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- Jeff Ganter: Welcome back to the Talent Brief. I have been going through some transitions of my own, and you know, when it hits you, it hits you. Those pesky signals. We spend a lot of time worrying about difficult conversations, but I don't think conversations actually begin when someone speaks. I think they begin much earlier. They begin the moment something no longer feels right. Maybe it's a meeting where the energy changes. A relationship that suddenly feels different. An employee who has become unusually quiet. A friend who seems distant. A decision that keeps finding its way back into your thoughts. Long before anyone says a word, your signal has already noticed something. That's what fascinates me. Most of us don't ignore the signal because we don't see it. We ignore it because a script immediately arrives to explain it away. You're probably overthinking. Now isn't the right time. Just give it another week. Don't create a problem that doesn't exist. Those scripts sound incredibly reasonable. That's what makes them so convincing. Over the years, I've watched this happen in almost every environment imaginable. Leaders postpone giving honest feedback. Employees stay silent about what they need. Business partners avoid talking about expectations. Friends stop asking difficult questions. Families quietly tiptoe around issue everybody feels. The conversation already happens. The only difference is whether it arrives caring curiosity or months of assumptions. One of the biggest lessons Signals vs. Scripts has taught me is that the signal isn't asking you to react. It's inviting you to become curious and That's a very different posture. Curiosity asks, what am I noticing? What might I be missing? What conversation needs my attention? Judgment already believes it knows the answer. Curiosity wants to understand it. I've also realized something else. We often think we're avoiding a conversation with another person. I don't think that's what's happening. I think we're avoiding the conversation we're having with ourselves. The one asking, why does this keep bothering me? What am I afraid? This conversation might change? What if my signal is actually telling me something important? Because once you're willing to answer those questions honestly, The conversation with someone else becomes much less intimidating. You stop trying to win, you stop trying to be right. You simply become interested in understanding. Whether that's with a colleague, a spouse, a close friend, or yourself. The conversation didn't begin when the words were spoken. It began the moment Your signal, notice something your script couldn't quite explain away. Okay, signal check. What conversation has already started even if no one has spoken yet? Trust the signal, question the script. As always, thanks for listening and see you soon. Bye.