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WHERE DO MEN FIND THE NERVE ? · Relatables

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  Speaker 1: Coming up on Relatables. I wanted to have the exercise
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  Speaker 1: of writing a letter to your older self, so future yourself. Yeah, no,
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  Speaker 1: I'm writing a letter to OUDI two three years ago.
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  Speaker 1: Also your younger self. Yeah, yeah, my younger self, my
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  Speaker 1: past uf.
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  Speaker 2: You said your older self. I didn't do I'm pretty
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  Speaker 2: sure I said my past up.
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  Speaker 1: I thought my older self.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like the first time you said you said,
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  Speaker 2: like writing a letter to my older self, I feel
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  Speaker 2: like I said past.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: I'm pretty keen for the edit.
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  Speaker 1: Lucky I edited Relatable.
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  Speaker 2: The Relatables podcast is hosted by myself, Jake Craig aka Daddy,
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  Speaker 2: and my partner in crime, Oddie Clark aka Mummy. And
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  Speaker 2: Audi is Mummy because he's the one you go to
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  Speaker 2: when you want to talk about feelings.
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  Speaker 1: And Jake is Daddy because he always drives and he's
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  Speaker 1: driver a good driver compliment. I feel like all dad's
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  Speaker 1: are good drivers. Valid can reverse a trailer. I can
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  Speaker 1: can do anything. Yeah, my dad taught me how to reverse.
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  Speaker 2: Same. And you guys are the baddies because it's just
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  Speaker 2: who you are. Yeah, because you're bad, A couple of
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  Speaker 2: bad bitches. Bad to the boom, big announcement. Big, Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: huge announcement. We're back in our own studio. Huge. It
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  Speaker 2: feels good to be back. I got to say it
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  Speaker 2: feels great. Bali was great. But enough about Bali. We
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  Speaker 2: haven't seen each other for a while because you were
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  Speaker 2: in Bali. Sorry to mention it again. You were. You
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  Speaker 2: were there for about a week longer than me.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, we didn't hang out together yesterday, did we know?
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  Speaker 2: We went together all day yesterday.
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  Speaker 1: We refuse to talk to each other and save it
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  Speaker 1: for the podcast. Yeah, that's what we do. That's how
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  Speaker 1: much we love you guys.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly. But how was your last week? How was
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  Speaker 2: your last week? Was good?
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. I was over it by the end. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm keen to be back. There's something about being
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  Speaker 1: you know, when you walk in your house and you've
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  Speaker 1: been away for a while and you're like, this is
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  Speaker 1: home and it feels good. Yeah, the same sensation in
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  Speaker 1: this studio.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. It really is being in control of everything, all
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  Speaker 2: the tech, all the gears, ours we know. Yeah, I'm
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  Speaker 2: in the boot. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I mean
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  Speaker 2: good mood. I slept so fucking well last night. You
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  Speaker 2: always sleep good at my house because I'm not sleeping
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  Speaker 2: with Beth. I'm telling you guys, it's sleeping with me. No.
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  Speaker 2: I was sleeping on my own in your spare room.
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  Speaker 2: When I didn't piss and I woke up, I fall asleep.
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  Speaker 2: First time I woke up from my alarm. I set
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  Speaker 2: an alarm just in case I slept through, and I
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  Speaker 2: was like, I don't want to be sleeping through and shit,
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  Speaker 2: so set an alarm seven am. It went off and
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  Speaker 2: I was like, and I didn't even clock to me
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  Speaker 2: Originally that I was like, oh, I went the whole
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  Speaker 2: night without pissing. I snoozed that motherfucker goes off again,
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  Speaker 2: snooze it again, and then before it goes off the
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  Speaker 2: third time, I kind of actually, I'm coming to and
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  Speaker 2: then I'm like, I need to piss. And then I
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  Speaker 2: was thinking I didn't get up once last night to piss.
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  Speaker 1: I have a great scientific experiment we can do. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: how can you test your cortisol? Can you do it
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  Speaker 1: by yourself?
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  Speaker 2: Let's look at you. It stresses me out, That's what
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to say.
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  Speaker 1: I was gonna say, So what we should do is
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  Speaker 1: when you sleep like with Beth that morning, test your
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  Speaker 1: corterzole levels and then see what it's at. I don't
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  Speaker 1: know how to test it. Say it's twenty over, yeah, fifty,
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  Speaker 1: And then when you.
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  Speaker 2: Sleep it a random measurement you pulled out of your.
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  Speaker 1: Arse, and then when you sleep at mine, we'll test
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  Speaker 1: it again and it'll be like zero.
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  Speaker 2: Right, I'd say that would be I was tired. Actually
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  Speaker 2: we had a big afternoon, so it was tired. I
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  Speaker 2: was tired. Yeah. Oh well, but I'm.
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  Speaker 1: Not gonna waste any time today, are we, Jake?
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  Speaker 2: No, We're going to start.
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  Speaker 1: With what is your favorite segment?
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  Speaker 2: My favorite segment that we do. I think it is
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  Speaker 2: dilema Okay, yeah, dilemmas. I question kind of just the
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  Speaker 2: whole thing. It's all quite fun. It's all fun to
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  Speaker 2: be a part of. You know, it is sick.
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  Speaker 1: So let's start with the IG question of the week.
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  Speaker 2: What do an IG question?
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  Speaker 1: First?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah? Or you doing that second? Shit? I thought I
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  Speaker 2: thought you meant like do that first? No?
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  Speaker 1: No, no no. So the IG question of the week
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  Speaker 1: is what are your non negotiables when dating?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: These are good and I kind of picked some which
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  Speaker 1: would be on my non negotiables list.
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  Speaker 2: Oh fair, you didn't. If I'm being to be completely
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  Speaker 2: honest with you, there is definitely a few that I
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  Speaker 2: would be on my non negotiables list. But there's some
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  Speaker 2: that you can see when I say them that you
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  Speaker 2: would be like, oh no, I can see why that would.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, true, and I reckon. Also, this is like one
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  Speaker 1: of the best tips when dating is have a list
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  Speaker 1: of non negotiables prior to going on a date and
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  Speaker 1: always check back to it to see if they're ticking.
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  Speaker 2: All the boxes. I've never had one.
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  Speaker 1: I kind of have a mental one, yeah, but I
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  Speaker 1: feel like a physical one just even on your notesap
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  Speaker 1: on your iPhone. It would be such a good thing
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  Speaker 1: to do.
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  Speaker 2: I I've got to say, I agree, But for some reason,
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  Speaker 2: I've never had one. Yeah. So that because the thing
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  Speaker 2: with me is like, how strict to the list do
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  Speaker 2: you need to be? Like, let's say you have think
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  Speaker 2: let's say you have ten things on the list. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: if they hit five out of ten, that's fifty percent.
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  Speaker 2: Is I considered a pass?
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  Speaker 1: I don't think, because non negotiables is like non negotiable
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  Speaker 1: and to have ten on there, what if you have
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  Speaker 1: more than ten? They're getting techy on that.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly, no, saying it's like, how strict are you
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  Speaker 2: on the non negotiables because non negotiables is a strong word.
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  Speaker 2: I agree, non negotiable.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but it also whears your line of non negotiable,
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  Speaker 1: like maybe you could have a little inasterisk next to
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  Speaker 1: some of them, like this one's negotible. Yeah. Yeah, like
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  Speaker 1: someone like buys me ice cream or some shit. Okay, fair,
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  Speaker 1: like that's pretty crazy like that one's But then others
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  Speaker 1: were like my political views. I was like, okay, I'm
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  Speaker 1: not that from that one.
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  Speaker 2: That's political views is valid. Yeah, you're pretty different people
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  Speaker 2: if you don't do the same political views exactly. But yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I was just thinking, how strict does it have to be?
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  Speaker 1: Should we say, actually, how many we get out of
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  Speaker 1: each other's lists? Okay, like say if we tick the boxes,
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  Speaker 1: so I just have the ones because this is like
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  Speaker 1: the majority of women's negotiables. As you're about the ones
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  Speaker 1: we've chosen today, yeah, it was like, yeah, we get that.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So like if I say one and you fall under that,
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  Speaker 2: as in, if you would work for this one, you
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  Speaker 2: would say, yeah, I work for that. Yeah. Okaywait, okay,
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  Speaker 2: because I know some of these you do not fucking work.
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  Speaker 1: I'm a stubborn motherfucker. I see one, and you tick
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  Speaker 1: that box majorly. A wait, do we get to Okay,
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  Speaker 1: let me kick things off. What are your non negotiables
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  Speaker 1: when dating? If I've asked three questions and they haven't
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  Speaker 1: asked anything, I'm done. Oh if I've asked three questions
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  Speaker 1: and they haven't asked oh, so you're on a date. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: and so you just conversations one sided? Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: I hate that. I genuinely can't go through a conversation
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  Speaker 2: without asking questions.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but I feel like it's gotta be reciprocated.
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  Speaker 2: No. Yeah, That's what I'm saying is like, if I
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  Speaker 2: was asking questions and this person's just answering and they're
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  Speaker 2: not asking another one, I would be like, well let's
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  Speaker 2: try it, fumbling.
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  Speaker 1: Bro, let me ask the questions and you just talk
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  Speaker 1: about yourself the whole time, and don't okay, be like
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  Speaker 1: really selfish?
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  Speaker 2: Okay, what questions? Like some classic questions? Yeah, I'll be like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: so what do you do for work? I actually have
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  Speaker 2: a podcast? A podcast?
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  Speaker 1: What's it about?
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  Speaker 2: It's about me and my friend? We kind of go on.
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  Speaker 2: We tried like to give the men's perspective on things
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  Speaker 2: and stuff. Yeah, it's pretty fun.
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  Speaker 1: Where can I find it?
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  Speaker 2: Spotify, YouTube, a, podcasts, just wherever you get your podcasts.
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  Speaker 1: Do you have any extra episodes Anywhay?
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  Speaker 2: We do?
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  Speaker 1: Actually, yeah, we have.
