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359. Becoming Your Best Self: How To Write Your Own Blueprint, Trust Your Gut & Meet The Moment With Coach Diljeet Taylor · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: It's not what are we chasing, it's who are we becoming?
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  Speaker 1: Who do you want to becolm.
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  Speaker 2: Hey everyone, Emily a body here.
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  Speaker 3: You are listening to Hurdle, a wellness focused podcast where
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  Speaker 3: I talk to inspirational people about everything from their highest
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  Speaker 3: ties and toughest moments to essential tips to live a healthier, happier,
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  Speaker 3: more motivated life. We all go through our fair share
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  Speaker 3: of hurdles. My goal through these discussions is to empower
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  Speaker 3: you to better navigate yours and move with intention so
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  Speaker 3: that you can stride towards your own big potential and
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  Speaker 3: of course have some fun along the way. For this
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  Speaker 3: week's episode, I am talking to coach del Gee Taylor.
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  Speaker 3: She's the head coach for Brigham Young University's women's cross
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  Speaker 3: country and track team and also coaches the professional athletes
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  Speaker 3: at Swoosh t C in Utah. In this episode, del
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  Speaker 3: g courageously shares her experiences growing up as a young
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  Speaker 3: Indian woman in an environment where she rarely saw herself reflected.
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  Speaker 3: She talks about the challenges of finding her own way
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  Speaker 3: when the traditional roadmap didn't align with her aspirations, and
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  Speaker 3: how deeply influential coaches were in her life from an
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  Speaker 3: early age. We also dive into her significant role in
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  Speaker 3: inspiring women for Nike's After Dark Race series and why
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  Speaker 3: her recent trip to Mumbai for that event was so
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  Speaker 3: profoundly meaningful. And as always, del Git offers her most
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  Speaker 3: valuable advice for anyone facing their own hurdles and how
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  Speaker 3: to find the strength to shine even when you're not
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  Speaker 3: feeling your best. Make sure you are following along with
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  Speaker 3: It's absolutely free. The link to do that is in
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  Speaker 3: the show notes. With that, let's get to it. Let's
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  Speaker 3: get to hurdling.
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  Speaker 2: Today.
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  Speaker 3: I am sitting down with coach del g Taylor. Welcome
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  Speaker 3: to Hurdle Coach Taylor. How are we doing today?
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  Speaker 2: So good? Thanks for having me. Oh my god, thanks
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  Speaker 2: for being here. I'm feeling hyped right now. I love it.
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  Speaker 2: I'm just going to tell you, how are you doing? Really?
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  Speaker 2: How are you feeling right now? I'm so good? I
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  Speaker 2: love well.
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  Speaker 1: I love southern California, So any chance to come back
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  Speaker 1: to Cali is a good opportunity, but also just to
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  Speaker 1: be a part of this weekend and yesterday kicking off,
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  Speaker 1: just feeling a little bit of the energy coming into
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  Speaker 1: After Dark Tour, being in Mumbai a couple of weeks
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  Speaker 1: ago to really feel it.
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  Speaker 2: Was just a good pre to this one.
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  Speaker 1: So yeah, super humble in a way that this is
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  Speaker 1: actually coming to fruition when we first talked about this
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  Speaker 1: maybe several years ago, that this is something he was
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  Speaker 1: interested in doing, and to now to really see it
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  Speaker 1: come live. Yeah, and to be a part of it,
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  Speaker 1: to have a piece in it, a small piece in it,
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  Speaker 1: but yeah, nevertheless an important piece I.
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  Speaker 2: Feel like in it is Yeah, it means a lot.
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  Speaker 3: This is special. But tell me about why Mumbai was
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  Speaker 3: special for you.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't even realize the depth of what I would
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  Speaker 1: feel showing up in Mumbai, but to be surrounded by
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  Speaker 1: women who look exactly like me, that share a similar
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  Speaker 1: story to mine, doing something that we weren't allowed to do,
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  Speaker 1: we weren't encouraged to do, we weren't supposed to do.
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  Speaker 2: I never thought in my.
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  Speaker 1: Lifetime I would see that happen thousands and thousands of
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  Speaker 1: women with similar stories to mine, that look like me
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  Speaker 1: that now have a space and a sense of belonging
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  Speaker 1: in sport.
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  Speaker 2: Wow, it was so powerful.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's so cool and such a full circle moment
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  Speaker 3: for you saying here, we didn't have these opportunities when
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  Speaker 3: I was younger. Talk to me a little bit about
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  Speaker 3: how running became an integral part to your life from
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  Speaker 3: a young age.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, as a young Indian girl, you are born with
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  Speaker 1: a blueprint for what your life is supposed to be like,
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  Speaker 1: and it's been written for you, and your job is to.
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  Speaker 2: Just follow the path. And I was struggling to find my.
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  Speaker 1: Space as a young Indian girl in a classroom where
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  Speaker 1: no one else looked like me. And I remember being
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  Speaker 1: in fifth grade and having a race out on the
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  Speaker 1: playground and I beat all the boys, and all of
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  Speaker 1: a sudden, I was like, Wow, I love this.
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  Speaker 2: This is so fun.
