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Her Best Friend's Kid is a Nightmare · Podcast - Big 98.7

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Here we are in the judgment zone. We have somebody who finds himself in
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a sticky situation. We try to help him out. We get a little
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judge because it's okay. Seven oh one two eight zero one ninety eight seven
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would love to hear your thoughts. Her name is Audrey. She's on the
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phone now. Good morning, Audrey. How you doing, Hi, guys,
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I'm doing. I'm doing okay. Well, welcome to the judgment zone.
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It sounds like a sticky one, so why don't you tell us what's
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going on? The situation is my best friend and I who have known each
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other since we were teens, Like we grew up together, we went to
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school together. She and her husband have two kids, a seven year old
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and a four year old boy, which is great because I also have a
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two year old daughter and she loves playing with her kids. When we get
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together. It's then a really big issue. Her son's behavior is her son
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is just he's awful. Behavior is terrible. I mean, he's mean,
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he's aggressive to my daughter. He'll like shove her and like snatch her toys
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out of her hands. But my friend ever corrects them or anything like that.
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She like never makes him apologize she accept the behavior, or does she
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ever just like, hey, is she just kind of soft with them?
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You know how some people, especially around other people, just be like,
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hey, let's not act like that kind of sugarcoating it or just oblivious to
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not even that, not even no. It feels like she's oblivious and like
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she just accepts it. Just one more thing over the weekend. So we
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were at her house and he threw my daughter's shoe at her. So I
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walked over and I said, that wasn't nice. You need to apologize,
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please, Yeah, and then she started to cry. I don't know what
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you who throws a shoe? Honestly? I mean bush league moving the kids
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part. So you're wondering, you know, do you say something? Because
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I feel like we're to the point now where you got to have a conversation
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with this lady and is she married? Yes, Okay, this is uncomfortable.
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She's your best friend, and I mean, I guess I kind of
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have kids around that same age. I know that this kid is four going
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through probably emotions whatever, but what is happening is affecting your daughter and you
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have to be a protective mom, Like that's not okay. Thank you.
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Yeah, that's gonna wor I'm coming from too. Also tricky because this is
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your best friend and you want to be able to hang out with each other,
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I imagine. So it's much like when you know, you first start
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dating people and if you don't get along with their partner, it makes it
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hard, and now with kids makes it even harder to hang out if the
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kids aren't getting along. So let's see what people think. What should we
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do? What should Audrey be doing? Here? The judgment zone is open
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seven on one two eight oh one ninety eighty seven. All right, so
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we already got a call here. What's the name ran? Yeah, I've
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got Brian onlineline. Good morning Brian. So as a husband, I can
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say this. I honestly think it's time for this lady's husband a man up
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and handle the situation, especially you know it's her best friend. You should
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be talking to the dad and handling the behavior. And you know sometimes a
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nice man and man conversation is to get it done. Okay, So calling
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out the husband, I don't know where he was in all of this.
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It sounds like he might not have even been there, but you think it's
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time for him just to stick his nose right in the middle of the situation.
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Well, it's more so, you know, their best friend. Though
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of course her interfering and and overdoing it is going to tend to create a
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risk between their friendship, whereas like if the husband and the other husband just
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have a thought about it, it's kind of probably less dramatic. It's just
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more like, you know, top to your son. Yeah, totally makes
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sense. Okay, well, Brian, thanks for the call man. Yeah,
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sure, day What do you think what should she do? It's kind
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of a tricky one, Amanda. Yeah, easier said than done to cause
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for me, I mean, if it's your best friend, I would feel
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comfortable just having that conversation. Hey, our kids not saying you need to
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put it on your kid, but our kids clearly aren't getting along. This
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is uncomfortable, This isn't fun for either of us right Now's handle it kind
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of thing, you know what I mean? Like maybe a laugh like oh
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that doesn't really like my daughter, boy, that can't be Dayton in high
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school later on, or that kind of thing, joking through it a little
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bit, but otherwise you do have to have a serious conversation. Well,
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what do you think what does she do? Seven on one two eight oh
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one ninety eight seven. We're in the judgment zone, So get a little
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judge. You let us know. I get Amanda in the morning. Seven,
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Good morning, big ninety eight point seven. Who's this. My name's
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Tessa. I'm just calling to be a little judge. Y. We like
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it, okay. So my biggest thing, like, I definitely think,
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yes, you can correct anybody's behavior. That's kind of what I do for
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a living. But my other part of it is that I hate, hate,
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hate when people make people apologize. I get you should have you should
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teach your kids to say that they're sorry, But at the same time,
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to me, if they don't mean it, you're teaching them to lie.
