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The Rise of Emotionally Unavailable Women | Avoidant Attachment Style · Mindful Success Path

• 0:32
  If you were to ask most women these days whether or not they believe that men like commitment, most of them would tell you no.
• 0:40
  But what if I told you that there's this new relationship trend of emotionally unavailable women?
• 0:47
  There's an article for media making its rounds around the internet, talking about how this is a dangerous rise and how more and more women are becoming emotionally unavailable, and if you have followed this channel for any amount of time, you know that I've oftentimes told the women who follow this channel, many women will say that they're ready for partnership.
• 1:05
  Many women say they want a provider.
• 1:07
  Many women say they want a husband, but when I start digging and asking questions, I start to find out, well.
• 1:14
  Actually, girl, you're not because you are emotionally unavailable.
• 1:18
  So what we're gonna be doing in this video today is we're gonna be going through this article that's making its rounds on medium right now because it is a perfect description of what an emotionally unavailable woman looks like.
• 1:31
  So to the women who watch this channel, I want you to take a look at this so you could see if you might be, be behaving in this.
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  Way and to the men, um, just hold the space for the women.
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  This is a co-ed channel.
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  We're like literally split down the middle 50 50 between men and women.
• 1:48
  So just hold the space.
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  'cause a lot of women just.
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  A lot of women don't know this.
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  The other thing that I want the women to understand from this article is that this is your competition in the world.
• 2:01
  And I've oftentimes said most women these days are quite basic.
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  Um, and if you, you have to learn to become rare.
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  So if you can.
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  Work through your own stuff.
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  Do the inner work, really understand masculine psychology.
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  Really do your own work in healing your own feminine energy.
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  You'll avoid becoming the type of women that this article talks about.
• 2:23
  Hi, my name is Amanda.
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  So let's, let's get into it.
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  Let's see this article.
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  Let's see what's going on with this dangerous rise of emotionally unavailable women.
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  Justin Keltner-3: All right, here we go.
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  Justin Keltner-3: The dangerous rise of emotionally unavailable women.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Let's get into it.
• 3:31
  Justin Keltner-3: They say men are the ones who run from intimacy.
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  Justin Keltner-3: It's true.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Most women are taught that men don't want intimacy.
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  Justin Keltner-3: They're commitment phobic.
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  Justin Keltner-3: They don't.
• 3:38
  Justin Keltner-3: They just wanna sleep around with everybody.
• 3:40
  Justin Keltner-3: Ladies, I need you to understand it's bs.
• 3:43
  Justin Keltner-3: Men love commitment.
• 3:44
  Justin Keltner-3: I've said it multiple times on this channel, and it is very well documented in a lot of research.
• 3:51
  Justin Keltner-3: So anyway, they say men are the ones who run from intimacy.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Intimacy.
• 3:55
  Justin Keltner-3: But look around modern women are just as broken.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Just as guarded.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Just as unavailable.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Only prettier.
• 4:02
  Justin Keltner-3: And while men are blamed for abandoning love, she's just healing, finding herself and protecting her peace.
• 4:08
  Justin Keltner-3: Yeah, the whole eat, pray, love thing, which I didn't like the movie and I didn't like the book either.
• 4:13
  Justin Keltner-3: Unpopular opinion.
• 4:15
  Justin Keltner-3: Let's tell the truth before we all burn in silence.
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  Justin Keltner-3: She's not a soft girl.
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  Justin Keltner-3: She's a heartened.
• 4:21
  Justin Keltner-3: Heartened, lip gloss.
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  Justin Keltner-3: I see this a lot on the internet.
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  Justin Keltner-3: I see it a lot on YouTube.
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  Justin Keltner-3: A lot of chicks talking about a lot of women, I should say, talking about soft life this, soft life that, but really they're very hyper independent and they're very hard.
• 4:35
  Justin Keltner-3: Um, and IM warn women against watching that because I'm like, they might be talking about soft life and leveling up and living your best life, but a lot of these women are hard.