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  Speaker 2: There's a single Patreon where we have an extra episode
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  Speaker 2: every week and then one of our episodes they get
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  Speaker 2: five days early. Really and it's only five dollars a month. Really,
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  Speaker 2: that's heapes could community.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and you rate it?
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  Speaker 2: I do? Yeah? Okay, five stars? How good?
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  Speaker 1: And what else do you do outside the podcast world?
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  Speaker 2: I like to read read what do you read? Uh? Stuff?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah? Stuff? What kind of stuff? I like to read
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  Speaker 1: a little bit.
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  Speaker 2: I dabble. I have wings? You have wings? Not me?
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  Speaker 1: They oh they have wings? Damn that's muddy ship maybe
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  Speaker 1: fairies some It's harder for me to keep asking questions.
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  Speaker 2: It's actually, what's I'm saying is if I've asked three questions,
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  Speaker 2: then I was like, what do I? Yes?
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  Speaker 1: It is in an ad for the podcast, I saw
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  Speaker 1: an opportunity.
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  Speaker 2: Fucking know, all right, girls, what are your non negotiables
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  Speaker 2: when dating? He washes his hands after he goes to
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  Speaker 2: the bathroom.
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  Speaker 1: No matter what you welcome. Yeah, you're welcome. Yeah, that
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  Speaker 1: is not happening, Yes it is. Come on, not for
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  Speaker 1: eever of us.
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  Speaker 2: I think every single bathroom should have hand sanitizer in it.
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  Speaker 2: I agree. I know.
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  Speaker 1: I was gonna say, like, you know how male bathrooms
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  Speaker 1: have the toilet and the new urinal there should be
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  Speaker 1: like a sink and then like a I don't know,
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  Speaker 1: like a yeah it's some kind of dispenser. We don't
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  Speaker 1: get your hands were Here's.
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  Speaker 4: Like, I'm sorry, but I'm not going into a public
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  Speaker 4: bathroom going in, like I will I elbow everything, or
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  Speaker 4: I'll like I genuinely so like I'll push the if
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  Speaker 4: I'm going into a store, I'll push the stall overrom
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  Speaker 4: my elbow, push it clothes with my elbow, and then
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  Speaker 4: I'll lock it with my shirt like this so I
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  Speaker 4: don't have to touch it. I don't touch anything in
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  Speaker 4: a public bathroom. And then I'm touching is my own wan?
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  Speaker 4: All right, that's clean, by the way, because I've showered.
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  Speaker 2: And then when I leave, same thing, use my shirt,
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  Speaker 2: undo the thing, get out of there, and I don't
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  Speaker 2: wash my hands because I'm not touching something in a
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  Speaker 2: public toilet.
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  Speaker 1: That's funny. I always try to touch a place that
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  Speaker 1: no one's ever touched before, so like really hard.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but also you're not all that individual because I
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  Speaker 2: get to you. Everyone does that like this, everyone's doing
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  Speaker 2: this and shit.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but the little short things like you can't read
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  Speaker 1: just hires me, got you there, didn't know what.
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  Speaker 2: If it's a pull, we've got to pull the door
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  Speaker 2: open the force.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, so maybe we don't do that, but the first
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  Speaker 1: one three questions, I think we're both good at asking
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  Speaker 1: questions to be fair.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, no, I feel like I'm a normal conversationist.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, girls, what's your non negotiables? When dating? Must be
• 10:25
  Speaker 1: a dog person?
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  Speaker 2: Valad pick va lid. Yeah, I have to have a
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  Speaker 2: dog in my life. Yeah right, I mean right now
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  Speaker 2: you don't even have one, like I mean like still grieving,
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  Speaker 2: not twenty four seven, but like eventually yeah, like reoccurrence.
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  Speaker 2: There's a dog in your future?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, my near future.
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  Speaker 2: I see you. I see a dog in your future. Yes,
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  Speaker 2: what op of a dog?
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  Speaker 1: I want a sausage?
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  Speaker 2: I really do, but like typically genuinely ethically it's actually bad.
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  Speaker 1: No no, no, So here was my mental debate. Right, So
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  Speaker 1: everyone says sausage dogs have bad spines. Yeah, and they're
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  Speaker 1: going to need that spinal surgery or whatever. I think
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  Speaker 1: it's like one in four. Yeah, but where's the line between.
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  Speaker 1: So I would offer this dog a really good life
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  Speaker 1: and he's already alive when I buy him. Just see
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  Speaker 1: what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but what you're doing is you're supporting a breeder
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  Speaker 2: that breeds them, so then they have a reason to
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  Speaker 2: breed more. Then So if you don't support that breeder
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  Speaker 2: that's breeding a sausage dog that look they are I'm
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  Speaker 2: pretty sure they're a pure bred dog and stuff, but
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  Speaker 2: they like genuinely quite often live a bad life because
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  Speaker 2: once this motherfucker gets the whatever it gets, I don't
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  Speaker 2: think it's hip displeasure, they get something, right, they're living
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  Speaker 2: a crate, yeah, and they're in pain and then they
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  Speaker 2: die and it's devastating. Yeah, exactly. You you have to Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: you can't support the industry in that sense. You have
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  Speaker 2: to get a dog.
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  Speaker 1: Because I agree with your mindset with like recycling, like
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  Speaker 1: one person makes a difference and it's like a spillover effect.
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  Speaker 1: Then with a dog, I feel like being a little
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  Speaker 1: bit toxic, Like I'm not going.
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  Speaker 2: To make a difference, but you really one person will
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  Speaker 2: because then when someone talks to you and you could say, well,
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  Speaker 2: I was gonna get one, and then I decided not
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  Speaker 2: to because I don't think that it's actually the right
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  Speaker 2: thing to do.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, And where I was going was, I think I'll
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  Speaker 1: do my research, like off pure looks. I want one,
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  Speaker 1: and I haven't done any research because I don't want
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  Speaker 1: one on right now. But when I do want one,
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  Speaker 1: I'll do.
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  Speaker 2: Research of like what's the actual best breed for me?
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  Speaker 2: You know what? Fair? That's probably ethical? A bit off looks,
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  Speaker 2: off looks. Fact. Sausage dogs are cute. Yeah, they are
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  Speaker 2: so cute. Did you know that sausage dogs are actually
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  Speaker 2: very often just dicks?
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  Speaker 1: You know that they got the personality got like crazy
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  Speaker 1: cattle dogs too, Cata doogs. Yeah, they're better than some
• 12:39
  Speaker 1: kelpies because they used to be hunting dogs and go
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  Speaker 1: down rabbit holes. That's why they said long as guinea
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  Speaker 1: and they got some gtitude.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I've heard that one.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, when you take your shirt off, all right.
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  Speaker 2: Girls, what are your non negotiables when dating? He must
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  Speaker 2: believe in washing his legs in the shower. Get fucked.
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  Speaker 1: Like twice a year.
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  Speaker 2: Never.
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  Speaker 1: When I was a gardener, I used to do it
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  Speaker 1: a lot. We got those dirty knees.
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  Speaker 2: You're lucky if I if I washed my thights, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: larky if you if I wash my thighs, There's no
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  Speaker 2: way I'm bending down in the shower, face down, us
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  Speaker 2: up washing my legs.
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  Speaker 1: You're a credit card slot asshole guy.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I got a clean crack. Yeah, very.
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  Speaker 1: It's like a fountain.
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  Speaker 2: I got a clean crack. But I don't understand what
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  Speaker 2: people are washing your legs business? They know. I I
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  Speaker 2: have never looked at someone wearing shorts and thought they
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  Speaker 2: washed their legs or and also vicetress, I've never looked
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  Speaker 2: at someone wearing shorts and thought they don't wash their legs.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly. I go swimming.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I got dirt down there. Obviously I'm going to
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  Speaker 2: wash it.
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  Speaker 1: Exactly.
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  Speaker 2: But what's the point.
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  Speaker 1: Another one, they're not valid.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think that's valid at all.
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  Speaker 1: Girls. What are your non negotiables when dating transparency regarding
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  Speaker 1: sexual health? Oh?
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  Speaker 2: Good one, that's a great one. That's a great one.
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  Speaker 2: I think I've said this before. Before death, I had
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  Speaker 2: never had a checkup, never had any sort of tests
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  Speaker 2: to see if I have anything. To be fair, I've
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  Speaker 2: never had any symptoms. Yeah, I didn't think it, but
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  Speaker 2: it's also supposed to Like I don't remember actually even
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  Speaker 2: being taught this. But the right thing to do is
• 14:30
  Speaker 2: after every new sexual partner, you get tested. Yeah, you
• 14:34
  Speaker 2: get tested, so then you know, because you don't want
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  Speaker 2: to go have sex with one person, have caught something
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  Speaker 2: from them, have sex with another person, and then get
• 14:42
  Speaker 2: tested and then be like, okay, well which one.
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  Speaker 1: To be fair to tell both, it's a good non negotiable,
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  Speaker 1: but also it's kind of like should be granted, like
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  Speaker 1: you should.
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  Speaker 2: This should be a it should be a default. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I guess that's why it's non negotiable. True, somebody, it
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  Speaker 2: should be a default, bare minimum type. Shit, girls, what
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  Speaker 2: are your non negotiables when dating? I can't be friends
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  Speaker 2: with his ex?
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  Speaker 1: Oh I had one like that doesn't talk to the
• 15:04
  Speaker 1: x vallida valid ballid red flag.
• 15:08
  Speaker 2: If they do, we're still friends? No? Why are you friends? Yeah?
• 15:12
  Speaker 2: That's all I want to know is why? Reason? Tell me,
• 15:15
  Speaker 2: good reason, that's why?
• 15:15
  Speaker 1: Because they want to fuck.
• 15:17
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the only reason I can think of Yeah,
• 15:19
  Speaker 2: that's the only reason I can think of.
• 15:21
  Speaker 1: All right, if you've seen him naked, it's not fair
• 15:23
  Speaker 1: call me, call me jealous.
• 15:26
  Speaker 4: I don't give a fuck, all right, call me in secure,
• 15:28
  Speaker 4: I and give a fuck.
• 15:29
  Speaker 2: You don't need to be friends of yourn.
• 15:30
  Speaker 1: I don't think it's jealous jealousy.