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My big thing is you should always check on them, so ask them if
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they're okay. I mean, you can always have them check on their okay
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and feel their feelings that way. But if you're like myself, if someone
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tells me to say sorry and I don't mean it, I don't mean it.
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Oh yeah, I remember. It's the same for four year olds and
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any age. Actually, yeah, I remember being a kid and my mom
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constantly saying say sorry, and not one time was I sincere when I say
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sorry, I said sorry. So do you think she should talk to this
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mom directly then, or what are your thoughts on that? I mean,
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yes, I do think that, especially if they're best friends. You can
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always have those hard conversations with your best friend, That's what I think,
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even if it is about you. I mean also, I think she might
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be open to that too, because she has to know and maybe maybe I'm
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wrong that her kid is being a little rough, right, so maybe she'll
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be open to that. Yeah. No, I definitely agree with that.
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Are you like a therapist or what you said you is kind of what you
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do for a living. So I'm a behavior tech so I just work with
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kids that have like a harder time with their behaviors and their feelings. So
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yeah, oh not no therapist. I have not gone to school for many
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years. I mean, it sounds like you're definitely probably familiar with these sort
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of situations. So good to have an expert on the airth Thank you very
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much. Thanks, all right, we got a text, Amanda. We
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do the two moms need to have a conversation. If they're as good a
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friends as this woman says, then she needs to be able to have that
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open and clear conversation about boundaries with their kids, because the kids come first
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over their friendship. I hope that helped her because it is and I can
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see how it's easy to go, oh, I don't want to have that
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conversation, but you gotta. I mean, you've got to protect your kids.
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I think so. I think we're ready to make a final judgement here
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in the judgment zone. Talk to her, be honest. At the risk
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of your friendship. You just have to let her know how you feel.
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And you know, I think most of us do this or you overthink this
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situation. She's probably not going to be as upset like you're. You're probably
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just a sensitive and uncomfortable having in the conversation. Once she do it,
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it's like, all right, let's go have a mom mosa. We're good.
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Take in a minute in the morning. Ninety seven. Do you feel
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good about this? This guy was on an airplane. He rode online because
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at himself an interesting situation sitting in an aisle seat, and he paid for
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the aisle seat because he has a medical condition where he basically has to go
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to the bathroom a lot. Yep, and so easy access, right,
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Well, a pregnant woman approached him, and she said she needs to be
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near the bathroom because, well, she's pregnant. You've been pregnant twice.
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Yeah, a lot of bathroom breaks, I imagine. Well, especially yeah,
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once you start getting the pressure and you're ready to pop. Sometimes,
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if I got to go to the bathroom, I gotta go now. Yeah,
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So he said he did not agree to switch seats with her. He
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said, no, I mean I've got the medical condition. Yeah, Like
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I feel for you. You're pregnant, but as we all know, if
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there's a certain seat you'd like to sit in, you gotta buy the seat.
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That's very true for me anyway. So do you feel for her?
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Because then she got the flight attendants involved, which is super annoying. They
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refuse to step in and mediate in any way, and so she's upset.
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I'm sorry if if you want to be near the bathroom, he didn't pay
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for a seat. I guess your best bet is maybe just to go into
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the bathroom, take a seat, and lock the door and just stay there.
