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MEET THE WOMEN MAKING MIDLIFE GO VIRAL · Uncluttered and Unfiltered: The Podcast For Women Over 50

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  Welcome to Uncluttered and Unfiltered, the podcast urging
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  you to let it go and don't look back, with nationally acclaimed
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  professional organizer Christine Stone and self-proclaimed Hot
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  Damn Mess radio and TV personality Eden Kendall.
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  Welcome to Uncluttered and unfiltered.
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  We have a very special episode today and normally we get
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  through our first what's on our radar part of the show, but we
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  want to bring our guests in right away because anything we
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  can relate to, we know they can relate to as well.
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  So we found them on social media and watch them grow
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  exponentially in followers, which was so heart warming to
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  me. These are the midlifers.
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  It's Suzette and Lisa. So I'll let them further
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  introduce themselves and tell you a little bit about their
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  platform and how they get started.
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  But ladies, welcome. Thank you.
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  We're excited to be here. We're so glad to have you.
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  So first of all, let's start with you, Lisa.
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  OK, so Lisa, how did you meet Suzette?
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  I know Christine was going to ask you guys.
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  How did you guys meet each other?
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  We actually share a back fence. And so 10 years ago I was in our
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  brand new backyard and my husband and I were looking at
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  our new leaf blower. We thought we were so cool
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  looking at our new leaf blower and these two people say hello
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  and they're standing in our yard.
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  And that's when I found out we had a secret fence gate gate
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  between our fence. And they said we're your back
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  neighbors and we just want to introduce ourselves.
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  And I said they're never going to talk to us again.
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  We're so weird. We're just.
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  We were very enamored with this leaf, Yeah.
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  OK, exciting part of our day. Midlifer coding.
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  So turns out she's as fun as she is on social media and we have
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  been in shenanigans ever since. And we decided almost two years
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  ago we would start videoing that.
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  OK. We did about 30 minutes on
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  Christine's air pressure washer the other day, so you got it.
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  You're our people. Yes, yeah.
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  My husband's like I, I didn't know it would be this simple to
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  make you so happy over a $28.00 Amazon pressure washer.
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  And I'm like, Yep, solid tips. Yep, Yep.
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  Certain things are more exciting.
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  Yeah, yes. So if you if you Suzette.
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  So you told us that you were like, OK, they're really into
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  this leaf blower. But then when did you guys start
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  talking about aging and like, was that an immediate bond with
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  each other or I didn't even ask you how long ago that was?
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  That was about 10 years ago when we met each other.
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  And The funny thing is, Lisa and I are in very different phases
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  of life, even though we're similar ages.
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  Lisa has a nine year old and I and 16 year old and a 13 year
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  old or 12. Almost.
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  Like, yeah, yeah, anyway. And I have a 24 year old and
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  twin 22 year old. So like we are very, you know,
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  where we are in life is very different, but we both really
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  immediately like to have fun. And I'm kind of like more in my
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  own little cubby of the world. And Lisa is never met a stranger
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  kind of Bruce. Oh my God, it's like us, Eden.
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  Just like us, just like us, because you guys just have
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  talked about how midlifers are the tweens of getting older,
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  right? So can you explain that a little
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  bit? Well, you know, if you look at
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  your friends in this stage of life, some have just become
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  mothers for the first time. They have an infant at home.
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  It's not uncommon to be a 4041 year old who has your first
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  baby, got married later, you know, you have your first baby.
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  Meanwhile, you also have your 4550 year old friends who've
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  just become grandparents. And so it's this sandwich
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  generation. But what doesn't defy many of us
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  is our aging bodies. Like whether you just had your
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  baby or your grandma, you are still in a 45 year old, 52 year
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  old body. And there's a lot of things that
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  we can all relate to. So that's where I think why we
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  joke. I'm looking at our house over
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  here on the side, but we joke that Mister Wilson from Home
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  Improvement, you know how he has noses like this and he looks
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  over the fence. That's what we're like a lot.
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  I'll say, what are you doing over there?
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  And she'll come back. And so you can only see like
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  about this much of us between the fences.
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  And she would tell me something that happened.
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  I'm like, that just happened to me.
