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The Homeschool Mindset Shift Every Parent Needs | A Mother's Day Special Episode · Homeschool Revolution

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SPEAKER_01: Welcome to the Homeschool Revolution.
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SPEAKER_01: I'm Rebecca Stromsdorfer, homeschool mom of five for over 20 years, and I've been coaching moms just like you for decades.
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SPEAKER_01: I've done this messy, done it wrong, and figured it out as I went.
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SPEAKER_01: This podcast is for the working mom, single mom, stay-at-home mom, and yes, dads too.
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SPEAKER_01: Any parent who is done with the old way and ready to raise creative, confident kids who actually changed the world.
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SPEAKER_01: This isn't just homeschooling.
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SPEAKER_01: This is a revolution.
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SPEAKER_01: Let's get into it.
0:34
SPEAKER_01: Welcome to my homeschool Village.
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SPEAKER_01: Here to help you out with your homeschooling.
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SPEAKER_01: Hopefully, you all had an amazing week.
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SPEAKER_01: It was Mother's Day, and sometimes that can be really cool, and sometimes that can come with a lot of frustration and a lot of mom guilt.
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SPEAKER_01: So hopefully that was not you this weekend.
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SPEAKER_01: Hopefully, you had a wonderful weekend and you got spoiled by someone.
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SPEAKER_01: I'm here to answer your questions, whether they be about the program, whether they be just motherhood, whether they be about your kids specifically.
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SPEAKER_01: Whatever your questions are, please pop them in the chat and I will get to them in just a minute.
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SPEAKER_01: Um, but I love, I love the chats, I love the questions, I love the comments.
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SPEAKER_01: Happy Mother's Day to you all.
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SPEAKER_01: Hopefully it came with very little guilt.
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SPEAKER_01: Love to hear how your guys' Mother's Days went.
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SPEAKER_01: I have to say, this was the best Mother's Day I've ever had.
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SPEAKER_01: I've only been a mom now for 24 years.
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SPEAKER_01: And don't get me wrong, they've been good.
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SPEAKER_01: As the kids were little, it was just more work.
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SPEAKER_01: Let's be honest.
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SPEAKER_01: When you have little kids, Mother's Day is about putting on more of a face.
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SPEAKER_01: It's like all you want is the day off and to be left alone.
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SPEAKER_01: That would be the ultimate gift.
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SPEAKER_01: But let's be honest, Mother's Day is not about what we want.
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SPEAKER_01: It's never been.
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SPEAKER_00: So sometimes you end up cleaning up even more mess in the kitchen because they cooked for you.
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SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it's I've had a few that have been extremely emotional.
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SPEAKER_01: But this year we've we had a pretty good one.
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SPEAKER_01: This year, my husband, so we've, as many of you know, we've moved to Alabama and we keep hearing about the beaches here.
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SPEAKER_01: And I'm like, you never think about Alabama and beach.
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SPEAKER_01: But so we decided my husband's like, let's go find out before all the schools are out next week.
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SPEAKER_01: I think they're out at the end of this week, and then like, you know, everybody's out of school, and then all the beaches are full.
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SPEAKER_01: He booked us the last weekend of school time, and we went down for two days and loved it.
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SPEAKER_01: Absolutely loved it.
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SPEAKER_01: It was awesome.
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SPEAKER_01: Alabama beaches.
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SPEAKER_01: I've been to probably five or six different beaches around the world.
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SPEAKER_01: This has been my favorite, but um, anyway, so we went and I got a little analogy while we were there.
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SPEAKER_01: Something about taking time off and away from your home like brings in new ideas, new thoughts.
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SPEAKER_01: I never realized how important vacation time was for the brain, for the parent, for the family.
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SPEAKER_01: They used vacations used to be when they were the kids were little, just more work.
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SPEAKER_01: So I avoided them.
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SPEAKER_01: And I'm sure many of you with little kids are still doing that.
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SPEAKER_01: Like, travel with small children is exhausting.
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SPEAKER_01: It is not a vacation, and you need a vacation from the vacation.
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SPEAKER_01: Now, this is now that my kids are finally old enough and we only are traveling with two, not five.
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SPEAKER_01: It's gotten really easy and actually quite enjoyable.
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SPEAKER_01: So we're sitting at the beach, and um, there's this little bird.
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SPEAKER_01: You know how they're hopping around and they go in and out of the waves trying to get little food, and they're the cutest little birds.
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SPEAKER_01: And I'm watching this bird, and it comes up right close to our feet because we're right at the edge of the water watching.
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SPEAKER_01: This little bird comes up close and then hops away, and then comes up close and hops away.
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SPEAKER_01: And I kept watching this bird, it fascinated me.
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SPEAKER_01: And I kept thinking, it's but this bird must really be exposed to humans to be able to get so close to them and to trust humans.
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SPEAKER_01: And how good must humans be that this bird doesn't fear us at all, and that it just will get this close and not worry.
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SPEAKER_01: And then I realized something.
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SPEAKER_01: Um, my my mindset shifted.
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SPEAKER_01: It was like there was a voice that said, No, it's not you, it's trusting.
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SPEAKER_01: It's itself that it trusts.
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SPEAKER_01: And then I realized, no, the bird has doesn't care what's around him.
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SPEAKER_01: He trusts himself to get himself out of a bad situation.
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SPEAKER_01: He's done this long enough, he knows the process, he trusts his own instinct so well that he knows that if I like moved in a second to try to hurt him, he'd be out of there.
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SPEAKER_01: He'd be fast, he'd be gone.
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SPEAKER_01: There is nothing that can get him because of his, he knows who he is, he knows his own instincts and abilities, and he trusts that.
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SPEAKER_01: His trust is not in the people around him, in the waves that are around him, it could splash him at any minute.
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SPEAKER_01: It wasn't an animal that could fly by any minute.
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SPEAKER_01: No, it was in his own instincts and his own abilities that allowed him to be freer, to get closer to dangers, to check out the world.
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SPEAKER_01: So, with this analogy in hand, this is this was my analogy.
