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Get Up and Make It Happen: Your Success Starts Now · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: I'm not teaching good side of life.
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  Speaker 2: So I had to figure out a way when I
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  Speaker 2: came out on twenty sixteen of teaching you what life
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  Speaker 2: really is for the majority of us as hell. And
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  Speaker 2: so while people love to show you the cars and
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  Speaker 2: the house and the vacations, all that's good, all that's happy,
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to show you decide that I know most
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  Speaker 2: of your going through and people hide very well. I
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  Speaker 2: don't want to hide anymore. I hit it for twenty
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  Speaker 2: four years. So that's why now I told you we
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  Speaker 2: can talk about whatever you want. Because as human beings,
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  Speaker 2: the one the first thing we have to learn. Also
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  Speaker 2: study real bad growing up. So if you hear me
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  Speaker 2: study every now and then, is because that.
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  Speaker 1: Was part of my life also.
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  Speaker 2: So it's funny human beings want to show you the
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  Speaker 2: best side, and they want to hide the worst side.
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  Speaker 1: For me, I'm going to teach you how to be vulnerable,
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  Speaker 1: because that's the only way you fix yourself.
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  Speaker 2: You don't fix yourself by coming out here and me
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  Speaker 2: selling you some books.
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  Speaker 1: That's why I don't have them.
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  Speaker 2: I forgot them. I'm glad people got something from the book.
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  Speaker 2: I want you to learn that the only way you
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  Speaker 2: grow is how to look at yourself and say, okay,
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  Speaker 2: like I did table longer than this, what the I
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  Speaker 2: have to do to get somewhere?
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  Speaker 1: There was nothing good on there nothing. Yeah I loved
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  Speaker 1: playing basketball.
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  Speaker 2: I left that out. I said something I love to do.
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  Speaker 2: I don't care about that. That didn't make the list
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  Speaker 2: because the list that I had to live by was
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  Speaker 2: the very list was to get me at this table
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  Speaker 2: with you, to talk to you, to the normal human beings.
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  Speaker 2: Was I once was about how you can get somewhere
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  Speaker 2: and how it looks looks very ugly. There's no freaking passion,
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  Speaker 2: there's no freaking motivation. There's no Oh my god, man,
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  Speaker 2: this is no it's every day of your life just doing.
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  Speaker 2: No passion, no discipline, no motivation.
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  Speaker 1: All these words. I hate people.
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  Speaker 2: I hate that so many people can use these words
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  Speaker 2: because it's it's watered. It's someone sitting in the room
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  Speaker 2: by themselves and they figure themselves out and say, God,
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  Speaker 2: this is gonna fucking suck. Worst passion when you're three
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  Speaker 2: hundred pounds, where's the motivation where you can't read and write?
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  Speaker 1: Where is it?
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  Speaker 2: So?
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  Speaker 1: How did this happen?
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  Speaker 2: I just fucking did I just did. I said, maybe
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  Speaker 2: at the end of this journey, there'll be something there
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  Speaker 2: for me. If not, I can read. If not, I'm
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  Speaker 2: a hundred eighty fucking pounds.
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  Speaker 1: There's no there was there was, there's no magic potion.
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  Speaker 1: There's no Oh, let me wake up and look at
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  Speaker 1: some No, all.
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  Speaker 2: Those words are overused. They're bullshit, So all bull Just
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  Speaker 2: do you're living? How do you want to live? How
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  Speaker 2: do you want to die? How do you want to
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  Speaker 2: be remembered? That's it, that's it, period.
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  Speaker 1: We all have one thing in common. We are here.
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  Speaker 2: Stuck in the game of life, often subject to the
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  Speaker 2: whims of forces beyond our control, but we never train
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  Speaker 2: for it. We dedicate ourselves to external goals, whether they
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  Speaker 2: are rooted in fitness, or school or work, as if
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  Speaker 2: they are isolated events, somehow disconnected from the totality of
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  Speaker 2: our lives, when everything we do is an opportunity to
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  Speaker 2: get better at the game of life itself, my life
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  Speaker 2: and my commitment to do what needs to be done.
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  Speaker 2: I am a student of life. I carry around a notebook,
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  Speaker 2: I keep logs. I study all the upswings and down
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  Speaker 2: currents of my day as if the final exam is tomorrow.