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  Oh my gosh. And so we realized when we
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  started looking at social media that there's a lot of fashion,
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  there's a lot of food, there's a lot of fitness for our age
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  category, but there isn't just straight up fun or there wasn't,
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  I should say. There wasn't as much fun out
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  there. And justice, talking about life
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  and talking about our aging bodies and talking about the
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  excitement of this time in life. So we thought, let's give that a
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  shot and share what we're sharing with each other over the
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  fence and see if it resonates and one of our.
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  Earliest videos that really kind of took off was a video called
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  50 is Different where we kind of were wearing these, you know,
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  Golden Girls kind of wigs or whatever.
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  And I think, you know, everybody has their own experience.
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  But what we're finding is this midlife is full of vitality.
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  It's full of change. It's full of new things to be
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  discovered. We're not in that older
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  generation yet where we kind of feel like, hey, what we've done,
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  we've done and that's again, that's fluid too.
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  You can do whatever you want at any age, but we're also not
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  these inexperienced newbies going, oh, we don't know what's
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  happening. You know, we're kind of in that
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  midpoint of. There's a lot of second acts.
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  We have a lot of friends who've done second acts.
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  They have started raising their kids or raised their kids and
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  they've gone back to nursing school.
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  They've got, we have a friend who went back and got her law
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  degree in her 40s with four children at home.
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  Yeah, people are doing these second acts.
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  And I think when we were kids, that was unheard of, especially
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  for moms. You don't do a second act in
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  your 40s or 50s and now we are all encouraging our friends, go
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  do that. Give that a try.
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  You want to jump out of a plane, go do it.
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  Like whatever you want to do at this point in life, it's great.
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  Go celebrate. You want to get a facelift,
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  great. You want to do nothing, great.
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  You want to turn, great, great, whatever you want to do.
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  I think our generation is getting better and embracing
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  people where they're at. So one of the things I loved
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  that you did, Speaking of the wigs, because you were showing
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  how The Golden Girls, I mean, they were fifty.
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  It was crazy. And that's not how 50 year olds
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  look these days. But you put in those little pink
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  curlers, you know, the little pink perm rods.
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  Oh my gosh, that's insane. Like Christine, do you remember
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  those little of. Course I do.
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  I'm I'm older than all you guys so I, I trust me.
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  I, I'm a 70s teenager. So yes, I remember the the
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  perms, the the pink curlers, the bad shag, Dorothy Hamill
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  haircut. Yes.
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  Please yes, totally yes. And there's so much of that that
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  we found really unites us. Our we try to keep a balance on
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  our page of nostalgia and current things like, OK, my HRT
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  patch fell off and got stuck on my jeans versus, you know, let's
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  talk about getting each other home perms, you know, like we
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  kind of have that balance of both of those worlds.
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  And and and Speaking of that, as long as we're talking about like
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  HRT patches, etcetera and Lisa, have we figured out why your Hoo
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  ha was going off at the airport like when you went through?
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  The eyes detector, that was funny.
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  That was funny. The best part about that is we
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  so we had gone on this trip really fast.
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  We were coming home. It was just the two of us.
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  We didn't have family with us. And we're coming home.
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  She goes through, she's about 50 or so feet in front of me.
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  And then I go through and they literally yell, they say stop.
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  And then they yell hot box. And I'm like what?
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  And I'm in a sun dress. That's all I have on is sun
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  dress or underwear. Yeah.
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  OK, 2 words. I've got my I've got my lingerie
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  on a. Lot of people are saying maybe
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  it was it. Was yeah no, but that's so I
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  have like 3 pieces of clothing on my body right?
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  Bra, underwear and a sun dress and I have sandals and I go
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  through and I'm like hot box and I glance over and Suzette's eyes
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  get this big and the screen shows it literally like a box on
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  your on the screening. And I said, what do you think is
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  sit there and he's and, and he did not find me funny at all.
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  I thought I was hilarious. And I said, grab the camera and
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  see. That's like, I can't, we're in
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  TSA. I can't.
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  And I said, you better be filming this.
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  And they said, we're going to take you to a private room.
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  I'm like, no, you are not. Whatever you're doing, you're
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  doing right here with the whole crowd.