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SPEAKER_01: And I thought, okay, as a mother, okay, personally, how can I get to a place of individual trust in myself, in my own abilities, in who I am, so that I know the world is not about who you trust.
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SPEAKER_01: It's not about I have to trust a government system, I have to trust a religious system, I have to trust whatever that is, right?
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SPEAKER_01: The point is that I trust me and my instincts and my ability to solve problems, my ability to be smart, think on my feet, my ability to go in and not panic, so that whatever comes my way, I know I can handle.
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SPEAKER_01: Isn't that real confidence?
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SPEAKER_01: Isn't that what confidence comes in my trust in God and my trust in me?
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SPEAKER_01: It doesn't come with my trust in anyone else because for our whole lives, people will fail us.
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SPEAKER_01: You guys, that's just how it is.
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SPEAKER_01: Our spouses, our children, people fail because we're human.
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SPEAKER_01: God never fails, and we can learn to trust ourselves.
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SPEAKER_01: So then I took it one step further and I'm like, okay, but how do I become a mother who teaches her children that they are problem solvers, to trust themselves and their abilities and who they are to get out of any situation, to stay away from danger, to be able to live risky, right, in a happy, full life kind of way while still being safe, while still understanding that they can get out of different situations, while still knowing they have a support system.
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SPEAKER_01: And so as I was, I was just pondering all of this, and this was my weekend pondering is how?
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SPEAKER_01: How do we become that?
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SPEAKER_01: And how do we pass that on to our children so that they too can be problem solvers?
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SPEAKER_01: They too can have confidence in who they are, where they are, where they're going.
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SPEAKER_01: And to me, that's really what motherhood and homeschooling is all about.
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SPEAKER_01: Not about the math and the reading and the writing.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah, yeah, yeah, we got to do those things, but about who this child is as a child of God.
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SPEAKER_01: And are they able to solve their own problems?
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SPEAKER_01: Do they know how to solve problems?
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SPEAKER_01: Do they know who to go to when they're in trouble?
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SPEAKER_01: Do they have the confidence in themselves and in their abilities to live their lives to their fullest?
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SPEAKER_01: Open-ended.
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SPEAKER_01: That's my thought.
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SPEAKER_01: That's what I'm pondering right now.
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SPEAKER_01: So um you're welcome to join me in that pondering, but I just wanted to share that with you today because that bird is just something about it.
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SPEAKER_01: Just really, really taught me a lesson.
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SPEAKER_01: And it anyway, so hopefully that helped today.
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SPEAKER_01: I don't know if if anybody cares, but that's where I've been.
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SPEAKER_01: Um, let's check our comments.
7:28
SPEAKER_01: Uh, Trish says Josiah had a buddy stay the night Saturday.
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SPEAKER_01: So mom was making bacon egg sandwiches for two hungry teenage boys.
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SPEAKER_01: But this job is never done.
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SPEAKER_01: Yep, happy Mother's Day.
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SPEAKER_01: You get to be mom.
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SPEAKER_01: Sarah says we only travel with family, so there's always extra hands.
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SPEAKER_01: Oh, so good.
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SPEAKER_01: That's nice.
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SPEAKER_01: I never had family to travel with, and so it was always like this.
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SPEAKER_01: I had to work this Mother's Day.
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SPEAKER_01: I was kind of sad, but it's okay.
7:54
SPEAKER_01: Oh, bummer.
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SPEAKER_01: I'm sorry.
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SPEAKER_01: Remember, Mother's Day doesn't have to just be Sunday.
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SPEAKER_01: You can celebrate it another day, clean it, take it, right?
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SPEAKER_01: No reason to not just take it when you want it.
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SPEAKER_01: Eve says best Mother's Day ever for me.
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SPEAKER_01: After church, I just was out on the patio and my hubby and kids made the most delicious meal for me.
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SPEAKER_00: Oh, that's awesome.
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SPEAKER_01: I love that.
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SPEAKER_01: I have had, I remember when we first got married, we had a hard time getting pregnant.
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SPEAKER_01: And boy, Mother's Days were hard when we could not get kids.
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SPEAKER_01: And I remember a couple where I just balled all the way through because I was like, all I want to be is a mom.
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SPEAKER_01: And we it took us years to get pregnant with number one, and then all of a sudden they were fine.
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SPEAKER_01: But something about that first job.
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SPEAKER_01: And I remember peers.
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SPEAKER_01: And so now on Mother's Day, um, I remember that one that broke my heart.
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SPEAKER_01: And I try to be more thoughtful for those women in that position, but it also makes Mother's Day to me a little more special.
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SPEAKER_01: So Eve says they wouldn't let me in the kitchen and being outside, I was happy that I didn't hear them because I would have wanted to help.
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SPEAKER_01: And sometimes like, but but I'm gonna laugh with you guys too.
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SPEAKER_01: Paul I said it's okay, yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: It was an emotional day for a lot of my residents and patients.
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SPEAKER_01: So I got to help them feel better.
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SPEAKER_01: Oh, are you in a nursing home?
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SPEAKER_01: Is that where you're working?
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SPEAKER_01: Or in a hospital?
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SPEAKER_01: I worked in a nursing home.
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SPEAKER_01: I grew up in nursing homes, love them.
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SPEAKER_01: My mom always ran them.
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SPEAKER_01: She was in RN and always ran nursing homes.
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SPEAKER_01: Okay, yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: Um, and so after school, we'd go to the nursing home, hang out there, and then come.
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SPEAKER_01: And so I feel like, and then like every Christmas, every holiday, I feel like I grew up in a nursing home.
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SPEAKER_01: Sarah says I went to a bereaved mother's event.
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SPEAKER_01: Oh, on Friday night.
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SPEAKER_01: And it was sad, but it really, really sweet.
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SPEAKER_01: Wow.
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SPEAKER_01: I thought that was special.
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SPEAKER_01: Sad, but special.
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SPEAKER_01: Right, Eve.
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SPEAKER_01: I am grateful for people like her too.
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SPEAKER_01: Yes, thank you, Polly, for being the kind of woman who does that for others.
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SPEAKER_01: Not always easy.
