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Spin Da Block · We Talk Back

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Speaker 1: Talk, Talk Talk. We're just two unapologetically black women with
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Speaker 1: an opinion to talk.
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Speaker 2: Thank you for tuning in for a new episode that
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Speaker 2: we talked back, A show dedicated to you negroes and
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Speaker 2: you pros and everybody else in between. Hello, beautiful people,
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Speaker 2: it's your co host AJ Holliday. What's up team now?
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Speaker 1: I like how you came in today full of energy
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Speaker 1: and I got none.
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Speaker 2: I don't even got no blood. I had no energy.
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Speaker 2: Been just gone.
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Speaker 1: Hey y'all, it's Tan Bama. I love y'all. Thank y'all
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Speaker 1: for tuning in again.
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Speaker 2: What's up girl?
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Speaker 1: How your weekend outside of bleating?
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Speaker 2: I was outside yesterday. That's why I got zero energy today.
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Speaker 1: What'd you do?
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Speaker 2: Just hanging out? It's a new spot down here and Charleston.
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Speaker 2: Y'all check it out if you're in the city. Uh,
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Speaker 2: it's called the Montague Room.
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Speaker 1: I was about to come there yesterday. The Drosan for
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Speaker 1: what I tell you, just to take my homegirl out
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Speaker 1: going through it. So I was gonna bring her down there.
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Speaker 1: But we looked at the weather and they said it
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Speaker 1: was about the rain.
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Speaker 2: Real it definitely rain, Yeah, it definitely rained dry. Yeah,
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Speaker 2: but you know, Chausa is a very good place just
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Speaker 2: to hang out for a day because we have a
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Speaker 2: lot of good food options. Downtown has always lit. You
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Speaker 2: know it's gonna be you know, majority beach, but you
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Speaker 2: can have a great time down there, and we have
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Speaker 2: a very lovely rooftop bar. It's one of my favorite
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Speaker 2: places here. It's just so like it's almost like being
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Speaker 2: in Tuloom in Charleston. Maybe it's called ritual. It's really
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Speaker 2: really nice. It's not my favorite spots.
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Speaker 1: I didn't do shit this weekend. I literally when I
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Speaker 1: got home from work, I stayed in the house. I
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Speaker 1: did not come back out till just now, like today,
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Speaker 1: and it's Monday, y'all. So I stayed in the house.
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Speaker 1: My hair fucked up. Like, let me tell you something.
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Speaker 1: I worked out. I told you I was trying to
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Speaker 1: operation up the big My back is in full swing,
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Speaker 1: and I worked out like a mad woman last week
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Speaker 1: and I literally I did the JJ Smith ten day
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Speaker 1: Swoothie cleans. I'm on day eight today and y'all, I
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Speaker 1: a bitch lost ten pounds in the past eight days.
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Speaker 2: Oh god.
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Speaker 1: Now, well, my hair is nappy as fuck. So I
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Speaker 1: didn't go nowhere except for the gym.
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Speaker 2: That's all I did, is this black women, man, I
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Speaker 2: hair really be holding us back. Fuck that hair. That
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Speaker 2: summer of y'all got to get the workouts and get
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Speaker 2: some braids or something, I don't know.
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Speaker 1: Get you a wig and just take it off to
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Speaker 1: go to the gym and go.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, money through Friday. It's a weig hat for me.
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Speaker 2: Money through Friday. Hat weig hat hat wig money through Friday.
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Speaker 1: I'm about to go get some of those bohemian knotless
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Speaker 1: braids with all the like curly hair mixed in it.
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Speaker 1: I like get that tomorrow.
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Speaker 2: I want I think I showed it to you. I
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Speaker 2: want that fairy hair, man, I want the folox mixed
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Speaker 2: with like the curly hair.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I went that next after my birthday. Yes, that's
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Speaker 1: so cute, But that that look was more fair like
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Speaker 1: curly hair than it was locks. She just clipped in
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Speaker 1: a couple of locks. I would want it where it's
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Speaker 1: more locks most of the lots. Yeah, I like that,
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Speaker 1: but that's cute.
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Speaker 2: Them dad full locks took my hairt a little bit.
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Speaker 2: I don't know, Maybe I'll do it again.
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Speaker 1: Then my couchie hairy. My couchie is so hairy right now?
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Speaker 2: What what are we talking about?
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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I just felt like I needed to share that,
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Speaker 1: like my wax girl quick out of nowhere. And y'all know,
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Speaker 1: I had that surgery so I couldn't get no wax
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Speaker 1: for a long time. So I'm finally healed and now
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Speaker 1: I want a wax. My pussy looked like but we.