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  And then it became the most invasive, awkward, funny like
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  picture of lunge at the gym and and they're like wider lunge,
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  wider lunge. So I'm in a full like split
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  maneuver and they're doing and then they then they say switch
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  legs and then they do over in the back.
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  So it's 4 rounds of lunging and we are crying and Sue, that's
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  what was your phrase. You said it was like watching.
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  It's like watching somebody pee. I couldn't look away, but it was
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  so. Awful.
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  So personal. You're like, Oh my gosh, what is
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  happening it? Was so weird.
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  So by the time we finish, I said, what do you do?
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  You know, what is this? And they're like, you can move
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  on. And I said, this is so invasive.
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  This is, you know, whatever. Like, but at this point, I'm
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  just, you know, I'm appreciative of the work the TSA people do to
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  keep us safe. And oh, go ahead.
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  I always say and it's crazy invasive.
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  Crazy invasive, but when you posted that the comments, did
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  anyone come up with a possibility of why?
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  So Doctor Mary Claire, I don't know if you guys follow her.
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  She's amazing, right? And she's like the menopause
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  genius. And several other physicians
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  actually weighed in on it and they said.
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  Doctor Mary Claire weighed in. Oh yeah, She put it on her page.
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  She put it on her page. It was it.
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  We didn't make it just a Hoo ha. But yeah, so she was talking
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  about that. This is a real thing and it's
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  related to heat and sweat and there's a whole bunch of things
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  that can go with it. I did talk to some TSA people
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  and they say there can be metal products and anything from
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  clothing. A lot of people commented that
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  their Lululemon stuff goes off. I guess there's a particular
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  yeah, there's a particular metal in their clothing.
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  I wasn't wearing anything Lululemon, but there's so much
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  that can trigger those machines. But what it ultimately did was
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  gather this community right to laugh 1 You know, you can take
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  that and be angry. You can take it and be
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  humiliated. You can take, there's so many
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  places you can go with that and however you feel that is
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  completely valid. We choose to basically make fun
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  of our lives because it's way funnier.
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  She's got the best laugh and it's the most joyous sound in
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  our neighborhood. I agree, your laugh is.
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  Fantastic. Well, Lisa keeps me in stitches.
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  Honestly, I, I don't know if you've seen the follow up to the
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  Hoo Ha video, but literally 3 hours later we were landing in
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  Denver and I was still laughing so hard.
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  Like I, I had the, I had the wheezes.
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  I was like, Oh my God, it's so funny.
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  You know, like that. Can they be?
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  That may be one of the most unforgettable travel stories.
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  But now we get to meet people that will be like, Oh my gosh,
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  I've seen you when you were at the airport.
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  And that's our introduction to people.
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  I'm like, well, welcome to my ha ha.
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  But there are so many other videos that you've had that are
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  just as funny and planned out. That was just, I guess, a lucky.
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  Thing that happened. Let's say it like that, but like
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  you talk in one of your videos about things that were so
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  dangerous that we did. Yeah.
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  As kids, can you kind of expand on that a little bit?
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  I think it's so funny. A lot of that comes from the
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  comments of our people. We always like to say that we
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  light the, you know, the match, but our comments just are the
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  flame. It's so funny.
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  And a lot of times we posted something about the Doctor
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  Scholl's like wood shoes. People are like, I lost so much
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  skin on the back of my leg because of these or the bike
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  pedals that have like those grippy metal things.
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  We were like, there's so many ways people are carrying around
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  scars in their 50s from all these dumb things that we did in
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  the 70s and 80s. And so that's kind of, you know,
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  the little, we get little germs of ideas from all of the people
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  who write in and say, oh, yeah, I did this.
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  I I have a scar from when I was sledding behind a car and it
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  stops suddenly and now I have a tailpipe, you know, like.
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  People we, we recently did one when everyone was talking about
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  the number of appendages that would have been torn off and
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  they're like, oh, I lost a finger and then had it like sewn
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  back on. You're just like, Oh my God,
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  this is totally normal. And every the number of people
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  who also said I did this and then I made sure to cover it up
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  so I wouldn't get in trouble because I knew my mom would be
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  mad that I had, you know, lit something on fire in the
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  microwave and singed my hair or whatever it was.
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  And you're just like, yes, we all hit stuff.
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  We. All have unsupervised stuff.