• 15:32
  Speaker 2: I would only I think we've said this before too,
• 15:35
  Speaker 2: if it was like, let's just say, in the future,
• 15:37
  Speaker 2: for some reason. Unfortunately you guys were both single. You
• 15:40
  Speaker 2: don't have to be bash. You don't have to be
• 15:43
  Speaker 2: I'll just bring you along with me, bring you down.
• 15:45
  Speaker 2: Let's just say for some reason, I'm singing, Yeah, maybe
• 15:48
  Speaker 2: in my mid thirty Fuck, I've had a transplant. By
• 15:54
  Speaker 2: the way, hair transplants.
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: Okay, you're back off. I was picturing like belly people.
• 16:02
  Speaker 2: Belly. Yeah. We talked about if anything, we would have
• 16:03
  Speaker 2: like some sort of Pepsi max belly or starts full
• 16:06
  Speaker 2: of carbonated.
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: Drinks non gluten belly.
• 16:11
  Speaker 2: And I'm single. Unfortunately Bets left me. She's taking Henry
• 16:14
  Speaker 2: and ship. But I'm dating.
• 16:18
  Speaker 1: Henry's Jake's dog, not his kids.
• 16:21
  Speaker 2: And I'm dating. I'm in the dating pool and I
• 16:23
  Speaker 2: meet someone and she is a divorced mom with kids,
• 16:30
  Speaker 2: single mom. I would then be like, if she says
• 16:33
  Speaker 2: I'm quite friendly, like I'm very I'm good friends with
• 16:35
  Speaker 2: my ex you know kids, I'd be like, okay, valid,
• 16:39
  Speaker 2: Look I'll tuck away someone.
• 16:40
  Speaker 1: You took the longest way to get there to say that,
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: all sausage, no sizzle.
• 16:47
  Speaker 2: I mean sorry, all sizzle, no Sausagejohnny, learn from the best.
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: Whatever, Okay?
• 16:57
  Speaker 2: Is it me? Yep?
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: Girls? What are your non negotiables and dating? A guy
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: enjoys going down on me? Yeah?
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: I like that? Yeah, yeah, I tick that box.
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: Turns me on?
• 17:09
  Speaker 2: Oh, turns you on? I gotta compliment the other day,
• 17:13
  Speaker 2: I make that sound like I got it from someone.
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: Round I was processing how I then.
• 17:23
  Speaker 2: I don't actually know why. I feel like I probably
• 17:25
  Speaker 2: mon't even keep going with what I was gonna say.
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: I feel like some stuff should be I'll leave that
• 17:30
  Speaker 2: up to imagination, but I think some stuff should.
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: Be yeah left upside.
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you know what I'm saying.
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: The compliment goes a long way when you're down. Yeah
• 17:37
  Speaker 1: yeah yeah?
• 17:39
  Speaker 2: Girls, what are your non negotiables when dating?
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: Fuck?
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: Don't be a fucking misogynistic pig. That sucks for you. Yeah. Me.
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: Hey, I'm not in that category, but I feel like
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: that one is the most relatable. Yeah, this is the
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: one you tick the most, I think. Okay, girl, what
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: are your non negotiables when dating little Pippy?
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: She wants a little peepy Yeah, hey, someone's finally admitting it.
• 18:10
  Speaker 2: The big ones? Yeah.
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: Yeah, to be fair, the perfect side just medium, yeah, small,
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: small end of the scale.
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: I feel like I knew so to be derogatory, I
• 18:21
  Speaker 2: feel like I knew my body quite well right up
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: until like two days ago. I have a way bigger
• 18:27
  Speaker 2: bend in my penis than I thought.
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: You see some other dicks to compare it to something.
• 18:31
  Speaker 2: No, No, I just feel like I always kind of
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: thought I had like a straight Maybe it's bending more.
• 18:35
  Speaker 2: I just maybe I don't look at it that much,
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: you know what, You should check it out. Maybe it's
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: trying to grow but the skin's holding it back.
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: Yea yeah yeah.
• 18:44
  Speaker 2: But it's just a way bigger bend than I thought.
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: Good to know, Yeah, which way up?
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: Down? So like if I'm looking down left, like hard left.
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: Bro, maybe trying to get out of there and hard
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: it's not like a captain's hook but it's like hard,
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: It's like veering left.
• 18:59
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like off a freeway.
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: I feel like it's one of those things when you
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: look at it so often you don't notice. But if
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: someone else looked at about I think he's lefty.
• 19:07
  Speaker 2: Like I just clocked it, you know. I was like,
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: what are you doing now? Girls? What are your non negotiables?
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: When dating makes noise during sex? Yeah, I've been heavy
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: on the moon like that, like you gets missed this,
• 19:29
  Speaker 2: you missed it? Sexy. I like to go down actually,
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: like I like to fucking kiss the nape of her
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: neck like cassion, Like is that what it's called the
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: nap of the neck, the napors here the back? No,
• 19:45
  Speaker 2: you don't.
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: You don't kiss the back of her neck. You don't
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: do that for hell.
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: So she's like, you're for now you think about it
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: and doggy about it, and doggie think about it.
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: Okay, I didn't know you that flexible.
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: But no, I'm not being now.
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: Oh she's coming up.
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: I can taught up.
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: Oh you can taught her. Oh I need I needed
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: the mental diagram. She was like on the bed, face
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: down like flat.
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: I would do that too, Yeah.
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: Like she's waiting for a mass.
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: The only reason I know that this is called the
• 20:22
  Speaker 2: nape of your neck is because of an anime I watched.
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: I'll fucking get ship done, bros, My turn your time
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: me girls.
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: What's your non neghostles when dating similar sex drives?
• 20:38
  Speaker 3: Oh?
• 20:38
  Speaker 2: Really fair? Actually that would make a lot of sense.
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: I think that's valid. But I feel like you don't
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: find that out ntil you start dating for a lot
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: of time.
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: No, yeah, you need to actually yeah, be dating for
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: a while to find out and have like real life
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: in this scenario, What do you reckon? I saw a
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: video I think maybe it was Emma Chamberlain made. It
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: was it was like on her podcast, but it was
• 20:59
  Speaker 2: a TikTok I watched and she got asked a question
• 21:02
  Speaker 2: about someone said like, how do you deal with wildly
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: different sex drives? Oh? And she I didn't really remember
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: going on to answer it, but I thought it was
• 21:10
  Speaker 2: like a kind of a good conversation starter. I don't
• 21:13
  Speaker 2: wildly different sex drives because sometimes I would say, sometimes
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: I can be I could want it every day every
• 21:19
  Speaker 2: second day, and that's like a lot for me. But
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: then sometimes I could go a week two weeks where
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: it's like not something that really crosses my mind.
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: I think it's hard for the partner who wants it less.
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: It's hard for both people. Actually, the person who wants
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: it less, their point of view is they kind of
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: feel an obligation to have sex with the person, and
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: then they start to resent them because they're having sex
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: for them, not because they want it.
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: Yeah. So it's a.
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: Weird like situation where you have to communicate being like okay, no.
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: But also it comes down to like communication at the
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: end of the day because you have to get yourself
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: in the mood. A lot of people be like, oh,
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: I'm not turned on. Yeah, but it's also as much
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: as your part getting turned on, and it as is
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: your counterpart to turn you want I fuck it valid.
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: I think that the person that wants it more they
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: probably need to put I would say, a bit more
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: effort into making the person that wants it less just
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: genuinely feeling sexier.
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you know what I mean.
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: It's it's a mindset thing for both people. Yeah, because
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: it's not as much about the sex. It's about it's
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: about a mental state of being there and consciously being
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: ready to be in the mood.
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Also, I find I reckon a lot of people
• 22:26
  Speaker 2: kin'd of get worried. They'll be like in a relationship
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: and they haven't had sex for three weeks or some shit,
• 22:30
  Speaker 2: and they're probably thinking like, oh my god, there's something wrong,
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: Like what's wrong? People that gets stressed about that I
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: feel bad for because I'm thinking, like, so, I.
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: Think it's immaturity. I also think that when I was younger.
• 22:38
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I definitely just to think it as well, just.
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: Be like fuck, it was also like we're going through
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: puberty and shit, and like when you're eight a nine
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: as a man, like you're fucking ready to go every
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: six hours?
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: Valid.
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but I think the best takeaway from that as
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: well is just like, don't ever do it because you
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: feel obligated. Do it because you want it.
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a good bys. Girls, what are your non
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: negotiables when dating? I must want to rip his shirt off?
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: Oh yes, that is a non negotiable Tweetah, imagine like
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: a girl like whipped your shirt up when you're getting
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: down like.
• 23:16
  Speaker 2: All the Yeah you know what if I was I'm
• 23:21
  Speaker 2: gonna say, if I was wearing a button and we
• 23:24
  Speaker 2: were getting crazy and she just goes, I need to
• 23:25
  Speaker 2: get in there, she's like ravaging me and she just
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: goesroos my button up to be like my buttons. I'd
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: run around and pick them up with my pants off
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: and share I need them. What the hell?
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: That's one hundred dollar things?
• 23:39
  Speaker 2: What is going on?
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: Not that movie? Girls? What are your non negotiables when dating?
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: They say, paper scissors rock? What crazy?
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: Paper scissors rock? Let's se if we did the same way? Wait?
• 23:57
  Speaker 2: Wait wait are you actually insane? Ready? Wait? Wait wait
• 24:01
  Speaker 2: wait wait wait wait please? Okay, no, let's play it
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: and say it that way and see how weird it feels. Ready,
• 24:06
  Speaker 2: paper rock, it's you proper paper rock? Yeah? What? What
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: the fuck?
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: My brain couldn't even comprehend that? Do you know what
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: they do in Canada where I grew up? At least
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: I'll be like, hey, Bud, you know it was rock papers,
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: all of them papers rock. I reckon rock rock papers
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: is better than paperses of rock. Paper, but it's his
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: paper rock rock runs off the tongue peper rock quick
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: ends a good game, all right?
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: What are your non negotiables when dating? Tomato sauce in
• 24:49
  Speaker 2: the cupboard.
