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Beyond 100% Rebuilding Life After It Breaks From A Man Who Has Lived It Nir Peled · Arroe Collins Like It's Live

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  Speaker 2: Good morning, Good morning.
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  Speaker 1: Let me ask you a question about I realized that
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  Speaker 1: you went through a strange change and a twist in life.
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  Speaker 1: I too went through through a heart attack, and so
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  Speaker 1: you and I have a pretty much the same path,
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  Speaker 1: but from different angles of the way that life has
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  Speaker 1: dealt with each and every one of us. How did
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  Speaker 1: you learn to be more honest and open with you
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  Speaker 1: and trust yourself in the way of making those necessary changes.
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  Speaker 3: Well, it's it became to me as a necessity. There
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  Speaker 3: was no other way. You can't go around it. You
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  Speaker 3: can't fake your recovery.
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  Speaker 2: You can fake.
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  Speaker 3: It just a little bit, but at some point you
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  Speaker 3: hit the wall and you realize it's not just the
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  Speaker 3: body that needs to recover, your your mind, your mental state,
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  Speaker 3: and your actual you know, the big question pops up
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  Speaker 3: and you got to deal with that. You can push
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  Speaker 3: it aside for a few years, maybe decades, but it's
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  Speaker 3: surfaced up.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but what do you do with when When you
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  Speaker 1: have a book called Beyond one hundred Percent, I get
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  Speaker 1: it because I've been on that path. I'm still on
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  Speaker 1: that path. In fact, I call it my black belt
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  Speaker 1: path because it is a change of life and you
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  Speaker 1: are you are leading in a different direction. But the
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  Speaker 1: thing about it is, though not everybody on the outside
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  Speaker 1: understands reaching beyond one hundred percent, how do you stay
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  Speaker 1: strong as well as focused and don't let other trollers
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  Speaker 1: and judgers take you down?
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  Speaker 3: Well, the book is about the framework I developed.
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  Speaker 2: It's a story, but it's a STU is.
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  Speaker 3: The proof of the framework I developed to do exactly that.
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  Speaker 3: To get to reinvent your sales and the crisis that
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  Speaker 3: had happened to you is actually it can turn into
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  Speaker 3: something that you take advantage.
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  Speaker 2: It provides you access to pause of.
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  Speaker 3: Few that you didn't have access before before without the crisis.
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  Speaker 3: So I was lying on my bed, unable to speak
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  Speaker 3: or move and stripped out of my identity, everything that
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  Speaker 3: I you know, I thought who I was, and I
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  Speaker 3: knew who I was. I was fifty years old at
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  Speaker 3: the top of my career. But then all of that
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  Speaker 3: was stripped in a moment. And the first thing that
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  Speaker 3: I need the tools to get back to what I thought,
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  Speaker 3: back to the same me. The first thing that I did,
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  Speaker 3: which was I guess essential is I call it surrender,
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  Speaker 3: you know, accepting the fact that this shit happened to you.
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  Speaker 3: So it's for my friends that this thing happened to you,
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  Speaker 3: and it happened, and stopped resisting it and just want it,
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  Speaker 3: feel sorry for yourself, cry, you know all that it
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  Speaker 3: takes to really accept that this is happening to you.
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  Speaker 3: Then the recovery stars and I lay out like a
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  Speaker 3: tools that worked for me.
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  Speaker 2: I thought at first, is just my body.
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  Speaker 3: I need to rewire my brain and start moving my
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  Speaker 3: hands and start talking again. But then I realized I
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  Speaker 3: have a lot of feelings, a lot of emotions, and
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  Speaker 3: my cognitive is also damn So okay, it's a body
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  Speaker 3: and mind. But that can last for you know, a
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  Speaker 3: few weeks of rehab. Then the big question comes, you know,
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  Speaker 3: and the big emotions comes, and connections that sustain this
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  Speaker 3: process because it's it's a marathon. Like you're on it still, right,
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  Speaker 3: I'm on it still. So it's a never ending process.
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  Speaker 3: How do you keep going? Where you know you need
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  Speaker 3: something that is beyond the body and mind, you need
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  Speaker 3: something that is above that or something that holds that together.
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  Speaker 3: And that I call it spiritual. I mean for some
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  Speaker 3: people it's religion. For some people it's whatever it is
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  Speaker 3: for you, right, asking those questions, digging into them, really
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  Speaker 3: be curious and listening to yourself and to the you know,
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  Speaker 3: the world or the God or whatever it is for
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  Speaker 3: you just allows you to keep on going.
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  Speaker 1: That is so interesting that you say that, because I mean,
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  Speaker 1: first of all, I'm so glad that you and I
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  Speaker 1: are having this conversation today because I'm only thirty five
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  Speaker 1: forty minutes away from it. I just had my annual
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  Speaker 1: physical with my doctor, and he brought up that question.