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  Speaker 1: And at the same time, I had a teacher that
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  Speaker 1: started asking me about what my dreams were and I
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  Speaker 1: didn't understand that question because it wasn't something that anyone
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  Speaker 1: had ever asked me. I thought my path in life
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  Speaker 1: would be exactly what my parents wanted it to be,
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  Speaker 1: and it would mimic what my mom and my aunt
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  Speaker 1: and older female cousins.
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  Speaker 2: Were living, and so running gave me a sense of confidence.
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  Speaker 2: And it also so when you're really good at something,
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  Speaker 2: people see you.
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  Speaker 1: And for the first time, I was seeing for something
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  Speaker 1: other than what I had been seen for and it
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  Speaker 1: became a source of my confidence, and I fell in
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  Speaker 1: love with it.
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  Speaker 2: I fell in love with it because it gave me
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  Speaker 2: a sense of identity.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I love what you said about goal setting and
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  Speaker 3: coming up with your own goals. You were led to
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  Speaker 3: believe that this roadmap that had been crafted for you
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  Speaker 3: was what you air quotes wanted. And so to have
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  Speaker 3: that level of self awareness where you knew in your gut,
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  Speaker 3: this isn't what I want. Talk to me about deviating
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  Speaker 3: from that roadmap. How did that make you feel?
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  Speaker 4: Well?
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  Speaker 2: It wasn't. It wasn't this.
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  Speaker 1: Aha moment right where I just woke up one day
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  Speaker 1: and I thought, Okay, I'm going to create my own blueprint.
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  Speaker 1: It was this blueprint was still there, and I was
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  Speaker 1: trying to figure out ways to create and navigate a
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  Speaker 1: different path within the blueprint. And years went by until
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  Speaker 1: I finally had enough confidence and courage and a little
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  Speaker 1: bit of crazy to realize that that blueprint isn't.
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  Speaker 2: Going to work.
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  Speaker 1: I can't navigate my future through this existing blueprint, and
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  Speaker 1: I need to be the architect of my own blueprint.
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  Speaker 1: And even to this day, I think, now in my forties,
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  Speaker 1: I feel very confident about being that architect. But up
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  Speaker 1: until not that long ago, I still felt bad about
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  Speaker 1: this existing blueprint that I was supposed to be following.
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  Speaker 2: So it takes time. Yeah, it takes time.
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  Speaker 3: So in practice this looked like leaving your parents' house.
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  Speaker 3: In practice, this looked like doing some soul searching for yourself.
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  Speaker 3: And in practice, ultimately this led you to running in college.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and it happened in those really similar steps of
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  Speaker 1: just chasing a dream that no one could have dreamt
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  Speaker 1: for me, and that I wasn't even allowed to dream
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  Speaker 1: for myself. But there was something inside me that wouldn't
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  Speaker 1: let it go away.
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  Speaker 2: And people call that. There's different words for that. For me,
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  Speaker 2: I would say it's purpose.
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  Speaker 1: My purpose was to be involved in the sport, and
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  Speaker 1: at that time, at nineteen twenty, I thought that meant
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  Speaker 1: being a college athlete. But now looking back twenty five
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  Speaker 1: plus years later, thirty years later, Wow, maybe it was
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  Speaker 1: for this, For this exact moment, for being in a
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  Speaker 1: role of a coach and inspiring other women to chase dreams,
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  Speaker 1: but originally running became my purpose.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, you mentioned the words courage and bravery. Where do
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  Speaker 3: you think you garnered that courage and bravery to make
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  Speaker 3: that decision for yourself despite it being so counterintuitive within
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  Speaker 3: your culture.
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  Speaker 1: I think some of it is nature versus nurture, right,
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  Speaker 1: some of our personality were born with I've always been
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  Speaker 1: someone that questioned, well, why are we doing it that way?
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  Speaker 1: Or why are women supposed to do that? Why is
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  Speaker 1: that expectation there? Why am I supposed to go to
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  Speaker 1: college and study medicine? And so just that little question
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  Speaker 1: of why asking myself. I never had the guts to
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  Speaker 1: ask other people that, but I would always ask myself, well,
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  Speaker 1: why does it have to be that way? Why do
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  Speaker 1: my brothers get to do all of this stuff? But
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  Speaker 1: as an Indian girl, I'm held to these standards. Why
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  Speaker 1: is it different? Why is there a double standard? So
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  Speaker 1: I think for me, it was the questions I was
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  Speaker 1: asking myself, and then the nurture part of it is
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  Speaker 1: getting around influences in your life that are also asking you.
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  Speaker 1: My fifth grade teacher asked me what is your dream?
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  Speaker 1: That was a question on a assignment that we had,
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  Speaker 1: and I filled it out just like my parents would
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  Speaker 1: have wanted me to. And she had the courage to
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  Speaker 1: pull me aside a couple weeks later and say, no,
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  Speaker 1: this is about your dream.
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  Speaker 2: What is your dream?
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  Speaker 1: I didn't understand the question, and she didn't understand my life.
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  Speaker 1: So that instilled something in me, this external question of
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  Speaker 1: what is my dream? What do I want that to be?
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  Speaker 1: It's important for women to ask ourselves, whatever stage of
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  Speaker 1: life we're in, what is your dream?
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  Speaker 3: And I know that that's a question now that you
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  Speaker 3: ask your athletes at the top of every season, how
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  Speaker 3: does it feel for you to be in this position
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  Speaker 3: where now you are the person, just like your fifth
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  Speaker 3: grade teacher that's cultivating that level of self inquiry within them.
