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Episode 58- My Pre-conversation with Gary Simmonds About Self-worth, Delayed success, and Building Independent Strength. · You Minding Your Own Business

• 0:01
  Speaker 1: All right, mister Gary Sam, tell me about you and
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  Speaker 1: that beautiful background back there, and how you got to
• 0:10
  Speaker 1: your journey to helping people through their journeys of becoming
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  Speaker 1: the new versions of themselves.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely, your name is pronounced Asha, right, yes, okay, hoodun
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  Speaker 2: phonics did work for some of us, right.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: My story is that I just loved my mom. That's
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  Speaker 2: where it started. My mama's man. So she brought six
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  Speaker 2: kids from Jamaica, probably about forty years ago.
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  Speaker 4: Wow.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I didn't see her for two years. She left
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  Speaker 2: when I was seven, and hopefully my lighting is not
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  Speaker 2: too bright, but she came to America, got us all vices,
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  Speaker 2: got that over there. But the problem I recognized really quickly.
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  Speaker 2: She was working two jobs. I didn't like it, you know,
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  Speaker 2: I just spent less time. So I wanted to find
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  Speaker 2: a way, even at a young age.
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  Speaker 3: So she didn't.
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  Speaker 2: She didn't have to do that. I never took allowance.
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  Speaker 2: I always worked in my own money. I cut grass,
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  Speaker 2: I sold things, and I was employed by Wendy's at
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  Speaker 2: sixteen as an assistant manager.
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  Speaker 3: I did everything.
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  Speaker 2: I watched dishes at the pizza restaurant, and I bought
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  Speaker 2: my own car at sixteen.
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  Speaker 3: That's the point. Okay.
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  Speaker 2: She helped me with the assurance, but I didn't want
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  Speaker 2: to be a financial burden to her.
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  Speaker 3: I went to the military. I did two tours.
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  Speaker 2: As a medic combat medic EMT did his tour in
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  Speaker 2: a desert storm back in the nineties. If you remember
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  Speaker 2: that a storm? Yeah, kuwait yeah, I almost died over
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  Speaker 2: there more than once. But God will it, I made
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  Speaker 2: it back, right. So I did get accepted into the
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  Speaker 2: medical program after that to become a doctor. So I
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  Speaker 2: was going to be doctor Simmons, and I was excited
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  Speaker 2: about it because Mom said I could make enough money
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  Speaker 2: to bring her home if I became a doctor.
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  Speaker 3: I didn't want to.
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  Speaker 2: Become a doctor for doctor's sake, right, because that's where
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  Speaker 2: the money went. So someone asked me before I engaged.
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  Speaker 3: Into the program I got accepted.
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  Speaker 2: Before I started it, a colleague of mine or my
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  Speaker 2: sergeants asked me a question. He said, Hey, how would
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  Speaker 2: you like to earn doctor's income without working doctors hours?
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  Speaker 2: And I was very intrigued. Never heard anything like that
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  Speaker 2: before in my life. Didn't even really know what the
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  Speaker 2: business was. But I went to a presentation. I saw
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  Speaker 2: the industry of home based businesses, direct sales, deput.
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  Speaker 3: Marketing, and for whatever reason, it just.
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  Speaker 2: Burned into my spirit, instident and just burned for the
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  Speaker 2: last thirty years. It hasn't gone out at all. I
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  Speaker 2: exited the medical program. I decided to give back the scholarship.
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  Speaker 2: Everybody thought I was crazy, ausha, but I saw something.
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  Speaker 2: I knew if it worked, that I could have the
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  Speaker 2: time and the money, and I could not only take
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  Speaker 2: care mom, but also take care of myself and get
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  Speaker 2: my personal you know. And I saw people live in
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  Speaker 2: that life. It just wasn't my story. Initially, I failed
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  Speaker 2: miserably for the first seventeen years, miserable, but I was learning.
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  Speaker 3: You know.
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  Speaker 2: I was twenty four years old and eager, went to
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  Speaker 2: all the meetings, listened to all the trainings. I didn't
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  Speaker 2: understand the secrets that allowed the average person that didn't
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  Speaker 2: have influence or clout to be able to grow large
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  Speaker 2: organizations because a lot of people tried just don't make it.
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  Speaker 3: That was me.
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  Speaker 2: So fast forward about thirteen years ago, maybe twenty thirteen,
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  Speaker 2: twenty fourteen. I was privileged enough to be working with
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  Speaker 2: a mentor and a company. He built a two billion
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  Speaker 2: dollar company, and I was a part of one of
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  Speaker 2: the teams there, and I was stuck, because I know
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  Speaker 2: what stuck feels like. So I went to him, and
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  Speaker 2: I believe in mentorship. We never evolved enough to know everything, right, Hey,
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  Speaker 2: I'm stuck, What can you tell me? We had some
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  Speaker 2: conversations and he opened up to me about some things
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  Speaker 2: that I never saw. He basically taught me how to
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  Speaker 2: get people to work together instead of like an Eastern
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  Speaker 2: kind everybody in it for themselves.
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  Speaker 3: And it worked. You know. Four months later I had
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  Speaker 3: the top rank in that company.
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  Speaker 2: Two months after that, a Success magazine for a photographer
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  Speaker 2: to my hometown and for Laudadale, Florida to do a
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  Speaker 2: photo shooting the story. And you know, I'm not gonna
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  Speaker 2: say it's been perfect ever since, but it's been great.
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  Speaker 2: I've helped a lot of people understand those principles apply
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  Speaker 2: them to their businesses, and a lot of my partners
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  Speaker 2: were also consecutively feature in Success from Home magazine as well.
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  Speaker 2: So it's not about what I could do myself per
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  Speaker 2: se right, but when you can do it too, they
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  Speaker 2: understand the psychology of it, the psychology behind it, I
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  Speaker 2: can help them to avoid the seventeen years of missteps
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  Speaker 2: that I've made, and I still do that today in
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  Speaker 2: the matter of what company.
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  Speaker 4: That's a lot of If that makes sense.
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  Speaker 1: I think that's important because I was just downstairs talking
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  Speaker 1: to my mama and I had a job interview today
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  Speaker 1: and the lady wasn't even paying me no attention.
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  Speaker 4: She wasn't even looking at me, she was looking down.
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  Speaker 3: It was wody.
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  Speaker 4: She wasn't even in listening to anything I said.
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  Speaker 1: And when I got ready to leave, I said, well,
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  Speaker 1: before you go, I hope you know I wanted to
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  Speaker 1: just tell you I have eight I have over ten
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  Speaker 1: years of experience in all frames of billing.
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  Speaker 4: And when you do billing, you do.
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  Speaker 1: The most important job in the company, and that is
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  Speaker 1: the money. And people do not understand that. And I
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  Speaker 1: said this to a doctor one day. I said, do
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  Speaker 1: you have any the idea how many doctors do not
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  Speaker 1: even have a conversation with their billers.
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  Speaker 4: They have no idea what their billers do.
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  Speaker 1: They have no idea how much we fight for them
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  Speaker 1: to get them paid. They have no idea of when
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  Speaker 1: you are the person that has to do the denials
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  Speaker 1: because the coding is not correct, we have to go
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  Speaker 1: behind them.
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  Speaker 4: Like their children to find out why they're denying.
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  Speaker 1: They're just building the claims, but they don't know that
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  Speaker 1: anything about that insurance because they're not the ones that's
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  Speaker 1: determining the pricing, none of it.
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  Speaker 4: And when I went and.
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  Speaker 1: Took coding, because my journey was a little I got hurt.
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  Speaker 1: I got two car accidents back to back in multiple
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  Speaker 1: slips and falls in nineteen ninety five. I got hurt,
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  Speaker 1: and they moved me to a different told me I
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  Speaker 1: couldn't work Wendy's.
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  Speaker 4: My first job was McDonald's. I worked at best Buy.
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  Speaker 1: I did warehousing, and they told me you can no
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  Speaker 1: longer do any of that anymore because the two car
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  Speaker 1: accidents that happen and then the slip and fall at work,
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  Speaker 1: you can't do that anymore. You gotta do You got
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  Speaker 1: to figure out something else. Try to get solid security.
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  Speaker 1: He said, oh, you can't get soid security. You can
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  Speaker 1: do an office job. I said, well, how am I
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  Speaker 1: going to get an office job. I don't have a degree.
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  Speaker 1: So I said, you know what, I go back to school.
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  Speaker 1: Got a child with autism, had to figure out how
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  Speaker 1: to raise him because autism was a new thing in
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  Speaker 1: nineteen ninety six, I'll see he's almost thirty.
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  Speaker 4: He'll be thirty and autistic too.
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  Speaker 3: She'll be twenty two this year.
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  Speaker 4: Yep.
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  Speaker 1: And it's amazing how that whole journey right there, raising
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  Speaker 1: a child autism would have taught me. And I'm about
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  Speaker 1: to start a podcast about that, because a lot of
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  Speaker 1: people do not know how to handle them as far
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  Speaker 1: as their behavior, and in girls you can see it.
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  Speaker 4: You can see it in girls more so than you
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  Speaker 4: can see it in boys.
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  Speaker 1: And when I found out before I get back to
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  Speaker 1: that part change, that changed my perspective too, because I
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  Speaker 1: have a child, and so it was like I can't
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  Speaker 1: work around I mean, it was kind of like a
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  Speaker 1: back to back situation because it was like finding out
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  Speaker 1: he was autist, trying to work, and then it was
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  Speaker 1: like getting hurt, and it was one of those things
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  Speaker 1: where it was like I can't work a normal job.
