How much sex is ‘normal’ in a relationship?

Are We Into This? with Cosmopolitan · Sep 17, 2026 · 31m

Whether we’re adapting to a post-honeymoon stage dip in our sex lives or going through a bit of a dry spell, most of us, at one point or another, have likely been hyperaware of how much sex we’re having with our partners — and even fretted over whether it’s ‘enough’.

But how much sex is ‘normal’ in relationships? Is there even such a thing as a ‘normal’ amount of sex? (Spoiler: no!) Millie and Clare are getting into these questions and more, discussing why we should be focusing less on how often we’re having sex, and more on the kind of sex we’re having — and the intimacy we enjoy outside of…