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  Speaker 2: It's so empowering.
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  Speaker 1: I feel lucky and blessed to be able to be
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  Speaker 1: the person to ask women every August.
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  Speaker 2: What is your dream?
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  Speaker 1: And then there's follow up questions because a dream without
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  Speaker 1: a plan is not going to go anywhere, right, and
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  Speaker 1: so me being the person that gets to then invest
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  Speaker 1: in those dreams, that's why I ask about them.
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  Speaker 2: It's like, what's your dream? Now me as a coach,
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  Speaker 2: my job is to invest in that dream and make
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  Speaker 2: it my own.
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  Speaker 1: And that's where the beauty in what we accomplish together
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  Speaker 1: is so much deeper than maybe someone who doesn't have
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  Speaker 1: that same investment in the dream.
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  Speaker 3: Let's flush that out a little bit more though. So
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  Speaker 3: I'm sure that some of the young women that you
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  Speaker 3: work with their dreams are rooted in cross country within
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  Speaker 3: running on the track, right, But then I'm sure you
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  Speaker 3: also get answers to this question that are so much
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  Speaker 3: bigger than running. That dichotomy is really fun. That relationship
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  Speaker 3: is really fun. So when you are looking at the
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  Speaker 3: dreams that have nothing to do with running, I would
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  Speaker 3: almost assume that that's kind of the more fun part.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's the transformational journey that you get to witness
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  Speaker 1: as a coach. It's not what are we chasing, it's
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  Speaker 1: who are we becoming? Who do you want to become?
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  Speaker 1: Let me help you through this sport. Figure that out,
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  Speaker 1: number one, because eighteen to twenty three that's a transformational
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  Speaker 1: time in any young woman's life. So to be an influence,
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  Speaker 1: understanding the responsibility of what that looks like and who
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  Speaker 1: and how I need to inspire them, But also understand
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  Speaker 1: that ten twenty thirty years from now, I have women
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  Speaker 1: who call me that I coached once upon a time
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  Speaker 1: and they are reaping the benefits of some of that
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  Speaker 1: confidence and that courage that was instilled in them in
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  Speaker 1: those college years.
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  Speaker 3: You share that eighteen to twenty three being such a
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  Speaker 3: transformational time, something that you know a lot about when
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  Speaker 3: you think about those years for you who helped shape
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  Speaker 3: your transformation.
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  Speaker 1: Well, had a really good female collegiate coach that showed
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  Speaker 1: me you can be a mom and a coach. She
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  Speaker 1: had two kids and she was coaching at the Division
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  Speaker 1: two level, and we have to see her to be her.
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  Speaker 2: Understand that women have to see her to be her.
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  Speaker 1: And so already this notion of raising kids and coaching
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  Speaker 1: has been brought.
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  Speaker 2: To life by someone else, not by me. So that
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  Speaker 2: was one.
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  Speaker 1: But then I went I had the opportunity to run
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  Speaker 1: for the Nike Farm team out at Stamford, and I
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  Speaker 1: met a man by the name of Frank Gagliano, and.
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  Speaker 2: He was probably one of the first.
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  Speaker 4: Men in my life life that really believed in me, and
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  Speaker 4: that changed the trajectory of my life.
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  Speaker 2: What did him believing in you?
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  Speaker 3: Look like in practice, because I'm sure now when you
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  Speaker 3: reflect on how he made you feel and the actions
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  Speaker 3: that he used to make you feel that way, you
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  Speaker 3: bring that into your current coaching practice.
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  Speaker 1: Absolutely, he inspires me every day. For one, it was
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  Speaker 1: seeing me on an equal playing field. He saw me
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  Speaker 1: as an athlete and my goals mattered. But then he
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  Speaker 1: also saw something in me that I hadn't seen in myself,
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  Speaker 1: and that was the potential to become a coach. And
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  Speaker 1: that is a very important and incredible thing to be
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  Speaker 1: able to see the potential in someone before they see
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  Speaker 1: it in themselves, and then to have that conversation and
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  Speaker 1: letting them know I see this potential in you. Had
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  Speaker 1: he never pulled me aside and talked about this journey
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  Speaker 1: in coaching, I for sure would not have been a coach.
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to be a teacher. I wanted to be
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  Speaker 1: a fifth grade teacher to meet other ten year old
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  Speaker 1: girls and boys and help them chase streams. That was
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  Speaker 1: really what I wanted to do until that moment with
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  Speaker 1: Frank Gagliano.
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  Speaker 2: Just like you said before, in order to be her,
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  Speaker 2: you need to see her.
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  Speaker 3: When you were of a certain age, you had people
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  Speaker 3: that saw you as maybe you were in fifth grade,
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  Speaker 3: and then as you graduated within life and within sport,
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  Speaker 3: you met someone else that saw you as all that
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  Speaker 3: you have to offer, and that then changed the trajectory
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  Speaker 3: of your path. And it's so amazing and beautiful to
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  Speaker 3: hear that these individuals inspired you to become this person
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  Speaker 3: now that has this opportunity to inspire others. What I
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  Speaker 3: love about what you're saying with this essence of I
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  Speaker 3: see something special in you is that oftentimes that conversation
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  Speaker 3: is what sparks someone's justin level of self belief, right,
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  Speaker 3: And then to get to that next step where yes
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  Speaker 3: it starts with someone saying I believe in you. Then
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  Speaker 3: that athlete or that person or wherever you may be,
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  Speaker 3: within or without sport, says, holy shit, I believe in myself.