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And I get it, we're all guilty of just kind of winging it
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with all. We'll just see what happens. If it's gonna save me thirty
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forty bucks. Sweet. Sure, But this guy, this guy, you
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got a medical condition. Of course you're gonna need to be and you've you've
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paid for it for that reason, he's not being a tool. I don't
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care if he's got a medical condition or he's the healthiest man alive. If
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somebody asked me to switch seats, it's like a no the time. In
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fact, in fact, I sort of in a sick way welcome people asking
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because I love to be able to go. No, I paid for the
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seat. This is I want to sit here unless you got money on you.
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And guess what the price gone up since I paid for it. Okay,
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so what if you had bought a seat in aisle? It's a eighteen
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and there's a family in seveneen A so it's just it's one one seat difference.
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Don't care. But they want to sit with their kids, you won't.
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You won't. Oh, now they want to sit When they were booking,
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they didn't want to sit with their kids. It just they had three
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kids and it just didn't work. And going back to the bathroom thing,
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if you want to sit near the bathroom, like the cheapest seat you can
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get is the one that's like right next to the bathroom in the very back
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of the plane. I mean, it's like eight dollars, So why didn't
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you just get that? Because nobody wants to sit back there, because you
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got a bunch of people going in and out of the bathroom. So you
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buy your seat on every trip. No, I'll do this though sometimes if
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somebody if they don't know that, they don't know that. So if somebody
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asked me and they don't know, I didn't So even if it's a middle
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seat, I'm like, no, sorry, I paid for this because I
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want to sit in the middle. Somebody, though, I will say,
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we were just coming back from our trip in December, and Lauren and I
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like, on the way to wherever we're going, we'll always buy the seats
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to sitting next to each other because you know, you're excited, you want
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to be chatting. But on the way home from a vacation, no interest
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in talking. Why could you spend time with your wife? Now you don't
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want that's just my wife. If you and I went on trip, I
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would say we could sit next to each other on the way there, but
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on the way back, I have no interest in sitting by you if I
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can save myself sixteen dollars, but so we did. So anyway, We're
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on this allegiant flight coming home and we were so we got lucky, you
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know, cause you check in at the same time, you're usually close.
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So I was on one side of the aisle and she was on the other,
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and I'm in a middle seat, and so I happened to be sitting
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I'm in the window. So I happened to be sitting next to this elderly
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couple and I started chatting with them and I'm like, yeah, we're just
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coming back. We live here, blah blah. They lived in Grafton or
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something, and I mentioned that my wife was on the other siete and the
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guy was offended. The guy's like, why are you not sitting by your
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wife. I'm like, wow, you know, because I just spent a
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week with her. How are you possibly, after all these years, still
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sitting by yours? I can't believe it. So he insisted that we switched
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seat, that they switch seats so that I could sit next door. I'm
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like, really, sir, so you made elderly move. I literally insisted.
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I said, no, you don't have to, and he just was
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so adamant about it, like he felt like he felt like he was really
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saving the day. And I didn't want to be like, hey, dude,
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like truly, I'm fine. In fact, I'd rather be sitting in
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this window seat so I can lean my little head against it. Wow,
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what's wrong with you? What's wrong with you? He's just a judgy And
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I'm not judge. You are, No. I just I feel like you
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don't need to get people riled up. It's like, hey, what if
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it's easy for you, it's not affecting me. Take my seat. I
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don't care. No a man that's no life is too short to not get
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in salt on it. Yees. So they're saying the olive oil adds texture
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Thanks for the fun facts this morning. Put there's a lot. I mean,
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in four minutes, we just crammed it a lot of fun. Sure
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did all right, And hey, folks, we're just getting started. Like
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a man in the morning on Big Nuddy eight points. You know, when
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he meets somebody right away, even without knowing it, you're judging them.
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Everybody says, oh, don't be judging, but it's impossible not too.
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It's called subconsciously judging someone. And apparently for sure there's three things that this
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by I'm talking about a fancy title biological anthropologist, Helen Fisher says, we
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subconsciously judge people on quite the title I took anthropology in college. I think
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you had to the worst thing I've ever done. News flashya didn't have to.