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SPEAKER_01: I'm sorry you had to work, but what a better job.
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SPEAKER_01: Serving the elderly in these homes.
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SPEAKER_01: My father spent two years in one when we all couldn't take care of him, he had too many medical needs.
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SPEAKER_01: And I have to tell you how much I loved those nurses.
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SPEAKER_01: Oh, I mean, I had an appreciation when I was the nurse.
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SPEAKER_01: Then when my dad needed those nurses, heaven awaits people who serve in nursing homes, work, serve, whatever.
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SPEAKER_01: If you're in there and you're making people's lives better, you don't know what you're doing for those of us who have people in there.
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SPEAKER_01: So heaven has a special place for you.
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SPEAKER_01: I will tell you that.
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SPEAKER_01: So welcome.
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SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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SPEAKER_01: So, anybody need any help today?
10:33
SPEAKER_01: How are we doing with my homeschool village?
10:36
SPEAKER_01: Do you have any questions on my homeschool village and what's going on?
10:38
SPEAKER_01: A lot of the women in here are regulars.
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SPEAKER_01: Come meet them.
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SPEAKER_01: On Wednesday, we do the lives where we actually get to meet and talk and chat and become better friends.
10:47
SPEAKER_01: And so it's good to get to look get to see them here.
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SPEAKER_01: See how sweet they are.
10:52
SPEAKER_01: I heard that some women are intimidated to come on Wednesdays because they're afraid they're going to come with all these like knowledgeable moms.
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SPEAKER_01: And yeah, there's a lot of knowledgeable moms, but they're so sweet and loving and ready to help.
11:02
SPEAKER_01: So please know that you are safe here.
11:05
SPEAKER_01: And you're welcome to come in and be like, I don't know how to.
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SPEAKER_01: And these women, so helpful.
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SPEAKER_01: I think I read a post the other day about women and how we automatically judge each other and just our natural instinct to compare ourselves to each other.
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SPEAKER_01: And I feel that often.
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SPEAKER_01: And I see that in myself sometimes.
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SPEAKER_01: And so I've started making myself my own personal goal.
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SPEAKER_01: When I see a woman and I think something positive about her, I need to say it out loud.
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SPEAKER_01: That's intimidating, by the way, really hard.
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SPEAKER_01: So, like you were at the store and you see a woman and she has like gorgeous hair, or she's the cutest shoes, or maybe she's just a sweet mom, or maybe she's a mom struggling with little kids, and you're just like, hey, been there.
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SPEAKER_01: You got this, you're doing a great job, right?
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SPEAKER_01: Like, I am so grateful for the older women who would reach out to me when I had little kids and be like, hey, you're doing good.
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SPEAKER_01: Don't worry about it, or whatever it might be.
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SPEAKER_01: And so it's something that I've personally been trying to work on to number one, get rid of the negative thoughts out of my head, and number two, pass it forward.
12:03
SPEAKER_01: Like, why not make somebody smile today?
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SPEAKER_01: Makes my day, makes their day, everybody's happier.
12:08
SPEAKER_01: All right.
12:09
SPEAKER_01: Okay, you guys are gonna be shocked.
12:10
SPEAKER_01: I messed up.
12:12
SPEAKER_01: As you know, I love my homeschool village and I love working on things, but you also know that I can make mistakes.
12:19
SPEAKER_01: I don't know if I did this, I don't know if the program did it.
12:21
SPEAKER_01: We had a weird glitch and we were giving away programs that we weren't supposed to be giving away.
12:27
SPEAKER_01: So we because of special contracts and things with certain programs, we have to put them inside a certain membership.
12:33
SPEAKER_01: And I accidentally gave everybody passwords that should have had passwords.
12:37
SPEAKER_01: Brilliant.
12:38
SPEAKER_01: I know.
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SPEAKER_01: Didn't realize I'd done it and it shouldn't have happened.
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SPEAKER_01: And anyway, there were some mess-ups, and I finally caught it last week and fixed it.
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SPEAKER_01: So some of you who are paying$10 a month were getting access to some programs that are not part of that program.
12:51
SPEAKER_01: And for that, I am sorry.
12:52
SPEAKER_01: We did change the passwords on Starfall Generation Genius.
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SPEAKER_01: You're gonna have to go back in, you guys, and get the passwords.
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SPEAKER_01: So there are password changes.
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SPEAKER_01: You do need to go in and get the new passwords.
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SPEAKER_01: We're not limiting, we're not in here like, you're seven.
13:05
SPEAKER_01: You what are you doing in here?
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SPEAKER_01: No, if he is emotionally available for a class, that's where he needs to go.
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SPEAKER_01: It's not about grade, it's not about age, it's about where is his emotional capability, where is he comfortable?
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SPEAKER_01: So if he's more comfortable with some older kids, that's okay.
13:18
SPEAKER_01: If he's more comfortable with the younger, that's okay.
13:20
SPEAKER_01: Now, if you put him in an older class and he is emotionally not ready, and the teacher's like, we got a little kid in here who keeps interrupting and they're not ready, you you might get a message.
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SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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SPEAKER_01: But other than that, we yeah, just you know, my my boys were both late talkers.
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SPEAKER_01: He's probably more of a math brain, probably more of a Lego kid, um, more mechanically inclined, and they're generally later readers, and it's normal.
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SPEAKER_01: Uh, my 12-year-old son has always gravitated towards younger kids until about a month ago, and now he wants to be with this age group and older kids.
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SPEAKER_01: Okay, Janelle, can I tell you?
13:54
SPEAKER_01: This is funny that you say this because my all my kids went through this as homeschool kids.
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SPEAKER_01: It was like they loved the younger kids, they wanted to stay with the younger kids as long as possible, and they were always more immature than their public school cousins, friends, whatever, because they like held on to childhood as long as possible.
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SPEAKER_01: And then all of a sudden, one day they were just done being a kid and they were just ready to grow up.
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SPEAKER_01: And boom, they wanted older kids.
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SPEAKER_01: And it was like, but yesterday you wanted younger kids.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah, well, I don't anymore.