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  A lot, right? A lot in the 70s, Yeah.
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  As long as you weren't in jail or in the hospital, don't bug
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  me. Leave me alone.
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  Yeah, they're working. Whatever it was, they there was
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  no supervision unless you got in trouble.
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  Yeah, you had to walk it off, whatever it was.
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  Walk it off, Yeah. Rub some dirt on it.
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  Totally, Yeah. Yeah.
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  And then then their parents would say go outside and play
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  cuz that's safer. And then the number of things we
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  were like, did you ever jump off of a house?
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  Did you ever like, did you backflip into somebody's pool
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  from their roof? Sure, of course we didn't.
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  Everybody did. Yeah, and we had no social media
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  too. And like, like my mother-in-law
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  called me one day and she said, have you been on your son's
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  social media? He just broke in somewhere and
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  jumped from a roof into a pool. And I'm like, he what?
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  He what now? You know, I mean, it's just
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  like. And then he said, well, I might
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  have done that, but there's no pictures and my my mother-in-law
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  didn't figure it out. No evidence I.
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  Said that to him too. I'm like, at least be smart
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  enough to not post it like you had a such a bad idea.
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  But you know, all of these little things.
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  I get what you're saying germs of of just, and I want to get
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  into more of your videos, but I know Chris has some questions
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  kind of more about like how you guys got started with this whole
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  process. Well.
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  I mean, to have such a successful Instagram it, was
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  there someone who helped you? Because we always joke we are
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  terrible at technology, like the worst.
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  So did you have people who helped you start it, you know,
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  maintain it now that it's really big or do?
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  You do a million. Dollars or do you do everything
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  yourself? We do it ourselves, and to be
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  fair, Lisa has a background in PR.
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  So Lisa has a lot of that acumen of thinking, what would be good?
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  What's our message when we first started doing this?
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  Lisa's like, let's come up with a mission statement.
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  I'm sitting here going, Oh my gosh, why would we do that?
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  You know, but it's I, I truly believe that's been one of the
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  things that's kept us really focused because like she said,
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  there's, you know, there's fashion, there's beauty and so
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  many wonderful creators out there, but we, we try to stay in
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  our lane with these things that really work for us.
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  So. And what is your vision
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  statement? Celebrating aging through
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  laughter, Yeah. So I have one other question.
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  Is there any part of it? Because I'm 63.
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  So I'm I'm I always joke with her.
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  You just wait even three years from 60 to 63 is a totally
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  different ball game. But is there any one thing that
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  really surprised you about aging?
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  Like where you were like, wow, I mean, I didn't expect that go.
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  Ahead. I was going to say, for me, I
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  think it's the perpetual denial of how old you actually are.
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  You know, I think you don't. I'd never think, Oh my gosh, I'm
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  54. Like that is a number that is
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  just bizarre to me. And I think, you know, when we
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  see people who are older, we're like, of course they're old, you
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  know, But we, it's so rare for us to think of ourselves in the
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  actual zone that we are in. That's true.
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  I agree. There's a little bit of
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  invisibility that I always find shocking, too shocking.
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  I would say the surprise that there, that you're never there.
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  Like I was saying, oh, my eyebrows are falling out.
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  That must be now. I'm there whatever there is
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  right and then I go, oh, my knee skin is drooping.
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  Didn't know that was gonna happen like and it doesn't it's
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  not like on 2 it's literally Tuesday you you go down your
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  knees look normal. Wednesday you're like they're
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  gone like whatever. I don't know when that happened
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  right, but it literally overnight.
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  I'll notice something. We one day were looking and I
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  said look at my hands. They look like my grandmother's
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  hands like there was a moment and she you know, we're in dry
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  Colorado. She was pinching her skin and
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  saying she's like you could and hold the skin up.
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  Like you just, it was so horrible.
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  I'm like, Oh my gosh. So we were and, and then we're
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  like, Oh my gosh, is that a beautiful thing or is that a
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  terrible thing? And how do you look at that?
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  Is that a funny thing? And we both had memories that
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  were positive related to the people that we are looking at,
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  our faces and our skin. But I didn't notice that until
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  one day I noticed it and now I can't Unsee it.
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  And so I feel like you're never there.
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  You're never done in this aging process.
