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Ariela Weinberg - 90 Day Fiancé Experience & Navigating Fame · Cats & Pudding with Jennifer Dilandro

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Speaker 3: Can all all halfway introduce and then you introduce her.
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Speaker 4: Oh hello, shitty mom, kill them with chillum.
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Speaker 2: This is the Cats in Footing Podcast, a melting pot
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Speaker 2: of footing. And now here's Jen.
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Speaker 5: Hi.
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Speaker 3: It's kats and pudding in Kitty and I am back.
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Speaker 3: I'm happy to be doing the show with Jen again.
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Speaker 3: So happy Today we have.
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Speaker 2: A very adorable secure much so pretty.
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Speaker 3: She's wearing my favorite color.
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Speaker 2: Yes it's like a teal. Yes it's a nice color.
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Speaker 2: And would you like to I would love to.
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Speaker 4: So we have miss Ariela Weinbergne today and this is
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Speaker 4: one of my lovely I love you, one of my
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Speaker 4: patients too. We could tell everybody because I post you
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Speaker 4: on social media and we became friends. And she's a great,
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Speaker 4: great gal, and she's on this little show called ninety
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Speaker 4: Day Fiance.
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Speaker 2: So welcome to our show.
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Speaker 6: Thank you so much. I'm happy to be here. And
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Speaker 6: I love Jen. Jen is the best. Actually, when I'm
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Speaker 6: watching you guys do the show, I'm thinking I have
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Speaker 6: to move back to the East Coast because just like here,
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Speaker 6: you guys, I'm like, this is these are my people.
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Speaker 6: You know, I'm on the West Coast. And I was like, no, no,
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Speaker 6: the people on the East Coast, like the sense of humor,
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Speaker 6: everything doesn't translate. I feel like even when people watch
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Speaker 6: me on the show, you know, I'm very dead, pant sarcastic. Yeah,
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Speaker 6: that's the East Coast style of being talking and everything.
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Speaker 6: And so I'm happy to be here with my people.
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Speaker 6: Oh you want to raise New Jersey, we'll part in Princeton.
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Speaker 3: Oh she's a real Jersey girl. You're a real Jersey girl.
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Speaker 3: Sorry I think I called it the redheaded step child.
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Speaker 3: I apologize.
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Speaker 6: Okay, I'm used to New Yorkers beating up on New Jersey.
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Speaker 4: You want to know something, I say that, but Actually,
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Speaker 4: I'm one of the few people that actually from New
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Speaker 4: York that I think Jersey is beautiful.
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Speaker 2: I love Jersey, I do.
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Speaker 6: No, I know I used to My dad's from Brooklyn,
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Speaker 6: and like my mom's family is all from Jersey. My
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Speaker 6: dad's side is from New York. So I'm used to
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Speaker 6: hearing you know, like, oh, I wouldn't be caught dead
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Speaker 6: in Jersey and all these kind of things. So no
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Speaker 6: offense taken. I know you guys secretly all have family
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Speaker 6: out there and coming to visit.
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Speaker 4: I have my brothers, both lived cousins. Yeah, so I
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Speaker 4: just I don't mind visiting their houses. So I'm actually
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Speaker 4: thinking about moving to Jersey. So really, yes, at some point.
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Speaker 4: So we'll see, we'll see.
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Speaker 2: What might be neat.
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Speaker 4: But I don't know about the movie is far out
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Speaker 4: of Princeton, Noyeah.
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Speaker 5: I know, I think I know your thoughts on it.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it's it's a little too often.
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Speaker 3: How far is it from I always ask everybody how
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Speaker 3: far are you from the bridge?
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Speaker 5: Lady w and like an hour?
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Speaker 2: That's bad.
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Speaker 3: We went to red Hook, that was we would draw
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Speaker 3: it all the way down.
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Speaker 2: No, it's Red Bank.
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Speaker 4: Will We had from North Jersey to South Jersey is
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Speaker 4: a long ride.
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Speaker 2: You gotta remember, Jersey is a big state. We were
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Speaker 2: all we went. We went from north to south, that's true.
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Speaker 2: And it was rush hour. That's if we were the
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Speaker 2: rush hour probably would have took us an hour.
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Speaker 4: Name Oh my god, no, one's why. I told somebody
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Speaker 4: who was in Jersey. I said, oh, I was in
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Speaker 4: red Hook, Jersey. They were like, I never heard of that.
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Speaker 3: I said, new It's like new enough of combings. Red
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Speaker 3: Hook is in Brooklyn, I know, I got and I said,
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Speaker 3: there's one in Brooklyn too, not the one in Brooklyn,
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Speaker 3: the one in Jersey.
