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They Know You Love Them… But Do You Say It? · Gentlemen Hour

• Luis Aguilar: Some people gotta Filthy P: They know Luis Aguilar: be up at the crack of dong. Filthy P: They know you love but do you say it? Uncle, this was your this was your Luis Aguilar: Yes, sir. Filthy P: this was your brain child, my man. We always we always find time to be online. We always find time to complain. You always ha find time to look up porn. well, maybe not all of us, maybe just me, but we always find time to Luis Aguilar: Not enough time. Filthy P: to do all this stuff, right? But what about when do we find the time to tell the people we love how much they mean to us? All it takes is 20 seconds. Tell someone, hey, Unk, I'm a little proud of you. Not a lot, but I'm a little, a little bit a tad Luis Aguilar: Ha ha ha ha. Filthy P: I'm this much proud of you from how you've been sh Luis Aguilar: Daniel. Filthy P: showing out on these shows. You know what I mean? Like you you you entertain me, brother. Look at that. Will that take 10 seconds? And now you feel better, huh? You got a little heart? Luis Aguilar: Yeah, man. Filthy P: You got a little heart or what? look at you. Luis Aguilar: Pop my chest out. Filthy P: Chest chest chest out. What is it? Guns out. Luis Aguilar: I was I was slumped over her, but now I'm not. Filthy P: Sun's out, chest out. so tonight. We're talking about words that we leave unsaid. I believe it's called what affirmations, to our kids, our spouses, our mates, our loved ones, maybe it's just a significant other, our siblings, brothers, sisters, and just the friends who've been there our whole life. What do they need to hear? Why do we hold it back? And why do you think this is just me, I threw this one in, but do you think it has to do a little bit with being A man or maybe even, you know, mexicano, like I was always taught, hey, Luis Aguilar: Culture? Filthy P: hey, hey, hey, you can't show your feelings, you can't cry, you can't tell them you love them. You can't tell yeah, be a macho, bro, macho. so maybe our upbringing doesn't allow us, it kind of it restricts us from sharing our feelings, you know, without it turning into a road situation. Uncle, I love you. look at this puto, he loves it. You know what I mean? He loves it, yeah. Luis Aguilar: Haha loves me. You wanna marry me or what? Filthy P: I ain't bending around this fool. Luis Aguilar: Ha ha ha. Filthy P: Hey, but let's find out next. Let's let's get serious. This is what we do. This is our roots. You know what I mean? This is what w this show was founded on. Let's let's find out next on a very serious gentleman's hour. Luis Aguilar: you know what would make me very proud and I'd actually probably love you for it. If you dropped the intro, bro. Filthy P: look at that. Old school. Old school. Luis Aguilar: Getting all getting all happy and tight. Filthy P: Yeah, I feel good, bro. I feel rocked up. Desiree, get your ass over here. Slap that ass. If she walks over here, I'm slapping that ass, brother. Don't even All right. Hey, Uncle, come on. Hey, how do we start? Come on. Luis Aguilar: Get out here. Let me show you how proud I am. Whoa. Wait, wait, wait, wait. Filthy P: First sip. Yeah. Luis Aguilar: Do you think that's also a sign of affirmation? Filthy P: What? slapping ass. Luis Aguilar: Slap on the I slap on the buttocks. Filthy P: Let's find out. Let's find out. That's a good that's a good little No no let's let's No Luis Aguilar: No. Next time next time I see you. Filthy P: no not you. Hey babe, get over here real quick. This fool wants me to slap his ass. I'm gonna slap yours. Babe Luis Aguilar: Hey, I like when you do the little Filthy P: Turn op turn around. You can't they can't see you. Turn around. that feel? Does that feel do you feel like I do you feel like I love you when I do that? Like you feel affection? No. No? What do you think of that? Like when I go and I just slap your ass random. Do you f that make you feel good? Does that make you feel like this guy's just horny? Or like, that's his sh his way of showing me he cares. All right, thanks. Thanks for the help. And then she's always like she's always like you don't mention me on the show, you don't mention my comments, but then I bring her in live and then she she fumbles. Okay, Uncle. Luis Aguilar: Ha ha. Filthy P: that's what we're talking today, bro. I just walk up behind you, not that hard, but I just go and I like slap your ass a little like, Hey baby, what's up? Boom. Luis Aguilar: Take a gentle reminder. Filthy P: Gentlemen, you do like that and it feels like your care Okay, yeah. She does like it's like a Luis Aguilar: Of my yeah, gentle reminder of affection that I have towards you. Yeah yeah. Yeah. You're not trying to beat it up. Wow, drop an elbow on it or anything. Filthy P: Exactly. And also like attention, right? Like it's good attention. Okay. Give me a headlock. What? What? Headlock? Hell bro, we're on we're live on air, brother. People people yeah, Luis Aguilar: Cut that, cut that. Filthy P: people don't understand it. They they might think ahead like I really choke you out or something. You know your mom and dad listed the last thing I had to do was, I gotta go handle your dad now? She hole Luis Aguilar: Yeah. Filthy P: and I like him. He's a nice guy. I don't wanna he's a real nice guy. Luis Aguilar: I wanna do it, but I will if I have to. Filthy P: Yeah, he's a Tejano, bro. You know, those fools know how to those fools know how Luis Aguilar: Chill, bro, chill. Chill. Filthy P: to fight. All right, Uncle, first sip. First sip. Well, first fit. Luis Aguilar: Some more. Filthy P: Actually, first sip. Let's give a salute to to Desiree's Pops. I can't even see my cup. But salute to he he's a cool dude, man. Real one. Hey, salute. Luis Aguilar: Cheers to you. Filthy P: What do I call him? Just Big J? Big Joe? Big Joe. Big Joe Mid Cheers to you, Big Joe Medina. Luis Aguilar: Cheers to you Cheers to you, Mr Desere Desiree's dad. Filthy P: Joe Medina, JM. All right, brother. all right, Luis Aguilar: Nice. Filthy P: Uncle, first sip. I want to just get started. You know how we do. Let's dip our feet in. I want to see what you feel on these. A little something just kind of get the get the water going, you know, open the open the faucet. When someone compliments you, Unc, do you accept it or make a joke? And the reason I'm asking this is the first one, is because I I get uncomfortable when people give me real genuine compliments. So like trying to turn it into a joke or deflate it or whatever. How do you take compliments? You take it and you're like, Hey, give me more? Or are you like, Hey, hey, chill, chill. I Luis Aguilar: Give me more. Filthy P: I hear these all day at work. I hear these all day at home. I don't need to hear it here. You know what I mean? Luis Aguilar: I'm gonna tell you this bro, don't let don't let my demeanor fool you. Don't let my track record deceive you. I don't I don't think I don't think I get a lot of compliments, bro. And I don't think I ever really did as a kid, as a teenager, as a young adult, as a parent. I Filthy P: Te from teachers? From maybe not at maybe Luis Aguilar: From anybody, bro. I think it's just in general. Filthy P: maybe not in the household. I get that. You know, whatever. He was a typical male, you know what I mean? But like my mom I did. You so maybe you didn't get in the household, but what about friends, other family, school, teachers? Come on, teachers had to tell Hey, baby Unk, you're doing good. You're you got that Luis Aguilar: Hey Bianca, you Filthy P: you got that two plus two. It does equal five. You know what I mean? Luis Aguilar: Come here, future gent. Now you know what? I think we've covered this before where I told you I I've always been just like subpar, mediocre. I'm not I'm not an overachiever. I shoot I shoot for C's, C's and B's. You know what I mean? 'Cause if Filthy P: Jeez. Luis Aguilar: if I I'm I know I'm not gonna get in AS too much work and I know I can't fail. So if I can get a C or a B, I'm I'm it. So I think just being like that most of my life, I don't think I've I don't think I've I've earned A lot of compliments or whatever. And the ones that I have as an adult, I remember I've gotten some as far as like well y you know what I will say this. I do I think the biggest compliment that I can get is when they compliment my kids. So it's an indirect Filthy P: didn't even think of that. Good call. Luis Aguilar: compliment and I tend to I tend to make a joke every single time. especially like with Nick, they compliment he's very he's very He's very well mannered. He's very calm. 'Cause he is. He's very chill. He's very, you know, he's very respectful. And then Filthy P: Yeah, he is. Luis Aguilar: it's always the same thing. he takes after his mom or he takes after me, or you know what I mean? So there's always that. I think if it was a direct compliment, a hundred percent I'm cracking a joke. I I'm not comfortable with it. I don't I don't I don't really I'm not really receptive to praise or to to compliments or to Or a pat on the back or that a boy or you know, those type of things I I don't I don't like it. I don't like attention. I don't like people to know when my birthday is. I don't like it when they wish me happy birthday. I don't like it if they find out anything, like, you you just got a truck, yeah, that's great. I don't even tell people. I I I try to keep it to myself because I don't I don't like that attention. So Filthy P: Right. Luis Aguilar: if I do g if I were to get a a compliment, I I would most likely I would probably I would probably make a joke out about it, for sure. Filthy P: Okay. Yeah. I I wonder what that is, 'cause I'm the same way. I hate my birthday. I hate I hate doing anything for it. I hate going out to even dinner. I just on my birthday, I'm perfectly content. You know what my best birthdays were when my kids were here and it's just us. Maybe my mom comes over, we we get food, pizza, she gets a cake or something, and the kids sing me happy birthday and Luis Aguilar: You're just chillin'. Filthy P: we and we watch a movie after on the like boy perfect. Perfect, but going out to dinner and this is my birthday cell. This is my birthday month and every day. I'm like, nah, I don't do all that. Because it's like, Luis Aguilar: Yeah, I'm not yeah. Filthy P: why bring attention to yourself? If you know what I mean, that's not what I'm here for. But okay, that I feel I'm the same way. How about this one? Second question on first sip. You know what I mean? Hey, we're just we're getting them wet. We're getting them wet. Some Luis Aguilar: Ha ha ha. Filthy P: something that we're kind of good at. What's something somebody said that you can. still remember maybe it was a kid, maybe it was yesterday, maybe it was me last week on the show. But that you remember that somebody said something, you know, positive or is something that kind of like, yeah, remember he said that? It keeps me going. So if it keeps you going, maybe it was like a parent or a family member or teacher. But can you remember anything recent or far back where somebody said someone complimentary where you're like, shit, I wasn't expecting that. Hey, maybe it's a bowling album. Maybe it was Chuck was like, hey, nice roll, unc. Luis Aguilar: Where to get that black ball. You know what I mean? Where to where where to finally purchase a ball? No, fool, you know what I meant. Filthy P: Hey, hey. Hey chill. Luis Aguilar: Chill dog, it ain't even like that. Come on, ain't that serious? I think man, this is hard, bro. I don't think I I don't think anything stands out. Like I said, I wasn't I wasn't big on I wasn't if I if people were complimenting me or or congratulating me or whatever, I I I don't think it was that it was that often to stand out. I don't think there's anything. it would most likely have to be around my kids. Like I said, that's probably the the thing that people comment the most on. Like with Cass, she's a very very distinguished young woman or she's growing up she's grown up to be a very beautiful girl. Natalia does the same thing, she's so Filthy P: Bro, not even that. Luis Aguilar: pretty and so tall. And Nick Filthy P: Bro, you know somebody has you know somebody, your family somebody has been like, Hey, uncle, maybe they call you Luis Aguilar: You're a good guy. Filthy P: what do they call you, Lou or Louie? What do they call you? Luis Aguilar: Louis, back in the day they used to call me Albert, Beto, Betoque, Filthy P: Hey, can one day we find out what the whole story is with that Albert? 