14:26
SPEAKER_01: And it was just over, and it was weird.
14:28
SPEAKER_01: But then all of a sudden they grow up and they're more mature.
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SPEAKER_01: So, like a year ago, I was being told all the time how young my my 13-year-old was and how what a kid he still was.
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SPEAKER_01: And now all of a sudden everybody's like, wow, your 13-year-old's mature.
14:41
SPEAKER_01: And I'm like, Yeah, I know, I'm not sure when that happened.
14:43
SPEAKER_01: So it's actually interesting because I haven't, I don't know if all kids do this.
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SPEAKER_01: I just know my homeschool kids, but I've been really surprised at how long they hold on to childhood as homeschool kids because they get it.
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SPEAKER_01: And the second they're done, they're done, and they're ready to be kids, big kids.
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SPEAKER_01: It's it's interesting to me, but totally normal.
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SPEAKER_01: Uh, Yachty says, Yeah, all the teachers are amazing.
15:03
SPEAKER_01: They won't kick you off if you want to try a class.
15:05
SPEAKER_01: No, they will not.
15:06
SPEAKER_01: Definitely more math kitty, loves it, just flies through it.
15:09
SPEAKER_01: Uh-huh.
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SPEAKER_01: I'm telling you, there is, guys, I am seeing this across the board, and I I've never, now I never studied childhood education, but it's a it's a pattern I've noticed over 25 years of homeschooling and then helping others homeschool.
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SPEAKER_01: A child who has a math brain, they're they fly through math, they love it, they can do math in their head, they're mechanically inclined, they want to fix the car, they're doing Legos, they love origami, right?
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SPEAKER_01: All of these things, they want to do everything with their hands.
15:37
SPEAKER_01: They're the kid in the mud, they're the kid in the tree, they're the one you hope that you can keep alive because they're everywhere.
15:42
SPEAKER_01: That child struggles with language.
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SPEAKER_01: Their language is slower, they struggle with reading and writing, they don't love it.
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SPEAKER_01: It's almost like their brain works too fast to stop to read.
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SPEAKER_01: They're just, they go go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go.
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SPEAKER_01: And so they're to stop and sound out a word is frustrating because they have to slow down.
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SPEAKER_01: Writing because they have to slow their mind to work on it, and it's hard.
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SPEAKER_01: Then I have other children who are my verbal ones.
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SPEAKER_01: My oldest daughter was bilingual at two because we spoke English and Spanish at home, and that girl just picked it up.
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SPEAKER_01: Language, that her vocabulary, hated math her whole life, would not let go with her siblings, doesn't like draws, arts, but her language reads, right?
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SPEAKER_01: She was an my two early readers, not mathematicians.
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SPEAKER_01: They pick up language, they can pick up the accents because I here at home we work on two languages, and my kids who are mathematicians couldn't even hear a Spanish accent.
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SPEAKER_01: My two kids with language picked it up.
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SPEAKER_01: So it's just, it's one or the other.
16:46
SPEAKER_01: That's just how their brains work.
16:47
SPEAKER_01: They're and so you focus on their strength and use it to motivate them for the weakness.
16:53
SPEAKER_01: So use the idea that he wants, he'll probably want something read for him to get him to want to read.
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SPEAKER_01: I hope that helps.
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SPEAKER_01: Something about those 12-year-old boys.
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SPEAKER_01: It's like, I want to be a kid, don't make me rush, and all of a sudden it's like, would you treat me like a man?
17:04
SPEAKER_01: And it's just like overnight.
17:06
SPEAKER_01: My daughter's a third grader and she goes to K3 math and also the four to six math.
17:10
SPEAKER_01: My kid doesn't tell it's hard math, so I just let her be.
17:14
SPEAKER_01: Oh, good for you.
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SPEAKER_01: Love that, yachty.
17:17
SPEAKER_01: My oldest daughter loves reading and writing crafts, but absolutely hates math.
17:20
SPEAKER_01: Uh-huh.
17:21
SPEAKER_01: And that's normal.
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SPEAKER_01: So all you do is you take their passions, the things they're good at, to motivate the things they're not good at.
17:32
SPEAKER_01: Because when they can see that I still need to work on these things so that I can be better at the ones I'm good at, then they start to learn these on their own.
17:40
SPEAKER_01: Um Polly, make sure that your daughter's checking out the creative bug.
17:44
SPEAKER_01: It's under Wednesday, I believe.
17:47
SPEAKER_01: Um make sure she's checking out Creative Bug, the creative bug for our artsy craftsy girls, our DIY boys and girls.
17:56
SPEAKER_01: It's one of my favorites, and it doesn't get it's the most underutilized inside my homeschool village, but it's it was partnered with Joanne.
18:05
SPEAKER_01: Creative bug is the most underutilized, you guys, ever.
18:09
SPEAKER_01: I have a very high passion for this platform because it helps children become creative, problem solve, critical thinking, the types of skills you don't get in public school that they need to have.
18:22
SPEAKER_01: So I love creative bug for afternoon work.
18:24
SPEAKER_01: When they have free time when they're done with other things and they want to have their own project, creative bug is where you send them because they can so we have yarn, sewing, quilting, needlework, right?
18:35
SPEAKER_01: But then there's also jewelry, holiday parties.
18:37
SPEAKER_01: Now come over to kids and teens.
18:41
SPEAKER_01: And then let's look at all the classes.
18:43
SPEAKER_01: Now it's broken down to four to seven, eight to twelve, thirteen and up.
18:46
SPEAKER_01: Daily practice, drawing and painting, general crafts, holiday party, jewelry, paper, sewing, yarn.
18:52
SPEAKER_01: See all kids.
18:54
SPEAKER_01: Come in here, pick your kids' age, and then there's classes in here they can take, and they're learning so many life skills.
19:01
SPEAKER_01: So many.
19:02
SPEAKER_01: Like if you just put your home, like teach them to read and write and math.
19:07
SPEAKER_01: Okay, get them the three basics and then get them in here to learn really good.
19:12
SPEAKER_01: These things are all skills they'll use the rest of their lives.