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  Speaker 1: And then when some people may have support for their
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  Speaker 1: children with special needs and have have a system, some
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  Speaker 1: people don't until later on in life, and so it's
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  Speaker 1: like you feel like that, what did I do wrong?
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  Speaker 1: How did I end up with a child that has autism?
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  Speaker 1: How did I end up with a child that has
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  Speaker 1: any disability. But you can also say that in a
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  Speaker 1: normal child. Because you know my niece and nephews.
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  Speaker 4: You know they're normal.
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  Speaker 1: But they my two nephews could have went and played
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  Speaker 1: pro and they didn't. They said their grades weren't good enough,
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  Speaker 1: so they weren't gonna go pro. And I said, well
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  Speaker 1: you could assault that still played. They was like, well
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  Speaker 1: if the teammate't no good. I said me tell you something.
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  Speaker 1: It isn't about the team, like you said, It's not
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  Speaker 1: about having a.
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  Speaker 4: Team that wins. It's about you making that team better.
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  Speaker 1: I said. Most colleges and NFL teams are looking for
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  Speaker 1: someone that can lead. You can have a team that
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  Speaker 1: doesn't move one single solitary, they don't win any game
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  Speaker 1: at all, and you bring a person in there that
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  Speaker 1: influences all of those people to step up, like Michael Jordan.
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  Speaker 4: That's what Michael Jordan did for Chicago Bulls.
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  Speaker 1: Remember they didn't win no games for like the first
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  Speaker 1: two years. That third year he won, he won a
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  Speaker 1: championship and they won six championships.
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  Speaker 4: So again, it isn't about I and team.
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  Speaker 1: And sometimes I compare him and Kobe, and I said,
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  Speaker 1: Kobe was a ball hawk.
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  Speaker 4: I said, if it was like, that's just so may.
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  Speaker 1: Rube, Kobe and you know him, Lebron.
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  Speaker 4: I love Lebron and all.
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  Speaker 1: Of you Lebron and Kobe fans. It's nothing personal. But
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  Speaker 1: as somebody that watched Michael Jordan, whose uncle got me
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  Speaker 1: into playing, what got me watching basketball?
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  Speaker 4: Got me to be a Chicago Bulls fan.
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  Speaker 1: When I watched Chicago Bulls versus uh Ewing and Starks
• 10:39
  Speaker 1: during the during the NFL playoffs, when I saw the
• 10:46
  Speaker 1: Detroit Pistons beat the Lakers for their first championship. They
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  Speaker 1: didn't beat them because they were a better team.
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  Speaker 4: They were a team.
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  Speaker 1: Correct, they were a team. So I said, I love
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  Speaker 1: Kobe Lord, No, I do I love I love you
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  Speaker 1: know Shaq.
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  Speaker 4: I love all of them.
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  Speaker 1: But at the same time, it was I, it was me,
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  Speaker 1: It wasn't we. Michael Jordan made every single last one
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  Speaker 1: of his teammates, even Scottie Pippen said, I may not have.
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  Speaker 4: Liked to approach, but we won championships.
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  Speaker 1: Because he made all of his people around him better.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So when I think about, you know, our healing journeys,
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  Speaker 1: I would say I would say that, you know, like
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  Speaker 1: this morning I woke up, and this pastor said, sometimes
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  Speaker 1: your journey isn't about everybody. God pulls you from the
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  Speaker 1: world because he has something else that he wants you
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  Speaker 1: to do, something else. He wants you to be, something
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  Speaker 1: else that he wants you to become.
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  Speaker 4: And when I got sick and I could walk, and.
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  Speaker 1: When I had emergency God Blood of surgery, it hit
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  Speaker 1: me kind of personally because when I started looking at
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  Speaker 1: the Bible, and I looked at that, and I said,
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  Speaker 1: I noticed the pattern. Every person in the Bible was
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  Speaker 1: pulled away from everything or stripped of everything.
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  Speaker 4: Joel was stripped of everything.
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  Speaker 1: And everybody keeps saying, well he got everything back.
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  Speaker 4: I said, did he?
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  Speaker 1: Or did he get something new based upon what God
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  Speaker 1: stripped from him to see if he could handle it
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  Speaker 1: being Was it really about those things? Or was it
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  Speaker 1: about his faith in God? And when he came to
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  Speaker 1: God and said, I'm coming to you sick, I'm coming
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  Speaker 1: to you like a newborn baby. I'm here, teach me,
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  Speaker 1: guide me, mowe me. Moses left and got the Ten Commandments.
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  Speaker 1: If you look at Jesus, Jesus went away. Every person
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  Speaker 1: in the Bible had a journey that was just theirs
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  Speaker 1: and everybody that came into that journey was not their family,
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  Speaker 1: it was not their friends, it was strangers. Yes, And
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  Speaker 1: somebody said that the other day. They said, sometimes the
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  Speaker 1: people that are going to help you on your purpose
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  Speaker 1: are not going to be people that you know. It's
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  Speaker 1: going to be people that God sends you. And there
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  Speaker 1: was a story that somebody said. They said, there was
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  Speaker 1: a story about a man and I'll say, man, old
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  Speaker 1: woman that was in quicksand and one person said, do
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  Speaker 1: you need some help? They said, no, I'm waiting on God. Okay,
• 13:52
  Speaker 1: sure you don't need no help. No, second person you
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  Speaker 1: need help, No waiting on God. Third person, wait on God.
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  Speaker 1: They got to heaven. The angel was confused, brings them
• 14:04
  Speaker 1: up there for judgment day. God looking at him like,
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  Speaker 1: what you doing here? Well, I thought coming to help me?
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  Speaker 4: Said I send three people to help you, three people
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  Speaker 4: to help you.
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  Speaker 1: And yet and still, and that's why I look at
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  Speaker 1: people so differently now.
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  Speaker 4: Now it's like the way.
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  Speaker 1: Getting to know people, the way I go about who
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  Speaker 1: I bring into my world and who I remove, or
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  Speaker 1: even what I eat when I sleep, everything is based
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  Speaker 1: on that can affect me and the consequences of it,
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  Speaker 1: and all these people supposed to be here. Did God
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  Speaker 1: bring these people or did the devil bring these people?
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  Speaker 1: So it's more of a I'm not gonna let my
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  Speaker 1: emotions get tied up.
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  Speaker 4: I'm going to sit back and let my mind take over.
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  Speaker 1: And me and somebody was having a conversation, a pre
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  Speaker 1: conversation about the subconscious mind that was mind blowing because
• 15:03
  Speaker 1: I said something and he said, I never thought about
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  Speaker 1: it that way, he said. I said, dopamine is the
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  Speaker 1: balance between our mind and our subconscious mind, which is
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  Speaker 1: the body, which is feelings. And I said, dopamine is
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  Speaker 1: your once, which is the end between.
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  Speaker 4: Of both of them.
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  Speaker 1: So your mind wants things, your body wants things.
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  Speaker 4: They they're just not on the same page.
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  Speaker 1: Well, dopamine can manipulate both and say why can't I
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  Speaker 1: have this? This feels good, this feels nice. But if
• 15:35
  Speaker 1: you don't have emotional intelligence, say, well, let me research
• 15:38
  Speaker 1: why should I even eat that?
• 15:39
  Speaker 4: Why should I even drink that? Why should I do this?
• 15:43
  Speaker 4: Why should I do that?
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  Speaker 1: And you know, and when I listen to people try
• 15:47
  Speaker 1: to convince you to do something, they want to answer
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  Speaker 1: right now, And I'm like, why do I need to
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  Speaker 1: rush my decision? Why can't I think about it? Have
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: you thought about it yet?
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  Speaker 5: No?
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  Speaker 1: I hadn't thought about it yet, because you don't want
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  Speaker 1: that person to look at the big puzzle piece of
• 16:04
  Speaker 1: it all you want then you want to give them
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  Speaker 1: like some of the information, some of the pieces, but
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  Speaker 1: not all of it. And so when I went on
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  Speaker 1: my journey, it was like when I hear negative people.
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  Speaker 1: Now it was funny about it. When I went after
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  Speaker 1: a sex quote and they attacked my family and got
• 16:24
  Speaker 1: me fired from my job, went after my landlord. It
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: was like, because the man was on social media overseas,
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  Speaker 1: bringing young girls over there, infecting them with diseases, scamming
• 16:36
  Speaker 1: people out of money, saying he was.
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  Speaker 4: A messiah, it's alone. It's crazy, yes, yes, not like that. Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: So when I went on there, I said, this man
• 16:48
  Speaker 4: is lying because.
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  Speaker 1: What it was he was going overseas and pretend like
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: he was living in and and in nature. And I'm like, dude,
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  Speaker 1: if you're living in an airbnb, you're not living in nature.
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  Speaker 4: If you're living in nature, you'd be.
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  Speaker 1: Light then the dolls, you'd be like you know, the
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: what was that story? Uh, Tarzan, You'd be living in
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  Speaker 1: the jungle and animals will be raising you if that
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  Speaker 1: was the case. And when I got on live with him,
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  Speaker 1: I asked him, I said, how do you figure that
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  Speaker 1: you live in nature? He said, well, I said, you're
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  Speaker 1: in an airbnb or you're not. I said, do you
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  Speaker 1: not understand what living in nature is? Living in nature
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  Speaker 1: is not you going back to a house. Living in
• 17:26
  Speaker 1: nature is you are building your house out of nature.
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  Speaker 1: Everything is based on what's out there and that earth
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  Speaker 1: that's out there. That's what that is. It ain't no
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  Speaker 1: living in no house. It ain't no modering civilization. You
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  Speaker 1: are literally building everything out of whatever is in that Yes,
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  Speaker 1: And so I said, why don't you just admit that
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  Speaker 1: you don't live in nature?