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Speaker 2: And that's hot outside. I'm just hot. Do something with that.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I might have the ner this ship. I'm had
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Speaker 1: to find somebody new because it's not giving what it's
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Speaker 1: supposed to give right now and I'm working out m M.
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Speaker 3: It's given onion giving number one, extra onions.
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Speaker 2: Girl, because that hair. I don't know about Yuba, bitch.
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Speaker 2: Between that and my left under arm, I got to
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Speaker 2: be careful with life, Okay, I got to be real
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Speaker 2: careful in the summertime.
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Speaker 1: I need to have to come back to work. She
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Speaker 1: was so.
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Speaker 2: Good, y'all. Let's get into the stupid end of that news.
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Speaker 2: That's enough why I got that weekend. It's something else
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Speaker 2: I want to say, but I can't remember anyway, y'all.
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Speaker 2: Kim Kardashian says she cries herself to sleep at night
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Speaker 2: because she's a single parent. What do you think about that? Tom?
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Speaker 1: You know what as a stay at home, just to
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Speaker 1: stay at home. Because I ain't got no kids, I
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Speaker 1: really don't have much of opinion. I don't know what
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Speaker 1: it's like to be in there with no four four kids.
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Speaker 2: Mama, mama, mama, mama.
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Speaker 1: I could imagine like you might cry yourself to sleep
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Speaker 1: at sometimes. I remember how I knowing I was as
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Speaker 1: a kid. I remember like holding my fingers under the
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Speaker 1: door bathroom door, my mom trying to take a shit,
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Speaker 1: and I remember her saying, God, damn, I can't even
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Speaker 1: take a shit by myself.
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Speaker 2: I remember hearing her say to that too, because it's
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Speaker 2: like it's an unconscious thing. I think that kids do
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Speaker 2: like you. Just I don't know. Mama's doing something other that,
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Speaker 2: and watch me do dumb shit. So now let me
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Speaker 2: interrupt her or disturb her as soon as she get
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Speaker 2: on the fucking phone. You need something all of a sudden,
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Speaker 2: I don't know.
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Speaker 1: So I can imagine that she's not lying. Even with
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Speaker 1: all the help that she has, even with all the
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Speaker 1: money that she has, it's probably still hard now A
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Speaker 1: mom afore like a real because I don't really consider
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Speaker 1: her a single mom because she got so much, you know,
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Speaker 1: help at her back and call, but like a real
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Speaker 1: single mom, like a like a black woman living in
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Speaker 1: the hood with four kids. When she say, it hit
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Speaker 1: a little different to me.
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Speaker 2: Right, yeah, because I think I pictured Kim Kardashian as
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Speaker 2: a woman that's single as opposed to a single mom.
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Speaker 2: So she was like, so like, yeah, when you're in it,
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Speaker 2: I mean, especially when you're babies, and when they're babies
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Speaker 2: in your feeding, there's madness going on. It's like full madness,
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Speaker 2: she continues, Right, she says, she's detailing that you have
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Speaker 2: no idea what's going on in the mornings. Kardashian adds,
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Speaker 2: it's like I always have to do one of my
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Speaker 2: daughter's here. You know, she's doing Negro here, so it's
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Speaker 2: kind of rough for her.
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Speaker 1: Girl, Get you some motherfucker help, Like you literally could
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Speaker 1: harry somebody to be standing there in the dark waiting
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Speaker 1: on you to cut on the bathroom light to do.
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Speaker 2: Yes, like come on, Kim, and you know everybody, the
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Speaker 2: thing is that she didn't have to leave her husband,
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Speaker 2: She didn't have to get a divorced shouldn't met me shut.
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Speaker 3: I don't like how y'all be doing Kanye, man.
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Speaker 2: I really love Kanye.
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Speaker 1: Kanye had a bitch out there. It's a black duck
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Speaker 1: tape this past week.
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Speaker 2: Miss me with that.
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Speaker 3: He ain't have a bitch doing nothing. Them bitch just
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Speaker 3: be wanting to He.
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Speaker 1: Got Kim hell for being nicked and now his new bitch,
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Speaker 1: his new wife literally had on black electric tape as
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Speaker 1: an outfit.
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Speaker 3: I don't know why they be doing this, Like y'all
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Speaker 3: just want to be this man.
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Speaker 2: You so bad, you.
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Speaker 1: Wouldn't be as muse if you know what I am not.
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Speaker 1: Somebody see you now walking in the Noble with your
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Speaker 1: little black duck tape out fit on.