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: Now, I'm a fridge guy. I'm a fridge guy as well,
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: you want that ship cool.
• 24:54
  Speaker 2: I genuinely have a hatred for people that put their
• 25:00
  Speaker 2: tomato sauce in the cupboard. Yeah. Also, there was a
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: thing that came out Heinz so Heines has catch up,
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: but Master foods tomato sauce. They're like, guys, it needs
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: to go in the fridge. Yeah, it goes off, it'll
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: go off, it goes moldy, it needs to go in
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: the fridge. Yeah, sus I grew up using catch up
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: to one time I was I remember as well. I
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: was really young and my food was like piping hot,
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: and my grandpa said, he used this, it'll cool it down.
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: And it was catch up up until I was like fifteen.
• 25:36
  Speaker 2: I thought catchup and tomato sauce was used to cool
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: your food down.
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: Really, I'm hundred percent ghastly. You oh to be fair,
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: to be wrong.
• 25:42
  Speaker 2: He was like it was cold, and he was like
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: he dipped in this, it'll cool it down. And I
• 25:46
  Speaker 2: also just tasted delicious, and I was like, give me more.
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: Moto sauce is a game changer.
• 25:50
  Speaker 2: I used to get in trouble for how much tomato
• 25:52
  Speaker 2: sauce I put on my plate. Really, yeah, because they'd
• 25:54
  Speaker 2: be like you waste it because I wouldn't use it
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: all you love your baby Q.
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: No, it's better to have too much and not enough.
• 25:59
  Speaker 2: I used to what are you a barbecue or tomato sauce?
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: Tomato bit? Catchup or catch up better than to catch up?
• 26:04
  Speaker 2: Way better? Yeah, I like tomato sauce better sweeter. Yeah,
• 26:08
  Speaker 2: that's why I come up. I like sour bet than sweet.
• 26:10
  Speaker 2: But I used to I'm a bubble sauce guy. Now
• 26:12
  Speaker 2: you've always been a bubb Also, I can't have any
• 26:14
  Speaker 2: of it anymore. Yeah, both made from onion. Yeah? Does
• 26:18
  Speaker 2: I have fire fod onion and garlic top of the
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: fog mask?
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, it sucks with me me guys, Yeah, ship
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: sucks if like a vampire comes to you.
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: You why you kind of garlic? I can hold onto it.
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: I can hold on to whatever. Smart.
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: Okay, girls, what are your non negotiables when dating? Knows
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: how to apologize?
• 26:45
  Speaker 2: Oh?
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: Good one, I'm sorry, here's some flowers. Not good now
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: the proper apology.
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: I'm done.
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: I have last one that we both tick?
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: Girls?
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: What do you no negostables when dating? Two showers a day?
• 27:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I am morning and night. I'm two or three
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: sometimes sometimes I'll have a third. If I get a
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: mad sweaty at the gym, Yeah, come home and have
• 27:11
  Speaker 2: one and then have it.
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: I always shower after the gym, no matter what.
• 27:13
  Speaker 2: I used to be, Like, I used to be always morning.
• 27:17
  Speaker 2: And then if I went throughout the day, like if
• 27:19
  Speaker 2: I stay home all day and don't do much, I
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: could go to bed without having one. But then Beth
• 27:24
  Speaker 2: was like, get the fuck in the shower.
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: I saw a video and it was like dading men
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: for the first time, you realize men shower at the
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: most random hours.
• 27:32
  Speaker 2: Yeah, Like, no matter.
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: What time I wake up, I'm showering. Why, no matter
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: what time I'm going to bed, I'll shower before.
• 27:37
  Speaker 2: I go to sleep. And I also usually I don't
• 27:39
  Speaker 2: even shower in the morning because I feel dirty. It
• 27:41
  Speaker 2: wakes me up. Yeah, I do it because like it
• 27:43
  Speaker 2: wakes me up, and like fixing my hair and shit,
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: like you give your bed head that she fixes the
• 27:47
  Speaker 2: bed head that looks like a cock too. I always
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: think it's so crazy that, like because Beth doesn't she
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: showers some mornings, but not every morning. Those girls don't,
• 27:53
  Speaker 2: and so she'll wake up and she just like does
• 27:55
  Speaker 2: her hair even though she's just slept in it, and
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: I'm like, how are you? It's just wis me?
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: It feel seaedy to me?
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: Like now they've done it so much valid, Just like
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: just brushing my teeth and maybe cleaning my face wouldn't
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: be enough. Nobody needs to be drenched.
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: Yeah see, we don't wash our legs, but we show
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: more than you, guys.
• 28:12
  Speaker 2: Fucking valid. The amount of water that hits our legs
• 28:16
  Speaker 2: cleans it.
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: It's hits your exactly alrighty Jake up next, I got
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: a fun little exercise I want to post to you
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: to do next week.
• 28:32
  Speaker 2: Easy.
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: This week is my turn. And as we mentioned, we
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: just got back from I was a month in ballet.
• 28:38
  Speaker 2: Jake was three weeks.
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: But it was kind of a bit of a reflection
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: and it's a good find a refresh button on our lives.
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: And with that, I wanted to have the exercise of
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: writing a letter to your older self. So future, no yourself,
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah no, I'm writing a letter to two to three
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: years ago.
• 28:57
  Speaker 2: It was your younger self.
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, my younger self myself.
• 29:00
  Speaker 2: You said your older self. I didn't do I'm pretty
• 29:03
  Speaker 2: sure I said my past ulf.
• 29:04
  Speaker 1: I thought my older self.
• 29:05
  Speaker 2: I feel like the first time you said you said,
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: like writing a letter to my older self, I.
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: Feel like I said past. I don't know.
• 29:11
  Speaker 2: I'm pretty keen for the edit.
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: Lucky i edit it. But this is a letter to
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: my past self. And it's just cool to reflect and
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: see how much you've changed, because when you're in it,
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: you kind of don't feel everything that's going on in life.
• 29:28
  Speaker 2: We've got a specific age.
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: I'm going two years ago, so I was twenty three.
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: Easy fucking getting old. Two years ago you were twenty three.
• 29:37
  Speaker 2: Crazy to say you're older than me, but I'm also
• 29:40
  Speaker 2: two years ago I was also twenty three, but also
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: you're older than me. All right, Okay, same year.
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: So dear Oddie, be proud of yourself. Last time you
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: wrote to yourself. Your life looks so much different looking
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: back now, I can't believe how much you've accomplished in career, mindset,
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: and relationship. You've worked hard, but remember to take a
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: second to breathe, relax, and take it all in. Life
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: feels like it's moving at a million miles a minute,
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: and two years ago feels like a blink of an eye.
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: You've always been a dreamer and a stubborn dreamer at that.
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: It's one of your best attributes. Stick to what you believe,
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: stay tue to your path, but keep in the back
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: of your mind that along your path, beautiful people will
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: start to join the journey. Be conscious of their goals
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: and your own, and figure out a way to support
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: them and yourself. I know the future is scary and unknown,
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: but that's what makes it exciting.
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: Your life is yours to live. You are in complete control,
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: and when you do feel stuck or overwhelmed, you know
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: there are people around you you can talk to. You
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: don't have to deal with everything alone. You'll get better
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: at this, don't worry. I want to say your goals
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: haven't changed too much. You still want to have the
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: best pod in Australia. But I want to say you
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: kind of a feeling like you need to plan your
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: future more. You're looking forward to having a family and
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: you're going to have a dog very very soon. My
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: final message is to have more fun.
• 30:54
  Speaker 2: That's literally it.
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: Enjoy yourself.
• 30:56
  Speaker 2: Regards older Oddie, Damn, that's pretty sick. Yeah.
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: I think it's a really healthy exercise for your mindset
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: and everything going on in your life because it does
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: go so quickly and you don't really realize everything you've
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: achieved mentally, physically, emotionally.
• 31:13
  Speaker 2: It's going to think about what you trying to think?
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like what we used to be like yeah, even
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: like you could do eighteen to twenty five, and I'm
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: such a different person. It's crazy.
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: I feel like you changed so yeah from like eight
• 31:28
  Speaker 2: like from for your first like twenty five years of
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: your life. I feel like every year you change a bunch,
• 31:34
  Speaker 2: but it doesn't feel like a base personality stays the same. Yeah,
• 31:38
  Speaker 2: but you feel like I actually don't feel like I
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: have changed much. But I guarantee you, if I could
• 31:43
  Speaker 2: go back and watch myself, yeah, on like a fucking TV,
• 31:46
  Speaker 2: I'd be like, I even think as simple as simple
• 31:52
  Speaker 2: as your demeanor has changed so much, the growth of experienced,
• 31:56
  Speaker 2: like the unconscious growth. I think I've become, I want
• 32:02
  Speaker 2: to say more, maybe relaxed, relaxed. I feel like I've
• 32:08
  Speaker 2: become maybe easier going. Yeah, but I've always been easy going.
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but I mean, like, I don't know, I feel
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: like nothing phases you.
• 32:19
  Speaker 2: Yeah, like nothing phases me. I'm trying to think what
• 32:21
  Speaker 2: a good word for it is, Like, oh, I think
• 32:25
  Speaker 2: I am now less influenceable that would you know what
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: I mean by other people, By other people, Yeah, like
• 32:33
  Speaker 2: by surroundings, Like I'm not going to fucking better saying no,
• 32:36
  Speaker 2: but yeah, I'm not just gonna like agree with a
• 32:38
  Speaker 2: friend group because I want to belong in the friend
• 32:40
  Speaker 2: group and like kind of base a personality around that.
• 32:43
  Speaker 2: I feel like in the past, I can remember times
• 32:45
  Speaker 2: where you I think I can feel like I was
• 32:50
  Speaker 2: maybe playing along. Oh yeah, that's relatable.
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I felt like I was playing a part of
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: what I thought my role in the group was.
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel I genuinely think that is something that
• 33:03
  Speaker 2: I did and that I do. Think that's probably why
• 33:05
  Speaker 2: we have veered away. Wait, our whole friend group. So
• 33:10
  Speaker 2: we you and myself pretty much out of contact. Yeah,
• 33:14
  Speaker 2: with their friend group, bar like one or two people.