• 17:50
  Speaker 4: That you line?
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  Speaker 1: He admitted it and got mad because he admitted to it.
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  Speaker 1: I said, yeah, that's all I wanted you to do
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  Speaker 1: is admit that you had no intentions of living in nature,
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  Speaker 1: that you.
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  Speaker 4: Were skimming people. Thank you for doing that, And I'm
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  Speaker 4: gonna hang up now.
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  Speaker 1: And people's like, why did you just hang up? Because
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: what I asked for. The crazy part was he was
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: trying to like trying to distract me, like he was saying, well,
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  Speaker 1: look out here. I said, that's not what I asked you.
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  Speaker 1: I asked you, why didn't you live in nature? I
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: was specific I broke down in every single solitary way
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  Speaker 1: what I'm in you at, like you didn't, I said, So,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not aggravated because of what you think. I'm aggravated
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  Speaker 1: because you're not answering my question the way I specifically asked.
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  Speaker 1: It gave you context of what I asked you, and.
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  Speaker 4: Now you're trying to give me every other.
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: Answer except what I'm looking for. I told you what
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: I was looking for. Why are you going against what
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: I told you that I was looking for? When I
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: asked a question and he got he got so upset.
• 18:50
  Speaker 4: For two days he talked about it, and everybody's like, girl, ma, I.
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: Said, yeah, because he finally gave me the answer that
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: I was asking. And they said, why did you keep
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: coming to him like that? Because if I would have not,
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: he would have tried to distract me to what I
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: was asking him. If I didn't stay on topic. If
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: I didn't stay yeah, if I didn't stay on topic,
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: he would have.
• 19:17
  Speaker 4: Tried to distract me.
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: Then I would have forgotten what the whole point was,
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: which is what he was trying to do.
• 19:23
  Speaker 4: But because I.
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: Was so stubborn about it, he had to answer it.
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: He didn't have a choice because we were on social
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: media with a hundred thousand people.
• 19:34
  Speaker 4: You don't have choice. And they was like, he didn't
• 19:37
  Speaker 4: hang up.
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: No, he didn't hang up on me because I told
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: him honestly, I said, when people get on here with you,
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: you don't let people talk at all. I said, well,
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: since you gonna He said, well go ahead. I said, well,
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: since he gave me a chance to talk. You think
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: I wasn't gonna take advantage of that. You think I
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: wasn't gonna ask that said?
• 19:57
  Speaker 4: It wasn't about a conversation about one question.
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: All I wanted him to do was admit that he
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: wasn't living in scamming people.
• 20:04
  Speaker 4: And he did people part too exactly, and it went
• 20:09
  Speaker 4: over people's heads. That's why people will go to him and.
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: Say, well, you need to do something part she's exposing
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: I'm not. I'm not messing with that one. And nobody
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: could understand why. I said, because some people know. With
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: some people, you can't mind as them, you can't manipulate them,
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: you can't bamboozle them, because they're gonna stay on topic
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: and they're gonna pull receipts.
• 20:38
  Speaker 3: Some people will die with their life.
• 20:41
  Speaker 4: They will. So that picture right there to me.
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: When I look, I look at levels, I look at
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: different people, even though.
• 20:53
  Speaker 4: They're living different lives.
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: I see the pink circles, the green circles, circles. I
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: also see yellow and different colors. I feel like each
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: one represents based on the amount of different things. The
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: colors represent something. And there's a reason you picked those
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: color persons. Yes, why did you do that?
• 21:23
  Speaker 3: It wasn't It wasn't consciously.
• 21:25
  Speaker 2: It was absolutely subconscious because I have a very diverse organization. Okay, Yeah,
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: that previous company that I've done a large team in,
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: it was the most diverse company.
• 21:36
  Speaker 3: It was the only diverse team in the whole company.
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: And where I'm doing now, I work with pepties. Now
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: you know, pepties are going everywhere. GFP ones. I lost
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: eighty three pounds on GF ones and I have a
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: lot of people with weight loss stories, but also stories
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: about mental health, cognitive support, heart health, just you know,
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: so many therapies that people don't have answers for that
• 22:04
  Speaker 2: way beyond win. But in this company, I'm actually at
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: the very very very very highest level rank. I'm the
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: only guy in the company. It's the women owned company,
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: which I like, and I looks like nine and a
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: half percent women and just a few guys.
• 22:20
  Speaker 3: But women understand community a lot better than men in
• 22:22
  Speaker 3: most cases.
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel very safe growing an organization there, and
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: I have a lot of doctors, nurses that work with me,
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: even truck drivers and school teachers that are earning six figures.
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: And not to make incomplaints, but it's back to what
• 22:37
  Speaker 2: you say. You know, when you can raise the level
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: of play of other people around you, that's actually what
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: I'm known for. But I share the credit with the
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: team because I.
• 22:47
  Speaker 3: Really don't got no team. I have a hard enough
• 22:50
  Speaker 3: time leading myself. Right.
• 22:51
  Speaker 2: We're all leaders and we choose to work together, and
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: I respect people. I don't believe in the glory that
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: goes with the ranks, because your rank is made up
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: of the people that have helped you to get there.
• 23:03
  Speaker 2: So my team here, the team that I work with,
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: is very diverse, just like this picture, and I believe
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: that's why I just I'm like, that's my background. When
• 23:14
  Speaker 2: everybody gets on there, the CEO, the chief sales officer
• 23:17
  Speaker 2: and everybody else is like, oh yeah, Gary, we can
• 23:19
  Speaker 2: see that that's your team for sure.
• 23:21
  Speaker 3: And it's just the beginning, you know.
• 23:22
  Speaker 2: I'm looking to create one hundred help one hundred people
• 23:26
  Speaker 2: reach the top ranks in this venture because that's where
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: my heart is.
• 23:30
  Speaker 3: You know.
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: I can make a lot of money doing other things.
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: I have a computer background. I design software, I launch
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: mobile apps. I don't do it publicly because I never sleep.
• 23:40
  Speaker 3: Take a lot of money, but there's no life for them.
• 23:42
  Speaker 3: Yeah you need life too.
• 23:44
  Speaker 2: So I more rewards out of people saying, hey, thank
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: you because I can be home with my kids especial
• 23:53
  Speaker 2: needs dad for twenty two years and it needed me.
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: I don't have to exk for time off.
• 24:00
  Speaker 3: I'm there.
• 24:01
  Speaker 2: I'm at the hospital. She just came home from her
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: about last week. She was in the hospital. I visited her,
• 24:06
  Speaker 2: I traveled, I did what I had to do, came
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: back and saw her. But I like for people to
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: have the option to do what they want to do
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: with their Life's obviously their choice, but to know that
• 24:15
  Speaker 2: I had some part to play in that. There's no
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: amount of money, you know, that could ever fulfill the
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: desire we have.
• 24:24
  Speaker 4: To progress yeah, I learned.
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: I learned that from Tony Robbins just listening to one
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: of his small talks. He's like, you know, yeah, the
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: money is great when you're making money, but happiness really
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: comes from progress.
• 24:36
  Speaker 3: Yeah, like I can.
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: Relate Russell Bronson talks about it to but it's really
• 24:43
  Speaker 2: about the progression of the unit as a group. You know,
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: when we're united, when we're together, nothing is impossible for us.
• 24:49
  Speaker 3: Right the team is absolutely shining right now at a
• 24:52
  Speaker 3: very high level. I'm proud of it.
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: So yeah, that was absolutely subconscious. I didn't I didn't
• 24:58
  Speaker 2: seek it out. I saw it and I'm.
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: Like, oh, it's like a tree. But see what I
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: love about your tree. What makes it so different is
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: there's no seat at the top.
• 25:12
  Speaker 4: Yes, it's just.
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: Everybody is in that picture and you wouldn't know who
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: the CEO is.
• 25:18
  Speaker 4: And now that I'm building.
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: My coaching business, I'm finding those things that are in
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: between that are missing, like that picture. I'm teaching people
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: that there are levels and steps of everything. Everything is layers,
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: everything steps, everything is stages and when you find the
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: when I started finding and the one thing about it
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: is I'm kind of glad that they couldn't tell me
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: what was wrong, because it made me have to go
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: find it. And when you don't have the answers, you
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: have to go look for it. When you don't have
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: anybody to catch you when you fall, then you have
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: to figure out your way out. And once you say
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: to the higher Power and you say, I'm ready to
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: let the Holy Spirit in, not through baptism, but the
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: same way Job did when he got down to me,
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: and I said, I said when I got sick, I said, Lord,
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: I'm stripping down, naked. I'm coming to you sick, I'm
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: coming to you broken, I'm coming to you vulnerable. I'm
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: coming at you. And I've been.
• 26:31
  Speaker 4: Out here in the world. I tried to do it
• 26:34
  Speaker 4: my way.
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: It doesn't work. So Lord, I'm gonna let you take
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: over everything, all of it. I'm ready for the Holy
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: Spirit to take over. I'm ready to give my life
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: completely and to live my life the way you want
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: me to live my life. And even though yes, I'm
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: still struggling with certain things that are holding me back,
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: and that's because of fear and rejection, I'm slowly letting
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: that go. And so I said the same thing I said,
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: when I build a team.
• 27:12
  Speaker 4: I don't want to keep them forever.
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: I want to keep them so they can build something
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: of their own, which.
• 27:19
  Speaker 4: Is like that right is an extension of that.
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: So when I look at those pieces, those ones that
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: are open, that means that person can bring somebody else,
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: that person can bring somebody else, and that those circles
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: that are empty can continue to bring someone else in.
