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The Art Of Soft Living: My Soft Girl Era in English Countryside · The Spirit Nomad: Spiritual Awakening + Life Purpose

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  Is your soul calling you to live a more soft, slow life?
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  Well, in today's society full of digital distractions and hustle
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  culture, no wonder today I'll go over what a soft life actually
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  means. How I went from the biggest
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  hustler to entering my soft girl era, living the cottage life in
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  the English countryside and make sure to stay until the very end
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  to find out how you can enter your soft era to experience more
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  peace and joy in your life. So what is this trend of a soft
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  life? It originates in the Nigerian
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  influencer community. The term soft life or soft era
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  describes living a life of enjoyment and comfort while
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  limiting stress. The purpose of soft life is to
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  say no to all the struggles, stress and anxiety that comes
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  with the rat race, and instead to focus on what makes you truly
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  happy and your body happy. Which is why there's such a
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  focus on self-care in this movement.
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  I'm a Capricorn, so hustling is my thing.
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  I remember being five years old and so impatient that we hadn't
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  gone in our first homework yet. We were just singing songs and
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  drawing. So I made-up my own homework
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  like just drawing a little posted notes and telling mom
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  look I'm doing homework. I would put all nighters as a
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  student to get the best grades. I would sacrifice my health.
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  And this continued as a business owner where the hassle culture
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  is the strongest so being calm does not come naturally to me.
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  I very easily get anxious and overwhelmed and This is why I've
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  always craved a peaceful, slow life.
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  I don't know how many slow living, soft living, minimalist
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  videos I've watched on YouTube. It really suits my mind.
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  But social media, scrolling, overthinking, erasing mind has
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  always has almost become like an addiction.
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  So it's hard. It's been hard for me to
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  transition to a more of a soft living.
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  Every six months or so I have a call to the psychic to ask my
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  spirit guides what I need to focus on, and one common theme
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  that comes up is that I need to slow down.
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  It's like I'm terrified of taking one day off and that that
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  would make the world go under. So my spirit guides actually
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  gave me a homework of daring to take a weekday off and not work.
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  So this year I set the New Year's goal of one word and that
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  is balance. To not overwork and take care of
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  my body. Listen to my body to step more
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  into my feminine energy, be present, feel good.
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  And here's where self-care comes in.
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  I've started watching belly dancing videos on YouTube to
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  step more into my feminine energy and I only work until
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  lunch now, which I feel so blessed that I have the passive
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  income to be able to do this. I know this is not for
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  everybody, but for those of you who can do this and still have
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  the income coming in, I urge you to try this as a challenge for
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  yourself if you feel like you've been too much in your masculine
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  energy To get more into balance. I've been focusing on getting
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  enough sleep every night, exercising little bits every
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  day, eating healthy, but also treating myself sometimes
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  nothing in excess and this is what a soft life means to me.
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  My boyfriend is from the English countryside and when I visited
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  him for the first time I was shocked to see so many fields,
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  greenery and how tiny his town was with little cathedral in the
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  middle. I love the slow pace of living
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  here. I grew up in Sweden's next
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  biggest city, Gothenburg, and that's what I'm used to.
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  But now every time I go back to city, I feel overwhelmed by all
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  the billboards, shops, people, cars.
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  Sometimes it can get a bit lonely and I sometimes miss the
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  conveniences of a big city. I think Country Life and city
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  life has their pros and cons, but I do think that regardless
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  where you live, you can create a soft, slow life.
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  I think it's more of a mental state and you can help your mind
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  settle through turning your home into your sanctuary.
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  And that brings us to the first of six steps on how to step into
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  your soft era. And that is to turn your home
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  into a sanctuary. Declutter every room of your
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  house and see what do I actually use?
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  This is something here I haven't used in a whole year.
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  Then throw it away or give it away or sell it.
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  Organize your space. There's a reason why monks clean
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  every day and why they are so organized.
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  And that's because you're out. The reality really affects your
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  inner reality and vice versa. So by keeping your space clean
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  and organized, you also get a decluttered mind.
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  And to me there's nothing more stressful than opening the
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  closet and all the clothes is just a mess.
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  You can't find anything, or a cupboard, a food cupboard where
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  you can't even find the food. There's no organization there.
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  Next step is to reflect on your priorities and values.
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  Really clarify to you what a soft era means to you and why
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  you want to pursue it. So for me that was working less,
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  stepping more into my divine feminine through belly dancing,
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  sleeping more, sleeping longer. But for you, it might be
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  something completely different. Perhaps switching your coffee,
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  which makes you anxious and stressed, to an herbal tea like
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  I'm drinking now, what it called strawberry strawberry leaf tea,
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  which also helps you step into your divine feminine and helps
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  the reproductive system. Or perhaps it's baking and
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  cooking more, having more of a slow cooking life where you
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  enjoy the flavors and taking your time with it rather than
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  buying take away every night. Or perhaps starting a meditation
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  practice if you don't have already, to reduce your stress
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  and step into your soul more. Next step to step into your soft
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  era is to practice gratitude daily.
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  Be grateful for what you have in your life right now in my
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  boyfriend's dad house. Since my boyfriend is going
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  through some health problems and it's not ideal that we had to
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  give up on our house and we can't travel for a while, but
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  instead I focused on what actually is blessings in my life
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  such as that's that I'm taking care of him helping me with
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  that. I'm having a cup of tea.
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  The sun. It's October and there's still
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  sun here which is beautiful. Every morning I go out and just
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  feel the sunshine on my face. So being present and grateful
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  for the small things, write this information in the comments
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  right now. I'm grateful for everything I
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  have and receive daily. Next step is to prioritize your
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  health. Make sure you're not burning
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  yourself out with work, that you get 7 to 8 hours of sleep every
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  night. Make sure to get into nature
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  daily. In fact, that's why I decided to
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  move here to the countryside with my boyfriend cuz I love
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  being able to just walk into nature to have it at my
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  doorstep. However, if you love city living
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  or you have a job where you have to be in the city, then make
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  sure to get to a park everyday exercise and focus on slow
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  mindful exercise such as yoga and Pilates. #5 is to enjoy your
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  hobbies every week. This one is and has been a big
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  struggle for me because as a Capricorn I want everything I do
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  to be productive. For example, if I have time off,
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  I go through an online course or I read a non fictional book to
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  learn how to improve my life. It's been hard for me to just
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  play and have fun, but when I do, I love it so much I feel
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  like a kid again. Step 6 on how to step into your
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  soft era is to find your life purpose.
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  If you have a job that causes you stress anxiety, your long
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  term goals should really be to get out of this job and do
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  something you actually enjoy. I remember waking up every
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  weekday and just feeling anxious because I remember I have this
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  nine to five job that I hated. I couldn't enjoy my mornings
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  because I was so anxious going to work.
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  Now that is not a soft life to me.
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  If you're not sure what your purpose is, then don't worry.
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  Down below I have a free guide on how to find your purpose in
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  five simple steps. Now I'd love to hear if you
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  think you have entered your soft era, let me know in the
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  comments. Love you so much and have a
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  beautiful, beautiful day.