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Episode 24 - You Minding Your Own Business When It Come to Playing Chest And Not Checkers? · You Minding Your Own Business

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  Speaker 1: h A dot M A r I A M A
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  Speaker 1: zero one at gmail dot com. A little about me.
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  Speaker 1: I am a certified recovery and healing coach. It's all
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  Speaker 1: about helping people on their paths, their purpose, and their
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  Speaker 1: journeys to a new and better you through self discovery.
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  Speaker 1: I'm all about helping people to be the best version
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  Speaker 1: of themselves when it comes to healing and recovery. This
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  Speaker 1: particular podcast is all about helping people when it comes
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  Speaker 1: to you minding your own business and focusing on yourself. Now,
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  Speaker 1: I'm also gonna be coinciding this with TikTok Live because
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  Speaker 1: they've never heard me do my podcast. So we're gonna
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  Speaker 1: carry on and I'm gonna bring them in right quickly.
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  Speaker 1: So you also can hear my podcast on Sprinkle dot com.
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  Speaker 1: You can also hear it on iHeartRadio, Google, Amazon. You
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  Speaker 1: A little bit about me. I am a certified recovery
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  Speaker 1: and healing coach as well as a mental health practitioner. Now,
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  Speaker 1: today's topic is we're gonna be talking about on my
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  Speaker 1: podcast because TikTok is just coming in. Oh, for those
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  Speaker 1: of you on TikTok, I'm actually doing a podcast live. Actually,
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  Speaker 1: I'm assually doing my podcast so y'all get to hear
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  Speaker 1: me do my podcast actually on Live for Change. But anyway,
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  Speaker 1: today we're gonna be talking about you minding your own
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  Speaker 1: business when it comes to letting go of the things
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  Speaker 1: that do not serve you and minding your own business
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  Speaker 1: as far as what pays you. Now, I've been doing
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  Speaker 1: the Country Wayne skits for quite some time, and I've
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  Speaker 1: been talking about them from different perspectives, and I decided
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  Speaker 1: to use this platform to use these skits as examples
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  Speaker 1: of why people need to mind their own business. Now,
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  Speaker 1: minding your own business is not exactly easy, considering everybody
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  Speaker 1: seem to be in yours. Now. I understand that you'll
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  Speaker 1: see a lot of people and they're very successful, and
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  Speaker 1: we see all these celebrities and they're doing very well,
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  Speaker 1: and it's to the point where we're sitting up here
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  Speaker 1: and we're jealous of these people, envious of these people.
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  Speaker 1: You got channel holders that are be on here doing content,
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  Speaker 1: and yet you got people coming into your platforms and
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  Speaker 1: saying all kinds of things. You could be just you
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  Speaker 1: could be getting ready to get married and your sister's
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  Speaker 1: jealous of you because you're getting married. Or give me
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  Speaker 1: a situation where your home, where the homeboys and your
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  Speaker 1: girlfriends don't want you married, and they put you in
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  Speaker 1: these positions where you end up losing your spouse. Now,
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  Speaker 1: the reason why recovery is one of the most hardest
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  Speaker 1: things to do because we've been taught to focus on
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  Speaker 1: everybody else except ourselves, focusing on what everybody's doing except
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  Speaker 1: what it is that we're supposed to be doing. Like,
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  Speaker 1: for example, we get on social media and we stroll, stroll, stroll,
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  Speaker 1: stroll constantly, and instead of us just focusing on doing
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  Speaker 1: something productive, we're on social media strolling all day. We're
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  Speaker 1: worried about what the celebrities doing and being in somebody's business.
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  Speaker 1: I'll give you example. You remember the girl that was
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  Speaker 1: on Love is Blind, right, and y'all remember she was
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  Speaker 1: She was engaged to Clay and they didn't get they
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  Speaker 1: didn't end up getting together. Well, she's now engaged to
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  Speaker 1: the guy that was on the the English in England
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  Speaker 1: version of Love is Blind and now she's engaged to him. Congratulations, girl,
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  Speaker 1: I'm happy for you now mind you, I've seen it.
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  Speaker 1: I'm happy for him.
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  Speaker 2: Congratulated, said you go girl, and get the pushing.
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  Speaker 1: But the first thing everybody brought up was klaang, What
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  Speaker 1: does Claig got to do with this girl's engagement? Clay
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  Speaker 1: ain't got nothing to do with it. Everybody talking about
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  Speaker 1: somebody need go check on claim check on Clay for way,
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  Speaker 1: He's the one that made the choice not to be
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  Speaker 1: with the girl and now she's moved on. Now she
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  Speaker 1: got the ring and the man that she's happy. Don't
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  Speaker 1: what how do they mean? Now? I do want to
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  Speaker 1: know how they meant. I love I love a good
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  Speaker 1: love story, I really do. I love a good love story.
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  Speaker 1: So I would love to hear how they met. But
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  Speaker 1: it's telling people just saying congratulations. It's all this other
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  Speaker 1: stuff that ain't got nothing to doing nothing. Well, I
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  Speaker 1: don't know, but you mindy your own business means I
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  Speaker 1: see it. I congratulate him, and that's it. Ain't nothing
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  Speaker 1: else to be said. They said it's summer walk, about
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  Speaker 1: to be pregnant again and about to have another set
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  Speaker 1: of twins. I just heard it kept on going, and
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  Speaker 1: that's it, because what am I gonna say about it?
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  Speaker 1: If that girl want to keep having all these babies
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  Speaker 1: that she gotta take care of, have ad it with
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  Speaker 1: three of them? Baby, that is have had it.
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  Speaker 2: Who am I to say something about it? That's her life,
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  Speaker 2: that's what.
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  Speaker 1: She want to do. I don't care bigcause it ain't
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  Speaker 1: my child. It ain't me or anybody associated with me.
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  Speaker 1: So I don't care. Because she the one got to
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  Speaker 1: deal with all them kids. I don't, so it ain't
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  Speaker 1: dont matter me. But all of this is being jealous
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  Speaker 1: of somebody else's life. Why all of this? You hold
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  Speaker 1: on to emotions while the other person's moved on without
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  Speaker 1: You don't even matter. At this point, people arguing me
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  Speaker 1: to the ground about Amber to count you Wayne Skits.
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  Speaker 1: And I said that there's a guy that she rented
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  Speaker 1: a house to and he asked to take her out
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  Speaker 1: on a lunch date or breakfast date. The first thing
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  Speaker 1: I heard.
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  Speaker 2: Is she she's getting a divorce.
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  Speaker 1: She's okay. Let me first start by saying this, the
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  Speaker 1: fact that she should have it's a double edged sword
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  Speaker 1: in this situation. And as a life coach, I tell
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  Speaker 1: people time is gonna continue to move while you sit still.
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  Speaker 1: So are you sitting here still in your feeling, still
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  Speaker 1: calling this man your husband? This man is when another
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  Speaker 1: female has got another baby, another baby, you need to
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  Speaker 1: stop calling him your husband. He's no longer your husband.
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  Speaker 1: Y'all have no emotional attachment the minute that he's slept
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  Speaker 1: with her. He didn't have no more attachment to you
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  Speaker 1: when you slept with Wayne. So at the end of
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  Speaker 1: the day, they don't need to be together. That's not
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  Speaker 1: your husband to then she's talking to her sister, right,
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  Speaker 1: and she still keeps saying, my husband, girl, he's not
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  Speaker 1: your husband. The girl the man. When when he cheated
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  Speaker 1: on you did not go to your house. He went
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  Speaker 1: straight to her house and has been there and has
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  Speaker 1: not been home to talk to you. And then when
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  Speaker 1: when he came, you didn't give him a chance to
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  Speaker 1: talk to you, And then y'all lost the baby. And
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  Speaker 1: a lot of people don't understand what I mean when
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  Speaker 1: I say move on. Moving on doesn't necessarily mean that
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  Speaker 1: you gotta jump into another relationship. But you don't know
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  Speaker 1: when God gonna bring you your blessings. You don't know
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  Speaker 1: when God is gonna say, you know what, let me
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  Speaker 1: bring her her husband, you know what, Let me bring
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  Speaker 1: him a new job. You know what, Let me build
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  Speaker 1: the business and do everything else to pay you. You
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  Speaker 1: don't know when God gonna bring you something. So then
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  Speaker 1: you don't know when God gonna bring you something. Then
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  Speaker 1: you don't know when it's coming. Hei, y'all. So when
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  Speaker 1: you don't know when something's coming, and then you just
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  Speaker 1: gonna sit up here and say, oh the wait. So
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell a story. There's a story that somebody
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  Speaker 1: told on YouTube. And this story sticks with me even
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  Speaker 1: to this day. It just it just sticks with me.