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Speaker 2: You know what was funny thing?
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Speaker 4: You were trying to tell me about Red Hook in
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Speaker 4: Jersey and I'm going, it's not red Hook, It's Red Bank.
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Speaker 4: So she was talking about Red Hook. I want to
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Speaker 4: go to this place. It's called I don't know what
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Speaker 4: the name Jersey.
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Speaker 2: Is. Yeah, he's that beautiful Jack And I sent you
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Speaker 2: the pictures. Yeah, oh my god. Oh I love it.
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Speaker 2: Comparatively to the ones you said me last night was
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Speaker 2: that was a hilarious picture of granting your.
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Speaker 3: I love that.
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Speaker 2: I love it too, So.
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Speaker 5: Okay, I'm enjoying cracking she's so funny.
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Speaker 4: So she's on this this show, which is like a phenomenon.
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Speaker 2: Everybody watches this show, very this show so much.
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Speaker 5: You know, I thought about that a lot.
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Speaker 6: It's like, when I got on the show, I didn't
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Speaker 6: realize how big it was because I don't watch reality TV,
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Speaker 6: or now I do, but I didn't watch it at
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Speaker 6: the time, and it wasn't as big of it. It
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Speaker 6: wasn't such a phenomenon at the time.
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Speaker 4: I mean, it's bigger than The Housewives. The people, like
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Speaker 4: four million people a week.
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Speaker 2: Watched the show, are you kidding?
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Speaker 3: Yeah, And that's a lot how many watched the Housewives.
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Speaker 2: Maybe maybe if they get a million of my what.
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Speaker 4: Housewives, all of them, all the house all of them,
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Speaker 4: their ratings actually fooling, you know what I mean?
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Speaker 5: You know what I think it is.
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Speaker 6: I think that people like to see real stories and
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Speaker 6: they think that they relate to it. I get so
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Speaker 6: many messages on social media and comments people that I
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Speaker 6: meet in real life are like, I watched your show
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Speaker 6: and I really related to you, or I related to
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Speaker 6: such and such a person and it helped me get
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Speaker 6: through COVID. It helped me get through you know, my divorce.
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Speaker 6: It helped me people just you know, one time I
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Speaker 6: was feeling kind of like I was kind of I
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Speaker 6: was talking to my dad and I was like, you know,
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Speaker 6: I don't know, I did the show, it's not a
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Speaker 6: big deal. And my dad said, you know, you help
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Speaker 6: a lot of people, you know, emotionally, people connect to
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Speaker 6: the show and and a lot of hard work goes
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Speaker 6: into it. I know, people think we just show up,
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Speaker 6: and but I mean there's a lot of people put
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Speaker 6: their heart and soul into whether it's us, the you know,
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Speaker 6: the cast that are on it, or the crew. And
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Speaker 6: I think it's a lot more there's it's a lot
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Speaker 6: more real than some other shows.
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Speaker 5: So I think that it will relate to actually get.
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Speaker 6: I saw an ad online and it was like, have
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Speaker 6: you fallen in love with the Foreigner?
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Speaker 3: And wait, wait, wait, you saw an ad online?
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Speaker 2: Where was the ad?
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Speaker 6: So the ad was on Craigslist and it was just
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Speaker 6: I think it was Craigslist.
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Speaker 5: There was a you know, one of those.
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Speaker 6: Like it was like one of the well I can't speak, sorry,
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Speaker 6: what do you call them? They're classified kind of class. Yeah,
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Speaker 6: So I said, oh, maybe they can help me, you know,
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Speaker 6: get a visa. I thought maybe it's you know, a
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Speaker 6: lawyer or some kind of law thing, you know, help
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Speaker 6: me get a visa from my then you know, boyfriend
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Speaker 6: and you were in love with a foreign Yeah, already
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Speaker 6: they don't pair you. You know, it's not like you
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Speaker 6: go and it's not like what love is blind or
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Speaker 6: something where they they did.
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Speaker 5: On the show.
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Speaker 2: So you come on with a boyfriend.
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Speaker 6: Yeah, So we knew each other beforehand, and obviously I
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Speaker 6: was pregnant at the time. And then you know, we
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Speaker 6: got on the show. I thought, oh, well, we'll try
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Speaker 6: this thing out. It'll be fun, and uh, you know,
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Speaker 6: it'll be something I tell people about one day that
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Speaker 6: I did this little show and and that'll be it.
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Speaker 6: And then here I am all these years later and
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Speaker 6: still airing, and how.
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Speaker 2: Many years you audit?
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Speaker 5: It's been what like five years them?
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Speaker 2: Could I ask you?
