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Romeo In The Morning 5-14-26 · Romeo & Friends

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  Speaker 1: That's going on everybody. We made it to Thursday and
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  Speaker 1: we talked a lot. Man. We talked a little bit
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  Speaker 1: about who gets a foul ball at a ball game
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  Speaker 1: when who has the right to the ball when it
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  Speaker 1: flies into the stands. We also talked to George Lopez,
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  Speaker 1: and of course relationships. Michael Bean was on, and then
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  Speaker 1: we talked a lot about relationships. Let's see what happened.
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  Speaker 1: I had been waiting to talk to you guys about
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  Speaker 1: this for a couple of weeks. Now I wanted it
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  Speaker 1: to cool off a little bit because some of my
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  Speaker 1: friends that I grew up with still listen to the
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  Speaker 1: show online. So I had to let it cool off
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  Speaker 1: a little bit before I tell. Okay, a good friend
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  Speaker 1: of mine, and he is a good friend of mine,
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  Speaker 1: his wife got some photos of him messing with another woman,
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  Speaker 1: So he was cheating on his wife. The woman he
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  Speaker 1: was messing around with her husband, I guess, caught them
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  Speaker 1: together and sent the kotos that he took of them
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  Speaker 1: together to his wife. Now, she confronted him with this right,
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  Speaker 1: and this idiot he I shouldn't call him an idiot
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  Speaker 1: because she believes him. But this idiot told his wife
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  Speaker 1: that they were AI photos. He said they were doctor photos.
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  Speaker 1: He's not messing around on her, and that the guy
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  Speaker 1: who sent them just has beef with him for another reason.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't I didn't get what the other reason is.
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  Speaker 1: But she believed him. Now, I this idiot. He got
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  Speaker 1: away with it so far up to this point. His
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  Speaker 1: wife believes that the photos of him with this other
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  Speaker 1: women woman are AI artificial intelligence, their doctor. They're not real.
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  Speaker 1: Now AI is going to change the world in a
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  Speaker 1: way that will never It's gonna be tough, right to
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  Speaker 1: understand if something's real or not. We already see it,
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  Speaker 1: I mean in in social media posts. We already see
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  Speaker 1: it online. They make movies AI movies now that are
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  Speaker 1: tough to understand if they're real or not. Right, I don't.
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  Speaker 1: I don't really pay that close attention to it because
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  Speaker 1: it's not uh to me. I don't I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: To me, I don't care. But can you tell if
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  Speaker 1: it's AI or not?
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  Speaker 2: Now?
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  Speaker 1: I do pay attention to AI when it comes to
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  Speaker 1: how it's gonna change the world. You know, is AI
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  Speaker 1: going to take over you know, take over the planet
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  Speaker 1: like a Terminator movie and then kill off all the humans,
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  Speaker 1: or is aar going to destroy uh, you know, human life,
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  Speaker 1: which I think is stupid. I don't believe that. But
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  Speaker 1: are you guys scared of AI? I mean, I don't
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  Speaker 1: even know. The conversation about AI is the one I
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  Speaker 1: wanted to have. But I think it's just funny that
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  Speaker 1: my friend of mine used AI as an excuse to
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  Speaker 1: get away with cheating, and so far it's working for them.
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  Speaker 1: What do you guys think about AI? What do you guys?
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  Speaker 1: Do you think it's really going to be detrimental to society?
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  Speaker 1: I mean, my buddy used it to get out of
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  Speaker 1: a cheating scandal with his wife. Already four two pot
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  Speaker 1: four or seven to seven? Good morning? That what's going on?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, you're talking about AI?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah?
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  Speaker 4: What do you go?
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  Speaker 2: Bro?
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  Speaker 5: So I was just talking.
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  Speaker 3: About this with my buddies the other day. I think
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  Speaker 3: it's making everybody incredibly lazy, like stupid lazy. An example
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  Speaker 3: I have is like at work, a lot of my
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  Speaker 3: coworkers they like to use AI to draft their emails.
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  Speaker 3: I understand, like it's mundane, you know, having to do
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  Speaker 3: our having to do our job, get a little foreign. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: But what it does is like whenever we're in like
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  Speaker 3: a big meeting with HR or we're having meeting with
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  Speaker 3: our union. Okay, their critical thinking is just gone.
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  Speaker 2: You know.
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  Speaker 1: It's funny that you say that, because I was talking
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  Speaker 1: to somebody and that's what they were saying. They were saying,
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  Speaker 1: people are becoming stupider because of AI. The generations are
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  Speaker 1: becoming dumber because AI does the work for them. And
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  Speaker 1: like you just said, no critical thinking, no problem solving skills,
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  Speaker 1: they're losing all that. But that's so yeah, I agree
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  Speaker 1: with you.
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  Speaker 3: All right, people haven't watched Terminator enough. Man, I grew up.
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  Speaker 3: Derek Connor would be shaking her head at a be embarrassed.
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  Speaker 3: You guys need to watch those movies again.
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  Speaker 1: All right, man, thanks for calling. You know, and I
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  Speaker 1: will say this. This is what I want to say
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  Speaker 1: that along with that is, you know, we talk about
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  Speaker 1: computers taking over and like he just said, the Terminator, right,
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  Speaker 1: we watch movies where computers take over the world and
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  Speaker 1: humans are fighting for survival. But and that's gonna sound
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  Speaker 1: nutty and be a little bit might be over your head,
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  Speaker 1: a little bit, but the computers have already taken us over.
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  Speaker 1: The iPhones, the cell phones are so much like a
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  Speaker 1: drug that people actually lose it if they can't get
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  Speaker 1: on their phones or they can't get on social media.
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  Speaker 1: The computers have already brainwashed the human race and have
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  Speaker 1: taken over, even though it's not in the same way
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  Speaker 1: that you see in the movies. It's not in the
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  Speaker 1: same way that you see where the computers are just
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  Speaker 1: running everything and they got their own little robot army,
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  Speaker 1: and the and the and the and the humans are,
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  Speaker 1: you know, fighting for revival in a military way like
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  Speaker 1: they do in the Sarah Connors or the Whatevers. But
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  Speaker 1: you're already been taken over. I mean, you guys are
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  Speaker 1: already controlled by by a robot, by a by technology
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  Speaker 1: with your phones. And if you think you're not, you're stupid,
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  Speaker 1: because you are. You're just in denial in the same
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  Speaker 1: way that a person who's hooked on a drugs or
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  Speaker 1: alcohol would say, I'm not a drug here, I'm not
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  Speaker 1: an alcoholic, because you are. You're you're hooked on your
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  Speaker 1: phones and there's it's the world that we live in
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  Speaker 1: right now. So I would argue that you've all the
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  Speaker 1: computers have already taken over. The problem is are they
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  Speaker 1: going to wipe you out? Like in these terminator movies, right,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. Are you afraid of AI? I don't
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  Speaker 1: know if you should do or not. But it is
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  Speaker 1: making you dumber. AI is definitely making you dumber. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: but I But then again, you have to make the
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  Speaker 1: other argument for AI. If I can just look something
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  Speaker 1: up on how to do it and then do it,
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  Speaker 1: why do I need to solve the problem on my own?
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  Speaker 1: You know, if if and I do this, I still
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  Speaker 1: do this, right. I have conversations about certain things like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: how many super Bowls did you know Tom Brady win?
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  Speaker 1: Or whatever? A question like that. I don't go to
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  Speaker 1: AI to look at the answer. If I don't know it,
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  Speaker 1: I try to figure it out. But I'll be sitting
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  Speaker 1: next to a friend who would just go right to
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I had that conversation this morning.
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  Speaker 2: Now.
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  Speaker 1: We were talking about something for music, how old. Oh
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  Speaker 1: we were talking about how old Lisa Lisa was, and
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  Speaker 1: I was trying to do the math in my head
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  Speaker 1: about last time you know, blah blah blah. A guy
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  Speaker 1: next to me he just looked it up. Oh, she's
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  Speaker 1: this age, you know what I'm saying. So I don't
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  Speaker 1: know necessarily what's uh. I guess I can stand on
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  Speaker 1: both sides of the fence. But I do I do believe.
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  Speaker 1: I don't believe AI is going to take me over.
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  Speaker 1: I don't think it's going to take over the world,
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  Speaker 1: you know, in the way that you see in Terminator.
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  Speaker 1: Let's see here, you send me something about my buddy.
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  Speaker 1: Uh good morning, Rome. I really hope that lady's not
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  Speaker 1: listening to the radio because now she gonna know her
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  Speaker 1: husband was cheating. She's not listening to my show. Hold on,
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  Speaker 1: let me get this phone call and I'll explain. Good morning,
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  Speaker 1: how what's going on?
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  Speaker 2: Bro?
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  Speaker 6: The only people that have to fear AI is the
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  Speaker 6: smart people to geep, so the nerds.
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  Speaker 1: Why is that?
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  Speaker 6: Because I mean before they had they You know, I
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  Speaker 6: got a friend that went to school four years for
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  Speaker 6: computer tech. He can design stuff, and he's been replaced
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  Speaker 6: by AI. Uhh, No, these people that thought they were smart,
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  Speaker 6: I can just use AI and be just as smart
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  Speaker 6: of them, right to Dave got the advantage now on
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  Speaker 6: all these smart guys. Okay, I have nothing to fear.
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  Speaker 6: It's made me smart, it's made me more advanced.
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  Speaker 1: So but you all for AI, But you don't think
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  Speaker 1: AI is gonna take O take control of the world
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  Speaker 1: that becomes some some crazy thing that runs us, right.
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  Speaker 6: I don't think so, only because there, even though it
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  Speaker 6: is smart technology, they don't have that gut, it's instinct.
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  Speaker 6: They don't know how to you know, what about all
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  Speaker 6: the jobs.
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  Speaker 1: Their word's gonna take over all the jobs, and nobody's
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  Speaker 1: gonna have, nobody's gonna be able to I.
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  Speaker 7: Don't think so.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think so.
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  Speaker 6: It's gonna take over the smart and the nerds. The
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  Speaker 6: nerds are gonna be out of business. But thus hard
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  Speaker 6: workers are still changed hired and still work, you know,
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  Speaker 6: labor jobs.
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  Speaker 5: We're we're all right about.
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  Speaker 1: What about robot eyes? They got robots now to do
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  Speaker 1: that stuff.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, but it's not gonna work. It's not gonna be
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  Speaker 5: the same, Okay.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just I'm just asking. I'm not scared of AI either.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not.
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't scare me at all.
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  Speaker 6: Because I don't think AI it could be as twenty
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  Speaker 6: as you.
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  Speaker 1: Or you know, oh, not even close, not even there.
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  Speaker 6: It is there, and they can't be as annoying as
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  Speaker 6: great a days so.
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  Speaker 1: And it can definitely can't be as dumb as glues.
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  Speaker 5: So we are good. We are us street are guaranteed.
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  Speaker 1: All right. Anyway, Oh my god, So back to what
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  Speaker 1: I was. Somebody said that he hopes the ladies not listed.
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  Speaker 1: What happened was a friend of mine and he's in Atlanta.
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  Speaker 1: He lives in Atlanta with his wife. So he was
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  Speaker 1: cheating on his wife. And I believe he was cheating.
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  Speaker 1: But anyway, the husband of the woman he was cheating
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  Speaker 1: with took photos and sent them to my friend's wife,
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  Speaker 1: and he just told his wife it was AI. Those
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  Speaker 1: are AI photos. They're not real. Somebody's this guy doesn't
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  Speaker 1: like me. He's trying to get even with me for
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  Speaker 1: some reason. And she believed them.
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  Speaker 8: So but AI.
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  Speaker 1: A lot of people are afraid of AI losing their jobs.
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  Speaker 1: They're afraid they're going to turn into terminators and take
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  Speaker 1: over the world. And I doubt And you guys got
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  Speaker 1: to stop listening to these idiots who think AI, because
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  Speaker 1: we could still just unplug it, just like a computer.
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  Speaker 1: Just we're back to business, right all righty four two five,
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  Speaker 1: four seven to seven. So it's Romeo, Oh, tending you
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  Speaker 1: about a buddy of mine. He got uh, I think
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  Speaker 1: he got caught his wife. His wife believes him though,
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  Speaker 1: but he was messing around with some lady. The lady's
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  Speaker 1: husband caught him, caught pictures of him, sent it to
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  Speaker 1: his wife. My friend's wife. He just told her it
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  Speaker 1: was Ai, and she believed him. She believed him. It's crazy,
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  Speaker 1: alrighty four two five, four seven to seven A roam.
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  Speaker 1: You don't think AI is going to take your job?
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  Speaker 2: Now?
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  Speaker 1: AI can have my job? You know what it's like,
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  Speaker 1: dealing with two fools all the day, all this all
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  Speaker 1: this time. Hey, I could have my job, but no,
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  Speaker 1: he has not taken my job. I mean, come on, now,
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  Speaker 1: you guys worried about AI?
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  Speaker 9: And uh?
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  Speaker 1: I mean, there's a couple of different ways to look
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  Speaker 1: at it. Are you worried about the fact that it's
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  Speaker 1: gonna take your job? Are you worried about the fact
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  Speaker 1: that it's going to take over the world. Oh, it's
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  Speaker 1: smarter than a so what, It's still just a machine. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: you guys got to stop watching Terminator and all these
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  Speaker 1: ridiculous movies that make it seem if anything, if anything
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  Speaker 1: AI is going to do, it's already have done. And
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  Speaker 1: that's with your cell phones. Your cell phones control you.
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  Speaker 1: And if you don't think they do, you're just in denial,
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  Speaker 1: but your cell phones control you. So technology is already winning.
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  Speaker 2: You know.
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  Speaker 1: The one thing it is doing is it's making people stupider, dumber.
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  Speaker 1: And it did say that. I saw a story the
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  Speaker 1: other day that said women are the ones that are
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  Speaker 1: going to be affected the most the effects of AI
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  Speaker 1: on working lives of women. It's women. I guess they're
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  Speaker 1: going to be affected the most when it comes to AI.
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  Speaker 1: Women face higher workplace risks when it comes to AI.
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  Speaker 1: So it's interesting. Hey, rom I've caught AI lying numerous times,
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  Speaker 1: which makes me wonder how many times have I believe
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  Speaker 1: something it told me that I didn't know. Well, the
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  Speaker 1: thing about AI you have to understand is it depends
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  Speaker 1: on who programs it. I know exactly what you're talking about.