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  Speaker 1: And the story goes like this. There was a man
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  Speaker 1: or a woman that was their car was stuck, and
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  Speaker 1: it was stuck. I'm gonna say, quickstand stuck in quicksand
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  Speaker 1: first person comes says, can I help you get out?
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  Speaker 1: And here that person says, no, I'm waiting on God.
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  Speaker 1: Second person comes help you out. Now I'm waiting on God.
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  Speaker 1: Third person comes help you out. No, I'm waiting on God.
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  Speaker 1: You wit on God to do what? So now you're dead?
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  Speaker 1: Run alive, that's you say. And so you're on your
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  Speaker 1: way to heaven and you get to God and God
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  Speaker 1: is like what are you doing? And you're like, well,
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  Speaker 1: I prayed that you come save my life and you
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  Speaker 1: didn't come save my life. I sent three people to
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  Speaker 1: help you. You mean to tell me you didn't take
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  Speaker 1: the help I gave you. You didn't let them help you, no,
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  Speaker 1: because I was waiting on you. What makes you think
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  Speaker 1: I can come? How do you know I didn't come
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  Speaker 1: in these forms to come get you. What I learned
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  Speaker 1: from that is because of your feelings, You're gonna miss
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  Speaker 1: your blessings because of your feelings, because of distractions, because
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  Speaker 1: you're doing things that's going against the path that God
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  Speaker 1: put you on, and that's why you stuck. And the
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  Speaker 1: one thing about a life life coaching that I tell
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  Speaker 1: people is stop and stuff. You can't You can't afford
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  Speaker 1: to be stagnant, You can't afford to be in your feelings. Howney,
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  Speaker 1: get over your feelings and just keep on so you
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  Speaker 1: can't can do now Here's what I learned. When I
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  Speaker 1: go through something in relationships. Yeah I'm gonna cry, It's
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  Speaker 1: it's normal to cry. And yeah I'm gonna be upset
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  Speaker 1: for a little bit, but by thirty days, I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: be over. Matter of fact, i'ma be over when you
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  Speaker 1: walk out the door, to be honest, because that's where
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  Speaker 1: I'm at at this point. When you when you leave,
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  Speaker 1: you're gonna take yourself right along with you, cause I'm
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  Speaker 1: I'm not dealing with it, so you can go. I
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  Speaker 1: don't care go and leave, because see what I do
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  Speaker 1: when I find out somebody cheating. I ain't gonna say nothing.
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna act like everything's okay, but while while I'm
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  Speaker 1: while I'm processing it, I ain't gonna tell you nothing
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  Speaker 1: until I'm ready to leave. Then, and when the least
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  Speaker 1: is up, I'm gonna go ahead on and stack up
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  Speaker 1: my money. I'm gonna go ahead and do what I
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  Speaker 1: need to do because I'm move in silence. And then
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna drop you like a bad heavy and call
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  Speaker 1: it a day. And when I walk out, my feelings
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  Speaker 1: for you gonna walk out right along with it, because
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  Speaker 1: I'm not holding on to any negative feelings towards any
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  Speaker 1: negative person. I just ain't. I ain't even got feelings
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  Speaker 1: towards my family at all, And some people like you
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  Speaker 1: ain't got no I have no feelings towards them. So
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  Speaker 1: let me break down the difference between emotional, intelligent feelings
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  Speaker 1: and people whose feelings run them up. There are levels
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  Speaker 1: to feelings, and there are twelve different levels of feelings.
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  Speaker 1: Mine don't go no further than five, and mine go
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  Speaker 1: to ten. You ain't gonna be here and mine go
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  Speaker 1: to ten. I don't. I don't fight. I don't, I
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  Speaker 1: don't fight at all. I'm just gonna end your life
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  Speaker 1: if I get that far. And because I know i'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna I know that my mind. When I hit ten,
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna seriously hurt you. I ain't gonna let myself
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  Speaker 1: get that far. So being that I know my tolerance,
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  Speaker 1: because I can tolerate a lot, I can deal with
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  Speaker 1: a lot, but when I get to ten, I hate
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  Speaker 1: it for you. If I start crying, you might want
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  Speaker 1: to run and get away from me because the amount
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  Speaker 1: of red I see, because all I'm gonna see is
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  Speaker 1: red when I look at you, and I'm gonna give
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  Speaker 1: you ten seconds to get away from me. Because that's
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  Speaker 1: why before I talked to people. I will go ahead
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  Speaker 1: and process it. I will go ahead and go to
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  Speaker 1: the gym. I will go ahead on and do everything
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  Speaker 1: else except confront you. I am not gonna confront you
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  Speaker 1: while I'm in my feelings. I'm gonna confront you. Matter
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  Speaker 1: of fact, I'm not even gonna confront you. I'm just
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  Speaker 1: gonna pack up and leave. Now, that's what recovery looked like.
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  Speaker 1: Recovery is I don't want to have a conversation. I
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  Speaker 1: don't care why you did it. I just won't leave.
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  Speaker 1: I want out the relationship. I won't out of it completely,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm gone. That's just it on that because the
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  Speaker 1: reason you did what you did was because you wanted
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  Speaker 1: to do it, not because you had to, not because
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  Speaker 1: somebody put a gun on your head. You did it
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  Speaker 1: because you wanted to. You did it because nobody was
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  Speaker 1: there to stop you. You did it because you saw
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  Speaker 1: what you wanted, you went after it, you got it.
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  Speaker 1: But then you came home, looked me in my face
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  Speaker 1: and act like it didn't even matter to you that
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  Speaker 1: you did what you did and didn't even have a
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  Speaker 1: dc to come to me and say, you know what,
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  Speaker 1: I screwed up. I did something I should have done. No,
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  Speaker 1: because you don't want to do the consequences of it.
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  Speaker 1: So you want me to stick around because you want
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  Speaker 1: me to be a seat filler, Captain save Oh, build
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  Speaker 1: a band of Belda Doll. You want me to go
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  Speaker 1: through whoops and bounds for you to love and lack
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  Speaker 1: appreciate value, wanting need it to be a part of something,
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  Speaker 1: to prove something, to validate my to validate myself and
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  Speaker 1: accept be accepted and know you know my words. No,
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  Speaker 1: so when you are recovered fully you don't care if
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  Speaker 1: you wanna be with out the winning by all means,
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  Speaker 1: go ahead, but you will not touch me. You go
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  Speaker 1: ahead and do whatever you want to. But it ain't
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  Speaker 1: got nothing to do with me. Were still gonna be cool.
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  Speaker 1: But sex is obtained. It's obtained, so it ain't no
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  Speaker 1: longer giving people leverage. Now it's oh am, I supposed
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  Speaker 1: to be mad because you messed around with another one.
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  Speaker 1: Because this is what I've learned about the forty eight
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  Speaker 1: laws of power, is that everything is about leverage. So
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  Speaker 1: for those of y'all on TikTok, you're gonna learn the
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  Speaker 1: forty eight laws of power and how to use it correctly.
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  Speaker 1: So if on both of my platforms, we're gonna do
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  Speaker 1: some training today because we're gonna talk about the fact
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  Speaker 1: of how to deal with negative people and how to
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  Speaker 1: move Okay, now, the first thing you gonna do when
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  Speaker 1: you find out whatever these people did is you gonna woolsaw.
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  Speaker 1: You're gonna you can You're just gonna sit there for
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  Speaker 1: a minute and you're just gonna inhale and exhale, and
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  Speaker 1: then you're gonna you're gonna try to process it, first
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  Speaker 1: of all, just the initial shuck of it off, and
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  Speaker 1: then you're gonna ask yourself, do I really wanna get
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  Speaker 1: mad about this? Or do I just wanna walk out?
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  Speaker 1: Do I really wanna hear an explanation of don't? Then
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  Speaker 1: what you gonna do? Because you done been here before.