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: And so what I want is for different coaches that
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: I work, that I can train to say, what do
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: you want to heal people in well? I want to
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: heal people in drugs. I want to heal people with family.
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: I want to heal people with you know, the medical field,
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: taking their painscuse me and their journeys and say do
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: you want to go back to a job.
• 28:07
  Speaker 4: Do you want to go back to being captain? Sayberho
• 28:09
  Speaker 4: Bill Bear build doll sea fillers, or do you.
• 28:11
  Speaker 6: Want to And everybody I've said this laughs and I'd
• 28:16
  Speaker 6: be serious, like do you want to be the person
• 28:19
  Speaker 6: that wants to fix everybody in your personal life?
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: Or do you want to fix people that really are
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: coming to you and saying that don't know you, that
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: you ain't got to give no money to you ain't
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: got to waste no time on you ain't got to
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: because you see potential in that person you want to build.
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: This person is coming to you and saying I need help,
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: I need assistance. I have this going on and I
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: don't know how to move forward. We're in a society.
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: And this is where I think the in between with
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: those those pieces come from, is that there are missing pieces.
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: And I remember my grandmother said, in the world, the devil.
• 29:09
  Speaker 4: Never wants you to know the whole truth. The devil will.
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: Try everything to keep you from your destiny. The devil
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: will do everything to keep you in fear, to keep
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: you entitled to where you feel you're not good enough,
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: you're not worthy. And that's where self esteem, self worth,
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: and self value comes in. At your self respect, you
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: believe in yourself and your confidence even when no one
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: else does. And I think we're not taught that, we're
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: taught that hire world is based on everybody else. But
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: I feel like if you learn how to walk in
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: the beat of your own drum, everybody else is just
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: an addition to that.
• 29:54
  Speaker 4: So even if that whole tree back.
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: There comes apart, and none of those people in that now,
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: mind you, these are not real people.
• 30:02
  Speaker 4: In that picture.
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: There's a reason for that, and people like, why would
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: you use not real people? I said, because those people
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: are gonna come and go, whether they die, you leave
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: them or they leave you. Those pictures represent the represents people,
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: but those people represent the tribe that you're going to build.
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: And even if they come and go, guess what is
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: no different than a bird. When you drop a bird.
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: What happens that that little bird eventually has to fly.
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: So you can't hold somebody back and keep them in
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: a cage, keep them in chains, keep them in bonda.
• 30:41
  Speaker 4: You can't do that.
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: So when I look at that picture back there, it
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: isn't about the people in the picture. It's about the
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: fact that you don't know what actual human being represents
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: what's in that picture because it represents more than one person.
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: So it's gonna be different layers and different layers because
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: this person at the bottom with the yellow on may
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: be different than the person that's gonna be in the green.
• 31:10
  Speaker 4: That's what they're gonna become.
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: So what I look at that picture is that's one
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: person can be every single person that's in there, and
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: they can move from place to place because they're able
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: to elevate, evolve, grow and mature because they have the
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: freedom to do so and nothing and no one is
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: standing in their way of being able to become the
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: person they need to be. And it isn't about a job.
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: God tell people. Even jobs keep you stagnant, Even jobs
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: keep you from not being from one place to another.
• 31:49
  Speaker 4: You're stagnant a lot of times.
• 31:51
  Speaker 3: That's true.
• 31:52
  Speaker 4: Mm hm.
• 31:54
  Speaker 2: That incredible character, spirit, resilience, those things, you know, you
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: can't really tap into that when you're so distracting for
• 32:03
  Speaker 2: it to sixty hours a week.
• 32:05
  Speaker 3: And they know it too.
• 32:06
  Speaker 2: I think it was Henry Ford that came up with
• 32:08
  Speaker 2: the forty hour working and he ran like a whole
• 32:11
  Speaker 2: lot of tests osha, like thirty five hours a week
• 32:14
  Speaker 2: was not long enough to make me tire, right, but
• 32:18
  Speaker 2: forty five hours a week would be too much.
• 32:21
  Speaker 3: You gotta do just forty hours and live for the weekend.
• 32:24
  Speaker 2: And psychologically they're okay to let you do that to
• 32:27
  Speaker 2: them again on Monday the next Monday.
• 32:30
  Speaker 3: So that's hold us back.
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: I left my last job when I was twenty seven,
• 32:34
  Speaker 2: and I'm not against jobs. I think it's great to
• 32:36
  Speaker 2: have honest with the future family and I don't tell
• 32:38
  Speaker 2: anybody leave their job to you make it at least
• 32:40
  Speaker 2: three times as much money.
• 32:41
  Speaker 3: A better pray about it and talk to your spouts. Right.
• 32:44
  Speaker 2: But yeah, there's a freedom that once you're able to grow, right,
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: then you're able to flourish.
• 32:51
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 32:51
  Speaker 2: But the trick is to get out, to be able
• 32:53
  Speaker 2: to start growing and not be held back.
• 32:55
  Speaker 3: You to be hitting them on the head.
• 32:57
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: And then another thing too, is that you have to
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: get away from society standards. That's the I think that's
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: like the hardest thing to do. And when I started
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: doing that, and I think somebody asked me in an interview,
• 33:11
  Speaker 1: They said, what is your weakness?
• 33:13
  Speaker 4: I said, I don't have one, and it was like,
• 33:15
  Speaker 4: what do you mean?
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: I said, the minute that I labeled myself with weakness,
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna become that weakness. I'm never going to grow,
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: I'm never gonna evolve because I'm gonna.
• 33:26
  Speaker 4: Be stuck with it. The minute that I label it.
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: Now, I said, I look at it as a challenge
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: more so than a weakness. I look at it as
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: something that I can improve, something that I can grow on.
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: You tell somebody they have a weakness, do you know
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: what they're gonna do, They're gonna be they were going
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: to become a victim, and they're gonna think that they're
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: gonna use that to make people feel sorry for them,
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: which is what a lot of negative people do. They
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: take that because once you give them that type of power,
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: you see a lot of people become the abuser and
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: they were victims. And so, like I said, when you say,
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: asked somebody question, and the lady looked at me and
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: she was like, I never thought about it that way.
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: I said, Yeah, the minute you put a weakness on somebody,
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: the minute you tell them they're not good enough, they're
• 34:17
  Speaker 1: not worthy, guess what you just shattered that whole entire
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: person's self esteem versus saying that this is something you
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: need to work on, you need to improve on, you
• 34:28
  Speaker 1: need to.
• 34:29
  Speaker 4: Get better at.
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: Now, if you ask me what do I need to
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: improve on based on my past, I can answer that. Boy.
• 34:37
  Speaker 1: And you asked me what my weaknesses are, I have none, none, because.
• 34:43
  Speaker 4: We have the ability to grow.
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: If you're saying I'm weak, then that means I'm not
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: going to be able to grow. That means the person
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: can do whatever they want to hurt me and start
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: me and then it gets to the point where that
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: abuser ends up because once you get somebody's.
• 34:58
  Speaker 4: Mind, that's it.
• 35:00
  Speaker 1: You broke that person completely, and that means the physical
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: damage and the reason the person won't fight back because
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: their mind has been broken. It has been programmed to
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: believe they deserve to be victim, which is post traumatic
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: slave disorder, because you have broke that person's spirit, because
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: in slavery, that is what they do. They break you
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: mentally before they break you physically. Because physically, even if
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: you are broken, if you are mentally saying I got this,
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: I can get back up, that person is gonna get
• 35:34
  Speaker 1: back up. If you look at Rocky or any boxer,
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: look what happened when he.
• 35:39
  Speaker 4: Got How many times Rocky got up?
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: Look at what happened when Buster Douglas beat Fight Tyson.
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: When a vander Holyfield bit Tyson, he didn't beat Tyson
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: because he was a better fighter. They were more mentally strategic,
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: better fighters.
• 36:00
  Speaker 3: So I mean you have to.
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: Understand anybody can be strong but still be defeated by
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: a person that's more mental.
• 36:10
  Speaker 4: If you look at David and Goliath as an example of.
• 36:12
  Speaker 2: That, you said something that I talk about this a
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: lot my partners. It's the biggest conversation we have. I mean,
• 36:21
  Speaker 2: I can teach sales techniques of how to get in order,
• 36:23
  Speaker 2: it means nothing. If you don't believe that you're worthy
• 36:27
  Speaker 2: of it, he won't even do it. So I say
• 36:30
  Speaker 2: to people all the time, I don't have high self esteem.
• 36:34
  Speaker 2: I don't have no self esteem. I've checked out of
• 36:35
  Speaker 2: the self esteem dialogue of society's expectation of meet a
• 36:40
  Speaker 2: long time ago. I've learned to do that. I didn't
• 36:43
  Speaker 2: just involve into that. I got there from the empty
• 36:46
  Speaker 2: place that you were talking about. You know, when you
• 36:48
  Speaker 2: get to the anty place and you realize about this
• 36:51
  Speaker 2: opinion really matters except your creator and your children and
• 36:54
  Speaker 2: to your parents. Everybody else. They're trying to get something
• 36:57
  Speaker 2: for you to love them. I said, I have no
• 36:59
  Speaker 2: sen I'm in the no selfesteam club. But you hit
• 37:02
  Speaker 2: something on the head because I say this to people
• 37:03
  Speaker 2: a lot, like when people are judged normally, they don't
• 37:08
  Speaker 2: survive their domestication is sure. I was grateful. I am
• 37:12
  Speaker 2: grateful fortunate to have parents that were empowered, you.
• 37:15
  Speaker 3: Know, superman.