'Cause that apparently you're known more by Albert than that's your middle name? Babe. Luis Aguilar: That's my middle name. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So okay. Filthy P: Albert's his middle name. That's where the whole thing comes from. Yeah, it's we found this out like Luis Aguilar: You guys didn't know that? Filthy P: two years ago. We did? Yeah. I thought it was still a mystery. Deser said we did find that out already. okay, okay. Albert. Luis Aguilar: Yeah, that's what I'm saying. I think I told you guys. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, yeah. Filthy P: okay. Albert. That's it when Chris was like, I know Albert. Luis Aguilar: Yeah, it's my middle name and for whatever reason. Filthy P: Yeah, Chris knew Albert, yeah. Okay. All right. Sorry, sorry. But Uncle, somebody has told Luis Aguilar: Yeah, it's weird. Filthy P: you, somebody has looked at you and said, Albert, you are a good dad. You are you are a you have become hey, maybe they even said it like a what is it? Like what is it? A passive aggressive. Maybe they like, Hey, I didn't expect I didn't expect much out of you, but hey, I'm not gonna lie, you became a pretty good dad. Luis Aguilar: It it just it just came to me right now. Right now as you said something. twelfth grade. Filthy P: Okay, perfect, perfect, perfect. shit. Luis Aguilar: Miss what's her name? Miss H Miss Miss Hope. H O P P E Miss Hope Filthy P: shit. Luis Aguilar: was my English teacher. And twelfth grade was a mess, bro. Like I told you, I had I had I had AP A P English. the only the only the only class I in all of my education that I thrived in was was all English. It was it easy. It came it came it come it came easy to me. So by the time I Filthy P: Nice. Luis Aguilar: hit twelfth grade, I got AP English and I also got into ditching. So by the time it came down to to do my final, I think I had a D. And the and the grade for my final, I think it was like fifty percent. And I think it was like two or three essays. Filthy P: Uh-huh. Luis Aguilar: And I remember I knocked him out, pa pa pa. And then she came up to me, she goes, I don't know what you did. you kicked ass. And I Filthy P: nice. Luis Aguilar: remember thinking like, dude, like you're a teacher. And she was a younger teacher. So she Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: was probably like in her like like maybe late twenties, early thirties. So when she told me that, I remember I was thinking like, damn, dude, like I remember I felt like, I I sat up straight and I was like, damn man, she's you know, she's right. I did kick ass 'cause I brought I brought my grade up. Like I brought my grade up, bro. Like a full grade. Like a full letter grade. Yeah yeah yeah and I mean it Filthy P: Yeah, that's true. That's true. That's true. Right, right, right. Like you okay. Luis Aguilar: it was a C, but it was a C. And Technically that's a B I think 'cause it was A P English. But Filthy P: she you didn't tell me you were in that A P homie, that advanced placement. Luis Aguilar: Come on, dog. I just said it like ten seconds ago. Anyways, I know Filthy P: I wasn't listening. I wasn't listening. Luis Aguilar: you weren't paying attention. Too busy thinking about Albert. Hmm. Hell. Filthy P: No, I was looking at I was looking at Otis in my picture. It full stares at me every time. Luis Aguilar: Ha ha ha. Filthy P: Looks all crazy. All right. A P English. AP Luis Aguilar: You're a dick. Filthy P: English. That's good. Okay. And so So you sh you shocked her. You shocked her. Luis Aguilar: Yeah. So that that that I remember. I remember distinctly, bro. Filthy P: You shocked her by getting all that work done. And then she shocked you by Luis Aguilar: Yeah, 'cause bro, Filthy P: like Luis Aguilar: I miss so mu I miss I miss so much like class. I mean, Filthy P: Right, right, right. Luis Aguilar: just ridiculous amount of I'm around amount of truancies. And to be able to bump my whole grade up, she's got she she's like Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: and she would tell me, she's like, The potential's there, you just don't apply yourself. you're right. You're right, Filthy P: Right, right, right. Yeah. Luis Aguilar: I'm out. Peace. Yeah. Filthy P: But doesn't that feel good to have s like when Luis Aguilar: Yeah. Filthy P: you don't expect someone like what the fu like you actually paid attention, you actually noticed that I'm, you know, I'm not a complete degenerate. for me, I think Luis Aguilar: Yeah. Filthy P: I th I always my mom and my grandmother were always good at it, never Not so much in person. I think my mom will now a little bit more. Like she'll just kind of but then I feel like she gets uncomfortable too. But in letters and cards, all those f my mom and my grandma were straight poets. My grandma would always be like, I'm proud of you. You do this, you do that. Like, you know, the the world is your oyster. You know, I don't I don't Luis Aguilar: Hell yeah. Filthy P: she doesn't know I turned out. This My background's gone, huh? Luis Aguilar: It's like you're sitting in an oyster right now. That's crazy. Filthy P: Dude, it's like my internet though. It's it's the internet, I think, is what it does. But it look at that whole background is just gone. And now I can't get it back. What should I do? Just keep it at yellow? That background was banging though. But shit. Anyways, so my mom was always really good at and my grandmother at like putting it in a card and making me feel good. Like, so I told you, right? I told the whole story where I didn't graduate, right? I I just I choked, brother. I got too I didn't graduate on stage. I did graduate, sorry. I did graduate, but not on Yeah, yeah, yeah. Luis Aguilar: You didn't graduate on stage, you said, right? Yeah. I'm like, bro, you have a bachelor's. What's going on here? Filthy P: Not on stage though. So so I was, you know, I felt like crap. My mom was pissed at me. My dad, nobody was talking to me. graduation right before, it was probably the day before, or maybe the the day of she gave me a card, you know, a graduation card. we're, you know, whatever, Mijo, we're proud of you, even though you had struggle. She basically said that, yeah, you're an F up. We get it. You effed up. I think you realize what you did wrong and this is gonna be a good, like, you know, learning experience. Hey, this is just one what does she put? Like like basically something like this is one obstacle in the whole journey of life. Well, who would a thung that obstacle has been a big ass obstacle because sh I've been just struggling ever since. But I you know, I made it out. You know, I mean I made I feel I feel decent. I had kids. I I think I r I think I did a better job raising them than than I did as a job as a kid. Or if that if that Luis Aguilar: You redeemed yourself for sure. Filthy P: If that makes sense. But anyways, but they my mom and my grandmother were both really good at at doing that. So I I do give them props for always making me feel like worthy. What does that mean? Make me feel proud, I guess? I don't know. Luis Aguilar: Validated. Filthy P: Validated? Yeah. Okay. All right, Uncle, let's go ahead and move on. But now I'm p I'm I'm pissed at my my background is gone, but I don't know how to I don't wanna F it up and do something crazy though, so I'm just gonna leave it alone. God, that background was popping. You see, I just added a little tupon. I wonder what it is. I got too much memory. Maybe I need to do the. Luis Aguilar: I don't know. I can't I can't see you. Filthy P: You can't see me at all? Luis Aguilar: Nah. I can hear you clearly but I can't see you. Filthy P: Alright, hold on. I'm gonna just leave real quick. I'm not gonna stop the recording. I'm just gonna leave and come back in and see if that changes. What the f all right, hold on. I think it's my internet, bro. Luis Aguilar: Ha ha. Filthy P: Wait, what was that? You saw the Padres lost, right? They're out. Is that what you were watching? did he I didn't see it. I didn't see it. Luis Aguilar: Yeah, that's what I was watching. Machado got robbed. Yeah, it said it said he got robbed in the same exact spot nine years ago in the world baseball classic. Filthy P: Are you s yeah, that's crazy. That's crazy. Luis Aguilar: So that they lost, so they're out. Filthy P: Mm-hmm. Cooked. There again, they can't even make it to the World Series. All right, Uncle. Let's and cut. Let's get back into it. All right. Hey, welcome back. Welcome back. My background. Luis Aguilar: Welcome back Hey, they didn't know you left. Filthy P: My background is back. I feel good. I feel lean. I feel mean. Uncle. So Luis Aguilar: You feel validated? Filthy P: that was our first sip. You know, let's just l we talked about affirmations. You unfortunately, you haven't had that many. That's not good, bro. Cause I feel Luis Aguilar: Minimal, minimal. Filthy P: feel like people need that to keep it going. Everyone wants to feel loved, feel appreciated, feel heard. but you know what? Over here, there's no there's no rest for the week, brother. We throw you right into the the hot seat, homie. Uncle's Luis Aguilar: Damn. Filthy P: hot seat. Okay. So these are pretty much just little quickie answers, almost like quickie, but it's called the hot seat. These are a little bit more intense. You know what I mean? I want to I want to see what what I want to get peel that onion back a little. I want see what really makes makes makes Uncle tick. All right, Uncle. Luis Aguilar: Yeah. Yes, sir. Filthy P: To my kid, this is well, to your kid, I any of the kids Luis Aguilar: Any of them. Filthy P: or all of them, whatever however you want to answer it, you don't have to earn my Luis Aguilar: My love. Filthy P: Ever? Can they lose it? Can they lose it? Luis Aguilar: Ever. I don't I don't think they'll lose it. I think I I have faith in the way that we raise them, that they'll make the right choices, and if they don't make the right choices, they'll recover and learn and be better from it. but I mean anything's possible in this in this world, bro. This world is crazy. And Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: I hope I hope that they never lose they I don't think they ever will. I mean they I don't know what they would have to do for me to be like, you know what, I don't love you anymore, but I don't wanna find out and we'll leave it at that, bro. I mean I I don't I don't I don't want to entertain that ever. Filthy P: Right, right, yeah, yeah. Let's Luis Aguilar: But yeah, I mean Filthy P: not even go let's not even go down that that path, homeboy, all right? Yeah. Luis Aguilar: Yeah, yeah, yeah. Filthy P: Okay, well how about now? Let's let's let's turn it let's turn the tables. Let's let's get Laura involved to my spouse. I notice you when Luis Aguilar: I notice you when Something weighs heavy on your heart. Filthy P: You like explain. I think I know what you mean, but explain a little. Luis Aguilar: I I will say this. Lau Laura has taught me has helped has helped me become a better become a better person in society as far as Be more productive, maybe being more efficient, stuff like that. But with that, I've also learned that she is very, very independent, very strong. she will not ask for help. And then I I feel like if she she could be on fire and if I walk up to her and I'm like, Hey, what's going on? She'll be like, Nothing, nothing, I got it. Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: You know what I mean? And I'm like, Wait, I got a bucket of water right here. No, no, no, I got it. I'll figure it out. Like, you know. Filthy P: I got it. Yeah. It's it's not that bad. Luis Aguilar: So yes, exactly. So with that I I've started to also notice when she is stressed out about certain things, whether it's whether it's work, whether it's family, whether it's whatever. I mean I mean there's very there there's various things that that get to her and everything gets to her on a on a different level. So I'm just kinda like like I've I tend to notice certain things but I also tend to leave it leave it alone because I'm like, you know what? She's got it. But there have been some times where I know she doesn't have it emotionally mostly. So I do I do notice that. And Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: that's when I will I will step in and like, hey, like just, you know, let me let me know what's what's going on. and you know, usually I think when you voice certain things, it helps it like clear out on in your in your mind. Or it helps Filthy P: Yeah, yeah. Luis Aguilar: you know, I mean and I've and I've literally told her, I said I I said I have no problem listening. Filthy P: Yeah. Right, right. Luis Aguilar: I said I don't have to give you feedback. I don't have to give you my opinion. I don't have to give you know I just I will listen. Cause sometimes, yeah, you just need to voice it out, bro. You just need to like, you know? Yeah. Yeah. And I mean Filthy P: Yeah. Yeah. It feels good. It feels good to let it out. Yeah. Okay. that's cool. That's cool. Luis Aguilar: it I I I feel like with her with her attitude and with her personality, it's very difficult because I also think she might see it as like a sign of weakness that I'm I I I couldn't handle it. You know what I mean? And I kind of like, I don't know, like Filthy P: R right, right, right, right. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Right, right. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. And and sometimes sometimes Luis Aguilar: Like there's no judgment. I'm not looking down on you any less, like, hey, well w 'cause look at you coming over here. Let the man take care of you. Nah, come on. I'm not like that at all. So yeah. Just let her know that I notice. I notice when she needs Filthy P: everybody could use a little help. You know what I mean? It's doesn't it doesn't yeah, it doesn't mean you're weak. Yeah, it doesn't mean you're weak. Luis Aguilar: Bro, I need that like three times, four times a week. Yeah, there's times where I I need I just need a hug, bro. I need a hug. Like literally an an embrace. Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: Just drop my head, drop my ear on your shoulder and close my eyes, bro. Filthy P: Yeah, and it feels good. Luis Aguilar: That would help me out. If I could get a hug every night just cuz, like until I'm ready to go to sleep. Filthy P: But you get from your kids. I'm I'm sure you get from your kids every night for bed. A hug and a kiss. okay. We're where you're comforting them whereas it would be nice to Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay. That makes sense. Luis Aguilar: Yeah, but no no, but I'm saying like like like a comforting hug. For my kids, yeah, I'm comforting them, blah blah blah. But I'm like me, like like tell to tell Laura, hey, come here and let me just h let me just Filthy P: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Luis Aguilar: rest my ear on your shoulder until I'm Filthy P: Right, right, right. Luis Aguilar: ready to go to sleep. That'll never happen, bro. Filthy P: Yeah. that's cool you know what? Sometimes I get into bed and all of a sudden I just like I scoot next to her. I'm like, Just hold me, hold me. And she's looking at me like, What the fuck? All right. And then I f I'm like I feel safe. I feel comfortable. I feel like like I nothing can har Luis Aguilar: And I think Filthy P: nothing can harm me while I'm in your ar you know Luis Aguilar: Think 'cause they'cause they're females, bro. They're they're like that motherly instinct is just is just natural and I Filthy P: Yeah. Mm-hmm. Yeah. Luis Aguilar: think it you know, you you I I mean I don't know how you are, but yeah, but for sure, like you wanna be the big spoon for a little bit. Filthy P: I start I start sucking my thumb. Luis Aguilar: Yeah, bro. I I mean tr trust me bro, like I I could live easily fall asleep if she were to like hug me. I mean, it's not comfortable for her Filthy P: Yeah, I do. I do. Yeah, I do. But then I wa I w yeah, and then I wake up in like an hour I'm all sweating 'cause it's all hot, that body on body. But Luis Aguilar: Ha get off me woman. Filthy P: that but that first hour I'm just like, now this I feel this Luis Aguilar: Hell yeah. Filthy P: is life. All right, that's good, that's good. How about this one, Ug? yeah. Luis Aguilar: Hey, I think you just saying that is a is a s is a f is a form of affirmation. Filthy P: Saying what? about the being ho yeah, yeah, yeah. Luis Aguilar: Yeah, admitting that. I hey I don't need to I've never told that to anybody but you and and our and our fifteen thousand listeners. My bad. Filthy P: Yeah, it's good. Hey, it's good you're saying all this before we pop off, cause yeah, you don't want this kid. People at work to look at you sideways like, ugh, this fool fool needs to be hug fool needs to hug every every hour. We gotta send a supervisor out to hug him every hour. Luis Aguilar: Yeah. Look at this fool, dog. Mr. Hugger. Yeah. Yeah, what the hell? Filthy P: How about this one to your friend? No. No, no, no, no, no, no. We're going to your sibling. Our childhood was better because Luis Aguilar: Our childhood was better because I'm gonna speak this to to my sister Rosie and my sister Miga 'cause those are the ones I grew up with in the house. Miga not as Filthy P: Right, right. Luis Aguilar: much, but Ro Rosie for sure. to the to to those to those two sisters my childhood our childhood was better because they were a part of it and they did their absolute best with me. Considering their age and I guess our age difference. And then it goes across to the other to the other six. My child my childhood was better because they were a part of the ones that were a part of it because they they didn't treat me any different. They didn't, you know, they could have just like hey who's this stupid kid, but you know, they for the most part they were they were they were receptive to me. They were understanding of Like that's probably the same thing. The age difference. The age difference is huge. You know what I mean? It's not easy Filthy P: Yeah. Right, right. Luis Aguilar: to to to warm up to a little kid from your dad from you know, as you as you Filthy P: Yeah, I hate Yeah. Luis Aguilar: as you have kids his age or older. So so Filthy P: Right, right, right. Luis Aguilar: yeah, for that I'm I'm grateful for that. Yeah. Filthy P: For me, I only had one no, well now I have more, but I had one sibling growing up with. So that was my sister. I don't know. You always feel like but see, mine was different because me and my sister, although we were three years apart, that's still in the, you know, it's still in the ballpark. You know what I mean? So I always feel you don't you always feel like you're and kind of to your cousins too, but like your s your siblings, especially ones that you grew up with, like you always have that built-in kind of like partner in crime that really knows you because they grew up with you. So it's like they might not like you. You might annoy them. They might annoy you. But it's like they still kind of respect and understand. We all grew up together. We grew up in the same household. We knew how our parents were good or bad. The behind the scenes, yeah. So it's like like the like those Luis Aguilar: Behind the scenes. Yeah. Yeah. For sure. Filthy P: childhood stars that w did a show way back when it was shitty. It was bad. It was good. It was whatever. But then they look back now and they're like, Yeah, we're like brothers because of that. You know, I mean, we went through that together. So that's how I feel like towards my sister. Like I could talk to her every day or I could talk to her not till next year. But as soon as I start talking to her, it's just we're instantly gonna be right locked in because we have the same experiences, we have the same thoughts, we have the same you know, that that's I I saw your little built in crime partner that, you know, good and bad you're not gonna get rid of. I mean, you shouldn't, you know, whatever. But yeah, so I I appreciate my sister. Like, you know, we we Luis Aguilar: Yeah, yeah, yeah. Filthy P: we have shared experiences. okay, how about this? To to yourself. I it says to myself, but this is to yourself. You deserve credit for I think I know what you're gonna say, but try to say think of something different besides the kids. I mean, you did a good job, but there's gotta be more you gotta be proud of. Luis Aguilar: I deserve cr I I deserve credit for making it to forty six, bro. Think I should be here. mean I just don't I sh don't think I should be recording with you but I don't think I should be here because like I've told you before my my parents were old. My parents were not as active in my in my what's the word extracurricular activities. So they kinda let me kind of do whatever the hell I wanted, kinda roam around whenever I wanted, however I wanted. Obviously they set boundaries and limits and there I had, you know, curfews and stuff, but for the most part if the sun was out They didn't really care as long as I wasn't in jail or whatever. Filthy P: Right. Luis Aguilar: So, yeah, man, just coming up just coming up from that to being a a decent a decent adult. yeah, I'll take credit for that all day, every day. Yeah, yeah, for sure. Filthy P: Same for me. Like my first my first achievement or a real thing to put on my resume is obviously being a father to my kids. But secondly, yeah, I feel like I feel like overall, you know what I deserve credit for always like I always mean well. I might not have been I might not still be the best or Luis Aguilar: Ha ha. Filthy P: or I might not even be good, good at anything. Hey, but I mean well. I I do mean well. Like I don't mean I don't even mean bad. Luis Aguilar: I mean, hey, the the the thought it's the thought that counts. Filthy P: Yeah, and I don't even I I hear now, like I do talk a lot of shit to people. I even hear when I say some stuff to you on here. But it's like in the end, I don't mean I don't mean harm. I don't I do mean well. I am trying to like I want to make sometimes I actually go to bed the end of the night and I'm like, God, that was a little rude to whoever. I'm not even saying you to Luis Aguilar: Ha ha ha. Filthy P: other people are like, Man, that pri that joke probably went a little bit too far. I should have said that. But I'm always constantly thinking about that, like, man, that wasn't cool. And then the next time I see that person, I try to go out of my way to like make them feel extra, you know, like, Hey what's up man, how you doing? Ta da Yeah, 'cause I feel bad. I'm like, did I I I Luis Aguilar: Really? Hey that's a that's that's that's that's that's a stand up that's a stand up act right there. Filthy P: But you know what that might be? It's just that might be a a weakness, is that I just wanna please too much. I never like saying no. I never want I wanna please everybody. You know what I mean? So it's like, did I did I did I go too far? Luis Aguilar: No. Filthy P: Did I insult them? Did I make them feel bad? Did I I gotta make it up. Luis Aguilar: I I think it I think it's a weakness. It's a weakness if you if you are not true to yourself and you change who you are to accommodate to their n feelings or their needs. But if you're yourself and you're like, damn, you know what? Yeah, like maybe I crossed the line. Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: It's not a weakness, it's actually a strength to go and repair it. Or try to repair it. Yeah, 'cause I'm Filthy P: Yeah. Try to repair it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Luis Aguilar: there's a lot of people that are like, Man, that's their that's their problem. I I am the way I am because of me. Yeah. Filthy P: Yeah. See I never I never liked that. I never because it's like you're basically saying I'm an a-hole and it doesn't matter if I offend you, deal with it. Like, that's not cool. You Luis Aguilar: Yeah. Filthy P: don't we always want to become better, better people? all right. This is supposed to be the hot this is supposed to be Uncle's hot seat, not mine. Okay, Uncle, to your co host behind all the jokes, I respect you because do you want me to go for you or do you want to go for me? Luis Aguilar: I'll go for you, dog. Come on. this is my hot tea, homeboy. Why are you sitting on my lap? Filthy P: All right. Yeah, yeah, you're right. You're right, you're right. Luis Aguilar: I'm gonna tell you this, bro. When Filthy P: Sit it out of your lap? Luis Aguilar: when we when and this is coming from my this is coming from the heart. When we reconnected Filthy P: Reconnected. We had never connected, homie. We talk about when we were when we were ten? Luis Aguilar: my god. Yeah, fool, when we reconnected. Obviously I I obviously I I knew you I knew who you were from back in the day. Yeah, we weren't Filthy P: Yeah, yeah, true, true, true, true. what I only knew Albert. For Albert was cool as fuck. Yeah. Luis Aguilar: When we reconnected, when we reconnected, a lot a lot of things had changed, a lot a lot of a lot of time had passed. And like I've told you before, I was very hesitant to reach out to you and your sister. because yeah, a lot of time had passed. Filthy P: See, I didn't know that though. Luis Aguilar: So I I'm grateful that both of you guys have been receptive to me. I hope that it continues, I hope that it and nothing changes. obviously with you, bro. I mean I'm I'm I'm way closer to you than your sister, just 'cause we Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: I mean, we're constantly texting. I mean, Filthy P: Yeah, yeah, yeah. Luis Aguilar: obviously we have the show. We we do this every week. now we're bowling. So I Filthy P: Or rachos. Bol rachos. No, it's a B. That's a that's a B Luis Aguilar: to it. The Bo Rachel's dog. Shout out the Bo Rachels. Filthy P: in sign language. Luis Aguilar: damn, for you missed on my my train of thought. So Filthy P: Sorry, sorry, sorry. Luis Aguilar: so I will say this. I appreciate you. I I appreciate the the I appreciate the time that we hang out. I love hanging out. I love I love talking to you. We have a lot in common. I I it's it's shocking to me. Filthy P: yeah. Yeah, to me too. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. Luis Aguilar: How sometimes we will say the same thing at the same time. a lot of the reactions to certain things, the little quirks, the little the little the little oddities that only certain people would understand. Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: I'm grateful that our wives get along. Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: I'm grateful that, you know, we can hang out for an hour, we can hang out for six, we can, you know, and and there's really no no tension, no beef, no, no you know what I mean? Filthy P: Yeah, yeah. Smooth. It's easy. Easy. Luis Aguilar: I think we have similar attitudes where I think we're we're kinda passive, so it's kinda like it is what it is. Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: as far as a person, I respect you. I appreciate you. you're a you're an outstanding father, you're an outstanding husband to to Des. I think you guys are very you guys mesh very well. I I see you guys interact. Filthy P: yeah, for sure. Luis Aguilar: I see you guys do your little your in your gross little your gross little romantic side when no You think nobody's looking. Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: yeah, bro, and I mean it's it's just it's it's it's a good time. It it's I feel like I feel like it's it's it's only gonna get better, hopefully. Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: And yeah, man, I appreciate you. I I I I'm thankful that we reconnected. I'm thankful that we I mean to me, bro, it's shocking to to go some thirty years without talking and just to be able to just go back and forth like like we've been hanging out for years. You know what I mean? Filthy P: That's so weird. You know Luis Aguilar: Yeah, so so I I I appreciate that and I and I I will embrace it and cherish it. For sure. Filthy P: Thank you. I and I appreciate that. I feel the same way. So I'm not even going to go into it because I everything you say is the same. The only thing I want to touch on too is like I think what brought us is a sense of humor. Like even I noticed in bullyingly, we can just walk up, crack a joke, crack a joke about somebody on the on our team or another team or hey da da da. And we just both lock in and Luis Aguilar: Ha ha. Filthy P: we or we both see something and we both look at each other and just give that like, like we have the same sense of humor, and I think the same kind of stuff makes us funny and the same kind of stuff. It's pointed out to us. We notice. We're both looking at everything, catching, you know. So I think that's what helped. Cause I I don't I don't know. Why we just started drinking one day and it was like, this shit, this fool's funny, bro. I I remember the first the only thing I will say is that it's the same thing, it's the comedy, but I don't know. Something struck like where I went home and I told Desiree. I remember literally telling her either when we got home or on the drive home, that mu you know, no offense, but that motherfucker funny, bro. That fool is funny. Luis Aguilar: That's a compliment. Filthy P: Funny. I'm like, he was cracking me up. He was like, you're the only one I noticed that can come back with like quick stuff where it's just that I'm like, shit, I didn't even think of that. That's that's like you have a you have a certain way of thinking comically, which like I sometimes you say some stuff and I don't most people they say a joke, I'm like, Okay, I saw that coming. Like I I could see that was the next, you know, okay, it's kind of predictable. Luis Aguilar: Ha ha ha. Filthy P: But like you come with some shit and I'm just like I I wasn't expected that approach. So that's one thing I give the creativity. You're definitely you're creative and I think that kind of gets the what is it? Like the guards down 'cause you you seem so casual and funny and like you don't take anything too serious. 'Cause you know, you meet somebody Luis Aguilar: At Auburn. Filthy P: like I don't want to piss this person off. They seem mad or they seem I I just wanna keep it cool. But with you, you're just like, I don't give a fuck. Like you're you're having a good time. So I think I think that's Luis Aguilar: Yeah. Filthy P: what allowed us both to like, Hey, let's just let's just chill. So yeah, I don't I don't even feel like as if like it's a new relationship. Like I just feel like, hey, that's unk, bro. Like I can go up to you and tell you anything. I feel like you could do the same. So good answer, Unk. Good answer. All right, how about this? Let's put Luis Aguilar: Ban. Filthy P: you back on the not necessarily the happ that the hot seat, but but rapid fire. We haven't done that one in a while. Rapid fire for the unk. Okay, so these are supposed to be, shoot up. These are supposed to be quick. Who do you love dearly? But you always or immediately hit decline when they call. Maybe they just want to talk too much. You know it's gonna be a long talk, whatever. It's not necessarily about the person, but you always you hit that voicemail. Luis Aguilar: Who do I love dearly, but I always hit decline. There's there's nobody. I will say this. The the only time I will decline a hundred percent is at dinner time. Like we've had yeah, yeah, we have a rule where there's Filthy P: Okay. Yeah, and that and that's fair. Yeah, yeah, yeah. What you shouldn't. Luis Aguilar: there's no phones at the table. And there and I'll put my phone somewhere in the living room and then they're like, Your d your phone's going off. And I'll just go get it and I'll tell them hit the hit reject it. I'm not I'm not answering. I don't care who it is. I think the only the only people I will not decline at dinner is my mom and my sister Rosie. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, exactly. Yeah. Filthy P: Your mom. Yeah, 'cause it could be it could be something, right? Luis Aguilar: Them two, I like if it I I tell I say usually it's Nick the one that gets up. I'm like, hey, get up and and if it's grandma or Nina Rosie, like answer it, but if it's anybody else, decline it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, I'm like, I'm not yeah. But other Filthy P: Okay, yeah. Hit that decline on that fool. Okay. Luis Aguilar: than that, I if I can answer, I will answer. Yeah, yeah. Filthy P: Finish the affirmation to your parent or parents. I mean you can this could be to your dad you know, I know he's gone, but it could you could still, you know, send him affirmations. I am so lucky that you always Luis Aguilar: this is for actually for both of I'm so lucky that they always pushed through and never gave up. Filthy P: Like you always have kind of said, I mean, I know this is yours and it's quickie, but it like it feel I feel like you've always kinda like said though that you appreciate like especially for your dad like they take care of business. Your dad, you don't know how he got stuff done. You said he was teaching you to drive at seventy or like I don't even know if I'll be able to walk at seventy, let alone drive. So I I feel like you always Luis Aguilar: Exactly. Imagine? Filthy P: you appreciate that like they're that old school that they just kept plowing ahead no matter what and Luis Aguilar: Uh-huh. Filthy P: You know, you obviously that rubbed out rubbed off on you. So that's what I always take as when you're talking about them. Luis Aguilar: Like I can't yeah. Se seventy five, bro, he's teaching me how to drive. Seventy five. That's crazy, bro. I taught Filthy P: Right, right. So that I mean that that's that's insane. That's you know, that's crazy. Yeah, that's crazy. Luis Aguilar: Cass when I was I think forty one. About five years ago. Right? Yeah, 'cause she's been driving about five years. Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: And I'm like Yeah, but yeah, a hundred percent that they never gave up and they they pushed through. Yeah. Filthy P: Okay, perfect. finish this. no no, sorry, we did that. What compliment from your spouse would instantly make you suspicious? Luis Aguilar: What compliment from my spouse made me suspicious? I think it's more of a like a like a term of endearment, like a hey sexy man or something and I'll be like, What the hell's wrong with you? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. Filthy P: Yeah. That yep. Yep. Yep. Yep. Why? Because that's just out of the normal how you're like probably thinking like, all right, what do you want? Luis Aguilar: Yeah, like I'll be like, Why, whoa, this isn't this is out of the norm, like what's going on? You Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: know, especially if it's like like during the middle of the day or something, like, hey, whoa. No. Hey yeah. Filthy P: yeah, yeah, yeah. Dirty D will do that, but I know what she wants. And you know what she wants. But it's like I can't always give it to her, you know what I mean? It's like, bro, I'm a I'm I'm a man, not a machine, you know what I mean? Luis Aguilar: Pret a pretzel from the bowling alley? Filthy P: Hey, my son I gave him that last week. He was like, that was great. I'm no, bro, they're microwave, it's trash. But you know what? You dip it, bro. You can go get your thumb and dip it in that nacho cheese and I'll suck that sucker dry. Luis Aguilar: Wait, he liked it? Filthy P: Yeah, he liked it. He said that was a great that was a great pretzel. I said that was the worst pretzel Luis Aguilar: Bro, maybe you know what? I will say this. It maybe it depends on who's cooking it. Did you have it? Filthy P: Well, you know, okay, I will s no, I had a little piece, but I will say this. It's gotten a lot better. When you guys had it and then I had it, that shit tastes like rubber, bro. I like, it's Chuck. Chuck and my or no baby was Chuck. Luis Aguilar: No, I've never had it. It was Chuck. Yeah, I will never I will not get a press at the bowling alley. Filthy P: No, it's getting a lot better. Even the pizza has gotten better. I used to hate the pizza, and now I'm like, Yeah, that pizza's starting to pop, bro. There's just too much too much crust. Yeah, the crust is like that. I'm gonna have a talk with the manager. All right, Uncle, come on, bro. Say Luis Aguilar: It's not bad, it just has like four inches of crust. Yeah. From a doctor of magnets. Filthy P: Saying pizza time, brother, same borracho time. Who dessert Luis Aguilar: Yeah, my bad. Filthy P: who deserves and I appreciate you most do you think in your life? Luis Aguilar: for sure, my sister Rosie. I Filthy P: Why? Luis Aguilar: I know a million percent that she doesn't hear it enough. not from me. Definitely not from my mom. not from my sister Amiga. I just I don't know. I I feel like I feel like she just took this role. Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: Especially with my parents, And she took it at a younger age 'cause she's always been that that one that had to fill out paperwork when she was little and always, you know, I think the the I think I think I'm not a religious man. And if I was, I would say that God put her in my parents' life for that reason. To take that role and not even as a as as a I mean, yes, at at a certain point as a kid because she was I mean, filling out the paperwork doing by translating for them, Filthy P: That's a lot on a kid. Luis Aguilar: Yeah, and then and then I mean got herself through school, through college, got out, and then in their older years got them situated with their finances, got them situated with their medical I mean, you name it, bro, like she's on it. And and I I've said this Filthy P: Yeah, damn. Yeah. Luis Aguilar: before and I'll say it again. Like she I know for a fact that she got my dad to his age. By just her her effort and her willingness to take take take charge of their situation. And Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: dealing with my mom, the same thing. I mean, she's and she never she never complains, at least not to me. I'm sure Adam's heard it. I'm sure she's she's thought it. And Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: I for sure know that she has not gotten enough and an enough I appreciate use from all the party all the parties involved. Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: But yeah, I mean I I I will forever be in debt for her and just for everything she's done for my parents, bro. And and even me, my kids, but especially my parents. Filthy P: Isn't it sad though? Like some people like that. They just they do so much and then you kinda just you kind of expect you just take it for granted 'cause it's like, well, I know I know they're gonna do it. They're gonna take care of it, they're gonna and they they're so good at it that you kinda do forget that, like, it is still hard work, it is still a lot, it is still like you still gotta give their praise, you know what mean? Like, but yeah, your sister just seems like that. She just seems like like she's gonna take care of whatever. Yeah. Luis Aguilar: yeah, for sure. Yeah. Yeah, I'm just like like I'm so lost. I took I took my mom to an appointment like once or the last time I think and they're like, do you have her her medical number? I'm like, yeah, hold on. And I'm like texting my sister, Where's her medical number? And she's like, check the bag on her walker. It's like blah blah blah. It's in the red can blah blah blah. I'm like, here you go. You know what I mean? And just the fact that Filthy P: Yeah. Some yeah. Luis Aguilar: Through a text, she can tell me where it's at and I'm there in person? It's it's crazy Filthy P: Some people are just good at that though. Luis Aguilar: to me, dude. Filthy P: Some people are just like that. They're just they're Luis Aguilar: Yeah. Filthy P: natural. It's kind of like being a natural leader or a natural you what I It's just like I I know how to I know it. Yeah. That's that yeah. Yeah. And it's not that's yeah. Luis Aguilar: Those the org the organization skills are out of this world. Filthy P: And that's a big like it's not just a little thing. People, yeah, they're yeah, a big deal. Like that's not that hard. No, it is. It's a major thing, but all right, let's move on. What's the well we already You already said the nice thing about your submate, so we'll move on from that. Which friend would you call? Say, remember we were talking, was it last week where you got all buzzed up? You were at Mabel's, of course, you you took the F Luis Aguilar: Parting. Filthy P: nine F nine fifty out. You're like, I'm driving home. Luis Aguilar: Ha ha. Filthy P: So you run over somebody. Luis Aguilar: Whoa. Filthy P: Who do you call instantly? Because of course, you you know, this is bad uncle, this evil unc. This is this is a different What is it? A different like the a different universe, a different Marvel verse. This is badunk. This is the badunk that make every 380 that makes every wrong Luis Aguilar: Earth, Earth, six one six. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. Filthy P: decision. So who are you gonna call? It's like, shit, I need to bury this body. We need to do something or or maybe not bury this body, but I gotta figure this out. Who the hell am I gonna put on speed out? Who are you gonna call to help bail you out? Luis Aguilar: You know that I've played the scenario out in my head and for the most for the most part I'm I'm gonna try to do it by myself because I don't want Filthy P: No Luis Aguilar: I don't wanna get people involved, but Filthy P: Well Vic. Luis Aguilar: But yeah, it's probably Victor or Jaime or both. Filthy P: Yeah, yeah, yeah. And and they were both in the military, right? So they probably know a little like yeah we Luis Aguilar: Everybody know some moves, some how to dig a six foot hole. Filthy P: We can hike into the in the we can hike in the middle of Angeles Forest. Yeah, he'll have a little foldable foldable shovel or something, you know what I mean? Like Luis Aguilar: Yeah, you have a cot, just carry him in a cot. Filthy P: Yeah. Him? What if it was a her? you better go the cops if it was a her. Okay. Okay, cool. Good, good. That's the right answer. Okay. Luis Aguilar: Nah, it's always gonna be a him dog. I'm not killing any women. I'm not running over any women. I will run into the wash before that happens. Filthy P: What do you or no, what do your kids deserve an apology for? And these are just kind of like a couple examples. Your temper, you know, maybe you dancing when you weren't supposed to, embarrassing them, fashion picking them up and you're over there wearing your little cut off jeans. Like, is there anything that your kids your kids deserve an apology for? It doesn't have to be that serious. It could be, you know, funny. Luis Aguilar: I don't want to get into detail. I f I've I I guarantee you all three of them have stories. Sadly they have the memory of a freaking elephant. Filthy P: Me? Luis Aguilar: Cause they don't forget they don't forget a lot of stuff. Yeah, they don't forget. They don't have the memory of a sloth. That's that's that's when you're yeah, they Filthy P: they don't forget. Yeah, yeah, yeah. ki kids are crazy like that. Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah. That's me. Luis Aguilar: have a memory of an elephant. so I will say this. what? So so Filthy P: No, I was saying that's me. Yeah, yeah. Luis Aguilar: I will say that they deserve an apology. Especially okay, I'll I'll go in errors. Cast deserves an apology. Because I was a parent at a young age and I was very I was very immature at that point. as far as Nick and Natalia, they deserve an apology because I I don't think I don't think I I've I've put my best foot forward a hundred percent of the time. And I think There's there's there's been a lot of temper, a lot of anger, a lot of Short fuse on my end. Especially before I went to therapy. Like with Nick, where I think there was a couple of times where I yelled at him like my dad would yell at me and and at the at the time I I justified it because I was like, Well, I got I got yelled at worse. At least I didn't call him this or call him that. And it's like, wait a minute, like he didn't Yeah, you know what I mean? And Filthy P: Yeah. Yeah, I didn't slap Yeah. Luis Aguilar: I'm like, Yeah. So after I think the after I got I I went to therapy, I I yelled at him once and I was like, you know what? and I apologize and Whatever. But like I said, all three of have stuff that they're for sure not gonna forget. and I mean I think I think at the end of the day, I'm human. I I've lost my cool. I've lost my temper. I've I've I haven't acted to the best of my ability, I guess, or capability. So they they they they have that stuff, bro. And I mean, like I said, I'm not I'm not a I'm not a bad man. I've never beat them or Or or or done bad things to them. But I do think that they will remember, like, damn it, like I remember my dad yelling at me because I remember stuff like that. I remember my Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: dad telling me things and I'm like, you know what? Like, like I'm not gonna tell my kids that. And then when I when I when I saw me yelling Filthy P: Then you do it. Luis Aguilar: at yeah, Nick, and I'm like, hey, I I think I said something like I know for a fact to Cass. I I think I don't remember what she did, and I told her, I said, What's wrong with you? And she started crying, What do you mean? There's why would something be wrong with me? And I felt so bad. And with Nick, I remember the same thing. I was like, I don't why can't you do and he looked at him and he started crying and he'd why and he like started trying to do what what I was telling him. And I said, You know what? Go inside and I started doing whatever. And then I went and I apologized. I You know what? I said I said, I'm sorry, I I shouldn't have said that. I said, You know what? I I feel really bad and and that's very hurtful. I I should have I should have been I sh I I instead of yelling at you, I should have shown I should have shown you how to do it. And that's the difference. That's the difference Filthy P: Right, right, right, right. Luis Aguilar: between yelling at somebody for not knowing how to do it and then showing There's a Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: reason they don't know how to do it. That doesn't mean, you know, they're bad people. It's just, you know, show them and and then it let them learn. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Filthy P: Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, yeah. They're not Yeah. Yeah. I I haven't really yelled at for like that kind of stuff 'cause I know what you're talking about. I used to get upset too like when you're trying to they should know how to do it, but it's like no ha they should know how to do it. But I used to yell I mean I still have. I've done it probably within the last year where I yelled and I just I lose my temper. I have a like where I just get mad and I just start you know, normally I can temper myself 'cause it's my kids. It's like I know I'm not gonna cuss it and what the fu I'm not gonna do any that. But it's like I still Luis Aguilar: Yeah, yeah, yeah. Filthy P: am like losing my temper and I have apologized to them, probably all of them. I just I think I apologized to my son. Babe, what did I apologize to Taylor for? Like last just recently, like when he was still here. yeah, yeah, yeah. It was like we were having a party and I asked him to pick up the poop and he kept mate he was just making and I just I lost it and I the only reason I apologize 'cause I I still think I was justified to get mad, but just I shouldn't have done it in front of everybody. I embarrassed them and all the kids were here and it just I should have pulled him aside and like hey I you know, yeah, there's a better way to handle it. So I I went apologize for that. But even then I remember apologizing when I was kinda like my head down like, Hey man. I'm sorry, bro. So like it's it's Luis Aguilar: Ha ha ha ha ha Filthy P: still hard for me. It's still hard for me. Even with my kids, like where it should be you should have no reservation with your kids. You should be able to say whatever you want. I remember I was still a little like, sorry, man, I didn't mean to, you know what I mean? But I've done that same thing. I think you're around them so much and you expect the best for them. And so sometimes when they don't, it's kinda like you're just frustrated, you're upset at yourself, you're upset at them and you just let it ha you but that's not the way by yelling and and embarrassing them and making them feel small isn't the way to you know. So yeah, I I we I think we've all been there. But but you're right. Can we go and apologize? Can we go and hey, I was wrong. I was out of line. I should have you I shouldn't Luis Aguilar: Yeah, it's it's hard. Filthy P: have done that. Yeah, it's really hard. So but yeah I've done that. I've done that that exactly like you have. Luis Aguilar: Well kinda like how you said, like when you when you when you cross the line with certain people and you go and you try to like fix it, you know that's hard. That's that's difficult. Yeah. It's like I I Filthy P: Yeah. It's hard. It's really hard, yeah. Yeah. Luis Aguilar: had a I had a barber. aka the cuddler. I don't think he watches but but if you that was his nickname, the cuddler. Filthy P: Fu what kind of barber is this? The cuddler. It sounds like a villain. Luis Aguilar: That was just that was just