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  Speaker 1: You gonna cry because this person told you they were
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  Speaker 1: never gonna hurt you, and they were never gonna do
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  Speaker 1: this to you, and they were never gonna do that
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  Speaker 1: to you, and they did it anyway. They still did
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  Speaker 1: it anyway. They still hurt you anyway, they still lie
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  Speaker 1: to betray you anyway. So now you're think, in the
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  Speaker 1: back of your mind, let me go ahead on and cry,
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  Speaker 1: this's out. I You cry, and you cry, which is normal,
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  Speaker 1: and you go through all these different phases. But then
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  Speaker 1: you think about it, what would be the point of
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  Speaker 1: me getting upset. I've been here before. I prepped myself
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  Speaker 1: just in case, and now I'm going to walk out.
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  Speaker 1: So you pack your stuff and you leave and don't
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  Speaker 1: even have a conversation, and then you text the person
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  Speaker 1: and you tell them it's over, change your phone number,
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  Speaker 1: move on. That's how recovery people deal with it. Recovery
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  Speaker 1: people don't want to have a conversation with anybody that
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  Speaker 1: portrays them. They just don't. They don't want to talk
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  Speaker 1: to you. They don't even want to hear you speak
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  Speaker 1: your name. It's just like this song till you do
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  Speaker 1: me right. I don't even want to talk to you.
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  Speaker 1: I don't even want to hear you speak my name
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  Speaker 1: till you do me right. Only wrong is gonna come
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  Speaker 1: to you. Yeah, only good is gonna come to you.
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  Speaker 1: Change your ways until you change your evoys. That's how
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  Speaker 1: I look at shout out to apposent, mm hmm. We
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  Speaker 1: ain't got nothing to talk about. I don't even want
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  Speaker 1: to talk to you on here nothing. You don't exist
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  Speaker 1: to me because it ain't no, it ain't no getting,
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  Speaker 1: it ain't no payback. It's I'm packing my stuff and
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  Speaker 1: I'm leaving. I'm not worrying about what you got from me.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not worrying about none of that because I've been here.
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  Speaker 1: I've been here, so yeah, I'm gonna be upset, and
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  Speaker 1: yes I'm gonna be emotional, but out in front of
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  Speaker 1: that person, I ain't because now the only thing I'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna do is walk away, and that's it.
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  Speaker 2: We have nothing to talk about.
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  Speaker 1: Because if I told you about my past and I
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  Speaker 1: told you what I went through, and you turn around
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  Speaker 1: and you hurt me, Oh you got to go, you
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  Speaker 1: gotta go, you gotta go, you have to go, and
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  Speaker 1: that's just it on that. So I want people to
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  Speaker 1: understand that in the forty Laws of Power, it's about leverage.
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  Speaker 1: I need everybody to understand this leverage. If you feed
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: into negativity and try to get payback, you lose leverage.
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: If you go and sleep with somebody else, you lose leverage.
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: You don't have leverage. Now there are times where you
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: think leverage is doing something behind somebody's back. Nope, you
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: ain't got leverage. M you a coward that ain't leverage.
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: That's being a coward. Because if you can't do any
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: fron in the person phase, then you a pump. You're
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: a bump. I don't do nothing fun enough about in
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: front of about nobody's behind anybody's back. I will do
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: it right smack dab in front of your face big
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: as I can. And when I do it, I'm gonna
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: make sure you can't hurt me what I do and
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: best leave. If I do this, that's because i don't
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: want nothing to do with you. And because I'm done
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: point period. I'm cutting. I'm cutting all times. If I
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: sleep with another man, I'm gonna come to you. I'm
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: gonna tell you I did. I'm just gonna pack my
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: stuff and you're gonna, man, why are you packing? Because
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: I slept with another man and there is no point
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: of going through this. I'm just sleeping. There is no
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: me doing anything behind your back. If I did something,
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: I will come flat out and tell you, yeah, I
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: did it. M M. I sure did. And because like
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: I said, I'm not I don't do nothing behind somebody back.
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: I will do it in front of your face. Because
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: I'm done.
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: Nobody hurt me.
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: I'm good now, I'm on my podcast. That's what y'all wonder.
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: We're talking about your mind and your own business when
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: it comes to letting go of what was so being
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: the fact that I'm that type of person all my exes.
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: No, I'm not for play.
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: Play all my exes. No, you can be with another woman.
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: But here's the thing, I still got leverage because it's
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: gonna hurt you more than another man being between my legs,
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: and it's gonna be me being pissed off about you
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: doing it. You already did it, So in the back
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: of your mind, you gotta worry about whinhm I gonna
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: pull my get out of jail free card. You gotta
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: think about every time I walk out the door. You
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: gotta worry about if I'm gonna be with another man.
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: Just the fact that's gonna be in your brain. Leverage,
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: just the fact that you being something wrong and I
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: can forever hold it off your head. Leverage. Leverage. Y'all
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: don't understand the importance of leverage.
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: I ain't got to do with you, then, I sure don't.
• 23:06
  Speaker 2: But just know it's possible.
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: Do you know? It hurts people more when they know
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: that it's possible for you to do something wrong. Just
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: the thought of somebody knowing that you could do something possible.
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: It's gonna piss that person off because they have no
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: idea what you're gonna do. So you hold leverage, because
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: you hold the power because you ain't done nothing. You
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: ain't done nothing.
• 23:36
  Speaker 2: You ain't you don't have no reaction, no feelings.
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: No nothing. You're just sitting there looking at them like, oh,
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: so you you made a decision to cheat him. Okay, well,
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you ladies here, I'm packing my stuff
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: and I'm leaving. But see, here's the difference between me
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: and everybody else. While you cheating, I'm taking your business.
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: I'm taking all the money in the bank accounts. I'm
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: transferring everything in my name while you gone. While you gone,
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: you ain't gonna have nothing to come back to because
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna take it off while you gone. I'm gonna
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: while you gone, I'm gonna build my own business, in
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: my own brand, so I can afford to take care
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: of this house. While you gone, I'm gonna go to
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: your god the sacond business and get your investors to
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: leave you. While you gone, I'm gonna letting them know
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: that they've been that you've been taking money and putting
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: it towards this chick, so that way I run run
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: your company. See No, I'm I ain't everybody else. No,
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: mm hmmm, I want everything. You're gonna leave with nothing.
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: You're gonna leave with nothing, and you're gonna leave with
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: what you came with. The I didn't help you built.
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: Because I'm gonna tear it to the ground, bit by
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: bit by bit by bit by bit. So I ain't
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: gonna say nothing. I'm gonna let him think that I
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: don't know he cheats. But what I'm gonna do is
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: start transferring some things because I'm gonna hit him where
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: it hurts his pockets. She ain't gonna have nothing because
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: while he gone, I'm gonna build an empire. He ain't
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: gonna know I'm up here making money because I'm not
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: gonna put it in my name. So he has no idea.
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: I got a multi billion on a business and has
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: no idea. But I'm gonna take his because where he gone,
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna create the same company and steal all of
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: his investors and everything else while he gone. So when
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: he come back and I finally tell him I know
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: he cheating, by the time we go to court, he
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: gonna like, I don't owe her nothing, You don't. He
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: gonna try to go access his bank account. I ain't
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: gonna notice. Ain't no money in that? Why because ain't
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: no money enough? Because I done took it off. All
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: the businesses are transferring to my children's name. Mm hmmm.
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: I ain't plowing with you You not messing up my
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: child's legacy. Absolutely not. No, no, no, you ain't. You
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: ain't gonna be messing up my child's legacy because i'm'na
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: make sure my child is good. So whatever money go
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: in there after that, you can have it. Not the
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: money you came in this went absolutely not. Mm no,
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna give him some paperwork here, I'm gonna here
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: sign this. What's that? Oh? Nothing? Just something you need
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: to sign for a bill. Change putting everything in my name.
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: Play with me if you want to. Che's not checkers.
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: But yet, y'all females get in here and you get
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: in your feelings and you want mmm not I No,
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: I said it. I'm hitting them. I'm hitting them businesses,
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: I'm hitting the brands, I'm hitting the beach house, I'm
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: hitting everything ever anything, And i'ma build and I'm gonna
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: use his resources to build my business. If I was married,
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: Let's say I was married to Chris Brown, for example,
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: even though I'm old enough to be his mom. But
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: he's a good example. I'm married to Chris Brown, or
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: I'm dating Chris Brown and I'm introduced to all these people.
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: You think I'm not gonna take advantage of that, the
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: fact that I'm in rooms with people that I can
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: basically build a business off of. You think I'm not
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: going to do that, absolutely, you think that I'm not
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: gonna build something on my own.
• 27:49
  Speaker 2: So if we separate, I'm still in the industry.