• 37:16
  Speaker 2: I felt like I have tould do anything, so I
• 37:18
  Speaker 2: give all my achievements or accolades to that, because anybody
• 37:23
  Speaker 2: in the same shoes would have the same results no
• 37:25
  Speaker 2: matter what life you live, right, We're all an outcome
• 37:31
  Speaker 2: of what we experience. So I would say, when people
• 37:35
  Speaker 2: are abused mentally or otherwise, and they've become that victim,
• 37:42
  Speaker 2: it's not our true nature, and we know it, yep.
• 37:45
  Speaker 2: And because we know deep down inside we don't deserve that.
• 37:49
  Speaker 2: That's not who I am. I am not weak, I
• 37:51
  Speaker 2: am not a victim, and it's a toxic it's a
• 37:56
  Speaker 2: toxic acceptance of what that person said. So now we
• 37:59
  Speaker 2: trying to move that we're not. And you hit it
• 38:02
  Speaker 2: on the head. I think now that you said that,
• 38:05
  Speaker 2: that's why people become the abusers, because it's a it's
• 38:12
  Speaker 2: a unhealthy feeling of strength. Yeah, hurt people, hurt people.
• 38:17
  Speaker 2: They do it because it makes them feel like they're
• 38:19
  Speaker 2: not weak anymore. The bully was the person who was bullied,
• 38:24
  Speaker 2: So now they bullied someone else to prove that they're strong.
• 38:27
  Speaker 4: Yep.
• 38:27
  Speaker 2: And it's very dangerous. But I see your point, and
• 38:30
  Speaker 2: I've never looked at it like that, but it makes
• 38:32
  Speaker 2: a lot of sense. They're seeking to prove that they're
• 38:34
  Speaker 2: not what you cast them to be, so they become
• 38:38
  Speaker 2: the abuser.
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: Now, yeah, it's no different than relationships that somebody said
• 38:42
  Speaker 1: they don't want you, which goes back to rejection. Rejection
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: is the same thing. They're trying to prove why this
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: person should love you, why this person should care about you,
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: instead of you saying okay, that's fine, that's not your person.
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: But see, that's not the thing that's automatically put in
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: your head because society is saying, well, go chase after it,
• 39:04
  Speaker 1: and they don't want you chase after it until you
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: get it.
• 39:08
  Speaker 4: That's obsession.
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: That's where that's where obsessed and composed behavior comes from.
• 39:12
  Speaker 4: It comes from that. So when I talked to a lot.
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: Of business people, they probably wonder why do I why
• 39:18
  Speaker 1: do you bring these conversations up, Because what you don't
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: understand is then like I use, I use yesterday, I've
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: been doing something. I just got Chris Brown tickets right
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: then the Usher Raymond concert.
• 39:31
  Speaker 4: Shout out to both and.
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: Yeah, people people were talking about song, well are that's
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: not happening. But when they were talking about well I
• 39:44
  Speaker 1: couldn't get tickets and I been a ticket master, and
• 39:47
  Speaker 1: I said, well, first of all, your mistake was when
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: they announced the tour, the pre sale came on that day.
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: You got three cities to pick from. What you should
• 39:58
  Speaker 1: have did when tell happened? And I told people that
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: when they do the pre sale for City Bank, you
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: want to go in there.
• 40:04
  Speaker 4: Even though you cannot buy nothing.
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: Go in there and see what the auditorium looked like,
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: what sections you want to write and write it down.
• 40:17
  Speaker 1: Then what you want to do when you go in there.
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: The first thing somebody want to do is click on
• 40:22
  Speaker 1: the section and look at look at the seats. No,
• 40:26
  Speaker 1: that ain't that's gonna confuse you, because it confused.
• 40:28
  Speaker 4: Me when I was looking at it.
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: I got up ten o'clock that morning yesterday, and I
• 40:33
  Speaker 1: was able to get into the pre sale. I was
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: able to get into the queue because City Banks issues
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: were a lot of people were being declined. But I
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: said that was because if you're not somebody does a
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: large package, a large purchase, they're gonna send you a
• 40:48
  Speaker 1: text message saying did you approve this purchase?
• 40:52
  Speaker 4: You have to say yes or no via text message.
• 40:54
  Speaker 4: If you don't, it's not gonna go through.
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: I explained this, did a whole tutorial on it, and
• 41:00
  Speaker 1: so I went and got I went and got up
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: that morning, and I said, I'm trying to get myself
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: mentally prepared for this.
• 41:09
  Speaker 4: I got into Charlotte, I got in Tampa.
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: And there were still tickets there the next day, but
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: they weren't that many. I looked at all of the
• 41:18
  Speaker 1: seedings and the prices were still there. So I looked
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: at the price and I said, okay, well, the floor
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: is the same as maybe one hundred dollars more than
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: the tickets at the top.
• 41:32
  Speaker 4: And I said, why don't I just do the.
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: One for the floor, because they none but one hundred
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: dollars a couple of dollars more, and I'm on the floor.
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: And so when I got when I looked that morning,
• 41:46
  Speaker 1: it also said the new cittings that they put on there,
• 41:49
  Speaker 1: the new dates was at two o'clock. I said, ain't
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: no point of me doing this one. Now, let me
• 41:55
  Speaker 1: just do the one that nobody has gotten in yet
• 41:59
  Speaker 1: and do that one. So I said, well, let me
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: go ahead and look around, go ahead and look around.
• 42:05
  Speaker 1: Let me go ahead and figure out, you know, where
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna sit at.
• 42:09
  Speaker 4: So then when almost two o'clock came, we weren't.
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: Able to get in there at first, like fifty five
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: fifty seven. After got in there, I was like two
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: thousand and something.
• 42:21
  Speaker 4: Waited, was worried about it.
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: Recorded me going through the process. Got in there and
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: I said, I'm I'm gonna come back. When I picked
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: my tickets, and so I looked at the where you
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: click on it. I was confused because you had a
• 42:35
  Speaker 1: hard time clicking on the seats.
• 42:36
  Speaker 4: I said, you know what, now, I ain't doing this.
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: Let me go ahead and go to where it is
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: all seats.
• 42:41
  Speaker 4: I said, no, it's gonna take to long.
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: Let me go ahead and go to the top seats.
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: I said, okay, let's stroll down down, look at the prices,
• 42:49
  Speaker 1: look at what the seats. Sorry found the first ones
• 42:51
  Speaker 1: and I said, I'm gonna get these, but then I
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: said no, And then I clicked out of it and
• 42:56
  Speaker 1: I said no. Then I said, maybe I might find
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: some seats in a better place. But then I then
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: I was like dad, going I should have went ahead
• 43:04
  Speaker 1: and got the one of the guy second guess to myself.
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: So then I went down further. I said, maybe I
• 43:09
  Speaker 1: find some Thank God, I found the tickets I found.
• 43:11
  Speaker 4: They were better than the ones I was at.
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: But then I went on there and the same thing
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: happened where I got something saying did you authorize this purchase?
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: The first ones I had picked, they said they were gone.
• 43:23
  Speaker 4: I said, oh my god. I went in there. They come,
• 43:26
  Speaker 4: stay cool, stay collected. Got my tickets.
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: Took me about forty five minutes to get my tickets,
• 43:32
  Speaker 1: not because it took me that long to get in there,
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: but because it took me long because I had to
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: figure out, Okay, do I want to be on the floor?
• 43:40
  Speaker 4: Do I want to be here?
• 43:41
  Speaker 1: I said, But if I'm gonna be on the floor,
• 43:42
  Speaker 1: I need to figure out which one and ended up
• 43:44
  Speaker 1: in VIP.
• 43:45
  Speaker 4: So it don't work out with me. I got out.
• 43:49
  Speaker 4: That was it.
• 43:51
  Speaker 1: So people were saying, well, we couldn't find any tickets.
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: I said, well, if you were smart, what you should
• 43:57
  Speaker 1: have did was win and looked at the stadium figure
• 44:00
  Speaker 1: out where you're gonna sit at. You could have went
• 44:02
  Speaker 1: in the queue that next morning, even though they were
• 44:05
  Speaker 1: sold out, went in there and looked to see how
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: much the tickets were gonna be in that section. Even
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: though they would have been different, but you still know
• 44:12
  Speaker 1: the highest price of what it was gonna be because
• 44:14
  Speaker 1: the highest price was the one that was there.
• 44:16
  Speaker 4: The other prices weren't there. So I was like, you
• 44:18
  Speaker 4: know what.
• 44:19
  Speaker 1: Y'all went through all of that, and now you mad
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: because you didn't get tickets, and then you're wondering why
• 44:24
  Speaker 1: these tickets are so expensive.
• 44:26
  Speaker 4: First of all, these are two artists that.
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: Y'all never thought would ever come together, that you wanted
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: during versus to do this versus so.
• 44:33
  Speaker 4: Y'all could watch it for free.
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: Did you really think the tickets were gonna be chief
• 44:36
  Speaker 1: considering the two mega mega artists, not one artist too.
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: Not only that, you're gonna have celebrities at these at
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: these you know, different venues, especially Charlotte, Florida, Atlanta, especially California, Vegas, Texas,
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: you got a bunch of celebrities, especially in NBA teams.
• 45:04
  Speaker 4: You're gonna have them there.
• 45:05
  Speaker 1: You're gonna have actors, actresses, singers, all these people there.
• 45:09
  Speaker 4: So it's not just gonna be just you.
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: It's gonna be everbody, everybody, and Mama is gonna be there.
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: And then y'all talking about wearing heels, I'm like, what
• 45:21
  Speaker 1: you're gonna wear heels for when you're gonna be.
• 45:22
  Speaker 4: Standing in a long line.