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  Speaker 1: He was asking me questions about the body, and I said,
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  Speaker 1: do you realize that I listened to my body? It
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  Speaker 1: is about my mind, body, and soul. Do you not
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  Speaker 1: have that in your notes, dude? And he looked at
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  Speaker 1: me as if like I'm the crazy one, Because you're right.
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  Speaker 1: We do learn how to listen to our mind, body,
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  Speaker 1: and soul and it becomes the storyteller to us, and
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  Speaker 1: that's how we react on the outside. That's why I
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  Speaker 1: praise your book. I praise it because you really do
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  Speaker 1: bring the truth to this.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, you can fake it as much as you can,
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  Speaker 3: and faking it is to yourself, right. You can you
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  Speaker 3: can know better. You can use your logical mind, which
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  Speaker 3: i'm you know, I'm an engineer and ba et cetera.
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  Speaker 3: So that's kind of my comfort zone. But it doesn't
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  Speaker 3: last long.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, and you know you kind of hit
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  Speaker 1: that point about denying it too, because I remember looking
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  Speaker 1: at doctor fan Deddy and I accused him. I said,
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  Speaker 1: you guys are just making this stuff up with these
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  Speaker 1: strokes and heart attacks. You just want more patience on
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  Speaker 1: your tables to pay for this stuff, and he looked
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  Speaker 1: at me and he goes, I want you to write
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  Speaker 1: a letter to your mother and tell her exactly that
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  Speaker 1: you let her know how you feel because you got
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  Speaker 1: it from your mom. And I went, I'm done. You
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  Speaker 1: just woke my butt up. Oh my god, I'm never
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  Speaker 1: going to accuse my mother of doing this to me.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's you know, doctors have their own point of view.
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  Speaker 3: And I told it to you my therapist stay, yes, yesterday.
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  Speaker 3: Actually that's you know, walking the walk of recovery, which
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  Speaker 3: is a journey and it never ending and not a
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  Speaker 3: straight line. Is different than saving your life and patching
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  Speaker 3: you and sending you home.
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  Speaker 2: So doctors especialist specialists. They're really good at what they do.
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  Speaker 3: And thank god from other medicine, it saved my life
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  Speaker 3: more than once, more than twice, more than well actually
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  Speaker 3: almost seven times.
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  Speaker 2: So we're very lucky to live in this decade now.
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  Speaker 3: But recover is not just you know, getting your life back,
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  Speaker 3: it's you know, getting your identity, getting your purpose, getting
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  Speaker 3: your life back.
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  Speaker 1: Please do not move. There's more on the way with
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  Speaker 1: near Pillod coming up next. The name of the book
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  Speaker 1: Beyond one hundred Percent Rebuilding Life After it breaks, we
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  Speaker 1: are back with a man that has lived it near pillid.
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  Speaker 1: You know what I find really inspiring about you is
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  Speaker 1: that you've got the courage to say that surrendering is
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  Speaker 1: actually a great strength. I've never heard anybody say that,
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  Speaker 1: but I know that as a daily writer inside journals,
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  Speaker 1: if I don't surrender the truth, then I'm not being
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  Speaker 1: truthful to myself or anybody else around me. And I
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  Speaker 1: love you for really bringing that forward, saying surrendering is
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  Speaker 1: a great strength. Do not judge yourself on this.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. I mean, I grew up with boys don't cry,
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  Speaker 3: and crying is the weakness. I remember the last time
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  Speaker 3: I cried. I remember it vividly. I was a young
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  Speaker 3: boy and growing up in Israel, the alpha tite father,
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  Speaker 3: and crying was weakness. And my mom used to tug
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  Speaker 3: me and say, no, it's okay to cry, you're sensitive boy.
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  Speaker 3: But I felt ashamed. And that was the last time
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  Speaker 3: I cried up until two years ago. Now, if I
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  Speaker 3: write something, I judged by how much, how fast the
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  Speaker 3: tears are coming.
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  Speaker 2: It's a superpower.
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  Speaker 3: Feelings are here to tell us something and they're not us.
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  Speaker 2: Neither is the body that we're living in.
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  Speaker 3: But it's part of us and to meet the strength
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  Speaker 3: to know your feelings at every given moment, and feeling
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  Speaker 3: have a spectrum, right, So there's good feelings which we
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  Speaker 3: you know, light which would chase, but there's also bad
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  Speaker 3: feelings yep, And it's a spectrum.
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  Speaker 2: Like light.
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  Speaker 3: You cannot only see the bright light. You need to
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  Speaker 3: see them with contrast of the dark lights, the dark colors.