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: Absolutely i am, because I know this man can cheat
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: it anytime, so I'm gonna make sure I'm prepared. So
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: no matter what happens, I'm still gonna be in the
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: industry anyway because I build a business and I built
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: a brand, so he can go, but I still be
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: a celebrity in my own rights. So it's not gonna
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: matter if he leaves. But see the rest of y'all
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: get with these men, and y'all don't do absolutely nothing
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: on your own and build something up your own and
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: build something that is gonna be yours. So that way,
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: if y'all break up, you're straight. So I need people
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: to understand that it's chest down checkers, it's leverage. It
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: is leverage. So instead of Amber sitting up here crying no,
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: let me go ahead and get my evidence together. Let
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: me go ahead and get all my ducks in the row. Nah,
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: we ain't gonna be crying. We're gonna basically get big
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: payback in that courtroom. I want everything. I want it all.
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: I don't want half. I won't everything. I want it all,
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: and I'm gonna have it all. Prenups, How can you
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: break a prenup infidelity but infidelity you never incorporate that.
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: If he commits infidelity and that prenup, that prenup is
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: not all and void. Y'all, don't never put it in there.
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: Oh that's going in there, because that's gonna be a
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: requirement if you commit infidelity. I don't know. Only do
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: I get it? Not only do I get half? I
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: get everything? Why cause you because every time you think
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: about being another woman, you gonna think about what you're
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: gonna have to owe me when you go to court.
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: That part me minding my own business, the business that
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: pays me. No, you cheat on me. I get everything
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: that's in the bank accounts. I get every single sanitary business.
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: I get everything. And you have to start off with
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: her because in the Bible it says if you get divorced,
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: she gets everything, and I mean everything before you got
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: where you at. So guess what that new female and
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: that new wife got to mess around and help you build.
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: So you wanna know why I'm doing this to protect
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: your best interest? Why? Because when you see this female
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: ain't gonna be there for you now that she gotta
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: help you build.
• 30:25
  Speaker 2: See, these females want women like me to build.
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: You, to build you. And then she comes in and
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: ain't got to do absolutely nothing but read the benefits
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: of how I built you, absolutely nothing, absolutely enough. I'm
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: gonna take it all just to spare you from your nonsense.
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: And I'm not taking it because I'm being spiteful. I'm
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: doing it to save yo behind because I want you
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: to go on out there, and i want you to
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: see how it's gonna be out there now that I
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: taken everything. Now you gotta pay child support and alimony
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: right along with it, and spouse support right along with it,
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: to add to insult to entry. See, no, I'm gonna
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: have me some time, just like this one. There's one
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: African American African folk African folk tale skits where the
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: woman the man was gonna try to take her business,
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: try to take her makeup line, And for four years
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: he had been plotting on it, and homegirl found out
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: about it, and she was prepared. She made that man
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: believe that she only made one hundred thousand dollars and
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: they were gonna steal her makeup line. Come to find out,
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: her business is worth five hundred million. And when I
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: tell you, she proved that he was committing corruption and
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: everything else she sure did.
• 31:54
  Speaker 2: Went in there, I said.
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: Boom, bail, bail, just like playing space.
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: Bam bam, bam bam.
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: You either gonna sign back my stuff, give me back
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: what's mine, or you're going to You're going to court
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: you in jail. See that's what I'm saying. Y'all. Females
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: just don't be understanding leverage leverage, because leverage is more
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: than just sleeping with someone else. No leverage is I'm
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: gonna find out everything you got going on in your business.
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna find all the corruption you've been doing, and
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: I'm going to pitch to destroy you with it. And
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: when I tell you, I'm gonna tear it down, I'm
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: gonna tear it down from the ground up, and I'm
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: gonna leave you with nothing. Everything out of African skit.
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: Did I see what these women be doing? And I'm like, ooh,
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: somebody be thinking like me, cause signing I'll stay in
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: the marriage just to ruin you. I'll stand in the
• 32:59
  Speaker 1: marriage so I can get enough to break you. Because
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: when I break you, you won't leave with nothing by
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: the time when I tell you, I'm gonna tear it
• 33:11
  Speaker 1: to the ground. I'm gonna tear your business, your brand.
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: I'm going to tear and make you financially ruined by
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: the time I get done with you. No, I want
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: I want your businesses, I want your brands, I want everything.
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: That's why I'm single. This is why I'm single because
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: i'm too I'm actually very manipulative. I am a manipulative something.
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: When you piss me off and I'm not gonna be emotional,
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: I'm like, Okay, how can I break this man today?
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: Hmm honey. Every single last one of my exes left
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: with what they came by the time I got finished
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: with them. Honey, By the time I got finished with them,
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: these females didn't have nothing for them to get because
• 34:10
  Speaker 1: I bastically broke everything. Nope, they leave with what they
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: came with. Mm hmm, not what I helped you build,
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: because I will tear it to the ground. And that's
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: what I did. Every single extra trick that cheated on mee.
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: I tore them to the ground because I hit them
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: financially didn't care. I tore them to the ground. And
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: it wasn't even on revenge. It was if you're gonna
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: cheat on me and you're gonna do all these things
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: to me, No, she's gonna have to help you build
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: everything back from when you came. And one of my
• 35:00
  Speaker 1: exes trying to pat try. I took over his business
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: when I left him. I took over his business. I
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: took over everything. I sure did, took over it easily.
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: So again instead of you being in your feelings and
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: instead of you doing what Amber's doing. M hm hmm.
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: The first thing you're gonna do is the next day,
• 35:31
  Speaker 1: you're gonna get up, after drying your eyes for maybe
• 35:34
  Speaker 1: two days, get up, and you're gonna start looking into
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: things that can tear him, can tear up his finances.
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: You're gonna find out everything financial that he has, every business,
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: everything is there, embezzlement, if there's this going on, and
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: there's that going on, find out if he's been using
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: money from the company to fly her out. Now, go
• 35:59
  Speaker 1: ahead on him. It on out there, go ahead, because
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: if it's somebody that worked with him. You can go
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: right on in there and say, look, he been messing
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: around with the secretary, taking home trips based on your money.
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: If you ever remember, if you ever remember secret to
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: my success, and you remember when Michael J. Fox came
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: in and he walked in after his uncle fired him
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: for no reason because he was messing around with his mistress.
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: Came in with the wife, and and and the chauffeur
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: came in there, and they took and he come to
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: find out he was able to get investors and out
• 36:40
  Speaker 1: smarter his uncle. So then so now he's running the
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: company and his uncle's out.
• 36:48
  Speaker 2: Matt massive takeover.
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: So you gotta you gotta understand that his chestnut checkerings.
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: Ladies and gentlemen, it is not about your feelings. F
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: your feelings. It's about you getting up and saying, you
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: know what, now, let's let's give me everything that he's
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: been doing. Private investigators following him, text messages, gathering up
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: your stuff because you getting ready to hit him where
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: it hurts. Leverage, leverage, leverage. Crying ain't gonna do you
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: no good in this situation. Being in your feelings and
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: having hatred towards him, ain't gonna make this better, But
• 37:33
  Speaker 1: leverage is something that always makes me feel better. Leverage.
• 37:39
  Speaker 2: If you got leverage, you have power.
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: So you need to understand that in these situations, regardless
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: of who it is, family, friends, whoever, leverage, your gots
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: to have leverage because if you don't have leverage, you
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: are screw. When you in your emotions, you make bad choices.
• 38:06
  Speaker 1: Can't be in your emotions when you're dealing with somebody
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: that hurts you, you absolutely cannot in any capacity be
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: in your feelings, and then you're gonna go up against
• 38:17
  Speaker 1: the man that basically committed infidelity. That's why with Sonny
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: Sonny went through what she went through in the country,
• 38:23
  Speaker 1: Wayne Skits because instead of her playing chest not checkers,
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: instead of her just keeping Mike as a.
• 38:30
  Speaker 2: Friend until the marriage was over went, she didn't do that.
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: So then when y'all talking about, well she shouldn't go yet,
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: why can't amber go out? Maybe just maybe these people
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: that she's meeting are people that's gonna be in the
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: new version of her new life as friends or whatever.
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: You don't know. So if he out here doing it,
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: and why she why can't she do her out? Being
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: intimate with somebody. You don't have to be intimate with
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: somebody to go out on date. You don't you going
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: out to move forward, You going out to meet new people,
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: because God may be sending people in your life that's
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: gonna be different than the people that's in your own
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: version of your life, the ones that's gonna tell you, oh,
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: just go ahead and go back to them, Just go
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: ahead and take them back. These new version of people's like,
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: absolutely not.
