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The Daily Mess Family Stories That Dont Match Plus If You Had Only 6 Months To Live · Arroe Collins Like It's Live

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  Speaker 1: For instance, when families live under the same roof but
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  Speaker 1: the stories are completely different. What how Plus if you
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  Speaker 1: were told that you have six months to live, what
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  Speaker 1: would you want to do next? My name is Errow.
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  Speaker 1: it's time to dig in. It's still keeping that journal,
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  Speaker 1: but by doing the research, the pictures are going to
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  Speaker 1: become clearer. This is the daily mess. When families and
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  Speaker 1: their stories and their experiences they aren't the same, does
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  Speaker 1: that create a war between the siblings? Well, before we
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  Speaker 1: take another step in any direction, Brothers and sisters who
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  Speaker 1: grow up together often experience very different versions of the family,
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  Speaker 1: not because the parents aren't the same, but because circumstances, finances,
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  Speaker 1: stress levels, health, and age. It changes everything. When siblings
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  Speaker 1: and their stories don't match. It causes confusion, intimidation, emotional distance,
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  Speaker 1: and completely different loyalties. Families with different stories is a
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  Speaker 1: form of self protection. It's easier for people to emotionally
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  Speaker 1: detach than to spend the rest of their lives debating it,
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  Speaker 1: and both sides could be telling the absolute one hundred
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  Speaker 1: percent truth. The same household with the same roof can
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  Speaker 1: feel completely one hundred percent different. You can share the
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  Speaker 1: same house but not the same childhood. The goal should
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  Speaker 1: be to recognize the indifferences, and then you've got to
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  Speaker 1: generate a real understanding. And do me a favor. Do
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  Speaker 1: not wait until you've lost a sibling. My sister and
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  Speaker 1: I completely different stories. We're no longer to get other
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  Speaker 1: because that's what happens in life. You're born, and then
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  Speaker 1: you transition, and now you have a story that doesn't
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  Speaker 1: have the rest of the story. Not to sound like
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  Speaker 1: Paul Harvey. Hey, coming up next. If you were told
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  Speaker 1: that you've got six months to live, what's up next? Hey,
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  Speaker 1: thanks for coming back to the daily mess. If you
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  Speaker 1: were told that you have six months to a year
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  Speaker 1: to live, what would you want to do with the
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  Speaker 1: finances that you presently have. This is all based on
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  Speaker 1: family values, family situations, goals, and common priorities. There are
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  Speaker 1: five things to get straight. Number one, make sure your
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  Speaker 1: loved ones are protected. Update those wills. I can't say
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  Speaker 1: that strong enough and more meaningful. Make sure you update
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  Speaker 1: your wills and pay off those frickin' bills. Number two,
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  Speaker 1: handle practical matters, organize finance accounts and important papers. Make
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  Speaker 1: healthcare and decisions very clear. Okay, this is what I
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  Speaker 1: want to teach you on this as a third dawn
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  Speaker 1: third degree black belts. When I would step in to
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  Speaker 1: instruct it was never the third degree black belt or
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  Speaker 1: the third dawn. In martial arts, they teach you lowver
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  Speaker 1: your process of teaching. And that's exactly what I mean
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  Speaker 1: here when I say when it comes to healthcare and decisions,
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  Speaker 1: make it clear you live the life nobody else did.
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  Speaker 1: Make it clear. And number three, make meaningful experiences. I
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  Speaker 1: mean you got to travel to other places just so
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  Speaker 1: you can see it and spend time with your family.
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  Speaker 1: Number four give back, Yeah, don't eat to charities, help
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  Speaker 1: out family members financially. And finally, number five, you got
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  Speaker 1: to focus in on the quality of life. You've got
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  Speaker 1: to do everything you can to reduce stress, work less,
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  Speaker 1: and devote time to relationships. When given only six months
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  Speaker 1: to live, money is no longer about accumulating. On a
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  Speaker 1: deeper level, You've got to learn how to create some
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  Speaker 1: kind of lasting legacy to which my parents did not
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  Speaker 1: do They didn't And what do I have My memories
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  Speaker 1: versus my sister's memories versus my brother's memories. We all
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  Speaker 1: have different memories and we all live two five hundred
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  Speaker 1: miles apart. I'm not sure the higher power wanted that.
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  Speaker 1: The future is always going to be in question. The
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  Speaker 1: question is do you have what it takes to pull
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  Speaker 1: it all back together. I'm Errol and that's the daily mess.