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  Speaker 3: So I think surrender, which is giving giving away, giving
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  Speaker 3: up to those feeling everything, including those bad emotions, bad
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  Speaker 3: feelings I do with my hands, quote on quotes, but
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  Speaker 3: there's no bad or good. It's just feelings. And they
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  Speaker 3: here to teach us something and let us know what's
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  Speaker 3: what we're dealing with.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god, you just hit it right on the head.
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  Speaker 1: We are here to learn something because they're teaching us
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  Speaker 1: because here and I'm sure this has happened to you
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  Speaker 1: as well. I mean, yes, my wife and I were
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  Speaker 1: collaborators in this, and she helped me get back up
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  Speaker 1: on my feet again. But what you learned going through
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  Speaker 1: this on an individual, well, I'm sure you've used it
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  Speaker 1: as a tool to help those around you, because my
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  Speaker 1: wife's numbers are up right now. Kind of crazy am
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  Speaker 1: I freaking out? No, because I've lived this path already
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  Speaker 1: and you're going through the same thing that you should
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  Speaker 1: have done when I had my heart attack or when
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  Speaker 1: you had your stroke. Do you find yourself being a
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  Speaker 1: teacher as well?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, And this is why I released the book.
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  Speaker 3: It took me a year to publish it, and then
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  Speaker 3: I realized in this year I was going to stroke
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  Speaker 3: and TBI groups, recolory groups, and I don't know how,
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  Speaker 3: I started meeting new people that are in this become
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  Speaker 3: stages of the process, and I was able to first
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  Speaker 3: be a very a better listener to them, listening from
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  Speaker 3: my ears and my brain and not from not from
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  Speaker 3: trying to say something smart and emphasize with them. I had,
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  Speaker 3: you know, I had, I think at the time that
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  Speaker 3: I felt with their feelings. Yes, and then I had
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  Speaker 3: some word of advice, not as oh, you should do
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  Speaker 3: this so I know better, but this is what I did,
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  Speaker 3: and this would helped me try. It is one or
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  Speaker 3: two things that helped me recover. It's not the same thing,
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  Speaker 3: it's not the same process, but I dealt with those
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  Speaker 3: emotions or stages in this way, and I felt that
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  Speaker 3: I am helping them and actually they told me after
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  Speaker 3: the fact and even wrote me.
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  Speaker 2: And then I decided, you know what, if this book.
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  Speaker 3: If my knowledge, my experience can help someone out there,
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  Speaker 3: it's worth a while. And it's not easy to publish
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  Speaker 3: a book. I feel like naked walking in the streets,
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  Speaker 3: and I'm a very private person, but just the knowing,
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  Speaker 3: the knowledge, or the assumption I have that this might
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  Speaker 3: help someone out there, it's.
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  Speaker 2: Worth a while.
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  Speaker 1: Let me ask you this question only because I think
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  Speaker 1: it's because of the age that I'm reaching, and that
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  Speaker 1: seems to be the world that we enter as we
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  Speaker 1: get beyond sixty. And the question would be that with
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  Speaker 1: the people that I do know that have had strokes,
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  Speaker 1: why has it and this And I really have done
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  Speaker 1: research on this. Why is it that after someone has
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  Speaker 1: a stroke they don't keep their cussing under control. I've
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  Speaker 1: noticed that because people will sit there and start flying
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  Speaker 1: words out and I'm going, what's going on with this?
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  Speaker 1: And I've done research that says, because your guard is
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  Speaker 1: down and that scepter is not there to help protect you.
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  Speaker 1: Did you go through a cussing stage as well? Yes,
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  Speaker 1: oh my god, okay.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, my speech wasn't so was you know? I wasn't
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  Speaker 3: able to speak as fast as than talking now. And
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  Speaker 3: there is a you know, words of sleeping or you know,
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  Speaker 3: you know, the notion where you the world is just
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  Speaker 3: on the people of your tongue and you just can't
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  Speaker 3: fuss seems to find it that stroke.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, you know what you want to.
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  Speaker 3: Say, you in your in your mind, but you can't
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  Speaker 3: find the words to say it. And you go with
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  Speaker 3: and you start, you know, I found a way to
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  Speaker 3: just describe it.
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  Speaker 2: Go around it.
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  Speaker 3: If I want to say an apple, it's fruit, you know, greens,
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  Speaker 3: you know, trying to describe the word, but it takes
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  Speaker 3: away from what I'm trying to say, you know. So yeah,
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  Speaker 3: that's not direct answer to your question. But I think
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  Speaker 3: is a better example is my wife was there with me.
