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The Whole Brain Child - Get All Parts of Your Child’s Brain to Work Together for One Happy Kid · Other Peoples Parenting

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  Settle.
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  Settle.
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  Okay,
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  I'm
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  settled.
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  Are
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  you
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  settled?
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  Are
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  you
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  settled?
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  I'm
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  settled.
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  Go.
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  Okay.
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  Do
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  it.
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  Okay.
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  Hello,
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  everyone.
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  Wait.
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  Gotta
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  do
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  it
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  over.
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  Teen.
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  We
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  were
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  settled.
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  Okay,
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  Go
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  ahead.
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  Okay.
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  Hello,
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  everyone.
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  Welcome
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  back
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  to
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  another
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  episode
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  of
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  Other
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  People's
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  Parenting,
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  where
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  we
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  read
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  parenting
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  books
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  and
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  review
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  them
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  for
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  you.
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  I'm
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  Skylar
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  Hurwitz,
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  amateur
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  parent,
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  and
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  this
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  is
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  my
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  mom,
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  Karen
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  Quinn.
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  She's
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  a
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  New
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  York
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  Times
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  bestselling
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  author,
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  as
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  well
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  as
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  the
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  founder
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  of
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  How
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  Coach
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  and
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  Testing
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  Mom.
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  Hello,
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  Mom.
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  Hi,
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  Skylar.
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  How
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  are
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  you
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  doing
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  today?
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  I'm
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  good.
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  I'm
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  good.
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  Are
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  you
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  feeling
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  settled?
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  I'm
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  settled.
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  Thank
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  you.
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  You
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  wouldn't
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  know.
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  I
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  know
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  I've
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  been
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  acting
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  very
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  unsettled
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  today.
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  I
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  was.
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  I
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  had
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  misremembered
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  what
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  time
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  we
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  were
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  supposed
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  to
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  be
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  here.
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  Once
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  again,
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  I
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  was
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  going
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  to
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  be
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  an
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  hour
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  late.
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  I'm
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  so
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  glad
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  you
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  texted
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  me.
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  And
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  we
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  got
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  to
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  get
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  you
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  a
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  calendar.
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  I
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  don't
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  know.
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  I
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  have
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  a
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  calendar
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  and
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  I
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  have
• 1:00
  alarms.
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  I
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  have
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  all
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  kinds
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  of
• 1:02
  things,
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  but
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  I
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  have
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  ad,
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  and
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  it
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  really
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  messes
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  me
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  up
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  sometimes.
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  Time
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  blindness.
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  I
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  do.
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  I
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  do.
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  People
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  think
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  that's
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  fake.
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  When
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  I'm
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  like,
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  I
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  am
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  blind
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  of
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  time.
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  And
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  they're
• 1:11
  like,
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  skylar,
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  you're
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  just
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  late.
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  I'm
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  like,
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  no,
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  this
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  is
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  a
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  medical,
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  clinically
• 1:15
  diagnosed
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  condition.
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  Right?
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  It
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  really
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  is.
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  It's
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  like
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  you
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  told
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  me
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  yesterday.
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  I
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  saw
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  it
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  on
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  my
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  calendar.
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  I
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  set
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  an
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  alarm
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  for
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  the
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  wrong
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  time.
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  But
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  still,
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  I'm
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  just
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  saying,
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  it's
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  like,
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  it's
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  a
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  real
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  thing.
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  Not
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  all
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  conditions
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  are
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  visible.
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  You
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  don't
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  know
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  what
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  other
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  people
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  are
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  going
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  through.
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  Spiritual.
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  Speaking
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  of
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  which,
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  yesterday
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  at
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  the
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  cheese
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  store,
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  I
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  got
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  absolutely
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  assaulted
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  by
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  this
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  woman.
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  I
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  heard.
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  I
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  bring
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  my
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  dogs
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  most
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  places,
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  and
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  I
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  bring
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  them
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  to
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  this
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  cheese
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  store
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  where
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  they
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  are
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  welcome.
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  Everybody
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  at
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  the
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  cheese
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  store
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  knows
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  them
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  and
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  loves
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  them.
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  And
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  as
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  I
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  was
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  walking
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  in,
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  I
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  was
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  holding
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  the
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  door
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  open
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  for
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  this
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  older
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  Irish
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  woman.
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  Why
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  was
• 1:52
  she.
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  How
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  do
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  you
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  know
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  she
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  was
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  Irish?
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  Well,
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  because
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  she
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  insulted
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  me
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  in
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  Irish.
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  Oh,
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  okay.
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  And
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  that's
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  the
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  only
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  way
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  you
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  would
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  know.
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  The
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  only
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  way
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  because
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  I
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  heard
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  her
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  booming
• 2:02
  voice.
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  But
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  not
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  all
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  Irish
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  people
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  are.
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  No,
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  not
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  all
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  fabulous.
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  I
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  lived
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  with
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  an
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  Irish
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  girl
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  for
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  a
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  few
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  years,
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  and
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  she
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  was
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  an
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  absolute
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  doll.
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  This
• 2:11
  person,
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  however,
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  was
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  not.
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  I
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  held
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  the
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  door
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  open,
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  and
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  she's
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  like,
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  don't
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  bring
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  your
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  disgusting
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  dogs
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  in
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  here.
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  And
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  I
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  was
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  like,
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  okay,
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  ma',
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  am,
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  are
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  you
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  coming
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  out,
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  or
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  can
• 2:22
  I.
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  Can
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  I
• 2:23
  come
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  in?
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  Like,
• 2:24
  should
• 2:24
  I
• 2:24
  close
• 2:24
  the
• 2:24
  door?
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  Like,
• 2:25
  you
• 2:25
  seem
• 2:25
  like
• 2:25
  you're
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  on
• 2:26
  your
• 2:26
  way
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  out.
• 2:27
  And
• 2:27
  she's
• 2:28
  like,
• 2:28
  how
• 2:28
  dare
• 2:28
  you
• 2:28
  pretend
• 2:29
  they're
• 2:29
  service
• 2:29
  dogs?
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  I'm
• 2:30
  like,
• 2:30
  I
• 2:30
  actually
• 2:30
  didn't
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  say
• 2:31
  a
• 2:32
  word.
• 2:32
  I
• 2:32
  didn't
• 2:32
  pretend
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  anything.
• 2:33
  They
• 2:33
  are.
• 2:34
  They're
• 2:34
  not.
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  They're
• 2:35
  just
• 2:35
  dogs.
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  And
• 2:36
  they're
• 2:37
  coming
• 2:37
  in
• 2:37
  with
• 2:37
  me
• 2:37
  to
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  this
• 2:38
  establishment
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  because
• 2:39
  I
• 2:39
  came
• 2:39
  to
• 2:39
  pick
• 2:39
  up
• 2:39
  deli
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  turkey
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  and
• 2:41
  she
• 2:42
  called
• 2:42
  me
• 2:43
  a
• 2:43
  word
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  I
• 2:43
  cannot
• 2:44
  say
• 2:44
  on
• 2:44
  air.
• 2:44
  It
• 2:45
  starts
• 2:45
  with
• 2:45
  a
• 2:45
  C,
• 2:45
  but
• 2:45
  we
• 2:46
  won't
• 2:46
  say
• 2:46
  the
• 2:46
  word.
• 2:47
  It's
• 2:47
  a
• 2:47
  horrible
• 2:47
  word.
• 2:48
  I
• 2:48
  was
• 2:48
  like,
• 2:49
  wow.
• 2:49
  Oh,
• 2:49
  my
• 2:50
  God.
• 2:50
  But
• 2:50
  anyway,
• 2:51
  she
• 2:51
  must
• 2:51
  be
• 2:51
  going
• 2:51
  through
• 2:52
  something
• 2:52
  because
• 2:52
  I
• 2:53
  tell
• 2:53
  ya,
• 2:54
  she
• 2:54
  was
• 2:54
  so
• 2:55
  just
• 2:56
  the
• 2:56
  blind
• 2:57
  rage
• 2:57
  out
• 2:57
  of
• 2:58
  this
• 2:58
  woman.
• 2:58
  And
• 3:00
  I
• 3:00
  get
• 3:00
  it.
• 3:00
  Like,
• 3:01
  a
• 3:01
  lot
• 3:01
  of
• 3:01
  dogs
• 3:01
  are
• 3:01
  not
• 3:02
  well
• 3:02
  behaved,
• 3:03
  but
• 3:03
  I
• 3:03
  can
• 3:04
  bring
• 3:04
  my
• 3:04
  dogs
• 3:04
  places
• 3:05
  and
• 3:05
  they
• 3:05
  literally
• 3:06
  just
• 3:06
  like,
• 3:06
  sit
• 3:06
  and
• 3:06
  mind
• 3:07
  their
• 3:07
  business.
• 3:07
  Like,
• 3:07
  even
• 3:08
  in
• 3:08
  food
• 3:08
  places,
• 3:09
  they
• 3:09
  don't
• 3:09
  go
• 3:09
  after
• 3:09
  food.
• 3:10
  They
• 3:10
  don't
• 3:10
  touch
• 3:10
  anything.
• 3:11
  They
• 3:12
  just
• 3:12
  are
• 3:12
  quiet
• 3:13
  and
• 3:13
  mild
• 3:14
  mannered
• 3:14
  and
• 3:14
  hang
• 3:15
  out
• 3:16
  and.
• 3:16
  Oh,
• 3:17
  man,
• 3:17
  this
• 3:18
  woman,
• 3:18
  like,
• 3:19
  came
• 3:19
  for
• 3:19
  my
• 3:20
  character.
• 3:21
  Right?
• 3:21
  Well,
• 3:22
  let
• 3:22
  me
• 3:22
  ask
• 3:22
  you,
• 3:22
  did
• 3:23
  you
• 3:23
  feel
• 3:23
  bad
• 3:23
  afterwards
• 3:24
  or
• 3:24
  did
• 3:24
  it
• 3:24
  hurt
• 3:25
  your
• 3:25
  feelings?
• 3:25
  Like,
• 3:26
  sometimes
• 3:26
  when
• 3:26
  people
• 3:27
  yell
• 3:27
  at
• 3:27
  me
• 3:27
  for
• 3:28
  no
• 3:28
  reason,
• 3:29
  it
• 3:29
  makes
• 3:29
  me
• 3:29
  want
• 3:29
  to
• 3:30
  cry.
• 3:30
  I
• 3:30
  mean,
• 3:30
  it
• 3:30
  really
• 3:31
  upsets
• 3:31
  me.
• 3:31
  But
• 3:32
  you're.
• 3:32
  You're
• 3:32
  tougher
• 3:32
  than
• 3:33
  I
• 3:33
  am.
• 3:33
  I
• 3:33
  just
• 3:34
  felt
• 3:34
  confused.
• 3:35
  Okay.
• 3:35
  I
• 3:35
  literally
• 3:36
  had
• 3:36
  to
• 3:36
  ask
• 3:36
  myself,
• 3:36
  I
• 3:37
  was
• 3:37
  like,
• 3:37
  have
• 3:37
  we
• 3:37
  met
• 3:38
  before?
• 3:39
  Like,
• 3:39
  is
• 3:39
  this
• 3:39
  a
• 3:40
  vendetta
• 3:40
  that
• 3:41
  is
• 3:41
  being
• 3:42
  lived
• 3:42
  out
• 3:43
  right
• 3:43
  now
• 3:44
  in.
• 3:44
  In
• 3:44
  the
• 3:45
  threshold
• 3:46
  of
• 3:46
  my
• 3:46
  cheese
• 3:47
  store?
• 3:48
  I
• 3:48
  don't
• 3:48
  know.
• 3:48
  But
• 3:49
  I
• 3:49
  asked
• 3:49
  her
• 3:49
  too.
• 3:49
  I
• 3:49
  was
• 3:50
  like,
• 3:50
  oh,
• 3:50
  my
• 3:50
  God,
• 3:50
  is
• 3:50
  this
• 3:50
  like
• 3:50
  your
• 3:51
  cheese
• 3:51
  store
• 3:52
  and
• 3:52
  you
• 3:52
  don't
• 3:53
  want
• 3:53
  dogs
• 3:54
  here?
• 3:54
  And
• 3:54
  she's
• 3:55
  like,
• 3:55
  no,
• 3:56
  disgusting.
• 3:57
  And
• 3:58
  I
• 3:58
  was
• 3:58
  like,
• 3:59
  okay,
• 3:59
  I'm
• 4:00
  gonna
• 4:00
  walk
• 4:00
  through
• 4:01
  the
• 4:01
  door
• 4:01
  now.
• 4:01
  If
• 4:01
  you're
• 4:02
  not
• 4:02
  gonna
• 4:02
  walk
• 4:02
  through
• 4:02
  the
• 4:03
  door,
• 4:03
  because
• 4:03
  I
• 4:04
  have
• 4:04
  places
• 4:04
  to
• 4:05
  be.
• 4:06
  Just.
• 4:06
  And
• 4:06
  just
• 4:07
  up
• 4:07
  the
• 4:07
  block.
• 4:07
  Muttering
• 4:08
  to
• 4:08
  herself
• 4:09
  about
• 4:09
  you,
• 4:10
  insults
• 4:10
  about
• 4:10
  me.
• 4:11
  And
• 4:11
  then
• 4:12
  she
• 4:12
  was
• 4:12
  like,
• 4:12
  if
• 4:12
  I
• 4:13
  see
• 4:13
  you
• 4:13
  around
• 4:13
  this
• 4:14
  neighborhood.
• 4:14
  And
• 4:14
  I
• 4:14
  was
• 4:14
  like,
• 4:15
  what.
• 4:15
  What
• 4:16
  are
• 4:16
  you
• 4:16
  gonna
• 4:16
  do?
• 4:17
  Are
• 4:17
  you
• 4:17
  gonna.
• 4:17
  Are
• 4:17
  you
• 4:17
  gonna
• 4:18
  fight
• 4:18
  me?
• 4:19
  Because,
• 4:19
  like,
• 4:20
  neither
• 4:20
  of
• 4:21
  us
• 4:21
  look
• 4:21
  like
• 4:21
  the
• 4:22
  physically
• 4:22
  fighting
• 4:23
  type,
• 4:23
  I'm
• 4:23
  sure,
• 4:23
  but
• 4:24
  I
• 4:24
  guess
• 4:24
  I
• 4:24
  could
• 4:25
  squ.
• 4:27
  It,
• 4:27
  but,
• 4:28
  like,
• 4:28
  what?
• 4:29
  Well,
• 4:29
  you
• 4:29
  know,
• 4:30
  actually,
• 4:31
  I.
• 4:31
  I
• 4:32
  would
• 4:32
  think.
• 4:32
  I
• 4:32
  think
• 4:32
  the.
• 4:33
  The
• 4:33
  book
• 4:34
  we're
• 4:34
  talking
• 4:34
  about
• 4:34
  today
• 4:35
  actually
• 4:36
  might
• 4:36
  relate
• 4:37
  because
• 4:37
  we're
• 4:37
  talking
• 4:38
  about
• 4:38
  the
• 4:38
  brain.
• 4:38
  The
• 4:39
  brain.
• 4:39
  And
• 4:39
  I
• 4:39
  would
• 4:40
  say
• 4:40
  that
• 4:41
  something
• 4:41
  is
• 4:41
  going
• 4:42
  on
• 4:42
  that
• 4:42
  is
• 4:43
  off
• 4:43
  in
• 4:43
  her
• 4:44
  brain
• 4:44
  if
• 4:44
  she
• 4:45
  would
• 4:45
  behave
• 4:45
  that
• 4:45
  way.
• 4:47
  Well,
• 4:47
  if
• 4:47
  she.
• 4:47
  Yeah,
• 4:48
  she
• 4:48
  can't
• 4:48
  control
• 4:48
  her
• 4:49
  herself,
• 4:50
  clearly.
• 4:50
  Yeah.
• 4:51
  I
• 4:51
  was
• 4:52
  like,
• 4:52
  all
• 4:52
  right,
• 4:52
  girl.
• 4:53
  It's
• 4:53
  happening
• 4:53
  in
• 4:54
  her
• 4:54
  frontal
• 4:54
  prefrontal
• 4:55
  cortex.
• 4:56
  According
• 4:56
  to
• 4:56
  the.
• 4:56
  According
• 4:57
  to
• 4:57
  the
• 4:57
  whole.
• 4:59
  Which
• 4:59
  we're
• 4:59
  gonna
• 5:00
  be
• 5:00
  talking
• 5:00
  about
• 5:00
  today.
• 5:01
  We're
• 5:01
  talking
• 5:01
  about
• 5:02
  children,
• 5:02
  but.
• 5:03
  Yes,
• 5:03
  but
• 5:03
  it's,
• 5:04
  you
• 5:04
  know,
• 5:04
  adults
• 5:05
  have
• 5:05
  some
• 5:05
  of
• 5:06
  these
• 5:06
  issues,
• 5:06
  too.
• 5:07
  They
• 5:07
  do,
• 5:07
  they
• 5:07
  do.
• 5:08
  And
• 5:08
  then,
• 5:08
  you
• 5:08
  know,
• 5:08
  listen,
• 5:09
  the
• 5:09
  book
• 5:09
  was
• 5:09
  interesting.
• 5:10
  It
• 5:10
  could
• 5:10
  have
• 5:10
  been
• 5:10
  an
• 5:10
  email.
• 5:11
  Well,
• 5:11
  let's
• 5:11
  wait.
• 5:12
  Let's
• 5:12
  talk
• 5:12
  about.
• 5:12
  It's
• 5:13
  the
• 5:13
  Whole
• 5:13
  Brain
• 5:14
  Child.
• 5:14
  The
• 5:14
  Whole
• 5:14
  Brain
• 5:14
  Child
• 5:15
  Authors
• 5:16
  Daniel
• 5:17
  Siegel,
• 5:18
  MD,
• 5:18
  MD.
• 5:19
  He's
• 5:19
  a
• 5:19
  neuropsychiatrist.
• 5:22
  Neuropsychiatrist.
• 5:23
  Which
• 5:23
  is
• 5:23
  confusing
• 5:23
  to
• 5:24
  me
• 5:24
  because
• 5:24
  I
• 5:24
  feel
• 5:24
  like
• 5:25
  most
• 5:25
  psychiatrists
• 5:26
  are
• 5:26
  for
• 5:26
  the
• 5:26
  brain.
• 5:27
  Yeah.
• 5:28
  So
• 5:28
  I
• 5:28
  don't
• 5:28
  know.
• 5:28
  Differentiates.
• 5:29
  He
• 5:29
  probably
• 5:30
  has
• 5:30
  extra
• 5:30
  credentials.
• 5:32
  I
• 5:32
  don't
• 5:32
  know.
• 5:33
  And
• 5:33
  then
• 5:33
  tina
• 5:34
  Payne
• 5:35
  Bryson,
• 5:36
  PhD,
• 5:36
  PhD,
• 5:37
  who
• 5:38
  is
• 5:38
  a
• 5:38
  psychologist,
• 5:39
  I
• 5:39
  think.
• 5:40
  Oh,
• 5:40
  no,
• 5:40
  she
• 5:40
  works
• 5:41
  with
• 5:41
  kids.
• 5:41
  She's
• 5:41
  a
• 5:42
  psychiatrist,
• 5:42
  a
• 5:42
  psychologist
• 5:43
  who
• 5:43
  works
• 5:43
  with
• 5:43
  kids.
• 5:44
  Yeah.
• 5:44
  So
• 5:45
  brain.
• 5:45
  Brain
• 5:46
  people.
• 5:46
  They
• 5:46
  know
• 5:47
  the
• 5:47
  brain.
• 5:47
  They
• 5:47
  know
• 5:47
  the
• 5:47
  brain.
• 5:48
  I
• 5:48
  will
• 5:49
  say,
• 5:49
  interesting
• 5:50
  content
• 5:51
  of
• 5:51
  this
• 5:51
  book.
• 5:52
  I
• 5:52
  was
• 5:52
  a
• 5:52
  bit
• 5:52
  bored
• 5:53
  at
• 5:53
  times.
• 5:54
  Teen.
• 5:54
  On
• 5:54
  a
• 5:55
  scale
• 5:55
  of
• 5:55
  scientist
• 5:55
  to
• 5:55
  parent,
• 5:56
  how
• 5:56
  readable
• 5:56
  was
• 5:56
  this
• 5:57
  book?
• 5:57
  Okay.
• 5:58
  This
• 5:58
  book
• 5:59
  was,
• 6:00
  I
• 6:00
  would
• 6:01
  say,
• 6:02
  five
• 6:03
  maybe.
• 6:04
  I
• 6:04
  don't
• 6:04
  think
• 6:04
  that's
• 6:04
  a
• 6:04
  fair
• 6:05
  assessment.
• 6:05
  Maybe
• 6:05
  a
• 6:05
  5.
• 6:06
  There
• 6:06
  were
• 6:06
  times
• 6:06
  I
• 6:07
  had
• 6:07
  to
• 6:07
  keep
• 6:07
  rereading
• 6:08
  passages
• 6:09
  to
• 6:09
  try
• 6:09
  to
• 6:10
  understand
• 6:11
  what
• 6:11
  they
• 6:11
  were
• 6:11
  saying.
• 6:11
  Yeah,
• 6:12
  me
• 6:12
  too.
• 6:13
  Yeah,
• 6:13
  you
• 6:13
  too.
• 6:13
  Okay.
• 6:14
  I
• 6:14
  did
• 6:14
  like
• 6:14
  the
• 6:14
  comics,
• 6:15
  though.
• 6:15
  Yes.
• 6:16
  There's.
• 6:16
  They
• 6:17
  have
• 6:17
  comics
• 6:17
  at
• 6:18
  the
• 6:18
  end
• 6:18
  of
• 6:18
  each
• 6:18
  chapter
• 6:20
  to
• 6:20
  show
• 6:21
  you
• 6:21
  how
• 6:21
  to
• 6:21
  explain
• 6:22
  to
• 6:22
  your
• 6:22
  child
• 6:23
  what
• 6:24
  they
• 6:24
  were
• 6:24
  saying
• 6:25
  in
• 6:25
  the
• 6:25
  words.
• 6:26
  And
• 6:26
  to
• 6:27
  a
• 6:27
  layman,
• 6:27
  such
• 6:28
  as
• 6:28
  myself.
• 6:28
  Yeah.
• 6:29
  Yeah.
• 6:29
  I
• 6:29
  found
• 6:29
  them
• 6:30
  very
• 6:30
  useful.
• 6:30
  Me,
• 6:30
  too.
• 6:31
  I
• 6:31
  know
• 6:32
  that
• 6:32
  they're
• 6:32
  for
• 6:32
  children,
• 6:33
  but
• 6:33
  I
• 6:33
  also
• 6:34
  liked
• 6:34
  them.
• 6:34
  I
• 6:35
  did,
• 6:35
  too.
• 6:35
  They
• 6:36
  were
• 6:36
  my
• 6:36
  favorite
• 6:36
  part,
• 6:37
  actually.
• 6:38
  That
• 6:38
  was
• 6:38
  my
• 6:38
  favorite.
• 6:39
  Honestly,
• 6:39
  this
• 6:39
  book
• 6:40
  could
• 6:40
  have
• 6:40
  been
• 6:40
  a
• 6:40
  graphic
• 6:40
  novel
• 6:41
  and
• 6:41
  I
• 6:41
  would
• 6:41
  have
• 6:41
  liked
• 6:41
  it.
• 6:41
  It
• 6:41
  would
• 6:42
  have
• 6:42
  been.
• 6:42
  It
• 6:42
  would.
• 6:42
  I
• 6:43
  think
• 6:43
  it
• 6:43
  would
• 6:43
  have
• 6:43
  been
• 6:43
  better.
• 6:43
  Yeah.
• 6:44
  They
• 6:44
  say
• 6:44
  that
• 6:44
  this
• 6:44
  is
• 6:45
  for
• 6:45
  kids.
• 6:46
  They're
• 6:46
  talking
• 6:46
  about
• 6:46
  kids
• 6:47
  from
• 6:48
  birth
• 6:48
  to
• 6:48
  about
• 6:49
  11,
• 6:50
  and
• 6:50
  they're
• 6:50
  going
• 6:50
  to
• 6:50
  be
• 6:50
  writing
• 6:51
  a
• 6:51
  whole
• 6:51
  brain
• 6:52
  child
• 6:52
  book
• 6:52
  for
• 6:53
  teenagers
• 6:54
  and
• 6:54
  they
• 6:54
  should
• 6:54
  make
• 6:54
  it
• 6:54
  a
• 6:55
  graphic
• 6:55
  novel.
• 6:56
  Totally.
• 6:57
  That
• 6:57
  would
• 6:57
  make
• 6:57
  it
• 6:58
  even
• 6:58
  better,
• 6:58
  I
• 6:58
  think.
• 6:59
  Totally.
• 6:59
  If
• 6:59
  you're
• 7:00
  listening.
• 7:00
  If
• 7:00
  you're
• 7:01
  out
• 7:01
  there
• 7:01
  listening.
• 7:02
  Suggestion
• 7:03
  from
• 7:03
  the
• 7:03
  consumer.
• 7:04
  Me,
• 7:06
  I
• 7:06
  would
• 7:06
  love
• 7:06
  a
• 7:06
  graphic
• 7:07
  novel.
• 7:07
  Yeah.
• 7:08
  For
• 7:08
  teenagers.
• 7:08
  I
• 7:09
  think
• 7:09
  that
• 7:09
  would
• 7:09
  be
• 7:09
  fantastic.
• 7:10
  I
• 7:10
  mean,
• 7:10
  there's
• 7:11
  a
• 7:11
  lot
• 7:11
  of
• 7:12
  superfluous
• 7:13
  stuff
• 7:13
  that
• 7:13
  they
• 7:13
  say.
• 7:14
  Yeah.
• 7:15
  Did
• 7:15
  you.
• 7:15
  Superfluous.
• 7:16
  Did
• 7:16
  I
• 7:16
  say
• 7:16
  it
• 7:16
  wrong?
• 7:17
  I
• 7:17
  did.
• 7:17
  Super
• 7:18
  what?
• 7:19
  Superfluous.
• 7:20
  Oh,
• 7:21
  superfluous.
• 7:22
  Sorry
• 7:22
  to
• 7:22
  correct
• 7:23
  you,
• 7:23
  but
• 7:25
  I'm
• 7:25
  not.
• 7:25
  A
• 7:26
  PhD
• 7:26
  or
• 7:26
  a
• 7:27
  doctor.
• 7:27
  And.
• 7:27
  Yeah,
• 7:28
  I.