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  Speaker 1: Because we all have an exam tomorrow. Whether we realize
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  Speaker 1: it or.
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  Speaker 2: Not, every interaction, each task is a reflection of your mindset, values,
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  Speaker 2: and future prospects. It's an opportunity to be the person
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  Speaker 2: you've always wanted to be. You don't have to have
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  Speaker 2: survived traumaw or become a physical beast.
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  Speaker 1: To train for life.
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  Speaker 2: We've all been challenged physically, emotionally, and intellectually, and we've
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  Speaker 2: all failed. Don't be shy about digging through your lost archives.
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  Speaker 2: No matter how irrelevant.
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  Speaker 1: Those experiences seem.
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  Speaker 2: Now they count because they were all dry runs for
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  Speaker 2: whatever comes next. This awareness that everything we do is
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  Speaker 2: merely training for the next episode is like a filter
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  Speaker 2: that expands your perception. When you get assigned something at
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  Speaker 2: work or school that you don't want to do, step
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  Speaker 2: into a conflict you didn't see coming, someone close to
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  Speaker 2: you get sick or eyes, or a relationship falters, you
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  Speaker 2: will see these challenges as new chapters in life textbook,
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  Speaker 2: which you can study to make sure that the next
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  Speaker 2: season of loss won't be such a kick in the knees,
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  Speaker 2: not just for you, but more so for the people
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  Speaker 2: around you. We all know that training is required to
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  Speaker 2: make the cut in competitive sports, get into the best schools,
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  Speaker 2: and compete for the most coveted jobs, because that's what
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  Speaker 2: it takes to be prepared. We all have a voice
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  Speaker 2: in our head. Some of us are very spiritual, some
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  Speaker 2: of us or not, but we all have his voice,
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  Speaker 2: and you're doing this is wrong.
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  Speaker 1: Don't do that.
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  Speaker 2: The more you don't listen to that voice, the further
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  Speaker 2: that voice gets away from you. Here. Some people call
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  Speaker 2: it the holy spirits, some people call it gods, monks,
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  Speaker 2: whatever you call it, it's there.
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  Speaker 1: We all have it. It's the right or wrong voice.
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  Speaker 2: But the more we don't listen to it, the more
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  Speaker 2: that voice goes away. The only voice you hear is yourself.
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  Speaker 2: We all when the only voice hears yourself, you're wrong.
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  Speaker 2: There's a voice that guides you through life. Sometimes this
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  Speaker 2: guy you're in direction that you don't want to go.
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  Speaker 2: That's usually the right place to go. It's that uncomfortable place.
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  Speaker 2: So that voice is always talking to me, but we
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  Speaker 2: don't listen to it. I listen to it, and when
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  Speaker 2: I start getting anxious, nervous, like I've done we all
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  Speaker 2: know when we've done too much, because.
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  Speaker 1: It's telling us I'm getting tired. I'm wearing down. But
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  Speaker 1: we go, we go, we go.
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  Speaker 2: I start talking to my fiance, Hey, I'm doing too much.
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  Speaker 2: You start now like like I did in hell week,
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  Speaker 2: like I do all the time. Your one second decision.
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  Speaker 2: It's that decision when your mind starts to get so
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  Speaker 2: amped up. Whenever you can't hear yourself think, you gotta
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  Speaker 2: slow down. Whenever you're living off a schedule. Every day
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  Speaker 2: is a schedule. Every day's a schedule. You have no
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  Speaker 2: time for yourself when you start, and we all know it,
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  Speaker 2: I don't have time for this anymore. I have time
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  Speaker 2: for that anymore. That's when your mind and your body
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  Speaker 2: are saying, think about that, I'm neglecting my fiance. I'm
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  Speaker 2: neglecting my disciplines of life. I'm neglecting my reading, my learning,
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  Speaker 2: my my workouse, my my diet.
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  Speaker 1: And you start neglecting all of that.
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  Speaker 2: You neglect one of them, you can, you can neglect
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  Speaker 2: all of them a long time. It's gonna haunt you
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  Speaker 2: when you start seeing that, my god, I haven't eaten
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  Speaker 2: right in a long time, haven't been sleeping right a
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  Speaker 2: long time.
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  Speaker 1: It's going to be one of those things to take
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  Speaker 1: you off.
