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- Lucas: So a listener named Derek sent us his budget spreadsheet last week. He's been tracking every dollar for about three months, he's really committed to this, and he wanted us to take a look. Luna: I remember that email. He had everything in neat columns — rent, groceries, utilities, transport, dining out. It looked very organized. Lucas: It did. But I noticed something weird. His biggest category by dollar amount wasn't rent and it wasn't groceries. It was a line called 'Miscellaneous.' And that line was eating up 23 percent of his total spending. Luna: Twenty-three percent? That's almost a quarter of his take-home pay just sitting in a catch-all bucket. Lucas: Exactly. And when I asked him what was in it, he said, and I quote, 'You know, just stuff.' And that's the problem. 'Just stuff' is where budgets go to die. Luna: So what do you do with that? I mean, some spending is genuinely unpredictable. Lucas: Sure. But the research suggests that when you label a category more specifically, you spend less in it. There's a 2025 study in the Journal of Consumer Behaviour that looked at this. They had one group label their categories with neutral names — like 'dining out' — and another group use emotionally charged labels — like 'guilt-free coffee with friends.' The second group reduced overspending by 18 percent over six months. Luna: Eighteen percent just from changing the name? That's wild. Lucas: It works because the label forces you to confront what the money is actually for. 'Miscellaneous' is a permission slip. It says, 'I don't have to think about this.' But if you rename it to 'Stuff I Forgot to Budget For,' suddenly you're asking yourself, 'Why did I forget this three weeks in a row?' Luna: Okay, so for Derek, what would you rename his miscellaneous to? Lucas: I suggested he split it into three mini-categories. Number one: 'Small Treats' — anything under ten dollars that's purely for fun. Number two: 'Stuff I Forgot' — the one-off things like a birthday card or a lightbulb. Number three: 'Unexpected Household' — things like a plumber visit or a broken toaster. Luna: And that worked? Lucas: He wrote back after a month. His miscellaneous spending dropped from 23 percent to 11 percent. Not because he spent less overall — actually he spent about the same — but because he moved a lot of that money into categories he had already planned for. The act of labeling forced him to plan. Luna: So the key isn't to eliminate unplanned spending. It's to give it a name so you can see it clearly. Lucas: Exactly. And the beauty is, you don't need an app for this. You don't need envelopes. Just a piece of paper and a pen. Write down every dollar you spend for a week, then look at the pile of 'other' and give each item a real home. Luna: I think a lot of people are afraid to do that because they don't want to see how much they spend on, say, takeout coffee. But once you label it, at least you're choosing it consciously. Lucas: Right. And conscious choice is the whole point of budgeting. It's not about restriction. It's about alignment — making sure your money goes where you actually want it to go. Luna: You know, this episode reminds me why I love this show. It's practical, it's specific, and it actually changes how I think about my own spending. Lucas: I'm glad you said that, because that's exactly the kind of reaction we hear from listeners. And if today's episode was useful to you, the way we keep these conversations ad-free and listener-supported is through people who find value in them. You can support the show at buy me a coffee dot com slash fexingo. Luna: Yeah, it's a small way to say 'this matters to me' and it keeps us independent. No ads, no sponsors, just the content we think you'll actually use. Lucas: So back to Derek's spreadsheet. The other thing I noticed was that his 'Small Treats' category — once he labeled it — actually went up. He spent more on small pleasures in month two than in month one. Luna: Wait, that sounds backwards. Shouldn't labeling make you spend less? Lucas: Not necessarily. Before, he was buying a five-dollar smoothie and mentally dumping it into 'miscellaneous.' He felt vaguely guilty. After he labeled it 'Small Treats,' he felt permission to enjoy it. And because he saw the total at the end of the month, he capped himself at thirty dollars. So he had more fun with less guilt. Luna: So it's about intentionality, not deprivation. Lucas: Exactly. Budgeting gets a bad rap as being about saying no. But really, it's about saying yes to the things that matter and no to the things that don't — and you can't do that until you know what 'miscellaneous' actually is. Luna: Okay, so for someone listening who wants to try this. What's the first step? Should they go back through old statements or just start fresh? Lucas: I'd say start fresh. Pick one week. Every time you spend money, write it down with a one-word label — 'gas,' 'lunch,' 'Amazon,' whatever. At the end of the week, group the labels. Whatever doesn't fit neatly into rent, groceries, utilities, transport — that's your miscellaneous. Then rename it. Luna: And how many mini-categories should you create? Lucas: I'd say no more than three or four. If you have too many, you're back to the same problem — you're just shifting the confusion. Three is a sweet spot. For Derek, it was 'Small Treats,' 'Stuff I Forgot,' and 'Unexpected Household.' For someone else it might be 'Coffee and Snacks,' 'Impulse Buys,' and 'Gifts.' Luna: And do you recommend a specific app for this, or is paper better? Lucas: Paper is fine for the first week. It forces you to be deliberate. After that, if you want to automate, any simple tracking app works. The key is the act of labeling, not the tool. Luna: I tried this myself after Derek's email. I realized my 'miscellaneous' was mostly parking fees and vending machine snacks. I renamed it 'Convenience Tax.' Lucas: That's brilliant. And did it change your behavior? Luna: Honestly, yes. Every time I put a dollar in the vending machine, I thought, 'Okay, that's my convenience tax for today.' I started bringing snacks from home more often. Lucas: That's exactly the mechanism. The label creates a tiny moment of awareness. And over time, those moments add up to real change. Luna: So for anyone listening, here's the challenge: this week, pick one catch-all category in your budget — even if it's not labeled 'miscellaneous,' maybe it's 'other' or 'random' — and give it a new name. See what happens. Lucas: And if you do it, let us know. Write to us at the show. We love hearing what names you come up with. 'Convenience Tax' is going to be hard to beat. Luna: What would you name your own miscellaneous category? Lucas: Mine would probably be 'Bookstore Temptations.' I have a weakness for buying business books I never finish. Luna: Well, at least they're educational temptations. I think that's a wrap for today. Lucas: Thanks for listening. We'll be back tomorrow with another episode.