• 7:28
  I
• 7:28
  mean,
• 7:28
  I.
• 7:29
  I'm
• 7:29
  only
• 7:30
  an
• 7:30
  educator
• 7:30
  who
• 7:30
  should
• 7:31
  be
• 7:31
  able
• 7:31
  to
• 7:31
  pronounce
• 7:32
  things.
• 7:32
  That's
• 7:32
  okay.
• 7:33
  It's
• 7:33
  like
• 7:33
  a
• 7:33
  seven
• 7:34
  syllable
• 7:34
  word.
• 7:34
  So
• 7:35
  it's
• 7:35
  a
• 7:35
  lot
• 7:35
  of
• 7:35
  words.
• 7:36
  I
• 7:36
  mean,
• 7:36
  a
• 7:36
  lot
• 7:36
  of
• 7:36
  syllables.
• 7:37
  Yeah.
• 7:37
  So
• 7:37
  don't
• 7:37
  worry
• 7:38
  about
• 7:38
  it.
• 7:38
  Sorry.
• 7:38
  Okay.
• 7:39
  I
• 7:39
  only
• 7:39
  know
• 7:39
  it
• 7:40
  because
• 7:40
  I
• 7:40
  used
• 7:40
  to
• 7:40
  wear
• 7:40
  a
• 7:40
  necklace
• 7:41
  that
• 7:41
  said
• 7:41
  superfluous
• 7:42
  before
• 7:42
  I
• 7:42
  even
• 7:43
  knew
• 7:43
  what
• 7:43
  the.
• 7:44
  I
• 7:44
  just
• 7:44
  liked
• 7:44
  how
• 7:44
  it
• 7:44
  sounded.
• 7:45
  You
• 7:45
  liked
• 7:45
  the
• 7:45
  word.
• 7:46
  And
• 7:46
  I
• 7:46
  remember
• 7:47
  there
• 7:47
  was
• 7:47
  like.
• 7:48
  Remember
• 7:48
  when
• 7:48
  that
• 7:49
  reporter
• 7:50
  person
• 7:50
  came
• 7:50
  to
• 7:51
  our
• 7:51
  house
• 7:51
  and
• 7:51
  they
• 7:51
  were
• 7:52
  doing
• 7:52
  a
• 7:52
  story
• 7:53
  on
• 7:53
  private
• 7:53
  school
• 7:54
  kids?
• 7:54
  Yeah.
• 7:54
  And
• 7:55
  she's
• 7:55
  like,
• 7:55
  so
• 7:56
  that
• 7:56
  necklace
• 7:57
  you
• 7:57
  wear
• 7:57
  that
• 7:57
  says
• 7:58
  superfluous.
• 7:59
  Ironic,
• 7:59
  isn't
• 8:00
  it?
• 8:00
  And
• 8:00
  I
• 8:00
  was
• 8:01
  like,
• 8:01
  I
• 8:01
  don't
• 8:01
  even
• 8:01
  know
• 8:01
  what
• 8:01
  it
• 8:02
  means,
• 8:02
  honestly.
• 8:02
  Did
• 8:02
  you
• 8:03
  tell
• 8:03
  her?
• 8:03
  You
• 8:03
  probably.
• 8:04
  Oh,
• 8:04
  God.
• 8:05
  Okay.
• 8:05
  I
• 8:05
  was
• 8:05
  like,
• 8:05
  yeah,
• 8:05
  just.
• 8:06
  It's
• 8:06
  a
• 8:06
  cool
• 8:06
  word.
• 8:07
  She
• 8:07
  really
• 8:07
  liked
• 8:08
  you.
• 8:08
  And
• 8:08
  I
• 8:08
  liked
• 8:08
  her
• 8:09
  too.
• 8:09
  She
• 8:09
  was
• 8:09
  funny.
• 8:10
  She
• 8:10
  was
• 8:10
  great.
• 8:10
  And
• 8:11
  we've
• 8:11
  actually
• 8:11
  become
• 8:12
  friends.
• 8:12
  Oh,
• 8:12
  really?
• 8:13
  Yes.
• 8:13
  I'm
• 8:13
  still
• 8:13
  in
• 8:14
  touch.
• 8:15
  Yeah.
• 8:15
  Well,
• 8:15
  you
• 8:15
  know,
• 8:15
  thanks.
• 8:16
  Thanks
• 8:16
  for
• 8:17
  caring
• 8:17
  about
• 8:17
  my
• 8:17
  opinion
• 8:18
  of
• 8:18
  my
• 8:18
  necklace
• 8:19
  before
• 8:20
  anyone
• 8:20
  else
• 8:21
  did.
• 8:21
  Yeah.
• 8:21
  Superfluous.
• 8:22
  Superfluous.
• 8:23
  Okay.
• 8:24
  Anyway,
• 8:25
  there
• 8:25
  was
• 8:25
  a
• 8:25
  lot
• 8:25
  of
• 8:25
  superfluous
• 8:26
  stuff
• 8:27
  in
• 8:27
  this
• 8:27
  book.
• 8:27
  Yeah.
• 8:27
  And.
• 8:28
  And
• 8:29
  I
• 8:29
  do
• 8:29
  feel
• 8:29
  like
• 8:29
  it
• 8:30
  could
• 8:30
  have
• 8:30
  been
• 8:30
  condensed
• 8:31
  and
• 8:32
  maybe
• 8:32
  more
• 8:32
  comments.
• 8:33
  Well,
• 8:33
  this
• 8:33
  is
• 8:33
  what
• 8:33
  I'll
• 8:33
  say.
• 8:34
  If
• 8:34
  you're
• 8:34
  reading
• 8:34
  it
• 8:35
  as
• 8:36
  another
• 8:36
  psychologist,
• 8:37
  I
• 8:37
  can
• 8:37
  see
• 8:38
  why
• 8:38
  the
• 8:38
  information
• 8:38
  would
• 8:39
  be
• 8:39
  valuable.
• 8:39
  And
• 8:40
  if
• 8:40
  you're
• 8:40
  reading
• 8:40
  it
• 8:41
  as
• 8:41
  a
• 8:41
  parent,
• 8:42
  as
• 8:42
  I
• 8:42
  was,
• 8:43
  I
• 8:43
  was
• 8:43
  confused
• 8:45
  often.
• 8:46
  Okay.
• 8:47
  But.
• 8:47
  But
• 8:47
  I'll
• 8:48
  tell
• 8:48
  you
• 8:48
  how
• 8:49
  they
• 8:49
  organized
• 8:49
  it
• 8:50
  because
• 8:50
  I
• 8:50
  do
• 8:50
  think
• 8:50
  it
• 8:50
  was
• 8:51
  a
• 8:51
  good
• 8:51
  organization.
• 8:51
  Give
• 8:51
  us
• 8:52
  the
• 8:52
  overview.
• 8:52
  You
• 8:53
  know
• 8:53
  me,
• 8:53
  you
• 8:53
  macro
• 8:54
  queen.
• 8:54
  I
• 8:55
  know,
• 8:55
  I'm
• 8:55
  the
• 8:55
  macro
• 8:56
  queen.
• 8:56
  I
• 8:57
  like.
• 8:57
  I
• 8:57
  like
• 8:57
  to
• 8:58
  get
• 8:58
  the
• 8:58
  big
• 8:59
  picture.
• 8:59
  Okay.
• 9:00
  So
• 9:00
  the
• 9:01
  big
• 9:01
  picture
• 9:01
  is
• 9:01
  what
• 9:02
  they're
• 9:02
  doing
• 9:02
  is
• 9:02
  they're
• 9:03
  telling
• 9:03
  us
• 9:03
  about
• 9:04
  the
• 9:04
  brain
• 9:05
  in
• 9:05
  language
• 9:06
  that
• 9:06
  laymen
• 9:08
  generally
• 9:08
  can
• 9:08
  understand.
• 9:09
  Like
• 9:10
  us.
• 9:10
  Like
• 9:10
  us.
• 9:11
  And
• 9:12
  so
• 9:12
  they're
• 9:12
  telling
• 9:12
  us
• 9:12
  that.
• 9:13
  And
• 9:13
  they're
• 9:14
  giving
• 9:14
  us
• 9:14
  12
• 9:15
  strategies
• 9:16
  for
• 9:17
  integrating
• 9:18
  the
• 9:18
  various
• 9:19
  parts
• 9:19
  of
• 9:19
  the
• 9:20
  brain.
• 9:20
  There
• 9:21
  are
• 9:21
  so
• 9:21
  many
• 9:21
  ways
• 9:21
  to
• 9:21
  integrate.
• 9:22
  Horizontally,
• 9:22
  vertically,
• 9:24
  diagonally,
• 9:26
  you
• 9:26
  know,
• 9:27
  but
• 9:27
  we've
• 9:27
  got
• 9:28
  the
• 9:28
  upper,
• 9:28
  lower
• 9:29
  part
• 9:29
  of
• 9:29
  the
• 9:29
  brain,
• 9:29
  which
• 9:29
  we
• 9:30
  need
• 9:30
  to
• 9:30
  integrate.
• 9:31
  We've
• 9:31
  got
• 9:31
  the
• 9:31
  left,
• 9:32
  right,
• 9:32
  need
• 9:33
  to
• 9:33
  integrate
• 9:33
  that.
• 9:34
  Who
• 9:34
  knew
• 9:35
  the
• 9:35
  brain
• 9:36
  had
• 9:36
  so
• 9:36
  many
• 9:36
  compartments?
• 9:37
  Oh,
• 9:37
  and
• 9:37
  then
• 9:37
  there's
• 9:38
  the
• 9:38
  stem
• 9:38
  and.
• 9:39
  There'S
• 9:39
  the,
• 9:39
  you
• 9:40
  know,
• 9:40
  there's
• 9:40
  stuff
• 9:40
  below
• 9:41
  the
• 9:42
  hypothalamus.
• 9:44
  I
• 9:44
  remember
• 9:44
  there
• 9:44
  was
• 9:45
  an
• 9:45
  episode
• 9:46
  of
• 9:46
  Real
• 9:47
  Housewives
• 9:47
  of
• 9:48
  New
• 9:48
  York
• 9:48
  where
• 9:49
  Carol
• 9:49
  Radziwill
• 9:50
  was
• 9:50
  telling
• 9:51
  everybody
• 9:51
  about
• 9:52
  her
• 9:52
  hippocampus
• 9:53
  and
• 9:53
  how
• 9:53
  it
• 9:54
  was
• 9:54
  so
• 9:54
  large
• 9:55
  and
• 9:55
  that's
• 9:55
  what
• 9:56
  made
• 9:56
  her
• 9:56
  so
• 9:56
  logical
• 9:57
  and
• 9:57
  rational
• 9:58
  and
• 9:58
  unemotional.
• 9:59
  Meanwhile,
• 10:00
  it's
• 10:00
  like
• 10:00
  Luann
• 10:01
  is
• 10:01
  just
• 10:01
  out
• 10:01
  of
• 10:01
  rehab.
• 10:03
  Sonia's
• 10:04
  topless,
• 10:05
  and
• 10:05
  everyone's
• 10:05
  just
• 10:06
  looking
• 10:06
  at
• 10:06
  her.
• 10:06
  It's
• 10:07
  at
• 10:07
  a
• 10:07
  reunion.
• 10:08
  Mario's
• 10:08
  just
• 10:09
  had
• 10:09
  an
• 10:09
  affair.
• 10:09
  And
• 10:09
  everyone's
• 10:10
  like,
• 10:11
  what
• 10:11
  are
• 10:11
  you
• 10:11
  talking
• 10:11
  about?
• 10:12
  We
• 10:12
  care
• 10:12
  about
• 10:13
  your
• 10:13
  hippocampus.
• 10:14
  We
• 10:14
  have
• 10:14
  real
• 10:15
  problems
• 10:15
  here.
• 10:17
  Anyway,
• 10:18
  go
• 10:18
  on.
• 10:19
  Okay.
• 10:19
  I
• 10:19
  don't
• 10:20
  think
• 10:20
  these
• 10:20
  particular
• 10:21
  neuropsychiatrists
• 10:23
  and
• 10:24
  pediatric
• 10:25
  psychotherapists
• 10:26
  would
• 10:27
  appreciate
• 10:28
  you're
• 10:28
  talking
• 10:28
  about
• 10:28
  the
• 10:28
  Real
• 10:29
  Housewives
• 10:30
  in
• 10:30
  connection
• 10:30
  with
• 10:31
  this
• 10:31
  book.
• 10:31
  We
• 10:32
  contain
• 10:32
  multitudes.
• 10:33
  All
• 10:33
  right,
• 10:33
  let's
• 10:34
  get
• 10:34
  into
• 10:34
  the
• 10:34
  book.
• 10:34
  Okay.
• 10:35
  First
• 10:36
  of
• 10:36
  all,
• 10:36
  it
• 10:36
  starts
• 10:37
  out
• 10:37
  that.
• 10:38
  And
• 10:39
  this.
• 10:39
  They
• 10:39
  make
• 10:39
  a
• 10:40
  good
• 10:40
  point.
• 10:40
  As
• 10:41
  parents,
• 10:41
  we
• 10:41
  know
• 10:42
  a
• 10:42
  lot
• 10:42
  about
• 10:42
  our
• 10:42
  children's
• 10:43
  bodies.
• 10:44
  We
• 10:44
  know
• 10:44
  a
• 10:44
  lot
• 10:44
  about
• 10:44
  what
• 10:45
  we
• 10:45
  should
• 10:45
  feed
• 10:45
  them,
• 10:47
  but
• 10:47
  we
• 10:48
  don't
• 10:48
  know
• 10:48
  a
• 10:48
  lot
• 10:49
  about
• 10:49
  their
• 10:49
  brains
• 10:50
  and
• 10:50
  how
• 10:50
  their
• 10:50
  brains
• 10:51
  work.
• 10:51
  And
• 10:52
  it
• 10:52
  opens
• 10:52
  up
• 10:52
  with
• 10:52
  a
• 10:53
  story.
• 10:53
  Very
• 10:53
  good
• 10:54
  story.
• 10:54
  I
• 10:54
  thought
• 10:55
  about
• 10:55
  a
• 10:55
  little
• 10:56
  boy
• 10:56
  who
• 10:56
  was
• 10:56
  in
• 10:57
  a
• 10:57
  car
• 10:57
  accident
• 10:57
  with
• 10:58
  his
• 10:58
  babysitter
• 10:59
  and
• 10:59
  how
• 11:00
  he
• 11:01
  was
• 11:02
  trying
• 11:03
  to
• 11:03
  talk
• 11:04
  about
• 11:04
  it
• 11:04
  with
• 11:04
  his
• 11:05
  mother.
• 11:05
  And
• 11:05
  his
• 11:05
  mother,
• 11:06
  luckily,
• 11:07
  had
• 11:07
  been
• 11:07
  to
• 11:07
  a.
• 11:08
  A
• 11:09
  worksh.
• 11:09
  A
• 11:09
  workshop
• 11:10
  with
• 11:10
  Tina
• 11:11
  the
• 11:12
  psychotherapist,
• 11:13
  and
• 11:14
  had
• 11:14
  learned
• 11:14
  about
• 11:14
  the
• 11:14
  brain
• 11:15
  and
• 11:15
  had
• 11:15
  learned
• 11:15
  about
• 11:16
  how
• 11:16
  kids
• 11:17
  do
• 11:17
  need
• 11:17
  to
• 11:18
  integrate
• 11:18
  the
• 11:18
  various
• 11:18
  parts
• 11:19
  of
• 11:19
  the
• 11:19
  brain.
• 11:20
  So
• 11:20
  the
• 11:20
  mother
• 11:21
  allowed
• 11:21
  the
• 11:21
  son
• 11:22
  and
• 11:22
  encouraged
• 11:22
  the
• 11:23
  son
• 11:23
  to
• 11:23
  keep
• 11:23
  telling
• 11:24
  the
• 11:24
  story
• 11:25
  over
• 11:25
  and
• 11:25
  over
• 11:26
  again
• 11:27
  where
• 11:28
  she
• 11:28
  talks
• 11:28
  about
• 11:29
  the
• 11:29
  left
• 11:29
  side
• 11:29
  of
• 11:29
  our
• 11:30
  brain,
• 11:30
  which
• 11:30
  controls
• 11:31
  logic
• 11:32
  and
• 11:32
  organizes
• 11:33
  all
• 11:33
  of
• 11:33
  our
• 11:33
  thoughts.
• 11:34
  And
• 11:34
  just
• 11:35
  remember,
• 11:35
  left
• 11:36
  logic,
• 11:36
  that's
• 11:37
  how
• 11:37
  you'll
• 11:37
  remember.
• 11:37
  Yeah.
• 11:38
  And
• 11:38
  left.
• 11:38
  Right
• 11:39
  is
• 11:39
  emotional,
• 11:40
  creative,
• 11:41
  Right,
• 11:41
  experiential.
• 11:43
  Exactly.
• 11:43
  And
• 11:44
  so.
• 11:45
  And
• 11:45
  left
• 11:45
  is
• 11:46
  also
• 11:46
  literal.
• 11:47
  So
• 11:47
  people
• 11:48
  who
• 11:48
  are
• 11:48
  super
• 11:48
  left
• 11:49
  brained
• 11:49
  are
• 11:49
  very,
• 11:50
  very
• 11:50
  literal.
• 11:50
  That
• 11:51
  don't.
• 11:52
  Yeah,
• 11:52
  they're
• 11:52
  not
• 11:53
  unliteral.
• 11:54
  Right.
• 11:54
  Well,
• 11:55
  they
• 11:55
  think
• 11:55
  of
• 11:55
  things
• 11:55
  in
• 11:56
  a
• 11:56
  literal
• 11:56
  and
• 11:57
  linear
• 11:57
  kind
• 11:58
  of
• 11:58
  way.
• 11:58
  Left
• 11:58
  is
• 11:59
  all
• 11:59
  else.
• 12:00
  Ll.
• 12:01
  Right.
• 12:01
  It's
• 12:02
  the.
• 12:02
  It's
• 12:02
  the
• 12:03
  people
• 12:03
  who
• 12:03
  are
• 12:03
  the
• 12:04
  letter.
• 12:04
  Of
• 12:04
  the
• 12:04
  law,
• 12:04
  as
• 12:05
  they
• 12:05
  say
• 12:05
  in
• 12:06
  this
• 12:06
  book.
• 12:06
  Yes.
• 12:07
  So
• 12:07
  it's
• 12:07
  all
• 12:07
  the
• 12:07
  Ls,
• 12:08
  and
• 12:08
  then
• 12:08
  the
• 12:08
  right
• 12:08
  is
• 12:08
  the
• 12:08
  spirit
• 12:09
  of
• 12:09
  the
• 12:10
  law.
• 12:10
  Right.
• 12:11
  And
• 12:11
  the
• 12:11
  emotion
• 12:12
  and
• 12:12
  the.
• 12:13
  And
• 12:13
  all
• 12:13
  of
• 12:13
  the
• 12:13
  things
• 12:14
  that
• 12:14
  especially
• 12:14
  younger
• 12:15
  kids
• 12:15
  exhibit.
• 12:16
  Because
• 12:17
  when
• 12:17
  you
• 12:17
  are
• 12:17
  very,
• 12:18
  very
• 12:18
  young,
• 12:18
  you're
• 12:19
  all
• 12:19
  emotion.
• 12:20
  And
• 12:20
  then
• 12:20
  when,
• 12:21
  by
• 12:21
  the
• 12:21
  time
• 12:21
  you're
• 12:22
  about
• 12:22
  three,
• 12:23
  you
• 12:23
  start
• 12:23
  asking
• 12:24
  why
• 12:24
  and
• 12:24
  you.
• 12:24
  You
• 12:25
  start
• 12:25
  becoming
• 12:26
  a
• 12:26
  little
• 12:26
  more
• 12:26
  l.
• 12:27
  A
• 12:27
  left.
• 12:28
  Left
• 12:28
  brain.
• 12:28
  Yeah,
• 12:29
  your
• 12:29
  left
• 12:29
  brain.
• 12:29
  Like
• 12:29
  about
• 12:30
  age
• 12:30
  three.
• 12:30
  At
• 12:31
  about
• 12:31
  age
• 12:31
  three.
• 12:31
  Yeah.
• 12:32
  When
• 12:32
  that
• 12:32
  happens,
• 12:33
  I
• 12:33
  feel
• 12:33
  like
• 12:33
  I'm
• 12:33
  very
• 12:33
  right.
• 12:35
  Yes.
• 12:35
  And
• 12:35
  I
• 12:36
  am
• 12:36
  too.
• 12:36
  Yeah,
• 12:36
  I
• 12:37
  am
• 12:37
  too.
• 12:37
  And
• 12:37
  much
• 12:38
  more
• 12:38
  so
• 12:38
  logic
• 12:39
  escapes
• 12:39
  me.
• 12:40
  Yeah,
• 12:40
  well,
• 12:41
  yeah.
• 12:41
  I
• 12:41
  mean,
• 12:42
  both
• 12:42
  of
• 12:42
  us
• 12:42
  have.
• 12:43
  I'm.
• 12:43
  I'm
• 12:43
  also,
• 12:43
  you
• 12:43
  And
• 12:44
  I
• 12:44
  are
• 12:44
  like
• 12:44
  this.
• 12:44
  We're
• 12:44
  both
• 12:45
  very
• 12:45
  hyperbolic.
• 12:46
  Nothing
• 12:46
  is
• 12:47
  literal.
• 12:47
  Everything
• 12:48
  is
• 12:48
  taken
• 12:48
  to,
• 12:49
  like,
• 12:49
  the
• 12:49
  nth
• 12:49
  degree.
• 12:50
  You
• 12:51
  know,
• 12:51
  that's
• 12:52
  true.
• 12:53
  And
• 12:53
  I
• 12:53
  would
• 12:53
  have
• 12:54
  it
• 12:54
  no
• 12:54
  other
• 12:54
  way.
• 12:55
  That's
• 12:55
  right.
• 12:55
  That's
• 12:55
  who.
• 12:55
  Well,
• 12:56
  and
• 12:56
  it's
• 12:56
  fun
• 12:57
  to
• 12:57
  sort
• 12:57
  of
• 12:58
  realize
• 12:58
  ultimately
• 12:59
  when
• 12:59
  you
• 12:59
  grow
• 12:59
  up,
• 12:59
  who
• 13:00
  you
• 13:00
  are
• 13:00
  mostly,
• 13:01
  I
• 13:01
  think,
• 13:02
  and
• 13:02
  you.
• 13:02
  And
• 13:02
  you
• 13:03
  just
• 13:03
  own
• 13:03
  it,
• 13:03
  you
• 13:03
  know,
• 13:04
  when
• 13:04
  you
• 13:04
  get
• 13:04
  older.
• 13:05
  But,
• 13:06
  but.
• 13:06
  But
• 13:06
  when
• 13:06
  we're.
• 13:07
  When
• 13:07
  our
• 13:07
  kids
• 13:07
  are
• 13:07
  young,
• 13:08
  we're
• 13:08
  trying
• 13:08
  to
• 13:08
  get
• 13:09
  them
• 13:09
  to
• 13:09
  be
• 13:09
  all
• 13:09
  things,
• 13:10
  to
• 13:10
  integrate
• 13:11
  their
• 13:11
  brains
• 13:11
  in
• 13:12
  all
• 13:12
  things
• 13:12
  all
• 13:13
  at
• 13:13
  once.
• 13:13
  Right.
• 13:14
  And
• 13:14
  so
• 13:14
  this
• 13:15
  is
• 13:15
  showing
• 13:15
  us
• 13:15
  how
• 13:16
  we
• 13:16
  can
• 13:16
  do
• 13:16
  that.
• 13:18
  And
• 13:18
  they
• 13:18
  give
• 13:19
  actually,
• 13:19
  an
• 13:19
  analogy
• 13:20
  early
• 13:20
  on.
• 13:20
  Good
• 13:21
  analogy.
• 13:22
  Think
• 13:22
  about
• 13:22
  a
• 13:22
  peaceful
• 13:23
  river,
• 13:24
  and
• 13:24
  you
• 13:25
  are
• 13:25
  in
• 13:25
  a
• 13:25
  canoe
• 13:26
  or
• 13:27
  a
• 13:27
  kayak.
• 13:28
  Kayak.
• 13:28
  And
• 13:29
  you're
• 13:29
  just.
• 13:30
  You're
• 13:30
  floating
• 13:30
  along
• 13:31
  in
• 13:31
  the
• 13:31
  middle
• 13:32
  of
• 13:32
  the
• 13:32
  river.
• 13:33
  But
• 13:33
  if
• 13:33
  you.
• 13:34
  One
• 13:34
  bank
• 13:34
  on
• 13:35
  the
• 13:36
  left
• 13:36
  represents
• 13:40
  rigidity,
• 13:41
  where
• 13:42
  you're
• 13:42
  just
• 13:42
  unwilling
• 13:43
  to
• 13:43
  adapt
• 13:44
  or
• 13:44
  compromise,
• 13:45
  then
• 13:45
  on
• 13:45
  the
• 13:46
  right,
• 13:46
  the
• 13:46
  bank
• 13:46
  is
• 13:47
  chaos.
• 13:48
  And
• 13:50
  so
• 13:50
  if
• 13:50
  your
• 13:51
  child
• 13:51
  is
• 13:51
  behaving
• 13:52
  out
• 13:52
  of
• 13:52
  control
• 13:53
  or
• 13:53
  is
• 13:53
  too
• 13:53
  rigid,
• 13:54
  they're
• 13:55
  in
• 13:55
  a
• 13:55
  state
• 13:55
  of
• 13:55
  what
• 13:56
  they
• 13:56
  call
• 13:56
  disintegration.
• 13:57
  And
• 13:57
  what
• 13:58
  we
• 13:58
  want
• 13:58
  is
• 13:58
  for
• 13:59
  them
• 13:59
  to
• 13:59
  float
• 14:00
  right
• 14:00
  down
• 14:00
  the
• 14:00
  middle
• 14:01
  where
• 14:01
  they're
• 14:02
  neither
• 14:03
  one
• 14:03
  or
• 14:03
  the
• 14:04
  other.
• 14:04
  They're
• 14:04
  integrated.
• 14:05
  And
• 14:05
  that's.
• 14:06
  That's
• 14:06
  a
• 14:06
  good
• 14:06
  analogy.
• 14:07
  I
• 14:08
  thought
• 14:08
  so,
• 14:08
  too.
• 14:09
  And
• 14:09
  there's
• 14:09
  a
• 14:09
  picture
• 14:10
  of
• 14:10
  a
• 14:10
  boat
• 14:11
  going
• 14:11
  down
• 14:11
  the
• 14:11
  middle
• 14:11
  of
• 14:11
  the
• 14:12
  river.
