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What do you sound like on your voicemail message? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop.
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  Along with all her chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop so Today I want to share
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  with you a little bit of the information that I've had to
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  deal with all week long because I was doing a sales training for
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  a company that I contract with and one of the questions that
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  the team kept bringing up to me, they do a lot of sales on the
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  phone and one of the questions that was persistent was the
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  feeling of not being able to create rapport with people, the
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  feeling of being annoying. This overall feeling of
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  Disconnect when they were going into this.
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  And makes them feel very unnerved by the whole thing.
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  They get very thrown off, is what they would say.
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  Oh, we're constantly being thrown off.
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  They found this to be really interesting because I think the
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  shows up in all of our lives where we go into conversations,
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  ill-prepared from the perspective of, who do we want
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  to be in the conversation and that doesn't matter if it's with
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  our kids or our husbands or our wives, our partners, Whatever it
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  may be, we are ill prepared because we haven't chosen to
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  say, who's the person that's going to be driving this bus?
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  What's the emotion? That's going to be driving this
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  bus while I have this conversation.
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  What's the frame that I want to take while I'm engaging in this?
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  And oftentimes what happens? Especially if you own your own
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  business, you find that you are constantly in catch-up mode and
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  that emotion is what's consistently driving And it's
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  the same thing. These teams are behind the gun.
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  They're trying to, you know, work towards something and their
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  time frame is closing in on them and immediately.
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  What does that mean? That means that Panic is driving
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  their bus. That means that frustration is
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  driving their bus. That means that judgment is
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  driving their bus and that's what they're going into the
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  calls with. So, there is next to no way that
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  you're going to be able to influence somebody else if
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  you're in a state like that. Because Energy passes back and
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  forth and it doesn't matter if you're with a person.
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  Remember words are only seven percent of communication so your
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  energy, how you're showing up your tonality, your Cadence,
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  everything about that. Makes it so that you're not
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  coming across in a way that will allow those other people to be
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  influenced. It's not that you can't
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  influence and it's that you are not being allowed to influence
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  them from the driver. You're showing up with like, why
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  would anybody want to pay attention to you?
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  If you don't sound influential because you don't have
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  confidence in what you're talking about.
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  I mean, you wouldn't keep coming back here and listening every
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  day. If you felt like, I didn't know
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  what I was talking about, but because I have confidence in
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  myself and I show up every day as the coach who's recording
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  these for you. You can understand and I come
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  across in a Cadence and a manner and a tonality that allows you
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  to be influenced. So it's a very interesting
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  Dynamic, when you really start to think about it, how do you
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  show up to begin this process? And one of the biggest things
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  about, especially when you're doing it from a distance and
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  you're on the phone, your voice conveys, everything, if you just
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  have a flat tone or you know, and you're just High data and
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  you're just monotone. We've all sat in class is
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  growing up where the teacher was monotone and we just wanted to
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  shoot ourselves because we were like, oh my God, what am I going
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  to get out of this class? Class, or I will tell you, one
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  of my biggest pet peeves, when I start working with clients, one
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  of the very first things that I do.
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  And if my clients are listening to this, I've checked on you.
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  So trust me. If you haven't had me, say
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  something to you about it. Yours is okay.
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  But I will call and wait till I get their voicemail because I
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  want to hear what your voicemail sounds like and I get
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  flabbergasted by how many people who are in professions where
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  they will have people call them for the first time to leave a
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  message. And the voicemail fucks and it
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  says something stupid. Like hi.
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  I can't get to the phone right now.
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  He leave me a number. I'll get back to you as soon as
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  I can. I'm not leaving you a message,
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  it's the same reason why when I call in for customer service to
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  companies, if the person who answers the phone, sounds Bland,
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  like a jackass. From the second, they answer the
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  phone. I hang up and call back.
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  I swear to you, I do it every single time.
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  Did it just the other day? Because there's no.
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  No way that I'm going to allow myself to get stuck with someone
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  who doesn't have an energy. That feels like they're going to
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  be able to help me just doesn't just doesn't work for me.
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  So I will hang up the phone as strange.
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  As that may sound. I go back through the loop again
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  because I want someone that sounds committed to it and and I
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  think that when your voicemail listen to your own voice mail,
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  listen to it and see if it sounds like you would want to
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  leave a message there. Do you sound happy on it?
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  It's the best neutral indicator to say.
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  Hey, this How we show up in my world?
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  I mean, go listen to it. See what if you would leave you
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  a message? Would you sound excited to leave
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  you a message? You know my voicemail very
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  specific it says hi you've reached Kim and this is my voice
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  you know actually it says hi this is Kim and you've reached
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  my voicemail. I'm sorry I can't take your call
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  right now but if you'd like to leave me a happy message, I will
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  be happy to return your call very specific and the story
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  behind that is very funny because that voice mail came
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  about because I I actually heard dr.
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  Wayne Dyer, say that he said, leave happy messages and I will
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  be happy to call you back, and I thought that was brilliant.
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  Because my mother used to leave me depressing messages all the
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  time. And when I change that voice
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  mail, my mother actually said to me, I hate that voice mail and I
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  said why and she goes because I want to tell you things that
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  happened and they're not happy and now I can't leave them and I
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  laughed and I said oh well maybe you'll have to find a happy way
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  to tell me there are no happy ways to tell you things, okay?
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  Well then We'll just have to wait till we talk, but at least
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  I didn't get them in a message. So while that may seem funny to
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  some of you, that's what you're projecting to the world.
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  And I just want to make you aware of its your tone, your
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  Cadence, the way you show up. So for the love of God, please
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  go out, listen to your voicemail, see what it sounds
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  like, pay attention to your tonality pay, attention to how
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  you come across and pick the right driver to go into things
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  with. Don't go into your house.
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  At the end of the day was depleted, girl.
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  Walking in the door and there's your family.
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  Can't wait to see you and they all have questions for you and
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  you're just like oh my God change the drivers change the
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  drivers change the drivers pay attention.
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  Okay guys I will see you tomorrow and I hope you have a
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  very blessed day. Bye.
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  Walking in the door and there's your family.
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  Can't wait to see you and they all have questions for you and
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  you're just like oh my God change the drivers change the
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  drivers change the drivers pay attention.
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  Okay guys I will see you tomorrow and I hope you have a
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  very blessed day. Bye.