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Bonus - My #1 Tip for Generators & Manifesting Generators · Unshakeable with Human Design - A Human Design For Business Podcast

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  Welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, the show dedicated to
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  helping entrepreneurs use human design to shift from hustle to
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  flow without sacrificing results.
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  Come here to become an unshakeable human and build an unshakeable business
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  according to your human design.
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  I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
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  Hello and welcome.
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  It's Nicole and I wanted to take a minute to just introduce the episode
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  that you're about to listen to.
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  This is one of our most requested episodes and certainly one
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  of our most requested topics.
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  This is one that we did a while back, but it is so relevant now if you're a
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  generator or a manifesting generator.
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  I don't just.
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  Go into how you really get in touch with your sacral energy.
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  I actually give one of my favorite tips for getting a connection with your sacral.
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  So I'm really excited for you to dive into this episode.
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  It is one of my favorite.
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  So thank you so much and enjoy the episode.
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  Hi, and welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, everybody.
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  I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
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  We're here, just the two of us today on a Monday morning.
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  And this came up in a coaching call where I was advising one of my clients how
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  to start to tune into her sacral again.
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  And so if you are a generator or a manifesting generator, I'm
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  about to share my favorite tip for tuning into your sacral response.
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  So this episode is totally geared to you.
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  So the biggest problem that I see with generators, with manifesting generators,
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  I'm going to say generators probably throughout the rest of this episode.
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  So just know that I'm speaking for this entire episode, anybody who has a
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  sacral defined which is going to be a generator or a manifesting generator.
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  Okay, so the biggest problem that I see with a lot of generators and
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  manifesting generators is they don't know what their sacral feels like.
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  They think they know, but they don't.
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  And part of the reason for that is that they haven't really tuned into it.
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  They're still in their minds.
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  And a big part of that problem is that they haven't really proven
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  to themselves that it works.
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  So it's easy for the mind to override it.
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  Because we say things like, I want to follow sacral response, I feel
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  like I'm following my strategy and authority, but I still am frustrated,
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  I'm still finding myself in all of these situations where I don't think
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  my energy is being used very well.
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  And part of the reason is that what we're doing with strategy and authority
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  and with human design, is we're taking the power away from the mind.
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  And the mind is very powerful.
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  It's where our limiting beliefs live.
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  This is why we stay in patterns that do not serve us and serve the goals, the
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  dreams, and the vision that we have And our brain is designed to keep us safe.
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  So our mind takes over, and we're very used to following the mind.
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  We're very used to logically making decisions.
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  And human design says, the mind is a tool.
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  It is not a decision making tool.
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  The mind is here for conceptualizing.
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  The mind is here for inspiring and processing information.
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  But the mind is not here to make decisions.
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  Not for anybody.
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  Now, that's a big shift for us to make.
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  And even though you might say I know that strategy and
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  authority will lead me somewhere.
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  I think human design is definitely powerful.
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  I've seen it work.
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  I see the truth in it.
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  Even if you're saying those things, your subconscious mind might
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  be saying, don't believe that.
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  That's not safe.
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  You're gonna follow your gut?
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  No, trust me.
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  So that's where the shoulds and the have tos all come in.
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  'Cause your brain is telling you, I have to do that.
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  Even though you're sacral is saying, don't you dare do that.
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  I don't want to do that.
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  I'm not going to help you do that.
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  And then we end up in frustration.
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  So, what ends up happening is they don't follow and trust
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  sacral because they haven't proven to themselves that it works.
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  That good things happen when generators follow their sacral.
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  Good things happen when you work with your sacral on rather than with it off.
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  They might have had glimpses of it here and there, but not
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  a true, proven, I get it now.
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  That takes experimentation, that takes practice.
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  And until you do that, following strategy and authority to your mind,
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  and your subconscious mind that is still running the show, it is still
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  saying that following sacral is just something that someone told you to do.
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  It's not really proven.
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  We don't really believe it.
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  We haven't really taken the power away from the mind.
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  In order to do that, we have to actually take it away.
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  We have to actually follow something different and prove
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  to ourselves that this works.
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  So if you're a mani gen who is feeling frustrated or stuck, if you're feeling
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  like you are busy all the time but you don't have the results that you're
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  looking for, or if you feel like you should be further along in your journey,
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  if you're saying any of those things, or you're just feeling like, I think
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  I'm doing it, but I'm not getting the benefit, then this episode is for you.
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  And at least test, because human design is not a belief system.
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  You don't have to subscribe to a belief.
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  You just have to do it.
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  You just have to try it, and you're going to find that once you do it,
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  you don't want to do it the other way.
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  And it's something that you prove to yourself, not necessarily a
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  dogma that you have to believe in.
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  You don't have to believe in where it comes from.
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  I don't care if you think that it's your sacral.
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  Just start tuning into your body and let it guide you, is what we want to get to.
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  So today, if you resonated with anything I just said, today's
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  episode was made exactly for you.
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  Welcome!
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  Hi!
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  You're gonna love it.
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  I promise.
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  Because like I said, this is my favorite tip.
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  I sometimes forget some of these things, they go in my programs and
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  until someone asks me or they say that they have this problem, like, there's
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  one video created specifically on this.
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  So if you're in my programs, that video is there for you
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  to go through in the content.
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  But I forget sometimes that it's sitting there until someone asks me
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  or tells me that they're frustrated and that's what this came from.