• 14:12
  They
• 14:12
  love.
• 14:12
  The
• 14:13
  imagery
• 14:13
  of
• 14:14
  this
• 14:14
  book
• 14:14
  was
• 14:14
  pretty
• 14:15
  solid.
• 14:15
  I
• 14:16
  liked
• 14:16
  it,
• 14:16
  too.
• 14:16
  It
• 14:16
  helped
• 14:16
  me
• 14:17
  know.
• 14:17
  Yeah.
• 14:18
  We're
• 14:18
  visual
• 14:18
  learners.
• 14:19
  We
• 14:19
  are.
• 14:19
  Yeah,
• 14:20
  exactly.
• 14:20
  And
• 14:21
  so
• 14:21
  anyway,
• 14:22
  getting
• 14:22
  into
• 14:22
  the
• 14:23
  left
• 14:23
  and
• 14:23
  the
• 14:23
  right
• 14:23
  brain,
• 14:24
  we'll
• 14:25
  talk
• 14:25
  a
• 14:25
  little
• 14:25
  more.
• 14:25
  We.
• 14:26
  We've
• 14:26
  talked
• 14:26
  about
• 14:26
  it
• 14:26
  a
• 14:27
  little
• 14:27
  bit
• 14:27
  already.
• 14:28
  Left
• 14:28
  brain
• 14:29
  loves
• 14:29
  order.
• 14:30
  Okay.
• 14:31
  Words,
• 14:31
  logical,
• 14:33
  literal,
• 14:33
  linguistic,
• 14:34
  linear.
• 14:36
  There
• 14:36
  are
• 14:36
  those
• 14:36
  L's.
• 14:37
  Again,
• 14:37
  those
• 14:37
  L's.
• 14:38
  Okay.
• 14:39
  Right
• 14:39
  brain,
• 14:39
  nonverbal,
• 14:40
  emotional,
• 14:41
  big
• 14:42
  picture.
• 14:42
  And
• 14:43
  that's
• 14:43
  all
• 14:43
  younger
• 14:44
  kids
• 14:44
  are.
• 14:45
  They're
• 14:45
  right
• 14:46
  brain.
• 14:47
  And
• 14:47
  we
• 14:47
  want
• 14:47
  them
• 14:47
  to
• 14:47
  use
• 14:48
  both.
• 14:48
  And
• 14:48
  we
• 14:49
  want.
• 14:50
  And
• 14:50
  one
• 14:50
  of
• 14:51
  the
• 14:51
  things
• 14:51
  they
• 14:51
  teach,
• 14:52
  one
• 14:52
  of
• 14:52
  the
• 14:52
  very
• 14:52
  first
• 14:53
  strategies,
• 14:54
  is
• 14:54
  they
• 14:54
  call
• 14:54
  it
• 14:55
  connect
• 14:56
  and
• 14:56
  redirect.
• 14:57
  When
• 14:57
  your
• 14:58
  child
• 14:58
  is
• 14:58
  emotionally
• 14:59
  upset,
• 15:00
  like
• 15:00
  when
• 15:00
  they're
• 15:00
  having
• 15:02
  a
• 15:02
  meltdown,
• 15:03
  as
• 15:03
  young
• 15:04
  kids
• 15:04
  do
• 15:05
  in
• 15:05
  me
• 15:06
  some
• 15:06
  days
• 15:07
  we
• 15:07
  all
• 15:07
  do.
• 15:08
  Right.
• 15:08
  But
• 15:09
  anybody
• 15:09
  does.
• 15:09
  Right.
• 15:10
  When
• 15:10
  you
• 15:10
  are
• 15:10
  having
• 15:10
  a
• 15:10
  meltdown.
• 15:11
  And
• 15:11
  that
• 15:11
  lady
• 15:11
  at
• 15:11
  the
• 15:12
  cheese
• 15:12
  store.
• 15:12
  The
• 15:12
  lady
• 15:13
  at
• 15:13
  the
• 15:13
  cheese
• 15:13
  store,
• 15:14
  I
• 15:14
  think.
• 15:14
  Nervous
• 15:15
  meltdown,
• 15:16
  total
• 15:16
  meltdown.
• 15:17
  Anyway,
• 15:18
  logic
• 15:18
  is
• 15:19
  not
• 15:19
  gonna
• 15:19
  work
• 15:19
  with
• 15:20
  this
• 15:20
  person.
• 15:22
  When
• 15:22
  you
• 15:22
  first
• 15:23
  respond
• 15:23
  to
• 15:23
  someone
• 15:24
  having
• 15:24
  that
• 15:24
  kind
• 15:24
  of
• 15:25
  a
• 15:25
  meltdown,
• 15:25
  you
• 15:25
  have
• 15:26
  to
• 15:26
  respond
• 15:26
  back
• 15:26
  with
• 15:27
  emotion.
• 15:28
  Just
• 15:28
  talk
• 15:29
  to
• 15:29
  them,
• 15:29
  make
• 15:29
  them
• 15:30
  feel
• 15:30
  Heard
• 15:30
  and
• 15:31
  cared.
• 15:32
  Before
• 15:33
  you
• 15:33
  try
• 15:33
  to
• 15:33
  get
• 15:34
  into
• 15:34
  the.
• 15:34
  Logic,
• 15:35
  what
• 15:35
  should
• 15:35
  I
• 15:35
  have
• 15:35
  said
• 15:35
  to
• 15:36
  that
• 15:36
  woman?
• 15:36
  Well,
• 15:38
  are
• 15:38
  you
• 15:38
  okay?
• 15:39
  Yeah.
• 15:39
  Well,
• 15:40
  you
• 15:40
  could
• 15:40
  have
• 15:40
  said,
• 15:41
  oh,
• 15:41
  I
• 15:42
  get
• 15:42
  why
• 15:42
  you
• 15:43
  worry
• 15:44
  about
• 15:44
  germs.
• 15:45
  You
• 15:45
  must
• 15:45
  be,
• 15:45
  you
• 15:46
  know,
• 15:47
  that's
• 15:47
  a
• 15:47
  very.
• 15:48
  She
• 15:48
  was
• 15:48
  the
• 15:49
  kind
• 15:49
  of
• 15:49
  person
• 15:49
  that
• 15:49
  struck
• 15:50
  me
• 15:50
  as
• 15:50
  like
• 15:50
  bare
• 15:51
  minimum
• 15:51
  provocation.
• 15:52
  And
• 15:52
  she
• 15:52
  was
• 15:52
  just
• 15:53
  ready.
• 15:53
  Honestly,
• 15:54
  I
• 15:54
  don't
• 15:54
  think
• 15:54
  that
• 15:55
  you
• 15:55
  could
• 15:55
  have
• 15:55
  dealt
• 15:56
  with.
• 15:56
  I
• 15:56
  don't
• 15:56
  think
• 15:56
  that
• 15:57
  was
• 15:57
  my
• 15:57
  job.
• 15:58
  No,
• 15:58
  it
• 15:59
  wasn't.
• 15:59
  It
• 15:59
  was
• 15:59
  not.
• 16:00
  But
• 16:00
  if
• 16:00
  a
• 16:01
  child
• 16:01
  is
• 16:01
  having
• 16:02
  a
• 16:02
  meltdown,
• 16:04
  this
• 16:04
  is
• 16:04
  saying
• 16:04
  is
• 16:05
  respond
• 16:06
  first
• 16:06
  with
• 16:06
  emotion,
• 16:08
  care
• 16:08
  and
• 16:08
  love,
• 16:09
  empathy.
• 16:10
  Before
• 16:11
  you
• 16:11
  try
• 16:11
  to
• 16:12
  get
• 16:12
  logical
• 16:13
  about
• 16:13
  what
• 16:13
  just
• 16:14
  happened.
• 16:14
  Yeah.
• 16:15
  And
• 16:15
  then
• 16:15
  the
• 16:16
  second
• 16:16
  thing
• 16:16
  is
• 16:18
  name
• 16:18
  it
• 16:18
  to
• 16:19
  tame
• 16:19
  it.
• 16:20
  Which
• 16:20
  is
• 16:20
  love.
• 16:21
  A
• 16:21
  rhyme
• 16:22
  they
• 16:22
  make.
• 16:23
  They
• 16:23
  love.
• 16:23
  They
• 16:23
  live
• 16:24
  for
• 16:24
  rhymes.
• 16:24
  They
• 16:24
  love
• 16:24
  a
• 16:24
  rhyme.
• 16:25
  A
• 16:25
  rhyming
• 16:26
  strategy
• 16:26
  you
• 16:27
  will
• 16:27
  find.
• 16:27
  Because
• 16:27
  you'll
• 16:27
  remember
• 16:28
  it.
• 16:28
  You'll
• 16:28
  remember
• 16:29
  it.
• 16:29
  And
• 16:29
  it's
• 16:29
  like
• 16:30
  when
• 16:30
  a
• 16:30
  child
• 16:30
  has
• 16:30
  an
• 16:30
  upsetting
• 16:31
  experience,
• 16:32
  encourage
• 16:32
  them
• 16:33
  to
• 16:33
  just
• 16:33
  tell
• 16:33
  their
• 16:33
  story.
• 16:34
  I
• 16:34
  was
• 16:34
  so
• 16:34
  surprised
• 16:35
  by
• 16:35
  this.
• 16:36
  I
• 16:36
  always
• 16:37
  thought
• 16:37
  when
• 16:38
  a
• 16:38
  child
• 16:38
  goes
• 16:38
  through
• 16:39
  something
• 16:39
  traumatic,
• 16:40
  the
• 16:40
  best
• 16:41
  strategy
• 16:41
  would
• 16:42
  be
• 16:43
  to
• 16:43
  help
• 16:43
  them
• 16:43
  forget
• 16:44
  it
• 16:44
  or
• 16:44
  distract.
• 16:45
  But
• 16:46
  that's
• 16:46
  not
• 16:46
  true.
• 16:47
  So
• 16:47
  don't
• 16:47
  do
• 16:47
  that.
• 16:48
  Yeah.
• 16:48
  Isn't
• 16:49
  it?
• 16:49
  Yeah.
• 16:49
  That's
• 16:49
  a
• 16:49
  big
• 16:49
  thing.
• 16:50
  I
• 16:50
  learned
• 16:50
  something.
• 16:51
  Yeah.
• 16:51
  Because
• 16:51
  they're
• 16:52
  saying
• 16:52
  that
• 16:52
  you
• 16:52
  must
• 16:53
  get
• 16:53
  them
• 16:53
  to
• 16:53
  talk
• 16:54
  about
• 16:54
  it
• 16:55
  for
• 16:55
  so
• 16:55
  many
• 16:56
  reasons.
• 16:56
  And
• 16:56
  that
• 16:56
  comes
• 16:57
  up
• 16:57
  a
• 16:57
  lot
• 16:57
  in
• 16:57
  this
• 16:57
  book.
• 16:58
  It
• 16:58
  feels
• 16:58
  like
• 16:58
  the
• 16:58
  therapeutic
• 16:59
  approach.
• 16:59
  Cause
• 17:00
  so
• 17:00
  much
• 17:00
  of
• 17:00
  therapy
• 17:01
  is
• 17:01
  talking.
• 17:02
  And
• 17:02
  I
• 17:02
  guess
• 17:02
  that
• 17:03
  now
• 17:03
  that
• 17:03
  I
• 17:03
  think
• 17:04
  about
• 17:04
  it,
• 17:04
  that
• 17:04
  does
• 17:04
  actually
• 17:05
  feel
• 17:05
  very
• 17:05
  useful
• 17:06
  because
• 17:06
  you
• 17:06
  can
• 17:06
  sort
• 17:06
  of,
• 17:07
  you
• 17:08
  name
• 17:08
  it,
• 17:09
  you
• 17:09
  talk
• 17:09
  about
• 17:09
  it
• 17:10
  and
• 17:10
  you
• 17:10
  realize
• 17:10
  it's
• 17:11
  not
• 17:11
  quite
• 17:11
  as
• 17:11
  scary
• 17:12
  as
• 17:12
  it
• 17:12
  seemed
• 17:12
  in
• 17:12
  your
• 17:13
  mind.
• 17:13
  Right,
• 17:14
  right.
• 17:14
  And
• 17:14
  this
• 17:14
  is
• 17:15
  true
• 17:15
  for
• 17:15
  children.
• 17:16
  When
• 17:17
  they
• 17:17
  tell
• 17:17
  you
• 17:18
  what
• 17:18
  happened,
• 17:18
  they're
• 17:19
  using
• 17:19
  their
• 17:19
  left
• 17:20
  brain.
• 17:20
  But
• 17:21
  when
• 17:21
  they
• 17:21
  tell
• 17:21
  you
• 17:21
  how
• 17:22
  they
• 17:22
  felt
• 17:22
  in
• 17:22
  the
• 17:23
  moment,
• 17:23
  they're
• 17:23
  using
• 17:24
  the
• 17:24
  right
• 17:24
  side
• 17:24
  of
• 17:25
  the
• 17:25
  brain.
• 17:25
  And
• 17:26
  by
• 17:26
  telling
• 17:27
  the
• 17:27
  whole
• 17:27
  story,
• 17:28
  they're
• 17:28
  integrating
• 17:28
  both
• 17:29
  sides
• 17:29
  of
• 17:29
  their
• 17:29
  brain.
• 17:30
  Cool.
• 17:30
  Uh
• 17:31
  huh.
• 17:31
  And
• 17:31
  that's
• 17:32
  a
• 17:32
  big
• 17:32
  part
• 17:32
  of
• 17:32
  what
• 17:33
  we
• 17:33
  hear
• 17:33
  in
• 17:33
  this.
• 17:33
  But
• 17:34
  I
• 17:34
  thought
• 17:34
  that
• 17:34
  was
• 17:34
  one
• 17:34
  of
• 17:34
  the
• 17:34
  best
• 17:35
  ideas
• 17:35
  of
• 17:35
  this
• 17:35
  whole
• 17:36
  book.
• 17:36
  Yeah.
• 17:36
  Was
• 17:37
  getting
• 17:37
  kids
• 17:38
  to
• 17:38
  talk
• 17:38
  about
• 17:39
  their.
• 17:39
  Stories
• 17:40
  all
• 17:40
  the
• 17:40
  time.
• 17:41
  You
• 17:41
  want
• 17:42
  to
• 17:42
  talk
• 17:42
  about
• 17:42
  Chapter
• 17:42
  3?
• 17:43
  Chapter
• 17:44
  3,
• 17:44
  which
• 17:45
  is
• 17:45
  integrating
• 17:46
  the
• 17:46
  upper
• 17:47
  and
• 17:47
  lower
• 17:48
  parts
• 17:49
  of
• 17:49
  the
• 17:49
  brain.
• 17:49
  Absolutely,
• 17:50
  I
• 17:50
  do.
• 17:50
  The
• 17:50
  lower
• 17:51
  part
• 17:51
  of
• 17:51
  the
• 17:51
  brain
• 17:51
  is
• 17:52
  the
• 17:52
  stem
• 17:52
  and
• 17:52
  the
• 17:52
  amygdala.
• 17:53
  So
• 17:54
  this
• 17:54
  teaches
• 17:54
  us
• 17:55
  to
• 17:55
  act
• 17:55
  or
• 17:56
  think
• 17:56
  before
• 17:57
  we
• 17:57
  act.
• 17:57
  Wait,
• 17:58
  sorry.
• 17:58
  No,
• 17:58
  no.
• 17:58
  This
• 17:59
  is
• 17:59
  the
• 17:59
  fight
• 17:59
  or
• 17:59
  flight
• 18:00
  response.
• 18:00
  So
• 18:01
  if
• 18:01
  you're
• 18:01
  in
• 18:01
  a
• 18:02
  survival
• 18:02
  situation,
• 18:03
  your
• 18:03
  amygdala
• 18:03
  is
• 18:04
  what
• 18:04
  tells
• 18:04
  you
• 18:04
  to
• 18:04
  fight,
• 18:05
  flight
• 18:05
  or
• 18:06
  flee.
• 18:07
  Flight.
• 18:08
  Flight.
• 18:08
  Flee,
• 18:09
  yes.
• 18:09
  Yeah.
• 18:10
  And
• 18:11
  it
• 18:11
  regulates
• 18:12
  our
• 18:12
  breathing.
• 18:13
  Right.
• 18:13
  Yeah.
• 18:15
  And
• 18:15
  this
• 18:15
  happens
• 18:16
  when?
• 18:17
  Often
• 18:17
  the
• 18:17
  reason
• 18:17
  that
• 18:18
  tantrums
• 18:18
  happen
• 18:18
  is
• 18:19
  when
• 18:19
  this
• 18:19
  takes
• 18:20
  over.
• 18:20
  So
• 18:21
  the
• 18:21
  answer
• 18:21
  is
• 18:22
  to
• 18:22
  calm
• 18:22
  the
• 18:23
  child
• 18:23
  down
• 18:23
  with
• 18:24
  touch,
• 18:25
  calm
• 18:26
  them
• 18:27
  and
• 18:27
  talk
• 18:27
  to
• 18:27
  them
• 18:28
  before
• 18:28
  you
• 18:29
  can
• 18:29
  give
• 18:30
  them
• 18:30
  the
• 18:30
  appropriate
• 18:31
  behavioral
• 18:31
  response.
• 18:32
  Right.
• 18:33
  This
• 18:33
  is
• 18:33
  our
• 18:33
  primitive
• 18:34
  brain.
• 18:34
  Yes.
• 18:34
  Our
• 18:35
  lizard
• 18:35
  brain.
• 18:36
  I
• 18:36
  think
• 18:36
  so.
• 18:36
  Yeah.
• 18:37
  That's
• 18:37
  what
• 18:37
  it
• 18:37
  is.
• 18:38
  And
• 18:39
  you
• 18:39
  know,
• 18:39
  it's
• 18:39
  interesting
• 18:40
  how
• 18:40
  much
• 18:40
  they
• 18:41
  emphasize
• 18:41
  this
• 18:41
  and
• 18:42
  other
• 18:42
  books
• 18:42
  emphasize
• 18:43
  the
• 18:43
  need
• 18:44
  children
• 18:45
  have
• 18:45
  for
• 18:45
  physical
• 18:46
  affection
• 18:47
  for
• 18:47
  touch.
• 18:48
  I
• 18:48
  didn't
• 18:48
  realize
• 18:49
  that
• 18:49
  that
• 18:49
  was
• 18:50
  such
• 18:50
  a
• 18:50
  huge
• 18:50
  part
• 18:50
  of
• 18:50
  development.
• 18:53
  And
• 18:53
  now
• 18:53
  I
• 18:53
  know.
• 18:53
  And
• 18:54
  now
• 18:54
  you
• 18:55
  listeners
• 18:55
  know
• 18:56
  too.
• 18:56
  Right.
• 18:57
  Well,
• 18:57
  so
• 18:57
  that
• 18:57
  when
• 18:57
  they're
• 18:58
  having,
• 18:58
  you
• 18:58
  know,
• 18:59
  when
• 18:59
  they're
• 18:59
  very
• 18:59
  upset,
• 19:00
  very
• 19:00
  emotional,
• 19:01
  you
• 19:02
  know,
• 19:02
  a
• 19:02
  loving
• 19:03
  touch
• 19:03
  will
• 19:04
  help
• 19:04
  calm
• 19:05
  a
• 19:05
  person
• 19:05
  down
• 19:06
  and
• 19:07
  Versus
• 19:08
  the
• 19:08
  upper
• 19:09
  part
• 19:09
  of
• 19:10
  the
• 19:10
  brain.
• 19:10
  Yes.
• 19:11
  Which
• 19:11
  the
• 19:11
  frontal
• 19:12
  cortex.
• 19:12
  So
• 19:13
  executive
• 19:13
  function
• 19:13
  skills
• 19:14
  live
• 19:14
  here.
• 19:15
  When
• 19:15
  this
• 19:15
  is
• 19:15
  working,
• 19:16
  it
• 19:16
  can
• 19:16
  regulate
• 19:17
  emotions,
• 19:17
  it
• 19:18
  can
• 19:18
  control.
• 19:19
  You
• 19:19
  can
• 19:19
  have
• 19:20
  self
• 19:20
  control,
• 19:21
  empathy
• 19:23
  and
• 19:23
  conscious
• 19:24
  thought.
• 19:24
  So
• 19:24
  the
• 19:25
  idea
• 19:25
  is
• 19:25
  you
• 19:25
  want
• 19:26
  to
• 19:26
  connect
• 19:26
  both
• 19:27
  parts
• 19:27
  of
• 19:27
  the
• 19:27
  brain
• 19:27
  to
• 19:27
  be
• 19:28
  integrated.
• 19:29
  Right.
• 19:29
  And
• 19:30
  then
• 19:30
  the
• 19:31
  executive
• 19:31
  function
• 19:32
  skills
• 19:32
  are
• 19:32
  the
• 19:33
  skills
• 19:33
  that
• 19:33
  children
• 19:34
  develop
• 19:34
  from
• 19:35
  the
• 19:35
  time
• 19:35
  they're
• 19:35
  born
• 19:35
  till
• 19:36
  they're
• 19:36
  about
• 19:36
  25
• 19:36
  years
• 19:37
  old.
• 19:37
  And
• 19:39
  they
• 19:39
  are
• 19:39
  things,
• 19:40
  you
• 19:40
  know,
• 19:41
  like
• 19:41
  controlling
• 19:42
  your
• 19:42
  emotions,
• 19:43
  which
• 19:43
  obviously
• 19:44
  kids
• 19:44
  really
• 19:44
  do
• 19:45
  struggle
• 19:45
  with.
• 19:46
  Your
• 19:46
  working
• 19:47
  memory
• 19:49
  you're
• 19:49
  getting
• 19:49
  into
• 19:50
  as
• 19:50
  kids
• 19:51
  get
• 19:51
  older.
• 19:51
  Organizational
• 19:52
  skills,
• 19:55
  time
• 19:56
  management,
• 19:57
  which
• 19:57
  we
• 19:57
  both
• 19:57
  of
• 19:57
  us
• 19:58
  struggle.
• 19:58
  We
• 19:59
  both
• 19:59
  have
• 19:59
  adhd.
• 20:00
  And
• 20:00
  if
• 20:01
  you
• 20:01
  have
• 20:01
  adhd,
• 20:02
  you
• 20:02
  are
• 20:02
  going
• 20:02
  to
• 20:02
  have
• 20:02
  trouble
• 20:03
  with
• 20:03
  these
• 20:03
  skills.
• 20:04
  But
• 20:04
  even
• 20:04
  if
• 20:04
  you
• 20:04
  don't,
• 20:05
  you
• 20:05
  may
• 20:06
  also
• 20:07
  have
• 20:07
  trouble
• 20:07
  with
• 20:07
  these
• 20:08
  skills.
• 20:08
  They
• 20:08
  have
• 20:08
  to
• 20:09
  be
• 20:09
  developed
• 20:09
  and
• 20:10
  it
• 20:10
  takes
• 20:10
  a
• 20:10
  long
• 20:10
  time
• 20:11
  to
• 20:11
  develop.
• 20:11
  They
• 20:11
  don't
• 20:12
  just
• 20:12
  happen.
• 20:12
  No,
• 20:13
  they
• 20:13
  don't.
• 20:13
  And
• 20:14
  you
• 20:14
  have
• 20:14
  to
• 20:14
  work
• 20:14
  on
• 20:15
  them.
• 20:16
  And
• 20:16
  it's
• 20:16
  interesting
• 20:16
  that
• 20:17
  they
• 20:17
  sort
• 20:18
  of
• 20:18
  fight
• 20:19
  the
• 20:19
  primitive
• 20:20
  brain,
• 20:20
  which
• 20:20
  I
• 20:20
  never
• 20:21
  thought
• 20:21
  about
• 20:21
  really
• 20:22
  well.
• 20:23
  They're
• 20:23
  diametrically
• 20:23
  opposed.
• 20:24
  Their
• 20:24
  goals.
• 20:25
  Right.
• 20:26
  One
• 20:26
  is
• 20:26
  about
• 20:27
  deliberation
• 20:28
  and
• 20:28
  the
• 20:28
  other
• 20:29
  is
• 20:29
  about
• 20:29
  survival.
• 20:30
  Yeah,
• 20:31
  yeah.
• 20:31
  So
• 20:32
  we've
• 20:32
  got
• 20:32
  those
• 20:32
  two
• 20:33
  parts
• 20:33
  of
• 20:33
  the
• 20:33
  brain
• 20:34
  that
• 20:34
  are
• 20:34
  sort
• 20:35
  of
• 20:36
  just
• 20:36
  in
• 20:36
  conflict.
• 20:37
  And
• 20:38
  how
• 20:38
  do
• 20:38
  we
• 20:38
  bring
• 20:38
  those
• 20:39
  together
• 20:39
  as
• 20:40
  well?
• 20:42
  Well,
• 20:42
  I
• 20:42
  guess
• 20:42
  it's
• 20:42
  good
• 20:43
  that
• 20:43
  we
• 20:43
  have
• 20:44
  these
• 20:44
  different
• 20:44
  parts
• 20:45
  of
• 20:45
  our
• 20:45
  brain
• 20:46
  because
• 20:46
  they're
• 20:47
  probably
• 20:47
  what
• 20:47
  has
• 20:48
  helped
• 20:48
  us
• 20:48
  survive
• 20:49
  so
• 20:49
  long.
• 20:49
  You
• 20:50
  know,
• 20:50
  you
• 20:50
  need
• 20:50
  different
• 20:50
  things
• 20:51
  for
• 20:51
  different
• 20:51
  situations
• 20:52
  and
• 20:52
  circumstances.
• 20:53
  Yep,
• 20:54
  yep.
• 20:54
  And
• 20:55
  then
• 20:55
  here
• 20:55
  we
• 20:55
  get
• 20:55
  into.
• 20:56
  Now,
• 20:56
  first
• 20:57
  of
• 20:57
  all,
• 20:57
  there
• 20:57
  are
• 20:57
  cartoons,
• 20:58
  some
• 20:58
  more
• 20:58
  rhymes,
• 20:58
  more
• 20:59
  rhyming
• 20:59
  strategies.
• 21:00
  Go
• 21:00
  ahead.
• 21:00
  You
• 21:01
  want
• 21:01
  to
• 21:01
  engage,
• 21:02
  don't
• 21:02
  enrage.
