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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just- The Degrees of Anger's Control 6.06.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  And now we got different levels of anger.
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  We dealt with different levels of arrogance.
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  We think it's all the same. We found out that many people
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  manifest their arrogance in different ways.
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  Some are a little bit less miserable than all this.
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  And anger is similar. There are layers to anger.
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  Let's see. We've been our time in our cows.
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  Let's speak now about anger again.
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  The idea is it's the work to rid ourselves are weak character
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  traits and the other way to do so is to understand that when
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  you're doing this and you're asking a certain way to realize
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  your anger is showing it. So let's see he in a year shout
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  out Zahn Shamwala this such a person whom Hazel speak about
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  him, the rabbi say about him Kolakos quilo available Dazza at
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  such a level that when the person gets so angry, it's the
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  equivalent of serving idols. And how does that explain
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  itself? What does that even mean?
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  Who I'm a cordovar. She has so negative to know.
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  He's always trigger, he's constantly upset.
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  He literally pulls himself up with hate anger actually
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  ajikwali Bo balimo. He loses his mind literally
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  vasaton Nevada and his mind and his reasoning becomes crazy.
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  He completely becomes completely desired himself.
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  His real definition of anger deserves his mind.
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  He's out of his mind. That's the words this guy we
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  comparing to or whatever does run.
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  He loses control. That's anger is in a Ishkaze
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  kadai la Riva O la Malay. Such a person has the capability
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  to destroy the world. And yeah, you hollett the adult.
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  If you gave him the tools, he would destroy the world during
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  those moments. The fact that matters.
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  Many of the craziness that goes on in the world are moments and
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  fits of anger. These are people whom you could
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  have a normal conversation with. These are people who 5 minutes
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  or whatever an hour before we could talk to, and they're
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  talking regular and may even be polite, but anger overcomes
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  them. They're gone.
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  Like like yesterday. Literally like yesterday is
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  perfect. These guys all did things they
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  wish they could have back by now, probably, but they got so
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  angry. They got so much smoking out of
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  the nostrils it's hilarious to watch.
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  By the way, as an aside, you have what is he wealthiest
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  person in the world? Wealthiest.
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  And the most powerful person in the world, Top 2 angles of foul
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  and they're great. And they're like children.
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  The playground if you're lucky, right?
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  Get together, we talk. It out.
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  I don't understand how that in a while exactly the key because
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  they're mine. His mind, his wisdom.
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  Ezekiel has completely no control over entirely 0 control
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  Osada Tang mamash. He's completely void of any
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  reasoning. He called Akhayyoth at her foot.
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  He's the equivalent of a wild animal.
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  The love Nema. What's an animal?
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  What's the music animal? You're being Sekhal and he lost
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  his mind. The love Neymar Torre nafsho de
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  apo. He's destroys him, tears himself
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  apart in anger. Hamilton Manchat as if audits
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  shall the earth be abandoned for your sake.
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  In other words, the person destroying the world will call
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  vada. And at that moment it's very
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  possible for such a person in this anger Fit la Vor or call me
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  near avaloche Ballam. He can commit many, many sins
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  during this time if he gave an opportunity to do so.
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  Sins like saying their own thing, hurting a person, doing
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  something wrong to a person, right, completely defaming a
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  person's name, all these crazy things that can happen Mabin
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  Panera Cavaro, but Abin which is embarrassing a person in public,
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  all these possibilities could come out if it's that individual
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  or it's furious. All Abirajabalam and Muhammad to
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  tavil and nothing can stop him. That's why this guy is
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  considered equivalent of Alabama.
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  Nazarah Abu Dazarah is a top of our list, right?
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  And yet still this individual, technically speaking, there's a
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  lot of things that block him from actually getting to that
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  point. Like, you know, he's not in the
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  situation that everyone's interested what he has to say,
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  whatever else. He doesn't have the capability
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  to really let out his full fury. But if he had the power and if
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  he had the mic or he had the situation, he would go nuts.
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  That's an individual whose anger is equal to Auvera.
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  And the point of that is it means he has no control.
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  He has moments of 0 control. That's a very bad state.
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  Anger, hate to be thrown into the ball.
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  There's specifically anger. A lot of times hate brings to
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  anger, but it's specific anger as a jealousy.
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  No, but not directly. It leads to that, but not
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  direct. That this is a feeling you have,
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  that feeling that you get like you cannot believe yourself.
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  Look at yourself. If this is me, I could see you
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  could see. It over.
