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Kill Weak Feelings, Fight Through Fear, and Stay Unstoppable · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: What are the things that you fear that's been keeping
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  Speaker 1: you from living your dream, that's been keeping you from
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  Speaker 1: doing some things.
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  Speaker 2: That you would like to do.
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  Speaker 3: Let's think about those things.
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  Speaker 4: Every time your voice speaks and thinks about having something new,
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  Speaker 4: fear is there to squash it. Every time you want
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  Speaker 4: to try something new, fear is there to squash it.
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  Speaker 4: Every time you want to go somewhere new, fear is
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  Speaker 4: there to squash it. The big problem I see in
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  Speaker 4: the world today is that too many people are letting
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  Speaker 4: fear always win these inner conflicts.
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  Speaker 5: Every single person out there listening to this right now
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  Speaker 5: is afraid of the what ifs. They're afraid of what
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  Speaker 5: might happen. They're afraid of what if I do this,
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  Speaker 5: it doesn't happen. Nobody knows what's going to happen. I
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  Speaker 5: don't know, you don't know, We don't know.
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  Speaker 6: What if you don't do it? What if you don't
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  Speaker 6: chase your dreams?
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  Speaker 7: What if you don't stand up for yourself.
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  Speaker 5: What if you do not step up to the plate
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  Speaker 5: and take that challenge. So it's not being afraid of
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  Speaker 5: the unknown, it's going into the unknown with reckless abandon
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  Speaker 5: waving your head saying, Holy, I'm going to kick them
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  Speaker 5: at today. When that comes, you kick its up too.
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  Speaker 5: That's what beings successful.
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  Speaker 7: Is that.
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  Speaker 6: You face your fears.
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  Speaker 3: You become the person you want to be.
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  Speaker 7: You run from your fears.
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  Speaker 3: You're not living.
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  Speaker 5: You're a live, but you're not to get freedom.
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  Speaker 8: If you face your fears, Guys get fear.
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  Speaker 3: It's a story.
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  Speaker 7: It comes back in his confidence. What else?
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  Speaker 6: What else am I capable of?
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  Speaker 7: What else I hole my back from?
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  Speaker 8: What am I running from?
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  Speaker 7: I don't need to? What else can I overcome? Fear
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  Speaker 7: is looking too far ahead.
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  Speaker 9: Focus on the next step and not the staircase, the
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  Speaker 9: next obstacle. Look at the amount of obstacles as opportunities
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  Speaker 9: to succeed, not to fail.
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  Speaker 7: There is no such thing as failure.
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  Speaker 9: There is only exhaustion.
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  Speaker 7: Not showing off is failing.
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  Speaker 9: Don't be afraid of the finish line and welcome the
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  Speaker 9: starting block, and you will overcome the fear and uncertainty
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  Speaker 9: one step at a time.
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  Speaker 10: The absence of fear, it is moving forward in spite
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  Speaker 10: of it.
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  Speaker 7: I have to have the courage. And let me tell
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  Speaker 7: you something, most Americans don't have this kind of courage.
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  Speaker 7: I have to have the courage to stop making excuses.
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  Speaker 7: Who are you right now?
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  Speaker 1: And who must you become in order to create what
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  Speaker 1: you want?
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  Speaker 6: What has to change about you?
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  Speaker 1: What is it that you're doing right now that would
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  Speaker 1: be a liability for you as you begin to look
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  Speaker 1: toward the future and take inventory of your stuff. What
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  Speaker 1: is it about you right now that you've got to
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  Speaker 1: leave this behind because this no longer fits. Looking at
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  Speaker 1: where you want to go and the kind of person
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  Speaker 1: that you must become, the kind of standards that you
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  Speaker 1: have for you.
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  Speaker 5: What is it that you must do differently?
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  Speaker 1: Life?
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  Speaker 2: You thought you hacked me down, But this is the
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  Speaker 2: moment I change my mind. I won't let anything keep
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  Speaker 2: me dead. No matter how many times I feel, no
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  Speaker 2: matter how many times I feel rejected, embarrassed, down out,
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  Speaker 2: I will not give up. I will keep at it
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  Speaker 2: until my greatest clear dies. I will stand toe to
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  Speaker 2: toe with fear.