• 21:03
  So
• 21:03
  when
• 21:03
  your
• 21:04
  child
• 21:04
  is
• 21:04
  angry
• 21:04
  and
• 21:04
  defiant,
• 21:05
  instead
• 21:05
  of
• 21:06
  getting
• 21:06
  angry
• 21:06
  at
• 21:06
  them,
• 21:07
  Observe.
• 21:07
  Say
• 21:08
  you
• 21:08
  look
• 21:08
  like
• 21:09
  you
• 21:09
  feel
• 21:09
  angry,
• 21:10
  right?
• 21:10
  And
• 21:11
  then
• 21:11
  you
• 21:11
  get
• 21:11
  the
• 21:11
  child
• 21:11
  to
• 21:12
  explain
• 21:12
  what's
• 21:12
  happening,
• 21:13
  so
• 21:13
  you
• 21:13
  might
• 21:13
  be
• 21:13
  able
• 21:13
  to
• 21:14
  help
• 21:14
  them
• 21:14
  to
• 21:14
  problem
• 21:14
  solve.
• 21:15
  I
• 21:15
  kind
• 21:15
  of
• 21:16
  wonder
• 21:16
  about
• 21:16
  that
• 21:16
  one
• 21:17
  a
• 21:18
  little
• 21:18
  bit.
• 21:18
  Me
• 21:18
  too.
• 21:20
  That
• 21:20
  feels.
• 21:20
  I
• 21:20
  don't.
• 21:21
  I
• 21:21
  feel
• 21:21
  like
• 21:21
  I
• 21:21
  would
• 21:21
  feel
• 21:22
  patronized.
• 21:22
  Yeah.
• 21:23
  I
• 21:23
  was
• 21:23
  gonna
• 21:24
  say
• 21:24
  the
• 21:24
  same
• 21:24
  thing.
• 21:24
  Like,
• 21:24
  I
• 21:25
  remember
• 21:25
  the.
• 21:25
  You
• 21:25
  know,
• 21:26
  your
• 21:26
  father
• 21:26
  and
• 21:27
  I
• 21:27
  never
• 21:27
  fight,
• 21:28
  but
• 21:29
  one
• 21:29
  of
• 21:29
  the
• 21:30
  few
• 21:30
  fights
• 21:30
  we
• 21:30
  got
• 21:31
  into
• 21:33
  which
• 21:33
  was
• 21:33
  over
• 21:35
  I
• 21:35
  wanted
• 21:35
  to.
• 21:35
  Was
• 21:35
  this.
• 21:36
  The
• 21:36
  renovation.
• 21:36
  The
• 21:37
  renovation
• 21:37
  fight.
• 21:38
  And
• 21:39
  it
• 21:39
  was.
• 21:40
  This
• 21:40
  is
• 21:40
  like
• 21:41
  lore
• 21:41
  in
• 21:41
  our
• 21:41
  family
• 21:43
  that.
• 21:43
  Yeah.
• 21:43
  Is
• 21:44
  that
• 21:44
  I
• 21:44
  wanted
• 21:45
  to
• 21:45
  build
• 21:45
  a
• 21:45
  tree
• 21:46
  house
• 21:46
  in
• 21:46
  the
• 21:46
  bedroom
• 21:47
  for
• 21:48
  you
• 21:48
  and
• 21:48
  your
• 21:48
  brother.
• 21:49
  When
• 21:49
  we
• 21:49
  were
• 21:49
  doing
• 21:50
  a
• 21:50
  renovation
• 21:51
  and
• 21:52
  everybody
• 21:52
  was.
• 21:53
  Seemed
• 21:53
  to
• 21:53
  be
• 21:54
  saying,
• 21:54
  yes,
• 21:54
  we're
• 21:55
  going
• 21:55
  to
• 21:55
  build
• 21:55
  the
• 21:55
  pre
• 21:55
  house.
• 21:56
  Yes,
• 21:56
  yes,
• 21:56
  yes.
• 21:57
  And
• 21:57
  then
• 21:57
  one
• 21:58
  day
• 21:58
  the
• 21:58
  architect
• 21:59
  says
• 21:59
  to
• 21:59
  me,
• 21:59
  your
• 22:00
  husband
• 22:00
  doesn't
• 22:01
  want
• 22:01
  it,
• 22:01
  so
• 22:01
  we're
• 22:02
  not
• 22:02
  doing
• 22:02
  it.
• 22:02
  And
• 22:02
  I
• 22:03
  was
• 22:03
  starting
• 22:03
  to
• 22:03
  go,
• 22:03
  what.
• 22:05
  What
• 22:06
  is
• 22:06
  this?
• 22:06
  Not
• 22:06
  my
• 22:07
  renovation
• 22:07
  too?
• 22:09
  And
• 22:09
  I
• 22:09
  got
• 22:09
  incredibly
• 22:10
  upset
• 22:10
  and
• 22:11
  called
• 22:12
  Mark.
• 22:12
  The
• 22:12
  architect.
• 22:13
  No,
• 22:13
  I
• 22:13
  called
• 22:13
  Mark.
• 22:14
  I
• 22:14
  called
• 22:15
  Mark.
• 22:15
  I
• 22:15
  pulled
• 22:15
  him
• 22:15
  out
• 22:16
  of
• 22:16
  a
• 22:16
  meeting.
• 22:17
  You
• 22:17
  probably
• 22:17
  pulled
• 22:18
  him
• 22:18
  out
• 22:18
  of
• 22:18
  court.
• 22:18
  I
• 22:18
  don't
• 22:19
  know
• 22:19
  what.
• 22:19
  But
• 22:19
  I
• 22:19
  pulled
• 22:20
  him
• 22:20
  out
• 22:20
  of
• 22:20
  a
• 22:20
  meeting.
• 22:21
  And
• 22:21
  I
• 22:22
  was
• 22:23
  just,
• 22:24
  I
• 22:24
  was,
• 22:24
  it
• 22:24
  was
• 22:24
  my
• 22:25
  primitive
• 22:25
  brain,
• 22:26
  I
• 22:26
  suppose,
• 22:26
  just
• 22:27
  going
• 22:27
  at
• 22:27
  it
• 22:27
  with
• 22:28
  him.
• 22:28
  And
• 22:29
  if
• 22:29
  he
• 22:29
  had
• 22:29
  said
• 22:30
  to
• 22:30
  me,
• 22:30
  you
• 22:31
  feel
• 22:31
  angry
• 22:31
  right
• 22:32
  now,
• 22:32
  don't
• 22:32
  you?
• 22:33
  You
• 22:33
  would
• 22:33
  have
• 22:33
  filed
• 22:33
  for
• 22:33
  divorce.
• 22:34
  Oh,
• 22:34
  I
• 22:34
  don't.
• 22:34
  I
• 22:34
  would
• 22:34
  have
• 22:35
  been
• 22:35
  like
• 22:35
  you
• 22:36
  better.
• 22:37
  I,
• 22:37
  I,
• 22:37
  you
• 22:38
  know,
• 22:38
  he
• 22:38
  actually
• 22:38
  handled
• 22:39
  me
• 22:39
  very
• 22:39
  well.
• 22:39
  But.
• 22:40
  Well,
• 22:40
  that's
• 22:40
  his
• 22:40
  job.
• 22:41
  He
• 22:41
  was
• 22:41
  good
• 22:42
  at
• 22:42
  it.
• 22:42
  But
• 22:42
  it,
• 22:42
  but.
• 22:43
  And
• 22:43
  we
• 22:43
  got
• 22:43
  through
• 22:44
  it.
• 22:44
  But
• 22:44
  I'm
• 22:44
  just
• 22:44
  saying,
• 22:45
  I,
• 22:45
  it
• 22:45
  just
• 22:45
  seems
• 22:46
  like.
• 22:46
  But
• 22:47
  maybe
• 22:47
  it
• 22:47
  could
• 22:47
  work
• 22:47
  with,
• 22:48
  with,
• 22:48
  with
• 22:48
  someone
• 22:49
  if,
• 22:49
  if
• 22:49
  you
• 22:50
  observe.
• 22:51
  Instead
• 22:51
  of
• 22:51
  getting
• 22:51
  a
• 22:51
  tree
• 22:52
  house,
• 22:52
  I
• 22:52
  ended
• 22:52
  up
• 22:52
  with
• 22:53
  a
• 22:53
  loft
• 22:53
  bed.
• 22:53
  But
• 22:54
  what
• 22:54
  we
• 22:54
  didn't
• 22:54
  anticipate
• 22:55
  was
• 22:55
  that
• 22:55
  the
• 22:56
  heating
• 22:56
  pipe
• 22:57
  was
• 22:57
  right
• 22:58
  next
• 22:58
  to
• 22:59
  my
• 22:59
  mattress
• 23:00
  and
• 23:00
  it
• 23:01
  was
• 23:01
  a
• 23:01
  sauna.
• 23:02
  I
• 23:02
  know,
• 23:03
  I'm
• 23:04
  sorry.
• 23:04
  The
• 23:04
  whole.
• 23:04
  It
• 23:05
  wasn't
• 23:05
  practical,
• 23:05
  but
• 23:06
  we
• 23:07
  got
• 23:07
  what
• 23:07
  we
• 23:07
  wanted.
• 23:08
  Sort
• 23:08
  of.
• 23:08
  Yeah.
• 23:09
  And
• 23:09
  that
• 23:09
  was
• 23:09
  enough.
• 23:10
  But,
• 23:10
  but
• 23:11
  I'm
• 23:11
  just
• 23:11
  saying
• 23:12
  it,
• 23:12
  it's
• 23:12
  interesting.
• 23:13
  Maybe
• 23:13
  this
• 23:13
  could
• 23:13
  work
• 23:14
  in
• 23:15
  gauge
• 23:15
  donate.
• 23:16
  Maybe
• 23:16
  with
• 23:16
  really
• 23:17
  little
• 23:17
  kids.
• 23:18
  Maybe.
• 23:18
  But
• 23:18
  I
• 23:19
  don't
• 23:19
  know.
• 23:19
  I
• 23:19
  feel
• 23:20
  like
• 23:20
  I
• 23:20
  would
• 23:20
  be
• 23:21
  insulted
• 23:22
  if
• 23:22
  I'm
• 23:22
  in
• 23:22
  the
• 23:22
  middle
• 23:23
  of.
• 23:23
  That
• 23:23
  would
• 23:24
  not
• 23:24
  really
• 23:24
  help
• 23:24
  me.
• 23:25
  It
• 23:25
  would
• 23:25
  be
• 23:25
  more
• 23:25
  like
• 23:25
  I'd
• 23:26
  be.
• 23:26
  Like,
• 23:26
  yes,
• 23:26
  obviously
• 23:27
  I
• 23:28
  am
• 23:28
  an
• 23:28
  idiot.
• 23:29
  Right.
• 23:30
  But
• 23:30
  maybe
• 23:30
  soft
• 23:31
  touch.
• 23:31
  But
• 23:32
  anyway,
• 23:32
  maybe
• 23:32
  you
• 23:32
  try
• 23:33
  it.
• 23:33
  Okay.
• 23:33
  So
• 23:33
  the
• 23:34
  next
• 23:34
  strategy
• 23:34
  is
• 23:34
  use
• 23:35
  it
• 23:35
  or
• 23:35
  lose
• 23:35
  it.
• 23:36
  Exercise
• 23:37
  the
• 23:37
  upper
• 23:37
  brain.
• 23:37
  So
• 23:38
  watch
• 23:38
  for
• 23:38
  ways
• 23:39
  to
• 23:39
  help
• 23:39
  your
• 23:39
  Child
• 23:39
  use
• 23:40
  their
• 23:40
  upper
• 23:40
  brain.
• 23:40
  Choices
• 23:41
  for
• 23:41
  decision
• 23:41
  making.
• 23:42
  Saving
• 23:43
  for
• 23:43
  a
• 23:43
  bigger
• 23:43
  purchase.
• 23:44
  Expressing
• 23:44
  feelings
• 23:45
  instead
• 23:45
  of
• 23:45
  blowing
• 23:46
  up.
• 23:46
  Self
• 23:47
  reflecting,
• 23:47
  considering
• 23:48
  someone
• 23:48
  else's
• 23:48
  feelings.
• 23:49
  Empathy,
• 23:50
  Asking
• 23:50
  hypothetical
• 23:51
  morality
• 23:51
  questions.
• 23:52
  Again,
• 23:53
  I'm
• 23:53
  sort
• 23:54
  of
• 23:54
  like,
• 23:55
  what
• 23:55
  age.
• 23:55
  Are
• 23:55
  we
• 23:56
  talking
• 23:56
  here?
• 23:56
  Well,
• 23:56
  these
• 23:57
  would
• 23:57
  be
• 23:57
  a
• 23:57
  little
• 23:57
  older
• 23:57
  kids.
• 23:58
  Is,
• 23:58
  is.
• 24:00
  And,
• 24:01
  and
• 24:01
  I
• 24:01
  do
• 24:01
  think
• 24:02
  I
• 24:02
  like
• 24:02
  the
• 24:03
  idea
• 24:04
  of,
• 24:04
  you
• 24:04
  know,
• 24:05
  teaching
• 24:05
  kids
• 24:05
  about
• 24:06
  their
• 24:06
  upper
• 24:06
  and
• 24:06
  their
• 24:07
  lower
• 24:07
  brain
• 24:08
  and
• 24:09
  trying
• 24:09
  to
• 24:09
  give
• 24:09
  kids
• 24:10
  the
• 24:10
  opportunity
• 24:11
  to
• 24:11
  practice
• 24:11
  executive
• 24:12
  function
• 24:12
  skills
• 24:13
  that
• 24:14
  are
• 24:14
  age
• 24:14
  appropriate
• 24:15
  as
• 24:15
  they're
• 24:15
  growing
• 24:16
  up.
• 24:16
  Yes,
• 24:16
  I
• 24:17
  think
• 24:17
  that's
• 24:17
  a
• 24:17
  good
• 24:17
  idea.
• 24:18
  That's
• 24:19
  what
• 24:19
  we
• 24:19
  do
• 24:19
  in
• 24:19
  habit,
• 24:19
  coach.
• 24:20
  I
• 24:20
  mean
• 24:20
  we
• 24:20
  do
• 24:21
  it,
• 24:21
  but
• 24:22
  we
• 24:22
  help
• 24:22
  people
• 24:22
  do
• 24:23
  that.
• 24:23
  We
• 24:23
  help
• 24:23
  people
• 24:24
  do
• 24:24
  that
• 24:24
  with
• 24:24
  their
• 24:24
  kids.
• 24:25
  So
• 24:25
  teen
• 24:26
  agrees.
• 24:26
  I
• 24:26
  would
• 24:27
  agree
• 24:27
  with
• 24:27
  that
• 24:27
  idea.
• 24:28
  It's
• 24:29
  not
• 24:29
  when
• 24:29
  you're
• 24:29
  in
• 24:29
  the
• 24:30
  middle.
• 24:30
  Of
• 24:30
  an
• 24:30
  upset,
• 24:31
  but
• 24:31
  you
• 24:32
  wait
• 24:32
  until
• 24:32
  after
• 24:33
  because
• 24:33
  again,
• 24:34
  then
• 24:34
  it's
• 24:34
  not
• 24:34
  charged.
• 24:35
  It's
• 24:36
  hard
• 24:36
  to
• 24:36
  communicate
• 24:37
  with
• 24:37
  anyone
• 24:38
  when
• 24:38
  they're
• 24:38
  in
• 24:38
  an
• 24:39
  emotionally
• 24:39
  charged
• 24:40
  situation.
• 24:40
  Because
• 24:41
  you're
• 24:41
  like
• 24:41
  seeing
• 24:42
  red,
• 24:42
  right?
• 24:43
  Exactly.
• 24:44
  But
• 24:44
  giving
• 24:44
  your
• 24:45
  child
• 24:45
  opportunities
• 24:46
  to
• 24:47
  use
• 24:47
  their
• 24:48
  prefrontal
• 24:49
  cortex
• 24:50
  and
• 24:50
  exercise
• 24:51
  their
• 24:51
  executive
• 24:51
  function
• 24:52
  skills
• 24:52
  in
• 24:53
  very
• 24:53
  age
• 24:53
  appropriate
• 24:54
  ways.
• 24:55
  Fantastic.
• 24:55
  I
• 24:56
  like
• 24:56
  that
• 24:56
  idea.
• 24:57
  Yes.
• 24:57
  And
• 24:57
  then
• 24:57
  move
• 24:57
  it
• 24:58
  or
• 24:58
  lose
• 24:58
  it.
• 24:58
  So
• 24:58
  when
• 24:59
  a
• 24:59
  child
• 24:59
  is
• 24:59
  upset,
• 24:59
  teach
• 25:00
  them
• 25:00
  to
• 25:00
  breathe.
• 25:01
  You
• 25:02
  know
• 25:02
  what
• 25:02
  drives
• 25:02
  me
• 25:03
  crazy
• 25:03
  about
• 25:03
  schools?
• 25:04
  When
• 25:05
  they're
• 25:05
  testing
• 25:05
  kids
• 25:06
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• 25:06
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• 25:06
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• 25:07
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• 25:07
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• 25:07
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• 25:11
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• 25:11
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• 25:11
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• 25:12
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• 25:12
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• 25:12
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• 25:13
  Are
• 25:13
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• 25:14
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• 25:15
  Would
• 25:15
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• 25:15
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• 25:15
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• 25:16
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• 25:16
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• 25:16
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• 25:17
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• 25:17
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• 25:17
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• 25:19
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• 25:19
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• 25:20
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• 25:21
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• 25:22
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• 25:22
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• 26:06
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• 26:07
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  mind
• 26:16
  isn't
• 26:17
  working,
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  I
• 26:18
  go
• 26:18
  to
• 26:18
  my
• 26:18
  physical
• 26:19
  body.
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  So
• 26:19
  if
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  I
• 26:19
  take
• 26:20
  a
• 26:20
  walk
• 26:20
  or
• 26:20
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• 26:20
  I
• 26:21
  go
• 26:21
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• 26:21
  out
• 26:22
  or
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• 26:22
  I
• 26:23
  just
• 26:23
  take
• 26:23
  10
• 26:24
  minutes
• 26:24
  and
• 26:24
  like
• 26:24
  putter
• 26:25
  around
• 26:25
  My
• 26:25
  house.
• 26:26
  I
• 26:26
  find
• 26:27
  I
• 26:27
  can
• 26:27
  often
• 26:27
  get
• 26:28
  back
• 26:28
  on
• 26:28
  track.
• 26:29
  Yep.
• 26:29
  I
• 26:29
  think
• 26:29
  that's
• 26:30
  good
• 26:30
  advice.
• 26:31
  Good
• 26:31
  advice.
• 26:31
  I'll
• 26:31
  take
• 26:32
  it.
• 26:32
  Take
• 26:32
  it.
• 26:32
  Yep.
• 26:33
  Take
• 26:33
  it.
• 26:33
  Run
• 26:34
  with
• 26:34
  it.
• 26:34
  Keep
• 26:34
  it.
• 26:35
  Next.
• 26:35
  Okay,
• 26:36
  chapter
• 26:36
  four.
• 26:37
  Chapter
• 26:37
  four.
• 26:38
  We're
• 26:38
  talking
• 26:38
  about
• 26:39
  integrating
• 26:40
  memory
• 26:40
  for
• 26:40
  growth
• 26:41
  and
• 26:41
  healing.
• 26:43
  Okay,
• 26:44
  so
• 26:44
  here
• 26:45
  they
• 26:45
  teach
• 26:45
  us
• 26:45
  about
• 26:46
  different
• 26:47
  kinds
• 26:47
  of
• 26:47
  memories
• 26:48
  that
• 26:48
  we
• 26:48
  have.
• 26:50
  Some
• 26:50
  are
• 26:52
  what
• 26:53
  they
• 26:53
  call.
• 26:54
  Wait
• 26:54
  a
• 26:54
  minute.
• 26:55
  Implicit
• 26:55
  memories.
• 26:56
  This
• 26:56
  was
• 26:56
  a
• 26:56
  cool
• 26:57
  topic
• 26:57
  versus
• 26:58
  explicit
• 26:58
  memories.
• 26:59
  Confusing,
• 26:59
  but
• 26:59
  interesting.
• 27:00
  Yeah,
• 27:00
  it
• 27:00
  took
• 27:00
  me.
• 27:01
  I
• 27:01
  had
• 27:01
  to
• 27:01
  keep
• 27:01
  going,
• 27:02
  as
• 27:02
  you
• 27:02
  see.
• 27:02
  I'm
• 27:02
  even
• 27:02
  going.
• 27:03
  I
• 27:03
  felt
• 27:03
  like
• 27:03
  I
• 27:03
  was
• 27:04
  in
• 27:04
  Inception
• 27:04
  again.
• 27:05
  Oh,
• 27:06
  just
• 27:06
  because
• 27:06
  you
• 27:07
  were
• 27:07
  having
• 27:07
  to.
• 27:07
  I
• 27:08
  was
• 27:08
  like,
• 27:08
  is
• 27:08
  this
• 27:08
  a
• 27:08
  dream
• 27:09
  within
• 27:09
  a
• 27:10
  dream?
• 27:11
  Which
• 27:11
  dream
• 27:11
  am
• 27:11
  I
• 27:12
  in?
• 27:12
  Well,
• 27:12
  they.
• 27:13
  They
• 27:13
  explain
• 27:14
  what
• 27:14
  an
• 27:15
  explicit
• 27:15
  memory
• 27:16
  is,
• 27:16
  which
• 27:16
  is
• 27:17
  just
• 27:17
  when
• 27:17
  you
• 27:17
  can
• 27:18
  talk,
• 27:18
  recall
• 27:19
  an
• 27:19
  event
• 27:20
  that
• 27:21
  happened
• 27:21
  to
• 27:21
  you,
• 27:22
  and
• 27:22
  you
• 27:22
  just
• 27:22
  remember,
• 27:23
  like,
• 27:23
  the
• 27:23
  first
• 27:24
  time
• 27:24
  someone
• 27:25
  taught
• 27:25
  you
• 27:25
  to
• 27:25
  swim
• 27:26
  and
• 27:26
  you
• 27:26
  remember,
• 27:27
  you
• 27:27
  know,
• 27:27
  going
• 27:28
  to
• 27:28
  the
• 27:28
  pool.
• 27:28
  I
• 27:29
  remember
• 27:29
  being
• 27:29
  drowned
• 27:30
  by
• 27:30
  a
• 27:30
  man
• 27:30
  named
• 27:31
  Carlos
• 27:31
  with
• 27:31
  a
• 27:31
  ponytail.
• 27:32
  Right,
• 27:32
  but
• 27:33
  that
• 27:33
  would
• 27:33
  be
• 27:33
  your
• 27:33
  implicit
• 27:34
  memory.
• 27:34
  Yeah.
• 27:35
  Telling
• 27:35
  me,
• 27:35
  blow
• 27:35
  bubbles.
• 27:36
  Yes,
• 27:37
  that
• 27:37
  was
• 27:37
  exactly.
• 27:38
  But
• 27:39
  he.
• 27:39
  Okay.
• 27:40
  The
• 27:40
  explicit
• 27:41
  memory
• 27:41
  is
• 27:41
  just
• 27:41
  remembering
• 27:42
  the
• 27:42
  event
• 27:42
  itself.
• 27:44
  The
• 27:44
  implicit
• 27:45
  memory,
• 27:46
  though,
• 27:46
  is
• 27:48
  when
• 27:48
  you
• 27:48
  remember
• 27:49
  how
• 27:49
  to
• 27:49
  do
• 27:50
  something
• 27:50
  but
• 27:50
  not
• 27:51
  think
• 27:51
  about
• 27:51
  it,
• 27:51
  but
• 27:52
  without
• 27:52
  ever
• 27:52
  thinking
• 27:52
  about
• 27:53
  it.
• 27:53
  So
• 27:53
  now
• 27:54
  you
• 27:54
  can
• 27:54
  get
• 27:54
  in
• 27:54
  a
• 27:54
  pool
• 27:55
  and
• 27:55
  you
• 27:55
  can
• 27:55
  put
• 27:55
  your
• 27:55
  head
• 27:56
  under,
• 27:56
  and
• 27:56
  you
• 27:57
  can.
• 27:57
  And
• 27:57
  not
• 27:57
  feel
• 27:58
  the
• 27:58
  fear
• 27:58
  and
• 27:58
  trauma
• 27:59
  of
• 27:59
  a
• 27:59
  man
• 27:59
  10
• 28:00
  times
• 28:00
  my
• 28:00
  size
• 28:00
  trying
• 28:01
  to
• 28:01
  drown
• 28:01
  me.
• 28:02
  Well,
• 28:02
  I
• 28:03
  can't.
• 28:04
  And
• 28:04
  what
• 28:04
  they
• 28:04
  talk
• 28:05
  about
• 28:05
  here
• 28:05
  is
• 28:06
  that
• 28:06
  sometimes
• 28:07
  a
• 28:07
  memories
• 28:07
  memory
• 28:08
  is
• 28:08
  charged
• 28:09
  with
• 28:09
  emotion.
• 28:10
  Like
• 28:10
  I
• 28:10
  did.
• 28:11
  Okay.
• 28:11
  I
• 28:11
  signed
• 28:11
  you
• 28:12
  up
• 28:12
  for
• 28:12
  swimming
• 28:12
  lessons.
• 28:13
  Yes.
• 28:13
  And
• 28:14
  you
• 28:14
  were
• 28:14
  very
• 28:14
  young.
• 28:15
  And
• 28:15
  the
• 28:16
  man
• 28:16
  that
• 28:16
  we're
• 28:17
  talking
• 28:17
  about.
• 28:18
  Who
• 28:18
  also
• 28:18
  only
• 28:19
  wore
• 28:19
  Speedos.
• 28:20
  Okay.
• 28:22
  Yes,
• 28:22
  he
• 28:23
  did,
• 28:23
  but
• 28:24
  he.
• 28:25
  He
• 28:25
  would
• 28:25
  go,
• 28:26
  1,
• 28:26
  2,
• 28:26
  3,
• 28:27
  bubbles,
• 28:28
  and
• 28:28
  then
• 28:29
  he'd
• 28:29
  stick
• 28:29
  your
• 28:29
  head
• 28:29
  underwater,
• 28:30
  and
• 28:30
  then
• 28:31
  your
• 28:31
  head
• 28:31
  would
• 28:31
  come
• 28:31
  up
• 28:32
  and
• 28:32
  you'd
• 28:32
  be
• 28:32
  screaming,
• 28:33
  gasping
• 28:34
  for
• 28:34
  life.