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  One situation, but you. Can't see it constant.
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  Now if one person hurts another person, they react and they're
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  so I read at that moment about that issue and they can't see
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  straight like Izzy said, out of his mind.
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  You understand that, but now you're talking about a person
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  that's constantly in that state of mind.
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  Yeah, the point is they easily trigger, but the main goal is
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  maybe it takes once in a while. Or maybe it's really there and
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  that item forces it to come out but but but you have that
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  characteristic. The issue is that when he does
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  get to that point, he's totally out of control.
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  He can never be out of control. The worst thing in life is to be
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  a person. One of the worst things to be a
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  person can be out of control. Even if you're a good guy, to
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  have the the mood that is out of control is very scary.
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  Because it's work after the fact.
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  That depends on the people around you.
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  Maybe he hasn't. Even else I was out of my mind.
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  I'm sorry. I didn't have orphan but so how
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  much? Better come back later.
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  Right. That's the problem.
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  They may not accept it over a while.
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  The wife might not accept it. The bank might accept it.
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  Guy gets up and shul and does something completely out of his
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  mind. You know, You've seen you've
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  heard those scene. That is, we've heard those
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  scenes. Right?
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  I should do it. Inspire or listen.
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  Yeah. So what?
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  Happened there, I got seen a bro.
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  Thinking about that guy for a second, he's embarrassed, right?
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  If the rag is embarrassed, it's a big shame.
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  It's very who his own name Those those stories stick.
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  It's hard to get rid of them. And a Big Blue shot right now.
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  That guy did it because he lost his mind.
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  Literally. Such an individual.
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  His apologies work. It does.
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  Do they work? Sure.
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  But maybe, you know the people. Never.
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  Seen the same way. That's about what I miss what it
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  ruining their mode and the fact that you have the ability to be
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  out of control is scary. We never want to have a level
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  that could be out of control. So this individual has nothing
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  stopping him. Wherever his anger brings him,
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  he's going to go. That's a very dangerous mode to
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  have. We have to delete that mode or
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  more. However you get there, we'll
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  see. The is another individual who
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  gets injury who's not that degree.
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  Oh, Shiloh, I call the Varshi. She will Shiloh.
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  He's not easily triggered in Catan, by the way, as an aside.
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  As an aside, one of my points are no one wants to be around
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  that guy. If you have a guy that's easily
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  triggered, end up being difficult to be friends with him
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  because you never know what you're going to say.
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  You never know what's going to take him off.
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  You never know what's going to ruin the conversation, and you
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  definitely do not want to ever hear this guy's tirade.
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  You're not on the move. So we end up avoiding these
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  people. We end up having less
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  relationships like these because we all want to basically feel
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  good about ourselves and have a nice peaceful life where I ain't
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  just in these people and end up losing friends at some point.
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  Now you're. Burnt.
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  Sure, there's another individual who will not easily trigger not
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  everything that gets nervous or make his, you know, make him
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  smoke and fire in anger when it does come like, you know, they
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  say about these people. If we do, it's I'm not easily
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  angry. And people say people always say
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  this about themselves. I don't know why people are part
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  of this. I don't usually get upset, but
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  when I get upset, they get upset.
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  It's as if like it's an impressive thing.
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  Nobody's impressed with The fact that you get angry doesn't make
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  anyone, you know, just means you have a mode.
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  That's all. This guy, not easily triggered,
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  but when it happens, it happens. He's hard.
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  It takes him. It takes a while to get him
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  angry, but once you do, it's hard to appease him.
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  It's hard to take him down. He comes.
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  It's also bad. It's not better.
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  I mean, actually he's better. It's not as bad as the other
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  guy. Huh.
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  He's in control. He does.
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  Exactly. He has modes that don't really
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  lead to this, but there are situations in life that get him
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  to this state and that too is not good because you never want
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  to had an angle or more because take those people who had, you
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  know, an extremist cases because you had road rage of the people
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  who had, you know, the crazy cases of killings.
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  They might have not gotten angry all the time, but they had that
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  mood. There was an instance where Guy
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  threatened me. I went out of my mind.
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  Threatened you is not anger. I went crazy.
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  You were trying to the attorney is not a situation.
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  Three guys were holding me back. They'll all do it again.
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  Don't we go that all? I'm sorry you did, but you
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  worked and nowhere so. But I had a holiday.
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  Told me that's not anger, it was.
