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Splitting All The Finances 50/50 With Your Partner · The Breakfast Club

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  Speaker 1: Morning.
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  Speaker 2: Everybody is DJ Envy Charlamagne to God. We are to
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  Speaker 2: breakfast club. Nephew just joining us. We're talking about Gabrielle
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  Speaker 2: Union and the Waye Wade. Now this comes from a
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  Speaker 2: recent interview she did and she was talking about hustplitting
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  Speaker 2: the bills fifty to fifty with our husband.
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  Speaker 3: Lists Listen, that first sense of security and that the
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  Speaker 3: work is coming. And I just as long as I
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  Speaker 3: keep knocking it out, there's gonna be more and there
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  Speaker 3: isn't this sort of sense of the rug is going
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  Speaker 3: could still be pulled out.
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  Speaker 4: I struggle with that still, just because I think I
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  Speaker 4: just have more responsibilities, you know, for my money. It's
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  Speaker 4: weird to say I'm head of household because in this
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  Speaker 4: household we split everything fifty to fifty. But in the
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  Speaker 4: other households that each of us have to support, it
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  Speaker 4: puts this there's always this like gorilla on your back
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  Speaker 4: that is like.
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  Speaker 5: You better work, You would have better work.
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  Speaker 4: Somebody might not eat word, and it's hard. It's hard
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  Speaker 4: to let that go. So I'm working on that, all right.
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  Speaker 2: So we're asking what are your thoughts. When we got
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  Speaker 2: Tracy on the line, Tracy, good.
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  Speaker 6: Morning, Hey, good morning.
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  Speaker 1: Hey bro, what's your thoughts? Brother?
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  Speaker 6: So, my thoughts is this, If it's a regular couple
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  Speaker 6: and they work, they both work in jobs, I don't
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  Speaker 6: see nothing wrong with going fifty to fifty. But if
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  Speaker 6: the woman's in like school or something like that, I
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  Speaker 6: understand that man paying the bills. But if the man's
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  Speaker 6: paying all the bills and a woman's not doing anything,
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  Speaker 6: how they ever gonna get anywhere, like as far as
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  Speaker 6: investments and growing a better future for the family, leaving
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  Speaker 6: the legacy, how they gonna get anywhere if they regular
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  Speaker 6: people and the man's just spending all the money on
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  Speaker 6: the building.
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  Speaker 5: It's like, now, this goes back to exactly what we
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  Speaker 5: were just talking about. You just said that woman is
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  Speaker 5: not doing nothing. But I guarantee you if you go
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  Speaker 5: to that woman that you're the hypothetical woman's house you're
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  Speaker 5: talking about, and you see all of the things that
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  Speaker 5: she does on the daily in that house, you would
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  Speaker 5: realize that nothing you're saying is a huge something.
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  Speaker 1: Tracy, are you married? Tracy?
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  Speaker 6: Nah? I'm not mad. I'm not saying she's not doing nothing,
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  Speaker 6: but I'm saying, with the money, what is she doing
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  Speaker 6: with them? Yeah? No, No, listen to what I'm saying though,
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  Speaker 6: with the money that she's saving, that she's not paying bills,
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  Speaker 6: I understand that she's being a money.
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  Speaker 1: You say that money and say.
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  Speaker 6: What is she doing with that money that she's not spending?
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  Speaker 6: Or get what you're saying, putting it into invest next
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  Speaker 6: for the family, get what you say? You know what
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  Speaker 6: I mean.
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  Speaker 1: What I thought you said she wasn't making no money?
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  Speaker 1: Fifty fifty? What is she doing with her money?
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  Speaker 2: She's just putting her money in her account and spending
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  Speaker 2: and buying bag shoes and going on trips with the girls.
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  Speaker 2: Or is she taking that money and putting it back
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  Speaker 2: to the house or investing it or whatever it is? No,
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  Speaker 2: I agree that That's why I say, you put it
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  Speaker 2: all into one pot, and it should be the households
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  Speaker 2: money to you know, to take care of the household,
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  Speaker 2: build the kids in all lives.
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  Speaker 1: I see what you say.
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  Speaker 6: Fact.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you brother. Hello?