• 28:34
  That's
• 28:35
  how
• 28:35
  he
• 28:35
  taught
• 28:35
  you
• 28:35
  to
• 28:36
  breathe
• 28:36
  underwater.
• 28:37
  And
• 28:37
  I
• 28:37
  don't
• 28:37
  seem
• 28:38
  like
• 28:38
  there
• 28:38
  are
• 28:38
  particular
• 28:39
  ways
• 28:39
  underwater.
• 28:40
  Yeah.
• 28:40
  He
• 28:41
  was
• 28:41
  teaching
• 28:41
  you
• 28:41
  not
• 28:41
  to
• 28:42
  breathe
• 28:42
  underwater.
• 28:42
  Yeah,
• 28:43
  that's
• 28:43
  how
• 28:43
  he
• 28:43
  was
• 28:44
  doing
• 28:44
  it.
• 28:44
  And
• 28:45
  I
• 28:45
  remember
• 28:45
  the
• 28:46
  other
• 28:46
  parents
• 28:46
  sit
• 28:46
  around
• 28:47
  the
• 28:47
  pool
• 28:47
  going,
• 28:48
  is
• 28:48
  that
• 28:48
  safe?
• 28:50
  Is
• 28:50
  that
• 28:51
  a
• 28:51
  good
• 28:51
  thing?
• 28:51
  And
• 28:52
  I'm
• 28:52
  like,
• 28:52
  I
• 28:52
  don't
• 28:52
  know
• 28:53
  how
• 28:53
  they
• 28:53
  teach
• 28:53
  children.
• 28:54
  I
• 28:54
  mean,
• 28:54
  I
• 28:54
  had
• 28:55
  no
• 28:55
  idea.
• 28:55
  I
• 28:55
  remember
• 28:55
  how
• 28:55
  he's
• 28:56
  a
• 28:56
  poof.
• 28:56
  Learned
• 28:57
  in
• 28:57
  the
• 28:57
  Guadalupe
• 28:58
  River.
• 28:58
  Right.
• 28:58
  I
• 28:59
  did,
• 28:59
  but.
• 29:00
  But
• 29:00
  I
• 29:00
  don't
• 29:00
  know
• 29:01
  how
• 29:01
  I
• 29:01
  learned.
• 29:01
  But.
• 29:01
  But
• 29:02
  you
• 29:02
  learned
• 29:02
  in
• 29:02
  a
• 29:02
  pool
• 29:03
  with.
• 29:03
  With
• 29:03
  this
• 29:03
  guy.
• 29:04
  And.
• 29:05
  But.
• 29:05
  But.
• 29:05
  So
• 29:06
  there
• 29:06
  was
• 29:06
  a
• 29:06
  lot
• 29:06
  of
• 29:06
  negative
• 29:07
  emotion
• 29:07
  around
• 29:07
  it.
• 29:08
  So
• 29:08
  let's
• 29:08
  say
• 29:09
  later
• 29:10
  you
• 29:10
  might
• 29:11
  not
• 29:11
  Want
• 29:11
  to
• 29:11
  go
• 29:12
  in
• 29:12
  the
• 29:12
  pool.
• 29:12
  It's
• 29:13
  because
• 29:13
  you
• 29:13
  have
• 29:14
  these
• 29:14
  deep
• 29:14
  seated
• 29:15
  negative
• 29:15
  emotions
• 29:16
  around
• 29:16
  swimming.
• 29:17
  I
• 29:17
  also
• 29:18
  always
• 29:18
  was
• 29:18
  jealous
• 29:19
  of
• 29:19
  Sam
• 29:19
  because
• 29:19
  Sam
• 29:20
  got
• 29:20
  ear
• 29:20
  infections
• 29:21
  and
• 29:21
  Sam
• 29:21
  got
• 29:21
  to
• 29:21
  wear
• 29:21
  earplugs
• 29:22
  and
• 29:22
  a
• 29:22
  headband
• 29:23
  and
• 29:23
  goggles
• 29:23
  in
• 29:24
  the
• 29:24
  pool.
• 29:24
  And
• 29:24
  I
• 29:25
  didn't
• 29:25
  get
• 29:26
  any
• 29:26
  of
• 29:26
  the
• 29:26
  accessories,
• 29:27
  and
• 29:27
  I
• 29:27
  was.
• 29:28
  He
• 29:28
  get
• 29:28
  all
• 29:28
  the
• 29:28
  cool
• 29:29
  accessories
• 29:29
  and
• 29:29
  I
• 29:29
  get
• 29:30
  nothing.
• 29:30
  He
• 29:30
  looked
• 29:31
  horrible
• 29:31
  when
• 29:32
  he
• 29:32
  went
• 29:32
  in
• 29:32
  the
• 29:32
  pool.
• 29:34
  He
• 29:34
  looked
• 29:34
  like
• 29:34
  a
• 29:34
  frog.
• 29:36
  It
• 29:36
  was
• 29:36
  like,
• 29:37
  I
• 29:37
  wanted
• 29:38
  to
• 29:38
  be
• 29:38
  that
• 29:39
  so
• 29:39
  badly.
• 29:40
  I
• 29:40
  didn't
• 29:40
  know
• 29:40
  that.
• 29:41
  Yeah.
• 29:41
  I
• 29:42
  remember
• 29:42
  telling
• 29:42
  you,
• 29:42
  and
• 29:43
  you
• 29:43
  were
• 29:43
  like,
• 29:43
  skylar,
• 29:43
  you
• 29:43
  don't
• 29:44
  need
• 29:44
  all
• 29:44
  that.
• 29:44
  And
• 29:44
  I
• 29:44
  don't
• 29:45
  have
• 29:45
  the
• 29:45
  energy
• 29:45
  to
• 29:45
  put
• 29:45
  all
• 29:46
  that
• 29:46
  on
• 29:46
  you
• 29:46
  before
• 29:46
  you
• 29:46
  go
• 29:47
  and
• 29:47
  drown
• 29:47
  in
• 29:47
  the
• 29:47
  pool.
• 29:48
  That's
• 29:49
  hysterical.
• 29:49
  I
• 29:50
  had
• 29:50
  no
• 29:50
  idea.
• 29:50
  I
• 29:50
  was
• 29:51
  very
• 29:51
  jealous
• 29:51
  of
• 29:51
  Sam
• 29:52
  and
• 29:52
  his
• 29:52
  accessories.
• 29:53
  Anyway,
• 29:53
  did
• 29:53
  we
• 29:54
  ruin.
• 29:54
  Okay.
• 29:54
  Do
• 29:55
  you
• 29:55
  understand
• 29:55
  explicit
• 29:56
  memory
• 29:56
  versus
• 29:57
  implicit
• 29:57
  memory.
• 29:58
  Mostly
• 29:59
  explicit.
• 30:00
  You
• 30:01
  remember
• 30:01
  going
• 30:01
  to
• 30:02
  the
• 30:02
  pool
• 30:02
  and
• 30:02
  having
• 30:02
  him
• 30:03
  do
• 30:03
  that
• 30:03
  to
• 30:03
  you.
• 30:04
  Implicit.
• 30:05
  Now
• 30:05
  you
• 30:05
  can
• 30:05
  get
• 30:06
  in
• 30:06
  the
• 30:06
  pool
• 30:06
  and
• 30:06
  you
• 30:06
  know
• 30:07
  what
• 30:07
  to
• 30:07
  do.
• 30:07
  Yeah,
• 30:07
  I
• 30:07
  know
• 30:08
  how
• 30:08
  to
• 30:08
  swim.
• 30:08
  Okay.
• 30:09
  So
• 30:09
  he
• 30:09
  says
• 30:10
  sometimes,
• 30:11
  or
• 30:11
  they
• 30:11
  say
• 30:12
  sometimes,
• 30:12
  if
• 30:13
  kids
• 30:13
  behave
• 30:14
  uncharacteristically
• 30:15
  about
• 30:15
  something,
• 30:16
  they
• 30:16
  might
• 30:17
  have
• 30:17
  a
• 30:17
  deep
• 30:17
  seated
• 30:18
  fear
• 30:18
  about
• 30:18
  it,
• 30:19
  and
• 30:19
  it
• 30:19
  might
• 30:19
  have
• 30:20
  something
• 30:20
  to
• 30:20
  do
• 30:20
  with
• 30:20
  the
• 30:21
  memory.
• 30:23
  And
• 30:23
  what
• 30:23
  he
• 30:23
  says
• 30:24
  is,
• 30:24
  is
• 30:25
  memories
• 30:25
  that
• 30:25
  are
• 30:26
  not
• 30:26
  examined
• 30:27
  cause
• 30:28
  problems
• 30:28
  for
• 30:29
  people.
• 30:29
  Like,
• 30:30
  let's
• 30:30
  say
• 30:30
  in
• 30:30
  this
• 30:31
  case,
• 30:31
  you
• 30:31
  did
• 30:32
  have
• 30:32
  a
• 30:32
  fear
• 30:33
  of
• 30:33
  swimming.
• 30:34
  And
• 30:34
  I
• 30:34
  wouldn't
• 30:34
  know
• 30:35
  why
• 30:36
  that
• 30:36
  might
• 30:36
  be
• 30:37
  the
• 30:37
  reason
• 30:37
  if
• 30:37
  we
• 30:38
  talked
• 30:38
  about
• 30:38
  it.
• 30:39
  And
• 30:40
  you
• 30:40
  and
• 30:40
  I
• 30:40
  just
• 30:41
  tell
• 30:41
  me
• 30:41
  the
• 30:41
  story
• 30:42
  of
• 30:42
  learning
• 30:42
  to
• 30:43
  swim.
• 30:43
  And
• 30:44
  you
• 30:44
  brought
• 30:44
  out
• 30:44
  the
• 30:45
  fact
• 30:45
  that,
• 30:45
  well,
• 30:46
  he
• 30:46
  stuck
• 30:47
  me
• 30:47
  under
• 30:48
  the
• 30:48
  water
• 30:48
  and
• 30:49
  I
• 30:49
  thought
• 30:49
  I
• 30:49
  was
• 30:49
  going
• 30:50
  to
• 30:50
  drown.
• 30:51
  And
• 30:51
  I
• 30:51
  let
• 30:51
  you
• 30:51
  say
• 30:52
  that.
• 30:52
  And
• 30:53
  then
• 30:53
  you
• 30:53
  say,
• 30:53
  I
• 30:53
  was
• 30:54
  so
• 30:54
  jealous
• 30:55
  of
• 30:55
  Sam
• 30:55
  because
• 30:56
  he
• 30:56
  got
• 30:56
  to.
• 30:56
  Wear
• 30:56
  all
• 30:56
  the
• 30:57
  cool
• 30:57
  headbands
• 30:58
  and
• 30:58
  earplugs
• 30:59
  and
• 30:59
  goggles,
• 30:59
  and
• 31:00
  I
• 31:00
  didn't.
• 31:00
  And
• 31:00
  I'm
• 31:01
  angry
• 31:01
  about
• 31:01
  that.
• 31:01
  And
• 31:02
  if
• 31:02
  you
• 31:02
  were
• 31:02
  able
• 31:02
  to
• 31:02
  express
• 31:03
  all
• 31:03
  of
• 31:03
  those
• 31:04
  things,
• 31:04
  that.
• 31:05
  That
• 31:05
  would
• 31:05
  allow
• 31:06
  your.
• 31:07
  Your
• 31:08
  upper
• 31:08
  and
• 31:08
  lower,
• 31:09
  your
• 31:09
  memories
• 31:10
  to
• 31:10
  come
• 31:10
  together
• 31:10
  and
• 31:11
  integrate
• 31:11
  and
• 31:12
  integrate.
• 31:12
  And
• 31:13
  then
• 31:13
  you
• 31:13
  would
• 31:13
  get
• 31:13
  over
• 31:14
  your
• 31:14
  fear.
• 31:14
  That's
• 31:15
  what
• 31:15
  they're
• 31:15
  saying,
• 31:15
  essentially,
• 31:17
  so.
• 31:17
  So
• 31:17
  that
• 31:18
  if
• 31:18
  your
• 31:18
  child
• 31:18
  behaves
• 31:19
  uncharacteristically
• 31:20
  about
• 31:20
  something,
• 31:22
  you
• 31:22
  may
• 31:22
  want
• 31:22
  to
• 31:23
  try
• 31:23
  to
• 31:23
  go
• 31:23
  back
• 31:24
  and
• 31:24
  examine
• 31:26
  why,
• 31:27
  what
• 31:27
  it
• 31:27
  is.
• 31:27
  And
• 31:27
  again,
• 31:27
  it
• 31:28
  comes
• 31:28
  back
• 31:28
  to
• 31:28
  storytelling.
• 31:29
  Yes.
• 31:30
  Asking
• 31:30
  your
• 31:30
  child
• 31:31
  to
• 31:31
  tell
• 31:31
  you
• 31:31
  about
• 31:32
  what
• 31:32
  you
• 31:33
  know,
• 31:33
  let's
• 31:33
  think
• 31:33
  back
• 31:34
  to
• 31:34
  the
• 31:34
  first
• 31:34
  time
• 31:35
  you
• 31:35
  did
• 31:35
  this.
• 31:35
  Tell
• 31:36
  me
• 31:36
  what
• 31:36
  happened.
• 31:37
  And
• 31:37
  you
• 31:37
  just
• 31:37
  encourage
• 31:38
  your
• 31:38
  child.
• 31:38
  Well,
• 31:39
  right.
• 31:40
  And
• 31:40
  then
• 31:41
  they
• 31:41
  start
• 31:41
  telling
• 31:41
  you.
• 31:42
  And
• 31:42
  then
• 31:42
  you.
• 31:43
  The
• 31:43
  more
• 31:43
  they
• 31:43
  say
• 31:44
  it,
• 31:44
  then
• 31:45
  the
• 31:45
  less
• 31:45
  Scary.
• 31:46
  It
• 31:46
  becomes.
• 31:47
  I
• 31:48
  had
• 31:48
  no
• 31:48
  idea
• 31:48
  you
• 31:49
  wanted
• 31:49
  to
• 31:49
  look
• 31:49
  like
• 31:50
  Sam.
• 31:50
  Oh,
• 31:50
  my
• 31:50
  God.
• 31:51
  I
• 31:51
  wanted
• 31:51
  to
• 31:51
  look
• 31:51
  like
• 31:52
  Sam.
• 31:52
  Was
• 31:53
  so
• 31:53
  jealous.
• 31:54
  Oh,
• 31:54
  gosh.
• 31:54
  He
• 31:55
  looked
• 31:55
  so
• 31:56
  corny.
• 31:57
  I
• 31:57
  loved
• 31:57
  it.
• 31:57
  Oh,
• 31:58
  my
• 31:58
  God.
• 31:58
  It
• 31:58
  was
• 31:59
  all
• 31:59
  I
• 31:59
  wanted.
• 31:59
  I
• 31:59
  love
• 32:00
  an
• 32:00
  accessory.
• 32:00
  Yeah,
• 32:01
  I
• 32:01
  know.
• 32:01
  I
• 32:01
  remember
• 32:02
  when
• 32:02
  we
• 32:02
  were
• 32:02
  doing
• 32:03
  tennis
• 32:03
  lessons,
• 32:04
  all
• 32:04
  you
• 32:04
  wanted
• 32:04
  was
• 32:05
  a
• 32:05
  tennis
• 32:05
  dress.
• 32:06
  Yep.
• 32:06
  You
• 32:06
  wanted
• 32:07
  the
• 32:07
  whole
• 32:07
  outfit.
• 32:08
  You
• 32:08
  didn't
• 32:08
  want
• 32:08
  the
• 32:08
  lessons.
• 32:09
  Same
• 32:09
  with
• 32:09
  golf.
• 32:11
  I
• 32:11
  was
• 32:11
  like,
• 32:11
  I
• 32:11
  just.
• 32:12
  I
• 32:12
  just
• 32:12
  want
• 32:12
  the
• 32:12
  shorts.
• 32:14
  I'm
• 32:14
  here
• 32:14
  for
• 32:14
  the
• 32:14
  shorts
• 32:15
  and
• 32:15
  for
• 32:15
  the
• 32:15
  cardigan,
• 32:16
  and
• 32:16
  that's
• 32:16
  it.
• 32:17
  Okay.
• 32:18
  I
• 32:18
  don't
• 32:18
  need
• 32:18
  clubs.
• 32:20
  I'm
• 32:20
  good.
• 32:20
  Well,
• 32:20
  now,
• 32:20
  here's
• 32:21
  something,
• 32:21
  though,
• 32:21
  that
• 32:22
  this
• 32:22
  is
• 32:22
  what.
• 32:22
  This
• 32:23
  is
• 32:23
  number
• 32:23
  six.
• 32:24
  Because
• 32:25
  number
• 32:25
  six
• 32:25
  strategy,
• 32:26
  where
• 32:26
  he
• 32:26
  talks
• 32:27
  about
• 32:27
  when
• 32:27
  your
• 32:27
  child
• 32:28
  is
• 32:28
  telling
• 32:28
  a.
• 32:29
  Story,
• 32:29
  the
• 32:29
  remote
• 32:30
  mind.
• 32:30
  The
• 32:30
  remote
• 32:31
  of
• 32:31
  the
• 32:31
  mind
• 32:32
  that
• 32:33
  if
• 32:33
  your
• 32:33
  child
• 32:33
  resists
• 32:34
  telling
• 32:34
  you
• 32:35
  the
• 32:35
  story,
• 32:35
  it
• 32:35
  might
• 32:35
  be.
• 32:36
  It's
• 32:36
  too
• 32:36
  scary
• 32:36
  for
• 32:37
  them.
• 32:37
  And
• 32:38
  so
• 32:38
  you
• 32:38
  tell
• 32:38
  them.
• 32:39
  Let's
• 32:39
  imagine
• 32:40
  you
• 32:40
  have
• 32:40
  a
• 32:40
  remote
• 32:40
  control.
• 32:41
  And
• 32:42
  we
• 32:42
  can
• 32:42
  stop
• 32:43
  the
• 32:43
  story
• 32:44
  at
• 32:44
  any
• 32:44
  point
• 32:45
  and
• 32:45
  we
• 32:45
  can
• 32:45
  skip
• 32:46
  over
• 32:46
  the
• 32:46
  scary
• 32:46
  point
• 32:47
  parts.
• 32:47
  Yes.
• 32:48
  So
• 32:48
  you
• 32:49
  start
• 32:49
  the
• 32:49
  story,
• 32:49
  but
• 32:50
  when
• 32:50
  you
• 32:50
  want
• 32:50
  to
• 32:51
  stop,
• 32:51
  just
• 32:51
  say
• 32:51
  pause.
• 32:52
  We'll
• 32:53
  jump
• 32:53
  over
• 32:53
  the
• 32:54
  scary
• 32:54
  parts
• 32:54
  and
• 32:55
  we'll
• 32:55
  keep
• 32:55
  going.
• 32:56
  And
• 32:56
  so
• 32:56
  you
• 32:57
  teach
• 32:57
  them
• 32:57
  to
• 32:57
  tell
• 32:58
  the
• 32:58
  story
• 32:58
  using
• 32:59
  the
• 32:59
  remote
• 32:59
  of
• 33:00
  their
• 33:00
  mind.
• 33:00
  The
• 33:00
  remote
• 33:01
  of
• 33:01
  the
• 33:02
  mind.
• 33:02
  Right.
• 33:03
  And
• 33:03
  so
• 33:03
  they
• 33:04
  use
• 33:04
  the
• 33:04
  story
• 33:05
  and
• 33:05
  they.
• 33:06
  They.
• 33:06
  They
• 33:06
  use
• 33:06
  the
• 33:06
  remote
• 33:07
  and
• 33:07
  they
• 33:07
  tell
• 33:07
  the
• 33:08
  story,
• 33:08
  but
• 33:08
  they
• 33:08
  skip
• 33:08
  the
• 33:09
  scary
• 33:09
  parts.
• 33:09
  And
• 33:10
  then
• 33:10
  you
• 33:10
  say,
• 33:10
  okay,
• 33:10
  tell
• 33:11
  the
• 33:11
  story
• 33:11
  again.
• 33:11
  And
• 33:12
  each
• 33:12
  time
• 33:12
  they
• 33:12
  can
• 33:13
  go
• 33:13
  farther
• 33:13
  and
• 33:13
  farther
• 33:14
  until
• 33:14
  they
• 33:14
  can
• 33:15
  get
• 33:15
  through
• 33:15
  the.
• 33:15
  The
• 33:15
  whole
• 33:16
  story.
• 33:17
  And
• 33:17
  then
• 33:18
  they
• 33:18
  have
• 33:18
  integrated
• 33:19
  the
• 33:19
  memories,
• 33:20
  and
• 33:20
  it's
• 33:20
  not
• 33:21
  so
• 33:21
  such
• 33:22
  a
• 33:22
  scary,
• 33:23
  powerful
• 33:23
  force
• 33:24
  for
• 33:24
  them
• 33:24
  anymore.
• 33:25
  Oh,
• 33:26
  my
• 33:26
  God.
• 33:26
  I'm
• 33:26
  looking
• 33:26
  at
• 33:26
  my
• 33:26
  notes
• 33:27
  versus
• 33:27
  your
• 33:27
  notes,
• 33:28
  and
• 33:28
  my
• 33:28
  notes
• 33:29
  are
• 33:30
  insane.
• 33:32
  It's
• 33:32
  just
• 33:32
  like
• 33:32
  two
• 33:33
  words.
• 33:34
  Dash,
• 33:34
  dash,
• 33:35
  dash,
• 33:35
  dash.
• 33:36
  That's
• 33:36
  because
• 33:37
  I
• 33:37
  guess
• 33:38
  my
• 33:38
  organizational
• 33:39
  skills
• 33:39
  are
• 33:39
  better.
• 33:40
  Yeah.
• 33:41
  My
• 33:41
  notes
• 33:42
  are
• 33:42
  illegible.
• 33:43
  Okay,
• 33:44
  so
• 33:45
  let's
• 33:45
  use
• 33:45
  my
• 33:45
  emotional
• 33:46
  contagion
• 33:46
  upstairs
• 33:47
  and
• 33:47
  downstairs
• 33:48
  tantrums.
• 33:49
  The
• 33:49
  stairway
• 33:50
  of
• 33:50
  integration.
• 33:51
  Well,
• 33:52
  that's
• 33:52
  that.
• 33:52
  I
• 33:53
  remember
• 33:53
  what
• 33:53
  that
• 33:54
  is.
• 33:54
  That's
• 33:54
  when
• 33:54
  you're
• 33:55
  bringing
• 33:55
  the
• 33:55
  upper
• 33:56
  and
• 33:56
  lower
• 33:56
  minds
• 33:57
  together.
• 33:57
  Yeah.
• 33:58
  Then
• 33:58
  you
• 33:59
  have
• 34:00
  a
• 34:00
  stairway
• 34:00
  integrating
• 34:01
  those
• 34:02
  two
• 34:02
  parts.
• 34:03
  Neurons
• 34:03
  that
• 34:03
  fire
• 34:04
  together,
• 34:05
  wire
• 34:05
  together.
• 34:06
  That's
• 34:06
  another.
• 34:07
  The
• 34:07
  chaos
• 34:08
  bank.
• 34:09
  Oh,
• 34:10
  Skyler,
• 34:10
  let's
• 34:11
  just
• 34:11
  look
• 34:11
  at
• 34:11
  my
• 34:11
  notes.
• 34:12
  Yeah,
• 34:12
  we're
• 34:12
  not
• 34:12
  going
• 34:12
  to
• 34:12
  look
• 34:13
  at.
• 34:13
  My
• 34:13
  notes
• 34:13
  anymore
• 34:13
  because
• 34:14
  they
• 34:14
  don't
• 34:14
  make
• 34:15
  any
• 34:15
  sense.
• 34:15
  Okay.
• 34:16
  Okay.
• 34:17
  Now
• 34:17
  here's
• 34:17
  another
• 34:18
  part.
• 34:18
  Okay.
• 34:19
  This
• 34:19
  is
• 34:20
  something
• 34:21
  called
• 34:21
  remember
• 34:22
  to
• 34:22
  remember.
• 34:22
  Another
• 34:23
  strategy.
• 34:23
  Remember
• 34:24
  to
• 34:24
  remember.
• 34:25
  Remember.
• 34:25
  Right.
• 34:26
  Make
• 34:26
  your
• 34:27
  child's
• 34:28
  implicit
• 34:28
  memories
• 34:29
  explicit
• 34:31
  and
• 34:31
  do
• 34:31
  that
• 34:31
  by
• 34:32
  asking
• 34:32
  them
• 34:33
  questions
• 34:33
  all
• 34:34
  the
• 34:34
  time,
• 34:34
  every
• 34:34
  day
• 34:35
  to
• 34:35
  talk
• 34:36
  to
• 34:36
  you
• 34:36
  about
• 34:37
  today's
• 34:38
  events.
• 34:38
  Like,
• 34:38
  you
• 34:39
  don't
• 34:39
  want
• 34:39
  them
• 34:39
  burying
• 34:40
  memories
• 34:42
  because
• 34:42
  you
• 34:43
  didn't
• 34:43
  ask
• 34:43
  her.
• 34:43
  You
• 34:44
  didn't
• 34:44
  get
• 34:44
  them
• 34:44
  to
• 34:44
  talk.
• 34:45
  So
• 34:46
  ask
• 34:46
  them
• 34:46
  about
• 34:47
  problems
• 34:47
  that
• 34:47
  happen
• 34:48
  during
• 34:48
  the
• 34:48
  day.
• 34:49
  Encourage
• 34:49
  them
• 34:49
  to
• 34:49
  journal,
• 34:50
  which
• 34:50
  a
• 34:50
  lot
• 34:50
  of
• 34:51
  kids
• 34:51
  probably
• 34:51
  don't
• 34:51
  want
• 34:51
  to
• 34:52
  do.
• 34:52
  I
• 34:53
  know.
• 34:53
  Homework.
• 34:53
  I
• 34:54
  know
• 34:54
  it
• 34:54
  feels
• 34:54
  like
• 34:54
  homework,
• 34:55
  but
• 34:55
  with
• 34:56
  young
• 34:56
  kids.
• 34:56
  I
• 34:57
  thought
• 34:57
  this
• 34:57
  was
• 34:57
  a
• 34:57
  great
• 34:57
  idea,
• 34:58
  even
• 34:58
  for
• 34:58
  older
• 34:59
  kids.
