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De Frag Episode One Hundred Seventeen Building Your Windows · Arroe Collins Like It's Live

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  Speaker 1: Hey, Tara, and this is vocal D freg vocal D fragging.
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  Speaker 1: It's a journey, it's a walk, it's exploration. Not everybody
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  Speaker 1: wants to really get to know who they are. But
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  Speaker 1: this serves as an invitation for you to just at
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  Speaker 1: least try it. Ask yourself the questions and then question
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  Speaker 1: the answers. Don't belittle yourself, be nice to yourself, show
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  Speaker 1: some love to the inner core of your being. Just
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  Speaker 1: ask some questions, very simple, start off, very simple questions,
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  Speaker 1: and then tune around and question the answers. Not like
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  Speaker 1: a father or a mother figure, because you know how
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  Speaker 1: they always are, and you know how you were when
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  Speaker 1: you were two years old. But why? But why? But why?
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  Speaker 1: Let's eliminate the word why from asking these questions, because
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  Speaker 1: why leads us to almost nowhere. It's like, well, I
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  Speaker 1: thought about it, I questioned it, and then I questioned
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  Speaker 1: the answer, but it got us nowhere. This is vocal
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  Speaker 1: D frag. My subject today is based on something that
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  Speaker 1: I've been practicing now and living for a probably maybe
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  Speaker 1: the last maybe four to six months. It's called building
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  Speaker 1: your windows. We live in a society today that's got
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  Speaker 1: so much anxiety and stress going on, not just on
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  Speaker 1: certain particular days of the week, but every day, every moment.
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  Speaker 1: Doesn't matter what hour you walk into the house or
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  Speaker 1: walk into your job. There's just going to be drama
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  Speaker 1: all around us. And the expectations of others of us
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  Speaker 1: is through the roof crazy. You know, people want things
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  Speaker 1: from you right now, not yesterday, not in two weeks.
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  Speaker 1: Everything has to be given to them right now. So
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  Speaker 1: you have to sit there and you have to figure
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  Speaker 1: out how am I going to get all of this
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  Speaker 1: done and still meet their expectation well. Building windows to
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  Speaker 1: me is physically sitting down with a notebook and writing
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  Speaker 1: out the expectations of others and what time they need it,
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  Speaker 1: and what time do I have available to go on
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  Speaker 1: to the next project. I live a Google Calendar life style.
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  Speaker 1: I've got so many things that are going at all times.
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  Speaker 1: The anxiety levels have been just really not in a
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  Speaker 1: good place. So by creating this map that I call
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  Speaker 1: building Windows, I'm able to piece together all of the
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  Speaker 1: interviews that I do on a daily basis on the
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  Speaker 1: podcast and have let's say seven minutes here before the
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  Speaker 1: next one, maybe fifteen minutes before the next one, but
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  Speaker 1: in that seven to fifteen minutes. The goal is to
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  Speaker 1: utilize the openness of doing something other than just sitting
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  Speaker 1: there waiting. Waiting is one of those things that gets
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  Speaker 1: underneath my skin. It is a trigger. So instead of
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  Speaker 1: sitting in the studio waiting to do the next interview,
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  Speaker 1: I've created a window to experience an accomplishment. And isn't
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  Speaker 1: that really what we're all looking for is an accomplishment
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  Speaker 1: to be able to say I got this done. So
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  Speaker 1: the challenge for you would be in creating these windows
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  Speaker 1: is sit down with your calendar, write down the meetings
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  Speaker 1: you're about ready to have, sit down with yourself and
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  Speaker 1: really plan out the day. And even if it includes
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  Speaker 1: having a cup of coffee with a coworker or a friend,
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  Speaker 1: put that on the calendar as well. Put that on
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  Speaker 1: that space that says this is my windows for the
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  Speaker 1: day and it will help you lower your anxiety level
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  Speaker 1: or as always say, it'll help you find your calm.
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  Speaker 1: And isn't calm that one area that we wish we
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  Speaker 1: could find more than just once or twice a day. Calm?
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  Speaker 1: So the goal is to create your windows, lay out
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  Speaker 1: the path of what the expectations are for the day
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  Speaker 1: that you're about ready to go through. Don't do this
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  Speaker 1: the day of, do this the day before, so that
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  Speaker 1: when you wake up the next morning, you will have
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  Speaker 1: the comfort of knowing that it's planned out. And if
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  Speaker 1: there are changes in your day and we don't like changes,
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  Speaker 1: especially me, what happens is is that you've allowed those
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  Speaker 1: windows to embrace the unexpected changes because you know that
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  Speaker 1: you don't have fifty thousand things to do in one day.
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  Speaker 1: You only have like seven or eight things to do.
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  Speaker 1: But you've created enough window space to where you know
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  Speaker 1: you can do it at a really good pace. Build
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  Speaker 1: your windows, go into your day knowing that there's going
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  Speaker 1: to be a nice rhythm to it. And like I said,
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  Speaker 1: when there's change, it's okay. You have the window space
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  Speaker 1: to have a great day. I'm MARYL and that's spocal
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  Speaker 1: d Frank