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  Speaker 7: Who's this Valencia?
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  Speaker 1: Hey Valencia, good morning.
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  Speaker 7: Good morning.
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  Speaker 6: How are y'all doing?
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  Speaker 5: Good?
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  Speaker 8: Amen? What's your thoughts so on your on your topic.
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  Speaker 8: I don't think there's anything wrong with fifty fifty. I
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  Speaker 8: think the issue comes in where if Gabrielle feels like
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  Speaker 8: her money has to go to more places, maybe he
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  Speaker 8: should pay more. But I also feel like maybe she
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  Speaker 8: hasn't had a conversation about it.
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  Speaker 2: But you mean her money has to go to other places,
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  Speaker 2: and mean past relationships, so parents or family, something like that.
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  Speaker 7: No, in the interview, she said she feels like she
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  Speaker 7: has more households to contribute to, so she's constantly stressed
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  Speaker 7: about her money. So maybe it shouldn't be fifty fifty.
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  Speaker 7: Maybe he should take over more in their households.
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  Speaker 5: I mean, I didn't see the interview, so I don't
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  Speaker 5: know what that means, but that.
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  Speaker 1: Means that could mean she'd be taking care of family.
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  Speaker 1: That's what I was thinking.
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  Speaker 5: I'm saying, you're taking care of other family members, you
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  Speaker 5: know what I mean, Like you could be taking care
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  Speaker 5: of your mom, You be taking care of your pops,
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  Speaker 5: your grandma. I don't know her family situation, but also
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  Speaker 5: it sounds like.
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  Speaker 2: But even in family situation, when it's ours, it's we
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  Speaker 2: both decide what goes.
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  Speaker 1: To family members, you know what I mean?
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  Speaker 5: All the time, because there's family members that may ask
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  Speaker 5: my wife for money. Correct, you know what I'm saying,
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  Speaker 5: there's family members that may ask me for money, correct,
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  Speaker 5: you know, and those are conversations that we have.
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  Speaker 1: It's usually simple because I ain't got it. But you know, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not mad at it.
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  Speaker 5: And you know, we were talking about something earlier too,
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  Speaker 5: in regards of like family members when they ask us
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  Speaker 5: for money, Like my people might ask me for money,
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  Speaker 5: or they might have my wife for money.
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  Speaker 1: My wife is the no person. Well I'm the sucker.
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  Speaker 5: My wife is the no person.
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  Speaker 1: My wife.
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  Speaker 5: No, it don't matter who it is, even if it's
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  Speaker 5: people on my side of the family, tell them to
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  Speaker 5: talk to me.
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  Speaker 1: See, he's the no person.
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  Speaker 2: Is just a good thing. See, you gotta it's like
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  Speaker 2: you gotta go through my mom and pops. Right, My
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  Speaker 2: mom and pops kind of handle my finances, but they
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  Speaker 2: don't meaning they look at it like you work hard.
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  Speaker 2: Nobody else works hard, but you so you ain't gonna
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  Speaker 2: lend no money. So my mom and possibly be like
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  Speaker 2: no like before if they you know, you know, sometimes
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  Speaker 2: feeling but like let me talk to the garage, let
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  Speaker 2: me talk.
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  Speaker 1: To this room. My pops come right with me. No,
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  Speaker 1: absolutely no, But that's that's mom and pops. Absolutely all right, Well,
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  Speaker 1: what's the moil of the stories. The more the stories
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  Speaker 1: doing worse for you.
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  Speaker 5: You know what I'm saying. But I really don't like this, this,
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  Speaker 5: this conversation about percentages. You know what I mean, Because,
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  Speaker 5: like we've been saying all morning, if you really broke
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  Speaker 5: it down and calculated what each person does in their
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  Speaker 5: respective roles, if you look.
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  Speaker 1: At all the things a woman does to make our
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  Speaker 1: lives easier, yep, oh my god, it would not be
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  Speaker 1: fifty fifty.
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  Speaker 5: It'd be like seventy thirty, eighty twenty a gear towards
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  Speaker 5: the woman.
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  Speaker 1: Alright, it's the breakfast Club. Good morning,