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  Speaker 7: Fear will die.
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  Speaker 10: Nobody's journey is seamless or smooth. We all stumble, we
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  Speaker 10: all have setbacks. If things go wrong, you hit a
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  Speaker 10: dead end, as you will.
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  Speaker 7: It's just life's way of.
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  Speaker 10: Saying time to change course. So ask every failure. This
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  Speaker 10: is what I do every failure, every crisis, every difficult time,
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  Speaker 10: I say, what is this here to teach me?
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  Speaker 11: Instead of focusing on how unfair your situation is, I'm
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  Speaker 11: challenging you to use your frustration to push you harder.
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  Speaker 11: I want you to know that you are not finished.
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  Speaker 11: In fact, you are just getting started.
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  Speaker 3: If you don't learn how to master the breaking point,
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  Speaker 3: you may have many ventures, but you will not approve
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  Speaker 3: massive success in any area because you have not mastered
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  Speaker 3: the breaking point.
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  Speaker 8: You're never just a victim of circumstances.
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  Speaker 7: No matter what happens.
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  Speaker 8: You're never without options that can get you back on
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  Speaker 8: the track. It takes curry to recognize that because it
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  Speaker 8: means accepting responsibility for your own future. But I would
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  Speaker 8: suggest that we should accept that responsibility because no one
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  Speaker 8: is really going to accept it for us, no matter
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  Speaker 8: what we may have been led to believe.
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  Speaker 1: It takes courage to act. Part of being hungry when
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  Speaker 1: you've been defeated. It takes courage to start over again.
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  Speaker 7: Yes, we have those ups and downs. I need.
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  Speaker 12: Your success, your happiness, your greatness comes from with them.
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  Speaker 6: I wanted to be somebody so bad it just ate
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  Speaker 6: me up inside. It was in my bones it was
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  Speaker 6: in my blood, it was in my heart. I want
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  Speaker 6: to be somebody. You've got to have standards in your life.
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  Speaker 6: You've got to have rooms you live by discipline. The
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  Speaker 6: definition is doing what you're supposed to do when you're
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  Speaker 6: supposed to do it.
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  Speaker 1: Begin to know that whatever it takes for you to
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  Speaker 1: create that you've.
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  Speaker 7: Got that in you.
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  Speaker 3: You've got that. You've got genius in you, and you've got.
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  Speaker 1: Goodness in you. You've got creativeness in you. If you
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  Speaker 1: decide to take the initiative to change the current quality
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  Speaker 1: of your life, I say to you that you will
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  Speaker 1: find that the universe is on your side.
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  Speaker 10: That the lesson in this story.
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  Speaker 8: So many things are trying to come to you, so
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  Speaker 8: many doors.
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  Speaker 10: Are trying to open, But we're so attached to whom
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  Speaker 10: we've been that we can't ripe the comp all.
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  Speaker 1: Of who is the police fee?
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  Speaker 7: So what do you say to yourself? Support? There's no
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  Speaker 7: there's no trainer to keep your doors, only you.
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  Speaker 10: The whole thing is this, don't say a word.
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  Speaker 7: Stay uncommon, amn'st uncommon.
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  Speaker 6: People, You're never done. Don't stop from your tire, stop
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  Speaker 6: when your touch, stay hold.
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  Speaker 7: Discomfort is a funny thing.
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  Speaker 13: We all do our best to avoid it, and most
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  Speaker 13: of us attempt some form of personal development precisely because
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  Speaker 13: we want lives with less discomfort and more serenity, ease,
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  Speaker 13: and enjoyment. This goes back to the assumption that we
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  Speaker 13: shouldn't suffer ever, and if we do, we should act
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  Speaker 13: in whatever way.
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  Speaker 7: Is necessary to end it.
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  Speaker 13: We think this discomfort is unbearable, I hate it and
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  Speaker 13: want it to stop.
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  Speaker 7: Something is wrong, But is it? Is your reason for
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  Speaker 7: not wanting.