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  Speaker 1: There are different AIS that will tell you different things
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  Speaker 1: because of the beliefs of the human that programmed it.
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  Speaker 1: So that's what you think human air. You think AI
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  Speaker 1: is gonna take over humans? No, no, no, no, no, no,
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  Speaker 1: you gotta be you can't be that stupid. It's not
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  Speaker 1: gonna kill all the human beings. It's not gonna take
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  Speaker 1: over the human race. It's just it's just gonna be
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  Speaker 1: there in the same way. It's just gonna make you dumber,
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  Speaker 1: is what it's gonna do.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, what's the lou.
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  Speaker 4: I gotta disagree with you on the AI stuff.
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  Speaker 1: Well, that's because you're a moron, and no is because
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  Speaker 1: I got proof.
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  Speaker 2: Man.
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  Speaker 4: I was now Ley a couple of weeks ago and
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  Speaker 4: I ordered a ride and it was one of those
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  Speaker 4: cars that drive them. Oh well mo away moo, yeah
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  Speaker 4: yeah away morey AI.
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  Speaker 1: I get it, but it's still the technology. Those things
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  Speaker 1: just blocked up a street in Texas for like fifteen
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  Speaker 1: hours because all they all came to the same spot
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  Speaker 1: at the same time. There's they're not they're not perfected
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  Speaker 1: nowhere near enough to take over the world. And I'm
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  Speaker 1: they probably won't be.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, probably not the world, but the majority of like
• 14:28
  Speaker 4: big cities, maybe Bakersfield, not Watcoat, definitely not Walcot.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: And then also a I ordered some food on door
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  Speaker 4: dash and it was like a little a little robot
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  Speaker 4: came to the door.
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  Speaker 1: I seen that clown.
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  Speaker 2: I was in Uh.
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  Speaker 1: I was in La a couple of weeks ago, and
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  Speaker 1: I saw that thing going down the street and it
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  Speaker 1: got stuck. So give me a break, you guys. You
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  Speaker 1: know what, all right, all right, right, all right. I
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  Speaker 1: mean I think AI is gonna do some things, but
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  Speaker 1: it's not gonna control the world like you guys see
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  Speaker 1: in some sort of silly movie. You know, Hey, what
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  Speaker 1: I'm wrong. All I can say is that my job, can't,
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  Speaker 1: my co can't my coworker's job, for sure, because AI
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  Speaker 1: definitely isn't gonna kiss my boss's ass. Oh yeah, AI
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  Speaker 1: will take over some jobs, but it's not gonna control
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  Speaker 1: the world. There are people that think the end of
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  Speaker 1: the world is coming because of AI, and that these
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  Speaker 1: robots are gonna it's gonna become what sentient? Is that
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  Speaker 1: what it means gonna think for yourself. It's gonna become
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  Speaker 1: its own No, it won't, you know, it's not. It's
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  Speaker 1: still just a machine, that's all it is.
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  Speaker 2: Now.
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  Speaker 1: It may be able to scour the Internet faster, but
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  Speaker 1: it's not finding anything that hasn't already programmed. That's the thing.
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  Speaker 1: It's not gonna become some sort of its own thing
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  Speaker 1: and take over the world like you see in the movies.
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  Speaker 1: It's just it's not what you need to What you
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  Speaker 1: need to be afraid of more than AI is the
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  Speaker 1: cell phones and how all of you cannot get off
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  Speaker 1: your freaking phone. I would be more worried about that. Oh,
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  Speaker 1: we got George Lopez with us this morning. He is
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  Speaker 1: a legend in comedy, in television and movies. He's gonna
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  Speaker 1: be at the Fox Theater Saturday, May sixteenth. Good morning, George,
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  Speaker 1: good morning.
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  Speaker 2: You know it's always when I see people, they always go, hey,
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  Speaker 2: George Lopez. It's never just just George. I think from
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  Speaker 2: the show. I think the first show. Hey, hey, get
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  Speaker 2: out of the way.
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  Speaker 1: You know, well, it's funny. I know you you won't
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  Speaker 1: remember because you've met thousands of millions of people. We
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  Speaker 1: met in Sacramento a long time ago when I first
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  Speaker 1: got into radio on kas FM, and it's been a
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  Speaker 1: long time, and your career is just it's incredible, how
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  Speaker 1: much you bet.
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  Speaker 8: I mean, you know, even at the beginning, man, like
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  Speaker 8: you know, there was no kind of.
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  Speaker 2: Template for uh, you know, for us. You know, so
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  Speaker 2: as as you kept going, you would be like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: you could do that. Like I didn't ever think about
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  Speaker 2: having one show, much less like five. Man.
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  Speaker 8: I mean, it's just it was every day. Every day
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  Speaker 8: I chewed out on.
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  Speaker 2: It, man, because it's like I'd never imagined it would
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  Speaker 2: go like this, you know, I was gonna and.
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  Speaker 1: What are you most proud of? Georgia? I mean, you've
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  Speaker 1: done it all. You've done that the TV show with
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  Speaker 1: your latest one with with your daughter, I believe, if
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  Speaker 1: I remember correctly, then you had the one before that,
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  Speaker 1: which was Oh my god, that one was so funny.
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  Speaker 1: It was more it was what was the one before that.
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  Speaker 2: Like like the TV Yeah, it was more.
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  Speaker 1: It was more like a cur Yes, that one was great,
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, that one was so So what are
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: you most proud? I mean, you've been doing stand up forever.
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: You're a leg next. I don't want to pigeonhole you,
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: but as a Mexican comedian, you are one of the greatest.
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: If not, I won't even know who's who's accomplished more
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: than you.
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: Thank you. You know what. I think there's two asses.
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: I think doing the show with Mayan was pretty much
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: beyond uh my imagination, you know. And it's funny that
• 18:27
  Speaker 2: being you know, working with your daughter that when I
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: would see her every day, I would I would my
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: mind would.
• 18:33
  Speaker 8: See her being born, and see her at two, here
• 18:36
  Speaker 8: at five.
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: And then see her as this woman. So I would say,
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: because it's hard enough to get a show on your own.
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: Let's let's bring your kid with. Everybody takes your kids everywhere.
• 18:46
  Speaker 2: But like, you know, and then I think, personally on
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: the on the other side of it, I think the
• 18:52
  Speaker 2: start on the Walk of Fame in two thousand and
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: six was pretty big.
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: Oh that's so impressive. I mean, it's just it's just
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: and it's the thing is I me know, I saw
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: you when you were first starting in the comedy clubs,
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: and now all these years later, it's just it's incredible
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: to be there in the beginning and see.
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: It all of you know, you know back then, you know,
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: Sacramento was awesome.
• 19:14
  Speaker 8: Man, it was just you know those things too, you know,
• 19:16
  Speaker 8: like all the all the.
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: Radio relationships you made and all the clubs and stuff.
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: It's like, if you're fortunate enough to have people come
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: and see you, you know, it's easy to get to
• 19:27
  Speaker 2: get better. Man. But you know, sometimes when I when
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: I think about things, and I'll tell somebody that I
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: don't know if I would have had the heart for it,
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: if I hadn't have become successful, Like how much do
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: you take before you say, you know, I think I
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: wrapped this up well.
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: How how did you do it though, Georgia, With this
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: I did. These comedians coming out today, they go put
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: a little clip on YouTube or and then their Instagram
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: or TikTok, and all of a sudden they get a
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: show you were you were fighting for a space that
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: just wasn't there when you start.
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's definitely way it's way different. You know.
• 19:57
  Speaker 8: One time I was doing the view and they had
• 20:00
  Speaker 8: some influencers.
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: Goal before me, and they're like, they're gonna go. They're
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: gonna go before yous, with maybe three of them, And
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: I said, then you'll be the second. Guess that I said,
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: all right, But then as they were on, they had
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: nothing to really contribute other than whatever video they showed. Yeah,
• 20:19
  Speaker 2: so they kind of ran out of like seam there.
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: And then when I went out there, you know, all prepared,
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: you know, and they were like, man, that's the eye
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: opening you know that that you put three of them
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: out there at all they are about is what they video.
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, so hold on, Georgia. Second, we got
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: more with George Lopez. He's gonna be at the Fox
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: Theater May sixteenth. They get your tickets. Now, that's a
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: Saturday for George Lopez is here. He's got to be
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: the Fox Theater Saturday, May sixteenth. And you were, I
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: mean you were, you were fighting. When you were there
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: were only well a couple of comedians, a couple of
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: top comedians. Back in the eighties and nineties when there
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: was there wasn't room for everybody. Everybody nobody got a
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: TV show like you did.
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you know. The the craziest thing is, you know,
• 21:02
  Speaker 2: I saw a picture of Led Zeppelin, you know, walking
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: you know, down this hall the way backstage, and I said,
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: it looks a little bit now because it's been so long, man,
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: like fifty years.
• 21:12
  Speaker 8: Like those dudes walk there and you're like you should.
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: Be dinosaurs or even fed around. And then and then
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: you see these guys and you're like, man, like I
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: was alive. I knew Richard Pryor, you know, I saw
• 21:25
  Speaker 2: Ride the Danger Fields. I saw all these old dudes
• 21:28
  Speaker 2: that aren't around anymore. But when I was growing up,
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: like those were the those were the guys that everybody
• 21:33
  Speaker 2: tried to be. You know, those guys have been trying
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: to look at them.
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: But now you're one of those guys. If you put
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: in the context moving forward, you're now one of those guys,
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: one of those iconic comedians now that are that are
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: still around.
• 21:45
  Speaker 2: And you know, I think I think in all the
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: things that I've done, I think, you know, in movies,
• 21:51
  Speaker 2: you they you Robert Rodriguez, I did movies with Sharp
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: Boy with him, and when every time I messed up,
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: he goes, come over here, let me show you. So
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: you can show me in the monitor where I messed up.
• 22:01
  Speaker 2: And he'd be like, all right, don't do that. And
• 22:03
  Speaker 2: I'd be like, oh dude, it's like a like a
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: dog man. They bring you to the don't ever do
• 22:08
  Speaker 2: this again. And I was like, man, I gotta go away.
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: I just want to show you real quickly, like oh
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: my god. Like so, so, I think stand up is
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: the is the freest form of I think that's why
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: I think it's it's elevated comedians and there's a lot
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: of you know, there's a Netflix Festival when the comedians
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: do the Hollywood Bowl.
• 22:25
  Speaker 8: Now, you know, I did Me and Me in Tantana did.
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: The Hollywood Bowl in two in two thousand and nine,
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: which does not even sound like it's almost twenty years ago.
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: Oh wow, what hey, what do you think about comedy
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: today now? What do you think about it after all
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: these years of being in it and being you know,
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: a pioneer to an extent of some of it. What
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: do you what do you think about comedy today?
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: You know, I wish one thing. I wish the times
• 22:50
  Speaker 2: were different. I wish there wasn't so much like division
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: and so much.
• 22:56
  Speaker 8: Like people hating on each other man and and all
• 23:00
  Speaker 8: things that people you.
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: Know, get doied on the internet and you know, you
• 23:03
  Speaker 2: know they're they're not prepared for it. But I just
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: think that I just hope, I just wish the times
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: were different, like we were living in a more in
• 23:09
  Speaker 2: a halfier time. And you do it all these years
• 23:12
  Speaker 2: and then when you want to kind of wrap it up,
• 23:14
  Speaker 2: it's crazier than it was than it was and any
• 23:17
  Speaker 2: other time in your career, it's almost like you're almost
• 23:19
  Speaker 2: forced to go out there.
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, what so what do you so?
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: What?
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: You're back on tour? Are you back on tour now?
• 23:25
  Speaker 9: Georgia?
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: And you're and what's next for You're still looking at
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: more shows, You're still looking at more movies or what you.
• 23:31
  Speaker 5: Don't know about?
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: You know, you know, I have podcasts, just like a
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: smaller one. So I think we're looking at one legitimately,
• 23:38
  Speaker 2: like larger in scale, you know, with an executive producer
• 23:41
  Speaker 2: and and everything, because they become almost they're shows now,
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: they're not even podcasts anymore. They're larger than shows. You know,
• 23:50
  Speaker 2: they tour with podcasts and stuff like that. So I
• 23:52
  Speaker 2: think maybe maybe less road and maybe if that thing
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: works out, which everybody you know has done so many things,
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: I would say, you know, you get an opportunity that
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: that might be a mixture of both of them, because
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: you know, I like to be home a little bit more.
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: I think making Field in the Fox always been one
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: of my favorite places. But I mean, you know, as
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: you're as you're older, man, you're out here.
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think. I think the last time you were
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: at the Fox, I actually was walking in and you
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: were just standing on the sidewalk. You're just standing right
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: out front of the Foxes. I don't know, he's just
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: hanging out.
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: I think, I remember, what are you doing? It's funny
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: because you know, you never you never think that anybody
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: would recognize you man and and beg In the beginning,
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: I went to Chicago was really cool to me. So
• 24:35
  Speaker 2: I went over there for this lady the general manager
• 24:37
  Speaker 2: because I called all the general managers the summer before
• 24:40
  Speaker 2: my show went on, because I heard that Drew Carrey
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: did it, and you know, it helped him. You make
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: a relationship with all the general men. And I sat
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: there and called all the general matters. So when I
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: was in Chicago, you know, I look up and there's
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: an Indian family, you know, for India, you know, the
• 24:54
  Speaker 2: husband and a wife and a son and daughter. And
• 24:56
  Speaker 2: I see him on the movie Escalator and then I'm
• 24:58
  Speaker 2: kind of looking down. It's early sudden in the morning,
• 25:00
  Speaker 2: and I see their feet, you know, and I look
• 25:04
  Speaker 2: up and the and the husband says, my.
• 25:07
  Speaker 8: Son said that you're you are the man.
• 25:09
  Speaker 2: And I said, I said, I'm one of them. I'm
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: one of them.
• 25:12
  Speaker 8: And he's like, oh, that you have a television.
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: I said, yeah, I said I do. I do, because yeah,
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: he saw he said, we took a picture of my family.
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: And I was like, wow, man, I mean that's like
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: that was in the beginning. That was the beginning of
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: the beginning.
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you've You've always been very accessible though. I think
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: over the years you've always been very accessible to the
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: fans and been around we know.