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: You gonna be standing up the whole entire time. I said,
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: the best thing for you to do is put you
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: some sneakers on. Put you some some low boots on.
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: I'll say sneakers, sneakers or sandals, so you'd be comfortable.
• 45:37
  Speaker 1: If you wanna put your your heels and do it
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: during the vi P where they take pictures.
• 45:43
  Speaker 4: Then you do that. Then you do it.
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: Then don't don't put your makeup on because your makeup
• 45:48
  Speaker 1: ain't gonna do nothing. You're gonna be sweating if you're
• 45:51
  Speaker 1: during the summer. The winner's not gonna be that. She
• 45:55
  Speaker 1: ain't gonna be as cold. I said, it's just that simple.
• 45:58
  Speaker 4: I said, y'all make things more.
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: You are comfortable if you plan ahead and you remain
• 46:04
  Speaker 1: calm and just say, you know what, if it's meant
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: for me to have these tickets, the same thing, I said.
• 46:10
  Speaker 1: I it's meant for me to have these tickets, then
• 46:14
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna get them. Then I said, well, you only
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: live once. I could have been like, I ain't got money.
• 46:19
  Speaker 1: I paid off my credit card, Yes I have the money,
• 46:22
  Speaker 1: Yes I.
• 46:22
  Speaker 4: Can pay it off.
• 46:23
  Speaker 1: I was like, you know what if I'm gonna go
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: to this concert. I'm gonna sit where I won't sit.
• 46:30
  Speaker 4: Give me a hotel and.
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: A flight, which is what I did in up in
• 46:33
  Speaker 1: the Tempa. And I said, I'm gonna have a time
• 46:34
  Speaker 1: in my life. Why because I'm fifty one. I'm not
• 46:37
  Speaker 1: waiting for nobody else to go on no trips with me,
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: because I did that for years. I am no longer
• 46:43
  Speaker 1: putting my happiness on hold, trying to build everybody up.
• 46:47
  Speaker 4: No, it's no, no. And so my friend said, you
• 46:52
  Speaker 4: spent how much I'll have tickets.
• 46:53
  Speaker 1: I said, look, it's two people. We may not ever
• 46:57
  Speaker 1: see this again. And I said, I'm going and I'm
• 47:00
  Speaker 1: gonna having a good time, and I'm gonna and I'm
• 47:03
  Speaker 1: gonna live my life because Kendred Lamar said it best.
• 47:07
  Speaker 1: You gotta live your life before you run out of time.
• 47:12
  Speaker 1: And you don't know how much time you got and
• 47:15
  Speaker 1: you up here holding on the money. You are up
• 47:18
  Speaker 1: here working a job for forty years, and when you
• 47:20
  Speaker 1: leave this serve, you have nothing that is left behind
• 47:25
  Speaker 1: except that my dad just passed away.
• 47:29
  Speaker 4: The only thing my dad has is.
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: Two houses and a car and his and they were
• 47:35
  Speaker 1: taxing his retirement. And when I saw how much my
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: dad was getting in retirement. I said, is it really
• 47:42
  Speaker 1: worth worth working sixty five years?
• 47:45
  Speaker 4: I said no, because when you look.
• 47:48
  Speaker 1: At how much you gonna get out of your retirement
• 47:52
  Speaker 1: and the fact that they tax your retirement, then you
• 47:55
  Speaker 1: look at life insurance and you look at like they
• 47:58
  Speaker 1: told my mother, if she got insurance, she can only
• 48:00
  Speaker 1: keep it till eighty. What what do you mean she
• 48:04
  Speaker 1: only can keep it till she's eighty? What if she
• 48:08
  Speaker 1: surpassed eighty, then what she got a start over again?
• 48:15
  Speaker 4: Exactly? So, I mean, it's just it's.
• 48:16
  Speaker 1: Just one of the things. Like you know, when I
• 48:18
  Speaker 1: talk to business owners and they asked me, you asked
• 48:21
  Speaker 1: very interesting questions. I said, because you're not a big
• 48:26
  Speaker 1: you're the business. Yes, it's about money, but what is
• 48:30
  Speaker 1: your purpose besides that? What what is your purpose of
• 48:33
  Speaker 1: when you're selling stuff like Walmart?
• 48:35
  Speaker 4: What is your purpose? What is your purpose?
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: Is Bill Gates? As far as Microsoft, what is what
• 48:40
  Speaker 1: is your purpose? When it comes to the person that
• 48:42
  Speaker 1: created PlayStation? Is it about money or is it really
• 48:46
  Speaker 1: about you? Understanding that you're not the person making the money.
• 48:51
  Speaker 1: Your employees are. But they never met you. They never
• 48:54
  Speaker 1: met you, don't know who you are. You never went
• 48:57
  Speaker 1: in there to really discuss and find out what they're
• 49:00
  Speaker 1: your grievances are. You're you're letting thousands of thousands of
• 49:04
  Speaker 1: people go that's not even going to get their pension.
• 49:07
  Speaker 1: These kids nowadays are not going to be able to
• 49:09
  Speaker 1: retire because they don't stay at jobs long enough, not
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: even close. So and then people can't afford the house
• 49:16
  Speaker 1: you're bringing ai and that's not working because how can
• 49:19
  Speaker 1: people You know, now all these companies are losing money
• 49:22
  Speaker 1: because nobody has jobs because nobody can go back to work.
• 49:25
  Speaker 4: But yet and still you're.
• 49:27
  Speaker 1: Not trying to change the work structure of where that
• 49:31
  Speaker 1: picture back there is important.
• 49:37
  Speaker 2: We're just a battery producer energy for You're right, it's
• 49:42
  Speaker 2: not worth it for forty fifty years. I was fortunate
• 49:44
  Speaker 2: to find out when I was twenty. Well, when I
• 49:47
  Speaker 2: first got into the industry, I learned it from older people,
• 49:51
  Speaker 2: dockers that I wanted to be, wanted to like reliability
• 49:55
  Speaker 2: and the stress.
• 49:56
  Speaker 3: In the end, they're worth the sun. So don't even
• 50:00
  Speaker 3: do it if you don't have to.
• 50:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you have a lot of doctors too that are
• 50:05
  Speaker 1: now not only creating their own practices.
• 50:08
  Speaker 4: They're now on social media. Yeah, they're now, they're now.
• 50:12
  Speaker 1: Writing books, they're now their their their clinics are are
• 50:17
  Speaker 1: more so about holistic and protein and they're getting away
• 50:24
  Speaker 1: from the pharmaceutical companies.
• 50:27
  Speaker 3: Now look at that picture behind me.
• 50:29
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and see that that's a of coach.
• 50:32
  Speaker 3: So far, and a lot of doctors.
• 50:34
  Speaker 2: In the wow, school teachers, truck overs. And this is
• 50:40
  Speaker 2: just the ones that fit on this wall. I think
• 50:43
  Speaker 2: I have to strict the pictures to make this wall.
• 50:46
  Speaker 3: Who soon. Yeah, that's a deep deal.
• 50:52
  Speaker 4: So you don't know. So what exactly is it that
• 50:55
  Speaker 4: you specialize in?
• 50:57
  Speaker 3: Well, I teach people how to promote without trying to sell,
• 51:01
  Speaker 3: getting influence to sell. You don't need.
• 51:03
  Speaker 2: Closing techniques of sales skills because if nobody's gonna listen
• 51:06
  Speaker 2: to you, what is it doing?
• 51:09
  Speaker 3: Right? You need you need, you need to teach something
• 51:12
  Speaker 3: called leverage, leveraging influence.
• 51:16
  Speaker 5: Right.
• 51:16
  Speaker 3: So one of the things here, I'm gonna show you
• 51:18
  Speaker 3: a picture of my picture. Yeah, that one.
• 51:22
  Speaker 2: It's probably hard to see, but now you can't see
• 51:26
  Speaker 2: the whole thing in the background.
• 51:27
  Speaker 3: They gotta share it.
• 51:28
  Speaker 2: But I lost like eighty something pounds and peptides have
• 51:32
  Speaker 2: become so big with the GP ones and anymy plus
• 51:36
  Speaker 2: and all the other ones that out there. But the
• 51:39
  Speaker 2: fact that people are busy and they don't really have
• 51:43
  Speaker 2: a sales background, but they do no people, So I
• 51:47
  Speaker 2: know that everybody knows somebody who needs to get in
• 51:50
  Speaker 2: shape because you know, obesity impacts seventy percent of this country. Kay,
• 51:56
  Speaker 2: and you know for clinically obase, and that me, I
• 52:00
  Speaker 2: didn't choose that. I didn't volunteer to be I was
• 52:04
  Speaker 2: healthy most of my life. But you know, meant about
• 52:08
  Speaker 2: there is one that was me I met about.
• 52:11
  Speaker 3: It is real.
• 52:13
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I see the difference. Yeah, I must.
• 52:16
  Speaker 2: And I tried everything before that. I used to be
• 52:19
  Speaker 2: a personal trainer back in the days when I came
• 52:21
  Speaker 2: on Army. I understand calories in calories out. I know
• 52:24
  Speaker 2: willpower and discipline, but hormone or weight gain, don't care
• 52:27
  Speaker 2: about none of that.
• 52:28
  Speaker 4: No, No, that Israel fact.
• 52:32
  Speaker 2: No, No, I would lose I would lose twenty three
• 52:35
  Speaker 2: pounds and game back twenty five. Med say, every time
• 52:41
  Speaker 2: I've lost weight, like ten times in the last fifteen years.
• 52:44
  Speaker 2: This is the first time, honestly that I've ever been
• 52:47
  Speaker 2: able to get the assistance you know, not a shortcut,
• 52:51
  Speaker 2: but more like therapy.