• 33:17
  Speaker 2: But also I'm pretty sure our friend group is the
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: same thing. I think there's people. So let's say there
• 33:24
  Speaker 2: was a group of ten you and I have kind
• 33:26
  Speaker 2: of veered off. We keep in contact with a few,
• 33:27
  Speaker 2: but pretty rarely. And then there's three more that veered off.
• 33:32
  Speaker 2: They all didn't just stay together, No, it's like it's happened.
• 33:35
  Speaker 2: Everyone's grown separately, and the whole friend group is kind
• 33:38
  Speaker 2: of as it's in my from what I can see
• 33:41
  Speaker 2: on the outside of least has veered off. Yeah, it's
• 33:43
  Speaker 2: kind of wild to think about.
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: It's kind of like we were friends because of proximity
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: in a sense.
• 33:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's all we ever knew. Fuck. You know what
• 33:51
  Speaker 2: this brings up is the fact that majority of it
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: was very surface level. Oh it was so we've spoken
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: about this before, I think, yeah, but I actually saw
• 34:00
  Speaker 2: it was an Abbi Chatfield video. Beth and I watched
• 34:02
  Speaker 2: it and she was reacting to a video. So the
• 34:04
  Speaker 2: video was this guy was sitting with a couple friends
• 34:11
  Speaker 2: and he made a video and they thought it was
• 34:12
  Speaker 2: quite funny. And this guy said, Oh, I'm gonna ask
• 34:17
  Speaker 2: my friends a couple questions. Now I've seen this exact video,
• 34:20
  Speaker 2: and it's the one where he says, what's my ex
• 34:22
  Speaker 2: girlfriend's name? I didn't know, none of them knew. And
• 34:25
  Speaker 2: then one of them's like, oh, is this the one that?
• 34:29
  Speaker 2: Is this the one you broke up with? And and
• 34:30
  Speaker 2: it hurt you so bad that that you had to
• 34:32
  Speaker 2: leave your apartment, you had to leave New York or
• 34:34
  Speaker 2: like you had to leave the city you were in
• 34:35
  Speaker 2: you had to leave cities. That's how much it hurt him.
• 34:37
  Speaker 2: And then someone goes, wait, you I didn't know that's
• 34:40
  Speaker 2: why you left the city. And then this guy that's
• 34:43
  Speaker 2: asking the questions is laughing. They're all laughing and they're
• 34:45
  Speaker 2: all like, fuck, we know nothing. And then Abby Chatfield
• 34:48
  Speaker 2: makes that this great point. She she kind of beams
• 34:51
  Speaker 2: in and she's like, she's like, fuck, I feel bad
• 34:52
  Speaker 2: for this dude. His friends don't know anything about him.
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: That's most male friendship groups.
• 34:57
  Speaker 2: That's honestly the major already of male friendship groups. But
• 35:02
  Speaker 2: even thinking about it, right, So she goes on to
• 35:05
  Speaker 2: say some good points like men love to talk about
• 35:09
  Speaker 2: how say dramatic girls are right and how they always
• 35:14
  Speaker 2: are moving friends because they always have falling outs and
• 35:17
  Speaker 2: it's way more common to have falling outs. But the
• 35:19
  Speaker 2: reason men don't have falling outs is because we don't
• 35:24
  Speaker 2: know them. Like we don't know our friends.
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: There's nothing to fall out about.
• 35:28
  Speaker 2: It that we don't know them well enough to give
• 35:30
  Speaker 2: enough of a shit to have a falling out. So
• 35:33
  Speaker 2: if they do something wrong, we don't care about that
• 35:36
  Speaker 2: friend enough to call them out because we want them
• 35:39
  Speaker 2: to be better, So therefore there is no argument. You
• 35:42
  Speaker 2: just let shit happen because you cannot be bothered because
• 35:46
  Speaker 2: you don't. Like with you and I, it is a
• 35:50
  Speaker 2: little different, like we would value it enough where we
• 35:53
  Speaker 2: would if an argument needed to happen, an argument would
• 35:56
  Speaker 2: happen because it's like we care about like we have
• 35:59
  Speaker 2: like a deep love, if that makes sense. But also
• 36:02
  Speaker 2: if you think about it, how often maybe say off
• 36:08
  Speaker 2: the pod, like we don't really ask each other all
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: that often, just like oh and you know, and how
• 36:13
  Speaker 2: do you feel about X situation?
• 36:15
  Speaker 1: We do sometimes like.
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: We do, we definitely do sometimes like but and it's more,
• 36:19
  Speaker 2: it's way less, it's way more under the surface than
• 36:22
  Speaker 2: like every other friendship I have. Yeah, but still like
• 36:25
  Speaker 2: we still do kind of just like go around and
• 36:27
  Speaker 2: chill and like agreed and we don't like, you know,
• 36:31
  Speaker 2: we're moving to Queensland and we talk about it and
• 36:33
  Speaker 2: we're like, you know, making sure we want to do it,
• 36:35
  Speaker 2: and like are you keen to do it and stuff,
• 36:36
  Speaker 2: But at the same time it's like we could. I
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: don't know, it's funny, it's weird, you know what I mean?
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: Do you think that's where do you know how men
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: in relationship. Most people, most men, sory, don't put in
• 36:48
  Speaker 1: enough effort and it stems from all their relationships they've
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: ever known, their friendships, they've never put any effort in,
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: and now they're in an actual relationship and all they've
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: ever known is not putting any effort and they not
• 36:57
  Speaker 1: giving it an excuse by any means, but like that's
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: what they're doing because that's what they're used to it
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: and it's both things are relationships in different sense love
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: and platonic. And they're like, oh, I.
• 37:05
  Speaker 2: Don't know this is what this is how relationship were
• 37:08
  Speaker 2: They don't they don't know how to how to do it.
• 37:10
  Speaker 2: And also complete other end of the spectrum. When they
• 37:13
  Speaker 2: do get in a relationship, most of the time the
• 37:16
  Speaker 2: girlfriend that they have or the boyfriend that they have,
• 37:18
  Speaker 2: like this deep relationship is the only deep relationship they
• 37:21
  Speaker 2: now have. This is the only person that they can
• 37:23
  Speaker 2: tell everything to because they don't tell everything to their friends.
• 37:27
  Speaker 1: The crossovers in girls friendship to a relationship compared to men, Yes.
• 37:32
  Speaker 2: Like the reason that on average women have more of
• 37:37
  Speaker 2: a falling out, like way more falling outs than men
• 37:40
  Speaker 2: is genuinely because it's like an actual relationship is that
• 37:44
  Speaker 2: we have the nerve to say they're dramatic and yeah,
• 37:46
  Speaker 2: and we have the nerve to say, yeah, they're dramatic.
• 37:48
  Speaker 2: Men are way more simple, like we're chilen. Haven't hard
• 37:50
  Speaker 2: to fight with my friends in my whole fucking twenty
• 37:52
  Speaker 2: five years of being friends with them, And it's like, yeah.
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: But what do you actually know about what his fucking
• 37:56
  Speaker 1: middle name?
• 37:57
  Speaker 2: What's his middle name? And how did he feel last
• 37:59
  Speaker 2: week when his mum and him had a fucking fight?
• 38:03
  Speaker 2: All Right, you don't know because you didn't ask, because
• 38:05
  Speaker 2: you don't care exactly, like exactly. And also it's like
• 38:09
  Speaker 2: there's this whole thing about the male loneliness and epidemic.
• 38:15
  Speaker 2: Apparently we're all so good with our friends, but we're
• 38:17
  Speaker 2: all super fucking lonely.
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: And you kind of realize that when some of these
• 38:23
  Speaker 1: male friends are going through really traumatic times, men don't
• 38:27
  Speaker 1: have the tools to talk about what they're going through. Yeah,
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: they're just there and drink. That's all they know how
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: to do.
• 38:33
  Speaker 2: The only time I have ever had an open and
• 38:35
  Speaker 2: honest conversation about feelings with friends is when we're both
• 38:39
  Speaker 2: so fucked up, we're not going to remember it. The
• 38:40
  Speaker 2: next day. That's insane to say.
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: I've done it with Like, I think I'm decent at it.
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: I've got like two friends and three friends including you
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: that i've done it with before I had really deep
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: but everyone's gone through a traumatic time and you've had
• 38:53
  Speaker 1: to talk about it.
• 38:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's what.
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: And you also need that thing in the background as
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: a male, Like we used to do it by gaming.
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: That's where you're even We won't.
• 39:00
  Speaker 2: One on one facing each other, but you talk about
• 39:02
  Speaker 2: it because that was like a safe thing that Yeah,
• 39:04
  Speaker 2: having a game playing in the background, you felt comfortable
• 39:06
  Speaker 2: in your own home. So if we got a little
• 39:07
  Speaker 2: awkward and silent, it could be like you're doing something yeaheah.
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: If it got awkward or sign, you'll be like, yeah,
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: fucking fucking kill this dude.
• 39:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but like it's fucking like my own end, right.
• 39:19
  Speaker 2: I know your dad's sweet, your dad's healthy. Yeah. I
• 39:22
  Speaker 2: haven't asked you since you've told me that your dad's healthy,
• 39:26
  Speaker 2: Like how genuinely is he? And how do you feel
• 39:31
  Speaker 2: about it? How does your brother feel about Have you
• 39:33
  Speaker 2: spoken in depth like with your brother and mum about
• 39:35
  Speaker 2: Like these are things I don't even know if you
• 39:36
  Speaker 2: do behind closed doors and not saying that you need
• 39:38
  Speaker 2: to talk to them in depth about it. But it's
• 39:40
  Speaker 2: like these are the things we just don't ask each other. Shit, no,
• 39:43
  Speaker 2: not really. I never talk about my mum.
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: He's fucked.
• 39:47
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's crazy, you know. But with Beth and like
• 39:51
  Speaker 2: with Cassie, like you just have like mad in depth conversations. Yeah,
• 39:54
  Speaker 2: it's funny.
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: Maybe it's somethings to do with like the gender different
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: is and how we feel comfortable around women.