• 4:45
  Justin Keltner-3: The ones who are talking about that, not all of them.
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  Justin Keltner-3: There are some that are excellent, but there are some that are very hard, hyper independent and hate men.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Period.
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  Justin Keltner-3: End of story.
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  Justin Keltner-3: She calls it independence, but it's just unhealed trauma with good lashes.
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  Justin Keltner-3: She claims she doesn't need a man.
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  Justin Keltner-3: But scroll her TikTok at 2:00 AM and you'll find 400 reposts of where are the good men.
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  Justin Keltner-3: True.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Um, you'll also see some interesting dms from those 2:00 AM dms.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Modern women aren't loving less because they're strong.
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  Justin Keltner-3: They're loving less because they're scared.
• 5:20
  Justin Keltner-3: Yes.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Hyper independence is a trauma response.
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  Justin Keltner-3: She is scared of intimacy.
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  Justin Keltner-3: I, how do I know this?
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  Justin Keltner-3: Because I did it.
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  Justin Keltner-3: I lived it when I was hyper independent.
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  Justin Keltner-3: It's'cause I was terrified.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Not because I was strong.
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  Justin Keltner-3: They've mistaken numbness for wisdom, guardedness for power, and now they call detachment uh, maturity.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Okay?
• 5:44
  Justin Keltner-3: So there is a spiritual concept of detachment, and I think this is where a lot of times these things get really screwed up in the world is they will.
• 5:53
  Justin Keltner-3: Spiritual concepts like detachment, and they will distort it to mean something that it doesn't mean.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Um, when you're detaching, it's good to detach from outcomes.
• 6:03
  Justin Keltner-3: Doesn't mean you become cold, like detachment doesn't mean that you are cold or don't care or cut people off, or any of that.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Detachment simply means that you are detached from the outcome and that you are enjoying.
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  Justin Keltner-3: The process and you're enjoying the moment.
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  Justin Keltner-3: That's every spiritual tradition talks about that.
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  Justin Keltner-3: That's what it's supposed to be.
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  Justin Keltner-3: It, it just gets distorted on the internet.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Okay.
• 6:27
  Justin Keltner-3: She's addicted to options, not connection.
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  Justin Keltner-3: She won't return your calls, but she'll flirt with her bestie.
• 6:33
  Justin Keltner-3: Her bestia dude, is that, is that what it's implying here?
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  Justin Keltner-3: Um, she'll ghost you, but repost relationship quotes, like she's the one who got hurt.
• 6:43
  Justin Keltner-3: Her love life isn't broken because men failed her.
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  Justin Keltner-3: It's broken because she never chose one.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Uh, no.
• 6:51
  Justin Keltner-3: Plenty of men have failed women.
• 6:52
  Justin Keltner-3: I'm going to have to disagree with that one.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Whether it was their fathers, their uncles, um, boy, you know, adolescents and things that happened there.
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  Justin Keltner-3: No men have.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Failed women.
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  Justin Keltner-3: They have a lot.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Um, their fathers failed their mothers.
• 7:08
  Justin Keltner-3: I mean, it's, it's a thing.
• 7:10
  Justin Keltner-3: Okay.
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  Justin Keltner-3: So I don't totally agree with that.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Um, it's broken because she never chose one.
• 7:17
  Justin Keltner-3: I believe there are some women who.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Never choose a man.
• 7:21
  Justin Keltner-3: Maybe it's like the more promiscuous ones, but, but the ones who have come out the other side of it and start talking about why they went down that road.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Like for example, kind of an extreme example, but I'll say it.
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  Justin Keltner-3: A lot of the women who have gotten out of sex work, and I know women who've worked in sex work by the way, and have gotten out, they will eventually realize, oh, wait a minute.
• 7:41
  Justin Keltner-3: I had.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Some sort of trauma with my father.