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Speaker 2: Y'all haven't seen that video where JT is yelling at
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Speaker 2: lit UZI, like they walking into like an apartment store
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Speaker 2: and something. He just takes off running like a little
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Speaker 2: badass kit and she's like, what the fuck you doing?
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Speaker 2: That would beat me with Kanye and his ass up
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Speaker 2: all day, nigga. I would have the mama teeth on
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Speaker 2: all day for Kanye if you don't sit through. And
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Speaker 2: that's what he needs a lot of these men that's
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Speaker 2: their damn need, man, they do. They need their mama
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Speaker 2: to bot badass kids, all right.
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Speaker 1: Ari says that she doesn't want to be married the
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Speaker 1: money bag because of the baby mamas. And what I
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Speaker 1: think it is is she don't want to pay child support.
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Speaker 2: You to her own money, absolutely, because you know, when
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Speaker 2: you merge, get married, you're one. So whenever those mothers.
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Speaker 2: I think he has like eight kids, she has one.
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Speaker 2: So if I get married to you, they're gonna be
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Speaker 2: dipping in my account. A girl. I used to work
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Speaker 2: for Wakovia which is now Wells Fargo Bank right when
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Speaker 2: I was in college, and I remember on multiple occasions
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Speaker 2: wives calling crying on the phone because the government had
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Speaker 2: dopped had offset their checking accounts that they had a
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Speaker 2: couples accounts like with their husbands, and it was for
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Speaker 2: child support from another relationship, for an outside child. I can't, like,
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Speaker 2: the government can't differentiate whose money is who y'all have
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Speaker 2: this joint account. It happens, listen, all.
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Speaker 1: Right, don't think I can ever be with a nigga
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Speaker 1: who got eight kids?
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Speaker 2: Right like what I look like having the ninth I'm confused, right, girl?
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Speaker 2: Ye you didn't let that dick make a slave out
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Speaker 2: of him? I can't.
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Speaker 3: I'm scared of it. Eight people, and I wonder how
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Speaker 3: many different baby mamas.
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Speaker 1: I was talking to a nigga. He had two kids,
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Speaker 1: and I was like, okay, I can do two, and
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Speaker 1: then a third one popped up three years old. I
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Speaker 1: was like, yeah, I'm gonna go ahead and check on out.
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Speaker 1: I ain't call that nigga since.
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Speaker 2: You ever had a dude. You ever ask a guy
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Speaker 2: if he has any kids and he's like nah, And
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Speaker 2: then all of a sudden, he just pops up with
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Speaker 2: a newborn. You like, but I thought you didn't have
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Speaker 2: any kids. He was like, well, the baby wasn't here yet.
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Speaker 2: And I had nobody saying that like that to me,
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Speaker 2: but that happened to me once upon a time.
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Speaker 3: These men are fucking crazy.
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Speaker 1: I done had a nigga not claim one of his kids,
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Speaker 1: and I was like, well, I someone told me you
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Speaker 1: have a son. Because he has a daughter too. He
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Speaker 1: only told me about the daughter and I was like,
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Speaker 1: somebody told me you have a son, and he was like,
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Speaker 1: I ain't seen that little nigga in years, yo.
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Speaker 2: Ill that's I.
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Speaker 1: Immediately stopped talking to him. I was like, well why not,
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Speaker 1: because he's literally, from what I understand, he's like an
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Speaker 1: hour and a half away.
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Speaker 3: They called him looking just like him, looking just like you.
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Speaker 1: Somewhere he's like his mama won't let me see him.
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Speaker 1: And if that little nigga, when that little nigga grow up,
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Speaker 1: if you want to find me, he find me. Ill.
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Speaker 1: I could not believe that he said that. Yeah, that's
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Speaker 1: how it was. I was like, I gotta go, and
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Speaker 1: I ain't talked to him since.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's disgusting. And any woman that would continue to
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Speaker 2: deal with a man who talks like that about a child,
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Speaker 2: mm hmmm.
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Speaker 1: You won't do my baby like that.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, And it's probably because he only he probably stole
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Speaker 2: fucks with the daughter's mom. You know, the love is
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Speaker 2: transferable from the woman to the child as far as
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Speaker 2: I'm concerned, even when it's a man's child.
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Speaker 3: These guys have a weird way of showing love. But
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Speaker 3: I'm with ari, girl.