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Speaker 3: From being people always say in the act acting, oh
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Speaker 3: you got bit by the bug. Somebody go, I'm not
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Speaker 3: an actor. Then they do something and they get the
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Speaker 3: experience of being in front of a camera, people seeing them,
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Speaker 3: and you know, almost like it's like a quick started
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Speaker 3: or whatever. But how do you feel being a regular?
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Speaker 3: What did you do before this?
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Speaker 5: So I just worked as a freelance writer. I did.
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Speaker 6: I wrote articles, copy editing things like that. Okay, so
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Speaker 6: you're just.
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Speaker 3: Like almost like a nine to five. I'm just gonna say,
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Speaker 3: but artists you because you feel writing you have some
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Speaker 3: kind of art artistic ability.
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Speaker 2: How does that feel? How much longer will the show go?
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Speaker 6: I don't know, It's that's something I don't think anyone
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Speaker 6: really knows, because it's I mean when you once you
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Speaker 6: watch it, you'll kind of get the idea of like
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Speaker 6: how that is. But people who have been on a
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Speaker 6: season sometimes you know, are on it again if there's
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Speaker 6: you know, if their story continues or if they break up,
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Speaker 6: I guess they're not on it anymore. But but yeah,
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Speaker 6: the question I guess you're asking is what do you
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Speaker 6: do with Like, how does it feel to go from
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Speaker 6: just being like just a regular person. I mean, he's
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Speaker 6: still regular person obviously. It's kind of that crasing, but
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Speaker 6: you know what I mean, to all of a sudden
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Speaker 6: everyone knowing your life.
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Speaker 5: That has been crazy.
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Speaker 6: That's been very weird for me because I was always
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Speaker 6: a very private person. Yeah, and I thought, you know, okay,
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Speaker 6: well this will be an experience, and I thought that
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Speaker 6: that my husband, Viniam would get some he he's an artist,
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Speaker 6: he's a dancer, and he does all kinds of other
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Speaker 6: like martial arts and.
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Speaker 5: Things like that.
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Speaker 6: So I thought, oh, maybe someone will see him and
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Speaker 6: you know, he's dancing something, he'll get some attention for it.
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Speaker 6: And I said, they won't really focus on me because
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Speaker 6: he's really talented, and they'll just focus on him. And then,
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Speaker 6: you know, a little did I know they were really
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Speaker 6: focusing on the American because that's the experience that Americans
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Speaker 6: relate to another America and falling in love with with
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Speaker 6: the foreigner, right, And so for me, it's it's been weird.
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Speaker 6: It's even weird now. I think some of the side
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Speaker 6: effective being on the shows, I've become more shy. I
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Speaker 6: was always very outgoing, introverted about going. But now like
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Speaker 6: when I go outside, you know, put my hoodie up.
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Speaker 6: I'm kind of like, OK, I'm gonna go run into
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Speaker 6: the store, you know, didn't put on any makeup. Hope
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Speaker 6: nobody you know, recognizes me or anything. It's weird because
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Speaker 6: I never really wanted to be famous. I did like acting,
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Speaker 6: like in plays when I was a kid, but not
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Speaker 6: I never thought like, well, I'm going to be on
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Speaker 6: TV or something that was weird. So it's been it's
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Speaker 6: an experience. It's definitely strange. Or people feel like they
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Speaker 6: know you. And then so people come up to you
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Speaker 6: and sometimes say the funniest things, you know, and you're
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Speaker 6: just like, oh, okay, or I love when I hear
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Speaker 6: people are like, oh, you've helped me get through this
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Speaker 6: difficult time in my life. Nobody, barely anyone ever comes
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Speaker 6: up to says anything negative in real life on social media,
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Speaker 6: get all the negatives, Yeah.
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Speaker 2: That's all.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, what's the funniest thing someone's ever said to you?
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Speaker 6: The funniest experience I had? I think one of the funniest. Well,
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Speaker 6: I had two funny experiences that I could think of
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Speaker 6: off the top of my head. One was in Vegas.
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Speaker 6: I was outside a very nice restaurant. I was about
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Speaker 6: to go in and meet Vinnie and some friends and
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Speaker 6: this woman is like grabs me and she's like, I
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Speaker 6: need you to understand that you're too good for this guy,
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Speaker 6: and you just you know, you could do so much better.
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Speaker 5: And just you know, leave him. And it was so dramatic,
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Speaker 5: and she was so like, you know, because I.
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Speaker 2: Into your story.