• 39:27
  Speaker 2: Do you take the man back?
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: No. So if somebody says, let me take you out, Okay,
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: we go. I'll drive myself and we go. We have
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: a great time. We go our separate ways, call each other,
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: keep in touch. They can be a great person that
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: can be there for me through my divorce, and then
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: when the divorce is final, I'm stick on the one
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: because I've gotten to know this person through my divorce.
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: If they seemed like a great person, and after my
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: divorce was final, I'm moving on immediately. I ain't waiting
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: because I got a whole year to heal. I got
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: a whole year to move forward. So to have somebody
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: that's within me through my journey. The same way with
• 40:15
  Speaker 1: Sheila and what happened with her, her and Troy, and
• 40:19
  Speaker 1: the fact that he was there for her and the
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: fact that he supported her, and the fact that he helped
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: to lose weight. And what happened when they when their
• 40:26
  Speaker 1: divorce was final, what happened it became something more. Why
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: because she met him before the divorce. So at the
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: end of the day, what is wrong with having friends
• 40:39
  Speaker 1: that just don't happen to be males? What is wrong
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: with going out on a going out on a you
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: know what? Let me explain something y'all about. That's why
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: I sayd y'all need to get the country a little
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: bit more because most people, including Caucasian people, when they
• 40:55
  Speaker 1: go on lunch dates, it's not necessarily a date. A
• 41:00
  Speaker 1: date is when you go out at night. When you're
• 41:03
  Speaker 1: talking about being an intimate, that's a date. But a
• 41:06
  Speaker 1: date you're taking me to lunch, you're taking me to breakfast.
• 41:09
  Speaker 2: It's just a chill date.
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: I go on my home my homegirl and I used
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: to do lunch dates every Sunday. I do, I do date.
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: I do lunch dates with my mom all the time.
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: So what are you'all talking about? So you're saying when
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: I go out my Mama's not a date. So he's saying,
• 41:29
  Speaker 1: when I'm going out, my child is not a date.
• 41:32
  Speaker 1: A date is not necessarily have to be romantic. What
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: are y'all talking about?
• 41:37
  Speaker 2: A date does not necessarily be you.
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. It ain't gotten this same
• 41:45
  Speaker 1: to be romantic. If you are going out on an outing,
• 41:49
  Speaker 1: you are going out on a date. Jesus Christ anyway,
• 41:55
  Speaker 1: So I want people start minding their own god for
• 41:58
  Speaker 1: second business and burn about it everybody else. Look, this
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: person is moved on. You got leverage. Amber doesn't have leverage.
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: She don't. She cheated on Anthony la Wayne. She has
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: no leverage. He don't have leverage either. That's why they're
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: gonna cross each other out and nobody ain't getting nothing.
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: He gonna go his way, she gonna go hers, because
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: the judge gonna like, if both of y'all cheated before
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: and after the marriage and y'all have no kids, then
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: what's the boy. Everyone thinking that girl didn't have no
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: no businesses, no nothing. And I'm like, Okay, she gonna
• 42:35
  Speaker 1: get everything, but she's not. So why are you sitting
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: up here and somebody saying, well, let me cook for
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: you I may not be harbor but I'll take it
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: to go. Like I said, y'all, y'all miss out on
• 42:51
  Speaker 1: good people because you worrying about it being on your time.
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: You think God care about your time. God gonna bring
• 42:59
  Speaker 1: people in your life when it's the most unconventional time.
• 43:05
  Speaker 1: But because you ain't ready, God like you being ready,
• 43:09
  Speaker 1: ain't got nothing to do with me. I just sent
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: the person that was meant for you. What does that
• 43:15
  Speaker 1: got to do when anything? That's why you can't keep
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: harboring these feelings because you don't know when God gonna
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: bring you an opportunity. You don't know when God gonna
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: bring you a blessing. And because it doesn't coming, but
• 43:28
  Speaker 1: your version of it is now, you don't want it,
• 43:32
  Speaker 1: not understand that God sent you that. That's why I
• 43:35
  Speaker 1: don't care what somebody look like. If I meet somebody,
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm gonna get to know the person and
• 43:42
  Speaker 1: see if God sent them or the devil symptom one
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: way or know. I'm'na find out either way. So no,
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: I'm never gonna sit up here and say I'm not
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: ready or I'm ready for anything.
• 43:53
  Speaker 2: Let's let's go, let's let's let's go ahead and do something.
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: Mm hmm. So when you when you're in these particular positions,
• 44:00
  Speaker 1: I need people to understand and recovery and healing is
• 44:04
  Speaker 1: about not missing out on your opportunities because you and
• 44:08
  Speaker 1: your feelings. Get over your feelings. Look, God don't care
• 44:12
  Speaker 1: about your feelings when they come to bring your blessings.
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: God is not gonna bring it when you want it.
• 44:19
  Speaker 1: God gonna bring it when you need it. So if
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: God don't feel you should have it, God ain't gonna
• 44:24
  Speaker 1: give it to you. If you got a bunch of
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: people that's leading off you, taking advantage of you, Guess what,
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: God ain't gonna give your blessings you keep doing the
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: stupid sayings, stupid dumb things. God ain't gonna keep giving
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: your lessons. He's not gonna give you your blessings. So you
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: need to be open to anything. Cause God may be
• 44:43
  Speaker 1: telling you to say the person you need to be with.
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: I'm bringing you the person that's meant to be with
• 44:47
  Speaker 1: to get you out your situation. Prime example domestic violence.
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: God may be trying to get you out of the
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: situation by you meeting people that can get you out. No,
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: you time, I'm gonna go back. You don't know when
• 45:04
  Speaker 1: God gonna bring your opportunities to you. You don't, but
• 45:10
  Speaker 1: God is not gonna bring it because you because you
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: wanted James, God faring Jim. Because you want something doesn't
• 45:17
  Speaker 1: mean that God gonna bring it to you. You get
• 45:20
  Speaker 1: up here all they long and pray. But if you
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: keep doing the same behavior, what makes you think God
• 45:25
  Speaker 1: gonna bring it to you? What makes you think God
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: gonna lead you out of something? You turn around and
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: go right back into it. You go right back into
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: the flames and go right back into the same situations.
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: You don't wanna leave where you came from, but you're
• 45:37
  Speaker 1: still going through the same thing in the same environment.
• 45:43
  Speaker 1: So while you sitting still in your feelings and still
• 45:46
  Speaker 1: having his feelings towards somebody who's moved on with somebody else.
• 45:50
  Speaker 1: And yes, they did what they did, But as God says,
• 45:54
  Speaker 1: you forgive those whoever wronged, is you forgive and you
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: move on. And that's why when when the person does
• 46:04
  Speaker 1: what they did, your feelings leave. When they leave, when
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: the relationships over your feelings leave immediately extraditiously, as t
• 46:15
  Speaker 1: I says, let it go and move on, Move on,
• 46:22
  Speaker 1: So the point of recovery is to move on and
• 46:28
  Speaker 1: let God lead you or whatever your religion or spiritual
• 46:36
  Speaker 1: but leverage is the most important thing that will get
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: you through any negative situation. Leverage. Leverage the one and
• 46:47
  Speaker 1: the reason why. And I'm not saying God don't care
• 46:50
  Speaker 1: about your feelings for the reason that I'm saying that, no,
• 46:53
  Speaker 1: God does care about your feelings. But what I mean
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: by them trying to figure out a way to put this.
• 47:02
  Speaker 1: God is not going to bring you what you want,
• 47:07
  Speaker 1: but the devil will bring you what you want. God
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: will bring you what you need. That's how that works.
• 47:19
  Speaker 1: So you may want something, but that don't mean God
• 47:24
  Speaker 1: gonna say that's for you. You may want to be
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: with somebody that ain't who God sent you. See what
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: I learned is I don't go looking for nothing. I
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: let God bring whatever it is that is meant for
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: me because I mind my business. And when you mind
• 47:42
  Speaker 1: your business, whatever is meant for you, God will it
• 47:45
  Speaker 1: will be provided. You ain't gotta go looking for it.
• 47:48
  Speaker 1: You ain't gotta go searching for it. It will come
• 47:50
  Speaker 1: to you. So on this podcast, you minding your own business.