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  In the South Bronx. You're but you are trying and
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  you responded that was anger. What was that?
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  But that was. Because they had threatened my
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  life. Isn't stage that's happening 1A
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  a mode of self-defense and then maybe disrespect and stuff like
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  that? I don't think that's flat out
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  anger. Anger means someone insulted
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  you, someone completely ignored you or cut you off.
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  A lot of stuff. It only happened to Sparks.
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  All right, let's not talk about the bar.
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  Let's have you exhale. Again, are they saying that you
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  should? Bring it to alley so there is a
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  level of anger you should have, but the goal obviously is to
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  have very few and fall between situations of anger.
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  You never want to lose control. That's the more you'd never want
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  to be a person ever has a mode to be out of control.
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  I know some people that would never drink simply because I
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  don't like the feeling of being out of control, which is I think
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  I don't like being out of control personally.
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  Why I'm I'm scared of what I'm going to say on I don't know on
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  poem, whatever. I don't know everything that
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  much. Baki kibali Hola la SE takalada
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  BA because even this person can make major mistakes from his
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  hands. Bizman hakas Valhre can will you
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  call it a can't a shave door to what you asked earlier, Kani,
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  you know, can he fix his ways? Can he ask?
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  Can he apologize? Maybe, but sometimes it's hard
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  to apologize. So these are two people.
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  One is the guy as easily triggered.
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  The other one is a person who's not as easily triggered, but he
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  still has this more. Yes.
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  I don't think we're either one of these guys, but there's a
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  third person. Shaloy us on the color doesn't
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  become angry easily, I feel. Because yeah, Casa Casa.
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  Even when he does get angry, it's light.
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  I don't lose his mind. It's very relatively mild, his
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  anger. There's no major destruction
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  that's going to come from this person because so long as you're
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  in control, you're better off. If I have comes out, if I die,
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  he's still not a perfect person. Shulagia Leotenaki.
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  If you lose a heat and anyone dying, he's still not enough.
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  Qiyar Chakas Ossian with Sal Mikhail Kasar.
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  This guy still has the mode of levels of anger, which still
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  means he does things he wishes he could have back.
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  And he says things he just want to say.
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  And he has situations that let's say, you know, ruin his day.
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  That mode of anger, that's normal for us.
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  He has situations that make him act.
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  They would be embarrassed about a little bit.
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  All right, he's by a holiday meal.
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  Take for example, guys, a holiday meal.
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  And so since someone says he turns him off, he has to get off
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  the table and walk away. That's not something we're proud
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  of. He may not lose control.
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  He doesn't say something that's furious.
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  He doesn't ruin his relationships.
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  But he does have modes he still wishes he could avoid.
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  What about? What about the?
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  Guy who doesn't show it, but inside he's, he's, he's angry
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  like no one could kick within 10 feet of the guy, right?
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  But he's not acting out and he's not.
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  He's totally back. Yeah, the goal is eventually to
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  become even less than that. But yeah, that guy is very
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  impressive because that guy is in control.
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  He's in control. And maybe he's just embarrassed
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  of screaming in front of others, like so he's.
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  Controlling his screaming. It depends.
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  The first time, first goal, exactly The ultimate goal is to
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  be less triggered. That's the ultimate goal.
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  The ultimate goal is to be in full control of your even your
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  feelings to that to a point that you have to get to that stage.
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  But that's a lot of work, this lifetime of work.
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  It takes a lot of different fences and stop gaps and things
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  that basically you have to get to a point that your mind says,
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  but someone says that doesn't bother me.
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  The situation doesn't mean anything.
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  You have to get to actually a great degree of humility to
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  avoid anger. You have to come down.
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  They're very, they don't seem to be connected, but they're
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  connected. You know, I don't.
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  I don't but anything. Turning my face from somebody,
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  even if I'm mad at them, why should I have to look like this?
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  Let them look put the other way. OK, I look straight.
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  At them I say hello. You know them.
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  See. You run a lot of control.
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  Them. You run.
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  Yeah, I'll say no. Are you angry?
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  You're furious, right Insulto? I just don't angry never turn my
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  bass. Nobody's flying inside.
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  Maybe a little bit, yeah. OK, love with the you pan get
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  rid of the film you pan get rid of the feeling of anger.
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  It's important to note that we can undo the triggers of anger
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  over time through the right a matter of word.
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  It can be done. People who work on themselves
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  for the entire life. Well, can you hear it of anger?