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Speaker 2: Let me tell you do the wedding, do the shit
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Speaker 2: under God, don't gut, don't sign know. People work with
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Speaker 2: the government, girl. And this nigga probably already on child
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Speaker 2: support for somebody. And if he makes more money, especially
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Speaker 2: when y'all merge money, they can go to court and
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Speaker 2: request more money or just let him have two more
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Speaker 2: kids so he can max out like Nick Cannon max
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Speaker 2: out at ten. She's a smart girl as far as
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Speaker 2: I'm concerned. She has one kid twenty seven. Like, no,
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Speaker 2: I'm not too bad. He may be like around the
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Speaker 2: same age I believe. I don't think they're old at all,
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Speaker 2: in his thirties. Possibly, I don't know. I don't keep
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Speaker 2: up with dumb people for real, aside from stupid internet
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Speaker 2: news like here for some real sin. So there's an
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Speaker 2: only fans model. She's Australian, claims that she ruined her
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Speaker 2: mother's marriage after revealing her stepfather is her top subscriber.
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Speaker 2: So there's a model who goes by the name of
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Speaker 2: Tye or Tay in Australia, and she describes the moment
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Speaker 2: she exposed her stepdad in a TikTok video posted earlier
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Speaker 2: this week. She said, I ruined my mom's marriage. I
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Speaker 2: never planned on telling this story on TikTok, but here
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Speaker 2: we are. So when I first started my website, I
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Speaker 2: had this customer who was my number one customer, bought
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Speaker 2: every single thing I sent him. She started. According to
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Speaker 2: two fab Ty said she and the subscriber would talk
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Speaker 2: every day and he had made a lot of customer
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Speaker 2: requests which led him to spend almost two thousand dollars
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Speaker 2: two thousand Australian dollars within two months. However, Tye discovered
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Speaker 2: as someone used the same name to view her videos
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Speaker 2: on TikTok and they were also tagged in her from
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Speaker 2: contacts list in her cell phone. So that's how she
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Speaker 2: figured out it was her her dad, her stepdad, and
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Speaker 2: this man has known her since she was eleven. She
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Speaker 2: had special requests from him, like to know what panties
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Speaker 2: she was wearing for today. Now he knew this is her,
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Speaker 2: this is my stepdaughter. She just didn't know it was
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Speaker 2: her stepdad making these request.
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Speaker 1: Right because she can't see him.
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Speaker 2: He sees her exactly.
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Speaker 1: Wow, that's scary. Sounds about white.
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Speaker 2: White, white people, she said. She narrowed the numbers down
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Speaker 2: to six people and texted her stepfather after going with
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Speaker 2: her gut instinct. After he responded, hey, ty, let's talk,
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Speaker 2: she explained that he should tell her mother what was
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Speaker 2: happening before exposing him in a fallow up video. She
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Speaker 2: addressed to people who said she should have made stepdad
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Speaker 2: fantasy content. What what is wrong with you?
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Speaker 1: Know?
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Speaker 2: What this is why this. I'm not human. I don't
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Speaker 2: give a fuck. I'm not I'm not like these people.
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Speaker 2: This is weird.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's weird, she said.
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Speaker 2: When I caught him, he denied it to all his friends,
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Speaker 2: and obviously my mom got rid of him right away.
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Speaker 2: If you want to talk about family trauma, my stepdad
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Speaker 2: watched me have sex with my partner for two months.
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Speaker 2: This is wild. This is wild. She ended up having
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Speaker 2: to block him. It goes on and on and on
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Speaker 2: and on. But girl, could you imagine.
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Speaker 1: I couldn't imagine having sex on only fans in the
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Speaker 1: first day inn place first.
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Speaker 2: So I mean, like, you aren't his child and you're
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Speaker 2: an adult now. But it is weird as fuck because
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Speaker 2: he essentially raised.
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Speaker 1: Her, right, So he always been having sexual fantasies about
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Speaker 1: her since she was.
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Speaker 2: A kid, right And you know, like she's mentioned laundry
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Speaker 2: like he did her laundry, And now here you are
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Speaker 2: asking like what panties I'm wearing? So were you?
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Speaker 1: Girl?
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Speaker 2: Let me not y it gets that's disgusting.
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Speaker 1: So Republican City council member Matthew Riley arrested for allegedly
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Speaker 1: smoking crack and pass it out. It was newly released
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Speaker 1: Bodycare for the show's moments. Cranston City councilman Matthew Riley
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Speaker 1: was found unconscious in his car after allegedly smoking crack cocaine.
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Speaker 1: This nigga forty one years old, and was arrested Monday morning.
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Speaker 2: This is not a nigga, a beige nigga. This is
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Speaker 2: a white man.
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Speaker 1: No exactly.
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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, you got it. It's still a nigga.
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Speaker 1: Okay was arrested Monday morning after a responding officer discovered
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Speaker 1: him passed out in the driver's seat of his car
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Speaker 1: with a glass pipe and a lighter in his hand.