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  Justin Keltner-3: And a lot of times the father was weak.
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  Justin Keltner-3: The father was abusive, the father was dangerous.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Uh, so yes, no men have failed.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Women, they have, uh, modern women collect men like shoes.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Uh, try one on, wear it out.
• 7:58
  Justin Keltner-3: Then blame the cobbler when their feet still hurt.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Um.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Modern women also dunno how to choose men, though.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Um, casual sex has made her cold.
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  Justin Keltner-3: I have said that casual sex is not good for men or women.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Uh, for women.
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  Justin Keltner-3: You start, uh, getting your brain flooded with oxytocin and you start making bad decisions, and then you get bonded and then you're upset when he doesn't want to commit with you.
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  Justin Keltner-3: And then you're just like, um.
• 8:25
  Justin Keltner-3: Your brain's like not functioning correctly.
• 8:28
  Justin Keltner-3: Um, it's not that your brain isn't functioning correctly, it's doing what it's supposed to do.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Uh, when you orgasm, it's just, um, it clouds your judgment.
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  Justin Keltner-3: That's what I was saying, men, uh, you just become addicted to dopamine when you do it.
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  Justin Keltner-3: So you just start looking for the next hit the next hit the next hit.
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  Justin Keltner-3: The next hit, the next hit.
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  Justin Keltner-3: That's what happens to men.
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  Justin Keltner-3: She sells thirst traps.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Now she sells thirst traps for dopamine.
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  Justin Keltner-3: I don't know what that means.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Can somebody explain that in the comment?
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  Justin Keltner-3: Do you mean like thought posts?
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  Justin Keltner-3: Thought photos?
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  Justin Keltner-3: Is that the same thing?
• 8:59
  Justin Keltner-3: I'm not sure.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Please someone explain it in the comment she tells herself, body count doesn't matter.
• 9:05
  Justin Keltner-3: It does, uh, but every hookup buried her innocence Deeper.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Sex was supposed to be sacred.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Now it's content.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Yeah, I would have to agree with that.
• 9:17
  Justin Keltner-3: She laughs at virgins.
• 9:18
  Justin Keltner-3: She mocks wives.
• 9:20
  Justin Keltner-3: Uh, I have to say the women on this channel don't do that, and they don't mock wives.
• 10:25
  Justin Keltner-3: So to the men who are watching know that half the people who watch this channel are women and they don't act like this at all.
• 10:32
  Justin Keltner-3: Um, and they're waking up to a lot of this behavior and a lot of these things.
• 10:36
  Justin Keltner-3: So not all women are like this, but those women are rare, uh, and calls commitment control.
• 10:42
  Justin Keltner-3: Yes, she does.
• 10:43
  Justin Keltner-3: Do that, but every time she gives herself to a man who doesn't stay, she loses her piece of her ability to bond with the one who will.
• 10:53
  Justin Keltner-3: Um, yes, because if a woman's experience is all men leave, all men cheat.
• 11:01
  Justin Keltner-3: They all abandon me and a lot of times.
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  Justin Keltner-3: S playing.
• 11:04
  Justin Keltner-3: I've seen it with women.
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  Justin Keltner-3: I've been coaching for 15 years.
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  Justin Keltner-3: A lot of times it's just playing out things that they saw as children.
• 11:10
  Justin Keltner-3: Um, and then they play it out in their lives until they realize what's going on and what the pattern is.
• 11:15
  Justin Keltner-3: Um, but basically if her experience has been like, all men abandon me, or All men are trash, then when a good one comes around, uh, her nervous system is gonna freak out because stability is not familiar.
• 11:29
  Justin Keltner-3: To her.
• 11:30
  Justin Keltner-3: So that's really what's going on there.
• 11:32
  Justin Keltner-3: Uh, therapy talk has become her shield.
• 11:35
  Justin Keltner-3: She doesn't talk anymore.