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  Speaker 3: When you get to this place where you have this
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  Speaker 3: innate level of self belief, no one can take that
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  Speaker 3: away from you. That doesn't mean that there aren't going
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  Speaker 3: to be moments that you doubt yourself. But what it
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  Speaker 3: does mean is that that opens up the door for
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  Speaker 3: you to try things that maybe you were scared of
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  Speaker 3: trying before. So for you, as you start to come
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  Speaker 3: up within sport. Although you have this level of belief
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  Speaker 3: from gags, where is it that you really find your
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  Speaker 3: strength on your own two feet when you step into
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  Speaker 3: this coaching role.
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  Speaker 1: As a coach, I get that strength and confidence from
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  Speaker 1: my women. And that is the crazy thing about empowerment.
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  Speaker 1: People think that strong women and confident women just found
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  Speaker 1: that somewhere. No, the way we become more confident is
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  Speaker 1: by instilling confidence in it. I've spent twenty years doing
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  Speaker 1: that for women and what that has done for me
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  Speaker 1: as kind of I'm reaping the benefits. The return of
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  Speaker 1: investment on investing in someone else is that you yourself
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  Speaker 1: also get that same confidence and that source of empowerment.
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  Speaker 1: And so it's important for women to learn how to
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  Speaker 1: build up other women, how to instill confidence in the
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  Speaker 1: women around you. That's going to help you be a
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  Speaker 1: strong woman.
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  Speaker 2: Talk to me about getting the job at BYU.
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  Speaker 1: Getting the job at BYU it was not something I
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  Speaker 1: would have ever seen in my future. I was at
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  Speaker 1: the point of my career where other division one universities
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  Speaker 1: were recognizing what I was doing at a small D two,
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  Speaker 1: and so opportunities to interview for positions around the country
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  Speaker 1: were popping up. BYU was one of those in the
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  Speaker 1: summer of twenty sixteen, and I decided to take the interview.
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  Speaker 1: My in laws live in Utah. If I'm being totally honest,
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  Speaker 1: that's why I went. I thought I could spend a
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  Speaker 1: couple days with them and check out BYU. My only
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  Speaker 1: real ties to BYU were I love basketball and watching
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  Speaker 1: Jimmer in his early years when they were.
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  Speaker 2: Making a big deep run. I became a fan of that.
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  Speaker 1: And then I worked out there once and got kicked
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  Speaker 1: off the indoor track because I was in a sports bra.
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  Speaker 1: And so those are really my two encounters with BYU.
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  Speaker 1: But I thought, let me go interview for this job
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  Speaker 1: and go through the process. And when I got on
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  Speaker 1: campus and started going through the interview process and understanding
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  Speaker 1: that there was going to be a group of women
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  Speaker 1: who culturally had a similar upbringing. There are similarities between
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  Speaker 1: what I went through culturally and what women at BYU
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  Speaker 1: have gone through culturally, and that was the draw.
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  Speaker 2: It wasn't yeah, can I do it at the highest level.
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  Speaker 1: There's always that question, but it was more I want
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  Speaker 1: to do it with these women at the highest level.
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  Speaker 3: And it was also this aspect of understanding that you
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  Speaker 3: could bring something to them that maybe they had been missing.
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  Speaker 1: It was and my why the question is that's what
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  Speaker 1: got me to BYU.
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  Speaker 2: The women and people ask why do I stay?
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  Speaker 1: Right, I've had a lot of success over the last
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  Speaker 1: nine years, and I've had opportunities to go to other
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  Speaker 1: D one P four schools in why and my why
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  Speaker 1: is still the same, The same reason why I came
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  Speaker 1: to BYU. My women is the same reason why I
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  Speaker 1: stay My women and who they're becoming and what they're accomplishing.
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  Speaker 1: And I have a front row seat to watch these
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  Speaker 1: women chase streams that they never even knew they could
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  Speaker 1: chase or that they could have and had now turning
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  Speaker 1: women from the collegiate level and watching them go into
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  Speaker 1: the professional world, it's so fulfilling.
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  Speaker 2: It's fulfilling.
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  Speaker 3: And when some of your women graduate, is there almost
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  Speaker 3: a morning feels like a big word to use here,
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  Speaker 3: But you develop such strong and special relationships with these
• 17:58
  Speaker 3: women and then they spread their wings and they leave
• 18:00
  Speaker 3: the nest. How does that make you feel?
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: It is every five to six years you kind of
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: go through that where you spend so much time with
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: these women and they think it's going to be like
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: this forever, and I do too. When you're in it,
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: you think that relationship is going to be like that forever,
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: and it can't because someone else is going to come
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: in as an eighteen year old and they're going to
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: need that same time and care as what my alum
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: have had. But there's this sisterhood that's been created. So
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: whatever we're doing on our journey, and I'm not saying
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: just with BYU women, my women that I've coached and
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: former athletes that I've coached, even at cal State Stanislaus,
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: feel a connection to the athletes I'm coaching now. They
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: know they're getting the same experience and the same investment
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: that I gave them, and they feel connected to the
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: current athletes through that.