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: I think the thing you know, I think and you
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: know this because you know, there's a personality for radio,
• 25:39
  Speaker 2: there's there's things, you know, and and the fact that
• 25:41
  Speaker 2: everything I've done has my name. I think people think
• 25:45
  Speaker 2: that when I do something like, that's who I am,
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: but it's not. It's not.
• 25:49
  Speaker 8: It's like an actor goes, oh, man, that guy, that
• 25:52
  Speaker 8: guy's means to his mom.
• 25:53
  Speaker 2: It's like, no, no, no, it's not.
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: It's not being well, that's incredible. Well, George Lopez, I'm
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: so glad you spent time with that's this morning. We
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: can't wait to see you May sixteenth. He's gonna be
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: over at the Fox Theater. Make sure you guys get
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: your tickets now. You don't want to miss out. I'd ask,
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: what's new, George, but I'm guessing whatever you're gonna bring
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: is gonna be funny no matter what.
• 26:14
  Speaker 2: So it's great. It's really great to happen out there
• 26:16
  Speaker 2: working on it. You know, actually a considering maybe even
• 26:18
  Speaker 2: potentially looking at like a one man show. So this
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: is a little more personal, but it's still got some
• 26:23
  Speaker 2: it's still got some bang. Jes you don't know.
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: That's great. Thanks for spending time with us this morning.
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: George George. Was he at the Fox Theater on the sixteenth.
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: That's a Saturday. Thanks George, again, I really appreciate appreciate it.
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: How was that the ball game? The Dodgers? The Dodger
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: game and the what is the deal with these foul balls?
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: What is the deal with home runs and foul balls
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: when they go into the stands. My understanding was it
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: was just a free for all. You know, you're not
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: supposed to knock over a little kid or an old
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: lady to get the ball. But is everything else spare game?
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: When I was a kid, everything was spare game at
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: the ball game? Okay, I don't know what it is now, Well,
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: what's the rules?
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: You know?
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: I mean, you know you would you would be sitting
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: there at the game the other night I was at.
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: You would be sitting there and a ball would fly
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: right at your face, and if somebody stuck their hand
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: up and grabbed it before you did, that was their
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: ball and there was nothing wrong with it. There was
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: no problem. They didn't do anything wrong. Or if a
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: guy stuck a glove up or a girl stuck a
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: glove up and normal, but normally what would happen is this,
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: here's the other thing that would happen the ball. Okay,
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: so just an example, right, a kid sitting there, ball's
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: coming straight at his face. Guy stops it, you know,
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: a girl stops whoever, pick whoever stops it and catches
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: it right. Normally, whether they were the kid's mom or
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: dad or not, they would give the kid the ball.
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: That's normally that was kind of how it worked. Okay.
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: Kids were the ones that always were the more important
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: factor at the ballgame. Now it seems like you got
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: these dumb ass human adults, men and women who were
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: either just so damn selfish or so damn something that
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: they gotta have. It's a freaking baseball unless though Tani
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: just hit it out to win the World Series. Okay,
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: I get it. Now we got more complications for these
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: for these balls that actually mean something, uh, in the
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: sports industry, in the in the in the in the
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: sports memorabilial world. Now that does change this idea of
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: things happening but just a ridiculous foul ball. The way
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: that these people fight over them, it's kind of silly.
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: But on top of that, it's not. But it's not
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: even to me growing up, it wasn't even fighting over it.
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: You were just whoever got a first It was a
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: mad dash for the ball. Whoever got it got it.
• 29:04
  Speaker 1: I mean, as long as you weren't elbowing and punching
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: somebody to get a ball. It was whoever got it
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: got it. I mean, have the rules changed?
• 29:16
  Speaker 2: I don't.
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: I don't understand it. What do you what's going on here?
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: I mean, you guys are baseball fans. You guys go
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: to a lot of Dodger games. You guys go to
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: a lot of ball games. You know, what do you
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: do when a ball come to me? It was when
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: it used to be back in the day. Actually, when
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: I was a kid went to more baseball games. It
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: was more of self preservation, the ball coming straight at you.
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: Now it's a trophy, I guess, a meaningless trophy for
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: the most part, unless you, like I said, unless you
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: catch Otani's you know, home run breaking ball that's worth
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: a million dollars or something silly like that. But I
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: don't get it. I don't. I don't. I don't get
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: what I guess. I just don't get the rules today
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: when it comes to a ball out of play at
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: a baseball game, I don't get the rules. I mean,
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: what are you supposed to do? Everybody gets mad if
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: I catch a ball. If a ball is coming at
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: you and I stick my hand out and grab it,
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: you're the bad guy. I'm the bad guy because you
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: didn't stick your hand out to grab it faster than me.
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: I don't get that, because that's I always thought it
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: was fair play. Once the ball and don't let the
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: ball hit the bleachers, then it's everybody is It's a
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: man's mad dash on the ground, right, It's like when
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: it pinalla breaks. Hey, it's all fair game. At least
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: that's what I thought. Did you see all these people
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: crying on social media or crying on the internet, Oh
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: my god, they took my felt ball? Oh did they really?
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: Or were you just not quick enough to get it?
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: I mean, what are the rules? P? Four two five
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: four seven is seven? So when it comes to the
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: baseball games, or that whenever they're throwing stuff into the crowd,
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: what are the rules? Man? It seems like everybody if
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: they don't get one or if somebody gets it before them.
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: But I always thought it was a free for all.
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: I mean, outside of shoving a little kid or an
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: old lady. You know, I thought it was always a
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: free for all. But I was at the Dodger game.
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: I was at the Dodger game, and yeah, they were fighting.
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: They were even mad at each other, yelling at each other,
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: although it was the Dodger game already four two or
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: seven seven row. I feel like it's the first one
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: to get it. Unless it's with a kid, then the
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: kid deserves that ball. I've thrown them back. May mean nothing, Yeah,
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: they really do. Foul balls mean nothing. I mean maybe
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: if you catch that one, you know, one home run
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: ball that sets the record for home runs or wins
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: a World Series or something to that effect, that has
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: some memorabilia status. I get that, I guess, but I
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: just they're stupid. I mean, they're ridiculous. It's just a baseball.
• 31:57
  Speaker 2: So but what the rules?
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: I mean, if you catch it, I mean, here's the question.
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: If it's about to hit somebody in the face because
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: they don't have the reflexes to stop it or move
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: or they don't see it, then you've done a good deed, right.
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: But if everybody's going for it and you reach your
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: hand out and their hand they don't reach out at
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: all for it, it's supposed to be theirs. I don't
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: know what the rules are. I really don't, and I
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: think it's funny when I see people arguing about it,
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: or when I see people, you know, yelling at somebody
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: else because well, maybe you should have been quicker. Isn't
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: that the game you throw a T shirt in the crowd?
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: Or when the thing drops the ticket from the what
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: is the thing? I think the condors have something that
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: drops the ticket. If they still do that, I don't
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: know if they do that anymore. Blimp flies around the
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: arena and drops a ticket, isn't it whoever grabs it first?
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: In any situation? I mean, unless you're physically harming somebody,
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: I don't understand. So if I put my hand in
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: front of yours and you don't put your hand out
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: at all, that's wrong already? Four two to five, four
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: or seven to seven? What are the rules? What are
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: the rules when it comes to that? Hey, Romeo, I
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: got to tell you this one. I took the wife
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: and kids out to a Dodger game one time, and
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: we were paying attention. A ball came right at one
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: of my kids, and I was talking to my wife
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: over here looking the other way, and luckily the guy
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: behind me or behind my kid reached his hand over
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: grabbed the ball. My kid would have got straight clocked
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: had this guy not been trying to go for that ball.
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: So I think that anyone who can get the ball first,
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: especially if you're gonna catch it, deserves it. The great
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: thing about the guy was he gave the ball to
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: my son, So I guess it really worked out out
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: for everybody. But yeah, that's what I'm saying. Usually when
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: it comes to kids, right, you guys are so worried
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: about a ball As an adult. I mean, what kind
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: of selfish, pathetic adult do you got to be that
• 34:10
  Speaker 1: you got to get this foul ball at a baseball game?
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: And that's what that's just your pathetic Give it to
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: the kid, you know. I mean, that was good that
• 34:21
  Speaker 1: he gave it to the kid. But I agree with you.
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: I would just think whoever can catch the ball first,
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: gets the ball regardless. I mean, as long as you're
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: not shoving somebody aside to grab it, right. I don't know,
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: it just seems like it just seems like there's too
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: much controversy over a foul ball in baseball nowadays, and
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: people are fighting about it online at the stands. Well,
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: it was the Giants and the Dodgers, so people are
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: fighting in the stands now. Anyways, Hey, Romeo, one time
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: at a Dodger game. What happened one time at a
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: Dodger game. One time at a Dodger game, my younger
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: brother was going for a foul ball and this woman
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: side checked him. He went is hat and sunglasses went
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: another way and knocked him to the ground. Mind you,
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: my younger brother was an adult in his twenties. She
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: got the ball, all right, but she also realized what
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: she did as she turned around and apologized to my brother.
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: Bottom of beer and bottom of beer. She really wanted
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: the ball though. I mean, that was nice of her
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: to at least, you know, buy him the beer. I
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: mean that was something that was something. Michael Bean is
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: here from the Marriage and Family Center.
• 35:27
  Speaker 5: Good morning, Michael, Well, good morning.
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: Are you I am great? How are you doing?
• 35:33
  Speaker 2: Oh?
• 35:33
  Speaker 5: I'm doing okay?
• 35:34
  Speaker 2: Thanks?
• 35:34
  Speaker 5: All right?
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: We got Marriage Family Center six six three two seven,
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: five to one. That zero zero is the number. Michael.
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: I don't even know what to jump into this morning.
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: I know I was supposed to. I always tell Michael
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: Ivan to write something down and then I get caught
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: up over the week talking about all this nonsense with
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: all you people about different relationship problems that you have,
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: and then I forget what I wanted to talk to
• 35:59
  Speaker 1: Michael about. And I always I always do Michael. Unlet's
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: just break down relationships real quick. I mean, just the
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: idea that.
• 36:10
  Speaker 4: We're not.
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: We don't seem to be fixing our problems. I mean,
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: we seem to be having the same issues in our
• 36:15
  Speaker 1: relationships for decades. It doesn't seem like one thing has
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: anything really ever gotten solved completely to where we go, Okay,
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: we finally fixed one thing in relationships, and now we
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: can move on to the other things that we have.
• 36:32
  Speaker 2: No.
• 36:33
  Speaker 5: We watch, uh, we watch communication technology and information technology
• 36:38
  Speaker 5: and transportation technology.
• 36:40
  Speaker 8: The stupid steep.
• 36:42
  Speaker 5: Curves as it builds on itself. Yeah, and then we
• 36:44
  Speaker 5: see this flat line of relationship technology. We're just and
• 36:50
  Speaker 5: it surprises us. You know, as individuals, we get surprised
• 36:53
  Speaker 5: us as much every time. But man, I was so
• 36:55
  Speaker 5: attracted to this person and now we can't stand each other.
• 36:59
  Speaker 2: What is that? You know?
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: It's funny that you say that because you remember before
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: before the internet, before cell phones, when people would get
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: up in the morning and go to work. Honey, I'll
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: see you at four or five or whatever. They wouldn't
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: talk to each other all day. There was no there
• 37:15
  Speaker 1: was no easy access. I mean, but you might make
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: a phone call from your office to her office or
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: his whatever, or sometimes they're just too busy. And we
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: all thought that, oh my gosh, if we just had
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: more time with each other to communicate, we would be
• 37:31
  Speaker 1: better off. And now we cannot go a second without
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: communicating with somebody if we want to. And it hasn't
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: really made anything better.
• 37:43
  Speaker 5: You're absolutely right, and it hasn't helped anything and everything
• 37:49
  Speaker 5: we kind of think is going to kind of it doesn't. Yeah,
• 37:52
  Speaker 5: but yeah, it's just somehow when we have that really
• 37:57
  Speaker 5: strong attachment in the beginning of relationships, we kind of
• 38:00
  Speaker 5: we're on our best behavior, We're doing our very best
• 38:03
  Speaker 5: to the other person. We're still kind of trying to
• 38:05
  Speaker 5: prove to them that we like them and that we
• 38:07
  Speaker 5: should be like the back, you know, that we're worthy
• 38:10
  Speaker 5: of their flow, and so we just we do we
• 38:14
  Speaker 5: kind of just and then and then when that initial
• 38:18
  Speaker 5: attraction starts to kind of fade, which it always does,
• 38:20
  Speaker 5: you know, that honeymoon period starts to kind of our
• 38:23
  Speaker 5: horror moon start to kind of level out a little bit,
• 38:25
  Speaker 5: and then we start kind of taking them for granted
• 38:28
  Speaker 5: a little bit. And it's really sad. Couples that kind
• 38:32
  Speaker 5: of maintain that sort of just mistique and thinking about
• 38:36
  Speaker 5: each other for more than a couple of years a
• 38:40
  Speaker 5: pretty rare that you can see it sometimes, but it's
• 38:43
  Speaker 5: pretty rare.
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: Let me ask you this, Michael, And now you said
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: something very interesting. Once every once the newness kind of
• 38:51
  Speaker 1: wears off, we kind of get complacent, or we kind
• 38:53
  Speaker 1: of take for granted we do human beings.
• 38:57
  Speaker 4: Just do we do?
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: I was trying to think of every as fast as
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: I can, of all factors of my life. Do we
• 39:04
  Speaker 1: take everything for granted? Is that just human nature for us,
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: no matter what?
• 39:08
  Speaker 2: Not?
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: Just a person? Do we take our jobs for granted?
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: Do we take our friends for granted? We don't take
• 39:13
  Speaker 1: our friends for granted in the same way for some
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: reason that we take our spouse for granted or our partner.
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: That seems a little odd or in my miss am
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: I wrong about that?
• 39:23
  Speaker 2: Michael?