19:14
SPEAKER_01: It might look like frilly and artsy, but if you want your kid to really use their brain and their creativity, and this is where you get them to learn to think for themselves because they're looking at how to do things, but then they'll start to be more creative on the inside.
19:28
SPEAKER_01: And creativity is a lost skill in the public school system right now.
19:33
SPEAKER_01: It is a lost skill.
19:34
SPEAKER_01: So, how do we make sure our kids have it?
19:36
SPEAKER_01: Go to creative bug.
19:38
SPEAKER_01: I'm not kidding.
19:39
SPEAKER_01: That is how you do it.
19:41
SPEAKER_01: So, and they can pick now.
19:42
SPEAKER_01: There's it's not all girly stuff, okay?
19:45
SPEAKER_01: There's boy stuff in here too.
19:46
SPEAKER_01: I love that there's like the knitting, the jewelry making, there's even herbal stuff, there's some industrial stuff.
19:53
SPEAKER_01: I can't say enough about creative bug.
19:55
SPEAKER_01: I'm a big fan of if a child doesn't have a project to work on, they're probably if your child has anxiety or depression, help them find a project that inspires them that they can't wait to get up and do.
20:05
SPEAKER_01: That to me is the ultimate solver of anxiety and depression.
20:09
SPEAKER_01: Something that inspires you.
20:11
SPEAKER_01: So, by the way, moms, you're looking to learn some skills, you too can come in here.
20:16
SPEAKER_01: That's the beauty of my homeschool village.
20:17
SPEAKER_01: It's not just about educating the kid, it's about educating the parent too.
20:20
SPEAKER_01: Sarah says, We love creative bug for summer.
20:23
SPEAKER_01: I really want to set up some project boxes or something that's always out for my kids to pick up.
20:27
SPEAKER_01: Ooh, but I haven't figured out how to do it yet.
20:30
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
20:31
SPEAKER_01: We've done a couple of ways.
20:33
SPEAKER_01: I spent one summer where we actually like cleaned out our living room.
20:37
SPEAKER_01: I got rid of the furniture and I put up desks for all the kids around the house that they were allowed to create on.
20:44
SPEAKER_01: I promised not to make them clean up at the end of the day.
20:47
SPEAKER_01: They were allowed to just project away and I would leave them alone.
20:52
SPEAKER_01: They had their, they would come to our little office here, do their homework, their reading, writing, math stuff that was required, and then they had the afternoon to go to their craft tables and craft all they wanted.
21:02
SPEAKER_01: Now it worked for about a month, and then they stopped doing the craft.
21:06
SPEAKER_01: And so I would have to come in and go, okay, what's the problem?
21:09
SPEAKER_01: Well, it's messy.
21:10
SPEAKER_01: Okay, let's clean it all up.
21:11
SPEAKER_01: And then they would have a clean desk and then they'd all pull out a new craft.
21:14
SPEAKER_01: And every couple of weeks, after, okay, let's clean it all up, and then we'd come and start a new craft.
21:20
SPEAKER_01: But after about six months of that, we ended up with more clutter than actual project, and I was done and I put my living room back.
21:28
SPEAKER_01: But it was something we tried.
21:31
SPEAKER_01: So the June, so you've only got about three weeks left of actual classes and then, or of our current scheduled classes, and then our new classes are coming out June 1st.
21:42
SPEAKER_01: For a kid who hates math.
21:44
SPEAKER_01: So when you come into classroom and you go to highly trusted companies, and you know what?
21:48
SPEAKER_01: I just realized I know where I need to put that.
21:51
SPEAKER_01: Um, edu educational online games we trust.
21:55
SPEAKER_01: Toy Theater, Prenda, and Kahoot, and Blook It.
21:59
SPEAKER_01: And these are.
22:00
SPEAKER_01: So I will pull that prenda and toy theater out.
22:02
SPEAKER_01: Now, toy theater.
22:04
SPEAKER_01: Let me tell you about toy theater.
22:05
SPEAKER_01: This is free.
22:07
SPEAKER_01: Um, this is the only ad they do, which goes straight to their website.
22:10
SPEAKER_01: I checked, I had personal conversations with them because I am not a fan of free websites because often they lead you to not okay things.
22:19
SPEAKER_01: But this one, my my second child is a mathematician.
22:24
SPEAKER_01: She's my mechanic.
22:25
SPEAKER_01: She's 22 now and is a mechanic.
22:27
SPEAKER_01: She just struggled with the reading-writing side of things, but boy, she was good at puzzles.
22:32
SPEAKER_01: So I put her on here out of desperation and went under math.
22:38
SPEAKER_01: And I told her she had to stay on math.
22:40
SPEAKER_01: And she came in here and just did math games for several years.
22:45
SPEAKER_01: And she would come in and find like, we went in and look at here's look at this addition, attributes, counting, division, estimation, third grade math game, second game, place value, multiplication.
22:56
SPEAKER_01: But what we did was puzzles are math games.
23:00
SPEAKER_01: Guys, she would go through here and do puzzle after puzzle.
23:04
SPEAKER_01: And some of them I would go in and try and solve myself.
23:06
SPEAKER_01: And my husband and I were like, I don't get it.
23:08
SPEAKER_01: She would like take us on and and challenge us, and we would play fun family games in here.
23:13
SPEAKER_01: Puzzles are excellent, excellent math games.
23:17
SPEAKER_01: So have them go into math or have them go into puzzles for your kid who's struggling with math.
23:23
SPEAKER_01: Let them play with math before you're sticking them on a in a math program.
23:29
SPEAKER_01: Let them play with it.
23:30
SPEAKER_01: Let them find out that math is actually pretty dang cool.
23:32
SPEAKER_01: And that's what I've noticed is people kids who hate math is because they never learned that math is actually can be fun and competitive and enjoyable.
23:41
SPEAKER_01: Toy Theater is a great place for math games, puzzles.
23:46
SPEAKER_01: Now you can use the art, the read.
23:48
SPEAKER_01: I will tell you right now, I haven't not gone in to look at the other things because when we came here, all they had was math and puzzles and games that were like brain games.