• 40:02
  Speaker 2: I don't know, it's yeah, I wouldn't. I wouldn't know
• 40:05
  Speaker 2: the answer, right, It's just as a man.
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: You do feel more comfortable talking to a woman for
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: some reason. Yeah, Like when I was looking at therapist,
• 40:11
  Speaker 1: I initially wanted a women because I felt more comfortable
• 40:14
  Speaker 1: talking to them, like about my feelings.
• 40:16
  Speaker 2: Because women I just fucking better. They just feel better.
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: They have a better understanding of emotions and like they
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: just I don't know, Yeah, I don't know where to
• 40:26
  Speaker 1: put your finger on it.
• 40:27
  Speaker 2: It's a freaking weird thing though. It's like it was
• 40:28
  Speaker 2: I just thought was like a cool observation and I
• 40:30
  Speaker 2: was just thinking, like it's just so valid. Even with
• 40:34
  Speaker 2: my friend justin that. I swear he's not imaginary. I
• 40:38
  Speaker 2: saw a video of him, looked at it, look a.
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: I feel like he's camera shyed too. I couldn't pull
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: off the edit.
• 40:49
  Speaker 2: I couldn't afford to have him in there for longer
• 40:51
  Speaker 2: than two seconds. But I was even thinking, like, because
• 40:57
  Speaker 2: I play so, I play golf with him. He's a
• 41:00
  Speaker 2: new friend, but he's a new friend. But also golf
• 41:02
  Speaker 2: takes how you know, and so, and I was thinking, see,
• 41:09
  Speaker 2: I was like, what do we talk about when we're
• 41:11
  Speaker 2: playing gold? I was like, what do we fucking talk about?
• 41:13
  Speaker 2: Because surely it's just if we literally just talk about
• 41:18
  Speaker 2: nothing interesting, it is interesting.
• 41:21
  Speaker 1: I had another interesting observation, like you said that, I
• 41:24
  Speaker 1: wanted your take on and ask how you feel about it,
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: because I know we both want kids, right. I saw
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: someone online a girl explaining or trying to justify why
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: she didn't want kids, Not that she had to, but
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: that's what she was doing, and that's beside the points.
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: But it made beside the point. But it made me
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: think about how I want kids. It kind of sparks
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: something in my mind and I've never thought of it
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: like this before, but something that would I still want them,
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: but makes me feel like I wouldn't want them is
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: because of how hard life is now for young people.
• 41:54
  Speaker 2: I went through a mad long phrase of being of
• 41:56
  Speaker 2: saying I don't want kids purely because privileged position to
• 42:03
  Speaker 2: say this being born in Australia. But the whole world's
• 42:07
  Speaker 2: pretty fed up.
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what I mean. And like our parents' generation
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: like living I don't know, but it seemed a lot
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: more freeing, cheaper, different, easier to get at different. Yeah, now,
• 42:20
  Speaker 1: like our parents bought houses for twenty thousand dollars, all
• 42:24
  Speaker 1: of us a million dollars plus.
• 42:26
  Speaker 2: I can't. I can't.
• 42:27
  Speaker 1: I don't want to think what our kids are going
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: to be paying two three four million dollars. And like
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: I'm getting overwhelmed right now trying to figure out my life.
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: I'm like, fuck, do I want to bring someone into
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: this world to have their own problems?
• 42:37
  Speaker 2: I know.
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: I'm like it's really overwhelming for me. And I was
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: like fuck. I was like, I've never thought of it
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: like that, because it's kids are cool one one.
• 42:43
  Speaker 2: That's what I think. Like, I want to have a family,
• 42:45
  Speaker 2: and we also have some sort of duty within us
• 42:48
  Speaker 2: to let the race live on. Let the human beings
• 42:52
  Speaker 2: live on.
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: But yeah, but then, like, even like everyone these days,
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: you have to either buy a house with your partner
• 42:57
  Speaker 1: or a friend to be able to do it. Fuck
• 42:59
  Speaker 1: what they're going to get for six people to buy
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: a house.
• 43:01
  Speaker 2: It's fuck, It's actually insane. Sometimes I think, right, like,
• 43:06
  Speaker 2: do we all so? Reproducing is obviously an instinctive thing. Yeah,
• 43:13
  Speaker 2: but sometimes I also think, like is another reason we
• 43:16
  Speaker 2: do it because of the same reasons why we do
• 43:19
  Speaker 2: literally everything. We go to university because we're told to.
• 43:23
  Speaker 2: We get jobs because we're told to, We buy a
• 43:25
  Speaker 2: house because pretty much we're told to. People having kids
• 43:28
  Speaker 2: because we're told to. Like, is it free will or
• 43:31
  Speaker 2: is it something that you just think you need to do.
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: I don't think you can beat the feeling of having
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: a family.
• 43:38
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but it also it's coming from someone without a
• 43:40
  Speaker 2: family of a family. What do you mean, No, you
• 43:42
  Speaker 2: haven't had kids yet.
• 43:44
  Speaker 1: I've been the kid in the family valid and I
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: can see how like my mum and dad react to
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: having kids.
• 43:48
  Speaker 2: It's amazing. Yeah, but it.
• 43:49
  Speaker 1: Also made me reassessed of like the position I want
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: to be in before I have kids.
• 43:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 43:53
  Speaker 1: I know some people don't have that choice, yeah, and
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: you go to play with the cards you're dealt. But
• 43:58
  Speaker 1: for me, I was like, fuck, like I want to
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: be able to give my life, my kid a life
• 44:01
  Speaker 1: where like he doesn't have to, even though I'm very
• 44:03
  Speaker 1: privileged and have a good life too, like better than me.
• 44:06
  Speaker 2: I don't want him to have problems. Why exactly? You know,
• 44:09
  Speaker 2: I feel like that's all you want for you.
• 44:11
  Speaker 1: I think that's a male mindset to you always feel
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: like you have to provide, provide, and do one better
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: than your dad.
• 44:18
  Speaker 2: Yeah, what's with that comparison?
• 44:19
  Speaker 1: I don't know, that's a very relatable male mindset.
• 44:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah, probably toxic in a sense, or maybe maybe not toxic.
• 44:26
  Speaker 2: It's like classic comparison with thy for joy jealousy not.
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: Jealousy, I think, just comparison. Yeah, I don't know, living
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: in the shadow, but pretty much. And then I also
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: caught myself out on it and saying like that's you
• 44:44
  Speaker 1: kind of just figure that stuff out. And the beauty
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: that's in family comes from the connection you make with
• 44:49
  Speaker 1: this little thing that you build, your family and your
• 44:53
  Speaker 1: partner births.
• 44:54
  Speaker 2: Do you know, I gotta say I do want them.
• 44:56
  Speaker 2: I I don't think that this is a bad mindset.
• 45:02
  Speaker 2: But I just want to be in a position I
• 45:03
  Speaker 2: think I said this to you yesterday. Even I just
• 45:05
  Speaker 2: want to be in a position where when we have
• 45:10
  Speaker 2: a child, that Beth has the option to not work
• 45:16
  Speaker 2: if she does not want to work, if she wants
• 45:18
  Speaker 2: to go to work on childcare. But I just wanted
• 45:21
  Speaker 2: to be an option. I don't want her to feel
• 45:23
  Speaker 2: as low to survive I need to go back to work, Yeah, exactly.
• 45:28
  Speaker 2: I just want her to have the option, you know.
• 45:30
  Speaker 2: And I want to have the option to also be
• 45:31
  Speaker 2: able to be home often.
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you want to be able to give the kid
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: a good life.
• 45:36
  Speaker 2: Like why have a kid if you can't be around
• 45:37
  Speaker 2: the fucker?
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: And I think it's also a naive mindset, yeah, but
• 45:43
  Speaker 1: I don't know. It's also a thought that a lot
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: of young people are kind of having twenty five twenty people.
• 45:48
  Speaker 2: There's a fucking population crisis in the world right now.
• 45:51
  Speaker 2: We don't have enough or too many where there's more
• 45:53
  Speaker 2: dying than being born because everyone's waiting because everyone can't.
• 45:57
  Speaker 2: I don't know if it's good or not, because like
• 45:59
  Speaker 2: economies will fucking collapse and ship, so like people, we
• 46:02
  Speaker 2: need more children in Australia is thinking about bringing back
• 46:05
  Speaker 2: the incentive of you get five K when you have
• 46:06
  Speaker 2: a kid. We don't have enough house.
• 46:08
  Speaker 1: I don't understand. Yeah, it's just overwhelming, the whole situation overwhelming.
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: Everywhere you look. You're like, there's a problem there.
• 46:15
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, always a problem. Okay, bad. He signed
• 46:25
  Speaker 2: for dilemmas. You know how this works in the link
• 46:28
  Speaker 2: in the description going in, going and submit. I'm going
• 46:31
  Speaker 2: to start doing a story every week asking for dilemmas
• 46:35
  Speaker 2: with specific themes. So keep an eye out for that,
• 46:38
  Speaker 2: and in the story on our Instagram there will be
• 46:40
  Speaker 2: the link to the dilemmas. So this week, no theme,
• 46:44
  Speaker 2: just as per us. I've got two though, Okay, I
• 46:47
  Speaker 2: got two juicy juicy ones, and I need to choose. Okay,
• 46:53
  Speaker 2: number one. I'm talking to four different guys at once,
• 46:58
  Speaker 2: and I'm not serious with any of them. I just
• 47:01
  Speaker 2: do it because I'm single and bored. I like one
• 47:04
  Speaker 2: of the guys more, and I know he listens to
• 47:07
  Speaker 2: the podcast, so we will call him Noah. Okay. About
• 47:11
  Speaker 2: two days ago, I got a friend request on Instagram
• 47:15
  Speaker 2: and accepted it. An hour later he DMed me. The
• 47:20
  Speaker 2: DM wrote, Hi, I started following you because I usually
• 47:25
  Speaker 2: do this to all the girls i'm talking to. I'm
• 47:28
  Speaker 2: checking to see if you are texting multiple guys at once,
• 47:32
  Speaker 2: So what's my name? I've seen this trend on TikTok.
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: This was his fucking track.