• 11:37
  Justin Keltner-3: She diagnosis, you're not hurt, you're narcissistic, you're not leading, you're controlling, you're not tired, you're emotionally unavailable.
• 11:45
  Justin Keltner-3: She hides behind trauma language like a fortress.
• 11:47
  Justin Keltner-3: So no man can get in.
• 11:49
  Justin Keltner-3: And the moment you try, she'll weaponize your efforts to prove she was, um.
• 11:54
  Justin Keltner-3: Right to shut down.
• 11:55
  Justin Keltner-3: So to the women who are married, right?
• 11:57
  Justin Keltner-3: To single women.
• 11:58
  Justin Keltner-3: I'm gonna tell you something.
• 11:59
  Justin Keltner-3: As a married woman, when you get married, one of the things that you have to learn how to do, and both men and women have to learn how to do this right, but, but the wives need to learn how to read their husbands right?
• 12:10
  Justin Keltner-3: So sometimes I'm like, my husband just needs to go to sleep.
• 12:14
  Justin Keltner-3: He's tired, right?
• 12:16
  Justin Keltner-3: Right.
• 12:17
  Justin Keltner-3: It does so mean he's a narciss.
• 12:19
  Justin Keltner-3: Maybe he's hungry.
• 12:21
  Justin Keltner-3: Maybe Let me make him a sandwich.
• 12:23
  Justin Keltner-3: Oh, God.
• 12:24
  Justin Keltner-3: Right?
• 12:24
  Justin Keltner-3: Let me make him a sandwich and then he'll be less cranky.
• 12:27
  Justin Keltner-3: Right?
• 12:27
  Justin Keltner-3: Like sometimes it's really just those, my mom actually taught me something that I've never forgotten.
• 12:33
  Justin Keltner-3: It's like, um, a hungry man, angry man.
• 12:35
  Justin Keltner-3: My mom taught me that, and I'm like, sometimes it really is that simple.
• 12:40
  Justin Keltner-3: Sometimes it really is.
• 12:41
  Justin Keltner-3: It's not that complicated.
• 12:43
  Justin Keltner-3: It's not that deep.
• 12:44
  Justin Keltner-3: And you know, men need to learn how to do that with their wives too, right?
• 12:48
  Justin Keltner-3: So it's not just one or the other.
• 12:49
  Justin Keltner-3: It actually goes both ways.
• 12:50
  Justin Keltner-3: But yeah, you have to learn how to read your partner because sometimes it is something simple like they're tired.
• 12:58
  Justin Keltner-3: I don't know why that section made me chuckle so much.
• 13:01
  Justin Keltner-3: Okay.
• 13:03
  Justin Keltner-3: Okay.
• 13:03
  Justin Keltner-3: She doesn't want a partner.
• 13:05
  Justin Keltner-3: She wants a fan club.
• 13:07
  Justin Keltner-3: A man can't correct her.
• 13:08
  Justin Keltner-3: He can only compliment her.
• 13:09
  Justin Keltner-3: I said this, that one of the ways in which men provide provision is by correct.
• 13:13
  Justin Keltner-3: You.
• 13:14
  Justin Keltner-3: And when men are correcting, they're usually trying to find a more efficient way of doing things, a safer way of doing things.
• 13:21
  Justin Keltner-3: They're trying to get to the result faster.
• 13:23
  Justin Keltner-3: Uh, something along those lines.
• 13:25
  Justin Keltner-3: The problem that we women have, and I will admit to this, is, um, we take it as criticism Now, men need to understand that women are hypersensitive to criticism.
• 13:34
  Justin Keltner-3: So the same way that women have to understand that men are hypersensitive to.
• 13:39
  Justin Keltner-3: Respect and the way, and we have to learn how to speak to a man in a way that is respectful to him.
• 13:44
  Justin Keltner-3: 'cause men are sensitive about it.