• 34:59
  Tell
• 35:00
  me
• 35:00
  three
• 35:00
  things
• 35:01
  that
• 35:01
  happened,
• 35:01
  and
• 35:02
  one
• 35:02
  will
• 35:02
  be
• 35:02
  a
• 35:03
  lie,
• 35:03
  and
• 35:04
  I'll
• 35:04
  guess
• 35:04
  which
• 35:04
  is
• 35:05
  a
• 35:05
  lie.
• 35:05
  That's
• 35:06
  cute.
• 35:06
  That's
• 35:07
  really
• 35:07
  good.
• 35:07
  Or
• 35:08
  what's
• 35:08
  your
• 35:08
  high
• 35:08
  point
• 35:09
  of
• 35:09
  the
• 35:09
  day,
• 35:09
  your
• 35:09
  low
• 35:09
  point
• 35:10
  of
• 35:10
  the
• 35:10
  day?
• 35:10
  So
• 35:11
  talking
• 35:11
  to
• 35:11
  your
• 35:11
  child
• 35:12
  every
• 35:12
  day,
• 35:13
  getting
• 35:14
  it
• 35:14
  all
• 35:14
  out,
• 35:15
  means
• 35:16
  that
• 35:16
  there
• 35:16
  will
• 35:16
  not
• 35:17
  be
• 35:17
  buried
• 35:18
  negative
• 35:19
  memories
• 35:20
  that
• 35:20
  can
• 35:20
  screw
• 35:21
  them
• 35:21
  up
• 35:21
  later?
• 35:22
  I
• 35:22
  think
• 35:22
  there
• 35:23
  will
• 35:23
  still
• 35:23
  find
• 35:23
  a
• 35:23
  way.
• 35:24
  Well,
• 35:24
  maybe,
• 35:24
  but
• 35:25
  you
• 35:25
  can't.
• 35:25
  You
• 35:26
  can't
• 35:26
  unearth
• 35:27
  everything.
• 35:27
  Right?
• 35:28
  But,
• 35:28
  but,
• 35:29
  but
• 35:29
  talking.
• 35:30
  And
• 35:30
  again,
• 35:31
  it's
• 35:31
  all
• 35:31
  good.
• 35:32
  I
• 35:32
  mean,
• 35:32
  asking
• 35:33
  your.
• 35:33
  Getting
• 35:33
  your
• 35:34
  child
• 35:34
  to
• 35:34
  talk
• 35:34
  about
• 35:34
  their.
• 35:35
  Day,
• 35:35
  you
• 35:36
  know,
• 35:36
  and
• 35:37
  however
• 35:37
  you
• 35:37
  can.
• 35:38
  However
• 35:38
  you
• 35:39
  can
• 35:39
  do
• 35:39
  it
• 35:39
  is
• 35:39
  a
• 35:39
  good
• 35:39
  thing
• 35:40
  because
• 35:40
  it's
• 35:40
  good
• 35:40
  for
• 35:41
  their
• 35:41
  verbal
• 35:41
  skills.
• 35:41
  It's
• 35:42
  good
• 35:42
  for
• 35:42
  their
• 35:42
  memory.
• 35:43
  Yeah.
• 35:44
  It
• 35:44
  helps
• 35:44
  them
• 35:45
  integrate,
• 35:45
  obviously,
• 35:46
  all
• 35:46
  the
• 35:46
  parts
• 35:46
  of
• 35:46
  the
• 35:47
  brain.
• 35:47
  Now
• 35:47
  we
• 35:47
  know
• 35:47
  that.
• 35:48
  Yeah,
• 35:48
  now
• 35:48
  we
• 35:48
  know
• 35:49
  also.
• 35:50
  The
• 35:50
  wheel
• 35:50
  of
• 35:50
  awareness.
• 35:51
  Oh,
• 35:51
  God,
• 35:51
  I
• 35:52
  hated
• 35:52
  that.
• 35:52
  Me,
• 35:52
  too.
• 35:52
  It
• 35:53
  was
• 35:53
  so
• 35:53
  confusing.
• 35:54
  There
• 35:54
  were
• 35:54
  so
• 35:54
  many
• 35:55
  elements,
• 35:56
  so
• 35:56
  many
• 35:56
  circles
• 35:57
  with
• 35:58
  like.
• 35:58
  Yes,
• 35:58
  but
• 35:59
  I
• 35:59
  can
• 35:59
  explain
• 36:00
  it
• 36:00
  because
• 36:00
  I
• 36:00
  took
• 36:01
  good
• 36:01
  notes.
• 36:01
  Okay.
• 36:01
  Okay,
• 36:02
  I'll
• 36:02
  leave
• 36:03
  this
• 36:03
  to
• 36:03
  you.
• 36:03
  But
• 36:04
  I.
• 36:04
  I
• 36:04
  agreed
• 36:05
  with
• 36:05
  you.
• 36:05
  I
• 36:05
  hate
• 36:05
  when
• 36:06
  people
• 36:06
  make
• 36:06
  up
• 36:07
  something.
• 36:07
  This
• 36:08
  is
• 36:08
  called
• 36:08
  mindsight.
• 36:09
  The
• 36:09
  whole
• 36:10
  thing.
• 36:10
  And
• 36:10
  I'm
• 36:10
  like.
• 36:10
  Like,
• 36:11
  don't
• 36:11
  make
• 36:11
  up
• 36:11
  a
• 36:11
  word
• 36:12
  that.
• 36:12
  Now
• 36:12
  I
• 36:12
  have
• 36:12
  to
• 36:13
  remember
• 36:13
  what
• 36:13
  it
• 36:13
  means
• 36:13
  because
• 36:14
  it's
• 36:14
  complicated.
• 36:15
  It's
• 36:15
  sort
• 36:15
  of
• 36:15
  like
• 36:16
  meditation.
• 36:16
  No,
• 36:17
  no,
• 36:17
  no,
• 36:17
  no,
• 36:17
  no.
• 36:18
  Okay.
• 36:19
  I
• 36:19
  completely
• 36:19
  misunderstood
• 36:20
  this
• 36:20
  entire
• 36:21
  section.
• 36:22
  Well,
• 36:23
  maybe
• 36:23
  a
• 36:23
  little
• 36:23
  meditation.
• 36:24
  Okay.
• 36:25
  I've
• 36:25
  heard
• 36:25
  the
• 36:25
  phrase,
• 36:26
  my
• 36:26
  mind's
• 36:27
  eye.
• 36:28
  Yes.
• 36:28
  But
• 36:29
  what
• 36:29
  is
• 36:29
  mindsight?
• 36:30
  Mindsight.
• 36:31
  Okay.
• 36:31
  What
• 36:31
  this
• 36:32
  is,
• 36:32
  is
• 36:33
  understanding
• 36:34
  our
• 36:35
  mind
• 36:35
  and
• 36:35
  the
• 36:36
  minds
• 36:36
  of
• 36:36
  others.
• 36:36
  And
• 36:37
  they
• 36:37
  start
• 36:37
  with
• 36:37
  the
• 36:37
  wheel
• 36:38
  of.
• 36:38
  Of
• 36:39
  awareness.
• 36:40
  Okay,
• 36:40
  I
• 36:40
  will.
• 36:41
  Why?
• 36:41
  Let
• 36:41
  me
• 36:42
  explain
• 36:42
  this
• 36:42
  to
• 36:42
  you.
• 36:43
  It's
• 36:43
  helpful
• 36:44
  to
• 36:44
  see
• 36:44
  the
• 36:44
  drawing
• 36:45
  in.
• 36:45
  The
• 36:45
  book,
• 36:45
  but
• 36:45
  take
• 36:46
  a
• 36:46
  look.
• 36:46
  Imagine
• 36:47
  a
• 36:47
  wheel,
• 36:47
  okay?
• 36:48
  With
• 36:48
  spokes.
• 36:49
  A
• 36:49
  wheel
• 36:49
  with
• 36:50
  spokes.
• 36:50
  And
• 36:50
  in
• 36:50
  the
• 36:50
  middle
• 36:50
  there's
• 36:51
  a
• 36:51
  hub.
• 36:52
  The
• 36:52
  hub,
• 36:52
  the
• 36:53
  inner
• 36:53
  circle
• 36:53
  is
• 36:54
  our
• 36:54
  prefrontal
• 36:55
  cortex,
• 36:55
  our
• 36:55
  executive
• 36:56
  brain,
• 36:57
  where
• 36:57
  we're
• 36:57
  aware
• 36:58
  of
• 36:58
  everything
• 36:58
  that's
• 36:59
  happening.
• 36:59
  That's
• 37:00
  the
• 37:00
  brain.
• 37:00
  The
• 37:00
  part
• 37:00
  of
• 37:01
  the
• 37:01
  brain
• 37:01
  that's
• 37:01
  the
• 37:01
  more
• 37:02
  mature
• 37:02
  Part
• 37:03
  that
• 37:03
  we
• 37:03
  all
• 37:03
  want
• 37:04
  to
• 37:04
  grow
• 37:04
  and
• 37:05
  have
• 37:05
  working
• 37:05
  well
• 37:06
  our
• 37:06
  whole
• 37:06
  lives
• 37:07
  is
• 37:07
  our
• 37:09
  are
• 37:09
  sort
• 37:09
  of
• 37:10
  prefrontal
• 37:11
  cortex
• 37:11
  where
• 37:11
  all
• 37:11
  executive
• 37:12
  function
• 37:12
  happens.
• 37:15
  And
• 37:15
  that's
• 37:16
  the
• 37:16
  hub.
• 37:17
  The
• 37:17
  rim
• 37:18
  is
• 37:19
  all
• 37:19
  around
• 37:19
  it.
• 37:20
  There
• 37:20
  are
• 37:20
  things
• 37:20
  you're
• 37:21
  thinking
• 37:21
  about.
• 37:21
  Like
• 37:21
  there's
• 37:22
  maybe
• 37:22
  10
• 37:23
  things
• 37:23
  going
• 37:23
  on
• 37:24
  like
• 37:24
  you
• 37:24
  might
• 37:24
  be
• 37:24
  thinking
• 37:25
  about.
• 37:26
  Oh,
• 37:26
  like
• 37:27
  things
• 37:27
  that
• 37:27
  are
• 37:27
  causing
• 37:28
  you
• 37:28
  anxiety
• 37:29
  or
• 37:30
  maybe
• 37:30
  something
• 37:30
  you're
• 37:30
  looking
• 37:31
  forward
• 37:31
  to.
• 37:32
  You
• 37:32
  know
• 37:32
  how
• 37:32
  our
• 37:32
  minds
• 37:33
  have
• 37:33
  so
• 37:33
  much
• 37:33
  going
• 37:34
  on,
• 37:35
  but
• 37:35
  sometimes
• 37:36
  we
• 37:36
  only
• 37:36
  focus
• 37:37
  on
• 37:37
  the
• 37:37
  anxiety
• 37:38
  producing
• 37:40
  points
• 37:40
  of
• 37:40
  the
• 37:41
  wheel.
• 37:42
  And
• 37:43
  Mindsight
• 37:43
  says
• 37:44
  just
• 37:44
  when
• 37:45
  that
• 37:45
  happens,
• 37:45
  go
• 37:45
  back
• 37:46
  to
• 37:46
  the
• 37:46
  hub,
• 37:47
  look
• 37:47
  at
• 37:47
  the
• 37:47
  whole
• 37:48
  thing
• 37:49
  and
• 37:49
  focus
• 37:49
  on
• 37:50
  the
• 37:50
  rim
• 37:50
  points
• 37:51
  that
• 37:51
  are
• 37:51
  more
• 37:51
  positive
• 37:52
  as
• 37:52
  opposed
• 37:53
  to
• 37:53
  the
• 37:53
  negative
• 37:54
  ones.
• 37:54
  Like
• 37:55
  we
• 37:55
  give
• 37:55
  the
• 37:55
  negative
• 37:56
  too
• 37:56
  much
• 37:56
  attention
• 37:57
  is
• 37:58
  what
• 37:58
  they're
• 37:58
  saying,
• 37:58
  and
• 37:59
  we
• 37:59
  get
• 37:59
  stuck
• 37:59
  on
• 37:59
  those.
• 38:00
  So
• 38:00
  they're
• 38:01
  saying,
• 38:01
  teach
• 38:02
  your
• 38:02
  child
• 38:02
  that
• 38:03
  you
• 38:03
  have,
• 38:03
  have
• 38:04
  choices
• 38:05
  about
• 38:05
  where
• 38:06
  to
• 38:06
  focus
• 38:06
  your
• 38:06
  attention
• 38:07
  when
• 38:07
  all
• 38:08
  these
• 38:08
  things
• 38:08
  are
• 38:09
  going
• 38:09
  around
• 38:09
  in
• 38:09
  your
• 38:10
  mind.
• 38:10
  Yes.
• 38:11
  Focus
• 38:11
  on
• 38:12
  the
• 38:12
  more
• 38:12
  positive
• 38:13
  aspects
• 38:13
  and
• 38:13
  that
• 38:14
  will
• 38:14
  kind
• 38:14
  of
• 38:14
  reshape
• 38:15
  your,
• 38:15
  your
• 38:15
  mind,
• 38:16
  your
• 38:16
  brain.
• 38:16
  Yeah.
• 38:17
  And
• 38:18
  you're
• 38:18
  no
• 38:18
  longer
• 38:19
  being
• 38:19
  influenced,
• 38:19
  but
• 38:20
  you
• 38:20
  are
• 38:20
  influencing.
• 38:21
  You
• 38:22
  can
• 38:22
  control
• 38:22
  your
• 38:23
  mind
• 38:23
  and
• 38:23
  decide
• 38:23
  what
• 38:24
  you
• 38:24
  think
• 38:24
  about.
• 38:25
  And
• 38:26
  then
• 38:26
  they,
• 38:26
  they
• 38:26
  give
• 38:27
  you
• 38:27
  a
• 38:27
  strategy
• 38:28
  which
• 38:28
  is
• 38:28
  to
• 38:29
  let.
• 38:29
  Let
• 38:29
  negative
• 38:30
  emotions
• 38:30
  that
• 38:31
  you
• 38:31
  get
• 38:31
  roll
• 38:32
  by.
• 38:32
  Let
• 38:33
  them
• 38:33
  roll.
• 38:34
  Learn
• 38:34
  that
• 38:35
  feelings
• 38:35
  that
• 38:36
  you
• 38:36
  get
• 38:36
  come
• 38:36
  and
• 38:37
  go
• 38:37
  and
• 38:38
  that
• 38:38
  if
• 38:38
  you
• 38:38
  feel
• 38:38
  bad,
• 38:39
  you're
• 38:39
  upset,
• 38:40
  it's
• 38:40
  not
• 38:40
  going
• 38:40
  to
• 38:41
  last
• 38:41
  forever.
• 38:42
  Feelings
• 38:42
  are
• 38:42
  temporary
• 38:44
  and
• 38:44
  I
• 38:44
  didn't
• 38:44
  know
• 38:45
  this
• 38:45
  emotion
• 38:46
  come.
• 38:46
  Emotions
• 38:47
  come
• 38:47
  and
• 38:47
  go
• 38:47
  every
• 38:47
  90
• 38:48
  seconds.
• 38:49
  If,
• 38:49
  if
• 38:50
  you,
• 38:50
  if
• 38:51
  you're
• 38:51
  selling
• 38:51
  yourself,
• 38:52
  I'm
• 38:52
  just
• 38:53
  stupid.
• 38:54
  You're
• 38:54
  not
• 38:54
  stupid.
• 38:55
  Stupid.
• 38:55
  I
• 38:55
  just.
• 38:56
  You
• 38:56
  just
• 38:56
  feel
• 38:56
  stupid
• 38:57
  right
• 38:57
  now.
• 38:57
  But
• 38:58
  you'll
• 38:58
  get
• 38:58
  over
• 38:58
  it.
• 38:58
  You'll
• 38:59
  get
• 38:59
  over
• 38:59
  it.
• 38:59
  You'll
• 38:59
  get
• 38:59
  over
• 39:00
  it.
• 39:00
  Get
• 39:00
  over
• 39:00
  it.
• 39:01
  I
• 39:01
  was
• 39:01
  bored
• 39:02
  by
• 39:02
  that.
• 39:02
  I
• 39:03
  know.
• 39:03
  I
• 39:03
  was.
• 39:03
  I
• 39:03
  just.
• 39:04
  That
• 39:04
  lost
• 39:04
  me.
• 39:05
  Yeah.
• 39:05
  I
• 39:05
  was
• 39:05
  like,
• 39:05
  okay,
• 39:06
  next.
• 39:06
  I
• 39:07
  know.
• 39:07
  Learn
• 39:07
  to
• 39:07
  recognize.
• 39:08
  He
• 39:08
  says
• 39:08
  different.
• 39:09
  They
• 39:09
  say
• 39:09
  different
• 39:10
  sensations.
• 39:11
  Like
• 39:11
  if
• 39:11
  you
• 39:11
  have
• 39:11
  butterflies
• 39:12
  in
• 39:12
  your
• 39:12
  stomach,
• 39:13
  learn
• 39:14
  that
• 39:14
  that
• 39:14
  means
• 39:14
  you're
• 39:15
  nervous.
• 39:16
  So
• 39:16
  learn
• 39:16
  to
• 39:16
  recognize
• 39:17
  body
• 39:17
  sensations
• 39:18
  and
• 39:18
  what
• 39:19
  they're
• 39:19
  telling
• 39:19
  you,
• 39:19
  which
• 39:20
  I
• 39:20
  think
• 39:20
  is
• 39:20
  a
• 39:20
  good
• 39:20
  thing.
• 39:22
  And
• 39:22
  then
• 39:23
  go
• 39:23
  back
• 39:23
  to
• 39:23
  the
• 39:23
  hub
• 39:25
  whenever
• 39:25
  you
• 39:25
  get
• 39:26
  stuck
• 39:26
  on
• 39:27
  the
• 39:27
  negative.
• 39:29
  And
• 39:30
  he.
• 39:30
  This
• 39:30
  is
• 39:30
  where
• 39:31
  I
• 39:31
  think
• 39:31
  you
• 39:31
  got.
• 39:31
  You
• 39:32
  were
• 39:32
  thinking
• 39:32
  about
• 39:32
  mindfulness.
• 39:34
  They
• 39:34
  suggest
• 39:35
  to
• 39:35
  go
• 39:35
  back
• 39:35
  to
• 39:36
  the
• 39:36
  hub
• 39:37
  to
• 39:37
  maybe
• 39:37
  use
• 39:38
  mindfulness,
• 39:39
  fullness
• 39:39
  or
• 39:40
  breathing
• 39:40
  exercises
• 39:41
  to
• 39:41
  reset
• 39:42
  your
• 39:42
  mind
• 39:42
  when
• 39:42
  you're
• 39:43
  feeling
• 39:43
  anxious.
• 39:43
  Yeah,
• 39:44
  I
• 39:44
  was,
• 39:44
  they
• 39:44
  really
• 39:45
  lost
• 39:45
  me
• 39:45
  there.
• 39:45
  Yeah,
• 39:46
  I
• 39:46
  was
• 39:46
  like,
• 39:46
  I'm
• 39:47
  also.
• 39:47
  Because
• 39:47
  I'm
• 39:47
  looking
• 39:48
  at
• 39:48
  again,
• 39:48
  I
• 39:48
  have
• 39:49
  a
• 39:49
  visual,
• 39:49
  visual
• 39:49
  spatial
• 39:50
  thing
• 39:50
  and
• 39:50
  I'm
• 39:51
  looking
• 39:51
  at
• 39:51
  this
• 39:51
  thing.
• 39:51
  And
• 39:52
  I'm
• 39:52
  like,
• 39:52
  what
• 39:52
  is
• 39:53
  happening?
• 39:54
  I
• 39:54
  know
• 39:54
  of
• 39:54
  my
• 39:55
  eyes.
• 39:55
  I
• 39:55
  lost
• 39:55
  it
• 39:56
  here,
• 39:56
  too.
• 39:56
  I,
• 39:56
  I,
• 39:57
  it
• 39:57
  was
• 39:57
  not.
• 39:57
  It
• 39:58
  was
• 39:58
  the
• 39:58
  less
• 39:58
  interesting
• 39:59
  part,
• 39:59
  but,
• 40:00
  But
• 40:00
  I
• 40:01
  did
• 40:01
  what.
• 40:01
  There
• 40:02
  were
• 40:02
  a
• 40:02
  few
• 40:02
  things
• 40:02
  I
• 40:03
  liked
• 40:03
  about
• 40:03
  it,
• 40:03
  which
• 40:04
  is
• 40:04
  just
• 40:04
  the
• 40:04
  idea
• 40:04
  that
• 40:05
  you
• 40:05
  can
• 40:05
  decide
• 40:06
  what
• 40:07
  to
• 40:07
  focus
• 40:07
  on.
• 40:08
  I
• 40:08
  mean,
• 40:08
  can
• 40:08
  you,
• 40:09
  though?
• 40:09
  Like,
• 40:10
  has
• 40:10
  anyone
• 40:10
  in
• 40:10
  this
• 40:10
  book
• 40:11
  ever
• 40:11
  dealt
• 40:11
  with
• 40:11
  anxiety?
• 40:12
  It's
• 40:13
  like,
• 40:13
  yes,
• 40:13
  anxiety
• 40:13
  is
• 40:14
  not
• 40:14
  rational,
• 40:14
  but
• 40:14
  the
• 40:15
  truth
• 40:15
  is
• 40:15
  you
• 40:16
  can't
• 40:16
  always
• 40:16
  decide
• 40:17
  how
• 40:17
  you
• 40:17
  feel.
• 40:18
  Well,
• 40:18
  yeah,
• 40:19
  you
• 40:19
  know.
• 40:19
  Well,
• 40:20
  the.
• 40:20
  One
• 40:21
  of
• 40:21
  the
• 40:21
  authors.
• 40:22
  Well,
• 40:22
  gosh,
• 40:22
  one
• 40:22
  is
• 40:23
  a
• 40:23
  psychiatrist
• 40:24
  and
• 40:24
  one
• 40:24
  is
• 40:24
  a,
• 40:24
  A
• 40:25
  neuropsychiatrist,
• 40:26
  and
• 40:27
  the
• 40:27
  other
• 40:27
  works
• 40:28
  with
• 40:28
  children.
• 40:28
  And
• 40:29
  I
• 40:29
  think,
• 40:29
  you
• 40:30
  know,
• 40:30
  yes,
• 40:30
  they've
• 40:30
  probably
• 40:31
  dealt
• 40:31
  with
• 40:31
  anxiety
• 40:32
  and
• 40:32
  they're
• 40:33
  trying
• 40:33
  to
• 40:33
  teach
• 40:33
  the
• 40:34
  kids
• 40:34
  that
• 40:34
  you
• 40:35
  don't
• 40:35
  have
• 40:35
  to
• 40:36
  focus
• 40:36
  on
• 40:36
  the
• 40:36
  negative,
• 40:37
  think
• 40:37
  about
• 40:38
  some
• 40:38
  of
• 40:38
  the
• 40:38
  good
• 40:38
  things
• 40:38
  in
• 40:39
  your
• 40:39
  life.
• 40:39
  But
• 40:39
  I
• 40:39
  think
• 40:39
  framing
• 40:40
  it
• 40:40
  as
• 40:40
  a
• 40:40
  choice
• 40:41
  is
• 40:42
  almost
• 40:43
  like
• 40:43
  antagonistic,
• 40:44
  I
• 40:44
  think,
• 40:44
  because
• 40:45
  it's
• 40:45
  like
• 40:46
  you
• 40:46
  just
• 40:46
  have
• 40:46
  to
• 40:46
  choose
• 40:47
  not
• 40:47
  to
• 40:48
  be
• 40:48
  stressed
• 40:48
  out
• 40:48
  by
• 40:48
  this.
• 40:48
  It's
• 40:49
  like,
• 40:49
  I
• 40:49
  don't
• 40:49
  believe
• 40:50
  it
• 40:50
  works
• 40:50
  that
• 40:50
  way.
• 40:51
  I
• 40:51
  don't
• 40:51
  think
• 40:51
  stress
• 40:52
  is
• 40:52
  voluntary.
• 40:53
  Yeah.
• 40:53
  You
• 40:53
  know,
• 40:54
  but
• 40:54
  listen,
• 40:55
  I'm
• 40:55
  no
• 40:55
  neuropsychiatrist.
• 40:56
  No,
• 40:57
  you're
• 40:57
  not.
• 40:57
  Obviously.
• 40:58
  I'm
• 40:59
  just
• 40:59
  a
• 40:59
  girl.
• 40:59
  You
• 41:00
  can't
• 41:00
  even
• 41:00
  understand
• 41:02
  awareness
• 41:02
  or
• 41:02
  whatever
• 41:03
  that
• 41:03
  thing
• 41:03
  is.
• 41:03
  I
• 41:04
  am.
• 41:04
  The
• 41:04
  wheel
• 41:04
  of
• 41:05
  awareness
• 41:05
  goes.
• 41:06
  Not
• 41:06
  the
• 41:06
  wheel
• 41:07
  of
• 41:07
  awareness.
• 41:07
  It's.
• 41:08
  What
• 41:08
  is
• 41:08
  it?
• 41:08
  The
• 41:08
  mindsight,
• 41:09
  anyway.
• 41:10
  Wheel.
• 41:10
  Wheel
• 41:11
  of
• 41:11
  whatever.
• 41:12
  Yeah,
• 41:12
  I
• 41:12
  don't,
• 41:13
  I,
• 41:13
  it's
• 41:13
  gone.
• 41:14
  It's
• 41:14
  gone
• 41:15
  in
• 41:15
  my
• 41:15
  nodes.
• 41:16
  Yeah.
• 41:16
  But
• 41:17
  never
• 41:17
  to
• 41:17
  be
• 41:17
  seen
• 41:17
  or
• 41:18
  heard
• 41:18
  from
• 41:18
  again.
• 41:19
  Okay,
• 41:19
  let's,
• 41:20
  let's
• 41:20
  keep.
• 41:21
  There
• 41:21
  really
• 41:21
  are
• 41:22
  some
• 41:22
  ideas
• 41:22
  that
• 41:23
  could
• 41:23
  be
• 41:23
  that
• 41:23
  I
• 41:24
  think
• 41:24
  are
• 41:24
  good.
• 41:24
  Yeah.
• 41:25
  But
• 41:26
  okay.
• 41:27
  Integrating
• 41:28
  yourself
• 41:28
  with
• 41:29
  others.
• 41:30
  Okay.
• 41:30
  Did
• 41:30
  you,
• 41:31
  did
• 41:31
  you
• 41:31
  like
• 41:31
  that
• 41:31
  part?