23:56
SPEAKER_01: And we used those, and they just really opened math for her and made it exciting.
24:03
SPEAKER_01: So these are great educational games.
24:05
SPEAKER_01: There is another company, now that I'm thinking about it, that wanted to partner with this.
24:10
SPEAKER_01: Brain games.
24:11
SPEAKER_01: I forgot to look into brain games again.
24:14
SPEAKER_01: It was all like how to read your IQ games.
24:18
SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna I'm gonna reach out to them again.
24:19
SPEAKER_01: We talked we were in a talk at one point.
24:22
SPEAKER_01: I was talking with my friend about the village and we were looking into Schmoop and how to use it to get into college or university in Canada.
24:29
SPEAKER_01: Is it accredited?
24:30
SPEAKER_01: Schmoop is not accredited, but let's talk about what accredited means.
24:34
SPEAKER_01: Her daughter will be going into grade nine and my son grade eight, so we're planning ahead.
24:38
SPEAKER_01: Okay, let's talk about accredited.
24:40
SPEAKER_01: So, question for Canada for Canadians.
24:43
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
24:43
SPEAKER_01: I don't know what Canada requires, but after doing my research on what is accredited, what does it mean?
24:51
SPEAKER_01: Do colleges require it?
24:53
SPEAKER_01: Okay, I did heavy research on this because people are always asking me, is my homeschool village accredited?
24:58
SPEAKER_01: Are the things we're using accredited?
25:00
SPEAKER_01: Here's what I discovered in my research of universities across the country, homeschoolers and accreditation, companies that have accreditation.
25:10
SPEAKER_01: Number one, you are not required to have an accredited curriculum to get into college in the US.
25:16
SPEAKER_01: Not a requirement at all.
25:18
SPEAKER_01: None of the college now, does it help?
25:20
SPEAKER_01: Not really.
25:21
SPEAKER_01: Because the college knows that accreditation means they paid a crap load of money to put that on their thing.
25:27
SPEAKER_01: It's really just a price tag.
25:30
SPEAKER_01: Now, by saying it's accredited now, they can charge three to four times the price of your curriculum.
25:37
SPEAKER_01: The truth is, colleges don't care.
25:40
SPEAKER_01: If you put homeschool on there, you do the transcripts, you do the diploma, if you're going to US colleges, accreditation is not required by anyone anywhere at any time.
25:51
SPEAKER_01: It's a big word that puts a stamp that tells parents you're about to pay triple.
25:57
SPEAKER_01: That's it.
25:57
SPEAKER_01: I seriously did the research on this because I was worried about it too.
26:01
SPEAKER_01: Would they need to do some testing to get into colleges in the US?
26:05
SPEAKER_01: Probably SAT and ACT, which SMOOP is really good at getting them prepared for.
26:10
SPEAKER_01: So one of the reasons we signed up with Schmoop is because their prep for testing for college is excellent, top in the country.
26:18
SPEAKER_01: So your SAT, ACT, AVAB, there's another TOEFL.
26:22
SPEAKER_01: Somebody remind me what the TOEFL is.
26:24
SPEAKER_01: I can't remember.
26:25
SPEAKER_01: I know it's one that people worry about.
26:26
SPEAKER_01: Those are all tests that Smoop prepares students for to get into college.
26:30
SPEAKER_01: If you have a good ACT or SAT, that's all you need.
26:33
SPEAKER_01: And then you can you write your own transcript.
26:35
SPEAKER_01: You need this.
26:36
SPEAKER_01: You don't need an accredited um program.
26:39
SPEAKER_01: You don't.
26:40
SPEAKER_01: And then if you want them to take do good on an ACT, SAT as VAP, you need Schmoop.
26:46
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
26:47
SPEAKER_01: Now, all of that on the site.
26:50
SPEAKER_01: If your kids are headed to college, if that is their goal, they want a college degree, especially if it's something like medical that's going to take 12 years, uh, something with a master's and a PhD.
27:01
SPEAKER_01: If your kids are thinking master's PhD levels, I have a whole different path I recommend.
27:06
SPEAKER_01: So yeah, we can do all this for you.
27:09
SPEAKER_01: And here's the path I recommend.
27:11
SPEAKER_01: It's called Smarter by One Degree.
27:13
SPEAKER_01: I'm actually looking to it for my 14-year-old right now because he wants to be a doctor and he's 14.
27:18
SPEAKER_01: And if you go through Smarter by One Degree, they get their high school and college at the same time and can graduate with a bachelor's by 18 if they're dedicated.
27:28
SPEAKER_01: Okay, for like 10 grand instead of 40.
27:31
SPEAKER_01: So your child can end up with a bachelor's degree online as a homeschooler.
27:35
SPEAKER_01: If you go through them, you can get a degree faster.
27:38
SPEAKER_01: Now, I don't recommend it to everybody because I don't believe that college is the right path for everyone.
27:42
SPEAKER_01: Uh, our report cards transcripts, it's necessary for any grades lower than 9 through 12.
27:46
SPEAKER_01: It is not necessary for grades lower than 9 through 12.
27:49
SPEAKER_01: Nobody asks for your kids' transcripts under the age under ninth grade.
27:53
SPEAKER_01: Nobody cares.
27:55
SPEAKER_01: Like seriously.
27:56
SPEAKER_01: All my kids who've applied to college, they don't care.
27:59
SPEAKER_01: They understand that kids were kids and they don't want to know what you did when you were 11 and stupid.
28:08
SPEAKER_01: But they don't understand ninth through 12th grade, they want now.
28:11
SPEAKER_01: Also, okay, all you moms who are worried about this, your kids don't have to be 18 with a diploma to get into college, they can be 15 and starting online.
28:22
SPEAKER_01: Most universities will start a child at 15 to 16 years old online and you just start.
28:30
SPEAKER_01: And they already can just get started on college and start moving forward, and high schools become completely pointless.
28:37
SPEAKER_01: If your child is college bound, quit wasting time on high school, which sounds totally backwards.
28:45
SPEAKER_01: But the truth is if your kid is college bound, get them started at 15 because they have dumbed down college to high school level.