• 52:53
  Speaker 6: M hm.
• 52:53
  Speaker 3: And I even lost a mobile app. I think this was.
• 52:56
  Speaker 2: When I was on the beach and for a lot
• 52:57
  Speaker 2: of the meeting, true y'all showing them how to how
• 53:02
  Speaker 2: to use that. Okay, it's big things that we have
• 53:05
  Speaker 2: a lot to do a lot of people to help,
• 53:09
  Speaker 2: you know, find the changes in their life that they need.
• 53:12
  Speaker 2: The therapies are huge in the man and this was
• 53:19
  Speaker 2: a success magazine feature back in the.
• 53:23
  Speaker 1: True Okay, you get that weight off, you look at
• 53:26
  Speaker 1: you looking good?
• 53:27
  Speaker 4: Okay, I see, it's just it's just yeah.
• 53:31
  Speaker 1: And my sister is on Ozmpic and right, yeah, but
• 53:36
  Speaker 1: see the problem.
• 53:38
  Speaker 4: Is is that, like I told her.
• 53:41
  Speaker 1: It's not just about taking the medication. Like I'm trying
• 53:46
  Speaker 1: to lose weight and I would love to get on
• 53:48
  Speaker 1: it to lose a.
• 53:50
  Speaker 4: Couple of poms, but my doctor was like, I don't
• 53:52
  Speaker 4: want to.
• 53:53
  Speaker 1: I don't want you to do that just yet, because
• 53:55
  Speaker 1: they want to see if I have scarring in my
• 53:57
  Speaker 1: stomach or any infections in my stomach, or any hernias
• 54:01
  Speaker 1: or anything like that before they say that is the issue.
• 54:06
  Speaker 1: But what I've done to add to that was I
• 54:11
  Speaker 1: cut down on processed foods almost altogether.
• 54:15
  Speaker 4: Some things I buy, like.
• 54:17
  Speaker 1: You know, the can goods and anything that the ingredients
• 54:21
  Speaker 1: are exactly what they are. And it's not just in
• 54:23
  Speaker 1: my food, but skin care products, hair care products. I
• 54:27
  Speaker 1: noticed that on the back of a lot of boxes
• 54:30
  Speaker 1: it says the ingredients, but then there's other ingredients, and
• 54:33
  Speaker 1: then there's these chemicals that I have found that cause cancer.
• 54:38
  Speaker 1: And I said, it isn't just about taking that, you know,
• 54:42
  Speaker 1: just like it's not just about going to the gym.
• 54:43
  Speaker 1: It's not just about walking.
• 54:46
  Speaker 4: It's also a holistic lifestyle.
• 54:49
  Speaker 1: You have to have a very simple lifestyle, meaning that
• 54:53
  Speaker 1: you got to be able to make choices and decisions.
• 54:56
  Speaker 1: And I think that's where the problem is. And don't
• 54:59
  Speaker 1: get me wrong, I think therapy is great, but therapy
• 55:02
  Speaker 1: does not make you take action. That's where coaches come in.
• 55:05
  Speaker 1: We're not only the people that we can that y'all
• 55:06
  Speaker 1: can talk to. We make you take action. So what
• 55:09
  Speaker 1: I try to do with people with health issues is okay, yeah,
• 55:12
  Speaker 1: you ate good, and they'd be like, well I gained
• 55:15
  Speaker 1: back ten pounds. I said, let me ask you this question.
• 55:19
  Speaker 1: Have you done a colon cleanse? Have you done a
• 55:23
  Speaker 1: parasite clans. Have you got your stomach checked to see
• 55:26
  Speaker 1: if you have you know, for women, fibroids, thyroids, Get
• 55:29
  Speaker 1: your hormones checked, your stress levels. What is your life
• 55:34
  Speaker 1: in tape? What is your marriage in tape? A lot
• 55:37
  Speaker 1: of it? And I'm gonna say this, and this is
• 55:39
  Speaker 1: for women. When you lower yourself to build everybody else up,
• 55:44
  Speaker 1: you also gain weight.
• 55:46
  Speaker 4: You gain weight.
• 55:46
  Speaker 1: Because you are taking on spiritual baggage, you're taking on
• 55:52
  Speaker 1: mental baggage, you're taking on psychological balance being a baggage.
• 55:56
  Speaker 1: So once you you can start, I tell start by
• 56:00
  Speaker 1: eating healthy, do a five ten minute walk. Don't look,
• 56:06
  Speaker 1: don't even start with trying to start off fast.
• 56:10
  Speaker 4: Start off with. You got chronic pain.
• 56:13
  Speaker 1: Even if you do chair exercises, even if you do
• 56:17
  Speaker 1: just you know, ten squats a day, You doing something,
• 56:21
  Speaker 1: even if you're walking up.
• 56:23
  Speaker 4: Down the steps, you know and doing what you can.
• 56:28
  Speaker 1: If your body is saying when don't try to push it.
• 56:32
  Speaker 1: Because people that are in shape they can push themselves.
• 56:37
  Speaker 1: But then what happens is they start to lose body
• 56:40
  Speaker 1: muscle because they're no fat. So now you're doing these
• 56:44
  Speaker 1: extreme workouts and now you're losing body masks.
• 56:48
  Speaker 4: With body bude muscle.
• 56:49
  Speaker 1: I tell people you lose body masks before you lose
• 56:52
  Speaker 1: body fat, before you lose body muscle. So once the
• 56:58
  Speaker 1: mass is gone, the bat is going.
• 57:01
  Speaker 4: There's nothing else there.
• 57:03
  Speaker 1: So it's either you have to cut down on your
• 57:06
  Speaker 1: working out to maintain it, meaning you may go to
• 57:10
  Speaker 1: the gym twice a week, you may do lighter, more
• 57:15
  Speaker 1: exercises to just keep things toned. Whereas someone's trying to
• 57:20
  Speaker 1: lose weight, they have all this fat and that's why
• 57:23
  Speaker 1: they say to Yeah, and inflammation too, so you can't
• 57:29
  Speaker 1: not have You got to have calories. You gotta have
• 57:34
  Speaker 1: cars because even if you lose where you gotta have
• 57:37
  Speaker 1: carbs because if you're going to continue to maintain it,
• 57:41
  Speaker 1: it has to have something to burn.
• 57:43
  Speaker 2: Well, that's the that's the muscles primary sources. People think
• 57:46
  Speaker 2: it's protein, but our muscles are ninety water.
• 57:50
  Speaker 3: Yeah, carbohydrates hold water, cold water. TI. We even have a.
• 57:55
  Speaker 2: Peptide that helps to resurface the inner line the cut
• 57:59
  Speaker 2: because I just had an umbilical hernia repaired early Trebruary
• 58:05
  Speaker 2: and I got on the VPC peptide because we actually
• 58:08
  Speaker 2: make that peptide in our gas from juices and our stomach.
• 58:11
  Speaker 3: Naturally, we're just don't make enough as we get older.
• 58:14
  Speaker 2: But it heals the gut and it deals with joint repair, ligaments,
• 58:18
  Speaker 2: torn muscles, even boost naturally outside levels to help protect
• 58:22
  Speaker 2: your heart. Called it BPC means Body Protected Compound. It's
• 58:27
  Speaker 2: huge and we sell a lot of it. So I
• 58:29
  Speaker 2: started taking it like six weeks because doctor Wagnan took
• 58:33
  Speaker 2: six weeks before surgery. Then I had my abdominal hernia repaired,
• 58:38
  Speaker 2: and I had a diastasis red tie, a tear right
• 58:41
  Speaker 2: down in the middle of my avenue right, you know,
• 58:43
  Speaker 2: like when pregnant.
• 58:44
  Speaker 3: Women it span really fast. Yeah, care that muscle in
• 58:47
  Speaker 3: the middle. I have that.
• 58:49
  Speaker 2: And so three weeks after my surgery, I was healed.
• 58:54
  Speaker 2: I nurse my I was live. She's like, wait a minute,
• 58:57
  Speaker 2: you don't have any more open scars or any more
• 59:00
  Speaker 2: open cuts. You don't have to manage all. Nope, you
• 59:02
  Speaker 2: got to be careful not to get into water. I
• 59:04
  Speaker 2: can go swim in the beast right now, it's all
• 59:06
  Speaker 2: sealed up. I couldn't believe I healed and the inner
• 59:11
  Speaker 2: lining of my gut, I don't have any acid reflux.
• 59:14
  Speaker 3: I don't have. I don't feel like I have any
• 59:16
  Speaker 3: nikky gut or stomach aches.
• 59:18
  Speaker 4: I need to get that from you, a lot of it.
• 59:22
  Speaker 1: I need to get that from you, because Lord on,
• 59:26
  Speaker 1: my mother's having issues with her stomach, and she went
• 59:29
  Speaker 1: and had a colonos. They found one of the polyps
• 59:32
  Speaker 1: and I told her, did they remove it?
• 59:34
  Speaker 4: She said no.
• 59:35
  Speaker 1: I said that might be while your stomach's hurt because
• 59:37
  Speaker 1: they didn't move that polyt. I said, no, it's cancer.
