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Season 4 - Episode 78 - Law of attention and annoyance · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermind, set coach, creative strategist, and also
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  happen to be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  OK, so we are talking today about Law of Attraction and
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  we've talked about this a lot on so many levels in so many
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  different ways. But there's some a concept of
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  this that I want to make sure I'm very clear on teaching
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  because I think it can become some somewhat confusing unless
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  you really focus your attention on it.
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  So when you try to control other people, when you are working on
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  either influencing them, controlling them, coercing them,
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  whatever it might be, moving them towards what you want more
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  than what they might want because it's what they're doing
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  is not right for you, they're annoying you or whatever your
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  attention is on that annoyance. That's the root cause of it.
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  Your attention is on that annoyance.
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  So what ends up happening is that by you trying to move away
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  from that thing that's an annoyance, and attempting to
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  feel good by moving them away from it, you're still staying
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  focused on what's annoying you. And guess what?
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  You're actually attracting more of what's annoying you.
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  Because that's the crazy thing about law of attraction.
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  It is very literal and you attract more of what you focus
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  on. And if you're focused on the
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  problem while you're trying to influence somebody in a way,
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  there is a high probability of attracting more of the problem.
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  That's why, you know, we say when it rains, it pours because
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  you get focused on something going wrong and boom, you
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  attract more of it. I I can't express how quickly
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  this can happen. It it shows up in my own life.
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  If I don't control it, where I can get focused on one thing, I
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  can get frustrated that my son is dragging his feet doing
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  assignments in school and I get like, oh, I got to get a moving.
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  I got to get a moving, But guess what?
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  My attention is clearly on the fact that he's not moving.
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  I can, my words can say I've got to get him moving, but my
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  emotion is on the fact that he's being slow and pokey and he's
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  taking his time and he's not doing his work.
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  And then I get frustrated just thinking about it, even just
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  talking about it, It frustrates me.
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  And then guess what? I attract more of the
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  frustration. And the next day he's pokey.
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  And then that afternoon he's even more pokey.
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  And I'm just sitting there going, oh, for the love of God.
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  And I, I feel myself. I can feel my emotions going up,
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  up, up about it. And I recognize, wait, I have to
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  stop that. I have to move away from that
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  behavior. I have to see him as successful.
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  I have to think of it differently so I can attract
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  what I'm looking for, not what I'm annoyed by, because clearly
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  that's happening. I'm attracting more of what I'm
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  annoyed by. So as you decide how you're
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  going to influence somebody, it's critically important that
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  you get in the right headspace before you do it.
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  Like most things, you use the frustration, the irritation, the
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  aggravation, all the shuns. You use those to let you know
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  you have to do something, but you don't stay in those to make
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  it happen. Very important distinction.
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  Very important distinction. And by recognizing it, you can
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  get through something pretty quickly.
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  So think about where those aggravations are coming up and
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  how you handle them. This is actually a really good
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  space to Monday morning quarterback your choices.
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  So often times I try to avoid doing that and I said let's not
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  go back, let's not think about it because there's no point in
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  it and it's not going to do you any good.
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  But the challenge is in this case, you actually do need to
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  know what emotion you were in, not just what was aggravating,
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  but what was the emotion you were in.
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  So you can decide, OK, was that the right one for me to be in?
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  And most likely it was not. And that's why you have to know,
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  most likely it was just the one that was the byproduct of the
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  situation that's stuck around. It lingered and it it became the
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  sticky one, the hard 1 to get rid of.
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  And until you recognize that you have to move through that, it
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  will continue to linger and you have to choose something bigger
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  and better and more, you know, productive for the outcome.
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  So it helps to actually write down what is the outcome you
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  want. And if it was already, when you
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  look at the outcome and say, this is what I want, what would
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  it look like if you already had it?
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  Then you can start to say, okay, if I already had it, I would
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  feel this way and this way and this way.
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  So then you just start feeling that way.
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  You tell yourself, I choose to feel this way.
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  I choose to, to, to have this energy in my body.
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  I choose to emanate this energy. And then all of a sudden, the
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  feeling switches. Now you will have to do this
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  multiple times because you may still be dealing with all the
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  shuns and be in that place of aggravation, all those things.
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  But you can easily switch it around when you choose the
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  focus. So give that a try.
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  Work on that because I promise you, it's a massive shift in law
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  of attraction. All right, my friends, I hope
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  you have a blessed day and I will see you all tomorrow.
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  Bye.