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  I did a I did a AI of myself going coat totally Gray and
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  aging my skin and sues. That's like you look pretty hot
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  for 75. You know what I'm like, all
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  right, but I look at that and I'm like that's going to be me.
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  Like it's hard to embrace that I'm going to keep going in that
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  direction. I'm never going to go in the
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  other direction anymore. That's for.
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  Sure. And and one of the things
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  Christina, he says that her mom told her is you know, you're
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  never going to be this young again.
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  Like whatever you are right now, you should be happy because
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  you're not going to look this good tomorrow, the next day that
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  it's just. Well, you're the.
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  Youngest right now that you're ever going to be again.
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  We completely realize that, you know, if both of us so far in
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  good health and we have stable life situations, you know, all
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  these, there's a million things that can happen in life.
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  And so we're just about celebrating the right now, you
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  know? Well, and I had my first O
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  person injury I I love sports. We're both really active.
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  I happen to play more organized sports and after six days of
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  tennis, I had tore my meniscus and I, I knew something was off,
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  but I, I still continued to play and do stuff.
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  But then I couldn't walk in the evening after whatever I was
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  doing and finally go in and I said, I've had plenty of
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  injuries in my life, but I go in and I said, what, what's wrong
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  here? And they said, Oh, you have a
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  tear in your meniscus. I'm like, how long till that
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  repairs? And they said it doesn't you
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  have to get surgery. I'm like, well, I, I'm not going
• 19:05
  to be doing that. What do we, how do we fix this?
• 19:07
  And he's like, what physical therapy do I need to do?
• 19:11
  No, you need to go have surgery. And the minute I told started
• 19:14
  telling people, I turned my meniscus and I was going for
• 19:17
  surgery everybody. Oh, I've had two meniscus.
• 19:19
  I've had a full knee. I've had a total hip.
• 19:21
  I've had like all of a sudden I was in a club I didn't want to
• 19:24
  be in. I'm like, hey, I don't want to
• 19:26
  be in the old person club of injuries, but thank you.
• 19:28
  And all the new joints. I did.
• 19:30
  Why I now I joined the club, so I'm like, all right, I got a
• 19:33
  meniscus tear, got it fixed. Oh, you did get it fixed.
• 19:37
  I did but it was only it was like 6 week recovery.
• 19:40
  I had a short recovery so it's good.
• 19:42
  Oh, that's good. But now I'm in the club,
• 19:44
  everyone wants to share their injuries.
• 19:45
  I don't want to hear about your hip.
• 19:48
  So there's there's one more video I would love to talk to
• 19:51
  you about. Well, there's so many, but I
• 19:53
  don't know if you got my most recent e-mail where I said, let
• 19:55
  me remind you of these videos. We appreciate a reminder.
• 20:00
  I was like, let me remind you of these because I don't remember
• 20:02
  my own drive to work this morning.
• 20:04
  I just feel like if I even if I made like your, some of your
• 20:07
  videos get millions and millions of views, but that doesn't mean
• 20:10
  you remember what they were. So it was the one where you were
• 20:14
  filling out an application to join the midlifers.
• 20:17
  Do you remember what some of those check the box things were
• 20:20
  that you had to have completed before you were officially one?
• 20:24
  Yeah, big one for us, or particularly her, is readers
• 20:27
  everywhere, she'll say. And my husband's the same way.
• 20:30
  I I'm hanging on to my eyesight slowly.
• 20:33
  It's just. It's I'm jealous because I my
• 20:35
  eyesight has just nose dive. It's been so horrible and I had
• 20:39
  2020 vision my whole life so. She'll have readers literally on
• 20:42
  her head. She'll have them on her face.
• 20:44
  She'll have them hooked in her glass, on her shirt.
• 20:46
  She'll have them in her bag. And she'll say, do you know
• 20:48
  where my readers are? And.
• 20:49
  I'm so, so crazy. That's it's one of those like
• 20:52
  legit moments where you're like, Oh my gosh, it's me.
• 20:55
  If you've bought the 12 pack of the Amazon readers, you are in
• 20:59
  our club. Yeah, yes, yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 21:01
  Yeah. We have done that, too.