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Speaker 6: I was like it's okay, Like, everything's fine. I'm gonna
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Speaker 6: go after dinner with him. Now, you know, you can
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Speaker 6: meet him if you want. It's okay, I'm fine, you know,
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Speaker 6: nothing happened to me. I'm okay. And she was just
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Speaker 6: very emotional. And the other the other funny thing also
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Speaker 6: in Vegas. Vegas, Vegas has got some crazy people. Yeah,
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Speaker 6: and also I guess people who are on vacation and drunk.
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Speaker 6: But is this lady she she's with her family. I
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Speaker 6: was with my family with my mom. You know, my
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Speaker 6: mom great mom, she's really fabulous. But my mom Vinnie,
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Speaker 6: and I don't if my son was there now probably,
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Speaker 6: And we're walking on the strip and this woman who's
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Speaker 6: with her family, I guess, comes up to me and
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Speaker 6: she was like, I love you, you know, you're amazing,
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Speaker 6: blah blah blah, and she gives me a hundred dollars
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Speaker 6: bill and I was like, I'm sorry, I can't. You know,
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Speaker 6: I can't take your money. I've always been raised that
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Speaker 6: you just don't take money from strangers or you know whatever.
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Speaker 6: So my mom is like, wow, this lady, you know,
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Speaker 6: really likes you. She's like, I guess, just take it.
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Speaker 6: I was like I don't know. And then she was like, no,
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Speaker 6: you have to take it, take it. And I was like, okay, fine,
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Speaker 6: you know it took the one hundred dollars and then
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Speaker 6: I said, I just started a charity. I said, I'll
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Speaker 6: donate it as my first you know, charitable donation.
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Speaker 5: She said no, it's money's for you.
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Speaker 6: And I'm like, okay, all right, and then she gave
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Speaker 6: me an extra ten bucks and I was like, funny, yeah,
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Speaker 6: And I was like, I really don't want it, so
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Speaker 6: comfortable taking this money, but okay, you know, maybe she
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Speaker 6: want it.
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Speaker 3: Do you think that if just let's have a fake scenario.
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Speaker 2: They call you, they say the show's done.
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Speaker 3: You're not on it anymore, it's done. Would you just
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Speaker 3: go back to writing and to the regular ordinary, you know,
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Speaker 3: behind the scenes kind of life.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I would you still be.
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Speaker 3: Looking for the camera and say what could I do next?
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Speaker 3: I'm used to this now.
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Speaker 6: I know a few people who are on the show
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Speaker 6: who who kind of feel that maybe they can use
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Speaker 6: it as a stepping stone to continue to be on
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Speaker 6: the camera, in front of the camera and stuff. I
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Speaker 6: would be more interested in being behind the camera. I
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Speaker 6: started working on a documentary, but to be honest, they
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Speaker 6: need more funding for it, so I'm not working on
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Speaker 6: it at the moment. But my life has really just
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Speaker 6: continued on. I'm still doing a lot of the ordinary,
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Speaker 6: boring stuff that I was doing. Like I'm in school
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Speaker 6: right now, and so for me, I'm doing I'm taking
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Speaker 6: some prerecs right now.
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Speaker 5: I don't want to.
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Speaker 6: I was thinking about doing nursing, but I'm not sure,
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Speaker 6: so I don't want to one hundred percent commitment. Yeah,
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Speaker 6: then someone listens to this and give her any say
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Speaker 6: how's that going, and I say, oh, change my mind? Yeah,
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Speaker 6: but yeah, basically, so for me, life it just continues on.
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Speaker 6: I know that I don't think, yeah, I don't think
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Speaker 6: I being in front of the camera is not so
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Speaker 6: interesting to me as The cool thing though, is you know,
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Speaker 6: being on a show like this, you get to see
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Speaker 6: behind the scenes, like the production aspect of it. You
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Speaker 6: learn about lighting and you know, operating a camera, and
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Speaker 6: you know all the little tiny things that you just
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Speaker 6: kind of pick up from all these years of working
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Speaker 6: with people who do that professionally.
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Speaker 3: So's I'm so fascinated by people who say, oh I learned,
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Speaker 3: Like even Rosella goes. I learned from being in front
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Speaker 3: of the camera. I learned how to work, you know,
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Speaker 3: how to use the camera. I learned about camera, you
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Speaker 3: said lighting. I'm an actress since nineteen ninety two. I
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Speaker 3: wouldn't know the first thing about the lighting. Somebody about
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Speaker 3: the camera. I don't even pay attention because I just
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Speaker 3: concentrate on my acting. But so many other actors concentrate
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Speaker 3: on that and sit and learn it while they're on
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Speaker 3: a set, and I have no I have interest, but
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Speaker 3: like I have to say, focus on my acting. So
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Speaker 3: I don't know how actors learn it.