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  One of my clients was talking about being frustrated and how she was feeling,
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  and feeling like she's following her sacral, but she's really busy and she's
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  pouring her energy into other things and she's ending up in frustration.
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  So I gave her this assignment because she's going on vacation and I was like,
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  this is a perfect time for you to do this.
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  So before we start and we go into the actual tip, what I do want to call out
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  is that we have a new free guide for you.
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  you have, we have a free guide for you.
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  It's called your X Factor by Design Guide.
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  And so we put it together into a little PDF for you.
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  All one word.
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  No dash or anything in there necessary.
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  can download it right there.
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  Anyway, on with the tip, okay?
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  So, most of the time, the reason we don't follow sacral and our mind takes over, at
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  the beginning, I touched on it, is that we have so many shoulds and have tos, we
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  have so many obligations, that we end up feeling like we can't follow what feels
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  good, that we have to do what we should.
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  This person needs me.
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  I have to do this.
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  First of all, count how many times a day you say that.
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  I have to do this, I have to do that.
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  Do you?
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  Hmm, probably not.
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  But, life gets in the way.
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  There are obviously sometimes things that we do have to do.
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  You've got to pick your kid up from school.
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  You have to make dinner.
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  There are all of these things.
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  Now, are there better ways that you could do it that are more efficient?
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  Possibly, we can look into that, but that's not what today is about.
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  Really, we're tackling the problem of obligation that gives you the
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  mental out to say, I'm not going to follow my gut in this instance.
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  I'm going to bypass my strategy, bypass my authority, and I'm going
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  to do the thing I should do instead of the thing that feels right.
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  So this is my answer to that.
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  And it's called scheduling yourself a sacral day.
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  Now, I try to have at least a portion of one every week, where I am only
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  following sacral yeses and sacral no's.
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  So the way that you do this, and not have those shoulds, have tos, and
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  other obligations get in the way, is you don't want to do this on a
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  day where you have a full calendar.
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  Because you can't really follow sacral, necessarily, the whole day if you have
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  a bunch of things that are scheduled.
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  You gotta show up.
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  I get it.
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  So don't do that.
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  My client was going on vacation, and I told her, I've got something for you.
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  I have a little assignment for you.
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  So if you're going on vacation, this is a wonderful thing to do.
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  This is also a great thing to do if I have two days on my calendar.
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  That I try not to book things.
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  Now sometimes I have to catch something in one of them.
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  That's why I have two of them.
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  I actually technically have three.
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  I have two days that I take calls and then I take these other three days.
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  On Mondays I have some things but not a lot, and then Wednesdays and
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  Fridays I try to have nothing or as close to nothing as possible.
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  And the reason I do that is then I can do what I need to do.
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  And sometimes that is, I block out either the whole day and I do a sacral
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  day, or I'll do a block of time.
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  But nobody's looking for me, I don't have any obligations, I don't need to do
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  anything, so I'll block out that time like you would an appointment, like you would
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  something that you had to show up for, and then you only do what sacral says yes to.
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  And you don't do anything that sacral does not say yes to.
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  And if it's not a hell yes, it's a no for right now.
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  And see what happens in those moments of waiting.
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  See how much momentum you build for your day.
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  What do you feel like doing?
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  What do you suddenly have energy for that has nothing to
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  do with what it started with?
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  Where does this trail of uh huhs and uh uhs take you?
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  It is so interesting.
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  I promise you, if you do this regularly, you'll really
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  tune into what it feels like.
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  First of all, you will tune in, you'll be like, I know what an uh huh feels like.
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  I know what it feels like to really be excited.
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  I know what it feels like to really feel a yes.
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  And I know what it feels like to have a no, and I know what it feels like
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  for it to be somewhere in between.
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  And I know what it feels like to be in between and not be sure and wait.
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  Or, sometimes we get it wrong.
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  You gotta give yourself some space to be like, I'm not gonna get this
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  right, it's not gonna be perfect.
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  It's an experiment.
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  You have to be willing to let an experiment fail in order to see
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  how it can succeed in the future.
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  So, you start to check your findings.
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  When I would work out with a trainer, he would show me moves and he would have
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  me do all sorts of things, but one of my greatest assets with having him there was
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  he could tell me when my form was off.
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  And if he showed me where to hold my leg or turn my body, I
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  couldn't remember that necessarily.
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  But what I could remember was what it felt like.
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  I had muscle memory of what it felt like to get it wrong, and I had muscle memory
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  of what it felt like to get it right.
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  This is the same thing.
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  You need to experiment with it so you can feel what it feels like to have
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  the yes, have the no, have the maybe.
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  And then It's valuable for you to know that what happens when
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  I'm wrong and I follow it.
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  What does that feel like?
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  Where does that lead me?
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  You'll start to see the benefit of following it when you see where it leads
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  you and how much energy it gives you back.
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  Because remember sacral is giving you energy when you're
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  using its energy properly.
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  It will make more and more energy for you.
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  When you push against its power, and it tells you no, and you do it
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  anyway, you are draining its power.
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  That's why you are frustrated, that's why things feel hard, that's why you
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  end up tired at the end of the day, and like your sleep did nothing for you.
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  This is the difference.
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  I promise you, you will see significant changes if you start doing this regularly.
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  So, let me know what you thought about this episode.
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  Thank you for being here, for making it all the way to the
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  end of this episode with me.
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  first become an unshakeable human.
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