• 47:58
  Speaker 1: That's what I'm teaching people stop look at for stuff,
• 48:01
  Speaker 1: stop searching for things, going out the people that don't
• 48:04
  Speaker 1: want you, worrying about with somebody else doing jealous of
• 48:08
  Speaker 1: somebody else and what they got.
• 48:09
  Speaker 2: Who cares?
• 48:12
  Speaker 1: What does that gotta do with you? Nothing? Nothing. So
• 48:17
  Speaker 1: as a life coach, it's my job as a recovery
• 48:21
  Speaker 1: and a healing coach to tell you to stop worrying
• 48:27
  Speaker 1: about the other person. At the end of the day,
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: you all you got. So being alone shouldn't be the
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: end of the world for you. Being alone shouldn't be
• 48:37
  Speaker 1: just fine. So whether you're with somebody, whether you're alone,
• 48:40
  Speaker 1: you're gonna be fine. You're gonna be all right. But
• 48:46
  Speaker 1: if you somebody that can need somebody like you a
• 48:48
  Speaker 1: god saying, kid, what do you think gonna happen? If
• 48:52
  Speaker 1: you somebody always gotta have somebody taking care of you, always,
• 48:57
  Speaker 1: you know, running around trying to get somebody to take
• 48:59
  Speaker 1: care you. Look, you're a two year old. First of all,
• 49:01
  Speaker 1: you're not a two year old, you're an adult, So
• 49:05
  Speaker 1: what are you doing? So at the end of the day,
• 49:08
  Speaker 1: As in life coach and as a mental health practitioner,
• 49:12
  Speaker 1: I teach people the forty eight laws of power and
• 49:16
  Speaker 1: how to have leverage when it comes to negatives, cause,
• 49:20
  Speaker 1: hon you gonna need that to survive because negative people
• 49:24
  Speaker 1: don't care about your feelings. Negative people come into your world,
• 49:28
  Speaker 1: make you believe they got feelings for you, and they don't,
• 49:31
  Speaker 1: and then they gonna use your feelings destroy you and
• 49:33
  Speaker 1: then move on to the next person that they suck
• 49:35
  Speaker 1: their life out of you. Look at vampire. I mean,
• 49:38
  Speaker 1: if you watch vampires, that's how negative people actually operate vampires.
• 49:43
  Speaker 1: Either you're gonna will and even let them suck your blood.
• 49:47
  Speaker 1: They're gonna manipulate you in the sucking sucking your blood,
• 49:50
  Speaker 1: or they're gonna force their way to suck your blood.
• 49:52
  Speaker 2: But either way go, they're gonna suck your blood no
• 49:54
  Speaker 2: matter what.
• 49:55
  Speaker 1: And unless you know how to defend yourself and your
• 49:58
  Speaker 1: feelings are not going to be helpful to you. Is
• 50:03
  Speaker 1: you're not feelings are only towards the body, because the
• 50:10
  Speaker 1: only way feelings are really important is when it comes
• 50:13
  Speaker 1: to the body connecting to the mind, when it comes
• 50:16
  Speaker 1: down to how you feel and how whatever impacts the
• 50:21
  Speaker 1: body and the mind. So your feelings are anything that
• 50:27
  Speaker 1: impacts you mentally, psychologically, emotionally, spiritually, financially, and internally and externally,
• 50:37
  Speaker 1: that's what's the matter. But mentally you can get through
• 50:42
  Speaker 1: what you go through. You can get through those things.
• 50:45
  Speaker 2: But you can't physically.
• 50:49
  Speaker 1: So you need to worry about not worry about so
• 50:51
  Speaker 1: much mental because if mental it shouldn't even get to
• 50:56
  Speaker 1: you like that. It shouldn't. It shouldn't get to you
• 51:01
  Speaker 1: to where somebody's word of mouth is gonna make you
• 51:05
  Speaker 1: feel less than what you are. It shouldn't get to you.
• 51:09
  Speaker 1: If you come home and your stuff is bro is
• 51:11
  Speaker 1: is broken into Because if you were smart enough to
• 51:14
  Speaker 1: get insurance, you should be fine.
• 51:18
  Speaker 2: So if you stay two steps ahead, you gonna be
• 51:20
  Speaker 2: fine no matter what.
• 51:22
  Speaker 1: If if you know you stray, you gonna be fine.
• 51:25
  Speaker 1: And and that little bit of what you lost, God
• 51:28
  Speaker 1: is gonna bring something better.
• 51:30
  Speaker 2: So again God does care about your feelings.
• 51:34
  Speaker 1: But God also knows the people in the world don't,
• 51:36
  Speaker 1: and they don't care. They don't care about your feelings.
• 51:41
  Speaker 1: They don't care about nothing. All they care about is
• 51:46
  Speaker 1: they gonna exploit your feelings for what it is. If
• 51:48
  Speaker 1: people really cared about your feelings, they wouldn't do nothing
• 51:51
  Speaker 1: hurt you.
• 51:51
  Speaker 2: In the first place. If they really cared about your feelings,
• 51:55
  Speaker 2: but they don't they don't care.
• 51:57
  Speaker 1: They don't care at all. So I want you to
• 52:00
  Speaker 1: I want you to understand, I get it, but they
• 52:03
  Speaker 1: don't care. They don't care about your feelings. So I
• 52:09
  Speaker 1: just wanted to do this quick podcast because I'm I
• 52:12
  Speaker 1: gotta do the I gotta do a second one. But
• 52:16
  Speaker 1: I just want y'all to understand that when it comes
• 52:20
  Speaker 1: to dealing with negative people, take your feelings out of it,
• 52:23
  Speaker 1: because the minute they did something, you need to let
• 52:25
  Speaker 1: go of it immediately. Just relinquish it. Relinquish all the
• 52:29
  Speaker 1: negative feelings you feel, give it to God. Leave it
• 52:32
  Speaker 1: that and don't even move back. Pack your just start prepping,
• 52:36
  Speaker 1: getting your stuff together, and and and just don't even
• 52:40
  Speaker 1: say nothing to the person till you can renna leave
• 52:42
  Speaker 1: till you get ready to walk out that though, ain't
• 52:45
  Speaker 1: no conversation, ain't no nothing. I'm out of here.
• 52:49
  Speaker 2: They gonna come home.
• 52:50
  Speaker 1: You gonna be gone when the least is up, and
• 52:53
  Speaker 1: you paid your last month's rent, pack your and and while.
• 52:56
  Speaker 2: He gone, you packing your stuff, you leaving.
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: He come back, You gone with a note with a
• 53:02
  Speaker 1: divorced paper sitting there, and you going with your kids,
• 53:08
  Speaker 1: so you gon' there you go. What is there to
• 53:12
  Speaker 1: say when it comes totup like this, what do you
• 53:15
  Speaker 1: want to hear? The person did what they did to
• 53:17
  Speaker 1: hurt you. I don't care why you did it. The
• 53:20
  Speaker 1: point is you didn't have enough respect. I don't even
• 53:22
  Speaker 1: care about love. You didn't even have enough respect for
• 53:25
  Speaker 1: me to even tell me that you did it. That's
• 53:27
  Speaker 1: the part that really pissed me off and about what
• 53:29
  Speaker 1: you did it is the fact that you did it
• 53:31
  Speaker 1: and didn't even have any even enough decency to even
• 53:35
  Speaker 1: tell me that you did You didn't even have the
• 53:39
  Speaker 1: guts to tell me that you did it to even
• 53:42
  Speaker 1: give me the choice of whether I want to be
• 53:44
  Speaker 1: in a situation or not. So you being gone.
• 53:48
  Speaker 2: And I'm just now dealing with it.
• 53:50
  Speaker 1: So the same way that they had so much disregard
• 53:54
  Speaker 1: for me, it's the same way I'm gonna have the
• 53:56
  Speaker 1: same disregard towards them. And my feeling was gone from
• 54:01
  Speaker 1: the minute I find out. Whatever feelings I had is
• 54:05
  Speaker 1: gone because the first thing I'm gonna do I get
• 54:09
  Speaker 1: it's no way over that, get my prayer book and
• 54:11
  Speaker 1: prayer and give it to God.
• 54:14
  Speaker 2: Mmmm.
• 54:16
  Speaker 1: Nope. And i'ma be like Mary, and I'm not gonna cry.
• 54:20
  Speaker 1: I'm not gonna cry.
• 54:22
  Speaker 2: I'm not gonna share.