• 47:41
  Speaker 2: This is great. So I'm back to the dilemma. I've
• 47:43
  Speaker 2: seen this trend on TikTok where guys do the same thing,
• 47:47
  Speaker 2: and I'm guessing that is where he got the idea from.
• 47:50
  Speaker 2: I really like Noah out of the four guys that
• 47:53
  Speaker 2: I'm texting, and I'm guessing it's him. But this is
• 47:57
  Speaker 2: giving me the biggest dick that either one of them
• 48:00
  Speaker 2: would text me that, and I'm really hoping that it's
• 48:02
  Speaker 2: not him. What do I do and how do I respond?
• 48:07
  Speaker 2: This is giving you yeah that show?
• 48:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I don't like that at all.
• 48:12
  Speaker 2: It's dad is insane. Drop him.
• 48:15
  Speaker 1: You're completely within your rights to talk as many people
• 48:17
  Speaker 1: as you want. Facts he doesn't have any say in that.
• 48:20
  Speaker 1: And the fact that you like him, the fact that
• 48:22
  Speaker 1: even though you've liked him and he's done this, I would.
• 48:24
  Speaker 2: Drop him, Like if the person that sent you this
• 48:26
  Speaker 2: really likes you and is trying to find out if
• 48:29
  Speaker 2: you're talking to more than one person at once, how
• 48:31
  Speaker 2: about don't be super fucking immature. Just the next time
• 48:34
  Speaker 2: you're with her, ask her are you talking to multiple people?
• 48:37
  Speaker 2: Because I really like you and I would actually like
• 48:39
  Speaker 2: to be exclusive. And so if she is talking to
• 48:41
  Speaker 2: multiple people, she can be honest and say, look, I am,
• 48:43
  Speaker 2: but I also want to be exclusive, So I'll end
• 48:45
  Speaker 2: all of that and you have to be okay with that.
• 48:47
  Speaker 2: But also, he's got to prove himself as a man
• 48:50
  Speaker 2: before he says that this is the pussiest thing. Yeah
• 48:53
  Speaker 2: I ever see.
• 48:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like, go on three or four dates, prove yourself
• 48:57
  Speaker 1: as a person, prove you're a good man and you
• 49:00
  Speaker 1: deserve her exclusivity, and then ask her and put your
• 49:03
  Speaker 1: heart on your sleeve and be willing to get rejected.
• 49:07
  Speaker 2: Dude, this is fun.
• 49:08
  Speaker 1: How do you She must be young this, it must
• 49:10
  Speaker 1: be what young people do.
• 49:11
  Speaker 2: That's crazy, you know what? Okay, how the hell do
• 49:13
  Speaker 2: you respond to this? Because this is a joke. Yeah, yeah,
• 49:16
  Speaker 2: let's play like some games. Yeah, some fun.
• 49:19
  Speaker 1: So he's made this fake account and there's obviously no
• 49:23
  Speaker 1: followers on it.
• 49:25
  Speaker 2: What cand you do that? Like puts him in his place?
• 49:27
  Speaker 4: Here?
• 49:28
  Speaker 2: Just be like you could somehow make I'm sorry, but
• 49:32
  Speaker 2: I need this man to feel like a fool.
• 49:35
  Speaker 1: So she doesn't know if it's Noah or not.
• 49:37
  Speaker 2: She doesn't know if it's him or not, but she
• 49:38
  Speaker 2: actually really likes no One. But if it is nowhere,
• 49:40
  Speaker 2: she's got the biggest dick from it, which is.
• 49:42
  Speaker 1: We don't want her to pursue this man anymore. So
• 49:44
  Speaker 1: how can we have some fun? How do we like,
• 49:47
  Speaker 1: say like, this is the most bitch move I've ever
• 49:50
  Speaker 1: seen in my life, grow some balls and talk to me.
• 49:53
  Speaker 1: Maybe you should allude to the fact that you're talking
• 49:55
  Speaker 1: to more people and then say, even if I was
• 49:58
  Speaker 1: talking to more people.
• 49:59
  Speaker 2: I wouldn't tell you this something like that.
• 50:01
  Speaker 1: How can you do that?
• 50:02
  Speaker 2: Though? Okay, okay, okay, wait. Could you say something like
• 50:05
  Speaker 2: ha ha ha, mustn't be my favorite one because they
• 50:07
  Speaker 2: would never be immature enough to do this. Yeah, something
• 50:10
  Speaker 2: like that, And you're saying like, mustn't be my favorite one?
• 50:13
  Speaker 1: Like fuck, yeah, I like that. That's good.
• 50:16
  Speaker 2: Or you could say same thing like ha ha ha,
• 50:19
  Speaker 2: you mustn't be my favorite one because he wouldn't be
• 50:21
  Speaker 2: insecure enough to do this.
• 50:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah, insecure, I like that playing on that.
• 50:26
  Speaker 2: That would fuck something, that would.
• 50:27
  Speaker 1: Fuck him up.
• 50:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I like that.
• 50:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah, the best response I could give he wouldn't be
• 50:31
  Speaker 1: this insecure send me a message like this, yeah yeah.
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: And also walk away from she? How did she has
• 50:37
  Speaker 1: to find out which one it is so she can
• 50:38
  Speaker 1: walk away from him?
• 50:39
  Speaker 2: No, because her saying that it's just going to make
• 50:42
  Speaker 2: him walk away. True, So it's just gonna be the
• 50:45
  Speaker 2: one that stops messaging her. True. True. Hopefully it's not Noah.
• 50:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah, hope.
• 50:52
  Speaker 2: I can't believe that she thinks it's no one though,
• 50:54
  Speaker 2: walk away girl. If it's Noah, yeah, any of them.
• 50:56
  Speaker 1: You have to be able to find out how who
• 50:58
  Speaker 1: it is somehow. But yeah, yeah, I'm trying. I'm trying
• 51:03
  Speaker 1: to like get in my head. How could you like
• 51:04
  Speaker 1: figure it out too?
• 51:05
  Speaker 2: Like nah, yeah, you gotta figure it out somehow. Yeah.
• 51:12
  Speaker 2: I mean that message that is it will hurt him
• 51:15
  Speaker 2: enough to not talk to you.
• 51:16
  Speaker 1: So that's what men I like out there.
• 51:17
  Speaker 2: Wow, that's insane. Wow. That is also the fact that
• 51:21
  Speaker 2: it's like, how's the what's it called? Uh? When you
• 51:28
  Speaker 2: damn it? What's the word? How's the balls? The nerve? Right?
• 51:33
  Speaker 2: How does this guy have the nerve to start the
• 51:35
  Speaker 2: message off by saying, I do this to all the
• 51:38
  Speaker 2: girls I talk to. Yeah, like, so it's like he
• 51:42
  Speaker 2: needs to feel special knowing you don't talk to anyone.
• 51:45
  Speaker 2: But it's like he's more than It's totally fine to
• 51:48
  Speaker 2: him to be like I do this to all the
• 51:49
  Speaker 2: girls that I talked to, like past and president type shit. Yeah,
• 51:54
  Speaker 2: what a fucking hypocrite.
• 51:55
  Speaker 1: Give me the beggest dick ever.
• 51:57
  Speaker 2: Fuck it. Anyways, next one you're gonna hate. I hated
• 52:00
  Speaker 2: that one. Yeah, No, you're gonna hate this one too. Okay,
• 52:05
  Speaker 2: we've got a juicy best friend dilemma.
• 52:09
  Speaker 1: They slept together, didn't they?
• 52:10
  Speaker 2: Hey, guys, love the pody. My dilemma is girl best
• 52:14
  Speaker 2: friend based. My boyfriend of one year now has had
• 52:17
  Speaker 2: a girl best friend, which I have stated from the start.
• 52:21
  Speaker 2: I don't feel comfortable with. Yes, sorry, I don't feel
• 52:24
  Speaker 2: comfortable with him hanging out with her one on one, Yes,
• 52:27
  Speaker 2: but I don't mind if we all hang out together.
• 52:29
  Speaker 2: It's my one non negotiable, which has been fine. Then
• 52:34
  Speaker 2: a few months ago he went and hung out with
• 52:36
  Speaker 2: her and didn't tell me until I found out, So
• 52:40
  Speaker 2: we haven't hung out with her since anyway to the problem.
• 52:43
  Speaker 2: Now he has said that I need to change my
• 52:45
  Speaker 2: attitude towards the situation and let him see her one
• 52:48
  Speaker 2: on one, or he'll leave me. What do I do?
• 52:50
  Speaker 2: Leave him? The fuck are you talking about? Leave this man?
• 52:58
  Speaker 1: One wordpulation?
• 53:00
  Speaker 2: That's insane.
• 53:02
  Speaker 1: He is manipulating you. He went behind your back to
• 53:04
  Speaker 1: see this person after your voice that you're uncomfortable with it,
• 53:07
  Speaker 1: and now he's put it on you saying you're the problem.
• 53:09
  Speaker 2: What do you do?
• 53:11
  Speaker 1: Fucking leave him? Yeah, even if he thinks it's a
• 53:16
  Speaker 1: toxic mindset, You've done the right thing and communicated how
• 53:19
  Speaker 1: you feel and he hasn't respected how you're feeling and
• 53:21
  Speaker 1: gone behind your back and done that. You just say, hey, no,
• 53:24
  Speaker 1: you've lost my trust. Fuck you go have sex of it.
• 53:27
  Speaker 1: I'm moving on. You're ugly, check that in there?
• 53:29
  Speaker 2: Why not?
• 53:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah?
• 53:30
  Speaker 2: Why not? You're ugly? Anyway, that's no reason. Why dude?
• 53:34
  Speaker 2: What the fuck?
• 53:35
  Speaker 1: I can't believe he said that after It's what's with
• 53:38
  Speaker 1: people getting caught out in the wrong and then turning
• 53:40
  Speaker 1: it on the other person like they're the problem. You've
• 53:44
  Speaker 1: been caught in a lie and now you're the problem.
• 53:46
  Speaker 1: What it's like you made me cheat, Like what is it?
• 53:50
  Speaker 2: Like, like, yeah, you drove me to so yeah, my
• 53:55
  Speaker 2: question for you.