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  Speaker 13: To exercise self discipline related only to mere discomfort and
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  Speaker 13: nothing actually harmful. You want to answer no here, Otherwise
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  Speaker 13: you are admitting that you melt faster than an ice
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  Speaker 13: cube in summer. Consequently, you may realize how much you
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  Speaker 13: disempower yourself.
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  Speaker 7: Let's talk about going to the neighborhood Jim.
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  Speaker 13: Almost anybody who's in decent physical shape, it stands to reason,
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  Speaker 13: has probably conquered most of their self consciousness about working
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  Speaker 13: out in public and has no problem sweating it out
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  Speaker 13: in the presence of strangers.
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  Speaker 7: For those who.
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  Speaker 13: Aren't top physical specimens, the story can be quite different.
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  Speaker 13: Exercising can make them uncomfortable for a myriad of reasons.
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  Speaker 13: From the moment they get on a treadmill, they may
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  Speaker 13: feel like they're being watched and judged. If they try
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  Speaker 13: to do an arm curl, they may feel embarrassed or
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  Speaker 13: timid in the presence of someone who's obviously done thousands
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  Speaker 13: of them. If they're trying to work off the paunch
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  Speaker 13: around their stomach, they may feel that other people are
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  Speaker 13: watching and appraising them harshly. This is, of course, ignoring
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  Speaker 13: the muscular fatigue and soreness that can follow. Thus, for
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  Speaker 13: someone who is debating going to the gym, is mere
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  Speaker 13: discomfort holding them back? Or is it the prospect of
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  Speaker 13: real harm? That's the crux of the third yes no question.
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  Speaker 13: Do I not want to do this just because it
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  Speaker 13: makes me feel uncomfortable? Or is this actually having a negative,
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  Speaker 13: harmful effect on me? I'm willing to bet that ninety
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  Speaker 13: nine times out of one hundred the answer is yes.
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  Speaker 13: It's merely uncomfortable. You are being pushed out of your
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  Speaker 13: comfort zone. You will suffer a bit mentally, your body
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  Speaker 13: will grow sweaty and fatigued. Your brain will be exercised
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  Speaker 13: to its full capacity. You may experience some negative emotions
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  Speaker 13: such as stress and anxiety. You will recover just fine
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  Speaker 13: without lasting repercussions. This is all discomfort and then nothing.
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  Speaker 13: So are you the type of person to pack it
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  Speaker 13: in just because you're uncomfortable, feel free to slide down
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  Speaker 13: the slipper slope of what kind of person that might
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  Speaker 13: make you? Your worst case scenarios and wild justifications are
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  Speaker 13: just providing a flimsy reason to avoid discomfort. In fact,
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  Speaker 13: there nothing more than mental illusions. This question forces you
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  Speaker 13: to face a shame that you are easily stopped by discomfort.
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  Speaker 13: Discomfort has and never will be a legitimate reason to
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  Speaker 13: not exercise self discipline, and thus this shame should propel
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  Speaker 13: you into action. This is a question where the yes
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  Speaker 13: no dichotomy is particularly effective. Every single thing we do
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  Speaker 13: to better ourselves, to affect positive change in our lives
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  Speaker 13: is going to involve some measure of inconvenience, discomfort, or fatigue,
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  Speaker 13: At least in the beginning. It might even involve minor pain,
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  Speaker 13: especially if you're working out for the first time. But
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  Speaker 13: are any of those consequences inherently harmful? Do they really
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  Speaker 13: undermine our integrity, threaten our health, compromise our sanity?
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  Speaker 7: No, they don't.
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  Speaker 13: There are a thousand cliches that reflect that truth. Like
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  Speaker 13: no pain, no gain, Affecting real change in your life
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  Speaker 13: is going to involve a measure of discomfort. I can't
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  Speaker 13: think of any kind of emotional, physical, spiritual, or occupational
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  Speaker 13: change that doesn't entail some irritation, soreness, inconvenience or bother.
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  Speaker 13: If they didn't, everybody would do it. Think about this question.
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  Speaker 13: With everything you do that's causing you some measure of discomfort,
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  Speaker 13: you have the choice to be lazy and weak spirited
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  Speaker 13: or get into action.