• 21:02
  Yeah. But you know, you, there's a day
• 21:04
  when you get up and you go and you're like, shit, You don't
• 21:07
  just get up and walk. You get out of your chair and
• 21:10
  you kind of do a little. Yeah, you're doing it.
• 21:12
  You. Make a new noise, yes.
• 21:13
  Yeah, yeah, yeah. But then you're it's like you
• 21:15
  almost start your engine. You're like, OK, now I'm walking
• 21:17
  into the kitchen or I'm walking down the hall.
• 21:19
  But those are moments when you're like, OK, my body is
• 21:22
  changing and. When something falls on the
• 21:25
  floor and you have to pick it up, I always have to say let me
• 21:28
  have to announce it. Let me just pick this up and
• 21:32
  then see. Because there's other people who
• 21:36
  are like, I don't need that, that bad.
• 21:38
  And they just keep going. And that's something we try to
• 21:41
  be really sensitive about. We have some people who are
• 21:43
  like, I haven't sat on the floor in years.
• 21:45
  And then we have some people are like, I just completed my third
• 21:47
  marathon, you know? So there's a lot of, there's a
• 21:50
  big spectrum of what is in midlife, you know?
• 21:53
  Yeah, and celebrate it all. Exactly.
• 21:55
  Yeah, but we're just here. And also whatever you feel in
• 21:58
  that moment is totally OK. We could be laughing and you
• 22:01
  would be not laughing. Hi, I had the pleasure of having
• 22:06
  Bell's palsy twice and scary of you who don't know what Bell's
• 22:10
  palsy is. It's partial paralysis of your
• 22:12
  face. It looks like a stroke and it it
• 22:16
  presents itself like a stroke. The first time very scary
• 22:19
  because I didn't know what it was but they quickly diagnosed
• 22:22
  it. But I had severe case of it and
• 22:25
  I still have some leftover. If you freeze frame me sometimes
• 22:28
  you can see it, but but this and I have said for the past couple
• 22:34
  years, the one thing I could never do again in my life is
• 22:36
  Bell's palsy. I just couldn't.
• 22:37
  It would be too hard. It was emotionally the darkest
• 22:39
  time in my life. It was very hard, blah, blah.
• 22:41
  Well, I woke up with it this past summer a year ago again.
• 22:47
  And the first call I texted her and I said, you're not going to
• 22:51
  believe this. And here I am going through this
• 22:54
  again. And I was just sobbing.
• 22:56
  I mean, sobbing. And yeah.
• 23:00
  And then she came over and she and I was like, what do we do
• 23:02
  with the channel? What do we do?
• 23:04
  You know, I can't do this. I can't deal with the trolls.
• 23:06
  What if? And she said, I don't care about
• 23:08
  the channel. Whatever you want to do, we're
• 23:10
  going to figure it out. And then I, after we talked, I
• 23:13
  was like, OK, I'm going to cry until I go to bed and then I'm
• 23:17
  done with it. I need, I only want people
• 23:20
  around who are willing to laugh with me.
• 23:22
  And I'm going to get through this faster this time because we
• 23:25
  are going to laugh and she's like, OK, and if you're ready to
• 23:28
  go on, we'll go on. And if you're not ready, we
• 23:29
  won't go on. God was on our corner because we
• 23:32
  had actually stalked quite a few videos right before then.
• 23:35
  And so we had a lot in the hopper.
• 23:37
  So there was no pressure. But the next morning we woke up
• 23:41
  and she'll say she didn't make fun of me, but she helped make
• 23:44
  me make fun of myself. But like after that, we just
• 23:48
  started laughing. And I got much better, much
• 23:51
  faster this time. And I think it was very healing
• 23:55
  for me because that's what worked for me was the laughter.
• 23:58
  So I've never found a time in my life when laughter didn't help
• 24:02
  heal me. Wow, I'd to have that twice
• 24:06
  though. That's do it.
• 24:08
  It's a doodle. Do you recommend?
• 24:10
  0 out of 10 recommend. Wow.
• 24:14
  That stinks, but that that right there is the take away that I
• 24:17
  think we should end on and that is that laughter truly is as
• 24:22
  cliche as it sounds, is the best medicine.
