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Season 4 - Episode 282 - Being so focused you missed an opportunity · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset coach, creative strategist, and also happened to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody, good morning and well, good afternoon from the
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  chicken coop. As I come out here to make sure
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  everybody gets in. Rufus isn't here obviously to do
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  that job. So the other rooster isn't quite
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  used to wrangling the hens. That was not his role.
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  So he's figuring out his new role and kind of, I wouldn't say
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  he's struggling as much as he just has no clue.
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  He just doesn't have a clue and he's figuring it out.
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  And which brings me to the point of today's conversation.
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  The the tragedy happened over the weekend, losing him and it
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  put me in this place where I just was.
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  I hunkered down and did what I needed to do to get through my
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  weekend and feel, try to feel better.
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  And one of the things that I like to do is go to Costco and
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  wander through Costco. And they now have this thing
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  where you can get in earlier if you're an executive member,
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  which I always had that membership.
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  So I just figured, oh, I'm going to go early.
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  And there's this thing with parking at Costco, which is
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  really weird how everybody likes to park as close as they can.
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  I just kind of take it for I want to park in the shade.
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  So I'm going to look for shade. I'm just not going to park as
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  close as I possibly can. So I'm out there, I'm pulling
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  in, I'm ready to park and I see somebody else who's, you know,
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  ready to pull out. And I'm, I'm like, OK, I'm, I'm
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  not going to worry about this spot.
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  And I, because it's not where I wanted to park.
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  I wanted to park further away in the shade.
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  So I go drive down and I pull in into the spot that's in the
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  shade, get out of my truck. I start walking up and I see
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  that that spot is still wide open.
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  Now, here's The funny thing. This spot is maybe 15 feet,
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  maybe 15 feet from another spot that this man is incredibly
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  focused on getting. I don't know why, but he's
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  incredibly focused on getting that particular spot and he's
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  just sitting there with his directional on.
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  He's getting more and more irritated and he can see that
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  the crowds are building. He's getting more and more
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  irritated and the woman is taking her time packing her
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  vehicle and, and she should she had the spot she had every
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  right. But you can look in the window
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  and you can see him just getting more and more animated, more and
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  more irritated. Now, mind you, I'm super
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  observant and I'm in this head space of being slowed down
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  because I'm trying to collect myself and heal myself from
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  everything that happened. So I'm super, I'm super centered
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  and like in the moment, trying to stay out of my head.
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  So I stop and I watch him. I'm just like leaning up against
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  the collection area for the carts and I'm watching him
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  completely missing the wide open space less than 15 feet away.
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  And he just doesn't see it. He's just sitting there getting
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  more and more animated, more and more aggravated.
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  And she's taking her time. And then he gets to the point
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  where he blows the horn. Now Can you imagine this?
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  He blows the horn, which really is unbelievable.
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  And she turns around and she's like, completely unaware that
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  he's, like waiting for the spot. And she sees him and she just
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  waves. Like, she's completely sweet.
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  And she just waves. She's just like, hey.
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  And he puts his window down and he's like, are you?
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  Are you leaving? And she's like, yeah, yeah.
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  When I'm done packing and I'm just sitting there befuddled as
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  to the fact that this man could possibly ask this woman if she's
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  leaving. Clearly she's packing her car.
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  Clearly she's leaving and he doesn't notice that there's a
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  spot right down there. All of a sudden as he's sitting
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  there completely still aggravated that she's taking her
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  time doing what she's doing because she's putting her Costco
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  stuff. She doesn't have the boxes from
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  Costco. She's got bags.
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  So she's taking her stuff from her car and bought bagging it up
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  into her stuff and then putting it into her vehicle.
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  She doesn't notice. She doesn't even think about the
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  fact like he's actually aggravated.
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  She just thought he was wondering, but he's aggravated.
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  Then I see somebody comes down the opposite direction and zooms
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  into that space that was 15 feet, and I see him banging on
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  his steering wheel. Like he's so aggravated that
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  they took the spot that he didn't see that he had all the
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  time in the world to go get. And it just made me sit there
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  and think, wow, what would have happened if he could have just
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  paid attention and thought about that for for a bit of time and
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  made a decision that said, hey, you know what?
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  I can have that spot. I could have that spot if I
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  wanted that spot, but I just didn't want that spot.
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  And it really got me thinking and it really got me like blown
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  away by the fact that like, wow, how did he not notice that spot?
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  How did he not see it? Well, one, he wasn't being in
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  the present moment, and two, he was very much in the space of
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  being a, in his anger, in his emotion, rather than what he was
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  looking for in his outcome. So because he was letting his
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  emotion drive him, he missed his outcome.
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  So where else does this show up? It's a really great question.
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  And I can't say that I would have noticed this if I hadn't
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  been in such a contemplative, deep state of staying in the
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  moment. So there's also a lesson in
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  that. So they're all coming at me this
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  week, my friends, and I'm sharing them all with you.
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  So I hope you all have a blessed day and I will see you all
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  tomorrow. Bye.