense to you.
• 0:49
  SPEAKER_00: I think there was actually like a meme about this based off of a comment of a woman talking about like counting buttons for every day of the year or something, where she was like, hey, so actually it only needs to make sense to me.
• 1:00
  SPEAKER_00: And today we're gonna be channeling through the energy of this woman.
• 1:03
  SPEAKER_00: So without further ado, let's get into the episode.
• 1:06
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the organic podcast.
• 1:08
  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Reagan, mechanical engineer, lifelong athlete, and recovered overachiever, here to empower you to pursue your highest potential and live freely as your happiest, most organic self.
• 1:18
  SPEAKER_00: Every week we'll dive into topics ranging from personal growth, mindset hacks, psychology, and a blend of science and spirituality to give you all the tools you need to stop living on autopilot and start creating a life of freedom, meaning, and fulfillment as your most organic self.
• 1:32
  SPEAKER_00: If you're ready to become the best person of yourself, the most likely thank you.
• 1:54
  SPEAKER_00: Um, today, where something was kind of brought up at a family function where it was it's something that like I I'm not necessarily embarrassed to talk about it.
• 2:05
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not like ashamed, I'm not whatever, but it's something that I just don't bring up to people like out of nowhere because it's something that I choose to do that just doesn't make a lot of sense to people.
• 2:17
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm explaining this in no context, that sounds so cryptic.
• 2:21
  SPEAKER_00: What I'm talking about is that I am going on a retreat.
• 2:24
  SPEAKER_00: I am literally flying into another country, another continent to go to a retreat with someone who I very much so like, know, and trust.
• 2:33
  SPEAKER_00: And I actually will know at least one other person there who I've met in person, but I'm going to this retreat, it's like a somatic healing retreat.
• 2:39
  SPEAKER_00: So beautiful.
• 2:41
  SPEAKER_00: I felt intuitively called to it.
• 2:42
  SPEAKER_00: Like it's a very much so something I know is very correct, aligned, like something I I know I want to be there and I should be there for.
• 2:51
  SPEAKER_00: But I'm going.
• 2:52
  SPEAKER_00: And retreats and like even just spending money on yourself in that capacity is something that is foreign to a lot of people.
• 3:00
  SPEAKER_00: That doesn't mean that it's wrong.
• 3:01
  SPEAKER_00: That doesn't mean that it's something that is actually like a scam or judgment or whatever, but it just means that like I know the average person who hears that is like, oh, you're going on a retreat in Italy with who?
• 3:16
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, so it's someone you met on Instagram?
• 3:19
  SPEAKER_00: How much was it?
• 3:20
  SPEAKER_00: Who's going?
• 3:21
  SPEAKER_00: Do you know anyone?
• 3:22
  SPEAKER_00: Like, how long are you going for?
• 3:23
  SPEAKER_00: Like, um, what?
• 3:25
  SPEAKER_00: Like, that makes no sense.
• 3:27
  SPEAKER_00: Again, to the average person who is not, you know, I I don't even want to say in this world because that makes it seem like it's it's like a cult and it's really not.
• 3:36
  SPEAKER_00: But for people who have have kind of been familiar with investing in themselves or going to experiences like this, putting themselves out of their comfort zones with a kind of event retreat space like this, like they would they kind of you kind of just know that it's not something that's actually weird.
• 3:56
  SPEAKER_00: Like it's kind of it's a very normal thing.
• 3:58
  SPEAKER_00: And maybe I'm just like overly precautious in my head, like thinking that people will see it as this weird thing when maybe the average person would just be like, that's really not that weird.
• 4:10
  SPEAKER_00: Like it's not weird at all.
• 4:11
  SPEAKER_00: Where I'm going with this is that I I did I didn't tell a lot of I don't tell a lot of people that I'm going to this retreat.
• 4:18
  SPEAKER_00: I don't make it like public knowledge, I don't go out of my way to even tell like people like close to me in my life, honestly.
• 4:25
  SPEAKER_00: Like I just I just if it comes up, it comes up, but I'm not gonna go bringing it up out of nowhere, mostly because I part of me is trying to protect myself from the anticipated onslaught of questions and doubt and judgment and then all these worries about how I'm gonna be perceived for like choosing to do this thing.
• 4:47
  SPEAKER_00: And yes, that comes from fear, but it also comes from the sense of like protecting my own peace, I guess.
• 4:56
  SPEAKER_00: I even hesitate to say that because I feel like that's so overused, like it's used as a way to kind of just like I don't know.
• 5:02
  SPEAKER_00: I'm protecting my peace, so I'm gonna go to literally nothing and I'm gonna tell no one anything.