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Speaker 1: He had him a good badge, baby. He didn't even
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Speaker 1: putting the pipe down, and the video shows the officer
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Speaker 1: shaking Riley, a Republican who represents War six away, before
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Speaker 1: searching him in his vehicle. She was like, you were
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Speaker 1: literally choking in your sleep, the officer said. Somebody literally
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Speaker 1: sprinted and flagged me down because they thought you were choking.
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Speaker 1: Though he appeared disoriented, Riley was polite and cooperative as
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Speaker 1: he was being questioned. He had first denied having drugs
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Speaker 1: in his vehicle, but later admitted to buying one hundred
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Speaker 1: dollars worth of crack the previous day. It was a relapse.
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Speaker 1: I've been cleaned for thirteen years. I just got back
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Speaker 1: into this. Oh that's kind of sad right there.
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Speaker 2: I know addiction is very hard man damn. So he
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Speaker 2: did resign apparently, and this happened in Rhode Island. It's
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Speaker 2: a Rhode Island Republican counsel and you see how to
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Speaker 2: keep making sure you know Republican like that fucking matters
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Speaker 2: like crack comes in all shape sizes, crackheads.
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Speaker 1: Joe Brown, little oozy verts. I want a rock was
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Speaker 1: playing in the background. Officer I made that I haven't
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Speaker 1: go back and look like, bitch, ain't no way.
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Speaker 2: Yeah yo, because you imagine he was like, it's not
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Speaker 2: a cruck park. What crack pipe?
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Speaker 1: Like, bit, what crack pipe?
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Speaker 2: This is a peace pipe.
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Speaker 1: I'm a politician.
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Speaker 2: No, you are crackaholic, that's what you are. So apparently
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Speaker 2: the contents did test positive for cocaine and hmm Fenton al,
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Speaker 2: y'all listen, if you listen to this show and you
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Speaker 2: are on drugs, read some literature, reconsider do something because
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Speaker 2: this is killing people.
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Speaker 1: Or at least find out where your community narcia and
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Speaker 1: distributor is so you can have that available to you,
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Speaker 1: so you can possibly be possibly save your own life.
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Speaker 1: Niggas just die every day.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know, it's wild. I know that people
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Speaker 2: will be cutting drugs now. They just you're not a chemist,
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Speaker 2: don't know what the fuck you're doing. So I've been
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Speaker 2: told that a pinch of fentanyl can kill you. Did
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Speaker 2: you see that video online once where the dog it
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Speaker 2: was a police officer. I mean she accidentally touched some
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Speaker 2: fentanyl during an arrest and immediately was like they had
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Speaker 2: to give her nor can. She was passing out.
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Speaker 1: Damn mm hmm.
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Speaker 3: That's wild man. That stuff is very dangerous.
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Speaker 1: It's very strong, very powerful. Yeah, I don't know. Well,
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Speaker 1: I hope mister Ridley get his life back together.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, where a regular crack at like crackheads lived forever,
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Speaker 2: they died from gilling ship like cancer and stuff. They
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Speaker 2: never actually died from smoking crack. Right.
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Speaker 1: It's wow, y'all are ruining drugs for everybody.
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Speaker 2: Right because they're sprinkling the ship on the weed now,
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Speaker 2: like I don't want no magic or my ship. Listen,
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Speaker 2: all right, y'all, we're talking about spending block this week, Okay,
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Speaker 2: it's summertime.
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Speaker 3: It usually just happens during the winter. But there's a
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Speaker 3: lot of people, you know, coming back.
19:27
Speaker 1: Listen, my d's got a lot of skirt.
19:29
Speaker 2: Skirt. Yeah, they trying to check the temperature on that pussy,
19:33
Speaker 2: trying to check the temperature. Trus see what's going on.
19:36
Speaker 4: It's her right now, Y'all's her. I don't know if
19:38
Speaker 4: y'all wanted to know, but it's her. We're just saying, Harry, yeah, bitch,
19:46
Speaker 4: we'll be right back, y'all.
19:52
Speaker 1: All right, y'all, we are bad. Yeah, all right. So
19:58
Speaker 1: I saw Kresha and post this acting bad with the nigga.
20:02
Speaker 1: I told y'all I was done with and you know
20:06
Speaker 1: we've all been there, so I wanted us to have
20:08
Speaker 1: a conversation about spinning the block. Bitch.
20:12
Speaker 2: I don't like spending the block. I can spend on you,
20:14
Speaker 2: but don't try to spend on me. I'm offended, really.
20:17
Speaker 1: So you have never dealt with a guy that spun
20:19
Speaker 1: the block on you?