• 54:23
  Speaker 1: I ain't sharing. No, I'm not doing none of that. No,
• 54:27
  Speaker 1: what am I crying for? This was gonna be a possibility.
• 54:30
  Speaker 1: It was gonna be a possibility that this individual is
• 54:32
  Speaker 1: gonna hurt me.
• 54:33
  Speaker 2: I have to be preparing for that. So No, I
• 54:35
  Speaker 2: ain't gonna cry. I ain't gonna do none of that.
• 54:38
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna pack my stuff and I'm gonna leave, and
• 54:42
  Speaker 1: then I'm gonna bruh.
• 54:44
  Speaker 2: I am not gonna feel bad. I ain't gonna say
• 54:46
  Speaker 2: it's my fault.
• 54:47
  Speaker 1: I ain't gonna do nothing because there was something wrong.
• 54:50
  Speaker 1: The person could have told me. No, No, you did
• 54:53
  Speaker 1: it because you wanted to. You did it because it
• 54:55
  Speaker 1: was room and opportunity for you to do it.
• 54:57
  Speaker 2: That's why you did it.
• 54:59
  Speaker 1: Mm hmm. Don't play my face like that. Why are
• 55:03
  Speaker 1: you having a conversation with somebody don't respect you. In
• 55:05
  Speaker 1: the first boys, you were just seat feeling, and that's
• 55:10
  Speaker 1: the only thing you could say. Okay, I was just
• 55:11
  Speaker 1: seat feeling. Now it's time for me to get up
• 55:13
  Speaker 1: and move on. Time. Don't wait for nobody get up
• 55:18
  Speaker 1: pack stuff, move on, get yourself together. Let him go
• 55:22
  Speaker 1: ahead and keep doing what you're doing. Stack your money up.
• 55:25
  Speaker 1: When you got enough money, and you'll leaves almost up.
• 55:27
  Speaker 2: Leave leave.
• 55:31
  Speaker 1: So like I said, uh uh, nuh. That's why if
• 55:36
  Speaker 1: I'm married, Nope, I'm not putting nothing in my name
• 55:39
  Speaker 1: while I'm marry to you.
• 55:41
  Speaker 2: That way I can get out.
• 55:42
  Speaker 1: Now, I'll leave if I put something in my name,
• 55:45
  Speaker 1: and my name is gonna be if I have to,
• 55:47
  Speaker 1: if I can afford to actually do it. But no,
• 55:49
  Speaker 1: the reason I won't put my name on the house
• 55:51
  Speaker 1: with a man nom is because if he cheats and
• 55:55
  Speaker 1: it ends, it's it's ugly trying to get out of it.
• 55:58
  Speaker 1: Trust man, been there, done that. Mm hm. Nope, I
• 56:01
  Speaker 1: let him put on his name cause the I'm gonna
• 56:03
  Speaker 1: have my own and he aint gonna know about it.
• 56:06
  Speaker 1: I'm always gonna have me u a saisan. That so
• 56:10
  Speaker 1: why so why he thinks I don't have another house? No,
• 56:12
  Speaker 1: I have another house. Mmm. I ain't get a mouse.
• 56:16
  Speaker 1: I ain't giving up nothing. I ain't going right back
• 56:18
  Speaker 1: to it. So in the on the end, in the end,
• 56:21
  Speaker 1: if if, if things are getting ready to end, I'll
• 56:25
  Speaker 1: be married somewhere. I'll be in bollied somewhere. I'll be
• 56:28
  Speaker 1: doing what I want to do. I'll be traveling around
• 56:30
  Speaker 1: the world. And now, yah yah, have me a great
• 56:32
  Speaker 1: on time enjoying my life.
• 56:36
  Speaker 2: So I ain't worried about I'm not worried about MMM.
• 56:39
  Speaker 1: I got a playlist for that. MM. I got a
• 56:42
  Speaker 1: playlist for that, and it brings me so much joy.
• 56:47
  Speaker 1: So now, why are you sitting around him moping and like,
• 56:50
  Speaker 1: got he love me? Oh? My god, God od and
• 56:53
  Speaker 1: nobody loves me and they're like gods me, No, you
• 56:57
  Speaker 1: got faith? He was just the The only thing you
• 57:00
  Speaker 1: should be mad about is he wastes time. He wasted
• 57:04
  Speaker 1: your time. Is only you should be mad. You should
• 57:06
  Speaker 1: be mad about any other reason except the fact that
• 57:09
  Speaker 1: man wasted your time. That's the only thing you be
• 57:11
  Speaker 1: mad about. That woman wasted your time and used you
• 57:15
  Speaker 1: for money. Matter it. I am not mad because he
• 57:18
  Speaker 1: committed it fidelity. I don't care nothing about that. I
• 57:21
  Speaker 1: don't care unless look at the STD, then we have wrong.
• 57:24
  Speaker 1: I am not gonna be upset anything about laugh because
• 57:27
  Speaker 1: I'm like you, mard take him, take him. Girl comes
• 57:32
  Speaker 1: to down telling me something, I slap with your husband.
• 57:35
  Speaker 1: Did you let me ask you a question? Why are
• 57:40
  Speaker 1: you here?
• 57:41
  Speaker 2: Or I just figured you should know?
• 57:44
  Speaker 1: Let me ask you a question that a lady. Did
• 57:47
  Speaker 1: you know he was married? Yeah, so you knew he
• 57:53
  Speaker 1: was married?
• 57:55
  Speaker 2: So you know about me?
• 57:57
  Speaker 1: Then? Yes, ma'am. So you came over here thinking by
• 58:03
  Speaker 1: telling me that my husband is cheating, that I'm going
• 58:06
  Speaker 1: to leave my husband when you want me to leave him? Oh, okay,
• 58:13
  Speaker 1: so you feel about telling me I'm gonna leave my husband.
• 58:17
  Speaker 1: Let me ask you a question, where has my husband
• 58:19
  Speaker 1: told you about me? Well, your husband tell you, tells
• 58:22
  Speaker 1: me that he talks about how you stress him out.
• 58:25
  Speaker 1: Your husband tells me how you blah blah blah blah.
• 58:28
  Speaker 1: Does it that what he told you? Honey? Do you
• 58:33
  Speaker 1: do you not understand that I got his blackguard? Do
• 58:36
  Speaker 1: you not understand that I help this man build everything
• 58:41
  Speaker 1: that he bad? Do you have any idea how much
• 58:44
  Speaker 1: he stands to lose if he divorces me? Do you
• 58:48
  Speaker 1: know how much leverage I got in this marriage? Do
• 58:52
  Speaker 1: you know how many things are in both of our names?
• 58:57
  Speaker 1: Do you not understand if I want to? I could
• 59:00
  Speaker 1: take his company if I wanted to? And he knows that.
• 59:03
  Speaker 1: Do you know how much money I have invested in
• 59:06
  Speaker 1: this man? And you really think that he gonna that
• 59:11
  Speaker 1: if he finds out you here, that he's gonna leave
• 59:14
  Speaker 1: me knowing what he gonna lose. Honey, do you know
• 59:19
  Speaker 1: how many women that came to hire talking about they
• 59:22
  Speaker 1: gonna they tell me about my husband, and then when
• 59:25
  Speaker 1: I tell them how much he stands to lose, they
• 59:28
  Speaker 1: leave quietly. I can walk out this marriage anytime I
• 59:34
  Speaker 1: want you, and my husband knows that. And if I
• 59:39
  Speaker 1: walk out this door, I walk away with everything. Because
• 59:41
  Speaker 1: what you don't notice, everything's in my name, my husband.
• 59:45
  Speaker 1: My husband knows his company's not in his name. Nothing
• 59:49
  Speaker 1: is in his name. That's why he ain't left it.
• 59:53
  Speaker 1: So yeah, he may't go out here and mess around
• 59:55
  Speaker 1: with a bunch of women. But what you don't understand
• 59:58
  Speaker 1: is I have all the power his company. I owned
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 1: fifty of his company fifty one percent. All his money
• 1:00:08
  Speaker 1: is in a trust that I took last time he cheated.
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  Speaker 1: See last time he chewed, he cheated, right, I took
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  Speaker 1: about fifty fifty million dollars and put it in a
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  Speaker 1: trust that.
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  Speaker 2: He can't touch.
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  Speaker 1: So all the money he got now is money that
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  Speaker 1: he got sends the first time he tried, and I
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  Speaker 1: see he strikes again. So what I did was I
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  Speaker 1: took fifty fifty million more and put it in a trust.