• 41:32
  Yeah,
• 41:32
  I
• 41:32
  thought
• 41:32
  it
• 41:32
  was
• 41:32
  okay.
• 41:33
  It
• 41:33
  was
• 41:33
  fine.
• 41:34
  Okay.
• 41:35
  Okay.
• 41:35
  I
• 41:35
  feel
• 41:36
  like
• 41:36
  what
• 41:36
  they
• 41:36
  do
• 41:36
  is
• 41:36
  they
• 41:36
  take
• 41:37
  these
• 41:37
  very
• 41:37
  simple
• 41:37
  concepts
• 41:38
  and
• 41:38
  they
• 41:38
  overcomplicate
• 41:39
  them.
• 41:39
  That's
• 41:40
  how
• 41:40
  I
• 41:40
  felt
• 41:40
  about
• 41:40
  parts
• 41:41
  of
• 41:41
  this
• 41:41
  book.
• 41:41
  Book
• 41:42
  where
• 41:42
  I
• 41:42
  was
• 41:42
  like,
• 41:42
  yeah,
• 41:43
  of.
• 41:43
  Course
• 41:43
  you
• 41:43
  want
• 41:43
  to
• 41:44
  integrate
• 41:44
  yourself
• 41:44
  with
• 41:44
  other
• 41:45
  people.
• 41:45
  That's
• 41:46
  like
• 41:46
  being
• 41:46
  a
• 41:46
  person
• 41:47
  in
• 41:47
  the
• 41:48
  world.
• 41:49
  But
• 41:49
  maybe
• 41:50
  we're
• 41:50
  naming
• 41:51
  things.
• 41:52
  Maybe
• 41:52
  that's
• 41:52
  what
• 41:52
  this
• 41:53
  book
• 41:53
  is
• 41:53
  about,
• 41:54
  is
• 41:54
  naming
• 41:55
  things
• 41:55
  so
• 41:55
  that
• 41:55
  we
• 41:56
  can
• 41:56
  then
• 41:56
  go
• 41:56
  back
• 41:56
  and
• 41:57
  refer
• 41:57
  to
• 41:57
  them.
• 41:57
  So
• 41:57
  if
• 41:58
  that
• 41:58
  was
• 41:58
  the
• 41:58
  point,
• 41:59
  then
• 41:59
  fine.
• 42:00
  Well,
• 42:00
  and
• 42:00
  they're
• 42:00
  saying
• 42:01
  how
• 42:01
  important
• 42:01
  it
• 42:01
  is
• 42:01
  to,
• 42:02
  in
• 42:02
  this
• 42:02
  part,
• 42:03
  integrate
• 42:03
  yourself
• 42:04
  with
• 42:04
  others.
• 42:05
  Teaching
• 42:05
  your
• 42:06
  children
• 42:06
  about.
• 42:08
  To
• 42:08
  see
• 42:08
  and
• 42:08
  connect
• 42:09
  with
• 42:09
  other
• 42:09
  people's
• 42:10
  minds,
• 42:11
  and
• 42:11
  that's
• 42:12
  empathy,
• 42:12
  which,
• 42:13
  of
• 42:13
  course
• 42:13
  is
• 42:13
  a
• 42:13
  good
• 42:14
  thing.
• 42:14
  We
• 42:14
  want
• 42:14
  to
• 42:14
  teach
• 42:15
  our
• 42:15
  kids
• 42:15
  and.
• 42:16
  One
• 42:16
  thing
• 42:16
  they
• 42:16
  did
• 42:16
  say
• 42:16
  that
• 42:16
  I
• 42:17
  agree
• 42:17
  with
• 42:17
  is
• 42:18
  that
• 42:18
  empathy
• 42:18
  is
• 42:18
  a
• 42:18
  muscle.
• 42:19
  And
• 42:19
  a
• 42:19
  lot
• 42:19
  of
• 42:19
  these
• 42:19
  things
• 42:20
  are
• 42:20
  a
• 42:20
  muscle
• 42:20
  and
• 42:20
  it
• 42:21
  must
• 42:21
  be
• 42:21
  practiced
• 42:22
  or
• 42:22
  it
• 42:22
  gets
• 42:22
  weak.
• 42:23
  Yes,
• 42:23
  exactly.
• 42:24
  And
• 42:25
  they,
• 42:25
  they,
• 42:26
  this
• 42:26
  was
• 42:26
  interesting.
• 42:27
  They
• 42:27
  talk
• 42:27
  about
• 42:27
  how
• 42:27
  important
• 42:28
  it
• 42:28
  is
• 42:28
  to
• 42:28
  increase
• 42:29
  family
• 42:29
  fun,
• 42:30
  especially
• 42:31
  when
• 42:31
  they're
• 42:31
  siblings,
• 42:32
  because
• 42:32
  having
• 42:33
  fun
• 42:33
  as,
• 42:34
  as
• 42:34
  a
• 42:34
  family
• 42:34
  and
• 42:35
  enjoying
• 42:35
  each
• 42:35
  other
• 42:36
  play
• 42:37
  games,
• 42:37
  be
• 42:37
  silly.
• 42:39
  This
• 42:39
  reinforces
• 42:40
  and
• 42:40
  teaches
• 42:41
  children
• 42:41
  how
• 42:42
  to
• 42:42
  have
• 42:42
  loving
• 42:43
  relationships.
• 42:44
  It
• 42:44
  teaches
• 42:45
  them
• 42:45
  that
• 42:45
  relationships
• 42:46
  with
• 42:46
  others
• 42:46
  are
• 42:47
  affirming,
• 42:47
  rewarding,
• 42:48
  fulfilling.
• 42:49
  Yes.
• 42:49
  And
• 42:49
  that
• 42:50
  the
• 42:50
  best
• 42:50
  predictor
• 42:51
  of
• 42:51
  lifelong
• 42:52
  sibling
• 42:52
  relationships
• 42:53
  is
• 42:53
  if
• 42:53
  children
• 42:54
  have
• 42:55
  fun
• 42:55
  with
• 42:55
  their
• 42:55
  siblings
• 42:57
  when
• 42:57
  they're
• 42:57
  young
• 42:58
  and
• 42:58
  then
• 42:58
  later
• 42:59
  they'll
• 42:59
  go
• 42:59
  on
• 42:59
  and
• 43:00
  still
• 43:00
  be
• 43:00
  friends.
• 43:01
  And
• 43:01
  I
• 43:01
  think
• 43:02
  that's
• 43:02
  really
• 43:02
  true,
• 43:03
  except
• 43:04
  for
• 43:04
  Prince
• 43:04
  Harry
• 43:04
  and
• 43:05
  his
• 43:05
  brother,
• 43:06
  because
• 43:06
  I
• 43:06
  think
• 43:06
  they
• 43:06
  used
• 43:07
  to
• 43:07
  have
• 43:07
  a
• 43:07
  lot
• 43:07
  of
• 43:07
  fun
• 43:07
  together.
• 43:08
  But
• 43:09
  now.
• 43:09
  But
• 43:10
  now.
• 43:10
  But,
• 43:11
  you
• 43:11
  know,
• 43:11
  dark
• 43:12
  times
• 43:12
  have
• 43:12
  befallen.
• 43:14
  I
• 43:14
  know
• 43:14
  the
• 43:15
  monarchy,
• 43:16
  but
• 43:16
  I.
• 43:16
  So
• 43:16
  I
• 43:16
  think
• 43:17
  things
• 43:17
  can
• 43:17
  happen
• 43:18
  later
• 43:18
  where
• 43:19
  you
• 43:19
  get
• 43:19
  really
• 43:19
  angry.
• 43:20
  Yeah.
• 43:20
  I
• 43:20
  mean,
• 43:20
  as
• 43:21
  you
• 43:21
  grow
• 43:21
  up,
• 43:21
  obviously
• 43:22
  being
• 43:22
  an
• 43:22
  adult
• 43:23
  complicates
• 43:23
  things.
• 43:23
  Bringing
• 43:24
  more
• 43:24
  people
• 43:24
  into
• 43:25
  the
• 43:25
  scenario
• 43:25
  complicates
• 43:26
  things.
• 43:26
  Like
• 43:26
  sometimes
• 43:27
  maybe
• 43:27
  somebody
• 43:28
  marries
• 43:28
  somebody
• 43:29
  that
• 43:29
  you
• 43:29
  don't
• 43:29
  really
• 43:29
  get
• 43:29
  along
• 43:29
  with
• 43:30
  or
• 43:30
  disagree
• 43:30
  with
• 43:31
  or
• 43:31
  whatever.
• 43:31
  And
• 43:31
  like.
• 43:32
  Yeah,
• 43:32
  totally.
• 43:33
  But
• 43:33
  I
• 43:33
  think
• 43:33
  setting
• 43:33
  that
• 43:34
  foundation
• 43:34
  is
• 43:34
  very
• 43:35
  important.
• 43:35
  The
• 43:36
  more
• 43:36
  you
• 43:36
  can
• 43:36
  do
• 43:36
  it,
• 43:36
  the
• 43:37
  better.
• 43:37
  What
• 43:37
  did
• 43:37
  we
• 43:37
  do
• 43:38
  as
• 43:38
  family
• 43:38
  fun?
• 43:39
  Us.
• 43:39
  Remember
• 43:40
  we
• 43:40
  used
• 43:40
  to
• 43:40
  take
• 43:40
  walks
• 43:41
  in
• 43:41
  the
• 43:41
  city.
• 43:42
  That
• 43:42
  was
• 43:42
  fun
• 43:42
  for
• 43:42
  you
• 43:43
  guys?
• 43:43
  I
• 43:43
  know,
• 43:43
  it's
• 43:44
  the
• 43:44
  funny
• 43:44
  part
• 43:44
  is
• 43:45
  we
• 43:45
  loved
• 43:45
  it.
• 43:46
  You
• 43:46
  hated
• 43:47
  it,
• 43:47
  but
• 43:47
  you
• 43:48
  insisted
• 43:48
  on
• 43:48
  staying
• 43:49
  in
• 43:49
  your
• 43:49
  stroller
• 43:49
  till
• 43:50
  you
• 43:50
  were
• 43:50
  about
• 43:50
  10
• 43:51
  years
• 43:51
  old.
• 43:51
  Honestly,
• 43:52
  iconic
• 43:52
  move
• 43:52
  on
• 43:53
  my
• 43:53
  part.
• 43:53
  You
• 43:53
  did
• 43:54
  not
• 43:54
  want
• 43:54
  to
• 43:54
  walk.
• 43:55
  But
• 43:55
  the.
• 43:56
  And
• 43:56
  then
• 43:56
  both
• 43:57
  of
• 43:57
  you
• 43:57
  said
• 43:57
  you
• 43:58
  didn't
• 43:58
  like
• 43:58
  it.
• 43:59
  But
• 44:00
  like,
• 44:00
  Sam
• 44:00
  now
• 44:01
  loves
• 44:01
  to
• 44:01
  walk.
• 44:02
  Me
• 44:02
  too.
• 44:02
  I
• 44:02
  walk
• 44:03
  miles
• 44:03
  and
• 44:04
  miles
• 44:04
  a
• 44:04
  day.
• 44:04
  So
• 44:04
  you
• 44:05
  hated
• 44:05
  it
• 44:05
  at
• 44:05
  the
• 44:06
  time,
• 44:07
  but
• 44:07
  look
• 44:07
  at
• 44:07
  how
• 44:08
  it
• 44:08
  influenced
• 44:08
  you
• 44:09
  now.
• 44:09
  I
• 44:09
  mean,
• 44:09
  you
• 44:10
  both
• 44:10
  love
• 44:10
  to
• 44:10
  walk.
• 44:10
  I
• 44:11
  know,
• 44:11
  I
• 44:11
  walk
• 44:12
  everywhere.
• 44:13
  I
• 44:13
  also,
• 44:13
  I
• 44:14
  spent
• 44:14
  a
• 44:14
  lot
• 44:14
  of
• 44:14
  time
• 44:14
  in
• 44:14
  LA
• 44:15
  for
• 44:15
  a
• 44:15
  little
• 44:15
  while
• 44:15
  and
• 44:16
  I
• 44:16
  would
• 44:16
  walk
• 44:16
  everywhere
• 44:17
  there
• 44:17
  and
• 44:17
  people
• 44:17
  thought
• 44:17
  I
• 44:18
  was
• 44:18
  not.
• 44:18
  Well.
• 44:18
  Yeah,
• 44:19
  because
• 44:19
  people
• 44:19
  don't
• 44:19
  walk.
• 44:20
  But
• 44:20
  also
• 44:20
  it's
• 44:21
  like
• 44:21
  you
• 44:21
  look
• 44:21
  at
• 44:22
  the
• 44:22
  map
• 44:22
  on
• 44:22
  LA
• 44:23
  and
• 44:23
  then
• 44:23
  it
• 44:23
  takes
• 44:23
  you
• 44:23
  like,
• 44:24
  okay,
• 44:24
  now
• 44:24
  you
• 44:24
  have
• 44:24
  to
• 44:24
  like
• 44:24
  cross
• 44:25
  the,
• 44:25
  this
• 44:25
  12
• 44:25
  lane
• 44:26
  freeway.
• 44:27
  Yeah.
• 44:27
  And
• 44:27
  you're
• 44:27
  like,
• 44:28
  well,
• 44:28
  how
• 44:28
  am
• 44:28
  I
• 44:28
  gonna
• 44:28
  do
• 44:29
  that?
• 44:29
  I
• 44:29
  know
• 44:29
  it's
• 44:30
  walking,
• 44:31
  but.
• 44:31
  But
• 44:31
  I'm.
• 44:32
  How
• 44:32
  do
• 44:32
  we
• 44:32
  have
• 44:32
  fun?
• 44:33
  We
• 44:33
  would
• 44:33
  go
• 44:33
  to
• 44:33
  the
• 44:33
  park.
• 44:34
  We
• 44:34
  would
• 44:34
  go
• 44:35
  to.
• 44:35
  Remember,
• 44:35
  we'd
• 44:35
  go
• 44:36
  to
• 44:36
  the
• 44:36
  museum.
• 44:37
  I
• 44:37
  remember
• 44:37
  you
• 44:38
  used
• 44:38
  to
• 44:38
  take
• 44:38
  us
• 44:38
  to
• 44:38
  the
• 44:38
  chocolate
• 44:39
  show.
• 44:40
  Yes,
• 44:40
  the
• 44:40
  chocolate
• 44:41
  show.
• 44:41
  That
• 44:41
  was
• 44:41
  fun.
• 44:42
  I
• 44:42
  loved
• 44:42
  the
• 44:42
  chocolate
• 44:43
  show.
• 44:43
  Remember
• 44:43
  we
• 44:44
  would.
• 44:44
  If
• 44:44
  there
• 44:44
  was
• 44:44
  a
• 44:44
  chocolate
• 44:45
  show,
• 44:45
  dad.
• 44:45
  Would
• 44:45
  always
• 44:46
  take
• 44:46
  me
• 44:46
  to
• 44:46
  meet
• 44:46
  the
• 44:46
  breeds.
• 44:47
  Yeah,
• 44:47
  you
• 44:47
  love
• 44:48
  that.
• 44:48
  Loved
• 44:49
  that.
• 44:49
  So
• 44:49
  we
• 44:49
  did
• 44:50
  fun
• 44:50
  things
• 44:50
  as
• 44:50
  a
• 44:50
  family,
• 44:51
  didn't.
• 44:52
  I
• 44:52
  mean,
• 44:52
  I
• 44:52
  feel
• 44:52
  like
• 44:52
  it
• 44:53
  was
• 44:53
  more
• 44:53
  like
• 44:53
  one
• 44:53
  on
• 44:54
  one.
• 44:54
  Like
• 44:54
  you
• 44:54
  would
• 44:54
  take
• 44:55
  me
• 44:55
  and
• 44:55
  Sam
• 44:55
  to
• 44:55
  things.
• 44:55
  Dad
• 44:56
  would
• 44:56
  take
• 44:56
  me
• 44:56
  and
• 44:56
  Sam
• 44:57
  to
• 44:57
  things.
• 44:57
  Me
• 44:57
  and
• 44:57
  dad
• 44:57
  would
• 44:57
  go
• 44:58
  to
• 44:58
  jazz
• 44:58
  clubs,
• 44:58
  which
• 44:58
  was
• 44:59
  fun.
• 44:59
  Yeah,
• 45:00
  we
• 45:00
  did
• 45:00
  both.
• 45:00
  We
• 45:01
  did
• 45:01
  individually
• 45:02
  and
• 45:02
  then
• 45:02
  we
• 45:03
  did
• 45:03
  some
• 45:03
  things
• 45:03
  together
• 45:04
  as
• 45:04
  a
• 45:04
  group.
• 45:05
  But
• 45:05
  yes,
• 45:06
  the
• 45:06
  Sunday
• 45:06
  evening
• 45:07
  walks
• 45:07
  where
• 45:07
  you
• 45:07
  would
• 45:07
  take
• 45:08
  us
• 45:08
  to
• 45:08
  the
• 45:09
  McDonald's
• 45:09
  in
• 45:10
  the
• 45:10
  West
• 45:10
  Village
• 45:11
  when
• 45:11
  they
• 45:11
  still
• 45:11
  had
• 45:12
  the
• 45:12
  play
• 45:12
  place.
• 45:12
  I
• 45:12
  don't
• 45:13
  know
• 45:13
  if
• 45:13
  they
• 45:13
  still
• 45:13
  do,
• 45:14
  but
• 45:14
  there
• 45:14
  would
• 45:14
  always
• 45:15
  be
• 45:15
  scary
• 45:15
  people
• 45:15
  lurking
• 45:16
  in
• 45:16
  the
• 45:16
  play
• 45:16
  place.
• 45:16
  And
• 45:16
  there
• 45:17
  were
• 45:17
  rats.
• 45:17
  Rats.
• 45:17
  And
• 45:18
  oh
• 45:18
  my
• 45:18
  God,
• 45:18
  the
• 45:18
  rats.
• 45:19
  Remember
• 45:19
  the
• 45:20
  rats
• 45:20
  at
• 45:20
  the
• 45:20
  playground.
• 45:21
  And
• 45:21
  I
• 45:21
  was
• 45:21
  writing
• 45:22
  letters
• 45:22
  to
• 45:22
  the
• 45:22
  mayor
• 45:23
  about
• 45:23
  it.
• 45:24
  You
• 45:24
  were?
• 45:24
  I
• 45:24
  was.
• 45:25
  I
• 45:25
  was
• 45:25
  so
• 45:25
  upset
• 45:26
  that
• 45:26
  a
• 45:26
  playground
• 45:27
  where
• 45:27
  my
• 45:27
  children
• 45:28
  were
• 45:28
  playing
• 45:29
  and
• 45:29
  they
• 45:29
  said
• 45:29
  it's
• 45:30
  McDonald's
• 45:30
  property
• 45:31
  and
• 45:31
  there's
• 45:32
  food
• 45:32
  there.
• 45:32
  I
• 45:32
  can't.
• 45:33
  They
• 45:33
  can't
• 45:33
  help.
• 45:33
  But
• 45:34
  I
• 45:34
  was
• 45:34
  writing
• 45:34
  to
• 45:34
  the
• 45:35
  mayor.
• 45:35
  But
• 45:35
  that
• 45:35
  was
• 45:35
  fun.
• 45:36
  Other
• 45:36
  than.
• 45:36
  I
• 45:36
  mean,
• 45:37
  kind
• 45:37
  of.
• 45:37
  It
• 45:37
  was
• 45:37
  fun
• 45:38
  and
• 45:38
  scary.
• 45:39
  Was
• 45:39
  it?
• 45:39
  Yeah.
• 45:40
  Okay.
• 45:40
  They're
• 45:41
  always
• 45:41
  like
• 45:41
  old
• 45:42
  men
• 45:42
  hiding
• 45:43
  in
• 45:43
  the
• 45:43
  place.
• 45:43
  Play
• 45:44
  place.
• 45:44
  But
• 45:44
  we
• 45:44
  were
• 45:45
  there
• 45:45
  with
• 45:45
  you.
• 45:45
  You
• 45:46
  weren't
• 45:46
  in
• 45:46
  the
• 45:46
  play
• 45:47
  place.
• 45:47
  You
• 45:47
  were
• 45:48
  outside
• 45:48
  on
• 45:48
  the
• 45:49
  benches.
• 45:49
  You
• 45:49
  didn't
• 45:49
  like,
• 45:50
  go
• 45:50
  inside
• 45:51
  the
• 45:52
  structures.
• 45:53
  Oh,
• 45:54
  God.
• 45:54
  Are
• 45:54
  you
• 45:54
  kidding?
• 45:55
  No,
• 45:55
  I
• 45:56
  don't
• 45:56
  remember
• 45:56
  that.
• 45:57
  Oh,
• 45:57
  my
• 45:57
  God.
• 45:58
  I'm
• 45:58
  sure
• 45:58
  somebody
• 45:58
  wrote
• 45:59
  about
• 45:59
  it.
• 45:59
  Like
• 46:00
  call
• 46:00
  up
• 46:01
  the
• 46:01
  times.
• 46:01
  I
• 46:01
  don't
• 46:01
  know.
• 46:02
  But
• 46:02
  anyway.
• 46:03
  Okay,
• 46:03
  well,
• 46:04
  okay.
• 46:04
  That
• 46:04
  was
• 46:04
  our
• 46:05
  family
• 46:05
  fun.
• 46:06
  What
• 46:06
  can
• 46:06
  I
• 46:07
  tell
• 46:07
  you?
• 46:08
  And
• 46:08
  that
• 46:09
  it
• 46:09
  was
• 46:09
  New
• 46:09
  York
• 46:09
  in
• 46:09
  the
• 46:09
  90s.
• 46:10
  What
• 46:10
  were
• 46:11
  you
• 46:11
  gonna
• 46:11
  do?
• 46:11
  I
• 46:11
  don't
• 46:11
  know.
• 46:12
  And
• 46:13
  then
• 46:13
  the
• 46:13
  last.
• 46:13
  The
• 46:14
  last
• 46:14
  strategy.
• 46:14
  Connect
• 46:15
  through
• 46:15
  conflict.
• 46:16
  Argue
• 46:16
  with
• 46:17
  we
• 46:17
  in
• 46:18
  mind.
• 46:19
  If
• 46:19
  a
• 46:19
  child
• 46:19
  is
• 46:20
  upset
• 46:20
  by.
• 46:21
  By
• 46:22
  fighting.
• 46:23
  Connect
• 46:24
  first,
• 46:24
  then
• 46:24
  redirect.
• 46:25
  Ask
• 46:26
  them
• 46:26
  about
• 46:26
  into
• 46:27
  hostility,
• 46:27
  then
• 46:28
  redirect
• 46:28
  them.
• 46:28
  Right.
• 46:29
  Ask
• 46:29
  them
• 46:29
  about
• 46:29
  how
• 46:30
  they
• 46:30
  feel,
• 46:30
  why
• 46:30
  they
• 46:31
  reacted
• 46:31
  as
• 46:31
  they
• 46:32
  did.
• 46:33
  Encourage
• 46:33
  empathy.
• 46:35
  Talk
• 46:35
  to
• 46:35
  your
• 46:35
  children
• 46:36
  or
• 46:36
  help
• 46:36
  children
• 46:37
  listen
• 46:37
  for
• 46:37
  what
• 46:38
  isn't
• 46:38
  said.
• 46:39
  Like
• 46:39
  teach
• 46:39
  your
• 46:39
  children
• 46:39
  about.
• 46:40
  About
• 46:40
  non
• 46:41
  verbal
• 46:41
  communications,
• 46:42
  which
• 46:42
  is
• 46:43
  very
• 46:43
  important.
• 46:43
  Yeah.
• 46:43
  Body
• 46:44
  language,
• 46:45
  facial
• 46:45
  expressions,
• 46:46
  tone,
• 46:47
  tone
• 46:47
  of
• 46:48
  voice.
• 46:49
  Talk
• 46:50
  to
• 46:50
  kids
• 46:50
  about
• 46:50
  repairing
• 46:52
  problems
• 46:52
  after
• 46:53
  a
• 46:53
  conflict,
• 46:54
  apologizing,
• 46:55
  making
• 46:55
  things
• 46:56
  right.
• 46:58
  You
• 46:58
  know,
• 46:59
  all
• 46:59
  of
• 46:59
  these
• 46:59
  things
• 47:00
  are.
• 47:00
  Are
• 47:00
  probably
• 47:01
  good
• 47:01
  things.
• 47:01
  These
• 47:01
  are
• 47:01
  all
• 47:02
  good
• 47:02
  things
• 47:02
  that
• 47:02
  we
• 47:03
  want
• 47:03
  to
• 47:03
  teach
• 47:03
  our
• 47:03
  kids.
• 47:04
  So
• 47:04
  I'm
• 47:04
  looking
• 47:04
  at
• 47:05
  the
• 47:05
  big
• 47:05
  idea.
• 47:06
  No.
• 47:07
  What?
• 47:08
  Oh
• 47:08
  my
• 47:08
  God.
• 47:08
  And
• 47:08
  your
• 47:09
  criticism
• 47:09
  is.
• 47:09
  It
• 47:10
  felt
• 47:10
  dry.
• 47:12
  Tina,
• 47:13
  what
• 47:13
  does
• 47:13
  that
• 47:13
  mean
• 47:14
  about
• 47:14
  a
• 47:14
  book?
• 47:15
  The
• 47:15
  book
• 47:16
  was
• 47:16
  dry.
• 47:16
  What
• 47:17
  was
• 47:17
  your
• 47:17
  expectation
• 47:18
  that
• 47:18
  it
• 47:18
  would.
• 47:18
  Be
• 47:19
  fun
• 47:19
  to
• 47:19
  read?
• 47:20
  Like,
• 47:20
  and
• 47:20
  more
• 47:21
  interesting.
• 47:21
  So
• 47:22
  the
• 47:22
  antithesis
• 47:23
  of
• 47:23
  fun
• 47:23
  to
• 47:24
  read
• 47:24
  is
• 47:24
  dry?
• 47:25
  Well,
• 47:26
  you
• 47:26
  know,
• 47:27
  like
• 47:27
  nothing.
• 47:28
  Well,
• 47:28
  there
• 47:28
  were
• 47:28
  comics
• 47:29
  which
• 47:29
  made
• 47:30
  it.
• 47:30
  A
• 47:30
  little
• 47:30
  better,
• 47:30
  but
• 47:31
  paint
• 47:31
  me
• 47:31
  a
• 47:31
  picture
• 47:31
  of
• 47:32
  dry.
• 47:32
  What
• 47:32
  is
• 47:33
  a
• 47:33
  dry
• 47:33
  well?