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  No, no meaning. So we spoke the other day about,
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  you know, when when a person look at a guy below him or
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  beneath him, right, it's easy to discount that that guy and not
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  let it bother you. But how do you do it without
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  doing that? Because that that you could say,
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  all right, he's enough thing. He's a nobody, no problem.
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  But that has other issues that we learned the other day.
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  Yes. So in a humble way, as a jump to
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  the solution a little bit in a humble way, you have to remain
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  again, once you put a lot of humility into ourselves.
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  So now all these things that get as nervous, they get as upset,
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  many of them go down there and go out the window, which is that
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  let's say someone, anger usually comes from arrogance.
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  They're very closely related. You don't realize that, but
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  they're relieved. And the arrogance is a sense.
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  How could you treat me that way? That right there is arrogance,
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  right? If I would start with the fact
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  that I believe to be treated like this and so and so
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  disrespects me, that makes me infurious inside my parents
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  getting angry at their children angry at their children.
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  Very often it's because there's respect.
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  How can you treat me that way right.
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  That's where the anger comes from.
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  People get angry at their friends.
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  Same thing people get angry and shrew very often it comes from a
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  mood of having you told me that every how can you not go my
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  opinion. How can all this draft say on?
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  Angle seeing the news and anti-Semitic incident, I get
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  very angry at that. Don't.
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  I'm not there yet to be justified.
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  I hath not they me don't anger. You're right has not been me
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  don't anger. It is from a similar mode, which
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  means how could they be doing this to a Jew?
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  How can the world say highly buy all those things?
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  How can this be happening? Don't they know we all this
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  stuff? But that's not really coming
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  from a bad Moat, and that's fine.
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  When you see something's wrong. You want to fight.
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  If you go deeper, that is a level of feeling disrespected
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  and ignored. It is does come from there, but
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  that's fine. Every Jew has a right to have a
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  sense of self respect when it comes to being a jewel.
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  But when it comes to self respect to leaving, I'm
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  something special with regard to another jewel, regard to your
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  wife and stuff like that. That stuff was a makes you
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  angry, right? When the guy's impatient, remain
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  precise and impatient, fine. But when he gets angry, often
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  times it's happening as mine is. She won't wait for me.
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  I'll wait for her. She doesn't.
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  Yeah, I think what I have to say.
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  And here I am sitting for half hour and I can't even say
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  anything. If I says anything to go wrong.
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  You don't know all the modes. That all, if you think about it
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  deeply, it's all levels of a feeling of being disrespected.
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  Now, you can't be an Angel. I'm not saying you can.
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  But for starters, we want to be in control.
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  And then ultimately we want to get to a point and we can root
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  out the problem itself, which is a sense of I'm a great person,
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  I'm a super confident person, but I don't know, it could be so
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  arrogant in my ways and I can't expect everyone to treat me Papa
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  right at all times. All that feeling of I need to be
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  treated properly and it could be given respect.
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  It was cotton from degrees arrogance, all idea.
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  And you walk into a room and you want everyone to jump up for us.
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  That's what arrogance eat by someone and you expect everyone
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  to be thinking about you and talking about you the whole
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  time. These are modes of arrogance
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  that we have to get rid of, get out of our system and the more
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  we get them out of our system, the less angry here and by the
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  way, the more beautiful and peaceful your life is.
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  When you get rid of this media. The feeling of lack of of no
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  self-control is the worst feeling.
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  You look at yourself and say, how do I say that every morning
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  or every after they lift their mood, How do I say that?
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  How do I do that? I'm a nice person, General, how
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  did that happen? The answer is no control.
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  Where did that come from? The arrogance inside and
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  therefore the smoke and the fire and the field.
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  I want to get rid of that. Fair.
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  So people say it's it's hurt, it's pain, and that's just to
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  cover up for arrogance. A lot of time pain going to be
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  disrespected, disrespected because of the fact that I think
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  it was birth called deep burns, deep birds.
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  This comes from Eric. Now again, we're not meant to be
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  angels. We are meant.
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  To you're a rabbi and you walk in the shoe like everyone stands
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  for you. If you feel a kind of an
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  arrogance in a sense. Like do I?
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  In a. Fair question.
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  That's actually a real question. I, I do yes, and I, so I tell
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  you the truth, not saying I'm, you know, definitely not close
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  to perfect, but I did work from the beginning.
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  I came in from the old Robin and stuff came from the side angle.