• 18:47
  Speaker 2: Yeah, what does success feel like to you? That word
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: has changed so much.
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: You know, when I first started coaching success with outcomes,
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: it was finishes and it was being relevant nationally. And
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: I still care about that stuff obviously being a competitive
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: person in sport. But success for me is how many
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: people can I inspire along the way, whether that be
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: in coaching or whether that be athletes in other programs,
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: young girls in sport, the nine, ten twelve year old girls,
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: what can I do to inspire them?
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: That is success. That's what I want my legacy to be.
• 19:19
  Speaker 3: Yeah, well, it's irrefutable that you're doing that. And also
• 19:24
  Speaker 3: it's so special when there's moments like that viral moment
• 19:28
  Speaker 3: of you running alongside the track a few months back
• 19:30
  Speaker 3: now yelling on the track you are what did you say?
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: You are her? Yeah?
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: So backstory, I my name, Well, they obviously coach Taylor. Yeah,
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: but the women call me the woman, right, So has
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: the woman sent out the workout yet or where's the woman?
• 19:45
  Speaker 2: And so they refer to me as the woman.
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: And before I started saying you are her, I was
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: saying you are the woman, you know, just kind of
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: throwing it back at them, and yeah, and then just.
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: That you are her. I don't know where that came from.
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: It was so good, it was and it was captured
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: because I was miked up, and you kind of forget
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: in the moment that you're even miked up.
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: But I think for my women to watch that afterwards.
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: They only see and hear from their perspective what the
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: race feels like. And they're hearing these commands and they're
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: hearing this encouragement and a little bit of crazy and
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: they love that energy. But then for them to go
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: back and watch it from my perspective, what I'm going through,
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: what I'm screaming at them, and how excited I am.
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: I think, Yeah, it was special that we captured that moment.
• 20:35
  Speaker 3: I mean, it's my alarm every day. I don't know
• 20:37
  Speaker 3: if you know this. I wake up everything you are,
• 20:39
  Speaker 3: you are her. I'm like, okay, a little aggressive this morning,
• 20:42
  Speaker 3: but sometimes aggressive.
• 20:43
  Speaker 2: Sometimes you're so aggressive you need that pep talk.
• 20:46
  Speaker 3: But the thing is, as someone who is at the
• 20:47
  Speaker 3: forefront of being such an outstanding leader for so many
• 20:50
  Speaker 3: young women, not only on the team, but of course
• 20:53
  Speaker 3: broader than that, with such a large reach, what do
• 20:55
  Speaker 3: you do on the day is that you don't feel
• 20:57
  Speaker 3: so shiny and that you don't feel you are the woman.
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: Well, we all have those moments where we're not feeling it.
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: My recharge comes from the thing I do, which is coaching.
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: And that sounds so cliche because it is so exhausting
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: at times, especially as we're getting towards the end of
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: the season. We're heading into national championships next week and
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: then the youth you know, obviously usays next month. At
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: the end of July, and so this is kind of
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: crunch time for my coaching and for my athletes and you.
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: I end every season exhausted, but throughout the season I
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: will never use that word. Yeah, no, I can't.
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: I have to be at my best for my women
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: to be at their best. But recharging for me is
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: a run, a very slow run, or just taking some
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: time and sitting in my backyard with my family and
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: not thinking about the sport. This thing is consuming, and
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: I believe if you have to be really good I
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: believe if you want to be really.
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: Good at something, there has to be a small level
• 21:57
  Speaker 2: obsession during the crunch times. And so I am obsessed
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: with my craft and that helps and gives permission for
• 22:03
  Speaker 2: my women to be obsessed with their craft. When you
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: have two people equally obsessed with their craft, magic can happen.
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: I've seen it. I've witnessed it.
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: I'm twenty twenty four Olympics in Paris standing there watching
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: two women in the Olympic final. I've seen the fruits
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: of their labor, and so that is recharging for me.
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: Understanding that this energy is going to be replicated, and
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: when it is by them in the right moments, we're
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: going to get to experience magic.
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  Speaker 3: when you have a steep passion for what it is
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  Speaker 3: that excites you and in our case both of us
• 26:34
  Speaker 3: doing different things. But for me within cultivating these conversations
• 26:38
  Speaker 3: and for you guiding these women towards seeking their own potential,
• 26:41
  Speaker 3: you can't cheat that passion.
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  Speaker 2: The passion is what fuels you to keep showing.
• 26:46
  Speaker 3: Up on these times where it is exhausting, right, but
• 26:49
  Speaker 3: it also is the same thing that gives back to
• 26:52
  Speaker 3: you time and time and time again. Paris, What a moment,
• 26:57
  Speaker 3: such a moment, Such a moment I feel like for
• 27:00
  Speaker 3: the rest of my career, I'm going to compare every
• 27:03
  Speaker 3: moment do running around Paris and interviewing my idols. Talk
• 27:06
  Speaker 3: to me about what that moment meant for you to
• 27:09
  Speaker 3: be there witnessing such greatness from these two women that
• 27:14
  Speaker 3: you got to go along that journey with.
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, when you're in it and you're so
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: focused on getting them to the starting line and getting
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: them prepared and building their confidence and making sure that
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: they walk in that arena feeling just as worthy and
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: ready to do something on the biggest stage of their life.