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  Speaker 2: So I'm very aware of my eating, my sleeping, my my,
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  Speaker 2: my disciplines of life, and when I started to get
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  Speaker 2: too far away from them, it's a hard stop, because
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  Speaker 2: what made me me are the self, not just disciplines,
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  Speaker 2: the self disciplines of life, and those are always in
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  Speaker 2: front of you, if you have any they're always in
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  Speaker 2: front of you.
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  Speaker 1: That's so, that's my hard stop.
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  Speaker 2: Bad men obey their lusts as servants obey their masters.
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  Speaker 2: A forbidden fruit is the sweetest. If it weren't so
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  Speaker 2: pleasant to submit to your urges, nobody would ever struggle
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  Speaker 2: with self discipline. However, notwithstanding how much pleasure it can bring,
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  Speaker 2: it's important to see the temptation for what it is,
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  Speaker 2: your enemy on the path toward freedom. Obeying your lust
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  Speaker 2: enslaves you, while rejecting them increases your freedom. The reward
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  Speaker 2: you'll get for not succumbing to your temptations will more
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  Speaker 2: than make up for the price you pay today for
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  Speaker 2: missing out on the instant gratification. Self disciplined people may
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  Speaker 2: appear to some as if they were the ones being enslave.
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  Speaker 2: After all, they're the ones whose lives are so limited
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  Speaker 2: they don't get to eat junk food. They follow a
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  Speaker 2: strict routine, deliberately expose themselves to discomfort and reject what
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  Speaker 2: society considers the spice of life, gluteny, laziness, and engaging
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  Speaker 2: in other vices. What the critics fail to see is
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  Speaker 2: that through the rejection of the those temptations, the self
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  Speaker 2: discipline become the masters of their lives. They serve the
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  Speaker 2: goals chosen by themselves. Instead of fleeting spontaneous temptations. They
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  Speaker 2: choose to forego temporary satisfactions for deeper, more lasting ones
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  Speaker 2: later on in the meantime.
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  Speaker 1: In the long haul, the.
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  Speaker 2: People who fail to control their urges, or rather don't
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  Speaker 2: even try to control them, fail.
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  Speaker 1: To control their lives.
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  Speaker 2: Manipulated by the temptations like a marionette, the loafer believes
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  Speaker 2: he is enjoying life, but sooner or later he must
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  Speaker 2: face disillusion. Since self discipline shines in the long term
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  Speaker 2: and often doesn't seem to provide any benefits in the
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  Speaker 2: short term, you may be tempted to believe that people
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  Speaker 2: who are loafing around have it better while you're watching
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  Speaker 2: your finances Like a hawk. They spend money they don't
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  Speaker 2: have and show off with all the new cool gadgets.
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  Speaker 2: While you're eating a sat and washing it down with
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  Speaker 2: a cup of green tea. They're eating a bag of
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  Speaker 2: delicious potato chips and gulping down sugary cans of coke.
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  Speaker 2: While you feel like throwing up during your workout from
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  Speaker 2: trying to squeeze out one more rep they squeeze more
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  Speaker 2: mayo out of the bottle to put it on the
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  Speaker 2: French fries they gorge on while watching.
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  Speaker 1: Their favorite TV shows.
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  Speaker 2: It might seem they have it better, but sooner or later,
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  Speaker 2: the person exposing himself or herself to discomfort for the
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  Speaker 2: sake of achieving their long term goals will come out
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  Speaker 2: on top, while the people loafing around will get to
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  Speaker 2: feel the negative consequences of their laziness. Irresponsible spenders will
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  Speaker 2: realize they're on the brink of bankruptcy. Potato chip addicts
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  Speaker 2: will be diagnosed with diabetes. The inactive TV fans will
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  Speaker 2: start taking hypertension medication.
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  Speaker 1: You, on the other hand, will look back at your.
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  Speaker 2: Past sacrifices and smile, happy that you've never succumbed to
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  Speaker 2: the temptation to take it easy.
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  Speaker 1: And loaf around. That's why I don't own a car.
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  Speaker 1: I don't own a place, nothing.
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  Speaker 2: What I realized is all I wanted in my life
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  Speaker 2: was look at that accountability mirror and be proud of
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  Speaker 2: and everything else went away. While you need money to
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  Speaker 2: be successful, you need money to live. You need money.