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Not a chance that I take anthropology. Well, you also went to
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a community scho It is so not true. I went to Metropolitan State College
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of Denver, Colorado. Wasn't it in the mall? No, get out
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of here, no anyway. So this anthropology biological anthropologist said that the three
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things that you judge somebody on subconsciously right when you meet them. First of
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all, their teeth, Okay, I mean it is you look right at
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it and you Ever when you meet somebody is the worst thing when you have
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eye contact going and then you could tell they start glancing elsewhere and they're gonna
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lock in, like on your teeth or your hair, Like what are you
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looking at? Yes, there is somebody we work with that gives you the
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rundown. I mean, like head to toe while you're consistently talking and the
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whole time I'm like, you would think that I'm like a baseball player giving
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somebody things. It's like, okay, is my ear isn't my hair like
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you're sitting there like patting yourself down, like looking in your teeth, and
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then they walk out and you're like, I'm fine, were you just like
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looking at me very uncomfortable? Oh, they just jealous. It's just weird.
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That's just all well, your teeth apparently though, that's one you know.
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It is true people notice teeth a lot more than I do. I'm
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not one that notices teeth. Also, there's a lot of things I don't
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notice. People notice when people are wearing rings, for example, like oh,
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yeah they're married. I'm like, I couldn't have told you that.
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Yeah, yeah, ee, not something I pay attention to. Right Number
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Two. Subconsciously, the thing you judge people when you meet them is their
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grammar. I don't know how subconscious that is, I guess. So if
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it's obviously a ridden thing. If they're like, let's say, applying for
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a job, and you're reading a resume or an email and it's got some
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type was in it, immediately I'm gonna take you a little less seriously.
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I might be the one who doesn't notice the typos unless it it underlines it
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for me, so I might need the problem. But if I'm having a
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conversation mostly like oh, yeah, I've seen that, and I'll go,
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huh yeah. Number three, the thing you notice is somebody's confidence. That's
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definitely a subconscious one. I would never note, so I would never say,
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oh my gosh, did you did you notice the striking confidence on that
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guy? Yeah? But if you confidently say I seen that you have a
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good smile, it's like you start start to question yourself. I know,
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maybe that maybe that is the proper waces. What's something you noticed though?
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Right when you meet somebody? What somebody you judge them on? For me,
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it is eyes and eye contact instantly, if you're not giving me good
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eye contact and it's very uncomfortable, or you don't have like a smile,
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yeah, I cannot stand that. There's such a fine line though, of
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like too much eye contact and then not enough, and I'm definitely I definitely
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lean towards not enough. I don't even think about it sometimes, but I
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will, like I didn't even look that person in the eye once, Like
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right now, you just had that whole conversation. Everything you just said,
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you weren't looking at me. Well, and that's no. But that's weird
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because we're having a conversation right now, I feel like, and you're still
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not looking at me. I don't know, I do I ever, it
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was the only two were the only two people in this room. I can
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hear you just fine, and you can hear me. It's one thing if
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we're reading something or like taking note or multitasking, but the fact to I'm
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right now we're having you can't look at me. I got to these computer
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monitors. I got a lot to look at. Okay, and I know
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what you look like. I've already seen your teeth. I've already judged you
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on your grammar. I don't need to look at you. I noticed right
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away. Is somebody like their conversation? You know, if immediately you know
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what kind of person they are. If it's like, Okay, this is
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a person that's just gonna want to sit here and talk about them, right
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yep. And I can try as hard as I want to interject or the
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direction back and forth the conversation, but at the end of the day,
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they're only going to be interested in talking about them. The second I start
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sharing anything about me, you can see their eyes just it drains out of
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them any interested all They're like, well, I don't care. And then
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you're like they tried to small talk with you, like you you really you've
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given me I'm not yeah, nothing, No, I'm right over here back.
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I don't want to look at you. Why do you want me to
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look at you so much? It's just the fact that we're having a combo.