• 13:46
  Justin Keltner-3: Men also need to realize that women are sensitive to criticism and they need to, um, learn how to communicate with a woman, uh, in because of that.
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  Justin Keltner-3: Okay?
• 13:57
  Justin Keltner-3: Uh, she doesn't want leadership.
• 13:58
  Justin Keltner-3: She wants applause.
• 14:00
  Justin Keltner-3: Um, I want lead.
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  Justin Keltner-3: I don't know why.
• 14:04
  Justin Keltner-3: That is the case.
• 14:05
  Justin Keltner-3: 'cause I want leadership.
• 14:06
  Justin Keltner-3: Like by the time I met my husband, I was like, I've run businesses.
• 14:09
  Justin Keltner-3: I've had an almost seven figure business.
• 14:11
  Justin Keltner-3: I've had employees, like I'm tired of leading everybody.
• 14:14
  Justin Keltner-3: Somebody just go lead me.
• 14:17
  Justin Keltner-3: So I don't really, um, under somebody just go make decisions.
• 14:21
  Justin Keltner-3: Like, please.
• 14:23
  Justin Keltner-3: Um, and the moment you say, let's grow, she hears.
• 14:27
  Justin Keltner-3: You don't accept me.
• 14:28
  Justin Keltner-3: Okay.
• 14:29
  Justin Keltner-3: This is important.
• 14:30
  Justin Keltner-3: When my husband and I got together, one of our values, um.
• 14:34
  Justin Keltner-3: Is growth, so I believe it's in the high value woman transformation program to the ladies who are listening, where I talk about, actually it's in two places.
• 14:43
  Justin Keltner-3: It's in the Magnetic Commitment program and the high Value Woman transformation program.
• 14:48
  Justin Keltner-3: I go a lot into values.
• 14:50
  Justin Keltner-3: Uh, because you have to know what your those values are.
• 14:53
  Justin Keltner-3: When you are in the dating stage, especially if you wanna get married, you gotta know what these values are and you gotta be on the same page.
• 15:00
  Justin Keltner-3: So with my husband and I, for both of us, one of our core values is growth.
• 15:06
  Justin Keltner-3: So this is not an issue because it's about growth.
• 15:10
  Justin Keltner-3: At the end of the day, growth is the enemy of ego.
• 15:14
  Justin Keltner-3: Uh, and she'd rather be praised for who she is, than evolve, than evolve into who she could, uh, become.
• 15:21
  Justin Keltner-3: And that's the other thing, like men will see a lot of potential in women.
• 15:25
  Justin Keltner-3: And I think I learned this from a wom uh, Cody Sanchez, who talks a lot about business, but she's a woman and she's like, I never had an issue with men in the workplace because I knew it was one of three categories.
• 15:35
  Justin Keltner-3: They either wanna friend you, father you, or you, uh, if they wanna friend, and when they friend you and father you like, they all wanna help you.
• 15:43
  Justin Keltner-3: Like men just want to help you.
• 15:45
  Justin Keltner-3: That's.
• 15:46
  Justin Keltner-3: And men will see a lot of potential in women.
• 15:50
  Justin Keltner-3: Uh, but women will, modern women I should say, will take it as criticism because they don't understand what is going on and why men are doing that.
• 15:59
  Justin Keltner-3: Love feels unsafe to her because it demands vulnerability.
• 16:02
  Justin Keltner-3: Yep.
• 16:04
  Justin Keltner-3: And vulnerability is weakness.
• 16:05
  Justin Keltner-3: That's what a lot of women were taught.
• 16:07
  Justin Keltner-3: Yes.
• 16:07
  Justin Keltner-3: As she wasn't taught that love is work.
• 16:10
  Justin Keltner-3: Well, here's the thing, love is not work.
• 16:13
  Justin Keltner-3: Um.
• 16:15
  Justin Keltner-3: Let me rephrase that.
• 16:16
  Justin Keltner-3: Love is not hard.