20:21
Speaker 2: Absolutely, But I'm always looking at your eyes from the
20:23
Speaker 2: corner of my eye, like why are you here?
20:25
Speaker 1: I just feel like all my niggas is a spin
20:27
Speaker 1: I might as well be on the motherfucking Ferris Wheel.
20:30
Speaker 3: I definitely keep the same niggas and hea your rotation
20:32
Speaker 3: over the years.
20:32
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it's easier, no new notches than your belt, right.
20:39
Speaker 3: No, you definitely get some new notches in between them.
20:41
Speaker 3: Same niggas, Yeah.
20:42
Speaker 1: But not not every notch is a new notch, right,
20:46
Speaker 1: So that's I'm okay with that. So I went and
20:48
Speaker 1: looked on Oprah Daily dot com and I found a
20:52
Speaker 1: list of questions to ask yourself before you let someone
20:56
Speaker 1: spend the block or before you spend the block on someone.
20:59
Speaker 1: Do you you in the block? Right?
21:00
Speaker 2: Yeah? I definitely not. Hey, bighead, Wait a minute, I
21:04
Speaker 2: think that spend the block, actually spent the block on somebody?
21:11
Speaker 2: Oh I lied, And this is just I told you
21:14
Speaker 2: about this just recently, somebody I spent the block block
21:16
Speaker 2: on because I did do them kind of dirty back
21:18
Speaker 2: in the day. So I spent the block like because
21:21
Speaker 2: you know, over the years, he just kept, you know,
21:23
Speaker 2: trying to get back with me, like, man, you should
21:26
Speaker 2: come such and such visit me da da da da.
21:28
Speaker 2: And when I finally did it, it was like payback, bitch. Nah,
21:35
Speaker 2: he ain't never ghost me, but he just started. He
21:38
Speaker 2: just was doing the fucking most he was, you said
21:41
Speaker 2: she was my husband. That's why I spun the block back.
21:43
Speaker 2: And he really lied to me because now you still
21:46
Speaker 2: funck with other bitches. Like we was kicking it real, real,
21:49
Speaker 2: real hard. From one point. It was just it lasted
21:52
Speaker 2: me about three or four months and it was just
21:56
Speaker 2: a dead end.
21:57
Speaker 1: Did he try to come back and spend it yea, yes.
22:00
Speaker 2: And I'm like, nah, I tried spinning. Yeah, no more spinning.
22:04
Speaker 1: Okay, here, I'm trying to think. Have I ever spun
22:07
Speaker 1: the block on my nigga girl? You know I was
22:11
Speaker 1: spinning spin it on like this?
22:15
Speaker 2: All right?
22:16
Speaker 1: Uh So here's the things that Oprah Daily dot Com
22:18
Speaker 1: says that you should ask yourself before you spend the block,
22:22
Speaker 1: all right, is the main issue that drove you apart resolvable?
22:27
Speaker 1: Half the time, we never even revisit that ship before
22:31
Speaker 1: we spend the block. We beat on forgot why we
22:33
Speaker 1: was mad. Sometimes I have to go back through my
22:35
Speaker 1: text thread to see why I stopped fucking with a nigga.
22:38
Speaker 3: Nah, I usually know exactly why I don't.
22:41
Speaker 1: I beat on forgot, depending on how much the time
22:43
Speaker 1: it was like I was mad at that nigga for something.
22:46
Speaker 3: See, you might be petty. It takes me a while
22:48
Speaker 3: to leave somebody alone.
22:49
Speaker 1: I just I just I just changed my I don't
22:52
Speaker 1: like I heat you. I literally just changed my HBO
22:57
Speaker 1: password on a watch gut and but thrones now beat.
23:05
Speaker 2: Like he probably was right there, what a hole at
23:07
Speaker 2: the same time when his cable went out, like, oh,
23:09
Speaker 2: let me call you don't got no cable.
23:11
Speaker 1: You ain't got no cable, nigga, watch it on your phone,
23:15
Speaker 1: watch whatever you can. You're gonna have to scroll Instagram, nigga.
23:18
Speaker 2: All right.
23:19
Speaker 1: Uh So the next thing is says, do you both
23:22
Speaker 1: agree on what your past differences were?
23:27
Speaker 2: I feel like maybe that's why I stop talking to people,
23:29
Speaker 2: like and you know, we talk about this a lot
23:30
Speaker 2: of perception, how people perceive what happens. I feel like
23:33
Speaker 2: a lot of times men have a good time in
23:35
Speaker 2: a relationship.
23:37
Speaker 3: Meanwhile you just over that shit.