• 24:24
  Friendship is so vital. Sisterhood, like the one the two
• 24:29
  of you have, the one that Christine and I have, it mean it
• 24:32
  makes it makes so much difference for to have people
• 24:35
  that show up for each other and the community that you ladies
• 24:38
  have built. Bravo, so amazing.
• 24:41
  We're just so honored. Thank you.
• 24:43
  We're we're so excited that the people continue to amaze us,
• 24:48
  encourage us. Like I said, we're just lighting
• 24:51
  this little match and people like, Oh my gosh, I thought same
• 24:54
  thing happened to me And it's just it's such an encouraging
• 24:58
  place to be and I really hope that we never.
• 25:00
  Lose that. What makes it what makes it
• 25:02
  magical is the community. Yeah, this.
• 25:05
  The fact that you guys would invest time in us, the fact that
• 25:08
  we get to meet you, the fact that we get to grow with all
• 25:12
  these incredible creators, that is what makes this magical.
• 25:15
  Genuinely, the community of amazing midlifers around the
• 25:19
  world who are choosing to tap in and share their joys and their
• 25:23
  experiences is what is is building this and we're so
• 25:26
  thankful. I think our our niches, we whine
• 25:31
  more. There's a place for that, too.
• 25:35
  There's a place. Yeah, so we're going to vent and
• 25:38
  wine and you guys are going to laugh through it and we're all
• 25:40
  going to be in the same place about it.
• 25:42
  But we laugh a lot too, so we we can appreciate it.
• 25:45
  So let's let everybody know all of the ways they can follow you.
• 25:48
  Would you do that for us? Tell everyone everything.
• 25:51
  Sure, we are on Facebook as midlifers under score.
• 25:54
  We are on Instagram as midlifers under score.
• 25:58
  We are even on Tiktok with the young people, it's midlifers
• 26:03
  under score and we have a small presence on YouTube which we are
• 26:07
  growing and. Which is midlifers on YouTube.
• 26:10
  It's just YouTube Shorts, yeah. I mean.
• 26:13
  If you want the best comments, so the best comments are
• 26:16
  Instagram, yeah. People Instagram have great
• 26:18
  comments, YouTube we get most trolls are on on YouTube and
• 26:23
  tik. T.O.K just makes you feel bad
• 26:24
  about yourself. I mean, I, I'm on TikTok for my
• 26:28
  business and I'm like, I mean, there's nothing that can make
• 26:33
  you feel older than being on TikTok period.
• 26:37
  End of story. Sorry, I just said it.
• 26:41
  She said it. I said it.
• 26:43
  There's room for growth in this age group though.
• 26:45
  I think we just. I agree, encourage some poor.
• 26:48
  Midlifers to kind of try that out.
• 26:49
  It's a great, it's a great social media channel.
• 26:52
  So I, I agree, I find I find it fascinating because I really do
• 26:57
  think you learned so much from there.
• 26:59
  But you have to swipe up through a lot of junk to get to like my
• 27:04
  cucumber salad that I made the other night.
• 27:06
  You know what I mean? You just, you have to get
• 27:08
  through the the junk of the whole story telling of something
• 27:12
  of a 25 year old who's complaining and all I see is
• 27:16
  what are you complaining about? You're 25 years old, you have no
• 27:20
  complaints yet. Wait, yeah, totally.
• 27:22
  We've done the whole reel on Please don't give us reviewers
• 27:25
  who are 25 for, for, you know, skin care.
• 27:27
  I want the reviewers who are over 50 and have stretched those
• 27:30
  pants to their maximum capacity and yeah, tell me.
• 27:35
  If they actually worked, if you If you are voting against the
• 27:39
  law of gravity, you should not be telling me.
• 27:43
  You know, I mean, I absolutely know that there are things that
• 27:47
  you can do and things that you can't do.
• 27:49
  And when you're 25 years old, you've got.
• 27:51
  Elasticity, 100% that college. And so you don't really get to
• 27:55
  tell me everything's great. Yeah.
• 27:57
  No wonder the skin care looks good on you.
• 27:59
  We. Haven't got your merch yet?
• 28:00
  We have to talk about your merch real quick.
• 28:03
  Please tell us about your merch because it's fantastic.
• 28:07
  We got into these hats. We have this great company
• 28:10
  called Arnie and Ollie and they it's a midlife woman.