• 59:40
  Speaker 1: It's not cancerous, but they still need to remove it
• 59:42
  Speaker 1: because the fact of the matter that it is causing
• 59:45
  Speaker 1: you pain. So she's supposed to go to the doctor
• 59:48
  Speaker 1: to have them look at her stomach. But for me,
• 59:51
  Speaker 1: I was like, you know, I'm starting to make stuff
• 59:54
  Speaker 1: from scratch, like making juicing and making my own you know,
• 59:58
  Speaker 1: foods from scratch, and getting a garden and getting my
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 1: own fruits and vegetables and finding natural fertilizers. I found
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 1: this stuff on TikTok that you can spray on your
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 1: vegetables that will clean off all your parasites, because parasites
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 1: is coming from food and what you drink, and then
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 1: not only that, you know, and that's one of the
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 1: things that in the conversation I want to talk about
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 1: is the digestive system and about your products, because you know,
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 1: the thing I've learned about when you go to the bathroom,
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 1: your poop can be one color and then it could
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 1: be back dark because you're intestine depending on how much
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 1: you chew your food and you know whether it can
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 1: be digested or not. You know that has a lot
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 1: to do with stuff being in your stool. And then
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 1: you know you're like, well, why.
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 4: Is it I'm eating right and I'm drinking water. I said,
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 4: but here's the thing.
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 1: The body can reject, it can accept, it can become
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 1: addicted or just don't like whatever you're putting in your system.
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 1: So it's important to know the internal part of your
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 1: body of what it is that we really are supposed
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 1: to eat. And is it really the food that's the issue,
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 1: or is it the chemicals that are being put in
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 1: our foods that are causing all of these issues.
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 2: And you can't even get the vegetables anymore without taking
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 2: in poison.
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 3: It's ridiculous. You have to be.
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 2: I drink my cucumber water and I drink the bitters,
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 2: the African bitters to kill parasite.
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 3: I definitely agree.
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's without that society these days.
• 1:01:29
  Speaker 1: Exactly when you go overseas, like I've seen people go
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 1: overseas and they don't even have allergies anymore. I believe
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 1: that they have no allergies to nothing because they don't
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 1: use those chemicals. And then it's like for people that
• 1:01:42
  Speaker 1: have been eating seafood for years, been eating foods for years,
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 1: and now they're having throat issues because also your thyroid
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 1: is being impacted. So because stuff is going down your throat,
• 1:01:55
  Speaker 1: which in terms, is messing up your thyroid. And I say,
• 1:01:58
  Speaker 1: the thyroid and the digestive system go together, and then
• 1:02:01
  Speaker 1: you have the nervous system from car accidents that's being
• 1:02:05
  Speaker 1: you know, damaged, and there in the communication between the
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 1: nervous system can't tell you, okay, something is wrong. And
• 1:02:12
  Speaker 1: a lot of people don't know how to tap into
• 1:02:15
  Speaker 1: the mind and the body as far as the consciousness
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 1: and the subconsciousness because they don't understand their nervous system. People,
• 1:02:21
  Speaker 1: we don't talk about the nervous system as we should,
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 1: because that's a very important factor because the nervous system
• 1:02:28
  Speaker 1: is how the body communicates and it's how it expresses,
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 1: how it feels, and we have to be able to understand.
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 1: The neck is important because that is where that nervous
• 1:02:39
  Speaker 1: system begins, is.
• 1:02:40
  Speaker 4: In your neck.
• 1:02:42
  Speaker 1: If you have any neck damage or anything done to
• 1:02:44
  Speaker 1: your thyroid or anything done to your neck or anything
• 1:02:49
  Speaker 1: like as far as your class, Yeah, you're wisdom too serious.
• 1:02:53
  Speaker 2: Nerves connected to your wisdom teeth the break branches off
• 1:02:56
  Speaker 2: the tree.
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 4: Yeah, so it's a don't matter.
• 1:03:00
  Speaker 2: It's absolutely matters those nerve connections out of your mouth,
• 1:03:04
  Speaker 2: not realizing they're tied to your liver as well. You know, Wow,
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 2: I do have a meeting and I have to get
• 1:03:10
  Speaker 2: to but I really could talk to you all today.
• 1:03:13
  Speaker 5: Yeah, getting forward to doing this conversation because I definitely
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 5: want to talk about those products and how they when
• 1:03:21
  Speaker 5: it comes to each system, how they help the body,
• 1:03:24
  Speaker 5: because I don't think it's being explained that way.
• 1:03:27
  Speaker 3: No.
• 1:03:27
  Speaker 2: A lot of people see the negative side effects of
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 2: the zempic and majorno, and rightfully so, because a lot
• 1:03:34
  Speaker 2: of that stuff is black market it's coming from China
• 1:03:37
  Speaker 2: and powder not filtered, not sterile.
• 1:03:39
  Speaker 3: And yeah, you're gonna have some issues and then people
• 1:03:42
  Speaker 3: overdose it.
• 1:03:44
  Speaker 2: And I was almost guilty of that That's why I
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 2: don't judge anybody.
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 3: You know. I lost like six pounds or so, so
• 1:03:50
  Speaker 3: I called a doctor.
• 1:03:51
  Speaker 2: Thankfully, our program is doctor supervised, and I said, hey,
• 1:03:55
  Speaker 2: I'm doing pretty good. Can I up my dose? I
• 1:03:58
  Speaker 2: don't have any side effects. And the nurse went talked
• 1:04:01
  Speaker 2: to the doctor. She said no, sir, He said, stay
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 2: on your dose the right way. I still lost those
• 1:04:06
  Speaker 2: eighty pounds, but they protected me from myself. Desperate for change,
• 1:04:12
  Speaker 2: and when something finally works, they want to amp it
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 2: up without medical supervision. Usha a lot of people out
• 1:04:17
  Speaker 2: there have taken too much. They end up in the
• 1:04:20
  Speaker 2: e yard. The stomach shut down because, like you said,
• 1:04:22
  Speaker 2: they cut the calgary restrictions so low, and it's like
• 1:04:25
  Speaker 2: anytime you have a very low calgory restriction or a
• 1:04:28
  Speaker 2: high restriction, your body suffers. But they blame the medication.
• 1:04:34
  Speaker 2: The stomach slow down. They get the gastrap for recess.
• 1:04:36
  Speaker 2: They loosening muscle. I've actually gained muscle, and must I've
• 1:04:40
  Speaker 2: lost the insulin resistant muscle. I take another peptide called sammarellin,
• 1:04:44
  Speaker 2: which tells my body to release its own naturally produced
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 2: growth homone steroid injections from my anterior pituitary gland.
• 1:04:53
  Speaker 3: I have growth HOMEO and I'm.
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 2: Fifty four, so I'm building muscle in my fifties naturally
• 1:04:59
  Speaker 2: without having to take theoids because our body loses signal.
• 1:05:03
  Speaker 2: Peptides are like signaling molecules. So you're talking about the
• 1:05:06
  Speaker 2: nervous system of signaling. You speaking my language.
• 1:05:09
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and I really want to get into that so
• 1:05:12
  Speaker 1: that when we talk about these differents, what what parts
• 1:05:15
  Speaker 1: of the body? Why is important to have these cars?
• 1:05:17
  Speaker 1: But yeah, I'm definitely looking forward to it. So I
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 1: will send the link to you, and I'm so looking
• 1:05:24
  Speaker 1: forward to doing this conversation.
• 1:05:25
  Speaker 3: We have a schedule.
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 1: I haven't scheduled anything yet, so whenever you're available, then
• 1:05:33
  Speaker 1: you can just get.
• 1:05:34
  Speaker 2: I'm always working, so I make time for these I
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 2: don't tell people that have like free time, because I
• 1:05:40
  Speaker 2: never do.
• 1:05:40
  Speaker 3: But when I have, I put on my calendar. I'm
• 1:05:42
  Speaker 3: making it work.
• 1:05:43
  Speaker 1: Anytime except next Thursday is good for me because next
• 1:05:46
  Speaker 1: Thursday we have an appointment.
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 4: But anytime after that I'm free. Anytime after that, Okay,
• 1:05:51
  Speaker 4: it's fine.
• 1:05:51
  Speaker 2: So what days do you think from your experience you
• 1:05:54
  Speaker 2: get the best crowds.
• 1:05:55
  Speaker 1: It turned out it depends on the podcast if it's
• 1:05:59
  Speaker 1: about health and well, and I normally post it on Sunday,
• 1:06:02
  Speaker 1: so anytime during the week, it's just whenever I posted,
• 1:06:04
  Speaker 1: So anytime of the week, it doesn't make a difference.
• 1:06:06
  Speaker 4: It's just whenever you know.
• 1:06:08
  Speaker 3: What time of davy you're going to do the morning after.
• 1:06:11
  Speaker 4: I do them both, okay, when you get the best turnout, it's.
• 1:06:16
  Speaker 1: Hard to say, well, it really just depends because they're
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 1: pre recorded, so.
• 1:06:21
  Speaker 4: Anytime. So that's why I said whatever.
• 1:06:23
  Speaker 2: Normally presenting Sunday evening, Tuesday evening and Thursday evening, so.
• 1:06:30
  Speaker 3: Monday is good for me. Wednesday is also very good.
• 1:06:34
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 1:06:34
  Speaker 1: So what I'll do is I'll send you my calendar
• 1:06:36
  Speaker 1: and then you can just spend time works and then
• 1:06:37
  Speaker 1: we got it.
• 1:06:38
  Speaker 4: Thank you so much for doing this.
• 1:06:40
  Speaker 2: It's you're wise, I mean, obviously, but it was refreshing
• 1:06:46
  Speaker 2: talking to you.
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 5: Thank you.
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 4: I appreciate it. And good luck and have fun in
• 1:06:49
  Speaker 4: your meeting.
• 1:06:50
  Speaker 3: Yes, ma'am, thank you so much.
• 1:06:52
  Speaker 4: You're welcome.
• 1:06:53
  Speaker 3: Have it the day.
• 1:06:55
  Speaker 4: Thanks