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  I wasn't really expecting to do this whole thing and I in the
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  beginning, I work on myself a lot to say I'm just a brave
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  little guy. I'm so a little guy.
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  All these things to all myself back.
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  Sure there are feelings that I would have now.
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  I'll be honest with you. The other thing is I've
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  disrespected I would have now that I wouldn't have had 2-3
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  years ago, right? Which is levels I do believe
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  that is. What if I didn't get up for you?
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  Right, I'll give you 10 guys get up and two guys are sitting.
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  Great example. All right.
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  The greatest you ever see the the the Now, no one has to stand
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  up for a rap when it gets out. Yeah, fine.
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  All right. But they do it very nice.
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  Beautiful, classic example. I got out.
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  Yeah. You look around the room and you
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  see that person. He's not standing up because
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  you're not his rabbi, because he doesn't believe in this stuff.
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  So you're younger than him. Some people think younger than
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  him. Whatever it is, somebody that's
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  you. So I actually look for that guy.
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  I look for that guy because it treat them out of the whole idea
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  of the whole woman standing up for you.
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  It's a bit much. It's not so healthy.
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  I personally believe because you guys TA.
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  So I look for that guy here. OK, calm down.
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  Relax. Hey, make sure that everybody
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  stand up. I'm going to go around.
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  Or everyone safe? Mary stood wonder I happen to be
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  I wondered about the guy like what does he feel probably a
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  little uncomfortable saying that in the chair.
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  But the truth is, yeah, these things do get the ad yes.
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  When you when you allow different levels of respect to
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  become the norm and then it doesn't happen.
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  It's a degree of Aramis. I go to the summer I go to I go
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  to I spend time in Lakewood, right.
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  So I nobody there. I'm in the back of the shoe and
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  I'm zero. So I like that feeling a little
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  bit because it's healthy. I go to you Shiv.
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  I'm a regular guy. All these things and nobody
• 21:12
  chills you Iran either. I won't say no, boss.
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  It also means no respect, but I I like the feeling of being
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  yeah. What's the difference comparing
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  me to another guy in Colorado? I could have people in Colorado
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  that are 4050 years older than me, right.
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  Does that mean just because the rabbi ever shoot?
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  I mean I'm more I'm doing more respect.
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  No, Al but to be I'm in I'm in a setting and you get more
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  respect. You have to be understanding
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  those people who get a lot of respect when they go home.
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  It's very tough, honestly, when they go home and they deal with
• 21:43
  the children and deal with their wife and stuff like that.
• 21:45
  They no respect over there. It is not enough respect to get
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  some crazy if he's a lot of work to be a person who's always the
• 21:53
  same. And that is take the arrogance,
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  recognize the fact that you're not really that special.
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  It's only because of our sham during this day in the 1st place
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  and then you get angry less and you're more at ease and you're
• 22:05
  completely in control of your life.
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  That's ultimately you don't want to call everyone.
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  Let's say, yeah, we're saying, I mean, I'm waiting for Hazarah
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  and you. We're waiting for you.
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  And then there's a much bigger rabbi sitting there.
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  Are you thinner? We we do him.
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  We don't like him. All right, it's strange so the
• 22:20
  Alaka really is it is strange Alaka is is that he's supposed
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  to only go with one person because it's right and that's
• 22:28
  techniques Beijing you're right it is strange so usually it's
• 22:32
  the. Right, we're waiting for him,
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  but it could be the grab body. And he's been a share.
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  Of the real life. They usually it's, it's only
• 22:40
  because of the crowd. It's up to control.
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  They sit on their way. I know that that price a minute,
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  20 minutes is the trigger of losing control of the room and
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  you never get it back right that way.
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  And for that time, that's just sometimes we just take gone
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  because same thing if you lose control of the room.
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  That's why they allowed its own thing that's allowed to do.
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  Rob on this I always Tiger better go.
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  Joe, that's. That's a big one and it's it
• 23:03
  ruins the room. So how come he.
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  Doesn't know I. Have to do this.
• 23:07
  I have a question like maybe 3 weeks ago, I don't know what was
• 23:11
  going on here and it was very late and I was someone asked,
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  but we should do khoram. And really, the back of a shul
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  was Rabbi, it was, Mahan was, I remember there like a football
• 23:23
  game, you know? Why is again?
• 23:25
  Why it's all the scratch? Loud, so go there. 2 events.
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  Yeah, that. Have been so I'll teach you
• 23:30
  Michelle I. Or the presidents.