• 39:25
  Speaker 5: Well? I mean, we do end up treating our prisons
• 39:29
  Speaker 5: better than our partners sometimes, which is kind of blows
• 39:33
  Speaker 5: my mind a little bit. But when you sort of
• 39:36
  Speaker 5: think about this expectation that your partner's going to just
• 39:41
  Speaker 5: be there, you have this kind of arrangement. Okay, well
• 39:44
  Speaker 5: we're sharing a house. It's not like they're going anywhere,
• 39:47
  Speaker 5: and there's almost a I don't have to be nice, yeah,
• 39:53
  Speaker 5: because they're gonna I know that makes us sound terrible,
• 39:57
  Speaker 5: but I just think, yeah, sometimes we we just sometimes
• 40:01
  Speaker 5: feel but we get entitled. But you're right about the other.
• 40:06
  Speaker 2: You get it.
• 40:07
  Speaker 5: You get a new car, and you know, for the
• 40:09
  Speaker 5: first while, it's just like, man, I'm gonna wash this
• 40:11
  Speaker 5: car every other day, and you know I'm gonna then
• 40:16
  Speaker 5: sure enough, here you are six months later, and well,
• 40:19
  Speaker 5: not everything every day. I watch your current week. What
• 40:25
  Speaker 5: are you talking about that every day?
• 40:26
  Speaker 2: You know? And that's just yeah, we do. We do.
• 40:29
  Speaker 5: We get used to what was once just really cool
• 40:32
  Speaker 5: and precious and neat to us, and it just becomes
• 40:35
  Speaker 5: ordinary over time.
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: All right, Michael, I want you to think about this.
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: I gotta play a song, but I want you to
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: think about this. The idea that if we didn't take
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: our partner for granted, if we actually spent more time
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: being involved in our relationships, how much happier we'd be
• 40:55
  Speaker 1: as human beings. I want you to think about that
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: for a second. Michael Bean is here for the Marriaging
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: Family Center. Good morning, Michael, Good morning, Marriage a Family
• 41:03
  Speaker 1: Center six six, one three two seven of fifty one hundred. Now, Michael,
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: I want to ask you about this, and I know
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: it's going to sound like a crazy idea, but extending
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: the honeymoon phase into or a version of the honeymoon
• 41:18
  Speaker 1: phase into the rest of our lives and actually being
• 41:21
  Speaker 1: in a relationship where you can get to do you
• 41:24
  Speaker 1: get what you want, they get what they want, and
• 41:28
  Speaker 1: everybody seems to be happy, and you're not really coming
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: home to a negative house. That just seems like a
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: crazy idea. Huh.
• 41:39
  Speaker 5: Well, I've seen people extend the honeymoon period for sure,
• 41:44
  Speaker 5: and then there's something that can approach what you're talking
• 41:47
  Speaker 5: about that we should discuss extending it. I just watched people.
• 41:52
  Speaker 5: They'll go, oh, you know what, Look, we're starting to
• 41:55
  Speaker 5: kind of like mitpick each other. It's starting to get
• 41:57
  Speaker 5: kind of negative a little bit. Let's not do that
• 42:00
  Speaker 5: the way things were just you know, a couple of
• 42:01
  Speaker 5: weeks ago.
• 42:02
  Speaker 2: Let's let's get back.
• 42:03
  Speaker 5: To that than they do, and they're able to kind
• 42:06
  Speaker 5: of sustain that and keep it going. Sometimes we're up
• 42:09
  Speaker 5: to another year and you don't think about that. Just
• 42:12
  Speaker 5: having that new love closeness for a whole extra year
• 42:17
  Speaker 5: of your life, that's just awesome. So I highly recommend
• 42:20
  Speaker 5: that I have, you know, help people and counsel people
• 42:25
  Speaker 5: and coach people to get to there. But the thing
• 42:29
  Speaker 5: that kind of gets close to what you're talking about
• 42:31
  Speaker 5: is is rekindling it periodically. So yes, you know, we
• 42:37
  Speaker 5: have been together a long time, we know each other's
• 42:39
  Speaker 5: strengths and weaknesses, and we we you know, it's just
• 42:43
  Speaker 5: that a lot of that newness is gone. But let's
• 42:47
  Speaker 5: go on a weird vacation just the two of us.
• 42:50
  Speaker 5: That is going to kind of help us sort of
• 42:53
  Speaker 5: just rediscover some of that because we're going to go
• 42:55
  Speaker 5: do this thing together that we kind of haven't done,
• 42:59
  Speaker 5: and we'll kind of remember what it was like when
• 43:02
  Speaker 5: we were just back there, and you can you can
• 43:05
  Speaker 5: go revisit that and have those moments.
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: Well let me, now, let me take it a step
• 43:09
  Speaker 1: further and say, when we start relationships have moved on. Now,
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: we have kids, now we got jobs, now we've got
• 43:17
  Speaker 1: responsibilities and accountabilities to things, and maybe the time we
• 43:21
  Speaker 1: have together is a little bit different. Maybe we got
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: a you know, maybe we're not happy in certain aspects
• 43:26
  Speaker 1: of our life. And now we start nitpicking, we start
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: taking it out, we start not wanting to. I mean,
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: there is something as stupid as you know, going and
• 43:36
  Speaker 1: running errands together, going to the grocery store, you know,
• 43:39
  Speaker 1: doing maybe doing the chores together. I mean, these are
• 43:42
  Speaker 1: things that all have to get done anyways, but at
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: some point, you whoever it is, goes no, I'm too
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: tired from work, I don't want to do it. And
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: those things compile into a well, he doesn't love me,
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: she doesn't love me, there's no respect. He keeps leaving
• 43:57
  Speaker 1: his shoes on the floor, and that I keep telling
• 44:00
  Speaker 1: them not to, and now we're we're in this run
• 44:03
  Speaker 1: of nitpicking or arguing or getting you know, not really
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: thinking that the one cares about this. To me, those
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: are all very little things that can add up to
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: a bigger issue. And I don't know why it is
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: so difficult for us to go you know what, I'm tired,
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: I had a hard day, but damn it, we're just
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: going to go to the store for twenty minutes or
• 44:24
  Speaker 1: a half hour to get groceries. I just suck it
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: up for the betterment of the relationship for both parties.
• 44:31
  Speaker 5: That is a really good idea. It really is say
• 44:35
  Speaker 5: yes to your partner. If your partner said yes, you
• 44:37
  Speaker 5: do something together unless you have because that's what you
• 44:40
  Speaker 5: would do with a friend. If a friend asked you
• 44:42
  Speaker 5: over to go play cards or something, yeah, you'd make
• 44:45
  Speaker 5: sure you have a really good reason before you tell
• 44:48
  Speaker 5: told them no, because you want to keep a friendship.
• 44:50
  Speaker 5: So you know, hey, you know I got to go
• 44:53
  Speaker 5: with my wife to go to this shower thing and
• 44:55
  Speaker 5: I'm sure sorry, I'd love to come. Boy cards, I
• 44:57
  Speaker 5: can't do it. If you don't have that thing that
• 45:00
  Speaker 5: you have to go, do you gotta go play cards? Well,
• 45:02
  Speaker 5: same thing in your relationship. Yes, they'll do it without you,
• 45:07
  Speaker 5: but don't make them. Just don't make them do it
• 45:09
  Speaker 5: if they invited you because they wanted you to go alone,
• 45:12
  Speaker 5: to say yes and the absolutely.
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: But that's something I think that could those little things
• 45:20
  Speaker 1: can add up to make a better relationship. Right and
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: then when you when you look at some of that
• 45:25
  Speaker 1: and then then the time you don't you go, oh
• 45:28
  Speaker 1: my god, I just I can't. Today's the day I
• 45:30
  Speaker 1: can't do it. Well, yeah, you said yes the other
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: ninety five times, so I'm gonna yeah, I get it.
• 45:36
  Speaker 1: This is the one time you can't.
• 45:38
  Speaker 5: So I just I don't know.
• 45:39
  Speaker 1: I don't understand why what people miss in that, Why
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: people miss that, because sometimes the little things are more
• 45:48
  Speaker 1: important than the bigger things. The everyday things seem to
• 45:50
  Speaker 1: be more important than the bigger things. Are the ones
• 45:54
  Speaker 1: the you know, the date night every night, Well, you
• 45:57
  Speaker 1: went out date night every week, so we can keep
• 45:59
  Speaker 1: it fresh, or you can do little things every single
• 46:02
  Speaker 1: day that keep keep you let him or her know
• 46:06
  Speaker 1: how much, how interested and how much you still care.
• 46:09
  Speaker 5: And what you just described is exactly the answer to
• 46:13
  Speaker 5: you know, what happened to us? How did we drift apart? Uh?
• 46:16
  Speaker 5: You missed that, you missed that thing that you just
• 46:18
  Speaker 5: talked about where it's just kind of like I'm not
• 46:20
  Speaker 5: really feeling it. You go ahead and you go, yeah, okay, yeah,
• 46:24
  Speaker 5: you know, I'll do that, and then you do it again,
• 46:26
  Speaker 5: and it starts to become normal that you're just not
• 46:28
  Speaker 5: yea things together.
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and then we get where we get. I just
• 46:32
  Speaker 1: don't understand how. I guess I understand how we get there.
• 46:35
  Speaker 1: I don't know, Michael. The people are stupid. I don't
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: get it. I don't get it. All right, Michael Being
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: is here for Family Center. Michael Being is here for
• 46:44
  Speaker 1: the Marriage and Family Center. Good morning, Michael, Good morning.
• 46:47
  Speaker 1: All right, So we're what does it?
• 46:49
  Speaker 2: Six?
• 46:50
  Speaker 1: Six, one three two seven fifty one hundred is Michael's number?
• 46:53
  Speaker 1: Follow the prompts when you go through it. What were
• 46:56
  Speaker 1: we just talking?
• 46:57
  Speaker 10: Oh?
• 46:57
  Speaker 2: I know what.
• 46:57
  Speaker 1: I was just gonna ask you, Michael, about the complacency entitlement?
• 47:03
  Speaker 1: How we get there? This idea that all you know,
• 47:07
  Speaker 1: if you just keep doing some of the little things
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: that your partner wants, you may get more out of
• 47:12
  Speaker 1: the relationship like you want. And is it just human nature?
• 47:17
  Speaker 1: Who do we blame Michael for? And I'll use the
• 47:20
  Speaker 1: example that we were talking about out there, the sex.
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: We're having sex every day? Now I have to beg
• 47:26
  Speaker 1: for sex? I mean, is that the person's fault who's
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: begging of the person who's not wanted? How do we
• 47:32
  Speaker 1: get to that point? How do we get to that
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: point in any situation?
• 47:37
  Speaker 5: Yeah? Yeah, yeah, you did you kind of want We'll
• 47:40
  Speaker 5: wait a minute. If if you're the one that's wanting
• 47:43
  Speaker 5: it and you're not kind of getting it, isn't it
• 47:45
  Speaker 5: your fault somehow not showing up to the relationship, maybe
• 47:50
  Speaker 5: the way you're used to it, whatever. And honestly, if
• 47:52
  Speaker 5: you are that person, there may be some sort of
• 47:56
  Speaker 5: attitude shifts you can make about uh, you know what
• 48:01
  Speaker 5: you attribute that to to make it better. But really,
• 48:05
  Speaker 5: if you're going to solve that as a couple, if
• 48:07
  Speaker 5: you're going to actually put your two heads together and go, okay,
• 48:09
  Speaker 5: wait a minute, this is a problem for you, So
• 48:11
  Speaker 5: it's a problem in our relationship, so let's uh, let's
• 48:14
  Speaker 5: go to work on it. You've got to get away
• 48:16
  Speaker 5: from the whole blame thing. And in fact, I don't
• 48:19
  Speaker 5: think it's anybody's fault really. I think it's something that
• 48:22
  Speaker 5: happened to the relationship where that passion kind of went to,
• 48:28
  Speaker 5: you know, down, and then the couple didn't sort of
• 48:30
  Speaker 5: figure out how to deal with that fault. I don't
• 48:34
  Speaker 5: know if that's going to be really helpful. But how
• 48:37
  Speaker 5: about what just what happened.
• 48:39
  Speaker 1: How we got there? Michael, you do most people? I mean,
• 48:46
  Speaker 1: I'm just going to be a crazy question to ask you,
• 48:49
  Speaker 1: But do most couples know what their partner wants? Like
• 48:56
  Speaker 1: I Like on Valentine's Day, the chilly store tells me,
• 48:59
  Speaker 1: I gotta go get our a diamond ring, and a
• 49:01
  Speaker 1: flower company tells me, I go get our flowers, or
• 49:04
  Speaker 1: I got to get him a drill, or I got
• 49:06
  Speaker 1: to get him a gift. Or do we even know
• 49:09
  Speaker 1: what our partners want, really want, what really makes them?
• 49:16
  Speaker 2: We do, and.
• 49:19
  Speaker 5: Sometimes we don't feel like we don't feel like we
• 49:25
  Speaker 5: need to give them what they want what they want.
• 49:31
  Speaker 5: I mean, we can't give them everything they want, of
• 49:34
  Speaker 5: course not. And so therefore that word want is already loaded.
• 49:40
  Speaker 5: It's like I know they want this thing, but you
• 49:43
  Speaker 5: know I want a million dollars. So you know, okay,
• 49:50
  Speaker 5: what is that expression they used to say? How does
• 49:53
  Speaker 5: it feel to want?
• 49:54
  Speaker 9: Yeah?
• 49:55
  Speaker 5: Okay, but I want this thing.
• 49:58
  Speaker 1: I'm talking about things that out of our relationship. You know,
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: you go into a relationship, you know all I all
• 50:03
  Speaker 1: I really want is you know a wife who will
• 50:08
  Speaker 1: you know, go play play cards with me. Let's just
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: play Luno with me once a week, okay? And if
• 50:15
  Speaker 1: your wife says, well no, I'm not gonna do that
• 50:17
  Speaker 1: because I think it's stupid. Well, all I really want
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: is a husband who's gonna, you know, spend a little
• 50:22
  Speaker 1: time with me when I go run some errands, be
• 50:24
  Speaker 1: there with me in the car to talk, hold my
• 50:26
  Speaker 1: purse when i'm when I'm trying something on. And I
• 50:29
  Speaker 1: know those are way antiquated stereotypes, but the idea that
• 50:33
  Speaker 1: if that's what they really want as opposed well, I'm
• 50:36
  Speaker 1: gonna go buy her a new handbag so that she
• 50:38
  Speaker 1: feels better about me, and she's going, well, that's not
• 50:41
  Speaker 1: what I really want. I really wanted you just to
• 50:44
  Speaker 1: do this for me. I really wanted you to just
• 50:47
  Speaker 1: spend a little time with me. Or I really just
• 50:49
  Speaker 1: want to you know, I want to watch the game.