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: But I'd never thought what it would feel like for
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: me to walk into that arena, because I was so
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: focused on what are they going to feel? And so
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: when I walked into that arena, and I always have
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: the same seat on the front row, and I took
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: a moment prior to them competing, just sitting there and
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: soaking in the crowd, the feeling and really asking myself,
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: did I ever think in my wildest dreams, did I
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: ever think I would be coaching in an Olympic final. No,
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: I couldn't have seen that. No one could have seen that.
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: And so really for me, it was just a moment
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: of let me soak this all in. I don't know
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: if it'll ever happen again. I'm hoping it will LA
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: twenty twenty eight, but yeah, I just those are the
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: moments that all pressure is released, Yeah, and you kind
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: of just get to soak it all in and be
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: proud when was the.
• 28:25
  Speaker 3: Last time you walked into an arena And I'm not
• 28:27
  Speaker 3: just actually talking about like the STAD difference, but an
• 28:30
  Speaker 3: arena within your life where you maybe we're dealing with
• 28:35
  Speaker 3: a little bit of that self doubt, where you had
• 28:38
  Speaker 3: to consciously squash those nerves that feel a little bit
• 28:41
  Speaker 3: bigger than you.
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: I feel I catch myself there all the time. Anytime
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: you're really passionate about something and you invest a lot
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: in it and you care a lot about it, You're
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: gonna have a little bit of self doubt. Every athlete
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: at the highest level feels that. Every coach at the
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: highest level feels that. I talk to colleagues all the
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: time where it's like, oh, are we doing this thing?
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: And if I'm not feeling that, then I want a question.
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: Did I go all in? If I'm not feeling a
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: little bit of self doubt? Did I go all in?
• 29:11
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: There's rooms that maybe we walk in and we wonder
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: do we belong? Does our voice matter? What Nike's done
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: for me is put me in these rooms where my
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: voice does matter. What BYU has done for me is
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: put me in those rooms where my voice matters and
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: the value piece is there, And so when someone else
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: is investing and showing you that value, you yourself are
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: gonna feel it. But self doubt, that's a part of
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: the journey every step of the way, and I want
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: to always have that. It's a good self check. When
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: you doubt yourself, you're questioning am I doing things the
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: right way? That's the best question you can ask yourself.
• 29:43
  Speaker 2: Who are you outside of being a coach? Mom? That's
• 29:47
  Speaker 2: my best title? Yeah? Yeah, I have two boys.
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: I wear them right here proudly, taj Nave and one's
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: about to be fourteen and sixteen, and being a mom
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: has rewritten my whole childhood. That's what that's for me.
• 30:01
  Speaker 3: What is it that you hope to offer your boys
• 30:08
  Speaker 3: that maybe you didn't feel like you had.
• 30:11
  Speaker 2: There's two things posted on both boys.
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: When they walk outside of their door every day from
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: their bedroom. I have a note up there that says
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: I believe in you, and another one right below it
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: that says life responds to effort. And those two statements
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: they see them every time they walk into their bedroom,
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: and I say those to my boys all the time.
• 30:32
  Speaker 2: I didn't I love you. In the Indian culture is done.
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: Through acts of service, It's through caring for your children,
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: cutting up fruit, making sure they have all the things
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: that they need. It really is, that's the Indian way
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: of saying, we make you chaw. That means I love you,
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: and I have been very intentional as a mother to
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: make sure that my boys hear those words all the time.
• 30:54
  Speaker 2: And then also coupled with that, I believe in you.
• 30:57
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that I believe in you is so special and
• 30:59
  Speaker 3: I'm sure that they are so proud of what you've
• 31:05
  Speaker 3: done and seeing how you show up to be this
• 31:08
  Speaker 3: figurehead for so many others.
• 31:10
  Speaker 2: Have they expressed that to you.
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: Now, as they're getting into their teenage years, they are
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: a little more vocal about it. I think growing up
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: it's just mom. I'm just mom, yeah, and they don't know.
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: But now we go into places and people are stopping me,
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: and they're kind of seeing different articles and just different
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: things that I'm doing, different parties we have at our house.
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: They're like, wow, my mom is coaching in the Olympics
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: and they got to go along and witness that.
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: So that was really powerful. But I think that where
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: they're going.
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: To see the benefit is if they choose to get
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: married or they have children and they have daughters, how
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: they're going to parent, how they're going to be a
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: partner to another woman. This is normal for them. What
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: I'm doing is their norms. So they're going to be
• 31:51
  Speaker 1: the biggest cheerleader for any woman in their life and
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: any girl when they become they become girl dads. They're
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: going to be the best at it because I so hopefully,
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: by example, have shown them what it looks like to relent,
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: least chase the dream that.
• 32:06
  Speaker 3: By example, though you're modeling that behavior. Obviously, again we're
• 32:11
  Speaker 3: saying hi as being the Olympics, the parties before the Olympics.
• 32:15
  Speaker 3: When you reflect on perhaps what some of the lowest
• 32:18
  Speaker 3: moments have been for you within this journey of your career,
• 32:22
  Speaker 3: what comes to mind.
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: Last year's NCAA Championship and why is that had a
• 32:27
  Speaker 1: team that I felt like could definitely podium, possibly win,
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: probably win. It was one of my more talented teams,
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: and we just weren't prepared emotionally Internally, the team chemistry
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: was off, and as a coach I sensed it, but
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: I really couldn't do anything about it. And coming home
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: from that national Championship with I know we were still
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: top fifteen in the country.