• 5:07
  SPEAKER_00: Like that can definitely be an exaggerated phrase, but I'm protecting my peace in the sense of I know that as much as someone loves me and I love them, like if they just don't get something, or if they are gonna have thoughts about it or comments on it that like I maybe don't really want to engage in, or things that I just know like aren't relevant to what's actually happening, then like I don't really feel compelled to like go out of my way to tell someone things.
• 5:37
  SPEAKER_00: You know what I mean?
• 5:39
  SPEAKER_00: Where this can be applied, I assume that most of most people listening are not maybe applying this to a retreat, but maybe any area of your life where you feel like you want to do something or you feel called to do something, and you are worried to even talk about it or share it or express it or actually go after it because you're worried about what the people closest to you or randos would think of you, like you're worried of the perception from other people, and this is where I come back to this whole point that it does not need to make sense to literally anyone else except for you because if you feel intuitively called to something, that is not random, that is extremely important, and it's for a reason.
• 6:23
  SPEAKER_00: Like that is a divine work guiding you in the correct direction.
• 6:29
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I can give an example.
• 6:32
  SPEAKER_00: I've only been to one other in-person kind of event, like retreat style sort of like thing for healing, trauma healing, and it was the very first time I ever invested in myself.
• 6:45
  SPEAKER_00: I literally felt fucking insane because I was in my senior year of college, like I hadn't graduated yet, and I invested in this like in-person three-day healing kind of experience, and it was with a coach who was you know very well known in the industry, like someone who's done this many times, like many testimonials, many whatever, blah blah blah blah.
• 7:08
  SPEAKER_00: Like, it wasn't that I didn't trust that I was going to get something out of the experience.
• 7:13
  SPEAKER_00: I had such a fear in investing though, because obviously I'd never done it before.
• 7:18
  SPEAKER_00: I was literally in college, and most importantly, I knew that most if not everyone in my life, most if not all of the people in my life would probably think that I'm crazy for doing it.
• 7:29
  SPEAKER_00: Like they would think that I'm genuinely insane.
• 7:31
  SPEAKER_00: So knowing that, I definitely had part of a motivation to be like, why am I doing this?
• 7:38
  SPEAKER_00: Like, why am I doing this?
• 7:39
  SPEAKER_00: Like, what is going on?
• 7:41
  SPEAKER_00: Like, this this makes no sense to everyone outside of me.
• 7:44
  SPEAKER_00: But I knew I had an intuitive pull to it, I had a nudge, like there was a reason that I just kept thinking about this and I felt so drawn to it that did not come from my ego, that did not come from saying, I just want to throw this money out the window, like, oh, this looks so so shiny and pretty.
• 8:03
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I just want to do this event.
• 8:05
  SPEAKER_00: Like, no.
• 8:06
  SPEAKER_00: The reason that I went to that first event and I actually chose to invest in myself was not because of anything aesthetic or whatever, but it was solely because I knew that I had that intuitive poll for a reason.
• 8:20
  SPEAKER_00: And to trust my intuition in that way is to trust God in the plan that God has for me in terms of guiding me on my path towards my purpose, like in more expression, whatever you want to say.
• 8:32
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm not saying that in a religious context.
• 8:34
  SPEAKER_00: I think that God exists outside of religion.
• 8:37
  SPEAKER_00: To that point, with that first event, as scared as I felt, as weird as I felt about it, because I knew that it would make no sense to anyone, I knew that it was way more important and gives me way more of an ROI to listen to myself, to my intuition, and listen only, like take advice only from myself in this circumstance because I was the only one that this needed to make sense to.
• 9:00
  SPEAKER_00: It did not need to make sense to anyone else, it did not need to be justified by anyone else.
• 9:05
  SPEAKER_00: I was the only person who it needed to make sense to.
• 9:09
  SPEAKER_00: And guess what?
• 9:10
  SPEAKER_00: That first event that I went to genuinely did change like my life in terms of like there a version the version of me that went into that event is not the same version of me that came out of it.
• 9:22
  SPEAKER_00: And maybe it wasn't this like drastic, crazy, like, oh my god, 180, I have shed all my layers of trauma, and now I'm my full authentic self.
• 9:31
  SPEAKER_00: Like, it wasn't necessarily this drastic, like massive monumental change.
• 9:37
  SPEAKER_00: It was more so obviously just the whole experience, like had parts in it that you know changed my perspective, changed whatever.
• 9:45
  SPEAKER_00: But most importantly, I think that the part of myself who constantly gave so much to others and had this kind of like mom energy, not to go deep into my trauma here, hey guys, but a part of myself kind of like died there.