• 16:17
  Justin Keltner-3: Love is not hard work.
• 16:19
  Justin Keltner-3: Uh, love is actually very simple.
• 16:22
  Justin Keltner-3: Human beings just like to overcomplicate the hell out of it.
• 16:26
  Justin Keltner-3: So when a woman hears love is work, she, she's thinking, no, man, I've already done the struggle, love thing.
• 16:31
  Justin Keltner-3: I'm not doing it again.
• 16:33
  Justin Keltner-3: That's what a woman is thinking in her mind.
• 16:35
  Justin Keltner-3: So I think men just maybe need to be a little bit mindful of that.
• 16:39
  Justin Keltner-3: Um, when they say that.
• 16:40
  Justin Keltner-3: Now, um, does it mean that there's no effort in love?
• 16:44
  Justin Keltner-3: No.
• 16:45
  Justin Keltner-3: Right?
• 16:45
  Justin Keltner-3: Like, again, each person has to grow.
• 16:47
  Justin Keltner-3: You go through seasons of life, things change.
• 16:50
  Justin Keltner-3: You're ing together, you're managing households together, you're managing families together.
• 16:54
  Justin Keltner-3: Maybe you've got businesses together depending on what.
• 16:57
  Justin Keltner-3: Stage you're in.
• 16:58
  Justin Keltner-3: Uh, but this idea that love is complicated and that love is work.
• 17:01
  Justin Keltner-3: I mean, my experience has been that love is actually quite simple once a woman understands feminine energy and what it truly is.
• 17:08
  Justin Keltner-3: And once a man understands masculine energy and what it truly is and they do a union from that place, love is actually quite simple.
• 17:16
  Justin Keltner-3: Um, she was taught that love is supposed to feel like euphoria 24 7.
• 17:21
  Justin Keltner-3: Yeah.
• 17:22
  Justin Keltner-3: Chemicals, feelings.
• 17:23
  Justin Keltner-3: All that stuff.
• 17:24
  Justin Keltner-3: So the moment it gets hard, she runs, uh, she says, I'm protecting my peace, but she's really protecting her patterns.
• 17:32
  Justin Keltner-3: No one gets close because if someone does, they might see this scared little girl behind the filters.
• 17:38
  Justin Keltner-3: Yeah, a lot of these, A lot.
• 17:39
  Justin Keltner-3: Yeah.
• 17:40
  Justin Keltner-3: Most women are scared.
• 17:41
  Justin Keltner-3: A lot of women are scared.
• 17:42
  Justin Keltner-3: Um, some of it is with very good reason, and men need to understand that.
• 17:47
  Justin Keltner-3: Many of the women in the comment section here and in the chat have shared experiences where, for example, their fathers were dangerous men, and that was their first, um, experience of a man.
• 17:59
  Justin Keltner-3: Women have been through things, men have failed, women they have, so it's not.
• 18:04
  Justin Keltner-3: Unusual for women to be scared little girls.
• 18:07
  Justin Keltner-3: That being said, uh, when a woman matures, she starts, she has to heal the little girl inside.
• 18:14
  Justin Keltner-3: Same thing with a man.
• 18:15
  Justin Keltner-3: When he matures, he needs to heal the little boy inside.
• 18:19
  Justin Keltner-3: Okay.
• 18:20
  Justin Keltner-3: You can't heal a woman who's proud of her wounds.
• 18:22
  Justin Keltner-3: She's not trying to heal, she's trying to be right.
• 18:24
  Justin Keltner-3: Yes, there's a lot of women out here who would rather be right than happy.
• 18:28
  Justin Keltner-3: Uh, she's looking for, she's not looking for love.
• 18:31
  Justin Keltner-3: She's collecting flowers.
• 18:32
  Justin Keltner-3: She's not building a future.
• 18:34
  Justin Keltner-3: She's recycling chaos.
• 18:36
  Justin Keltner-3: So this would be the woman.