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  Exactly, I'm Hashem follows the rabbit for us.
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  And because of that he said a very clear president really
• 23:40
  don't do Quran that often. And I'll tell you the truth,
• 23:44
  right, I have a very funny idea. You have a long Shabbat and now
• 23:49
  you can do Quran because in a rush you could do Hazara very
• 23:52
  quickly. Now Quranin becomes the
• 23:55
  question, the whole controversy by Quranin with Quran.
• 23:57
  Do you do? Do you know, it's very strange
• 24:00
  you could do calling him, but you are some shows that they
• 24:02
  have with you. There's a way to do it, but it's
• 24:05
  really yeah. They sit in the front.
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  You are as hell OK, you know, averse.
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  Yes, if you have one which you would right 21.
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  Coin him, stand in the front, and they go.
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  Ahead, they do coin him during the the regular during no.
• 24:22
  I don't have her. I've never been to party.
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  Debatable if it should be done as someone she may always
• 24:29
  involve this this. I guess more I waited this
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  question for you. Is that happy?
• 24:36
  And then you have the fact that you're saying a person because
• 24:38
  it's difficult. Then you have the bank.
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  Should you be a speech should be no speech and Haram to have a
• 24:44
  speech and therefore leave those Koram.
• 24:46
  But there's no restructure to the room if there's no speech.
• 24:48
  So all these things go into question.
• 24:50
  So my thinking was this have a super fast hazard.
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  It's a minute difference in their difference and you don't
• 24:56
  set that precedent. That was really dude, that's a
• 24:58
  fair question. What?
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  Yeah, at the time, but more about the the lack of cavod for
• 25:06
  the twila, that was my, that was my point.
• 25:08
  At the same time, you grab a lot of people.
• 25:09
  There were people in the room who would have said Haram koram,
• 25:14
  how can you do this? It was such people in the room
• 25:16
  also, and many of the originals would have that one, sort of.
• 25:20
  Agree with SO. Because of that as an office, so
• 25:21
  you're. Saying that like your father's.
• 25:23
  Father's you know, because he would you say?
• 25:26
  Would you call on? No.
• 25:27
  What would you say? No, no, no, no.
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  Just have a look. Done, I said.
• 25:32
  OK, we'll just do quick. I wish that we have more
• 25:35
  control. I don't know what happened that
• 25:37
  week where you started three years too late and there were a
• 25:39
  lot of fighters who couldn't guarantee control.
• 25:41
  It's. Just it was you.
• 25:42
  You don't hear the people talking in the front because the
• 25:44
  highest seal. Yeah, the back, you just hear
• 25:46
  it. No.
• 25:47
  You can't even hear I'm in like. That was a first week that was
• 25:51
  the craziest. But yeah, and and it said we
• 25:53
  like a lot from that week. So if you think that if you
• 25:56
  would have pulled the trigger and made a a, you know, game
• 26:00
  time decision there based on what you saw, that would be
• 26:04
  problematic for the future. For sure.
• 26:06
  Yeah, It would have been more heavy, I think some, yeah.
• 26:08
  Next time we had a big event that would have had that issue.
• 26:10
  Sure, yes. But that could have been the
• 26:13
  right thing for that scenario. On it's own you want to know
• 26:16
  honestly if it's probably could very well be Koram is better
• 26:19
  yeah 'cause if you have a lot that everyone's talking for them
• 26:23
  is. But that's when they have the
• 26:24
  Khalajah ruling and work and the.
• 26:26
  People are talking. Yeah, Koram.
• 26:30
  But this issue is, which means once you have Koram in the
• 26:34
  workplace Mignon, yes, you never go back to Hazara ever again.
• 26:38
  All right? And then you're not even used to
• 26:40
  hazard. Yeah.
• 26:43
  The working and once they go to Hazara, guys go on the phone.
• 26:46
  True, that's what happens. So that's the time.
• 26:47
  But now the guy goes to school and he really can't handle
• 26:50
  Hazara. He goes all together.
• 26:52
  Hazara seems extra and he prays in the alt right.
• 26:54
  So then you go through that hazard is hard.
• 26:56
  Next thing I don't know, I mean. Hazara is hard.
• 26:58
  Next thing you know, Hazara feels like really just actually
• 27:01
  full. Who's it for?
• 27:02
  My kids asked me this question. I tried to explain it to them.
• 27:04
  Fine. Anyhow, that's the president
• 27:07
  with that. That's a good question.
• 27:08
  This some of this.