• 10:00
  SPEAKER_00: Not to sound dramatic, but like that event kind of like really helped me heal that sort of behavior in me that I feel like was so prevalent in so much of my life up until that point, at least especially in like college, like it healed a part of me that I knew was not going to serve me moving forwards, and like just healing even just that aspect on like a somatic level, like a body level, like like healing in the sense of like your body fully releasing stored trauma from past experiences.
• 10:30
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I had sore muscles, guys, from doing breath work.
• 10:34
  SPEAKER_00: Hello, like I was laying down breathing, and I had sore muscles from like releasing literal trauma in the body.
• 10:39
  SPEAKER_00: Like, this shit is not fake or a scam.
• 10:41
  SPEAKER_00: Like, it this is genuine just like psychosomatic experiences, like it's literally insane how the brain and the body works.
• 10:48
  SPEAKER_00: And honestly, this retreat that I'm going to um is doing the same sort of thing in terms of like somatic healing work, and that's why I know it's important because I know how impactful it can be to like actually bring you back to your most natural state.
• 11:01
  SPEAKER_00: Like I know that somatic work is where to go, but I'm I'm getting too deep in the rabbit hole here.
• 11:06
  SPEAKER_00: What I'm trying to say is that that first event that I went to gave me like an impact that lasted and will continue to last for like the rest of my life.
• 11:16
  SPEAKER_00: And it was important for me to be there.
• 11:18
  SPEAKER_00: Like it was important that I listened to that poll, that I listened to that nudge, because if I decided to give in to like everyone else's judgments or change my behavior, change my decision just based off of what everyone else would say, then I would have ignored my own intuition and I probably would not be here, at least in the same state in the same way, in like how I am today.
• 11:41
  SPEAKER_00: I would be still operating with old habits, and honestly, I'd probably have resentment both towards myself and towards the people in my life who I feared the judgment of because I know that like you know if you want to do something and you decide to not do it because of this pressure from other people, that's not fair to you, and that's not fair to them because as I said, you're probably going to build up resentment towards them because you're gonna feel like they stop you from doing something when in reality you are the only person who can truly stop yourself from doing anything.
• 12:13
  SPEAKER_00: Like we can have this perception that, oh, I don't want to do this because this person's gonna judge me for it, so they're stopping me from doing this.
• 12:21
  SPEAKER_00: No, you are stopping yourself from doing that because you are choosing to believe that the consequence of them judging you is more important and more impactful than you actually choosing to go through with your desire no matter the consequences, because you know how important it is to follow your intuition.
• 12:38
  SPEAKER_00: Do you see the difference?
• 12:39
  SPEAKER_00: There's a major difference here in terms of like who is actually responsible for making the decisions, and a lot of the time that we feel discomfort in our lives or like build up resentment, a lot of it can be towards ourselves without us even realizing because you on a very intrinsic level, you know what you want, you know what you're being pulled towards, and like you know the things that like you innately just desire.
• 13:05
  SPEAKER_00: And if when you ignore those desires, when you ignore those intuitive pulls for the sake of other people, like there's always just gonna be internal friction because you know that you were doing something that goes against what you know in your heart is true and right for you.
• 13:19
  SPEAKER_00: So if I can leave you with anything from this episode today, it is to always know that it's safe to trust yourself, your intuition, and your heart more than what you feel about the judgments of other people that might come from you doing something that doesn't make any sense to them.
• 13:39
  SPEAKER_00: If anything, I feel like when you have the desire, especially like obviously this needs to come from your intuition, like not your ego, your intuition.
• 13:47
  SPEAKER_00: I think I have an episode on the difference between them.
• 13:49
  SPEAKER_00: If I don't have a clear, cohesive episode, I need to make one.
• 13:52
  SPEAKER_00: But when something comes from your intuition, to me, that is God speaking to you.
• 13:57
  SPEAKER_00: That is your soul speaking to you.
• 13:59
  SPEAKER_00: And when you have an intuitive desire that makes absolutely no sense to anyone else, and you still choose to do it anyways, I feel like those are always the cases where it's like the biggest projects that blow up, or like you hear, I don't know, millionaires, billionaires, super successful people talk about like their startups and how people doubted them, people questioned them, it made sense to literally no one but them, but they knew they were going to be successful.
• 14:27
  SPEAKER_00: They knew that this vision had a future, like they knew that this was just what they needed to do because you just know, you just know when something's right for you.
• 14:37
  SPEAKER_00: So every and anything that you do, it does not need to make sense to literally anyone else except for you, and never let the judgments of anyone else stop you from doing something that you know so deep in the depths of your heart and soul you are meant to do.
• 14:53
  SPEAKER_00: So I hope you guys got something out of this episode, and I am going to leave this one here.
• 14:59
  SPEAKER_00: Go be your most organic selves, and I will see you in the next one.