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  Speaker 3: She still is right next to me, and I just
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  Speaker 3: released an article today about it, so it is it's
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  Speaker 3: fresh in my mind and she I used to be
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  Speaker 3: very angry and very frustrated with my situation at times
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  Speaker 3: more sometimes more than other other times. I had no
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  Speaker 3: one to take it out on, so I took it
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  Speaker 3: on her. I was in my room trying to type
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  Speaker 3: and slipping my keyboard because I felt my you know,
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  Speaker 3: Typing is my access to my professional world and I
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  Speaker 3: can't type. You know, this world f me and you know,
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  Speaker 3: the frustulation and anger comes when there wasn't the when
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  Speaker 3: I wasn't alone, which was most of the time, it
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  Speaker 3: was her.
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  Speaker 2: She was my punching bag.
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  Speaker 3: So and then I said, I sorry, I'm sorry, and
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  Speaker 3: you know, but you can't take what take back what
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  Speaker 3: you said.
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  Speaker 1: So I got to be honest with you. I want this,
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  Speaker 1: this book, your book beyond one hundred percent to be
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  Speaker 1: in martial arts schools. I really do. And the reason
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  Speaker 1: why is because they seem to be the only place
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  Speaker 1: that talks about the mind, body, and soul after it,
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  Speaker 1: you know, after it's been attacked, or when it's in question,
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  Speaker 1: when it's in doubt, fear, shame, guilt, And I think
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  Speaker 1: that your book really does give people that lift that
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  Speaker 1: they need so they can have a better understanding of
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  Speaker 1: who it is they are on the inside, because who
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  Speaker 1: it is on the inside is not the person on
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  Speaker 1: the outside. There are too many selfies being taken place
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  Speaker 1: and put up on social media. But your book is
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  Speaker 1: a book of truth that needs to get into the
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  Speaker 1: hands of those that are going to need it, not
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  Speaker 1: just today, but maybe ten years from now.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean the intention was for people to really
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  Speaker 3: see what it is to recover what it takes, yes,
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  Speaker 3: and realize it's a full circle of you know, it's
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  Speaker 3: a long process. It's not a straight line. That is
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  Speaker 3: going to be a lot of ups and downs. And
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  Speaker 3: if I can summarize.
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  Speaker 2: Like the few gives the few.
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  Speaker 3: Things that you know, just to squeeze it to a
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  Speaker 3: few sentences, be easy on yourself.
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  Speaker 2: So I tend to.
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  Speaker 3: Be my worst enemy with being hard on myself and
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  Speaker 3: trying to depress those emotions that you discussed and trying to.
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  Speaker 2: Get back to who I was before. So be easy
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  Speaker 2: on yourself. When when you need a rest, take a rest.
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  Speaker 2: It's okay.
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  Speaker 3: And then there is the small progress. It's all compound, accumulate,
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  Speaker 3: so small instremental improvements are the other way to go.
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  Speaker 3: It's a long journey, it's a marathon, so think of
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  Speaker 3: it that way.
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  Speaker 2: Don't sprint and bounce back and keep notes.
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  Speaker 1: You got to keep notes because I mean those are
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  Speaker 1: your mile markers. Hey, where can people go to find
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  Speaker 1: out more about you? Because I mean, just as having
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  Speaker 1: a conversation, at least we'll start a person to stay,
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  Speaker 1: you know, looking into what's going on. But they need
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  Speaker 1: to get this book. But more importantly, they need to
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  Speaker 1: hear more from you because you're not afraid to share
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  Speaker 1: the journey with anybody. And that's what I love most
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  Speaker 1: about you is that you're very transparent.
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  Speaker 2: Dude.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I made the decision. It was very hard, as
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  Speaker 3: I shard, but it feels good. It really really feels
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  Speaker 3: that that's the right thing for me right now. And
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  Speaker 3: I want to share my experience and not for you know, fame,
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  Speaker 3: but just for helping others and let people heal the truth.
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  Speaker 2: They can find me on my website. It's an I R.
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  Speaker 3: Dash p e l ed near pellet dot com. You
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  Speaker 3: can find a book on Amazon any or any other store.
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  Speaker 3: It's an ebook on a paper or a paper book.
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  Speaker 3: You can reach out to me near it near dash
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  Speaker 3: tailo dot com and I R dush.
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  Speaker 2: P e l ed.
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  Speaker 1: You got to come back to this show anytime in
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  Speaker 1: the future because what you and I are talking about
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  Speaker 1: today is not a once a month thing. This is
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  Speaker 1: something that we need to be talking about year round.
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  Speaker 1: So anytime you want to help get that word out there, man,
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  Speaker 1: please reach out to me because I believe in what
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  Speaker 1: you're doing.
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  Speaker 3: Sir. Oh, thank you so much. I love your show
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  Speaker 3: and I'm very grateful to be here. Yeah, and I
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  Speaker 3: hope we'll talk against Son.
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  Speaker 1: Will you be brilliant today?
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  Speaker 2: Okay, sir you too.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you