28:53
SPEAKER_01: And if your child has half of an intelligence, they will be fine in college because they've dumbed down college to fit kids who won't work.
29:04
SPEAKER_01: So, so you don't even need a high school deployment.
29:07
SPEAKER_01: Now, if your kid, now remember, they still need social of their ages.
29:11
SPEAKER_01: That's why we keep the programs inside my homeschool village for high school, even though I'm like they don't need high school, but we do provide high school because it depends on where your kids at.
29:19
SPEAKER_01: They still need some emotional support, they still need friends.
29:21
SPEAKER_01: That's why we still have our classes.
29:23
SPEAKER_01: Our classes are in there to give them that social, to give them the ability to think critically, to talk it out, to hang out.
29:29
SPEAKER_01: So the way I would do it is I would put them in college, like if that's where they want.
29:36
SPEAKER_01: Start them on either smarter by one degree, get through Schmoop and do the SAT and get them into college at 15, 16.
29:43
SPEAKER_01: Let them start taking one or two courses.
29:45
SPEAKER_01: I'm not saying a full load.
29:46
SPEAKER_01: I'm not saying go full time.
29:47
SPEAKER_01: I'm saying a couple of courses.
29:48
SPEAKER_01: Let them start getting their feet wet in college courses and then go to the classes inside my homeschool village where they're getting their social.
29:54
SPEAKER_01: To me, that's the perfect high school formula.
29:57
SPEAKER_01: Okay, questions?
29:58
SPEAKER_01: Does that make sense on high school?
30:00
SPEAKER_01: Oh, okay.
30:01
SPEAKER_01: Let's talk about trade schools.
30:02
SPEAKER_01: So, a couple of things on trade schools.
30:05
SPEAKER_01: If your child is headed towards a trade school, couple of things they might want to do.
30:11
SPEAKER_01: Okay, number one, you can start trade school at 15.
30:14
SPEAKER_01: Some schools are 16, some are 15.
30:16
SPEAKER_01: They can start immediately in a trade school at that age.
30:19
SPEAKER_01: Now, if they do smarter by one degree is actually just added in a higher degree for your trade schools now.
30:25
SPEAKER_01: So, like you go into a trade and you learn, say, electrician, right?
30:29
SPEAKER_01: And you learn the and the your child learns electrician, they could be an electrician at 18 and get started, which which makes decent money.
30:36
SPEAKER_01: But then there's the problem where without a bachelor's degree, an electrician is stuck to a certain point.
30:41
SPEAKER_01: So he's got to get a higher degree in order to be able to get into management, like continue his career.
30:48
SPEAKER_01: Smarter by one degree is just added in an entire program for trades to get that higher degree.
30:53
SPEAKER_01: So your kids can be starting higher in trades.
30:57
SPEAKER_01: They can be an electrician with a bachelor's management by management by 20.
31:02
SPEAKER_01: And so it just depends on how hard they work.
31:04
SPEAKER_01: It might, you know, if they do one class a semester versus three classes a semester, it's completely in their control.
31:09
SPEAKER_01: And so you can do that.
31:10
SPEAKER_01: So smarter by one degree for trades, or your kid can just start at 15 to 16 and do a trade.
31:16
SPEAKER_01: And they don't even have to do high school once again.
31:19
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
31:19
SPEAKER_01: So this is why, like all 12 years of school can be done in four, which is why you don't rush in the beginning and don't drag it out at the end.
31:30
SPEAKER_01: This is like the ultimate my homeschool village.
31:33
SPEAKER_01: Becky, according to Becky, what homeschooling is like don't start them early.
31:37
SPEAKER_01: They don't need it.
31:38
SPEAKER_01: Don't drag it out longer than they need.
31:40
SPEAKER_01: Get their education hard and fast in that eight to 14 years, and then let them grow up at the pace they need to grow up.
31:47
SPEAKER_01: Don't rush them.
31:48
SPEAKER_01: If they need to be a kid longer, by all means, let them be the kid longer, right?
31:52
SPEAKER_01: But the ideal is that you've let them be a kid for so long until the age eight that now they dive into education and then they dive in and then they hit about 14.
32:03
SPEAKER_01: They're like, I'm done, I'm done diving in.
32:04
SPEAKER_01: Can I now specialize?
32:07
SPEAKER_01: And that's when they go into trades, that's when they go into college, that's when they go into and they start that.
32:11
SPEAKER_01: And it's a whole different mindset.
32:12
SPEAKER_01: It's a little more intimidating, but the truth of it is the whole process is easier.
32:15
SPEAKER_01: It fits the child's natural abilities.
32:18
SPEAKER_01: Up until the last hundred years, children were were apprenticed out at 12, 11, 12, 13 years old.
32:26
SPEAKER_01: They were apprenticed out.
32:28
SPEAKER_01: And now we don't do that anymore, and they're bored out of their minds because they're not being challenged.
32:32
SPEAKER_01: They're not getting that apprenticeship.
32:33
SPEAKER_01: Has anybody heard the, you know, the story Hannah and Samuel?
32:38
SPEAKER_01: Okay, I'm gonna do a libel story here.
32:39
SPEAKER_01: It drives me crazy to hear it at church because they always talk about how Hannah prayed for a son.
32:44
SPEAKER_01: Anybody am I am I getting too too biblical here?
32:47
SPEAKER_01: Prayed for a son and promised God that if she would be given a son, she would then return him to him.
32:53
SPEAKER_01: And everybody says, and then the the scripture says, when he was weaned, she returned him.
32:57
SPEAKER_01: And everybody's like, he was like 18 months, two years.
32:59
SPEAKER_01: No, he wasn't, he was 12, right?
33:01
SPEAKER_01: Because back then, when you were weaned from your mother, that meant you were old enough to apprentice with someone, and they would apprentice with a priest, with a bat blacksmith, with a farmer.
33:12
SPEAKER_01: They would learn a skill, they would grow into it.
33:15
SPEAKER_01: And then that is how the natural body works.
33:17
SPEAKER_01: A child at that age wants an apprenticeship.