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Speaker 6: I think some people like if you if you already
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Speaker 6: have an interest for it, you kind of lean into
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Speaker 6: it to learn more.
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Speaker 5: And also I.
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Speaker 4: Guess that's the word. Yeah, yeah, I mean I like
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Speaker 4: that too, part of it. So I like the back
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Speaker 4: to buying the scenes, like that's what I'm interested in.
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Speaker 2: I like directing. I could direct anybody. I think I'd
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Speaker 2: be a great director.
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Speaker 6: Well, and then you know, you have people that work
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Speaker 6: on the show that you end up meeting, right because
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Speaker 6: you're around them a lot, and uh, and they're around you,
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Speaker 6: especially in these vulnerable times, right, and you talk to
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Speaker 6: them and you know, I mean, I'm in contact with
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Speaker 6: some people that I've met through you know, just doing
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Speaker 6: the show and message them and ask them questions like, hey,
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Speaker 6: you know, if I want to light in this scenario,
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Speaker 6: like what would you buy?
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Speaker 5: What would you do? You know?
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Speaker 6: I guess it's more you take an interest in it,
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Speaker 6: but I could see how you wouldn't. You don't necessarily
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Speaker 6: get anything out of it if you're not focused on that.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, Well, as an act, you have to be focused
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Speaker 3: on what you're doing. You have to believe in your
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Speaker 3: space and believe in the you know, imaginary circumstances that
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Speaker 3: are happening.
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Speaker 6: Well for me with the acting, I can I could
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Speaker 6: like dig into my emotions. That part I feel like
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Speaker 6: I could do, but I feel like to be an actor,
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Speaker 6: you know, you have to have some kind of like
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Speaker 6: internal charisma. You definitely have charisma. I mean, I met you,
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Speaker 6: you know, just now, but I feel that But like
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Speaker 6: for me, I especially now that I think I'm a
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Speaker 6: little bit more shy since so I feel like so
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Speaker 6: many people know my life, I feel like, oh, I
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Speaker 6: don't have that in me to be like, you know,
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Speaker 6: to walk into room and light it up. I'm kind
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Speaker 6: of like, oh, I hope no one notices me. You know,
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Speaker 6: that's more of my personality, which maybe it's a good thing,
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Speaker 6: you know, maybe it's a bad thing, maybe it's neutral.
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Speaker 5: I don't know, but wow. Yeah.
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Speaker 6: I mean I if someone you know, saw me and said, oh,
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Speaker 6: you look like you know, you just fit right for
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Speaker 6: this part, I might, you know, I would consider it,
15:38
Speaker 6: but I don't know if I'm going to actively like
15:39
Speaker 6: search out roles or anything like that.
15:41
Speaker 2: Did your husband get a screen caught?
15:43
Speaker 5: Uh so he has a green card? Yes?
15:45
Speaker 2: Good?
15:46
Speaker 5: Yeah?
15:46
Speaker 6: And uh oh my god, the process you know, after
15:49
Speaker 6: COVID and everything, everything was backed up.
15:51
Speaker 5: I think that's the other thing.
15:52
Speaker 6: A lot of people are in these relationships, right whether
15:54
Speaker 6: it would and then they relate to this process of
15:57
Speaker 6: like what it takes to get a green card for
15:59
Speaker 6: some one or I think also there was an article
16:02
Speaker 6: I think it was it.
16:03
Speaker 5: The Wall Street Journal or there there's two.
16:05
Speaker 6: I think there's one in the Wall Street Journal one
16:07
Speaker 6: in the New York Times about the show and they
16:09
Speaker 6: talk about like how ninety Fiance is perfect, like the
16:12
Speaker 6: perfect show for our times because it combines like the immigration,
16:16
Speaker 6: which is such a hot topic. Yeah, and love and
16:20
Speaker 6: you know, all these things and it just puts them
16:22
Speaker 6: together into this like formula that it just works.
16:27
Speaker 3: So is that how they advertise for nine y Dace
16:29
Speaker 3: on Craigslist?
16:30
Speaker 6: No, I mean, I don't know what they do nowadays.
16:32
Speaker 6: I'm sure that they've got people that reach out to
16:35
Speaker 6: them all the time.
16:35
Speaker 4: They go through social media, they see what people are doing.
16:39
Speaker 4: I mean, now, I think a lot of people try
16:41
Speaker 4: to get on the show. They go, they go deliberately
16:43
Speaker 4: find people. I feel like lately, because I.
16:46
Speaker 6: Got on a little bit of trivees like we're a
16:48
Speaker 6: little earlier, maybe even the early midpoint of the show.