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: I was going to say fourteenth. We were fourteenth, but
• 32:52
  Speaker 2: it was.
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: It was probably a really low point, probably the lowest
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: point in my coaching career, to feel like I had
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: failed those women, I had failed to see. I was
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: trying to put a band aid on it, to just
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: get us through November, just get us through the championship.
• 33:06
  Speaker 2: And you can't.
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: You can't put a band aid on team culture. You
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: can't put a band aid on inconsistent leadership. You can't
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: put a band aid on anxieties and insecurities. You can't
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: put a band aid on it. And I tried to.
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: And walking through my doors, my son sees my face
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: and I'd been crying. I'm not even I don't get emotional.
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: I'm passionate, but I'm not an emotional woman, and he
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: completely breaks down, just sobbing. At that moment, I was like, Okay,
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: this can't be this big, This can't be this big.
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: But what people don't understand and what people don't see
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: when you're a mom and a coach, there's a sacrifice
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: that your children make and your husband and when things
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: don't pan out, invest it and it hurts them too.
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: So let my women down right, that's the coach. And
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: people will tell you all the time it's so nice.
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: When you're a parent.
• 34:10
  Speaker 2: You walk in and you're like, oh, this is what matters.
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: But when I walk.
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: Into my house, my child is crying, and I was like,
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: wait a minute, I've let my team down and I've
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: let my boys down, and that was kind of a
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: double whammy and the chance for me to completely change
• 34:28
  Speaker 1: my perspective and where I was placing myself worth.
• 34:31
  Speaker 3: What I'm hearing you say though, now is that you've
• 34:33
  Speaker 3: had time to reflect on that moment, understanding that maybe
• 34:36
  Speaker 3: how it felt in that letdown isn't actually the lesson
• 34:42
  Speaker 3: to take from it. So now, in the time since then,
• 34:45
  Speaker 3: after walking through the door and seeing your son and
• 34:49
  Speaker 3: feeling like you let your girls down, how do you
• 34:51
  Speaker 3: reflect on that now?
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: Well, I think I was placing emphasis on the wrong thing, right.
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: We all, regardless of understanding your legacy and understanding your purpose,
• 35:00
  Speaker 1: we all get lost in chasing outcomes.
• 35:03
  Speaker 2: And the real power lies in the journey.
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: And for me to reattach that now, I could have
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: I could have shied away from the hard moments, and
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: I could have not chosen to grow as a coach
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: but instead I did some self reflecting in the month
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: of December and asked myself the hard questions, why did
• 35:21
  Speaker 1: that hit me so hard? And someone who preaches that
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: failure is part of the process, why could I not
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  Speaker 1: process it?
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  Speaker 2: And it's easy to trust the process when things are
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  Speaker 2: going well.
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  Speaker 1: It's really hard to trust the process when things aren't processing.
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  Speaker 1: And so for me, I became a better coach because
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  Speaker 1: of that. I doubled down on those same women. I
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  Speaker 1: made sure that they understood it was about the journey.
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  Speaker 1: And if I'm attaching my self worth as a coach
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  Speaker 1: to the outcome, my women are doing the same thing.
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  Speaker 1: I'm setting an example to my boys that your self
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  Speaker 1: worth comes from what you do and not who you are.
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  Speaker 1: And so I changed the who I was that moment.
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  Speaker 3: What a beautiful opportunity, though, And then to be able
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  Speaker 3: to go back to those women and recultivate these special
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  Speaker 3: conversations to instill in them that this is truly an
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  Speaker 3: opportunity to rise up from something that you didn't hope for.
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  Speaker 3: And that's such an important lesson in this As with
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  Speaker 3: any quote unquote air quotes, failure is that we don't
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  Speaker 3: work hard for failure. We don't work hard for things
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  Speaker 3: to not go as we'd hoped. However, it takes a smart, educated,
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  Speaker 3: strong person to take that hard moment, that hard hurdle,
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  Speaker 3: and say, I'm now going to use this to my advantage.
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  Speaker 1: I came across this quote as I was trying to
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  Speaker 1: figure out ways to inspire my women, and I'm scrolling
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  Speaker 1: through all these things, reading books, I'm trying to find
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  Speaker 1: something that I can grasp on, and it was this
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  Speaker 1: quote that now the butterfly symbol has become part of
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  Speaker 1: our team culture.
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  Speaker 2: It's just it's everywhere.
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  Speaker 1: You'll see it on me next week d C Doublea's
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  Speaker 1: But it was just when the caterpillar thinks the world
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  Speaker 1: is ending, she becomes a butterfly, and we decided from
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  Speaker 1: that moment on, we're chase see butterfly moments, understanding that
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  Speaker 1: the caterpillar is part of the process and we're going
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  Speaker 1: to find ourselves there. But what we're really chasing is
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  Speaker 1: those butterfly moments.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I love that. I love that right now, Coach Tayler.
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  Speaker 3: When someone goes to your Instagram page, they see a
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  Speaker 3: ton of followers, they see a woman who is at
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  Speaker 3: the helm of Buiu's track and field program. But when
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  Speaker 3: you look in the mirror, what is it that you
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  Speaker 3: see looking back at you?