33:20
SPEAKER_01: So a trade is a great way to do that.
33:22
SPEAKER_01: College is a great way to do that.
33:24
SPEAKER_01: Does that make sense?
33:25
SPEAKER_01: Sorry, you got me all passionate.
33:26
SPEAKER_01: You know, you know I get passionate.
33:30
SPEAKER_01: This is yes, Hannah did not give up a two-year-old.
33:33
SPEAKER_01: I can guarantee you that priest did not want a toddler.
33:35
SPEAKER_01: There's not a priest in the world who's like, sure, hand me your four-year-old.
33:40
SPEAKER_00: No, no, no, no, no.
33:42
SPEAKER_01: That priest was not taking on somebody's toddler.
33:45
SPEAKER_01: That priest was like, when that boy can can potty himself and and can actually be of help, bring him back.
33:52
SPEAKER_01: She apprenticed him.
33:54
SPEAKER_01: And so we are raising our children to be apprenticed at the proper age when they're ready.
34:00
SPEAKER_01: And that doesn't mean that they have to get a diploma.
34:02
SPEAKER_01: That doesn't mean they have to finish high school.
34:03
SPEAKER_01: That doesn't, there are so many ways to do this and get around the systems.
34:07
SPEAKER_01: The systems are there to control us, and guess what?
34:10
SPEAKER_01: There's a lot of ways to get around them.
34:12
SPEAKER_01: That is my expertise.
34:13
SPEAKER_01: How do you get around the systems?
34:15
SPEAKER_01: I got you.
34:16
SPEAKER_01: Do you have a recommendation on a good program for beginner Spanish?
34:20
SPEAKER_01: Duolingo is not cutting it.
34:22
SPEAKER_01: Duolingo will never cut it.
34:24
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
34:26
SPEAKER_01: As a second language learner, I learned Spanish when I was 20.
34:30
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
34:30
SPEAKER_01: I was immersed in the country without English as a possibility, and I learned it.
34:35
SPEAKER_01: There is no other way to learn a language.
34:37
SPEAKER_01: Like you can study it and study it, but unless you're practicing it on a daily basis, my children hear it constantly.
34:42
SPEAKER_01: My husband and I speak it to each other.
34:44
SPEAKER_01: They haven't picked it up either until they went.
34:47
SPEAKER_01: My children who speak Spanish also went to a different country.
34:51
SPEAKER_01: My two children who speak fluent Spanish, one immersed herself in Peru for a year and a half as a missionary, the other one's in Argentina right now as a missionary.
34:58
SPEAKER_01: And that's where they got their Spanish.
35:00
SPEAKER_01: So think of Spanish not as how to learn it, but how to be exposed to it.
35:04
SPEAKER_01: Because my children were exposed their whole lives, it came naturally when it was time.
35:09
SPEAKER_01: So think of it more of as an exposure.
35:11
SPEAKER_01: Who do I recommend?
35:12
SPEAKER_01: I recommend Schmoop has some language in it.
35:15
SPEAKER_01: I recommend watching movies in the language you want them to learn.
35:18
SPEAKER_01: Just change the voice.
35:19
SPEAKER_01: You can go to YouTube and watch all the Disneys in Spanish.
35:22
SPEAKER_01: The best thing they can do is hear it.
35:23
SPEAKER_01: You just want them hearing, hearing, hearing, hearing.
35:25
SPEAKER_01: And that's it, because that's the first step to learning any second language is being used to the sounds.
35:30
SPEAKER_01: Does that help?
35:31
SPEAKER_01: Too limited?
35:32
SPEAKER_01: Jesus stayed behind at his father's house when he was 12.
35:35
SPEAKER_01: It was time to be apprenticed, right?
35:38
SPEAKER_01: I love this.
35:38
SPEAKER_01: I wasn't aware of trade being an option.
35:40
SPEAKER_01: I got a while before my kids get to that point, but that yeah.
35:43
SPEAKER_01: And trade are starting to become aware of homeschoolers and they like them.
35:48
SPEAKER_01: And so more and more opportunities are coming open for homeschoolers because they're be they're gaining more respect in the systems.
35:55
SPEAKER_01: So yeah, there's a lot of great options out there.
35:57
SPEAKER_01: Or just FYI as well.
35:59
SPEAKER_01: Our kids, um, the entrepreneur class, the the team class are gonna start working on this website for us.
36:05
SPEAKER_01: They're gonna start designing some things, doing some.
36:08
SPEAKER_01: So we're gonna let them start working on this website as well as part of their business economics.
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SPEAKER_01: Kat's gonna teach them how to use this and they're gonna start preparing some things.
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SPEAKER_01: That's not that was Kat's idea.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I'm telling you the teachers in here.
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SPEAKER_01: So they're gonna start working on this website and creating some products for us to go buy from them, and then they'll get the profit on it.
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SPEAKER_01: So working on that.
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SPEAKER_01: Guys, don't forget, if you have questions, just post it in the community.
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SPEAKER_01: If you're waiting for me to answer every question, sometimes I don't get it till to it till evening.
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SPEAKER_01: If you put it in the community, there's a million women who will well, million, there's 140 women who will go in and and answer you.
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SPEAKER_01: So make sure you're putting all your questions in the community so that all of us can answer and help you out.
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SPEAKER_01: So make sure you're doing that if you need any help.
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SPEAKER_01: If you have any other questions, let me know.
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SPEAKER_01: Guys, it's good to see you.
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SPEAKER_01: Thanks so much.
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SPEAKER_01: That's the wrap for today.
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SPEAKER_01: I hope you're leaving with something real, something you can actually use.
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SPEAKER_01: This is a long game.
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SPEAKER_01: You don't have to get it all right today.
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SPEAKER_01: Just show up tomorrow.
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SPEAKER_01: That's enough.
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SPEAKER_01: If this episode helped you, share it with another mom who needs it.
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SPEAKER_01: And if you're ready for a village to do this with, find us in the show notes.
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SPEAKER_01: And until next time, keep going.
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SPEAKER_01: The revolution starts at home.