• 50:52
  Speaker 1: I'm a big sportsman, so really I just want to
• 50:54
  Speaker 1: watch this game. You can have every other, every other
• 50:57
  Speaker 1: hour out of me to do whatever it is. I
• 51:00
  Speaker 1: want this three hours to watch the Dodgers play, or
• 51:02
  Speaker 1: whatever the case may be. So when you look at
• 51:05
  Speaker 1: things like that, that's why I asked that question. Do
• 51:07
  Speaker 1: we really know what people want that's really gonna make
• 51:10
  Speaker 1: them feel good about who they're with.
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  Speaker 5: I mean, sometimes sometimes we do. Other times they'll tell
• 51:18
  Speaker 5: us directly, and we kind of like hear the words
• 51:23
  Speaker 5: and we know what each of the words mean, but
• 51:27
  Speaker 5: it sort of doesn't kind of make sense to it.
• 51:30
  Speaker 5: Why would that be so important? I don't I hear
• 51:32
  Speaker 5: what you're saying to me, but I just kind of
• 51:35
  Speaker 5: don't understand how that's so important to you. And then
• 51:39
  Speaker 5: you go to a therapist and then the therapist says
• 51:43
  Speaker 5: it and you're like, oh, yeah, that's what she's been
• 51:47
  Speaker 5: telling me. They're telling me all this time. But when
• 51:50
  Speaker 5: you hear it from another person, all of a sudden,
• 51:52
  Speaker 5: it kind of like clicks. It's just like, oh, I
• 51:55
  Speaker 5: needed it from a different perspective. When she tells it
• 51:58
  Speaker 5: to me, I kind of have to disco my head.
• 52:00
  Speaker 5: But when you say it, I kind of go, yeah,
• 52:03
  Speaker 5: that is really what she's really been wanting. And then
• 52:06
  Speaker 5: she's standing there kind of just going, I've been saying that.
• 52:10
  Speaker 1: Now I got to go back to humans are are humans?
• 52:14
  Speaker 2: Just?
• 52:14
  Speaker 1: Are we selfish? By nature? Because you could sit there
• 52:18
  Speaker 1: and go, she can tell you what she wants from you,
• 52:22
  Speaker 1: and you go, nah, she don't really want that. This
• 52:23
  Speaker 1: is what she wants because society told me this is
• 52:26
  Speaker 1: what women want, and you're going. So that's why I
• 52:29
  Speaker 1: asked the question. I just I think that happens a lot.
• 52:33
  Speaker 1: I just I do in relationships.
• 52:37
  Speaker 5: Well, I mean we are selfish, we're also generous. So
• 52:40
  Speaker 5: that doesn't really answer that question, you know, it doesn't
• 52:43
  Speaker 5: really Just saying that we're selfish kind of doesn't need it.
• 52:46
  Speaker 5: But but yeah, it is, for some really weird reason
• 52:50
  Speaker 5: easy for us to hear the words and kind of
• 52:52
  Speaker 5: dismiss them, even though that other person just speaking right
• 52:55
  Speaker 5: from their heart and gotcha. Of course, that other person
• 52:58
  Speaker 5: doesn't feel very loved when that happened.
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: So Michael being is here for the Marriage and Family
• 53:02
  Speaker 1: Center six six one, three two seven fifty fifty one hundred, right, Michael,
• 53:08
  Speaker 1: that's right, three two seven a five to one zero zero.
• 53:12
  Speaker 1: All right, Michael. One last thing before I get you
• 53:14
  Speaker 1: out of here, And I want to talk about people
• 53:16
  Speaker 1: that are in relationships that don't realize well maybe that's it.
• 53:19
  Speaker 1: They don't realize how much better it can be. It's
• 53:23
  Speaker 1: just okay, she nags me all the time, he doesn't
• 53:26
  Speaker 1: talk to me, he's always but you know, we're all right.
• 53:29
  Speaker 1: I'm like, well it could be better?
• 53:32
  Speaker 2: Are we just?
• 53:33
  Speaker 1: Are we just I don't. I just don't understand why
• 53:36
  Speaker 1: people are okay with mediocrity and or unhappiness. Is it
• 53:43
  Speaker 1: that's worse than being alone, or that's better than being
• 53:45
  Speaker 1: alone happy and alone?
• 53:47
  Speaker 5: Maybe for some maybe for others, they just never really
• 53:51
  Speaker 5: you know, their parents didn't emphasize their relationship a lot,
• 53:54
  Speaker 5: so they don't mean. There's probably a ton of reasons. Okay,
• 53:57
  Speaker 5: But you asked me during the break a really interesting question.
• 53:59
  Speaker 5: You were like, how better could life be for people
• 54:03
  Speaker 5: if their relationship was great? Absolutely, I'm not sure people
• 54:08
  Speaker 5: really consider that and really go deep into that question.
• 54:11
  Speaker 5: Wait a minute, what if I was really looking forward
• 54:15
  Speaker 5: to going home? What if my partner was really looking
• 54:18
  Speaker 5: forward to me coming home?
• 54:21
  Speaker 1: Especially if you don't care for your job. You know,
• 54:25
  Speaker 1: you got a tough job, a stressful job. Maybe your
• 54:27
  Speaker 1: coworker sucked, maybe you you know, maybe you had a
• 54:30
  Speaker 1: bad day, you spilt a cup of coffee on yourself,
• 54:32
  Speaker 1: and all of a sudden, you know, and but you're
• 54:35
  Speaker 1: just sitting there going you're right, Michael, like you just said,
• 54:37
  Speaker 1: I can't wait to get home. She's waiting for me,
• 54:39
  Speaker 1: He's waiting. It's going to be great. She's got to
• 54:42
  Speaker 1: make everything better.
• 54:45
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 54:45
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a good dog man.
• 54:48
  Speaker 5: You can well at least wagons sailing.
• 54:52
  Speaker 1: Always excited when that's always say dogs are always excited
• 54:55
  Speaker 1: when you know nobody should ever mistreat their dog because
• 54:57
  Speaker 1: that's the one one living thing in your house that
• 55:00
  Speaker 1: is waiting for you to come home every single day.
• 55:02
  Speaker 5: Yeah, thank scarning get better, they absolutely do. I've seen
• 55:07
  Speaker 5: it happen in just hundreds of lives. They's been an
• 55:10
  Speaker 5: amazing career for me, and I just have really appreciated
• 55:13
  Speaker 5: that moment where a couple kind of turns to the
• 55:15
  Speaker 5: corner and realize, oh, wait a minute, it doesn't have
• 55:18
  Speaker 5: to be like that. It doesn't have to be We
• 55:20
  Speaker 5: don't have to be at each other's throat, arguing on
• 55:23
  Speaker 5: on pising. People are like walking on eggshells. They're like,
• 55:26
  Speaker 5: as soon as I say the wrong thing, yea terribly,
• 55:29
  Speaker 5: that's a horrible way to live and it's not necessary.
• 55:32
  Speaker 1: Now I will say this that I want to say
• 55:33
  Speaker 1: this before you get out of here, Michael. When people
• 55:36
  Speaker 1: are listening to this and they're thinking, you know what,
• 55:38
  Speaker 1: that's kind of my relationship and my marriage right now.
• 55:41
  Speaker 5: It can be fixed.
• 55:42
  Speaker 1: If you were happy once.
• 55:44
  Speaker 4: I believe.
• 55:45
  Speaker 1: I believe if you are happy at one point, you
• 55:47
  Speaker 1: can get back there with a little bit of work.
• 55:49
  Speaker 1: Would you agree to that, Michael or disagree with that?
• 55:53
  Speaker 5: Well, with two caveats, and one is we both know
• 55:55
  Speaker 5: people who never should have gotten together in the first.
• 55:57
  Speaker 1: Place, right, yeah, you too, thinking.
• 56:01
  Speaker 5: And the other one is, like we talked about, also,
• 56:04
  Speaker 5: people change, and sometimes you know, people really do make
• 56:08
  Speaker 5: real changes.
• 56:09
  Speaker 1: In their desires, values.
• 56:11
  Speaker 5: Personalities in a way that just like makes them like, well,
• 56:15
  Speaker 5: we're not really a fit anymore. So those two possibilities
• 56:18
  Speaker 5: can happen. But if the change is you know, they're
• 56:21
  Speaker 5: just not really into me anymore. I just don't really
• 56:23
  Speaker 5: feel loved by them, and I'm not really feeling super connected.
• 56:26
  Speaker 5: If that's the change, almost always that can be fixed.
• 56:30
  Speaker 1: Okay, all right, Michael being a Marriage of Family Center
• 56:34
  Speaker 1: The Marriage of Family Center six three two seven of
• 56:36
  Speaker 1: fifty one hundred. Michael, we'll talk to you next week.
• 56:39
  Speaker 5: Okay, we'll talk to you then, take care.
• 56:41
  Speaker 1: All right? Eight four to two, pop or seven to seven, Ruben?
• 56:44
  Speaker 1: What'd you say? Ruben? And Ruben says, hey, rom our
• 56:47
  Speaker 1: washer broke, waiting for them to repair it. So we
• 56:50
  Speaker 1: had to go. Can I just tell you a funny
• 56:52
  Speaker 1: story about a washer though I had? So how stupid
• 56:55
  Speaker 1: I am? The washer broke and I never wanted to
• 57:02
  Speaker 1: get rid of My washer was an old school washer,
• 57:04
  Speaker 1: was great. And when I went to buy one, the
• 57:10
  Speaker 1: guy goes, well, what size do you need? I said size?
• 57:12
  Speaker 1: I go, what do you mean? He goes, well, do
• 57:14
  Speaker 1: you want a washer that's big enough to wash your
• 57:16
  Speaker 1: comforters in your blankets? And I said, hell yeah, I
• 57:20
  Speaker 1: had no idea that I could buy one of those,
• 57:23
  Speaker 1: a washer big enough for my home. I always thought
• 57:25
  Speaker 1: you just had to go to the laundromat. No clue,
• 57:28
  Speaker 1: that's how stupid I am. All right, So I bought
• 57:31
  Speaker 1: one big enough so I don't have to go to
• 57:32
  Speaker 1: the laundery at no more. All right, Sorry, Ruby, what
• 57:36
  Speaker 1: are you saying here? So we had to go to
• 57:38
  Speaker 1: the laundromat. I ran into this guy that was pretty
• 57:40
  Speaker 1: upset because he had to go with his wife to
• 57:43
  Speaker 1: the laundromat. I told him it was no big deal.
• 57:47
  Speaker 1: No big deal, you said, you said, But I work
• 57:50
  Speaker 1: all day and I told him I did too, And
• 57:53
  Speaker 1: I told you, you bet if your buddies invited you
• 57:56
  Speaker 1: out drinking over drinking, you'd go he said, Hell, yeah,
• 57:59
  Speaker 1: I would. Yeah, Oh yeah, you're right, you know, going
• 58:02
  Speaker 1: to the laundromat. I mean, you're right, there's just things.
• 58:06
  Speaker 1: And this is I feel bad for you people in
• 58:08
  Speaker 1: these relationships where you're not you know, you're not getting
• 58:11
  Speaker 1: your needs met. You think your wife's a jackass, your
• 58:15
  Speaker 1: husband's an a hole. Well it's because of things like that.
• 58:18
  Speaker 1: You don't want to go to the laundromat. You don't
• 58:20
  Speaker 1: want to do the little things that are just you
• 58:22
  Speaker 1: gotta do them, you know. And I guess that makes
• 58:27
  Speaker 1: you stupid. And I don't know why you can't figure
• 58:30
  Speaker 1: it out to be happier. Alrighty four two five four
• 58:33
  Speaker 1: or seven to seven? Romeo, Hey, hey, rom why are
• 58:38
  Speaker 1: you so harsh on us when it comes to our relationships?
• 58:42
  Speaker 1: Relationships are tough and you talk about you talk to
• 58:45
  Speaker 1: Michael bean about everything, and you act like you just
• 58:48
  Speaker 1: know it all. Well, because you guys are stupid. Look
• 58:53
  Speaker 1: what Ruben just texted His wife asked him to go
• 58:57
  Speaker 1: to the laundromat because they're washer broke. Right, Okay, you
• 58:59
  Speaker 1: got to go sit the laundry mat with your wife.
• 59:01
  Speaker 1: So what Okay, Oh, I'm too tired. I worked all day.
• 59:05
  Speaker 1: Like he said, he ran into a guy who was
• 59:07
  Speaker 1: upset that he had to go with his wife. Now
• 59:09
  Speaker 1: for him. For the guy that Ruben was talking to,
• 59:13
  Speaker 1: he's mad at his wife for dragging him to the
• 59:17
  Speaker 1: laundry maat Okay, that's I can guarantee you that's what's
• 59:21
  Speaker 1: going on in his head. That's stupid. It's your stuff too,
• 59:25
  Speaker 1: It's not just her stuff. So it's stupid for you
• 59:29
  Speaker 1: to be upset about that. You You you dirty clothes too,
• 59:32
  Speaker 1: So what you work, go sit at the laundry mat.
• 59:35
  Speaker 1: You're gonna just sit on your phone anyways and watch something, right,
• 59:39
  Speaker 1: I mean, it's just that's why I say you're stupid.
• 59:42
  Speaker 1: It's not that complicated. And it's really not that complicated,
• 59:47
  Speaker 1: like Ruben just said, because if you if you just
• 59:49
  Speaker 1: changed the parameters. Oh, I just had a tough day
• 59:52
  Speaker 1: at work, a long, hard day at work. Your wife
• 59:55
  Speaker 1: wants you to go do something with her that's not work.
• 59:59
  Speaker 1: But if you're buy, he's ask you to go drink
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 1: some beers, which is not work. You'll go do it
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 1: every time, But you don't want to go with your
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 1: wife just to do, run a few errands, or go
• 1:00:08
  Speaker 1: sit at lunch. I mean, that's my point. That's why
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 1: I say you guys are stupid. And part of it
• 1:00:13
  Speaker 1: is I have been talking to Michael for a lot
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 1: of years about relationships, and the more and more I
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 1: talk to him, the more and may I realize how
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 1: stupid you guys are, because it's so there's there are
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 1: just little things that you can do to make your
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 1: relationships great, and you don't do them. Hey, rote MEO,
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 1: good morning. I have a compromise for rub and go
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 1: to the laundrymat and then after the laundrymat, go grab
• 1:00:35
  Speaker 1: some drinks with your wife. I mean, I like to
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 1: hang out with my wife over a couple of drinks
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 1: rather than some guys.