23:40
Speaker 2: It's like they don't have the same They don't interpret
23:43
Speaker 2: what's going on in the relationship the same way.
23:45
Speaker 1: No, I don't think ever, I don't think it's always differently.
23:50
Speaker 2: They're never exactly why you left, or never understand or
23:55
Speaker 2: they may understand it right, But they're intentionally, which I
23:58
Speaker 2: feel like they dont acting like you don't know what
24:01
Speaker 2: the hell I'm talking about, to further drive me nuts. Right,
24:05
Speaker 2: So now I got to block your ass because I
24:06
Speaker 2: want to keep my sanity.
24:08
Speaker 1: Why do we spend the block? Though? Typically it's like
24:11
Speaker 1: there's something, Yeah, there's something, you.
24:13
Speaker 2: Know, I have a saying and you are what you eat,
24:15
Speaker 2: therefore you are who you beat. Yes, right, so there's
24:19
Speaker 2: something about this person that you see yourself and them
24:22
Speaker 2: a little bit in order for you to.
24:24
Speaker 1: Deal with them.
24:25
Speaker 2: So that's probably why it's just the familiality or the
24:29
Speaker 2: dick bomb that pard like, I know this one is
24:35
Speaker 2: going to do it for me, right, I don't feel
24:37
Speaker 2: like trying a new one.
24:39
Speaker 1: That's a lot of the reason why I ever spend
24:41
Speaker 1: the block.
24:41
Speaker 2: Right?
24:42
Speaker 1: Have you given each other enough space to know how
24:45
Speaker 1: to do things better this time? You know what? There
24:49
Speaker 1: is someone that I had been talking to you that
24:51
Speaker 1: when we were talking or we were living in Europe
24:54
Speaker 1: when we were talking and he was just a wild boy.
24:57
Speaker 1: He was like just you know, doing all the things,
25:00
Speaker 1: getting real money for the first time because we're in
25:02
Speaker 1: our twenties, he's starting to get real money. For the
25:04
Speaker 1: first time, he very good looking, like he was out
25:07
Speaker 1: there having his way, and now he older, hairline back
25:11
Speaker 1: a little bit.
25:12
Speaker 2: Don't choose me now, you know through.
25:15
Speaker 1: But I like him more now because he just seems
25:18
Speaker 1: like more subtle, not even humble, just more grown.
25:24
Speaker 2: Because these niggas go get that, these holes need me
25:27
Speaker 2: headcut and they be acting brand new in two days
25:29
Speaker 2: because it only lasts about forty eight hours.
25:35
Speaker 1: But he is better now though, So I think there
25:37
Speaker 1: is something that comes with like time, you know, like
25:40
Speaker 1: a little growth on both parties. Because I wasn't no saint,
25:44
Speaker 1: you know.
25:45
Speaker 2: One of my homegirls, so she was dating a guy
25:47
Speaker 2: who was much older than her when we were in
25:49
Speaker 2: our twenties and early thirties, and you know, he was
25:52
Speaker 2: trying to get to the bag, like he was trying
25:54
Speaker 2: to get So now he's a millionaire. So now she's
25:57
Speaker 2: more subtle, doesn't have to be outside as much, and
26:00
Speaker 2: now she's like reconsidering the relationship and like what she
26:04
Speaker 2: could have done differently earlier on.
26:06
Speaker 1: But so he don't want her now, Well he's in
26:08
Speaker 1: a relationship now.
26:10
Speaker 2: She wants to be like, man, he we don't have
26:13
Speaker 2: sex enough, got some problem okay, especially older men, right,
26:18
Speaker 2: because was that on our show or somebody else to
26:21
Speaker 2: show we were talking about when men reach their their
26:24
Speaker 2: sexual peak.
26:25
Speaker 1: I think it's on everybody's.
26:27
Speaker 2: Show, like us our age like fucking out of both pants?
26:33
Speaker 1: Yeah right now My age is fluid. But you know
26:36
Speaker 1: when you get to a certain age out of and
26:41
Speaker 1: then men they usually get there.
26:44
Speaker 2: There.
26:44
Speaker 1: What is it? It's not libido because that's what women.
26:46
Speaker 2: Have men havelabido everybody libido?
26:49
Speaker 1: Oh, I thought that was a feeling.
26:50
Speaker 3: We just don't get our beatle libido catered to like
26:53
Speaker 3: men do like.
26:53
Speaker 1: They don't want my beat up, my beat o, please sir?
27:06
Speaker 2: Okay.
27:07
Speaker 1: The next question is your ex open to getting back together,
27:11
Speaker 1: because that's another thing. You spend a block on the
27:13
Speaker 1: nigga and he'll just do you like that.