• 53:56
  Speaker 1: Is like, obviously our advice is you need to leave
• 53:59
  Speaker 1: this man.
• 54:00
  Speaker 2: He ne should dump him. Obviously, that's insane, and he's
• 54:05
  Speaker 2: going to try and like if you go to break
• 54:07
  Speaker 2: up with him, he's obviously going to try and make
• 54:09
  Speaker 2: you feel toxic and show stuff like that, like don't
• 54:11
  Speaker 2: be so mature, like I can have friends and shit,
• 54:13
  Speaker 2: tell this guy to fuck off.
• 54:14
  Speaker 1: I think what you've done is extremely healthy. Voiced how
• 54:17
  Speaker 1: you feel, and you've given alternative to allow him to
• 54:21
  Speaker 1: still hang out with his in quotes friend in a
• 54:23
  Speaker 1: healthy manner which you're both comfortable with, and he hasn't
• 54:27
  Speaker 1: respected that boundary. I think you've done everything right. So
• 54:31
  Speaker 1: I feel bad for you, Sam because he's treated you
• 54:33
  Speaker 1: this way. Yeah, and you shouldn't be treated this way.
• 54:35
  Speaker 1: So you know what to do because whenever you are
• 54:36
  Speaker 1: treated badly, that's when you should leave a situation.
• 54:39
  Speaker 2: Fuck good luck girl. How he's fucking young? Too young? Dude?
• 54:42
  Speaker 1: Is this what they're doing?
• 54:43
  Speaker 2: I want an update and I want to know how
• 54:44
  Speaker 2: he handled the breakup as well. I need an update
• 54:46
  Speaker 2: and I need to know how he handled the breakup.
• 54:48
  Speaker 1: I want to know why he wants the friendship with
• 54:51
  Speaker 1: the other girl, Like, what's his justifications?
• 54:54
  Speaker 2: There aren't any, they can't be I don't know. Fuck,
• 54:59
  Speaker 2: we stand on this business so often, just like the
• 55:01
  Speaker 2: best friend thing. I just I just.
• 55:06
  Speaker 1: It's not even like if we're right or wrong that
• 55:08
  Speaker 1: you kind of girls who are best friends. She's voice
• 55:10
  Speaker 1: that she's uncomfortable with it exactly. It means it's wrong
• 55:13
  Speaker 1: from the beginning as.
• 55:14
  Speaker 2: Well, you know, it's it's it's it's an interesting like
• 55:19
  Speaker 2: you guys obviously just weren't compatible. Unfortunately because you voiced
• 55:24
  Speaker 2: it you didn't like it, and then he just wanted
• 55:26
  Speaker 2: to be with you, so he said, okay, yeah, I
• 55:28
  Speaker 2: won't see her. But then he's also like, so something
• 55:31
  Speaker 2: for him is he needs to find someone that's okay
• 55:33
  Speaker 2: with him having a girl best friend. But that's not you.
• 55:37
  Speaker 2: So you guys probably shouldn't have dated in the first place. Yeah,
• 55:40
  Speaker 2: let's be completely real. That's just you need to find
• 55:42
  Speaker 2: someone that's okay with it.
• 55:44
  Speaker 1: I'm thinking too, like, even if you took gender out
• 55:46
  Speaker 1: of the equation, and if for some reason I voiced
• 55:49
  Speaker 1: to my partner that I don't feel comfortable when you
• 55:52
  Speaker 1: hang out with X, and she went and hanged out
• 55:55
  Speaker 1: of X behind my back after I voiced that, and
• 55:58
  Speaker 1: then came back and said, you need to sort yourself out.
• 56:00
  Speaker 1: I'll be like, you just went behind my back to
• 56:02
  Speaker 1: hang out with them. I was like, you just lied
• 56:04
  Speaker 1: to me. You've ruled my trust.
• 56:05
  Speaker 2: I'd be like, okay, how am I the problem?
• 56:08
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I've just voiced you that and you respected that
• 56:10
  Speaker 1: boundary we communicate and you said that was fine, and
• 56:12
  Speaker 1: now you've done this without talking again.
• 56:14
  Speaker 2: That's not fair on me.
• 56:15
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's I'm so sorry.
• 56:26
  Speaker 2: Okay, it's time for comments. I've got YouTube or he's
• 56:28
  Speaker 2: got Spotify. I'll go first. I've only got one. This
• 56:31
  Speaker 2: is actually one that I have replied to already the
• 56:33
  Speaker 2: other day. Okay, okay, that's from Sassy Mouse eighty eight.
• 56:37
  Speaker 2: She said, only watching the intro and can already tell
• 56:39
  Speaker 2: Jake is definitely a fart smeller and not a smart
• 56:42
  Speaker 2: feller because of the shirt. I was weary and so
• 56:45
  Speaker 2: w I replied, and I said, yeah, I'm a fat
• 56:47
  Speaker 2: smeller because as soon as the camera goes off, Bodie
• 56:49
  Speaker 2: farts like there's money on the line.
• 56:50
  Speaker 1: Hey, I do not.
• 56:57
  Speaker 2: Whatever.
• 56:58
  Speaker 1: You smell your own farts. I've got Charlotte Mary. The
• 57:03
  Speaker 1: term slutty for an object is used all the time,
• 57:06
  Speaker 1: mainly about fictional men. Think the watch on Conrad Fisher
• 57:10
  Speaker 1: or think the glasses Jonathan Bailey wears in Jurassic Park
• 57:13
  Speaker 1: slutty little watches or slutty little glasses.
• 57:16
  Speaker 2: Damn, what about anything else?
• 57:17
  Speaker 1: Because we asked, how can I watch looks slutty and
• 57:21
  Speaker 1: or like an object be sludy and what has this
• 57:23
  Speaker 1: thing slutty? And we said it'd be more naked, so
• 57:26
  Speaker 1: like kind of like emphasizes how sexy they are.
• 57:28
  Speaker 2: Slutty little glasses. I see it. I do see I
• 57:31
  Speaker 2: see the I like it.
• 57:33
  Speaker 1: I like how you couldn't say that about anything, would
• 57:36
  Speaker 1: war No?
• 57:36
  Speaker 2: Probably not no, but like kind of funny about a man. Yeah,
• 57:39
  Speaker 2: I feel like I'm not gonna lie if someone said, like,
• 57:41
  Speaker 2: you know, I love you in that slutty little ring Jake, Yeah,
• 57:45
  Speaker 2: he kind of like thank you. Yeah, I'd feel like
• 57:48
  Speaker 2: it's flattered. Bro, don't know why couldn't do that?
• 57:51
  Speaker 1: And that's slutty little No, it's an object, you can't
• 57:53
  Speaker 1: do it. I guess light, little nose piercing or something.
• 57:56
  Speaker 2: Surely what other objects can be? Slutty? A bag, a
• 58:01
  Speaker 2: little bag, a man with a bag. Genuinely I want one, But.
• 58:05
  Speaker 1: I also don't think you could do clothing. You can't
• 58:07
  Speaker 1: like say, that's slowly little show like.
• 58:08
  Speaker 2: I don't realize that.
• 58:09
  Speaker 1: Because it's revealing. It has to be like a it's
• 58:11
  Speaker 1: got to be a what an object classes?
• 58:13
  Speaker 2: Maybe a hat? It's backwards hat.
• 58:16
  Speaker 1: It looks good in that slightly, Maybe it needs to
• 58:18
  Speaker 1: be complimented with a compliment.
• 58:21
  Speaker 2: Slood little ear rings, yeah, oh, slunty little nails, slightly
• 58:25
  Speaker 2: little nails. Yeah.
• 58:26
  Speaker 1: Interesting, I would take that as a compliment. Okay, now
• 58:30
  Speaker 1: we know. But now, baddies, we haven't done this in
• 58:32
  Speaker 1: a month, so we are excited to talk to you.
• 58:35
  Speaker 1: It is time for the baddie sign off. This is
• 58:37
  Speaker 1: where we call one of you lovely baddies and if
• 58:39
  Speaker 1: you want to get called by us, there is a
• 58:41
  Speaker 1: link in the bottom of the description to sign off
• 58:43
  Speaker 1: the episode. Today, we are calling Graces.
• 58:51
  Speaker 5: Hello.
• 58:52
  Speaker 2: Hello, is this Grace, Yes, the suit Grace. This is
• 58:57
  Speaker 2: Jake and Oddie from the Relatables. How are you?
• 59:00
  Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, I actually didn't think you guys were called.
• 59:02
  Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, how are you guys?
• 59:09
  Speaker 1: We're great, We've got good.
• 59:10
  Speaker 2: It's the first time in a month that we've called
• 59:12
  Speaker 2: one of the baddies to sign off an episode.
• 59:14
  Speaker 1: So excited.
• 59:15
  Speaker 5: How was Barley? Did you guys enjoy it?
• 59:17
  Speaker 2: Yes? Yeah, yes, it was very very good, great time.
• 59:20
  Speaker 2: But we missed so jealous, we missed talking to all
• 59:22
  Speaker 2: the baddies. We wanted to ask if you could sign
• 59:23
  Speaker 2: up the episode for us.
• 59:25
  Speaker 5: Oh okay, yes. I was thinking of this the other
• 59:28
  Speaker 5: day and my friend called me for some advice and
• 59:32
  Speaker 5: she was just not loving, like single life and everything,
• 59:37
  Speaker 5: and so I came back to her and I said
• 59:40
  Speaker 5: that you really got to love yourself and have enjoy
• 59:45
  Speaker 5: your own company and everything. And I think that's so
• 59:48
  Speaker 5: much more important. And then a relationship will come when
• 59:52
  Speaker 5: you want it, when you don't need it.
• 59:55
  Speaker 1: That's textbook relatables. Baddiescing from the mountaintop.
• 59:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like we've from the mountaintops for so
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 2: long now. That is good advice. Grace, Well, thank you
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 2: very much.
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 5: All right, Well, stay bad and grew up.
• 1:00:08
  Speaker 1: Let's go, Yeah, cut her off, better off.
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 2: We love you. Stay bad,