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 1: Well, Ruben's not talking about himself. Ruben doesn't mind doing
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 1: everything with his wife. In fact, they do do everything together.
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 1: But Ruben said he met some guy at the laundrymat
• 1:00:50
  Speaker 1: who was complaining that he had to come to the
• 1:00:53
  Speaker 1: laundrymat with his wife. He met another guy and that's
• 1:00:56
  Speaker 1: when Ruben said, why, I bet if your buddy's actually
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 1: to go out for drinks, you'd be down for them.
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 1: And she said yeah, the guy said, yeah, so it
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 1: was somebody Ruben had met, not Ruben himself. But I
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 1: agree with you. I mean, I agree with everything that
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 1: you're saying. We're not what's going on.
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 6: He should be happy that she actually wants.
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 5: To hang out with him. She could be at that
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 5: laundromat texting some other man. I'm just saying, like she
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 5: could be texting someone else that's going to give her
• 1:01:24
  Speaker 5: the attention that she's seeking.
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 1: You know, I just yeah, yeah, you're absolutely right. I
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 1: don't understand this.
• 1:01:31
  Speaker 2: I don't.
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 9: I don't understand it, but I don't Honestly, I've been
• 1:01:36
  Speaker 9: listening to you since I was in high school.
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 5: I don't think you're harsh on us.
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 6: I think you're honest.
• 1:01:41
  Speaker 1: And some people don't like honesty, and because that's the
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 1: narcissistic traits they have, they think.
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 5: They're okay, but they always play victims. So you're fine, Rome,
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 5: whoever that person was. Excuse me, my language comes the
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 5: heck down.
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 8: Being stop being dumb and ro won't call you out.
• 1:01:58
  Speaker 1: I mean, if you don't, I don't have to call
• 1:02:01
  Speaker 1: you stupid. Hey, thanks for calling I appreciate it. You know,
• 1:02:07
  Speaker 1: I wonder why some of you guys, wonder you know
• 1:02:10
  Speaker 1: why you don't get what you want out of a relationship.
• 1:02:13
  Speaker 1: You know, well, you know she don't do this, she
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 1: don't do that. Well, that's because you don't do a
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 1: damn thing. How about just how about you doing a
• 1:02:21
  Speaker 1: little something right? How about you putting in a little effort,
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 1: a little more effort. How about you putting in a
• 1:02:26
  Speaker 1: little effort. Remember, like we said earlier, jumping, there's some
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 1: hoops if the guy doesn't jump through hoops for you
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 1: in the honeymoon phase, when you've just dated, when you're
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 1: supposed when you supposedly are interested the most in somebody,
• 1:02:40
  Speaker 1: if they're not jumping for hoops where you, they're never
• 1:02:42
  Speaker 1: gonna jump through hoops for you. And I, you know,
• 1:02:46
  Speaker 1: I always go back to the same thing to every
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 1: single guy that ever says, my wife don't give me
• 1:02:52
  Speaker 1: no sex. Well, did you give you sex when you
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 1: were staying up till four in the morning when you
• 1:03:00
  Speaker 1: first started dating and you had to be at work
• 1:03:02
  Speaker 1: at six she gave it to you? Then, huh, because
• 1:03:05
  Speaker 1: you were going out of your way for her. And
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 1: now you want you want the same treatment, but you
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 1: don't want to go out a way out of your
• 1:03:13
  Speaker 1: way for her. Same thing goes for you women, So
• 1:03:14
  Speaker 1: don't think I'm going to exclude you out this nonsense.
• 1:03:17
  Speaker 1: You were more than happy to do certain things, dress
• 1:03:21
  Speaker 1: a certain way, act a certain way when it was
• 1:03:24
  Speaker 1: new and fresh, and now you don't want to act
• 1:03:28
  Speaker 1: that way because well, he put a ring on it,
• 1:03:31
  Speaker 1: so I don't have to do this anymore. And you
• 1:03:34
  Speaker 1: guys know what I'm talking about. I don't have to
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 1: do that anymore. And when you're thinking about a relationship
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 1: like that, you guys both deserve what you get. There's
• 1:03:44
  Speaker 1: no other way around it. You deserve to be miserable
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 1: in that relationship.
• 1:03:48
  Speaker 10: Good morning, Romeo, what's up?
• 1:03:50
  Speaker 1: Everything's that? What's going on? I'm worry.
• 1:03:54
  Speaker 10: I'm sitting here listening and you talk about you know
• 1:03:56
  Speaker 10: how men and women they stop doing certain things after
• 1:03:59
  Speaker 10: you know, X amount of time, and it's because, like now,
• 1:04:04
  Speaker 10: I'm sorry, but recently I've learned that the guys are princesses.
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 10: They want to be treated like princesses. They don't want
• 1:04:11
  Speaker 10: to do the manly manly things vice versa. Women don't
• 1:04:13
  Speaker 10: want to do the women things. And everyone's everyone's independent,
• 1:04:17
  Speaker 10: and everyone's there I'm I'm my own person, and I
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 10: for women, I'm my own person.
• 1:04:23
  Speaker 9: I could do whatever I want. I'm an alful woman.
• 1:04:26
  Speaker 10: And then they want to date these men who are
• 1:04:28
  Speaker 10: princesses and want to be treated like it. And I
• 1:04:30
  Speaker 10: deserve this and I deserve that, but everyone stopped doing
• 1:04:33
  Speaker 10: what they need to do.
• 1:04:35
  Speaker 9: You know what I mean.
• 1:04:36
  Speaker 1: I agree with you to a certain extent, but yes,
• 1:04:41
  Speaker 1: I think you're right. I think you're right there. Yeah,
• 1:04:43
  Speaker 1: you can't be with you can't be and I'm gonna
• 1:04:47
  Speaker 1: just as you put it, you can't be an outful
• 1:04:49
  Speaker 1: woman and then expects them dude to do everything for
• 1:04:52
  Speaker 1: you and be treated like a princess. Okay, just that's
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 1: not how life works. It's not those are Those two
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 1: things are not going to coexist in any possible way.
• 1:05:00
  Speaker 1: So I agree with you.
• 1:05:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah, right.
• 1:05:03
  Speaker 9: And then the men that are like, well, you act
• 1:05:06
  Speaker 9: too strongly, too independent, Well give her that softness.
• 1:05:10
  Speaker 10: I don't think you've given her that chance to be soft.
• 1:05:14
  Speaker 10: I mean, I'm something that I had with my husband.
• 1:05:16
  Speaker 9: I've been with him almost ten years, and I've i
• 1:05:19
  Speaker 9: came from being so independent to then being supped, and
• 1:05:22
  Speaker 9: then we had you know, these these hurdles that we
• 1:05:24
  Speaker 9: had to get through where I started that fight or flight.
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 10: Again and I'm like, if I can't do it, nobody's
• 1:05:29
  Speaker 10: going to do it for me. You know, that's not
• 1:05:31
  Speaker 10: how I should be being married. Like, no, even my
• 1:05:34
  Speaker 10: husband we had that time where I was like, ye,
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 10: he was like, hey, you don't do this no more.
• 1:05:39
  Speaker 10: And I was like, well, you don't give me the
• 1:05:41
  Speaker 10: need to want to do.
• 1:05:42
  Speaker 9: It, Like I have to want to do it, and
• 1:05:44
  Speaker 9: I don't because you.
• 1:05:46
  Speaker 10: Don't cut the damn brass or you know, like you
• 1:05:50
  Speaker 10: don't do this.
• 1:05:50
  Speaker 9: And I'm sitting here cout dinner and yeah, cleaning your
• 1:05:53
  Speaker 9: dirty underwear, And it's like, what about what I need?
• 1:05:56
  Speaker 10: You want this, but you can't give this, you know,
• 1:05:59
  Speaker 10: so here listen.
• 1:06:01
  Speaker 1: Well you're right about that that I one hundred percent
• 1:06:03
  Speaker 1: agree with you. There is a fine balance of this
• 1:06:07
  Speaker 1: whole archaic idea of he goes to work and she's
• 1:06:11
  Speaker 1: in the kitchen. Okay, yes that is not real. We've
• 1:06:14
  Speaker 1: more way past that. But there's also a balance time.
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 9: What's that we are so passive time and like we
• 1:06:22
  Speaker 9: want look at me.
• 1:06:24
  Speaker 10: I listen, I would love to be in the freaking
• 1:06:27
  Speaker 10: kitchen all day. I would love to be a sty
• 1:06:29
  Speaker 10: at home mommy, you know, stay at home wife and clean.
• 1:06:32
  Speaker 9: The house and wear high hills in the kitchen when
• 1:06:34
  Speaker 9: you get home.
• 1:06:35
  Speaker 10: I would love that, I really really would.
• 1:06:37
  Speaker 9: If you make the money and you can support our
• 1:06:40
  Speaker 9: entire family and our bills and still allow me to
• 1:06:42
  Speaker 9: have that freedom of Hey, I feel like going shopping today.
• 1:06:44
  Speaker 10: Yes, and you want to have dinner and this is
• 1:06:48
  Speaker 10: what you want. You want me to please give me that,
• 1:06:51
  Speaker 10: Give me that.
• 1:06:52
  Speaker 9: But we don't live in those times anymore.
• 1:06:54
  Speaker 10: We live in a time where the men are like,
• 1:06:56
  Speaker 10: it's goofty, it's gooty, fifty.
• 1:06:58
  Speaker 5: I'm gonna have fifty percent of that.
• 1:07:00
  Speaker 1: Yes, you know, you're right, You're right. I totally agree
• 1:07:02
  Speaker 1: with you. But there is still a balance there. I mean,
• 1:07:05
  Speaker 1: there is nothing wrong with with cooking. There's nothing you
• 1:07:08
  Speaker 1: gotta eat, there's nothing wrong with cleaning, there's nothing wrong
• 1:07:11
  Speaker 1: with mowing the lawn. There's all these things that cause problems.
• 1:07:14
  Speaker 1: Like you said, these traditional gender roles, they can still
• 1:07:17
  Speaker 1: be there. You just the attitude that you have about
• 1:07:20
  Speaker 1: it has to change. And that's where I say, because
• 1:07:22
  Speaker 1: I always say this, I I if you can cook
• 1:07:25
  Speaker 1: and you're a stay at home wife. And this is
• 1:07:28
  Speaker 1: what I argue about guys with all the time. Your
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 1: wife stays at home, she cooks, and then you come
• 1:07:32
  Speaker 1: home on Wednesday and she goes, I don't want to cook,
• 1:07:34
  Speaker 1: and you go, nope, you have to cook your stay
• 1:07:36
  Speaker 1: at home as opposed to well, let's go get some
• 1:07:38
  Speaker 1: deep then the guys, that attitude is what changes the
• 1:07:42
  Speaker 1: dynamic of those traditional gender roles and and can allow
• 1:07:46
  Speaker 1: people to still feel important in the relationship.
• 1:07:49
  Speaker 9: I mean, yeah, all right, you know my husband he'll
• 1:07:53
  Speaker 9: get that.
• 1:07:54
  Speaker 10: You know, he threw that at me one time.
• 1:07:56
  Speaker 9: You know, I was at work all day.
• 1:07:58
  Speaker 10: Normal eight to five, got off, got my daughter, stopped
• 1:08:01
  Speaker 10: at the grocery store.
• 1:08:03
  Speaker 9: Dinner wasn't ready, and he just had came home.
• 1:08:05
  Speaker 10: I know he had a hard day.
• 1:08:07
  Speaker 9: I get it. I'm an understanding person. He was upset.
• 1:08:10
  Speaker 10: He's like, you're still Dinner's still not done.
• 1:08:13
  Speaker 9: Monkey.
• 1:08:13
  Speaker 5: He got home at six o'clock.
• 1:08:15
  Speaker 10: I was off of workout five, had.
• 1:08:17
  Speaker 9: To take my daughter up from asking school, got home,
• 1:08:20
  Speaker 9: started cooking, and he was like, dinner's still not ready.
• 1:08:23
  Speaker 10: I looked at him and I said, excuse the s
• 1:08:26
  Speaker 10: out of his hand, said you want to get in
• 1:08:27
  Speaker 10: the kitchen and start cooking. You want to get in
• 1:08:29
  Speaker 10: here and start cooking.
• 1:08:30
  Speaker 9: Your laundry is going already, You're welcome.
• 1:08:33
  Speaker 8: You know, I've been here for fifteen minutes.
• 1:08:37
  Speaker 10: Bro, the one hasn't even started boiling.
• 1:08:39
  Speaker 9: What are you talking about?
• 1:08:41
  Speaker 2: You know? Yeah? Oh we can't.
• 1:08:44
  Speaker 10: I tell my husband, like, you can't expect all of
• 1:08:46
  Speaker 10: this from me like a superhero, Like the house is clean,
• 1:08:49
  Speaker 10: the dinner's.
• 1:08:50
  Speaker 9: Going to be ready. I'm working a full time job,
• 1:08:52
  Speaker 9: I'm getting our daughter. You know, I'm doing all of this.
• 1:08:54
  Speaker 9: You can't expect me to have dinner ready in fifteen
• 1:08:56
  Speaker 9: minutes unless you want some banks spaghetti, noodles and sauce.
• 1:09:00
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm You're absolutely right, totally gree with you, totally
• 1:09:04
  Speaker 1: you you know, and even I can't really and realistically,
• 1:09:07
  Speaker 1: I can't expect a lot from him either.
• 1:09:09
  Speaker 9: You know, he does work his long hours and he
• 1:09:12
  Speaker 9: gets maybe one.
• 1:09:13
  Speaker 5: Or two days off a week.
• 1:09:14
  Speaker 9: On that one day off, I have his entire day
• 1:09:16
  Speaker 9: pen and he'll get upset, and I'm like, you know what,
• 1:09:18
  Speaker 9: I'm gonna take a step back because you're right, it's
• 1:09:20
  Speaker 9: your only day off and I want you up at
• 1:09:22
  Speaker 9: seven in the morning and we're going to home depot
• 1:09:24
  Speaker 9: and we got to go to Walmart and I want
• 1:09:26
  Speaker 9: to stop at the Rocks.