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  Speaker 2: Money does buy a form of happiness, because without it
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  Speaker 2: you're miserable. But once I realized it doesn't mean, it
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  Speaker 2: doesn't mean for me. What makes you happy achievement, reaching goals,
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  Speaker 2: accomplishing things that I thought were impossible to accomplish. Because
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  Speaker 2: while I don't smile all the time, there's this feeling
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  Speaker 2: inside of me that no one.
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  Speaker 1: Very few people have.
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  Speaker 2: Very few people have because when you come from where
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  Speaker 2: I came from nothing and you make something out to nothing,
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  Speaker 2: the feeling that stays with you all day long, and
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  Speaker 2: it allows you to be who you want to be
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  Speaker 2: in front of anybody. The only thing more infectious than
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  Speaker 2: a good attitude is a bad one. The more you
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  Speaker 2: dwell on the negative, the weaker you feel, and that
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  Speaker 2: weakness infects those around you. However, the reverse is also true.
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  Speaker 2: I knew that if I could control my attitude and
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  Speaker 2: redirect my attention, I gained control of the entire situation
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  Speaker 2: I was disappointed, but I wasn't surprised that my knee
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  Speaker 2: gave out.
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  Speaker 1: Now it was on me to learn.
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  Speaker 2: What I could from the setback, adapt and move forward.
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  Speaker 2: It's an unwritten natural law of the universe that you
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  Speaker 2: will be tested, you will get smacked in the fucking face,
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  Speaker 2: A hurricane will land on your head for all of us,
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  Speaker 2: Yet we are not formally taught how to handle unexpected adversity.
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  Speaker 2: We have sex education, fire drills, active shooter drills, and
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  Speaker 2: curriculum on the dangers of alcohol and drugs, but there
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  Speaker 2: is no rug just got pulled out.
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  Speaker 1: Under u class.
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  Speaker 2: Nobody teaches how to think, act and move when disappointment,
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  Speaker 2: bad news, malfunction, and disaster inevitably strike. All the advice
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  Speaker 2: floods in only after we are already lying dazed on
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  Speaker 2: the canvas, which means it's up to you to cultivate
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  Speaker 2: your own strategy and have the discipline to practice it.
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  Speaker 1: Mine is simple, no matter what life serves me.
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  Speaker 2: I say Roger that most people think roger that simply
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  Speaker 2: means order received. However, in the military, some people infuse
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  Speaker 2: Roger with a bit more intention and define it as
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  Speaker 2: received order given. Expect results. When you use that way,
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  Speaker 2: it is.
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  Speaker 1: So much more than an acknowledgment. It's an accelerant.
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  Speaker 2: It bypasses the over analytical brain and stimulates action, because
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  Speaker 2: in some situations, thinking is the enemy. I'm not suggesting
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  Speaker 2: that you should follow every order like a robot. After
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  Speaker 2: you've been knocked down, it's important to take some time
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  Speaker 2: to understand what happened and strategize your way forward, but
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  Speaker 2: you also must act. If you stay stalled out sifting
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  Speaker 2: through the wreckage, you may find that you've been swallowed
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  Speaker 2: by it. We all love comeback stores because they teach
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  Speaker 2: us that setbacks have the power to propel us forward
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  Speaker 2: to our greatest successes. But your fate depends on your approach.
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  Speaker 2: After an injury or failure, your mind wants to either
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  Speaker 2: spin out into overthinking or fall back into numbness and complacency,
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  Speaker 2: and it takes practice to short circuit that process. Roger,
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  Speaker 2: that is a ticket back to your life.
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  Speaker 1: No matter what happens.
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  Speaker 2: You may be laid off, run down, flunked out, cut,
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  Speaker 2: or dumped. You could be a stressed out, bullied young
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  Speaker 2: kid and overweight veteran with no prospects, or simply handed
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  Speaker 2: a pair of crutches.
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  Speaker 1: And told to sit.
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  Speaker 2: Tight on the sidelines for as long as it takes
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  Speaker 2: to heal. The answer is always ron. Scream it out loud,
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  Speaker 2: tell them all that you heard what they had to
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  Speaker 2: say and that they can expect your very best in return.
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  Speaker 1: And don't forget to smile, a smile that reminds.
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  Speaker 2: Them that you are most dangerous when you're cornered.
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  Speaker 1: That is how you.
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  Speaker 2: Respond to a setback. It's the most efficient way to
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  Speaker 2: deal with adversity and come out clean.