16:52
Speaker 6: So like now, I feel like there's got to be
16:54
Speaker 6: tons of people who try to get on the show.
16:59
Speaker 6: But it's fun, you know. I mean, I'm happy I
17:01
Speaker 6: did a lot of it. People always ask me, oh,
17:03
Speaker 6: are you happy that you that you went on the show,
17:05
Speaker 6: And it's has been a great experience. It's been super
17:07
Speaker 6: fun and I got to meet awesome people. I don't
17:10
Speaker 6: think I would have ended up meeting you.
17:12
Speaker 5: No.
17:12
Speaker 4: So, I mean I I do a lot of I
17:15
Speaker 4: do a lot of the you know, cast members on
17:18
Speaker 4: your show. There are a lot of them come to
17:19
Speaker 4: me to do botox and fills another.
17:22
Speaker 5: Treatment I need. I need to come in for, they
17:24
Speaker 5: come in for. That's because I go to gen She
17:32
Speaker 5: did it enhance your relationship the show?
17:35
Speaker 2: Yeah, you and your husband.
17:36
Speaker 6: I think honestly having other people in your relationship, whether
17:40
Speaker 6: that be an audience or whatever, never enhances it. I
17:43
Speaker 6: feel like that's why people in Hollywood and stuff the
17:45
Speaker 6: relationships number.
17:46
Speaker 5: Yeah. Yeah. I feel like the less you.
17:49
Speaker 6: Could put your personal stuff into the public, I probably
17:53
Speaker 6: the better. And I heard what you guys were talking
17:54
Speaker 6: about earlier with social media. I totally agreed that it's
17:57
Speaker 6: has a really negative impact on society. And I've been
18:01
Speaker 6: burnt down by myself lately. I haven't been posting and
18:03
Speaker 6: stuff because I just feel like I don't know, like
18:06
Speaker 6: some things, you know, some things it feels good to
18:09
Speaker 6: keep private.
18:10
Speaker 5: Yes, so.
18:11
Speaker 6: And then the other thing is you see all these
18:12
Speaker 6: people you think they're living this amazing life. And people
18:16
Speaker 6: see I travel a lot and they always comment like,
18:18
Speaker 6: you know, how do you How can you travel this much?
18:19
Speaker 6: And stuff, and like I never want to make someone
18:21
Speaker 6: else feel like, oh, my life is so much better
18:24
Speaker 6: than theirs. I don't get any satisfaction out of anyone
18:26
Speaker 6: thinking that, but I know that that's the whole goal
18:28
Speaker 6: of an influencer.
18:29
Speaker 5: Right to be like, this is my life, it's amazing
18:31
Speaker 5: and you know.
18:34
Speaker 6: But I just feel like it's a negative in general
18:36
Speaker 6: for society to don't know, going by what you were
18:39
Speaker 6: talking about before, with social media in general.
18:41
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I agree with that.
18:43
Speaker 4: I think I think, like I said before on Catherine,
18:46
Speaker 4: I think it's a blessing and a curse.
18:48
Speaker 2: I think it is.
18:49
Speaker 4: I think it's some aspects it's a blessing and aspects
18:52
Speaker 4: it's a curse. And I think that that now what's happening,
18:55
Speaker 4: it's morphing into more of a curse, where it was
18:58
Speaker 4: originally a blessing, you know, because then you could connect
19:01
Speaker 4: to people, which is nice and blah blah blah. When
19:03
Speaker 4: Facebook started, that was great. You could connect to your
19:05
Speaker 4: high school people. Some people in high school.
19:08
Speaker 2: I never liked them.
19:09
Speaker 4: I don't want to connect to you, that's what it please,
19:10
Speaker 4: don't reach out. So maybe that, you know, whatever. But
19:14
Speaker 4: it became something nice and at first, and now I
19:17
Speaker 4: feel like it's waffing into not so nice anymore.
19:21
Speaker 2: The kids are more depressed, there's more people, you.
19:24
Speaker 6: Know, it's funny that you say that about the high
19:26
Speaker 6: school thing, because like, after I got on the show,
19:28
Speaker 6: I had people like from high school reach out to
19:30
Speaker 6: me on Facebook and stuff, and I was kind of
19:33
Speaker 6: like a weird kid in high school. I'm probably still weird,
19:35
Speaker 6: but I definitely am still weird. But I like it now.
19:39
Speaker 6: And so I'm like, you know, you weren't nice to
19:41
Speaker 6: me in high school. Man, I don't know, you know,
19:43
Speaker 6: I don't really want to talk to you now. So
19:44
Speaker 6: there's a positive and negative, but then there are it's weird.