• 1:09:27
  Speaker 10: And I can't expect that from him on his only day.
• 1:09:29
  Speaker 8: You know the problem.
• 1:09:30
  Speaker 1: But I will say this, and not to get too
• 1:09:32
  Speaker 1: much longer into this, but if that's the day off
• 1:09:35
  Speaker 1: and that's when you can get that stuff done, then
• 1:09:38
  Speaker 1: you got to get that stuff done. But but that's
• 1:09:40
  Speaker 1: my point, my point behind this whole idea of how
• 1:09:43
  Speaker 1: you feel about things. We can still have traditional, traditional
• 1:09:48
  Speaker 1: gender roles within our household, but you also have to
• 1:09:53
  Speaker 1: understand that sometimes it doesn't work out that way and
• 1:09:56
  Speaker 1: we got to do something different. And that's why I
• 1:09:59
  Speaker 1: have a probably laundry.
• 1:10:01
  Speaker 10: My husband started doing his laundry sometimes and he'll be like, hey,
• 1:10:04
  Speaker 10: I just put my work close to watch, don't worry
• 1:10:05
  Speaker 10: about eldry. And you know that's not traditional. You know
• 1:10:09
  Speaker 10: men men are like the laundry.
• 1:10:10
  Speaker 9: I'm not doing that.
• 1:10:11
  Speaker 10: I sit there and I brought Yes, my husband does laundry, Yes,
• 1:10:14
  Speaker 10: he share?
• 1:10:15
  Speaker 5: Does he share?
• 1:10:16
  Speaker 9: Does if I have to fix the vacuum, I will
• 1:10:18
  Speaker 9: fix the vacuum or not traditional? You know what I mean?
• 1:10:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah, absolutely all right, I gotta jump, Thanks for coming.
• 1:10:23
  Speaker 9: It's a good day.
• 1:10:25
  Speaker 1: But it's the idea. It's the idea of how you
• 1:10:28
  Speaker 1: feel about it. Some there are women out there that
• 1:10:31
  Speaker 1: won't cook out a spiite. I mean, they would starve
• 1:10:35
  Speaker 1: her and her husband out of spite because of the
• 1:10:38
  Speaker 1: concept of oh, a woman doesn't belong in the kitchen. Well,
• 1:10:41
  Speaker 1: if you, whoever can cook, belongs in the kitchen because
• 1:10:44
  Speaker 1: we got to eat somehow, right, whether it's a man
• 1:10:46
  Speaker 1: or a woman. But the idea is, if you know
• 1:10:51
  Speaker 1: how to cook and you want to provide for your
• 1:10:53
  Speaker 1: family in the kitchen, there's nothing wrong with that. It's
• 1:10:56
  Speaker 1: when somebody tells you you have to do it is
• 1:11:00
  Speaker 1: when that causes the problem. Because if you feel like
• 1:11:04
  Speaker 1: you're doing it because you want to do it, that's
• 1:11:06
  Speaker 1: different than your husband telling you to do it. Okay,
• 1:11:10
  Speaker 1: that's the idea of when I say we can have
• 1:11:12
  Speaker 1: traditional gender roles, we just have to think about them
• 1:11:15
  Speaker 1: differently in the way that we manage them. Hey, rom
• 1:11:17
  Speaker 1: I got a question. My kids are all grown up now.
• 1:11:20
  Speaker 1: My wife and I can't get along. I'm so ready
• 1:11:22
  Speaker 1: to be alone. My whole life, my whole life married
• 1:11:25
  Speaker 1: was everything being my fault. So I just want to
• 1:11:28
  Speaker 1: move to another state and start over. Is that selfish
• 1:11:31
  Speaker 1: of me?
• 1:11:31
  Speaker 9: No?
• 1:11:32
  Speaker 1: I mean you've done your job. I mean I don't know,
• 1:11:35
  Speaker 1: I don't know there's more to the story. But if
• 1:11:37
  Speaker 1: I'm just going to go based on what you said,
• 1:11:38
  Speaker 1: it's always your fault. You've done your job, your kids
• 1:11:41
  Speaker 1: are raised, you've met your commitment to your wife and family.
• 1:11:45
  Speaker 1: If you want to move to another state and start
• 1:11:47
  Speaker 1: over and start the second chapter in your life, yeah,
• 1:11:51
  Speaker 1: there's nothing wrong with that. That's not being selfish. Hey Roam,
• 1:11:55
  Speaker 1: Ruben's big ass drawers broke the washer. Oh my gosh,
• 1:12:02
  Speaker 1: you guys are too much. Hey Rome, why is the
• 1:12:05
  Speaker 1: bride smiling when she walks down the aisle because she
• 1:12:08
  Speaker 1: knows she's given her last Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
• 1:12:11
  Speaker 1: When you have that type of attitude, you know exactly.
• 1:12:13
  Speaker 1: You guys know the joke, right.
• 1:12:16
  Speaker 2: You.
• 1:12:19
  Speaker 1: There's two reasons you don't have to do certain things
• 1:12:21
  Speaker 1: in a relationship. One is because you make enough money,
• 1:12:24
  Speaker 1: and two is because you got married. And these are
• 1:12:26
  Speaker 1: like stereotypes that people have when they get into their marriages.
• 1:12:30
  Speaker 1: I don't got to do that no more. And well,
• 1:12:32
  Speaker 1: then I guess if things don't go the way you
• 1:12:35
  Speaker 1: want it, that's part of it's on you. You know
• 1:12:38
  Speaker 1: what I'm saying with that type of attitude that once
• 1:12:40
  Speaker 1: I get married, I don't have to do whatever your X,
• 1:12:43
  Speaker 1: Y and Z is. Then you got a problem and
• 1:12:47
  Speaker 1: you deserve whatever you get.
• 1:12:49
  Speaker 5: No Romeo, that last caller, that lady could talk, she
• 1:12:52
  Speaker 5: can't talk. Yeah, if she cleaned, it.
• 1:12:55
  Speaker 7: Could be as much as she talked. There would be
• 1:12:57
  Speaker 7: no argument with her and her husband there. Okay, but
• 1:13:02
  Speaker 7: but you know what, I don't know expect my wife
• 1:13:04
  Speaker 7: to do anything. You know, I know everybody's all these
• 1:13:08
  Speaker 7: women want to feel equal until it's time the mouldy
• 1:13:11
  Speaker 7: yard or changed tire. But when I got in my relationship,
• 1:13:14
  Speaker 7: I found out my wife couldn't cook. So I was like,
• 1:13:16
  Speaker 7: you know what greater days now about the star.
• 1:13:19
  Speaker 5: So I'll I'll cook that. I don't mind cooking.
• 1:13:22
  Speaker 6: And if she's too busy and I like my house clean,
• 1:13:26
  Speaker 6: I'll clean the house.
• 1:13:27
  Speaker 2: So you know, it's different.
• 1:13:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it sounds like you a little bee. What sounds
• 1:13:38
  Speaker 1: like you a little punk?
• 1:13:39
  Speaker 10: Yeah?
• 1:13:40
  Speaker 7: Not none at all.
• 1:13:41
  Speaker 5: You know I told you this once before, Happy wife,
• 1:13:44
  Speaker 5: Happy life, you know.
• 1:13:45
  Speaker 1: I'm not the stupidest thing I've ever heard, but okay,
• 1:13:48
  Speaker 1: all right, right today, that's the stupidest thing I've ever heard.
• 1:13:50
  Speaker 1: That is the stupidest thing I've ever heard. Okay, it's
• 1:13:54
  Speaker 1: it's no that anybody that believes that deserves to be
• 1:13:57
  Speaker 1: a miserable. You know what, you deserve to be miserable.
• 1:14:00
  Speaker 1: That's your that's your logic in life. That happy wife,
• 1:14:04
  Speaker 1: happy life. And you're gonna let her dictate how how
• 1:14:08
  Speaker 1: how You're gonna let her dictate the happiness in your marriage,
• 1:14:13
  Speaker 1: You're a moron. Okay, But it goes the other way too.
• 1:14:17
  Speaker 1: If you're gonna let your husband dictate the temperature of
• 1:14:20
  Speaker 1: your marriage, you're a moron. You're just stupid. People. People,
• 1:14:25
  Speaker 1: men and women in relationships who get married can coexist
• 1:14:29
  Speaker 1: happily and have great lives together. Okay, to let one
• 1:14:35
  Speaker 1: or the other dictate how dictate your happiness or the
• 1:14:40
  Speaker 1: relationship's happiness is stupid and there's no excuse for it.
• 1:14:46
  Speaker 1: And if that's how you want to live, you deserve
• 1:14:48
  Speaker 1: to be miserable. All right, eight four two five four
• 1:14:51
  Speaker 1: or seven to seven. I totally forgot what I was
• 1:14:53
  Speaker 1: going to say. Now that Raider Dave got me, got
• 1:14:55
  Speaker 1: me into that? Hey, Rome, who's more of the idiots?
• 1:15:01
  Speaker 1: Seahawk Lure Raider Dave. Wow, Yeah, they're both the same.
• 1:15:14
  Speaker 1: They're both the same, dumb ass. So there there's I
• 1:15:16
  Speaker 1: don't think one's more. I don't think one's more of
• 1:15:18
  Speaker 1: an idiot than the other. Good morning, Now, what's going on?
• 1:15:21
  Speaker 1: What's up?
• 1:15:22
  Speaker 9: Romeo?
• 1:15:23
  Speaker 6: It's me again, Reddy Dave.
• 1:15:25
  Speaker 5: You're dumb as hell.
• 1:15:27
  Speaker 9: You are dumb as hell. Okay, happy wife, happy life,
• 1:15:30
  Speaker 9: my big ass. Okay, I could I cleaned my husband
• 1:15:36
  Speaker 9: ate almost three hundred pounds for no damn reason.
• 1:15:38
  Speaker 4: Okay, he wants to be polked around by his wife,
• 1:15:41
  Speaker 4: and I'll cook and i'll clean the house.
• 1:15:43
  Speaker 9: You probably aren't working, raider days.
• 1:15:45
  Speaker 4: You probably aren't working and cooking.
• 1:15:49
  Speaker 6: Okay.
• 1:15:50
  Speaker 8: I don't know what he's up here.
• 1:15:51
  Speaker 10: Her husband wouldn't be mad if she cooked and clean
• 1:15:54
  Speaker 10: the way she said, shut up, Yeah, your wife's gonna
• 1:15:57
  Speaker 10: be mad if dinner's not ready by six.
• 1:15:59
  Speaker 4: That's what I heard.
• 1:16:04
  Speaker 1: Hey, Rome, So I know it's a topic about husbands
• 1:16:07
  Speaker 1: and wives. You know, I've been with my husband twenty
• 1:16:09
  Speaker 1: years and we both work full time, and we both
• 1:16:12
  Speaker 1: make about the same amount of money, but he expects
• 1:16:14
  Speaker 1: everything to be fifty to fifty all the time, and
• 1:16:17
  Speaker 1: when times get hard, he starts saying that I don't
• 1:16:19
  Speaker 1: pay the same amounts as him, just because he pays
• 1:16:23
  Speaker 1: mortgage and one loved sum. I pay all the other
• 1:16:25
  Speaker 1: bills and all the expenses food, we go, grocery shopping.
• 1:16:29
  Speaker 1: He does one week, I do another week. We have
• 1:16:32
  Speaker 1: kids and a couple of dogs. So yeah, it's okay
• 1:16:35
  Speaker 1: for him to expect fifty to fifty everything, fifty to
• 1:16:39
  Speaker 1: fifty everything, even though he's a man of the house.
• 1:16:41
  Speaker 1: What do you think. Also, we pay for almost for
• 1:16:44
  Speaker 1: almost all our trips and Dodger games. Well, at least
• 1:16:50
  Speaker 1: you go on trips and Dodger games together, so you
• 1:16:52
  Speaker 1: must love each other like each other at least I am.
• 1:16:55
  Speaker 1: What I think is any man who says we have
• 1:17:00
  Speaker 1: to go fifty to fifty is a loser. I don't
• 1:17:03
  Speaker 1: believe in that at all. I was not raised that way.
• 1:17:06
  Speaker 1: I was raised by my father to pay for everything
• 1:17:11
  Speaker 1: that you need to live, house, electric, water, car payments.
• 1:17:18
  Speaker 1: In his mind, those are the things you need to
• 1:17:20
  Speaker 1: the food. Although I think food, I think food goes
• 1:17:25
  Speaker 1: either way. When it comes to especially two people that
• 1:17:28
  Speaker 1: have incomes, food can go. I think food goes either
• 1:17:32
  Speaker 1: way because sometimes you want something or sometimes it's just
• 1:17:35
  Speaker 1: somebody has the time to go to the store and
• 1:17:36
  Speaker 1: somebody does it. So that's what I'm that. And I
• 1:17:42
  Speaker 1: think anybody who's over here trying to put fifty to
• 1:17:46
  Speaker 1: fifty on a relationship is it's one of the worst
• 1:17:50
  Speaker 1: things you can do in your relationship. Is what happens
• 1:17:53
  Speaker 1: when you say our relationship needs to be fifty to fifty,
• 1:17:57
  Speaker 1: you're keeping score. And once you're keeping score in your relationship,
• 1:18:02
  Speaker 1: what kind of relationship are you in? So what do
• 1:18:06
  Speaker 1: I think about? I think your husband's a jackass, and
• 1:18:08
  Speaker 1: I think he needs to step up and take care
• 1:18:10
  Speaker 1: of things and pay for more. And I just think,
• 1:18:15
  Speaker 1: but that's how I was raised. Now you can argue,
• 1:18:19
  Speaker 1: and I don't blame you guys. You can argue that, well,
• 1:18:21
  Speaker 1: it's expensive to live sometimes, you know, we need both
• 1:18:24
  Speaker 1: incomes to survive, which is fine. But when you're keeping
• 1:18:32
  Speaker 1: score in your relationship, nobody wins because one person thinks
• 1:18:37
  Speaker 1: they're ahead, the other person thinks they're behind. There's no
• 1:18:41
  Speaker 1: way to actually agree on who's doing what and when
• 1:18:48
  Speaker 1: you're doing that, it makes you feel like you're being
• 1:18:51
  Speaker 1: taken advantage of. And that's just insecurity and stupidity. You're married, Okay,
• 1:18:57
  Speaker 1: Now you can sit there and say all day long, Hey,
• 1:19:00
  Speaker 1: we're equal. We got to you know, we ought all
• 1:19:02
  Speaker 1: our moneys in the bank account. It's all this, it's
• 1:19:04
  Speaker 1: all that. But no, somebody always feels like they're getting
• 1:19:09
  Speaker 1: when it's fifty to fifty. So that's why I think
• 1:19:12
  Speaker 1: that's one of the stupidest things you can do in
• 1:19:14
  Speaker 1: your relationship. And we're actually going to talk about this tomorrow,
• 1:19:18
  Speaker 1: the cost of being in a relationship, because I think
• 1:19:21
  Speaker 1: that you guys feel like you being in a relationship,
• 1:19:27
  Speaker 1: it costs something and you're not being taken advantage of.