• 18:37
  Justin Keltner-3: If you saw my training on archetypes, I would say that this woman is probably a wounded maiden woman.
• 18:45
  Justin Keltner-3: So a lot of men will make the mistake and be like, this woman is in her wounded masculine energy.
• 18:50
  Justin Keltner-3: No, no, no, no.
• 18:51
  Justin Keltner-3: This woman is in her wounded feminine.
• 18:54
  Justin Keltner-3: Energy, if she's chaotic, she's wounded, she's, uh, wounded feminine energy and she's taken on some like masculine traits.
• 19:01
  Justin Keltner-3: Basically, when a woman is too much in her masculine energy, she actually has structure in her life.
• 19:08
  Justin Keltner-3: Um, she just may have gone.
• 19:09
  Justin Keltner-3: Overboard with the masculine energy and it's controlling.
• 19:13
  Justin Keltner-3: But she does have structure and she does have discipline, and she is doing things to take care of herself.
• 19:18
  Justin Keltner-3: If a woman is chaotic, that's what I call wounded maiden and, uh, wounded feminine, there's a difference.
• 19:25
  Justin Keltner-3: And if you try to love her deeply, she'll leave you before you see too much, because healing means admitting the damage and that would ruin the brand.
• 19:35
  Justin Keltner-3: Final word, emotionally unavailable.
• 19:38
  Justin Keltner-3: Women are the new dangerous men.
• 19:40
  Justin Keltner-3: You used to fear men who would break hearts.
• 19:43
  Justin Keltner-3: Now it's women who don't have one.
• 19:45
  Justin Keltner-3: Ooh, cold, right?
• 19:47
  Justin Keltner-3: She smiles.
• 19:48
  Justin Keltner-3: She posts, she dances.
• 19:50
  Justin Keltner-3: But inside, she's cold, closed, checked out.
• 19:53
  Justin Keltner-3: Uh, and women need to understand that, right?
• 19:56
  Justin Keltner-3: Like when you start getting more into feminine energy, you start becoming warm.
• 19:59
  Justin Keltner-3: You are open, you are in tune with your emotions.
• 20:02
  Justin Keltner-3: You know what's going on, right?
• 20:04
  Justin Keltner-3: She's the reason so many good men are walking away, not because they're weak, but because they're tired of trying to love stone.
• 20:12
  Justin Keltner-3: And here's the irony of the same woman who mocks commitment will one day cry at 40 wishing she gave herself fully when someone finally asked.
• 20:20
  Justin Keltner-3: But by then the warmth she rejected will be lying in the arms of a woman who still knew how to feel.
• 20:27
  Justin Keltner-3: Okay.
• 20:27
  Justin Keltner-3: This is the most important thing here, actually probably outta this whole thing.
• 20:31
  Justin Keltner-3: The warmth she rejected will be lying in the arms of a woman who still knew how to feel the feminine is feeling.
• 20:40
  Justin Keltner-3: The man, the masculine is logic.
• 20:43
  Justin Keltner-3: A lot of the women, most women out in the world these days are operating from a place of logic.
• 20:49
  Justin Keltner-3: So you could have all these women, well, I don't think these women are being very logical.
• 20:54
  Justin Keltner-3: I think they're actually being hyper emotional and don't have a good relationship with their feelings and don't do any work on their feelings at all.
• 21:01
  Justin Keltner-3: They're actually, so again, it's a little bit more nuanced than that.
• 21:06
  Justin Keltner-3: He did say something really important that a healthy feminine woman is in touch with her feelings.
• 21:11
  Justin Keltner-3: She makes a man feel things, okay?
• 21:15
  Justin Keltner-3: She gets him in touch, uh, with his emotions because he cannot do it without her.
• 21:21
  Justin Keltner-3: And that is what makes men fall in love.
• 21:25
  So there you have it, ladies and gentlemen, the rise of the emotionally unavailable woman.