19:48
Speaker 6: I see a lot of things on social media, even
19:50
Speaker 6: like you know, we talked about the negative comments. Yeah,
19:52
Speaker 6: I had a woman like years ago send me a
19:55
Speaker 6: negative comment or whatever. I almost never reply, but occasionally,
19:58
Speaker 6: you know, if I'm having a bad nurs you know,
20:00
Speaker 6: I'm human, it might get to me. So I replied
20:02
Speaker 6: to this woman and I just said, really, you know,
20:04
Speaker 6: you think that's a nice comment or something. And then
20:06
Speaker 6: years later she messages me back. Recently the other day,
20:09
Speaker 6: she says, I'm sorry for what I said. You know,
20:12
Speaker 6: I'm sorry for that message I sent you years ago.
20:14
Speaker 6: And I've had that happened a few times later.
20:17
Speaker 2: Heart, you know, I heard something some kid.
20:21
Speaker 3: I thought, this is really showed me about how negative
20:25
Speaker 3: I'm not bashing social media.
20:26
Speaker 2: It's great.
20:27
Speaker 3: People make a living offer and now that's what it's become.
20:30
Speaker 2: People make a living.
20:31
Speaker 3: Okay, you advertise your business, you avertise your business, but
20:34
Speaker 3: for kids. This kid was in an interview and he
20:38
Speaker 3: was being It was about bullying, and he said he's
20:44
Speaker 3: been bullied his whole life. Right, you can see he
20:46
Speaker 3: had a little it was a little off but adorable,
20:49
Speaker 3: beautiful kid, and he said, I've bullied my whole life.
20:52
Speaker 3: He goes, but it's gotten so bad now as I'm
20:56
Speaker 3: getting older and social media. Because when I got bullied,
21:00
Speaker 3: when there was no social media, I would go home
21:03
Speaker 3: and I'd have that eight.
21:04
Speaker 2: Hour break, nine hour break.
21:06
Speaker 3: He goes, Now I come home from school, I'm being
21:08
Speaker 3: bullied on social media.
21:10
Speaker 2: Still.
21:11
Speaker 3: All the kids in my school are bullying me on
21:14
Speaker 3: social media. And he attempted suicide and he said, I
21:19
Speaker 3: never had a break. I could not get away from
21:21
Speaker 3: the bullying. So even after school they were getting me
21:24
Speaker 3: and torturing.
21:25
Speaker 2: There was no reprieve.
21:26
Speaker 3: So and I remember that really affected me, and it
21:28
Speaker 3: made me realize how what a negative thing that it
21:32
Speaker 3: could be, but it's also, like I said, a good thing.
21:34
Speaker 3: I don't want to bash it.
21:36
Speaker 4: I agree with that, but I think that at the
21:38
Speaker 4: end of the day, maybe maybe people should be able
21:41
Speaker 4: to put it down. I mean, I don't know, I do.
21:43
Speaker 4: I think maybe TikTok should be taken away. Maybe that's
21:45
Speaker 4: I think that TikTok is too much stimulation for the
21:48
Speaker 4: kids to this information more than more than ascram. I
21:52
Speaker 4: think it's too much stimulation and their intention span.
21:55
Speaker 2: It's thirty seconds, yes, so it's like how much could
21:59
Speaker 2: you process?
22:00
Speaker 3: But it's also rewiring the bread to not have a
22:04
Speaker 3: longer intention shortening.
22:07
Speaker 2: It's like I'm over this, what's next? Next? Right, I'm
22:09
Speaker 2: over this? What's the next thing?
22:10
Speaker 4: And then they can't process it, and then they can't
22:13
Speaker 4: like like they consume too much, and then they become
22:16
Speaker 4: like they can't cope wort anything.
22:17
Speaker 2: So that's what I think. It's a bad thing.
22:19
Speaker 6: I mean, I think also social media. It's funny because
22:22
Speaker 6: I feel like one of the reasons that the show
22:25
Speaker 6: blew up in the first place, probably because clips of it,
22:27
Speaker 6: you know, get so they're you know, obviously for me
22:31
Speaker 6: that it's a positive, right that the show is so big,
22:33
Speaker 6: and but it's I mean, I I know you're saying
22:36
Speaker 6: you don't want to bash it, but at the same time,
22:38
Speaker 6: it's like, you know, moderation. The problem is yeah, I mean,
22:42
Speaker 6: the thing is also like as an adult, I get,
22:44
Speaker 6: I'm an adult, so I get I'm on social media.
22:46
Speaker 6: I get negative comments, I get positive comments, whatever. But
22:49
Speaker 6: as an adult, I can say, well, these people don't
22:51
Speaker 6: know me, they don't pay their bills, they don't you
22:52
Speaker 6: know whatever.