• 28:13
  She's amazing and. She's local for us, so it's a
• 28:16
  small business. Small business and we connected
• 28:19
  with her and we said we, we just would like to wear a couple of
• 28:21
  hats that we think are pretty unique to us.
• 28:23
  And this is what we thinking. And she she like so many people
• 28:27
  have been so kind and decided to take a chance on us and it's
• 28:30
  just been fun. We have hats to say Nope,
• 28:32
  because we believe in midlife. It's a full sentence.
• 28:36
  Do you want to go on the carousel?
• 28:37
  No, like they're just things I'm done.
• 28:40
  I don't want to do. Like, do you want to stay up?
• 28:42
  We go to this concert at 10:00 PM with seats and, you know, on
• 28:46
  the lawn. No, like these kind of things,
• 28:49
  right? So the joke is the hat.
• 28:50
  And every time we also have ones that say wild and fun until 9:00
• 28:54
  PM, like they speak to us. But whenever we wear them, it's
• 28:58
  funny because even younger kid like the waitresses will say,
• 29:01
  where did you get that hat? That's so funny.
• 29:03
  I want to wear it while I work, you know?
• 29:04
  Nope. Can I have more water?
• 29:06
  No, I'm done. Like just so again, hopefully
• 29:11
  finding joy, making people laugh in anything that we touch.
• 29:16
  We've done that for us today. Thank you so much.
• 29:18
  This has been such a fun interview, I really appreciate
• 29:21
  it. And if you need laughs, you have
• 29:23
  to go to their Instagram because I was dying yesterday.
• 29:26
  I mean just dying stuff. You guys are so funny.
• 29:30
  I mean, I think you had like dozens of thousands then you
• 29:33
  had, I mean, that's how growth happens.
• 29:34
  But the last time I checked, it was close to half a million.
• 29:36
  And I was just like, OK, they're speaking the language people
• 29:40
  want to speak. So on that note, you are in
• 29:44
  Denver, I think. Yeah, Denver.
• 29:47
  So our times different a little bit.
• 29:49
  So you're probably getting ready for, let's see, for you it's
• 29:51
  what, 10-30 maybe later recording this.
• 29:54
  So you're ready for lunch, I'm sure.
• 29:58
  And then a nap and. Then a nap.
• 30:00
  It's very cloudy and rainy here today.
• 30:02
  So well, thank you ladies again, we really good appreciate it.
• 30:06
  Thank you so much and. We're going to be right back
• 30:09
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• 31:05
  said goodbye to our special guests, the midlifers, and we're
• 31:09
  here now for our organizational tip of the day.
• 31:12
  OK, this sounds basic and people are probably like no kidding,
• 31:16
  but I see this all the time. If you take it off, hang it back
• 31:21
  up because that starts the throwing of the clothes on a
• 31:26
  chair in your room or the exercise equipment or on the
• 31:29
  ground or on the floor. It just starts everything and I
• 31:35
  see it all the time. I'll say, oh, is this dirty dry
• 31:38
  cleaning? No, I just didn't hang it back
• 31:40
  up. It's takes such a little amount
• 31:43
  of time and once you get into the habit of taking it off,
• 31:48
  hanging it back up. And if you don't love it, you
• 31:51
  know my theory of dropping it in the donation bag or the
• 31:55
  consignment bag, whatever you want to call it.
• 31:57
  But if it's something that you have taken off, even if you
• 32:02
  decided not to wear it that date, hang it back back up.
• 32:05
  It's these little tiny things that will keep you organized.
• 32:08
  It's those my new little behaviors.
• 32:10
  I I understand that for sure. All right, well, this is a
• 32:14
  really, really fun episode. I just really enjoyed it.
• 32:19
  I would have liked to. I could have just sat back and
• 32:21
  just listen to those two have a conversation all day long.
• 32:23
  And they don't have a podcast, but they definitely have a lot
• 32:25
  of short content on social media that is definitely worth your
• 32:29
  time to check out midlifers under score.
• 32:31
  So I guess the way we can close this one is, you know, with any
• 32:35
  situation that comes your way, not suggesting you can
• 32:39
  immediately laugh at it because you had Lisa say she cried for a
• 32:43
  full day, but then she decided that she could let it go.
• 32:46
  And don't look back.