• 1:19:31
  Speaker 1: If you feel like you're being taken an advantage of
• 1:19:34
  Speaker 1: in a relationship, you shouldn't be in one. And people
• 1:19:38
  Speaker 1: who feel like they're always being taken advantage of or
• 1:19:40
  Speaker 1: don't want to be taken advantage of, we'll never find
• 1:19:43
  Speaker 1: a good relationship. You see these guys out here and
• 1:19:46
  Speaker 1: these girls out here going, well, I gotta find this
• 1:19:48
  Speaker 1: type of person to be with who's not gonna take
• 1:19:51
  Speaker 1: advantage of me. Well, Okay, you do, You're right, you do.
• 1:19:55
  Speaker 1: But when that's what you're basing everything on, you're already
• 1:19:58
  Speaker 1: you've already lost. Would you send me here? In part
• 1:20:02
  Speaker 1: two five four, seven to seven, Rome, you got to understand, Uh,
• 1:20:05
  Speaker 1: a dumbass raider. Dave is used to cleaning his cell
• 1:20:08
  Speaker 1: and his wife used to paying the bills.
• 1:20:11
  Speaker 2: This is uh.
• 1:20:13
  Speaker 1: This is uh is used to paying the bills. That's
• 1:20:18
  Speaker 1: why he's cooking and cleaning room. That's why he's always
• 1:20:21
  Speaker 1: He's always says happy wife, happy life, because she holds
• 1:20:25
  Speaker 1: it down. I don't see okolou probably the same way.
• 1:20:28
  Speaker 1: But it's just stupid. I mean, it's just stupid that
• 1:20:30
  Speaker 1: to live by that motto to live by happy to
• 1:20:33
  Speaker 1: live by that is idiotic, or vice versa. You know,
• 1:20:36
  Speaker 1: once again, to let your your partner determine the temperature
• 1:20:40
  Speaker 1: of your relationship is stupid. Who who lives like that?
• 1:20:44
  Speaker 1: You deserve to be miserable, that's what you believe, Just
• 1:20:47
  Speaker 1: like fifty to fifty, fifty to fifty is keeping score.
• 1:20:49
  Speaker 1: Once you're keeping score, you've already lost. Hey, Rome, Hey,
• 1:20:53
  Speaker 1: this is selu. I haven't even gained my input on
• 1:20:56
  Speaker 1: this situation and why they why they bashing me for.
• 1:21:01
  Speaker 1: But I do agree with happy wife, Happy life. Well
• 1:21:04
  Speaker 1: once again because in Seahawk Lose Life. You know, his
• 1:21:10
  Speaker 1: wife's the breadwinner. That fool don't got no job, so
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  Speaker 1: he's got to do what she says. You know what
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  Speaker 1: I'm saying. Money plays a part, it does, But when
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  Speaker 1: you use money to control somebody, that's where the problem is.
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  Speaker 1: You know, you think it's your money. It's not your money,
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  Speaker 1: it's our money. And that's why I always say about
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  Speaker 1: the fifty to fifty. Any man who doesn't pay for
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  Speaker 1: all the bills for living okay, living expenses, house, cars, electricity, TV, water,
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  Speaker 1: those things the man should pay for because you would
• 1:21:48
  Speaker 1: have to pay for those things if you lived alone anyways.
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  Speaker 1: So why would you all of a sudden get into
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  Speaker 1: a relationship and go, you know what, you got to
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  Speaker 1: chip in?
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  Speaker 2: Now?
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  Speaker 1: That's selfish and stupid, it's insecure. It's uh, you got
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  Speaker 1: you got some problems? Well, Rome, what if she takes
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  Speaker 1: advantage of me? What if she moves in and then
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  Speaker 1: two months later or a year later, she moves out. Man,
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  Speaker 1: she took advantage of me all that time.
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  Speaker 2: So what.
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  Speaker 1: So what you lost? Nothing? You lost absolutely nothing because
• 1:22:20
  Speaker 1: you had to pay all those expenses. Anyways, that's my
• 1:22:24
  Speaker 1: logic behind that, And plus that's why my dad taught me.
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  Speaker 1: You take care of your family. You pay for your family.
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  Speaker 1: That's what you do when you go out to dinner,
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  Speaker 1: you pay. Now, egos start to get involved, and this
• 1:22:35
  Speaker 1: is where women cause just as many problems in the
• 1:22:38
  Speaker 1: relationships because their egos can't handle the fact that, oh,
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  Speaker 1: he just bought us all dinner. Well, he's your damn husband,
• 1:22:45
  Speaker 1: who cares if he bought you dinner? Oh well, he's
• 1:22:48
  Speaker 1: your boyfriend, who cares. He's supposed to buy you dinner.
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  Speaker 1: You know, that's that's not what men should not need
• 1:22:57
  Speaker 1: a woman's money. That's just bottom line. Hey, Romeo, what
• 1:23:02
  Speaker 1: kind of degree do you have in relationships? Why do
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  Speaker 1: people listen to you? Are you really the best person
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  Speaker 1: to be telling people how to live, how to live,
• 1:23:12
  Speaker 1: how to live in their relationship? People are different, they
• 1:23:15
  Speaker 1: like different things. Why are they? Why are they asking you?
• 1:23:20
  Speaker 1: Because I'm smarter than you. That's why there's two reasons.
• 1:23:25
  Speaker 1: One I'm smarter than you, and two I don't have
• 1:23:29
  Speaker 1: a dog in this fight. I can tell you, guys
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  Speaker 1: exactly what to do because I don't have to. I
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  Speaker 1: don't have to deal with you other than you know
• 1:23:39
  Speaker 1: when you text me. But no, that's why. And I'm
• 1:23:42
  Speaker 1: just smarter than you. I know more than you. I'm
• 1:23:44
  Speaker 1: more experienced than all of you. It's Romo, it's not
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  Speaker 1: to be four. And I'm happier than all of you.
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  Speaker 1: What did you send me here? Hey, Romeo, I gotta
• 1:23:52
  Speaker 1: tell you a funny story about when a woman moves
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  Speaker 1: in with a guy. My parents taught me the same way.
• 1:24:00
  Speaker 1: My dad was a very hard worker. Now, my mom
• 1:24:03
  Speaker 1: was a stay at home mom and raised three of
• 1:24:06
  Speaker 1: us on my dad's salary. So my mom was a
• 1:24:09
  Speaker 1: great mom. Took care of the house, took fed us,
• 1:24:13
  Speaker 1: took care of us, you know, did the house duties.
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  Speaker 1: And that's how it worked in my house. My dad, though,
• 1:24:19
  Speaker 1: was never uh, my dad though, was never I don't
• 1:24:25
  Speaker 1: know what you're trying. Oh, it was never an overlord.
• 1:24:27
  Speaker 1: Is that what you're trying to say. He never threw
• 1:24:30
  Speaker 1: money in my mom's face. It was whatever my mom
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  Speaker 1: wanted to take care of us kids and the house,
• 1:24:38
  Speaker 1: and he was happy with that. So when I moved
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  Speaker 1: out and got into a relationship, I talked to my
• 1:24:46
  Speaker 1: mom and dad, and they told me, you pay for everything,
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  Speaker 1: just like your mom and dad told you.
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  Speaker 5: Rome.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, when I when my girlfriend moved in, she's now
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  Speaker 1: my wife. She was one of those indie women that
• 1:25:01
  Speaker 1: didn't need a man that could pay her own bills.
• 1:25:04
  Speaker 1: When she moved in with me, she wanted to pay
• 1:25:08
  Speaker 1: her portion of the household expenses. I told her that's
• 1:25:11
  Speaker 1: not necessary. I'm your boyfriend, I got it, don't worry
• 1:25:16
  Speaker 1: about it. There was a oh, there was a little
• 1:25:20
  Speaker 1: bit of a struggle with her, but she accepted it.
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  Speaker 1: I told her, you just use your money for you
• 1:25:26
  Speaker 1: and will be fine. After a year, Rome, believe it
• 1:25:32
  Speaker 1: or not, this woman started buying groceries. She started cooking
• 1:25:35
  Speaker 1: for me when I was coming home. She changed her
• 1:25:39
  Speaker 1: attitude of being in a relationship.
• 1:25:41
  Speaker 2: Now.
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  Speaker 1: I never asked her for any of that. I just
• 1:25:45
  Speaker 1: let her be herself. But after having a man who
• 1:25:49
  Speaker 1: was willing and wanted to take care of her, she
• 1:25:52
  Speaker 1: was willing and wanted to take care of me. She
• 1:25:54
  Speaker 1: started buying me clothes and her money was used for
• 1:25:58
  Speaker 1: both of us, just in a different way than basic
• 1:26:01
  Speaker 1: household bills. I wish more people could understand that I
• 1:26:05
  Speaker 1: wish more people could understand that too, because, believe it
• 1:26:08
  Speaker 1: or not, you guys are trying so hard to not
• 1:26:12
  Speaker 1: be taken advantage of, or to not put yourself out there,
• 1:26:15
  Speaker 1: or to keep score in your life. Suck, okay, sucks
• 1:26:20
  Speaker 1: for you. Hey, good morning to rome I bet that dude,
• 1:26:24
  Speaker 1: the dude that sent you that was crying while typing
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  Speaker 1: because he has a happy wife, happy life tattooed on
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  Speaker 1: his forehead and his wife left him all better about
• 1:26:35
  Speaker 1: down to Romeo because he's the king of the truth,
• 1:26:38
  Speaker 1: keeps spreading the truth. Bro, Well, you know somebody's got
• 1:26:43
  Speaker 1: to you. Don't want everybody, anybody lie to you, right,
• 1:26:45
  Speaker 1: I mean right already four two four seven. But the
• 1:26:49
  Speaker 1: reality is that don't get I'm not some badass. That's
• 1:26:52
  Speaker 1: just It's just I have no dog in your fight
• 1:26:54
  Speaker 1: when it comes to your relationship. You know, I can
• 1:26:57
  Speaker 1: tell I can tell women and men why you're stupid
• 1:27:02
  Speaker 1: because I'm not one. I'm not trying to sleep with
• 1:27:04
  Speaker 1: you in one I'm not trying. Yeah, I'm not. You know,
• 1:27:08
  Speaker 1: I don't have I don't have any real consequence, and
• 1:27:11
  Speaker 1: I'm not lying to you. I'm not telling you something crazy,
• 1:27:17
  Speaker 1: you know, I'm telling you how to be happier with
• 1:27:19
  Speaker 1: your partner, and it works both ways. Bro, I understand
• 1:27:24
  Speaker 1: that a man will have to pay all the bills
• 1:27:26
  Speaker 1: regardless if he's in a relationship or not. But don't
• 1:27:29
  Speaker 1: women have to pay bills regardless? Also, why in a
• 1:27:33
  Speaker 1: relationship does the woman get a free ride? Aren't they
• 1:27:36
  Speaker 1: equal or a woman or or are women less? You
• 1:27:41
  Speaker 1: can't tell if you are a feminist. You can't tell
• 1:27:45
  Speaker 1: if you are a feminist or a sexist. It's not
• 1:27:47
  Speaker 1: You're just you're What you're saying is stupid. Okay, you're
• 1:27:53
  Speaker 1: calling it a free ride. What's the free ride that
• 1:27:58
  Speaker 1: they don't have to pay? You're you're basing it on,
• 1:28:00
  Speaker 1: and you're basing it on financials. That's what you're basing
• 1:28:04
  Speaker 1: it on. That's the way. That's the way you've decided
• 1:28:08
  Speaker 1: that it's Uh, it's free right based on finances. So
• 1:28:13
  Speaker 1: if I make plenty of money to pay for everything,
• 1:28:16
  Speaker 1: and she can do whatever she wants with her money,
• 1:28:18
  Speaker 1: that's sexist or feminist or that's want to be able
• 1:28:22
  Speaker 1: to do that, And I can't because I gotta because
• 1:28:24
  Speaker 1: I'm already doing it, maybe because I want to, Maybe
• 1:28:30
  Speaker 1: because when you treat somebody like that, you'll realize that
• 1:28:34
  Speaker 1: they will do stuff for you because they want to.
• 1:28:38
  Speaker 2: You.
• 1:28:38
  Speaker 1: Guys want to keep score. So just because you can't
• 1:28:43
  Speaker 1: afford it and you need a woman's help, that's on you. Bro,
• 1:28:48
  Speaker 1: Maybe you should be a better man. It's not about
• 1:28:52
  Speaker 1: being sexist or feminist. It's about the idea that if
• 1:28:57
  Speaker 1: you do something for somebody because you want to do that,
• 1:29:03
  Speaker 1: they will do stuff for you because they want to
• 1:29:05
  Speaker 1: do it for you. She'll spend her money on stuff
• 1:29:13
  Speaker 1: for your relationship, trips, clothes, things like that. The core
• 1:29:22
  Speaker 1: for the house so you don't look like some you
• 1:29:24
  Speaker 1: don't have a sad house, don look like a frat house.
• 1:29:31
  Speaker 1: That's where That's where you're playing checkers and I'm playing chess.
• 1:29:35
  Speaker 1: Now you're in a relationship where people want to do
• 1:29:37
  Speaker 1: stuff for each other, not having to do stuff for
• 1:29:41
  Speaker 1: each other because we made rules
• 1:29:44
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