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  Speaker 1: So every time he cheats, I take fifty million dollars
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  Speaker 1: and put it in a trust. All the houses and
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  Speaker 1: all that stuff are paid for, and they're no longer
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  Speaker 1: in his name. The house is not even in his
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  Speaker 1: name no more. But he pays the bills. So I
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  Speaker 1: hope you know that the last time he pulled this,
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  Speaker 1: that the lawyer told him I was gonna get one
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  Speaker 1: hundred percent. I'm fifty, not sixty, that seventy one hundred percent?
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  Speaker 1: Why because I ain't cheating. And number two, the fact
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  Speaker 1: of the matter that I've been sitting here hold him down.
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  Speaker 1: Do you not understand why he been messing with you?
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  Speaker 1: The company is now my name. That man has no
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  Speaker 1: idea who is behind this behind the scenes that just
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  Speaker 1: took over his company.
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  Speaker 2: Whose company he just merged with me?
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  Speaker 1: My company? So I own fifty one percent of his company.
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  Speaker 1: He does not know that, but I'm telling you so
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  Speaker 1: you can tell him that. So you can go back
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  Speaker 1: and tell my husband that if he even thinks about
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  Speaker 1: trying to leave me the house. None of this belongs
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  Speaker 1: to him. It belongs to me because when he tried
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  Speaker 1: to refinance the house, do you know whose company that
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  Speaker 1: he read is the house with mine? Do you know
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  Speaker 1: that everything that he's done is in my name? So
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  Speaker 1: he can't do nothing if he wanted to. But I'm
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  Speaker 1: go ahead. He's gonna leave for what he came. So
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  Speaker 1: you're gonna tell him that. Go run tell that, because
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  Speaker 1: here's my issue with you. You knew he was married.
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  Speaker 1: You didn't think to come to me when he stepped
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  Speaker 1: to you and say that. You know what I'm saying
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  Speaker 1: was was was he married to me? You didn't think
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  Speaker 1: to come to me and tell me that he tried
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  Speaker 1: to holler at you. Oh no, you didn't say none
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  Speaker 1: of that, but you instilled. You want to come to
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  Speaker 1: me now that you're done slept with him, and now
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  Speaker 1: that you want him to leave me, you're coming to me.
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  Speaker 1: Just tell me so I can leave my husband. No,
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  Speaker 1: I will leave my husband when I see fit that
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  Speaker 1: I want to leave him. Just the fact that he
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  Speaker 1: gets to be miserable makes me happy. So yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: was staying till I get tired. I'm gonna stay till
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  Speaker 1: I get tired, and then when I get tired of him,
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  Speaker 1: then I don't, you know, leave him, But I ain't
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  Speaker 1: gonna leave him to you retires, then I leave cause
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  Speaker 1: when he retires, here have nothing. So I wait till
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  Speaker 1: you retires. Why aren't just wait till you die? But
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  Speaker 1: either way, I ain't leaving till you die. So you
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  Speaker 1: can go ahead on. I mean, we can go ahead
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  Speaker 1: on and live our little happy lives and do whatever him.
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  Speaker 2: But okay, so you you can gonna run.
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  Speaker 1: You can run and tell my husband that you know
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  Speaker 1: you can go ahead and meta veld on. It's him now, Hello,
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  Speaker 1: hack your mistress over him? Yeah, another one of your
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  Speaker 1: females is thinking that you're gonna leave me, decide to
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  Speaker 1: come over here and tell him you're sleeping with him.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, would you like to talk to her? Because
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  Speaker 1: you know, I mean, I I think you might wanna.
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  Speaker 2: Deal with the situation because this ain't my problem.
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  Speaker 1: Why all these females come to my house thinking by
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  Speaker 1: telling me that you have an affair like it means
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  Speaker 1: something to me, not understand that I'm wait till you die,
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  Speaker 1: not understanding that if you leave me, you know you're
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  Speaker 1: gonna lose everything, right, you know everything's in my name, right.
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  Speaker 1: I hope you and I hope you know that your
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  Speaker 1: business is actually actually belongs to me because I bought
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  Speaker 1: your company.
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  Speaker 2: So I mean you want to leave, go ahead on
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  Speaker 2: and leave.
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  Speaker 1: I don't care anyway, but anything in the end, like
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  Speaker 1: I said before, you know it's chest not checkers. And
• 1:04:34
  Speaker 1: as a life coach, you know, when you go through
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  Speaker 1: recovery and you heal, then you will understand that it
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  Speaker 1: is chess out checkers. You don't handle things the way
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  Speaker 1: you used to before you heal the recovery because the
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  Speaker 1: peace and the tranquility that you're gonna get through that
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  Speaker 1: healing recovery, you never gonna want to go back to
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  Speaker 1: the old. The fact that you're not worried about whether
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  Speaker 1: somebody's in your life or whether it or not. As
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  Speaker 1: long as you know you got leverage, that's all that
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  Speaker 1: matters is leverage. All that matters is that you have
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  Speaker 1: leverage against the person that is trying to break you.
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  Speaker 2: That's pretty much it.
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  Speaker 1: So I teach my clients, or I will be teaching
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  Speaker 1: my clients about chess now checkers, and how to play
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  Speaker 1: the chess board when it comes to life.
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  Speaker 2: I teach my clients'.
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  Speaker 1: Life skills and how to go about defeating negative people
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  Speaker 1: through the forty eight laws of power point blame period.
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  Speaker 1: I teach you that when you get back out and
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  Speaker 1: this earth, you are not gonna worry about nobody hurting you,
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  Speaker 1: because can't about hurt you at this point, as long
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  Speaker 1: as you still got a roof over your head, a
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  Speaker 1: car to drive, as long as you have a safety that.
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  Speaker 2: You don't care whether they walk out or not. You
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  Speaker 2: don't care what they take, You don't care what they did.
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  Speaker 1: The point is you have level rich and that's what
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  Speaker 1: it's about. Leverage, I tell me, and all the time,
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  Speaker 1: you will never have a leverage on me because all
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  Speaker 1: I all I will say is the day that I
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  Speaker 1: decide I want to go out here and do something,
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  Speaker 1: you're gonna hate it more so than I will. You're
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  Speaker 1: gonna hate the fact that I'm messing around another man
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  Speaker 1: more so than you messing around another woman.
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  Speaker 2: So I wouldn't worry about that about you.
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  Speaker 1: I just wouldn't. So with that being said, I think
• 1:06:27
  Speaker 1: that's it for me for my podcast. But I don't
• 1:06:30
  Speaker 1: thank y'allwn for joining me for this episode I really
• 1:06:34
  Speaker 1: appreciate y'all and I love y'all. It's been a minute
• 1:06:37
  Speaker 1: and I'm trying to keep up because this is my
• 1:06:41
  Speaker 1: radio podcast, but I love y'all. Y'all been rocking with
• 1:06:44
  Speaker 1: me for the past few years doing this podcast. And yes,
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 1: I am back full time doing my podcast. But TikTok
• 1:06:52
  Speaker 1: has never heard me do my podcast before, so I
• 1:06:55
  Speaker 1: decided to do it today, but again to just to recap.
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  Speaker 1: When it comes to you minding your own business, it's
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  Speaker 1: very important to play chess, not checkers. It's important to
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  Speaker 1: keep leverage and not ever losing your leverage in any
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  Speaker 1: way shape from a fashion. Don't ever let the left
• 1:07:17
  Speaker 1: hand know what the right hand does. And understand that
• 1:07:21
  Speaker 1: your emotions is important. To learn emotional intelligence and understand
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  Speaker 1: that God is not gonna bring things when you want it.
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 1: God gonna bring it when you need it. God gonna
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  Speaker 1: bring on his time and not yours. Give your emotions
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  Speaker 1: to God, don't act on your emotions. Take the time
• 1:07:41
  Speaker 1: to sit for a little bit, start getting your stuff together,
• 1:07:44
  Speaker 1: and when you ready, bounce, bounce. But that means that
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  Speaker 1: thank guys for doing it for this episode. I appreciate y'all.
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  Speaker 1: And until next time. I will see y'all next week. Oh,
• 1:07:57
  Speaker 1: if anybody wants to as far as sponsors or be
• 1:08:01
  Speaker 1: a guest on my podcast, you can email me as well,
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  Speaker 1: so that makes it. I love y'all and we'll talk later. Bye, y'all.