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This might start bothering me. I guess I've never really paid attention to
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how much you don't have icon. You know, some people do this thing
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in other rooms. Frasier on that show, he was in a different room
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as his co host. Maybe we ought to do that. Can we can
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we get a new arrangement and here take it from home, because that would
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be for start wearing sunglasses and you don't wear them. Like, get a
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minute in the morning, come get up on dig. If somebody jacks your
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lunch at work, that's so rich, it's totally out of bounds. This
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guy, though I wrote online, was having issues at work. Somebody kept
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stealing his lunch out of the breakroom fridge. So this is just bizarre to
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me. Okay, just wait, So my man goes to the doctor.
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This is unrelated to the food getting stolen, but apparently he's got a good
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vibe with his doctor because he was just chatting it up and he just happened
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to be complaining about the food getting stolen at work. Got it like a
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nice little small topic. Oh so what are you in for? Oh I'm
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sorry, doctor, I've had a tough day. Somebody stole my lunch.
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But I do have this wart on my foot if we could talk about it.
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So the doctor looks at him and says, oh, you're constipated then,
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and the guy goes, what, no, why, And the doctor
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said, well, you're constipated. I'm going to have to write you a
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prescription for some laxatives with instructions to quote, mix it in with your meal
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for maximum effect. And at that point he said he knew the plan.
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Huh, you get what I'm putting down here. Doctor, after hearing him
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complain about somebody stealing his food, had this brilliant idea. You know what,
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Oh my gosh, the doctor's in on a little like revenge. Yeah.
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Doctor said, well, here's what we'll do. Write you a prescription
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for some laxatives, put it in your food, and then we'll find out
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who the culprit is. So the guy goes, oh, yeah, well,
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you're right, doctor, I sure am constipated? Boy am I bad?
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Up? So he gets a prescription, does what the doctor told him
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to do, mixes it in with his lunch, puts it in the break
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room fridge, and waits. Doctor, I can't well, what do you
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know? The food goes missing again, this time though, he reports it
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to HR because not only did somebody steal his food, they've stolen his prescription,
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which it is apparently a felony. So now the HR is involved.
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Oh wait, so you weren't waiting to see who went to the bathroom you
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were? Well, they found out who. They must have used a camera.
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They find a culprit. It was a guy in a different department,
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obviously was not feeling well because he was full of laxatives. So then this
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guy tries to accuse the other dude whose lunch was of trying to poison him.
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The guy's like, no, I wasn't trying to poison you. I
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have a medical condition, a fake one nonetheless, that the doctor made up,
20:48
and his constipation. So apparently the guy got fired, he had to
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get a lawyer involved, and apparently he got convicted and the guy had to
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go do some community service. A roster and our person a lawyer, a
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sandwich. This is a lot a lot of players here. Oh it's your
21:07
favorite damn Lutch look. And everyone's like, oh, I want a doctor
21:11
like that. I don't know. This is not a good look for doctors.
21:15
Is this what's going on out there? That are the doctor and the
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lawyer in on this together? Well side, I'll scratch you back. I
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got another one coming your way, Todd. This one's constipated in the morning,
21:29
Big Naty eight point seven, No, Amanda Stills the sea. Let's
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see. I felt like it was a little harsh by saying this, But
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at the same time, there's something going on with Kanye and his wife Bianca
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that I'm just not okay with. He's parading her around as though she's a
21:45
trophy or like she should be on a leash and everything he says she does,
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it's that crazy. Did he have her on a leash like a week
21:52
ago? Maybe she had that thing around her neck, Maybe there was Maybe
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that's why I'm thinking about it. I truly I think, you know,
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God, we should go if it had done this research, I feel like
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he had a leash on her. Well, yesterday they were spotted coming out
22:03
of an establishment. And they were in this parking lot area and Kanye straight
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up looks at the paparazzi and he's like, all right, you go over
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here. We're gonna walk this way. I need you to keep it at
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like a forty five degree angle when we're walking here. So now you're just
22:18
setting up the paparazzi with how you want your photos. I mean, we
22:21
can't criticize them for everything. They're gonna fil me or shoot your picture.