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  Speaker 2: Oh, I see someone who took a chance on herself.
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  Speaker 1: I see ten year old me. I see sixteen year
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  Speaker 1: old me. I see eighteen year old me that walked
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  Speaker 1: out of the house with nothing to my name. I
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  Speaker 1: see thirty year old me that just became a new mom.
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  Speaker 1: And then I see me as I am now. And
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  Speaker 1: that's someone who I'm really incredibly proud of.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so special.
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  Speaker 3: We are releasing this episode the day after the La
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  Speaker 3: stop of the After Dark Tour. It's been such a
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  Speaker 3: special journey. I myself training for the half marathon. You guys,
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  Speaker 3: athletes all over the world toward their own starting lines.
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  Speaker 3: When you take a step back and look at the
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  Speaker 3: magnitude of your impact, does it really hit you.
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  Speaker 2: In these moments? It does.
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  Speaker 1: My circle of women has just been the athletes that
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  Speaker 1: I coach, right, And that's a small community that you
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  Speaker 1: can still inspire a larger community through those small.
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  Speaker 2: Twenty thirty women, forty women.
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  Speaker 1: But now to have an opportunity, my collective of women
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  Speaker 1: has just gotten larger, and so all these women that
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  Speaker 1: are getting on the starting line, I feel a part
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  Speaker 1: of their journey, and that's powerful.
• 38:36
  Speaker 2: Running is bigger than running. You know that, I know that.
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  Speaker 3: What would you say One of the most resounding lessons
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  Speaker 3: is that running has brought to your every day.
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  Speaker 1: The confidence that comes from finishing something that you started
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  Speaker 1: running does that every single day, whether it's a two
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  Speaker 1: mile jog or a half marathon. You build confidence from
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  Speaker 1: setting out to do something and then finishing it.
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  Speaker 2: The confidence is special.
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  Speaker 3: One piece of advice that you offer to individuals as
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  Speaker 3: they approach their own starting lines, whether we're talking about
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  Speaker 3: on the runner, off the run, every day is a
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  Speaker 3: chance for a new beginning, something that you know very well.
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  Speaker 3: For someone who is approaching their own starting line, what
• 39:19
  Speaker 3: do you tell them?
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  Speaker 2: This is a privilege.
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  Speaker 1: This is a privilege, and so if you approach it
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  Speaker 1: that way, your mindset and your entry into that starting
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  Speaker 1: line is going to be from a gratitude mindset. And
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: running is a privilege. The ability to move our body
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  Speaker 1: is a privilege, and sometimes we forget that and it
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: becomes a little bit of a punishment. Our sport is
• 39:39
  Speaker 1: sometimes a punishment for other people's sport, right, but it
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: really isn't.
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  Speaker 2: It's a privilege to be able to do this.
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: And so when women enter with that mindset, it's going
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: to serve them.
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  Speaker 2: Women.
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  Speaker 3: To be in this position now, to be such a
• 39:52
  Speaker 3: vocal leader for so many women, something that you did
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  Speaker 3: not see from a young age.
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  Speaker 2: What does it mean to you?
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  Speaker 1: It is my the feeling that you've lived your purpose,
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  Speaker 1: that you're living your purpose every single day, nothing else
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  Speaker 1: is left to accomplish.
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  Speaker 2: That's what it means to me.
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  Speaker 1: And I've just come to realize that late in my forties.
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  Speaker 1: So for the young women out there that are just
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: trying to figure life out, whether you're eighteen or twenty
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  Speaker 1: eight or thirty eight, understand that one day you're going
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: to wake up. If you just consistently work hard and
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: put your head down and stay true to yourself, you're
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: going to wake up one day and you're going to
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: be exactly where you were meant to be. And that's
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: where I'm at now, and it is it's such an honor.
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  Speaker 3: Does that mean that you could be content if you
• 40:41
  Speaker 3: had to tomorrow stop doing what you're doing, would you
• 40:43
  Speaker 3: feel content with what you've done?
• 40:45
  Speaker 2: I do, Yeah, I feel very content. There's so much
• 40:47
  Speaker 2: more I want to do.
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  Speaker 3: But yeah, right now, you have an opportunity to offer
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  Speaker 3: your younger self a piece of advice, the one that's
• 40:55
  Speaker 3: walking out of the house without her shoes on, saying,
• 40:59
  Speaker 3: I've got to do my own thing, knowing what you know. Now,
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  Speaker 3: what would you tell yourself during that hurdle moment You're.
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  Speaker 2: Gonna make it.
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  Speaker 1: You're going to make it, because that was a question
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  Speaker 1: I couldn't answer, and I would love to tell her.
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  Speaker 2: You're going to make it.
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  Speaker 3: So so so grateful that we have the opportunity to
• 41:17
  Speaker 3: sit down. For those that aren't following along with you
• 41:20
  Speaker 3: just yet, tell us how do we find you on
• 41:21
  Speaker 3: the socials?
• 41:22
  Speaker 2: How do we keep up?
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: You can follow me on Instagram dolgit do Songe Taylor
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  Speaker 1: and yeah, just follow the journey at YU and my Pros.
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  Speaker 3: TC, swosh TC, I'm over at Emile Body and at
• 41:33
  Speaker 3: Hurdle Podcast Another Hurdle Conquered.
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  Speaker 2: Catch you guys next time.