• 21:30
  I hope this was really insightful for you guys.
• 21:33
  Again, for the women watching this, I need you to understand what a lot of the men out here are dealing with.
• 21:39
  Um, and it, so some of you, it might sound a little bit shocking.
• 21:42
  I know for me, when I first started learning, I remember I was around high performing men for six or seven years.
• 21:48
  Because of my last business, I had a lot of male mentors and I would ask them about their dating situations and they would tell me stuff like this, and I'm like, you've gotta be kidding me, right?
• 21:57
  Like, is this actually happening out here?
• 21:59
  I almost didn't believe it.
• 22:01
  So there might be some women out here.
• 22:03
  We don't believe it, right?
• 22:05
  But this is actually what's happening and it is what a lot of men, um, are dealing with these days.
• 22:11
  And the other thing I want you to realize is maybe look at in some of the areas where you might be acting emotionally unavailable, because I have this conversation with women all the time that their mouth says one thing, but their nervous system is saying something else.
• 22:27
  Entirely something else entirely.
• 22:30
  And you could see that through her behaviors and how she responds to the things going on around her, how she responds to men or the beliefs or ideas that she truly holds about men, which a lot of women do not hold men in very high esteem right now for a lot of reasons.
• 22:47
  And to the men watching this, I want you to know that the women who watch this channel,'cause we're almost split down the middle 50 50 on this channel, which is.
• 22:56
  Shocking.
• 22:57
  I was not expecting that.
• 22:58
  Um, basically a lot of these women, at least the ones that I've spoken to, are not like the women in the article.
• 23:06
  Now do they still have hyper independence?
• 23:08
  Yes.
• 23:09
  Have they gone a little bit overboard in the masculine energy?
• 23:11
  Yes.
• 23:12
  But the women who watch this channel basically are just confused because they've gotten a lot of confusing messaging, uh, throughout the years about being a woman and what she can do and, uh, roles of men and women and all those kinds of things.
• 23:25
  They're not all.
• 23:27
  Running based on trauma.
• 23:29
  Um, and I don't know if that was a Red pill author, I think it was.
• 23:33
  I went to go looking and I saw his other things.
• 23:35
  I'm like, oh, this sounds like Red Pill narrative.
• 23:37
  And I tell the men this, be careful with the red pill content because there is a point where the red pill content is useful, but then it gets distorted.
• 23:45
  And I've had a lot of men agree with me on this, that eventually what happens with the red pill content is a lot of the stuff that men are told about the red pill and how to date women.
• 23:54
  All it does is attract emotionally insecure, uh, women, or it attracts women.
• 23:59
  Like what you read in this article, it doesn't actually help you attract healthy women.
• 24:05
  Same thing goes for the women when it comes to the level up content and the, and the, uh, a lot of the femininity content also on the internet does also have a tendency of keeping you single, because deep down inside, a lot of these women hate.
• 24:21
  Men, and because I can read energy and I'm very sensitive, I can kind of see it where I'm like, okay, her mouth is saying this thing, but her energy is saying this thing.
• 24:29
  Right?
• 24:30
  A lot of these women who are about leveling up hate men.
• 24:33
  They hate men.
• 24:34
  Uh, so a lot of the women have to be careful, um, with that as well.
• 24:39
  And that's why on this channel we're trying to kind of make sense of it all because the reality is it's not one extreme or the other.
• 24:47
  That's, that's not what.
• 24:49
  Emotionally intelligent people do.
• 24:51
  That's not what, um, you know, intelligent people do at all.
• 24:54
  They know that the truth is kind of somewhere in the middle.
• 24:57
  And what's happening in the age of social media is everybody just talks about the extremes.
• 25:02
  So I hope you guys found this helpful, if you like it that I do more of these kind of, um.
• 25:09
  Thoughts, you know, and opinions on some of the articles and things coming out about relationships and sharing my opinion.
• 25:15
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• 25:16
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