22:23
Either way, you might as well get the right angle, run, hop
22:26
in the car and get out of there. I don't know. Okay,
22:29
now there's a stupid picture of you running awkwardly. I don't know. Nobody
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looks good running, that is true. Yeah, it's a Kanye I just
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I don't know. And that in her running, I mean, now you
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got well, the way she's been dressing, that'd be a disaster, it
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would be. And that she was wearing this shirt that was white and it
22:45
just said wet on it. I'm like, what what are we doing?
22:48
Is that a brand? I must be wet seal that's kind of gone.
22:52
But yeah I didn't say seal on it though, No man, rest in
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peace? What Seal. What a great store that used to be. What
22:59
did that shit done? That's out in the mall anymore? Am I crazy?
23:00
No, been a minute. I also haven't been able to shop there
23:04
in a lot of years. Why is that your band? You could be
23:08
raising the Seal from the T shirts? You devil. That's the reason.
23:17
That's the reason, all right. Jason Kelsey took Twitter yesterday and he said
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Buffalo is awesome. The energy contagious, such an incredible experience. I don't
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know if you saw all of this yet, but he ended up going.
23:30
He was tailgating beforehand, just chugging beers, having fun with everybody. We
23:33
had told you yesterday about this time when he had grabbed that Taylor Smith fan
23:37
and held her up so Taylor could see her because she had a sign with
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the Lion King. Yeah, so this is all, by the way,
23:42
Well he has his shirt off. Well, yesterday he put a screenshot up
23:47
of his mother in law sending him a text and he has her on the
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phone as Ma and it said Ellie said, Dad's boobs are showing just so
23:56
good. So you watch the TV. Also, Dad, what's going on
24:03
here? I asked for his brother Travis. He was interviewed after the game
24:06
and the person had said, like, your brother was shirtless. He goes,
24:08
my brother was shirtless, started giggling and said, not that. That
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doesn't surprise me one bit. I love that guy, and every time we're
24:15
not on the field together, we're always rooting for each other. It just
24:18
can't get enough of that. That's some good, wholesome brotherly love. Really,
24:22
And Justin Timberlake he did make an announcement yesterday he's going to release his
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first single, it's called Selfish on Thursday. His entire album Everything I thought
24:32
it was is not going to be released. I was right, not it.
24:37
I thought it was everything I thought it was. Well, we've been
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talking about this for two days, and I know I can say for sure
24:42
every other time you've said it, he said I was everything I thought,
24:47
because that's what we were saying that. I felt like the album was him
24:48
looking inward at himself and realizing that he thought he was one thing and turns
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out maybe he wasn't. So do we have a confirmation. Yeah, Justin
24:56
Timberlake presents everything I thought. No, it's not it? Is it?
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It? That's gonna be it? What? Oh, Amanda, what look
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at the egg on our face. It's amazing what a te'll do to an
25:12
entire story, changes everything everything. I thought it was, what is it
25:19
I said all these bad things about him? It could be so many things,
25:22
but I'm with you. I I just I feel like I need a
25:26
minute to apologize. So well, okay with this song is called selfish and
25:32
we're getting that when we're getting that on Thursday before he's on Jimmy Fallon,
25:36
and then on Saturday he'll obviously perform it because he'll be on Snela's the musical
25:41
guest here. I thought the whole thing was like kind of going to be
25:44
an apology, but I don't think he's sorry at all. Now. Yeah,
25:47
it'll be interesting to see what this album is because he's gone through a
25:49
lot. You keep for like everybody's talking about the Britney Spears stuff, but
25:53
there was also the Jessica Bielle like cheating accusations. There's been a lot.