his he had a he was not he was not a great guy. I'm not gonna say who he is, but he was not a good guy. He used to he he was married and he used to go to Hawaii Filthy P: Damn. it was Luis Aguilar: every year for the Pro Bowl. Filthy P: Okay. Luis Aguilar: And I said, The Pro Bowl? Who the I guess who the hell goes to Hawaii for the Pro Bowl? Filthy P: Yeah, who cares about the Pro Bowl? Luis Aguilar: He goes, I go, blah, blah, blah. Right? Whatever. Well, once we got comfortable and I started going to him. He used to go there because he had a he had a side piece over there. So he would Filthy P: shoot. Luis Aguilar: go for the promo, but he was going for other other things, right? Anyways, so Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: he had kids with his wife. And the kid must have been like 13, I think, 13, 14. And he would have him come to the shop to clean up to sweep. And then he would give him money, right? And Filthy P: Yeah. Yeah. Luis Aguilar: one day I was getting my haircut, and I don't know what the kid did. He must have like spilled a drink or something and he kept on sweeping over it. So I guess it had like hair. And bro, he laid into him like verbally. He was calling him like an idiot. And you don't have common sense. And I'm sitting there like in the Filthy P: In front of all you guys? Damn. Luis Aguilar: middle of the barbershop, bro. And it's crazy because his dad was the owner. So it was the dad, and then the son, and then the grandson of the owner was sweeping, right? Filthy P: and the grandson, okay. Yeah. Luis Aguilar: And he's like, he goes, you bah bah ba and I'm sitting there and I was and he goes he goes, you know what? And he goes, No. He goes, in life, the the best punishment is embarrassment. And I was like, okay. And at that point I only had cast. I was I was single. So I was like, I only had cast. I was like, I said, all right. He goes, No, he goes, Yeah. He goes, if you want these kids to remember these these these these life lessons, you gotta embarrass them. Filthy P: I mean that's true, they will remember, but humiliating them, humiliating them and Yeah. Luis Aguilar: Or else they're never gonna remember. I like Yeah, but the come on, like come on, bro. So yeah. I ended up I ended up not going to him anymore. I was like I was done after like he he kinda did me dirty. But yeah. Filthy P: Man, what kind of barbers are you going to? But hey, but imagine if he's doing that to the kid in front of everybody, imagine behind closed doors how crazy he is. You know Luis Aguilar: Yeah. Filthy P: what I mean? Like, that's not right. Okay. Luis Aguilar: Yeah. Filthy P: where are we at? Who's how about this? Who's more romantic? sorry. What's more ro what's Luis Aguilar: I don't think what? Filthy P: what's more romantic? You're talking to Laura saying you are sexy? Like you walk up, you're like, Hey, what's up, baby? Hey, you're looking good today or Hey girl, guess what? I just cleaned the kitchen for you. Luis Aguilar: I cleaned what? Filthy P: I clean the kitchen for you. Luis Aguilar: What's more romantic to me is hey girl, what's cracking? Let's Filthy P: Mm. Luis Aguilar: let's go let's go do the thing and the thing. I mean to me Filthy P: What would be more romantic to her? Yeah. Luis Aguilar: if I clean the kitchen I mean that's kind of well like if I deep clean the kitchen, 'cause we I mean we clean the kitchen every day. So I mean it's usually me hitting the counter the stove and stuff and the k the kids are doing the dishes. Yeah, it's like an assembly line in there, Filthy P: so you already do all that. 'cause Laura's not there, huh? Luis Aguilar: bro. Filthy P: 'Cause she's not there, huh? Luis Aguilar: No, she's there. But but Filthy P: she is there? Luis Aguilar: because she cooks, she's not a she you know, we don't have her we don't have her we don't have her clean. Filthy P: shit, see see Desiree I think likes it. She's like, This is my muffin kitch. She's Luis Aguilar: Ha ha ha ha. Filthy P: like, this is my motherfucking shit out of the kitchen, bitch. And I'm like, sh Luis Aguilar: This is my sexiness. Filthy P: I'm like, shit. But then I get mad at her because she the way she cleans it, she just puts everything away and I never know where it's at. I'm like, Hey, where happened to my thing? It was right here on the counter. She's like, I don't know, you shouldn't shit. No, no. It's like a Luis Aguilar: What happened to that dirty dish I left? Why is it not here? Filthy P: mail or she's like, Don't leave your shit laying around and then she throws it at me. But anyways, all right, let's move on. Luis Aguilar: Where's that Allen wrench I left on the counter? Filthy P: This is supposed be affirmations about love. Yeah, where's the Allen wrench that fits? All right. I need a seven sixteenths. All right. Uncle. Uncle, Luis Aguilar: Whoa snap. It's a big Allen wrench. Filthy P: which one is a better compliment for you? You are a sexy father. no, no. You're a great father. Or damn, Unc, you're looking good these days. What's up? You got that new haircut? You finally replaced that barber, that racist barber, or that mean Luis Aguilar: The cuddler? Filthy P: barber, the cuddler? Which would you rather hear? Luis Aguilar: It's gotta be with the kids, bro. Filthy P: No, come on, but you hear that all the time. That's like that's just like cr Luis Aguilar: No, I don't. Filthy P: that's like crossing the street. Who gives a crap at this point? Don't you wanna hear I f sexy He's sexy and he knows it. Luis Aguilar: I hear I hear sexy I hear damn monk you looking sexy all the time. I can't go to the liquor store. I can't go to Ralph's. Filthy P: Ralph, who goes to Ralph's bro? Ralphs, you gotta go to Vaughn's. Luis Aguilar: Ralphs. Ralphs. I can't go to Mabel's? Filthy P: Vaughn yeah. Is Mabel still running, bro? I mean I might need to make a run back in there a little visit. Luis Aguilar: Yeah bro, I pull up in a in the F nine fifty dog. Shh, come on. Turning heads, homeboy. Filthy P: Hey, they used to have good light music in Mabel's bro, and then darts we'd be in there. I'd be throwing bullseyes, bro, Hawkeye. But anyways, all right, wh which one do you prefer? you prefer the great father. You know what? I would rather, because Luis Aguilar: Yeah, I'll I'll take great father every day. Filthy P: I feel like great father, it's like now, okay, let me let me let me just real quick 'cause we're running low on time. Back in the day when I feel like there weren't a lot of great fathers, or just it wasn't known what is a great father. So it was like if you found if you had a great father, it's like, damn, that's far few and far between. Most dads have other kids or don't want their kids or whatever. But nowadays I feel like now it's like more common to have a good father and then you're like, shit, that's a bad father. That's kind of rare these days. So for me, yeah, Luis Aguilar: You think so? Filthy P: like there's a I saying there's a lot more good fathers than bad. Whereas before I think it was lot more bad fathers than good. Or maybe what maybe I shouldn't say bad and good. It was just I think the priorities of fathers were different back then. Luis Aguilar: think they were non existent. Filthy P: Well, it was like go to work. Hey, here's I'm providing for the for my family. Luis Aguilar: Yeah, here's the money. Filthy P: My my job is done. I I I'm gonna go watch TV, put my hand in my pants and watch TV and chill out on the couch. But nowadays it's like, nah, hey, fatherhood is a full time job, homie. So for me, I'd rather, you know, be walking down the street and hear like, shit, I just cracked that. I just Luis Aguilar: Cat call, cat call. Filthy P: I just cracked that grandma's neck. That grandma wants some action. You know what I mean? So I'd rather hear that now because like yeah you know, good father, Dima doesn't. All right, Uncle, how about this? What's one thing That your kids think you're good at or great at. They're like, Dad, you're the best at this. And really, you're completely faking it. You're like, My kids think I'm great. And I'll tell this for me. Luis Aguilar: Think in j it I think in general it would probably be repairing stuff, like problem solving, Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: repairing stuff. The this happened on ac this actually happened on Labor Day, right? Filthy P: this past? Sept yeah, yeah. Okay. Luis Aguilar: Yeah, yeah, yeah. This couple what, a month ago, two months ago? Filthy P: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Luis Aguilar: So we we had Laura's family over and I I think we made ri ribs? Filthy P: shoot. Luis Aguilar: I don't remember what I don't it doesn't matter when we made obviously. You know, whatever. So everybody Filthy P: Okay. I'm getting hungry though. Luis Aguilar: leaves. It's po it's about ten o'clock, eleven o'clock. I've I've been drinking since like four. So we're cleaning up. No, four PM. So I got about six hours of drinking. Filthy P: Four AM or PM? four PM and now everyone's leaving. Okay, gotcha. Yeah. Luis Aguilar: You know, I'm feeling good. I'm I'm I'm I'm I'm relaxed. And then I think Nick comes out. I was outside taking Filthy P: Really? Luis Aguilar: off the trash. And he comes out and he goes, Dad The the garbage disposal doesn't work. Filthy P: Damn it. Luis Aguilar: I was like, all right, cool. Let me go over there. So I hit the I hit the switch and nothing. Turns out that the the Yeah, I'm hitting it and doing nothing. Filthy P: Wait, no power or nothing? You're just hitting it, it's just nothing? Okay. Luis Aguilar: I was like, God. And the sink is like halfway full with water, because I guess Castle's doing dishes. I was like, man. And I'm granted I'm I'm a little buzzed, right? Filthy P: Worse by the minute. Yeah. Luis Aguilar: So I walk over to the my little drawer and I get the little the little Allen wrench for the disposal. It c it comes with Filthy P: Wait, what is Luis Aguilar: a d I don't know if you know this, but your disposal comes with an Allen wrench. Filthy P: Where though on the underneath on the bottom are you supposed to do s Luis Aguilar: No, when you buy it. Filthy P: but I mean where do you s w Allen wrench to stick where? Luis Aguilar: I keep it in my drawer. Filthy P: But what are what are you like what are you tightening or loosening? Yeah, yeah. Luis Aguilar: Okay, so okay, so life hack, right? Is boom. On on the bottom of the disposal, there's a little opening. All you do is you put Filthy P: Okay. I've seen that, yeah. Luis Aguilar: that Allen wrench in and you turn it. So the blade gets stuck or whatever, right? So yeah, so once Filthy P: it gets jammed up. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Luis Aguilar: you do it, you dislodge whatever's there. Filthy P: Right, right, right, right. Luis Aguilar: And then they're like and then I hit it, I tell hey, hit it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Filthy P: Hit that shit or like a Luis Aguilar: And then I I I'll d I remember a hundred percent. When I got up, Nick Nick goes, Man, we'd be cooked if if it wasn't for this guy. Filthy P: Cause he's a real American hero. He thus a yo right. You take your shirt off? You took your shirt off, right? Luis Aguilar: Yeah dog and I'm like I'm flexing like yeah dog was cracking. I put the Allen wrench back and they kept on doing their thing. Bro, like I that's just something that I learned maybe like twenty years ago. Filthy P: Right, but it looks like magic. Yeah, yeah. But it looks like a magic trick. Luis Aguilar: Yeah, to them it's like, this guy's a freaking G. Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: You know what I mean? And as they get older, I will explain it to them. Boom, boom, boom, like Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: I just told you right now, blah, blah, blah. I mean, there there's so many things, bro, that once you figure out what it needs to do and it's not doing, you'll figure it out. What it's not doing and what it needs to do, then you'll figure it out, bro. That's just life. It's crazy. Filthy P: The only thing though, the only thing I'm gonna take a little what's the word? Umbrage, I think is that the word? I don't know where that this word popped in my head, but where I'm gonna take a little exception to your talk is that, bro, if it's a garbage disposal, you wanna know how I was taught, how real men handle it, you turn that sucker on, Luis Aguilar: Stick your hand in there or what? Filthy P: you turn that sucker on, and so even if it's not clicking, sometimes you'll just hear the like it wants to turn, but it can't because it's stuck. You turn that sucker on. And you go in there with your hand, homie, and you start prying stuff until it you feel it start to turn and you whip out real quick and it vroom and it turns. That's called rushing roulette with your fingers, homie. Luckily, look at I got all five. I got Luis Aguilar: Ha ha with your hand? Kick back, it could be like scary movie. Take my good hand, take my good hand. Filthy P: I got all five, but no, no, I I I but you're right. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Right. It's little things like that. Yeah. So like today, my my mom has been asking me since last week. And I keep going over there and I go over there to do it, but then I forget and I don't do it. But she's been asking me to fix one of her toilets. She's like, it keeps running. It just runs all night. My water bill is up to seventy dollars last last last month. So you need to come and I'm like, hey, hey, you know, this is what I do, girl. You know what I mean? Like I ain't a I ain't officially a plumber, but I'll get the job done. You know what I mean? Like, sh Luis Aguilar: But I can lay some pipe. Filthy P: show me that shit. Talking to my mom. I'm like, let me see that. yeah, yeah. Pipe fitter. Yeah, yeah. I'm like, let me get I'm like, Luis Aguilar: No food, I mean in general. Why what come on bro. Filthy P: hey, let me let me see this damn toilet, bro. Let me see this toilet. Let me see what I'm working with. Here I go in there, examine, or I'm like, hey, here's what we're looking at. I'm like, here's gonna be your cost. Luckily, you gave birth to me and you helped me out. So it's free on the house. You know, you're lucky. Luis Aguilar: On the house. This one's on me. Filthy P: But I just changed out I changed out the little her little flapper was like all starting to disintegrate Luis Aguilar: Yeah, everything. Filthy P: and then I changed out the pole. Actually, I changed out everything except for the like there's like a little grom Luis Aguilar: The handle. Filthy P: a little no, like where the the big part sits on the actual toilet seat and there's like a rubber, almost like a grommet or something, and that's starting to go away. Yeah, Luis Aguilar: yeah, the can yeah, yeah, yeah, no, yeah. Filthy P: so I'm gonna have to change that out, but that's gonna be more major. But for right now, I just changed out the pole. Luis Aguilar: But you change it when it leaks and you don't e is it leaking? Nah, you gotta change that. You re you basically Filthy P: No, it's not leaking, but I just saw that. But I'm just saying I yeah, so I didn't I didn't change it. But I changed the l Luis Aguilar: gave it a tunum, that's another like twenty years of life. Filthy P: Yeah, you're right. I just gave the new pole, right? So I put that pole Luis Aguilar: Yeah. Filthy P: in there, put the little attach the little thing so the water goes in there, adjust it so that test it a couple times, and I walk out. Yeah, there was a little water everywhere 'cause I'm trying to I was trying to take the water. Yeah, unplug the one Luis Aguilar: Ha ha ha. Filthy P: thing. So I'm like, I need towels, towels, sad desert is running around. Okay, all right. But Luis Aguilar: Let me ask you this. Filthy P: g but bro, it was fixed. I fixed it. I walked Luis Aguilar: Yeah yeah. Filthy P: out, I handed her the bill, gave her a hug, and I and I walked out. No, the bill was free, but anyways, but okay Luis Aguilar: The bill the bill said hug me. Open it. Hug me. Filthy P: Well no no. The bill was the bill was sh she made d she made she made dinner for us, so she we had chicken salad, so it was good. But anyway, what do you say? Sorry, go ahead. Luis Aguilar: Let me let me ask you this. Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: After you fix it, did she say, Man, we'd be cooked if it wasn't for this guy. Filthy P: No, she she said something like that. She said you're a real hero. And she picked me up on her shoulders. And then her and Desiree, they hit they Luis Aguilar: Ran around the living room? Filthy P: they walk me out to the car like that. I was on their shoulders. Like Rudy. Like Rudy. Remember when Luis Aguilar: Ha Filthy P: he got carried off the field? That was me, brother. And they don't know that every every man in the on earth should know how to just change a toilet setting or whatever that shit is. Luis Aguilar: Hey, what w hey, what does happy say? Filthy P: Happy Gilmore? Luis Aguilar: No, remember John Favreau in Rudy? Who's dad? Who's d Filthy P: Who's the one? He's pointing out. Luis Aguilar: Ha. Hey, that's a that's a that's a Cinderella story right there, man. Come on. Filthy P: Hey, that's a great movie. Hey, and but then as I was flushing it, it was like running a little long and I'm like, no, don't tell me I didn't fit like if it if this doesn't fix it, I don't know what it is. And then luckily you hear that and it just stops. And it's like No, like it stops running. I'm like, I got it, I got it. I walked out Luis Aguilar: Yeah dog. You got the Filthy P: bro, I walked out like like Thanos, bro, after I had the the rings, I was like, Who el Who Luis Aguilar: Hell yeah. Like you just snapped your fingers, huh? Filthy P: next? Yeah. Who next? But yeah, so Luis Aguilar: Hell yeah. Filthy P: I yeah, I've I have felt that too. All right. Uncle, bro bro, we're already at an hour. Come on, bro. We gotta get out of here, bro. I gotta work in the morning. Luis Aguilar: Hey, but there was like a seven minute delay, bro. Come on. Filthy P: I'm hoping. But you know how we end it, brother. We always end it. Well, of course we got my outro, but we gotta give you your outro, right? So Uncle knows best. I got two questions for you. Kind of sum up the whole show. And let's see how you answer. Let's see if Uncle takes us home Luis Aguilar: Right. Filthy P: the right way. Uncle, how do you tell somebody that they mean what they mean to you without making it like a huge old speech, you know what I mean? Like and I'm not talking about like the easy conversation. I'm talking about that hard one. Like, should you just be able to go up to your mom and, hey mom, I love you. I appreciate everything you've done. Or is it not so easy? And do you have to kinda beat around the bush? Do you kind of have to, you know what I mean? Like how do you go and do it when when you need to tell somebody who deserves to hear it, you know, what they mean to you? Short to the point or let have it. Luis Aguilar: I think it's like ripping off a band aid, bro. You gotta just do it. I think I think think simple simple is easier. obviously if you go complex it's is is difficult. I think so I think the hard the hardest part the h okay. F step one is is is actually wanting to do it. Step two is doing it. Filthy P: Right. Right. Luis Aguilar: that's the hardest part because If you've never done it, it's emotional, it's a roller coaster. You what are they gonna say? What if they reject me? What if they laugh? What if they you know, there's a lot of there's a lot of stuff that go into it. But if it's Filthy P: Right. Luis Aguilar: somebody that you that you want to let them know, I think just simple, man, just let know. Like, hey, like, I don't know if I've ever said this, but I love you. I don't know if I've ever said this, but I'm proud of you. I mean you gotta you gotta go back to the first time you ever heard any of those compliments Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: and how did it how did it make you feel? Filthy P: Do you feel like we have to do it? So like, okay, so how you said it, you gotta just rip the bandit, you gotta go just do it. If that's what you feel, say it. So like, okay, for me, family, mom, sister, Desiree, like those are the people who I should be saying it to. Is this do I so do I have to say it like once a year? Once a week? Can I just say it once? Luis Aguilar: You say it when you feel it, homeboy. Filthy P: Like, is this gonna be an everyday thing? Like what like how do you know Luis Aguilar: Let me ask you this. Filthy P: how do you know how much to say it or not say it, I guess? Luis Aguilar: You you y once you once you open that door, you know that Filthy P: Pandora's box? Luis Aguilar: you know that you know that the door is never on is is never locked. Filthy P: it's always open. Luis Aguilar: How how often do you tell your kids? Every chance. Filthy P: Every well, now not that much, but every every every Luis Aguilar: No, every chance you get Filthy P: night I well you know. Every time we end a conversation it's always I love you. I miss you. I miss you dad. I miss you Luis Aguilar: Yeah. Yeah. Filthy P: girls. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay. Luis Aguilar: I I tell my kids I love them every single day of my life. Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: It's it's not it's something I never had. Filthy P: Right. Luis Aguilar: But once once I had it with my kids, I I I I don't I don't ever want it to end. And a little part Filthy P: couldn't stop it. Yeah, you don't want it to stop Luis Aguilar: a little part of me was like, Why didn't I have this? What like what did I do? Like, what did Filthy P: Yeah, yeah. Luis Aguilar: I do that my my parents didn't tell me? I don't know. That that's something I will never know. But Filthy P: Right, right. Well, but it's always it's not you, it was more their issues that they were how they were how they were brought up, how they were do yeah, yeah. Luis Aguilar: Yeah, I don't I have no idea. Yeah, I have no idea. Only they can answer that and we'll have them on our next show. No. I Filthy P: Ha ha. Luis Aguilar: I that's something I will never know and and and and I have to be okay with it. Filthy P: Right. Right. Luis Aguilar: But like I said, I have my kids and I love them. I tell them every chance I get. There's Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: like Natalia bro is the only one that will still come and lay with me and she'll just hug me and kiss my cheek and tell me she loves me in my ear. Like Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: like I live for that, bro. Because I know it's gonna be gone soon. You know what I mean? Filthy P: Right. Right, right, right. Luis Aguilar: Eventually she's gonna outgrow it like the other two. You Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: know what I mean? But they still tell me when they go Filthy P: Right. Luis Aguilar: to sleep or good night. You know what I mean? And then Filthy P: Yeah. Yeah. Luis Aguilar: Laura, I tell her whenever I can. She tells me whenever I can. Usually it's like in the morning text message when I'm when I'm at work, she's at work. But Filthy P: Ray. Luis Aguilar: yeah, like I think once the the first time you get it over with, bro. It makes it easier. For sure. Filthy P: So spe speaking of affirmations and speaking of people handling it, what about our our our borracho captain, Kool-Aid Mike? He's always like, Hey, I love you, brother. I love you, cuz. I love you, brother. And I was like, Luis Aguilar: Mike says it all the time. Mike says it all the time. Filthy P: And I remember I was like, and that's at first it was kind of like, Hey, I love too, but then I was kind of like, Hey, that's a big thing. That's a big thing to s Luis Aguilar: What a bitch ass fool. Filthy P: no, I would never because he says it genuine. He hey, brother, hey, cuz love you, cuz. And Luis Aguilar: Yeah. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. Filthy P: it's like, At first it took me back like, I've never I haven't heard that from like an actual guy cousin. But then I started to like it and I was kinda like, Hey, how he didn't say it today, what's going on? What a he lot he Luis Aguilar: And he does it every time. Filthy P: lot he lost it. Not to me all the time. Sometimes he loses it, but I'm like, what happened? You don't love me no more? But when Luis Aguilar: But also Filthy P: he when he says it, I love it. I'm like, Yeah shit. Hey, love you too, Mike. Thank you, brother. Yeah, true, true, true. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Luis Aguilar: I think I think it also depends on on on who's around. Yeah. Because la last week he told it to me but you guys had abandoned him and he still had a half a pitcher of beer. Filthy P: well that was 'cause I had my son or I would have stuck it out. You know me, bro. And I didn't have my I didn't have my dr I didn't Luis Aguilar: Yeah, fool, that's why you should have stuck it out. Filthy P: have I didn't have my driver either. You know me, I can't get a buzz with Luis Aguilar: I thought he I thought your son drove. Filthy P: No, I he hasn't driven on a freeway yet. But I'm gonna that's the next thing. No, I drove because he hasn't driven on a freeway, but that's the next okay. That's the next thing though. He's gonna drive Luis Aguilar: Never mind. Cut this, cut this, cut this, girl. Filthy P: he's gonna he's gonna learn to drive the freeway because I'm like, hey bro, you need to step your game up. I need a a real official D D. You got a real, you know, Pops that likes to drink. But yeah. But anyways, that that is it Luis Aguilar: Hey, woohoo. Filthy P: it always it always feels good when Mike says it. So it's like, yeah I Luis Aguilar: Yeah, Mike Mike says it all the time. Huh? Filthy P: Says it all the time, yeah. He's that's that's cool. That's cool. Shout out to Kool Aid Mike. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. You're right. Right. Right. Yeah. Luis Aguilar: I think you gotta normalize it, bro. The more normal you make it, the more on a regular you make it, that it it like I'll tell you this. I'll tell you this. growing up, I was told, you know, your parents don't do that because that's not the way they were raised. okay. But Filthy P: Right, right, right. That's what I heard, yeah. Luis Aguilar: then when I became a parent, I was like, I wasn't raised like that, but I tell these kids all the time, man, I love these kids. These kids Filthy P: Right. Yeah, why I can't Luis Aguilar: make me so proud, they make me so happy, like I let them Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: know. Filthy P: It's hard to Luis Aguilar: As much as I can. Filthy P: it's hard to keep the feelings inside, right? Rather than it's not a problem letting out, yeah. Luis Aguilar: Yeah, that's why I'm like I'm like that's why that's I think I think that's when I was like, man, like how come I didn't get that? Like I Filthy P: Yeah, yeah. Luis Aguilar: like I didn't get that at all from either of them. Like why? Like we didn't come on. Like Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: I didn't deserve it. I didn't w you know, what did I do that it was so bad? But yeah, yeah, no, we're good. Filthy P: Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It feels good. It feels good. All right, Uncle. Last one for you. Last one for you. This has been your show, bro. You've been a star again. Five stars. Name someone. Well, I said name someone who has passed. I mean, it could be your pops. It could actually it doesn't have to be someone you're past. Maybe somebody you haven't told, but someone who deserves to hear something from you. And what would you like to tell Is there anybody out there? Luis Aguilar: I I got my closure with my dad and he told me he loved me. I actually have it on video and tears me up. But Filthy P: That's that's dope. Luis Aguilar: definitely my mom, dude. My mom my mom is one that health wise hasn't been a hundred percent. And my sister Rosie and all her and all her infinite wisdom told us that maybe maybe my mom would benefit from getting a call from us. Filthy P: really? Luis Aguilar: So the three of us call her, you know, morning, afternoon and evening. And yeah, bro, because she wasn't Filthy P: Every day? Wait. Luis Aguilar: she wasn't she wasn't at home. She was in a facility, so I she wasn't mentally Filthy P: when she was okay, right. Luis Aguilar: she wasn't a hundred percent either. So it was kinda like at least have that communication, right? So it got to the point where I'm calling her on my drive home every single day and I I I I'm not one to call anybody. Filthy P: Yeah, I hate I hate that. Luis Aguilar: I'm not one to to to yeah, I don't really like talking on the phone. And I I t I would call her and I would talk to her. And I'm just like, dude, like when I hang up, I'm like, I kinda wanna tell her, like, mom, I love you, but I can't. I can't do it. Filthy P: Why don't you? Why? Luis Aguilar: I don't know. It's not it, bro, it's it's so it's so awkward, it's so uncommon Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: that I can't just be like, like and we're talking in Spanish, right? So I'm like, how do I even say it? But like with my dad Filthy P: They amount. Luis Aguilar: when I did it, I think I asked him and he was still he was still able to like communicate. And I think I asked him like, Hey dad and he goes, he goes, 'Cause you guys know And I was like, Well, I guess, right? Filthy P: Wait, what? What do you mean 'cause you guys know? you already I love you. I don't need to say it. Yeah. Luis Aguilar: Yeah, you because I use that, you guys know that I love you. And I was like, Okay, whatever. And I said, you know what, dad? I love you. And he goes, Thank you. And I was like, no, that's not what I'm trying to hear, right? So then I I remember I I hugged him and I said, because he was in the bed, right? So I hugged him. And I go, and I got up and I said, I love you. And he goes, I love you too. I was like, my God. my god. I said, okay, bye. And I said, my bye. I went to my truck. I went to my truck, dude. I turned on the truck and I was like, my God, bro, like like I I need I needed that so bad, bro, from him. Filthy P: Was the first time you heard it? Yeah. Wow. Luis Aguilar: Yeah, first time I ever heard it. You know? I mean I knew I knew like I said, I know my parents love me. Filthy P: Yeah. Luis Aguilar: I'm not I'm not ever saying that they don't love me. Filthy P: Yeah, yeah. Luis Aguilar: I know that they they do. And especially my mom because you know, I'm her only son and and I'm and I'm the last one. Filthy P: Yeah. Yeah. Right. Luis Aguilar: But i it like we said earlier, bro, it feels good to hear it. You know? And I and I need it sometimes, Filthy P: Yeah. For me it's the same. Luis Aguilar: bro. Filthy P: For me it's the same. I would say it to my mom too, 'cause like f it's it's gotta be the same thing with your mom, where it's just like I it's just I don't know. It's never she said it in letters, she said it in cards. She probably Luis Aguilar: Ha ha ha. Filthy P: she probably has said it when I was younger. I remember a couple of times we had some emotional conversations and I'm sure she said you know, I I could I could still picture her in my head saying, like, you know, Polly, I love you, you know I love you, I'll do it, you know. I know she has said like that, but has she ever just come out when I go like, Hey, you know, I love you, right? Like, no, I don't know. I never heard that. I d at least I don't think so. I don't think so. But she shows Luis Aguilar: What's going on here? Filthy P: it in every other way. She writes it, she says it to my kids. Apparently Desiree says, What? Your mom doesn't tell you she loves she tells me Luis Aguilar: Ha ha. Filthy P: every time I hang up the phone with her. She says, I love you I said, What? Luis Aguilar: Every morning I get an I love you text. Filthy P: I said, What the hell? I'm like, Well, how did I get all right? How Luis Aguilar: Yeah. Filthy P: do I get into some of that action? But But her actions, everything, I know it's just probably she probably feels uncomfortable because she thinks I'm gonna be weird. I feel uncomfortable because I think she's gonna be weird. But they're definitely the relationship is definitely getting better too. Like it's always been good, but I'm saying in terms of being a little bit more like I've been hugging her more as I leave. I've been trying to show more affection, trying to be more I used to just go over there and I let Desiree talk to her and I'd just go watch TV. I've been trying to be more present. Luis Aguilar: Ha ha ha ha. Filthy P: try to involve myself in the conversation. But they're all talking about like chick stuff. So I'm like, all right, yeah, I'll just go watch the game. But anyways, but but yeah, no, they don't need Luis Aguilar: They're not talking about affection and closure and I don't want to hear that. Filthy P: they talk about just chick stuff, bro. But but yeah that's what I did. But I gotta, you know, I definitely she's the one where I gotta, you know, sh I'm more most grateful for her. And then in terms of like people that have done for me, it's gotta be her and then it's gotta be like, you know, Desre does everything for me, day to day stuff. My mom does other stu you know, financial stuff or just help and she used to help so much with the kids and all that. She still helps with the kids. There's sometimes yeah, Luis Aguilar: Hey, shout out your mom. Filthy P: there's sometimes I don't even know my kids have gone to her and like, yeah, grandma gave me and I like, What? When did you go? shit, I didn't okay. No Luis Aguilar: Ha ha ha ha. Filthy P: one no one told you guys should come to me first, then grandma. But they're so comfortable with her too that they go to her too. So but but yeah, it is good, but Luis Aguilar: Which is good. I mean you want that's what you want. Yeah. Filthy P: the problem is that everybody goes to her so much 'cause it's just like, grandma will help Grand So it's like we do need to show her that we appreciate her more and you know. those affirmations. So yeah, how you wanted it for your mom, I gotta I gotta give it to my to my mom Luis Aguilar: Yeah. Yeah. Filthy P: too. All right. Uncle. Uncle. That's it, brother. Look at the I'm flipping through these pages. guess what, Uncle? You got a little homework tonight, bro. Your your night's not over. I'm going to bed after this. I'm gonna shower. I'm Luis Aguilar: Ha ha ha ha. Filthy P: gonna do a couple bad things to Dirty D and then I'm going to Luis Aguilar: Go wake up the neighbors, homie. Filthy P: I'm going to bed. But guess what? You got homework. I want you, you're Homer, one person, one honest message. Tell someone you're proud of them. Tell them, tell them you know to some. Maybe it could be at work. Maybe it could be that your your homeboy, Jaime. Tell them that you love them. I know life gets busy, it gets busy for all of us. So let's slow it down. Let's send some of these affirmations out tonight, brother. I'm sending it to my kids right off the bat. shit, it's already it's Luis Aguilar: Hell yeah. Filthy P: already midnight, but I'm sending it to them. But let's get that done. If not today, tomorrow. Uncle, until next time, I appreciate you. That's my affirmation. And you know what? I got Luis Aguilar: Yeah. Filthy P: a I got a little bit of love for you. I'm sorry to get I'm sorry. We're in that yeah. Yeah, yeah. Luis Aguilar: I love you too, bro. You can say it. Don't make it weird. Filthy P: Yeah, I love you too, bro. You're you're you're funny, bro. You're a good guy. You've you definitely you've Luis Aguilar: Everyone at the bowling alley I love Filthy P: definitely brought a lot to to my life. And I love the bowling league, brother, and I love the bolrachos, and I love Mike, and I love Chuck, I love those strikes, and I love that one-sixth. Luis Aguilar: I love those Filthy P: I love that one sixty I'm gonna shoot next next Friday. So until next time, Uncle, thank you, brother. As always, that was a good show, brother. That that got back to our roots. I appreciate it. Thank you, Uncle. Thank you, everybody watching. Don't forget, let's let's get some subscribers up here, bro. These shows are starting to get good. You know what I mean? Like these shows are getting really good. Let's let's let's let's time to pay it back to us. Pay it forward. Send your affirmations to us. You know how we take it? We take it with likes and subscribes. Thank you, Uncle. Luis Aguilar: Hell yeah. That's the best Filthy P: Hell yeah and Luis Aguilar: affirmation, dog. A like and a sub a subscribe and a burrito. Filthy P: This is have you ever had this? It's just a tortilla with peanut butter, hot peanut but peanut butter heated up. Mm. Luis Aguilar: Peanut butter and what? Filthy P: Just in a hot tortilla. Luis Aguilar: Peanut butter? What is that protein in in a carb? Filthy P: This is how I survived prison, brother. back Luis Aguilar: Man shit. Filthy P: back when I was in Fulsom, these were a treat, brother. Luis Aguilar: You were never in Folsom Why don't you why don't you tell him how tell how you got arrested, shy boy? Filthy P: Next time.