• 47:33
  You
• 47:34
  know,
• 47:34
  there
• 47:34
  are
• 47:35
  no
• 47:35
  non
• 47:35
  fiction
• 47:35
  books
• 47:36
  that
• 47:36
  even
• 47:36
  though
• 47:36
  they're
• 47:37
  non
• 47:37
  fiction,
• 47:38
  they
• 47:38
  draw
• 47:38
  you
• 47:38
  in,
• 47:39
  they
• 47:39
  tell
• 47:39
  good
• 47:39
  stories.
• 47:40
  And
• 47:41
  those
• 47:41
  are
• 47:41
  wet.
• 47:42
  No,
• 47:43
  no,
• 47:43
  no.
• 47:43
  Dry
• 47:44
  is.
• 47:44
  No,
• 47:45
  not
• 47:45
  dry.
• 47:45
  Wet.
• 47:46
  It's
• 47:46
  like,
• 47:47
  it's
• 47:47
  dry.
• 47:48
  Dry
• 47:49
  means
• 47:49
  like
• 47:49
  dull.
• 47:50
  It
• 47:50
  means
• 47:51
  dull.
• 47:51
  Okay,
• 47:51
  okay.
• 47:52
  There
• 47:53
  were
• 47:53
  dull
• 47:53
  parts
• 47:54
  because
• 47:54
  that's
• 47:54
  all
• 47:54
  I
• 47:54
  see.
• 47:55
  Didn't
• 47:55
  like
• 47:55
  it
• 47:56
  felt
• 47:56
  dry.
• 47:56
  I
• 47:57
  didn't
• 47:57
  mean
• 47:57
  dry
• 47:58
  versus.
• 47:58
  I
• 47:58
  meant,
• 47:59
  you
• 47:59
  know,
• 47:59
  it
• 47:59
  was
• 47:59
  just
• 48:00
  too
• 48:00
  dry.
• 48:00
  I.
• 48:01
  Even
• 48:01
  though
• 48:01
  it
• 48:02
  had
• 48:02
  the
• 48:02
  comics,
• 48:02
  which
• 48:03
  I
• 48:03
  did
• 48:03
  appreciate.
• 48:04
  Like
• 48:04
  a
• 48:04
  Triscuit
• 48:05
  in
• 48:05
  your
• 48:05
  mouth
• 48:05
  kind
• 48:06
  of.
• 48:06
  Yeah,
• 48:06
  like
• 48:07
  I
• 48:07
  needed.
• 48:08
  I
• 48:08
  needed
• 48:08
  more.
• 48:09
  It
• 48:09
  was
• 48:09
  salty,
• 48:10
  dry.
• 48:10
  I
• 48:10
  needed,
• 48:11
  you
• 48:11
  know,
• 48:12
  a
• 48:12
  little
• 48:12
  sweet.
• 48:12
  I
• 48:12
  needed
• 48:13
  something
• 48:13
  else.
• 48:14
  Something
• 48:14
  I
• 48:14
  needed
• 48:15
  more
• 48:15
  to
• 48:15
  draw
• 48:15
  me
• 48:15
  in.
• 48:16
  That's
• 48:16
  all.
• 48:16
  That's
• 48:17
  what
• 48:17
  I
• 48:17
  was
• 48:17
  saying.
• 48:19
  I
• 48:20
  liked
• 48:20
  things
• 48:20
  I
• 48:20
  liked
• 48:21
  about
• 48:21
  the
• 48:21
  book.
• 48:21
  I
• 48:22
  thought
• 48:22
  the
• 48:23
  encouraging
• 48:23
  your
• 48:23
  child
• 48:24
  to
• 48:24
  tell
• 48:24
  stories.
• 48:25
  Great
• 48:26
  at
• 48:26
  life.
• 48:28
  Remembering
• 48:28
  that
• 48:28
  when
• 48:29
  a
• 48:29
  child
• 48:29
  is
• 48:29
  emotional,
• 48:30
  don't
• 48:30
  try
• 48:30
  to
• 48:30
  solve
• 48:31
  the
• 48:31
  problem.
• 48:32
  Good
• 48:32
  advice.
• 48:33
  Remembering
• 48:34
  that
• 48:34
  your
• 48:34
  lower
• 48:35
  brain
• 48:35
  and
• 48:35
  upper
• 48:36
  brain
• 48:36
  can.
• 48:36
  And
• 48:36
  your
• 48:37
  left
• 48:37
  brain
• 48:37
  and
• 48:37
  your
• 48:38
  right
• 48:38
  brain.
• 48:38
  Right.
• 48:39
  And
• 48:39
  I
• 48:39
  said,
• 48:40
  and
• 48:40
  I
• 48:40
  think
• 48:41
  that
• 48:41
  the
• 48:41
  fact
• 48:41
  that
• 48:42
  they
• 48:42
  are
• 48:42
  often
• 48:42
  at
• 48:43
  odds,
• 48:43
  lower
• 48:43
  and
• 48:43
  upper.
• 48:44
  That
• 48:44
  explains
• 48:45
  so
• 48:45
  many
• 48:45
  dumb
• 48:46
  decisions
• 48:46
  that
• 48:46
  kids
• 48:47
  make.
• 48:47
  Kids
• 48:48
  make
• 48:48
  really
• 48:48
  dumb
• 48:49
  decisions.
• 48:49
  And
• 48:50
  you
• 48:50
  just
• 48:50
  go,
• 48:50
  what?
• 48:51
  Especially
• 48:51
  teenagers.
• 48:53
  I
• 48:53
  mean,
• 48:53
  you're
• 48:53
  kind
• 48:53
  of
• 48:54
  going,
• 48:54
  what
• 48:54
  were
• 48:54
  you
• 48:55
  thinking?
• 48:55
  Well,
• 48:55
  it
• 48:56
  sounds
• 48:56
  like
• 48:56
  one
• 48:56
  part
• 48:56
  of
• 48:57
  the
• 48:57
  brain
• 48:57
  develops
• 48:57
  a
• 48:57
  lot
• 48:57
  faster
• 48:58
  than
• 48:58
  the
• 48:58
  other.
• 48:58
  Yes.
• 48:59
  And
• 48:59
  so,
• 48:59
  and
• 49:00
  also
• 49:00
  like
• 49:00
  teenagers
• 49:01
  are
• 49:01
  basically
• 49:02
  babies
• 49:03
  in
• 49:03
  adult
• 49:04
  bodies.
• 49:05
  So
• 49:05
  like
• 49:05
  their
• 49:06
  bodies
• 49:06
  are
• 49:06
  developed
• 49:07
  and
• 49:08
  appear
• 49:08
  to
• 49:08
  be
• 49:09
  mature
• 49:09
  and
• 49:09
  grown,
• 49:10
  but
• 49:10
  their
• 49:11
  minds
• 49:11
  are
• 49:12
  lagging.
• 49:12
  Well,
• 49:13
  it's
• 49:13
  their
• 49:13
  executive
• 49:13
  function.
• 49:14
  It's
• 49:14
  the
• 49:14
  prefrontal
• 49:15
  cortex.
• 49:16
  Yes.
• 49:16
  Which
• 49:17
  is,
• 49:17
  you
• 49:17
  know,
• 49:18
  which
• 49:18
  we're
• 49:18
  learning.
• 49:19
  Is
• 49:19
  also
• 49:19
  more
• 49:19
  of
• 49:19
  a
• 49:20
  western
• 49:20
  thing
• 49:21
  because
• 49:22
  in
• 49:22
  other
• 49:22
  cultures
• 49:24
  kids
• 49:24
  are
• 49:24
  caring
• 49:25
  for.
• 49:26
  Well,
• 49:26
  they're
• 49:26
  developing
• 49:27
  it
• 49:27
  earlier
• 49:28
  through
• 49:28
  experience.
• 49:30
  In
• 49:30
  other
• 49:30
  cultures.
• 49:31
  Do
• 49:31
  you
• 49:31
  think
• 49:32
  it's
• 49:32
  because
• 49:32
  we
• 49:32
  shelter
• 49:33
  kids
• 49:33
  too
• 49:33
  much
• 49:34
  here?
• 49:35
  It
• 49:35
  could
• 49:35
  be
• 49:36
  to
• 49:36
  some
• 49:36
  extent.
• 49:37
  I
• 49:37
  mean,
• 49:37
  we
• 49:38
  try
• 49:38
  to
• 49:38
  control
• 49:39
  things,
• 49:39
  we
• 49:40
  pace
• 49:40
  them.
• 49:41
  We
• 49:42
  don't
• 49:42
  expose
• 49:43
  them
• 49:43
  to
• 49:43
  harder
• 49:44
  things
• 49:44
  or
• 49:45
  allow
• 49:45
  them
• 49:46
  more
• 49:46
  freedoms.
• 49:47
  Maybe
• 49:48
  that's
• 49:48
  part
• 49:48
  of.
• 49:49
  I'm
• 49:49
  not
• 49:50
  sure.
• 49:52
  But
• 49:52
  it
• 49:52
  just
• 49:52
  takes
• 49:52
  longer
• 49:53
  the.
• 49:54
  For
• 49:54
  the
• 49:55
  decision
• 49:55
  making,
• 49:56
  the
• 49:56
  organization,
• 49:57
  you
• 49:58
  know,
• 49:58
  all
• 49:58
  of
• 49:58
  those
• 49:58
  things.
• 50:00
  The
• 50:00
  impulse
• 50:01
  control
• 50:02
  to.
• 50:02
  To
• 50:02
  grow.
• 50:03
  But
• 50:03
  yeah,
• 50:03
  it
• 50:03
  could
• 50:03
  be
• 50:04
  partly
• 50:04
  because
• 50:05
  of
• 50:05
  that
• 50:05
  because
• 50:06
  they
• 50:06
  did
• 50:06
  talk
• 50:06
  about
• 50:07
  in.
• 50:07
  In
• 50:07
  Hunt
• 50:08
  Gather
• 50:08
  Parent
• 50:10
  a
• 50:10
  culture
• 50:11
  where
• 50:12
  children's
• 50:12
  executive
• 50:13
  function
• 50:13
  skills
• 50:14
  were
• 50:14
  really
• 50:15
  sharp
• 50:16
  much
• 50:16
  earlier
• 50:17
  than
• 50:17
  they
• 50:17
  are
• 50:18
  in
• 50:18
  Western
• 50:18
  culture.
• 50:19
  So
• 50:19
  maybe
• 50:20
  that's
• 50:20
  part
• 50:20
  of
• 50:20
  it.
• 50:20
  Yeah,
• 50:20
  maybe
• 50:20
  it
• 50:21
  is.
• 50:21
  Maybe
• 50:21
  it
• 50:21
  is.
• 50:22
  Is.
• 50:22
  I
• 50:22
  love
• 50:22
  the
• 50:22
  comics.
• 50:24
  Loved
• 50:24
  the
• 50:25
  comics.
• 50:25
  I
• 50:25
  wish
• 50:25
  the
• 50:26
  whole
• 50:26
  book
• 50:26
  had
• 50:26
  been
• 50:26
  comics.
• 50:27
  It
• 50:27
  would
• 50:27
  have
• 50:27
  been
• 50:28
  better.
• 50:28
  Absolutely.
• 50:29
  They
• 50:29
  should
• 50:29
  do
• 50:29
  a
• 50:30
  version
• 50:30
  that's
• 50:30
  all.
• 50:31
  Like
• 50:31
  a
• 50:31
  graphic
• 50:31
  for
• 50:32
  kids.
• 50:32
  For
• 50:32
  kids?
• 50:33
  Yeah.
• 50:33
  To
• 50:33
  teach
• 50:34
  kids
• 50:34
  about
• 50:34
  their
• 50:34
  brain.
• 50:34
  Like,
• 50:35
  I
• 50:35
  think
• 50:35
  that.
• 50:35
  Or
• 50:36
  to
• 50:36
  teach
• 50:36
  adults
• 50:37
  like
• 50:37
  me
• 50:37
  about
• 50:38
  the
• 50:38
  brain.
• 50:38
  Yeah.
• 50:39
  I
• 50:39
  would
• 50:40
  have
• 50:40
  had
• 50:40
  a
• 50:40
  much
• 50:40
  easier
• 50:40
  time
• 50:41
  absorbing
• 50:42
  it
• 50:42
  in
• 50:42
  that
• 50:43
  format.
• 50:43
  Yeah.
• 50:44
  Cuz
• 50:44
  I.
• 50:44
  I
• 50:44
  know
• 50:45
  I
• 50:45
  had
• 50:45
  to
• 50:45
  keep
• 50:45
  going
• 50:45
  back
• 50:46
  and
• 50:46
  rereading
• 50:47
  things
• 50:47
  to
• 50:47
  go.
• 50:47
  I
• 50:47
  kept
• 50:48
  going
• 50:48
  back
• 50:48
  to
• 50:48
  the
• 50:48
  comics.
• 50:49
  You
• 50:49
  did?
• 50:49
  Yeah.
• 50:51
  Okay,
• 50:52
  so
• 50:52
  I
• 50:53
  don't
• 50:53
  know.
• 50:53
  And
• 50:54
  here's
• 50:54
  your.
• 50:54
  Yeah,
• 50:55
  I
• 50:55
  see
• 50:55
  your.
• 50:56
  I
• 50:56
  don't
• 50:56
  know
• 50:56
  what
• 50:56
  you
• 50:56
  were
• 50:56
  thinking
• 50:57
  when
• 50:57
  you
• 50:57
  were
• 50:57
  writing
• 50:57
  these
• 50:58
  notes.
• 50:58
  Well,
• 50:58
  you
• 50:59
  must
• 50:59
  have.
• 50:59
  You
• 50:59
  have.
• 51:00
  Okay,
• 51:00
  I'll
• 51:00
  tell
• 51:00
  you
• 51:00
  the
• 51:00
  circumstances.
• 51:01
  Tell
• 51:01
  me
• 51:01
  the
• 51:01
  truth.
• 51:02
  Okay.
• 51:02
  So
• 51:03
  I
• 51:03
  literally
• 51:03
  had
• 51:04
  my
• 51:04
  baby
• 51:05
  in
• 51:05
  my
• 51:05
  lap,
• 51:06
  my
• 51:07
  laptop
• 51:07
  on
• 51:07
  a
• 51:08
  pillow.
• 51:08
  I
• 51:09
  was
• 51:09
  typing
• 51:09
  around
• 51:10
  her
• 51:10
  body
• 51:11
  because
• 51:11
  anytime
• 51:12
  I
• 51:12
  tried
• 51:12
  to
• 51:12
  put
• 51:12
  her
• 51:13
  down,
• 51:13
  she
• 51:13
  went
• 51:14
  absolutely
• 51:15
  ballistic.
• 51:15
  Okay.
• 51:16
  And
• 51:16
  I
• 51:16
  was
• 51:16
  alone,
• 51:17
  so
• 51:17
  I
• 51:17
  was
• 51:17
  like,
• 51:18
  well,
• 51:18
  I.
• 51:18
  I
• 51:18
  can't
• 51:19
  just
• 51:19
  sit
• 51:19
  here
• 51:19
  and
• 51:19
  let
• 51:19
  her
• 51:20
  scream
• 51:20
  her
• 51:20
  face
• 51:20
  off,
• 51:20
  so
• 51:21
  I
• 51:21
  have
• 51:21
  to
• 51:21
  include
• 51:21
  her
• 51:21
  in
• 51:22
  my
• 51:22
  task.
• 51:23
  Okay.
• 51:23
  And
• 51:24
  you
• 51:24
  were
• 51:24
  trying.
• 51:24
  I
• 51:25
  was
• 51:25
  trying.
• 51:25
  I
• 51:26
  was
• 51:26
  like.
• 51:26
  I
• 51:26
  was.
• 51:26
  That's
• 51:27
  why
• 51:27
  there
• 51:27
  were
• 51:27
  no,
• 51:27
  like,
• 51:27
  chapter
• 51:28
  heads
• 51:28
  or,
• 51:28
  like,
• 51:28
  where
• 51:29
  it
• 51:29
  was.
• 51:29
  It
• 51:29
  was
• 51:29
  all
• 51:30
  just
• 51:30
  one
• 51:30
  big
• 51:31
  block
• 51:32
  of
• 51:32
  unpunctuated
• 51:34
  text.
• 51:34
  Just
• 51:34
  tell.
• 51:35
  Next
• 51:35
  time
• 51:35
  that
• 51:35
  happens,
• 51:36
  just
• 51:36
  tell
• 51:36
  me,
• 51:36
  mom,
• 51:37
  I
• 51:37
  can't
• 51:37
  do
• 51:37
  it.
• 51:38
  I
• 51:38
  just.
• 51:38
  No,
• 51:38
  because
• 51:39
  I
• 51:39
  will
• 51:39
  do
• 51:39
  it,
• 51:41
  but.
• 51:42
  But
• 51:42
  it
• 51:42
  will
• 51:43
  suck.
• 51:44
  All
• 51:44
  right,
• 51:44
  okay,
• 51:45
  whatever.
• 51:45
  It's
• 51:46
  fine.
• 51:46
  It's
• 51:47
  fine.
• 51:47
  She
• 51:47
  was
• 51:47
  so
• 51:47
  cute.
• 51:48
  She's
• 51:48
  like,
• 51:48
  mesmerized
• 51:49
  by
• 51:49
  light.
• 51:49
  So
• 51:50
  she
• 51:50
  likes
• 51:50
  looking
• 51:50
  at
• 51:50
  the
• 51:51
  laptop.
• 51:51
  Okay,
• 51:52
  so
• 51:52
  she
• 51:52
  enjoyed
• 51:52
  it.
• 51:53
  She
• 51:53
  did.
• 51:53
  Well,
• 51:54
  she
• 51:54
  kept
• 51:54
  trying
• 51:54
  to
• 51:54
  press
• 51:55
  the
• 51:55
  space
• 51:55
  bar,
• 51:55
  and
• 51:56
  I
• 51:56
  was
• 51:56
  like,
• 51:56
  no,
• 51:56
  girl,
• 51:56
  this
• 51:57
  is
• 51:57
  not
• 51:57
  where
• 51:57
  a
• 51:58
  space
• 51:58
  belongs.
• 51:59
  Okay,
• 52:00
  that's
• 52:00
  funny.
• 52:00
  Well,
• 52:01
  all
• 52:01
  right.
• 52:01
  It's
• 52:02
  like,
• 52:02
  you
• 52:02
  know,
• 52:02
  it
• 52:02
  does.
• 52:03
  It
• 52:03
  is
• 52:03
  much
• 52:03
  harder
• 52:04
  to
• 52:04
  do
• 52:04
  this
• 52:04
  with
• 52:05
  a
• 52:05
  baby
• 52:05
  in
• 52:05
  your
• 52:05
  lap.
• 52:06
  I.
• 52:06
  I
• 52:06
  get
• 52:06
  that.
• 52:07
  I
• 52:07
  understand.
• 52:08
  Yeah.
• 52:08
  My
• 52:09
  baby
• 52:09
  loves
• 52:10
  being
• 52:10
  with
• 52:11
  me
• 52:11
  all
• 52:12
  the
• 52:12
  time.
• 52:12
  She's
• 52:12
  with
• 52:12
  me
• 52:13
  all
• 52:13
  the
• 52:13
  time.
• 52:14
  And
• 52:14
  I
• 52:14
  definitely
• 52:15
  indulge
• 52:15
  her
• 52:15
  because,
• 52:15
  like,
• 52:16
  I
• 52:16
  love
• 52:16
  being
• 52:16
  with
• 52:16
  her
• 52:16
  too,
• 52:17
  of
• 52:17
  course.
• 52:17
  But.
• 52:18
  Oh,
• 52:18
  my
• 52:18
  God,
• 52:19
  like,
• 52:19
  if
• 52:19
  I
• 52:19
  don't
• 52:19
  absolutely
• 52:20
  have
• 52:20
  to
• 52:20
  put
• 52:20
  her
• 52:20
  down,
• 52:21
  I.
• 52:21
  I
• 52:21
  don't.
• 52:22
  Okay.
• 52:22
  Okay,
• 52:23
  well,
• 52:23
  that's.
• 52:24
  That's
• 52:24
  fine.
• 52:24
  That's.
• 52:25
  That's
• 52:25
  okay.
• 52:25
  And.
• 52:26
  But
• 52:26
  I
• 52:26
  think
• 52:27
  in
• 52:27
  general,
• 52:28
  but
• 52:29
  you
• 52:29
  read
• 52:29
  the
• 52:29
  book
• 52:30
  and.
• 52:30
  And
• 52:30
  you
• 52:30
  got
• 52:30
  the
• 52:31
  gist
• 52:31
  of
• 52:31
  it.
• 52:31
  And
• 52:32
  as
• 52:32
  I
• 52:32
  did.
• 52:33
  And,
• 52:34
  you
• 52:34
  know,
• 52:34
  I,
• 52:35
  I
• 52:35
  think.
• 52:36
  I
• 52:36
  don't
• 52:36
  know,
• 52:37
  I,
• 52:37
  I,
• 52:38
  I
• 52:39
  always
• 52:39
  feel
• 52:39
  like
• 52:40
  every
• 52:40
  book
• 52:40
  has
• 52:41
  good
• 52:41
  points
• 52:42
  that
• 52:42
  you
• 52:42
  can
• 52:42
  take
• 52:43
  from
• 52:43
  it.
• 52:43
  And,
• 52:44
  you
• 52:44
  know,
• 52:45
  I
• 52:45
  think
• 52:45
  if
• 52:45
  you
• 52:46
  listen
• 52:46
  to
• 52:46
  the
• 52:47
  points
• 52:47
  we,
• 52:47
  we
• 52:48
  highlighted,
• 52:48
  if
• 52:48
  you
• 52:48
  can
• 52:48
  get
• 52:49
  through
• 52:49
  them,
• 52:49
  we
• 52:49
  told.
• 52:50
  We
• 52:50
  kind
• 52:50
  of.
• 52:50
  Of
• 52:50
  lost
• 52:51
  it
• 52:51
  a
• 52:51
  few
• 52:51
  times.
• 52:51
  Yeah.
• 52:52
  But
• 52:52
  if
• 52:52
  you
• 52:52
  can
• 52:52
  get
• 52:52
  to
• 52:53
  those
• 52:53
  points,
• 52:53
  you'll
• 52:53
  get
• 52:54
  the
• 52:54
  gist.
• 52:54
  You
• 52:54
  can
• 52:54
  get
• 52:54
  the
• 52:55
  gist
• 52:55
  of
• 52:55
  it.
• 52:55
  And
• 52:57
  I
• 52:57
  will
• 52:57
  say,
• 52:57
  though,
• 52:57
  this
• 52:57
  book.
• 52:58
  Was
• 52:58
  referenced
• 52:59
  often
• 52:59
  in
• 53:00
  other
• 53:00
  books.
• 53:00
  Yeah.
• 53:01
  Yeah.
• 53:01
  So
• 53:02
  other
• 53:02
  authors
• 53:03
  of
• 53:03
  parenting
• 53:04
  books
• 53:04
  really
• 53:04
  like
• 53:05
  this
• 53:05
  book.
• 53:05
  Yeah,
• 53:06
  they
• 53:06
  use
• 53:06
  it
• 53:06
  a
• 53:06
  lot.
• 53:07
  And
• 53:07
  it's
• 53:08
  a
• 53:08
  New
• 53:08
  York
• 53:08
  Times
• 53:08
  bestseller.
• 53:09
  And
• 53:10
  I
• 53:10
  like
• 53:10
  the.
• 53:11
  I
• 53:11
  really
• 53:12
  like
• 53:12
  the
• 53:12
  COVID
• 53:12
  Yeah,
• 53:13
  the
• 53:13
  COVID
• 53:13
  is
• 53:13
  cool.
• 53:13
  Cool
• 53:14
  cover.
• 53:15
  It's
• 53:15
  very
• 53:15
  nice
• 53:15
  and
• 53:16
  very
• 53:16
  nice.
• 53:16
  Nice.
• 53:17
  Very
• 53:17
  nice.
• 53:18
  And
• 53:18
  written
• 53:18
  by
• 53:18
  two
• 53:19
  people
• 53:19
  who
• 53:19
  know
• 53:19
  what
• 53:19
  they're
• 53:20
  talking
• 53:20
  about,
• 53:20
  so
• 53:20
  I
• 53:21
  think
• 53:21
  you
• 53:21
  can
• 53:21
  trust
• 53:22
  their
• 53:22
  opinions.
• 53:23
  Yes.
• 53:23
  I
• 53:24
  will
• 53:24
  say
• 53:24
  I
• 53:24
  think
• 53:24
  the
• 53:25
  storytelling
• 53:25
  left
• 53:26
  a
• 53:26
  bit
• 53:26
  to
• 53:26
  be
• 53:26
  desired,
• 53:27
  but
• 53:27
  the
• 53:27
  content
• 53:28
  was
• 53:28
  interesting
• 53:29
  and
• 53:29
  I'm
• 53:29
  sure
• 53:29
  accurate
• 53:30
  and
• 53:30
  I'm
• 53:31
  sure
• 53:31
  backed
• 53:31
  by
• 53:31
  many
• 53:32
  studies,
• 53:33
  but
• 53:33
  it
• 53:33
  was
• 53:33
  hard
• 53:34
  to
• 53:34
  digest
• 53:34
  at
• 53:35
  times.
• 53:35
  Dry.
• 53:36
  Dry.
• 53:37
  It
• 53:37
  was
• 53:37
  dry.
• 53:38
  It
• 53:38
  was
• 53:38
  a
• 53:38
  little
• 53:39
  dry.
• 53:39
  Dry
• 53:39
  like
• 53:40
  a
• 53:40
  Triscuit.
• 53:40
  Yep.
• 53:41
  Yep.
• 53:41
  That's.
• 53:42
  That's
• 53:43
  okay.
• 53:43
  So
• 53:43
  that's
• 53:44
  it
• 53:44
  for
• 53:44
  today.
• 53:44
  That's
• 53:45
  it
• 53:45
  for
• 53:45
  today.
• 53:45
  Thank
• 53:46
  you
• 53:46
  guys
• 53:46
  so
• 53:46
  much
• 53:46
  for
• 53:47
  joining
• 53:47
  us
• 53:47
  for
• 53:47
  this
• 53:47
  episode
• 53:48
  of
• 53:48
  Other
• 53:48
  People's
• 53:48
  Parenting,
• 53:49
  and
• 53:49
  we
• 53:49
  will
• 53:49
  see
• 53:50
  you
• 53:50
  next
• 53:50
  week.