25:57
I was so long ago though, like they've come along, they got multiple
26:02
kids. Now. I don't totally I don't think this is he shod have
26:03
a song on there called crimea River Part two. You know what, I
26:06
would love just a Good Dad album. What does that mean? I don't
26:10
know. Just like songs about his kids, no carve himself out a niche
26:15
just talks about his kids. Amanda in the Morning on Big I heard something
26:22
yesterday I wanted to bring up today in regards to parenting, because I know
26:25
you definitely strive to be a great, perfect parent, don't you. Yeah,
26:29
I'm sure, right, I mean that's a natural goal to have if
26:32
you get sure. So I'm listening to this podcast yesterday on accident. I
26:36
had just got done listening to the Pike and Amanda in the Morning podcast that
26:38
we post every day after the show yep, and then some you know,
26:41
when you're done with something, it just starts playing something else. Yeah,
26:44
and you were like, oh boy, oh boy, it's not us,
26:45
it's not Who are these yahoos? Well, they start talking about parenting.
26:49
They have this parenting expert on discussing why quote emotionally messy parents are the best
26:56
and what do you mean what do you mean emotionally messy? Pike? Well,
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these are parents who aren't perfect, right, who have issues of their
27:03
own right, and so their kids in turn. Well maybe at the time
27:07
you don't realize that, you know, you're probably thinking, oh, I
27:10
wish my parents were like so and sos who just seem to have it all
27:12
together and everything's perfect. But really, she says that they make kids,
27:18
you know, more resilient, more authentic, kids vulnerable in a good way.
27:22
People are able to share their emotions. They teach their kids empathy because
27:26
of the issues that their parents have gone through. And I was thinking,
27:27
you know what, that makes perfect sense, doesn't it totally? Because yeah,
27:32
if you I mean, I would not want my kids to not see
27:34
me cry. I don't want them to think that I'm like a Stepford wife
27:38
of like, oh my gosh, everything is perfect. So I get that.
27:41
Yeah, it's not always ice cream and bouncy houses just all day,
27:45
right, Yeah, yeah, of ice cream bouncy houses. No, it's
27:49
right. I mean thinking back to, like, you know, my childhood,
27:52
like love my parents and all, but you know, like there's definitely
27:55
things that made it not like just perfect. And I think back and I'm
27:57
like, you know, I think that sort of made me who I am,
28:00
for better or for worse. Right, Yeah, I mean we both
28:02
come from I don't even know you can say it broke parents. So there
28:07
was a lot of moments that were very tumultuous. You know, you're smooth
28:11
and you look back and you're like okay, But it also made me realize
28:15
it didn't I guess it probably made me realize like, hey, this is
28:18
how life can be. And they're still great parents, I mean everybody.
28:21
Yeah. Yeah. And when we say emotionally messy, not describing like you
28:25
know, situations of like abuse and you know there are there's a point right
28:29
where it's just we're just negative all around. Yeah, But I like just
28:33
the vulnerability and being authentic with your kids, like if you are you know,
28:37
if you lose somebody, it's like, okay, this is this is
28:40
what's happened, and being honest about it, you know. And we're in
28:42
that stage right now. Both of our kids have like really big feelings,
28:45
so it's like trying to go through all of that and not big feelings.
28:49
Hey, they'll just like they'll break down about stuff like they might want for
28:53
example, ye down, I want mom, I want a case adia.
28:59
Let's just say it's a case idea. You're like, okay, cool,
29:00
you just want a tortilla and cheese, and then it's like great, and
29:06
then it's like no, they don't want the tortilla, but they want the
29:08
cheese. But they want the tortilla and the cheese, but they want it
29:11
like right now, but they want it melted. But then if for some
29:15
reason it's melted too much, and then it's not, and then you want
29:17
to roll it, but they don't want it rolled, and then they want
29:18
it cut, and it's all of these things, and you're going, what
29:22
are you supposed to do? And you're trying to keep up, and then
29:26
all of a sudden, they don't want the casadia, so you throw it
29:27
away, and then they're in the garbage can gaining the casadia because they wanted
29:32
the casadia, believe it or not. And I just took you on a
29:37
big feeling roll emotional yeah, and that sounds emotionally messy. You sit there
29:41
the whole time with these big, deep breaths, and you you don't want
29:44
to show big feelings because at some point you kind of want to snap,
29:48
but you're like, just a case idea, Well, it sounds like your
29:49
daughter just wants a bowl of melted cheese