22:55
Speaker 5: Kid, it's even hard, that's right.
22:58
Speaker 2: I mean, imagine going through that as a kid.
22:59
Speaker 4: So like I mean, right now, with your your episodes
23:03
Speaker 4: and your your your show is coming out now, are
23:05
Speaker 4: you finding that a lot of people are commenting on
23:08
Speaker 4: what's going on?
23:08
Speaker 6: Like, oh, yeah, this is seems to be really popular
23:12
Speaker 6: when people are messaging me and they like a lot
23:16
Speaker 6: of positive comments I'm getting from people that, you know,
23:18
Speaker 6: because they relate to my struggle because this particular show
23:23
Speaker 6: is about marriage therapy and the struggle of like making
23:25
Speaker 6: a relationship working. So I feel like that's something that
23:28
Speaker 6: a lot of people can identify with, especially because what's
23:30
Speaker 6: the divorce right now or something. You know, people and
23:33
Speaker 6: more people are going to therapy than ever before. Right,
23:36
Speaker 6: So so yeah, a lot of people reaching out and
23:40
Speaker 6: and I appreciate that, Like when women reach out and say,
23:43
Speaker 6: you know, I was in this, Uh, Like I'll get
23:46
Speaker 6: some comments like I was in a toxic relationship and
23:49
Speaker 6: you know, I'm seeing your your or I am in
23:53
Speaker 6: a toxic relationship. I'm seeing your show, and I feel
23:55
Speaker 6: like it's given me some strength to be able to
23:57
Speaker 6: express my emotions or something.
23:59
Speaker 5: So you know, it's weird, you don't think that.
24:01
Speaker 6: So that's like, you know, positive, but in general, I
24:03
Speaker 6: don't know, it's I'm going through the same thing.
24:05
Speaker 4: Now.
24:05
Speaker 6: I have a five year old son, he just turned
24:07
Speaker 6: five this week, and I give it. I have a
24:10
Speaker 6: tablet from when we travel, but I always I put
24:13
Speaker 6: games on it. I'm expecting him to want to play games,
24:15
Speaker 6: but he wants to go to YouTube shorts. Yeah, and
24:18
Speaker 6: he wants to flip through it. And I tell him, no,
24:20
Speaker 6: tablet is not that he's smart enough, you know, five
24:23
Speaker 6: that he already knows how to go and he's watch
24:25
Speaker 6: superheroes and stuff. But then weirdos put other weird videos
24:28
Speaker 6: on there.
24:29
Speaker 2: You got to be careful that.
24:30
Speaker 4: I mean, it's it's it's it's rough, and it's so
24:35
Speaker 4: let me ask you a question. I would love to
24:37
Speaker 4: have you come back so we could talk more about
24:39
Speaker 4: the show, because I know you really can't talk too much.
24:41
Speaker 5: About I don't want to give anything anything.
24:43
Speaker 4: Away because it is out right now. So tell everybody
24:46
Speaker 4: what channel it's on.
24:48
Speaker 2: Watch it.
24:48
Speaker 6: It's on TLC and uh, you can watch it on
24:52
Speaker 6: Discovery Plus. Uh it's HBO Max and I think there's
24:57
Speaker 6: one more, but the big ones Discovery Plus, HBO Max
25:00
Speaker 6: and or Prime Prime and I don't paramount, no, no,
25:04
Speaker 6: it's yeah, sorry, I'm the worst.
25:05
Speaker 5: Let me do that.
25:07
Speaker 6: So it's HBO Max, Uh, possibly Prime, Amazon Prime. And
25:11
Speaker 6: you can watch on Discovery Plus and.
25:13
Speaker 2: Let them know where they can fund you on social media.
25:15
Speaker 6: And my social media is just my name, Ariella Danielle.
25:19
Speaker 6: That's d A N I E L L E. So
25:22
Speaker 6: you can watch the show and send me some some funny.
25:26
Speaker 4: Comments comments and we'll bring her back to talk about.
25:31
Speaker 5: Those are the messages I like.
25:34
Speaker 4: I will bring you back to talk about the show
25:36
Speaker 4: in full force next time, so we'll maybe not And
25:38
Speaker 4: when that's when it's all, when it's all it at all,
25:42
Speaker 4: tell all and you'll tell it, will tell all when
25:44
Speaker 4: she does a Harry, thank you so much for being
25:47
Speaker 4: on the show today. I love you and you're wonderful guest.
25:51
Speaker 2: Thank you so Muching Kitty, I love you. I love
25:52
Speaker 2: you too. Everybody have a wonderful day
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Speaker 4: To be guilt