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  Speaker 7: Why should you.
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  Speaker 13: Do something you really don't want to do. Life is
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  Speaker 13: complicated enough affair as it is. Why weigh it down
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  Speaker 13: even more with something that you just don't want to experience?
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  Speaker 13: Or put effort toward things that make you miserable to
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  Speaker 13: any degree, even if they will result in positive consequences.
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  Speaker 13: What's the difference. Don't you have free will? What about
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  Speaker 13: living for carpidim and truly living life because you're only
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  Speaker 13: young once? Those are all true, But now imagine people
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  Speaker 13: who do not have your range of options. Some people
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  Speaker 13: have to do things that nobody else wants to do
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  Speaker 13: to make ends meet. They work menial or strenuous jobs,
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  Speaker 13: or work multiple jobs because they absolutely have to. Some
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  Speaker 13: of them have to take care of entire families, which
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  Speaker 13: might restrict them from things they really want to do.
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  Speaker 13: In fact, they may be so busy or preoccupy that
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  Speaker 13: they don't have time to even think about what they
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  Speaker 13: really want to do. They have no time for anything
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  Speaker 13: except working, eating, and sleeping. They indeed have the proverbial
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  Speaker 13: gun to their head, and then they have to do
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  Speaker 13: that every day of the week. Some of them may
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  Speaker 13: be perfectly content with this. Maybe they find meaning in
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  Speaker 13: what they do and that's enough for them.
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  Speaker 7: That is respectable.
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  Speaker 13: You, however, by virtue of being able to him and
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  Speaker 13: haw and procrastinate, are in a position of privilege to
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  Speaker 13: have the choices they don't.
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  Speaker 7: The chores and tasks.
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  Speaker 13: You have to endure to get to the goal you
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  Speaker 13: want to reach are opportunities they do not have. They'd
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  Speaker 13: love to have the time to learn a foreign language,
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  Speaker 13: develop a knowledgeable appreciation for art, or spend time learning
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  Speaker 13: to communicate.
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  Speaker 7: With their loved ones.
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  Speaker 13: They'd also love the choice to not do something they
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  Speaker 13: need to do. They just don't have the ability or
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  Speaker 13: time you do. And not to be mean, but let's
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  Speaker 13: be honest. If a longshoreman heard you complaining about the
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  Speaker 13: leg cramps you got while doing sit ups. He might
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  Speaker 13: think you're being a little well ridiculous. He has no
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  Speaker 13: choice but to wake up at five am each day
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  Speaker 13: and work until eight pm. How's that for a bit
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  Speaker 13: of perspective. Surely you can push a bit harder in
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  Speaker 13: the gym, Surely you can make the bed every morning.
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  Speaker 13: Surely that darn karr can finally get washed. The answer
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  Speaker 13: to this question then is hopefully no. It's not a
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  Speaker 13: good excuse for anything. Everybody does something they don't want
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  Speaker 13: to do from time to time, but some people don't
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  Speaker 13: have the.
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  Speaker 7: Opportunity to do anything else.
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  Speaker 13: Turn that realization into a sense of gratitude that you
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  Speaker 13: can do it. That's not just the right way to
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  Speaker 13: be either. It will give you a positive outlook, because
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  Speaker 13: it's impossible to feel gratitude and negativity at the same time.
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  Speaker 13: Spend some time thinking about people who have to do
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  Speaker 13: those arduous or dreadful jobs every day of their lives.
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  Speaker 13: Write them down in a list if you have to,
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  Speaker 13: Then put yourself in proper perspective about the pesky discomforts
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  Speaker 13: or chores you have to do to get to your goal.
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  Speaker 13: Your being able to do those annoying things is actually
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  Speaker 13: a great freedom. These things you want to avoid are
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  Speaker 13: only drudgery if you choose to see them that way.
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  Speaker 13: Coming at a task from a mindset of gratitude versus
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  Speaker 13: dread will create vastly different outcomes. In the grand scheme
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  Speaker 13: of things, You're not asking all that much of yourself,
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  Speaker 13: and the end result will be far more worthy of
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  Speaker 13: your mental energy than what you spend to complain about them.