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Gen Z Mental Health · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for American mama's. Dear mamas, is
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  Speaker 1: gen Z's hyper focus on mental health helpful or harmful? Well,
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  Speaker 1: let's ask our American mama's mama, Mama, she said, and
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  Speaker 1: joining is now our American mama is Terry Netteville and
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  Speaker 1: Kimberly Burlison. I do think you can not just a stereotype,
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  Speaker 1: but I think it is factual that in this time,
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  Speaker 1: in this day and age, there is more of a
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  Speaker 1: focus on mental health than there was when certainly when
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  Speaker 1: Baby Boomers were coming up and when gen X was
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  Speaker 1: coming up Millennials, it really kind of started with that
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  Speaker 1: with that age group of focusing on mental health. And
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  Speaker 1: with gen Z it's all over the place. It is
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  Speaker 1: the right amount, is it helpful or is it too much?
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  Speaker 1: And it can become harmful.
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  Speaker 2: I saw Joe Rogan talked about this topic not too
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  Speaker 2: long ago, and he was talking to a journalist named
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  Speaker 2: Abbe gil Schreier, and she was telling the story about
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  Speaker 2: a friend of hers who is a research scientist and
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  Speaker 2: every year she looks for the brightest med students to
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  Speaker 2: come in and do internships for and she said that
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  Speaker 2: something interesting among this generation of young people is happening.
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  Speaker 2: She said she's seeing the smartest and most prepared students
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  Speaker 2: that are afraid of starting their own experiments. She said
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  Speaker 2: they're constantly reporting about their mental health because they don't
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  Speaker 2: want to take a chance. And Joe was saying, you know,
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  Speaker 2: this is like really hard for a parents because they
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  Speaker 2: don't you don't want to tell your kid to suck
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  Speaker 2: it up. But these kids need to be hurt, need
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  Speaker 2: to hear suck it up. But because we're constantly being
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  Speaker 2: bombarded with mental health, mental health, we're so afraid to
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  Speaker 2: being a trigger. So we're pacifying these kids. We're feeding
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  Speaker 2: into this and the more you feed into something, the
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  Speaker 2: fatter it becomes. Basically you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, absolutely absolutely.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I'm seeing kids it's like becoming who they are.
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  Speaker 2: You look at their bios, like on Instagram, and they're
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  Speaker 2: you know, anxiety, bipolar. They're wearing it almost like this
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  Speaker 2: badge of honor, and it's really to fit in with
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  Speaker 2: a group is what they're they're doing, which.
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  Speaker 1: Can also actually lead to social contagient. It's one of
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  Speaker 1: the things that goes on with with social contagient is
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  Speaker 1: that you go you've got a group of friends that says,
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  Speaker 1: you know what, I'm depressed, and you go, oh, well,
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  Speaker 1: i'm with these friends, I must be depressed too, And
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  Speaker 1: now I'm depressed. And or I've got you know, add
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  Speaker 1: or ADHD because all my friends have it, or other
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  Speaker 1: things that you can adopt. You become more like the
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  Speaker 1: five people you spend the most time around.
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  Speaker 2: That is what's happening. I mean, just a quick story.
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  Speaker 2: I don't want to There's a friend of mine. She's
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  Speaker 2: got a daughter, twenty eight year old daughter, brilliant girl.
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  Speaker 2: This family's an incredible family. She is living in LA.
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  Speaker 2: Her circle has become that kind of people, and so
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  Speaker 2: suddenly she's going to therapy. She's her relationship with her
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  Speaker 2: mom is dwindling, and she wants to go to a
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  Speaker 2: therapist with her mom. And she's talking to the therapist
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  Speaker 2: about all the things her mom did wrong, and she's like,
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  Speaker 2: you didn't let me do dance when I really and
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  Speaker 2: my friend said, she said to the therapist, I had you
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  Speaker 2: in volleyball, in basketball, in track. We had no more time,
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  Speaker 2: so we had to choose one thing to pull.
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  Speaker 3: You out of.
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  Speaker 2: But yet her daughter, she's like, she's focusing on everything
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  Speaker 2: I've done wrong because of who her circle is, because
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  Speaker 2: this isn't my kid, and this is that social contagion
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  Speaker 2: you're talking about, right, So where these kids are in
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  Speaker 2: there getting angrier about something that didn't even really exist.
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  Speaker 1: Well, and there's internet fame to come with that exactly
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  Speaker 1: that if you've got if you've got enough victimhood and
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  Speaker 1: you've got a pretty good Internet account, you can use
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  Speaker 1: that and gain followers.
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  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, that's how. That's how a lot of the
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  Speaker 3: college kids are getting into these Ivy League schools. They
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  Speaker 3: want these essays, and so the kids have to make
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  Speaker 3: their background as hard and victimy as possible in order
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  Speaker 3: to get in. My thing is and how did this happen?
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  Speaker 3: It happened because the leaders at the top. It happened
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  Speaker 3: because media. It happened because everybody started to looking at
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  Speaker 3: these kids, and a lot of them are the broken ones.
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  Speaker 3: It's kind of like Toy Story three, how the broken
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  Speaker 3: ones find each other. And so it's like, oh, my gosh,
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  Speaker 3: you were abused. You were abused at some point. The
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  Speaker 3: majority of people sadly are abused. But what we need
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  Speaker 3: to focus on is how you use that adversity to
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  Speaker 3: become great. What did you do now, how can you
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  Speaker 3: influence others into becoming their own greatest advocates? Don't look
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  Speaker 3: for outside help. Don't look for outside help. To acknowledge
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  Speaker 3: who you are as a person. You look at internally
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  Speaker 3: and then you go help other people do that.
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  Speaker 1: So this is also a place where there's a lot
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  Speaker 1: of Biblical wisdom in this. And when it comes to
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  Speaker 1: mental health that I think we skip over. One of
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  Speaker 1: them is you are what you think about. Yes, as
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  Speaker 1: a man thinks, so is he?
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  Speaker 2: Yes?
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  Speaker 1: Right, that the more you think about your problems and
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  Speaker 1: your traumas, the more your problems and your traumas become
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  Speaker 1: who you are exactly. The other part is and this
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  Speaker 1: is something that but it can be difficult on a
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  Speaker 1: daily basis. It's difficult for me at times, and I
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  Speaker 1: have to ask for other people to help me get
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  Speaker 1: out of this. But it is difficult when you get
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  Speaker 1: into a thought spiral, right, you get into this this
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  Speaker 1: is about ooh, this is about ooh, this is about oh,
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  Speaker 1: look at all these things that are about all some
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  Speaker 1: nuts matter. You can get into this thought spiral. But
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  Speaker 1: the Bible says cast down any thought that is not
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  Speaker 1: of God, and if it's bringing you anger, and it's
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  Speaker 1: bringing you frustration and it's bringing you pain that's not
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  Speaker 1: from God. And you're supposed to cast that thought down.
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  Speaker 1: So if you're it's not that we you know, just
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  Speaker 1: bear your feelings deep. But it's to go, Okay, wait,
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  Speaker 1: do I want to become my problem? Or do I
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  Speaker 1: want to become who God made me in spite of
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  Speaker 1: my problem?
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  Speaker 2: Exactly?
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  Speaker 3: And that's something we need to harp on with our kids.
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  Speaker 3: We need to really helm that, bring that home to
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  Speaker 3: our kids and sometimes guess what your kids do? Need
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  Speaker 3: to suck it up.
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  Speaker 1: out of Kimberly bur listen. Thank you so much, Thank you,