27:18
Speaker 2: Yeah, but he wanted me back and then once I
27:20
Speaker 2: got back there, you know, that's like an ongoing thing
27:22
Speaker 2: for me. I always tell people, Yeah, I feel like
27:25
Speaker 2: a lot of men just like the idea right until
27:28
Speaker 2: they actually get me, and then you're trying to treat
27:29
Speaker 2: me all type of ways.
27:30
Speaker 1: I think some it's all about a challenge oftentimes with me,
27:33
Speaker 1: like niggas want to like just conquer right or see
27:37
Speaker 1: if they still have access. It's not even really about
27:40
Speaker 1: having me. It's about having access to me still.
27:43
Speaker 2: You know that's one thing women need to you know,
27:45
Speaker 2: how we be telling I got all these niggas, I
27:48
Speaker 2: got somebody's gonna do whatever I want them.
27:51
Speaker 1: I don't never say niggas do I have y'all, I
27:56
Speaker 1: don't hear nothing.
27:57
Speaker 2: A lot of these dudes just want to know that
27:59
Speaker 2: they still got access. You can be entertaining somebody. They
28:02
Speaker 2: feel like little pool when you start talking to somebody
28:05
Speaker 2: else or how they come with the bullshit. Just so
28:10
Speaker 2: don't be letting nobody call you'all phone in the middle
28:12
Speaker 2: of the night on some bullshit.
28:14
Speaker 1: No, like that nigga on the elevator we just seen
28:16
Speaker 1: and I was like, un handy, you've been texting me
28:19
Speaker 1: ever saying this boy, you ain't even think about me.
28:20
Speaker 2: Now you see your crummy paws off me.
28:22
Speaker 1: Unhand me, sir.
28:26
Speaker 2: This nigger we walk into elevated tas like this nigger
28:31
Speaker 2: and I'm like, who's this young man?
28:36
Speaker 1: The next one? Are you afraid you won't find someone else?
28:39
Speaker 1: That's another reason why people spend the block because they
28:43
Speaker 1: go back to what, like you said, it was familiar.
28:45
Speaker 1: You know, this is something familiar. It may not be
28:48
Speaker 1: the best, but it is something that I know, get
28:51
Speaker 1: right that I know it's the lesser evil. Sometimes people
28:55
Speaker 1: feel like, read that question again. Are you afraid you
28:58
Speaker 1: won't find someone else?
29:03
Speaker 3: I feel like a lot of women go through that.
29:06
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. It's like almost like.
29:11
Speaker 3: You're ready to go, you leave, but then the dating scene.
29:14
Speaker 2: Is true crash. So you're about to start this new
29:19
Speaker 2: conquest with a new batch of niggas that I ain't
29:24
Speaker 2: doing with a new batch of men, right, And you
29:26
Speaker 2: gotta figure out everybody's little quirks and likes and dislikes.
29:31
Speaker 2: And it's very it's time consuming, it's nerve wrecking. It's
29:35
Speaker 2: just like, damn, my mother will go back to my
29:36
Speaker 2: old nigga, deal with that dumb shit.
29:37
Speaker 1: I got a story.
29:38
Speaker 2: I know him.
29:39
Speaker 1: I remember I broke me and my guy had broken
29:41
Speaker 1: up and we had been together for some years. And
29:43
Speaker 1: this is me firstly back outside and I wasn't fucking
29:46
Speaker 1: with nobody for a couple of months. I just like,
29:48
Speaker 1: I need some time to myself. So finally I'm back
29:51
Speaker 1: outside and I'm dating and I went out and I
29:53
Speaker 1: met this man and he was so fine. This was
29:55
Speaker 1: like a one night stand, right, and he was so
29:59
Speaker 1: fine and we were like kissing. We went to his house.
30:02
Speaker 1: We were kissing, is all passionate, like something out of
30:03
Speaker 1: the movie. And we had sex and it was so bad.
30:08
Speaker 1: It was so bad. He sucked me like a little
30:10
Speaker 1: rabbit and like his diad was small, and it was
30:13
Speaker 1: like I was. I drove home crying, God, nigga bad
30:19
Speaker 1: cause you don't let somebody else use your couchie.
30:21
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was a mistake. It was a big mistake.
30:25
Speaker 1: And I just thought he was about to lay it
30:26
Speaker 1: down because he was so fine and the passionate kissing.
30:31
Speaker 2: He might have been maybe because he was maybe he
30:33
Speaker 2: was excited.
30:34
Speaker 1: Was it little like Roger rabbit, like a little rabbit
30:39
Speaker 1: pumping fast and it was little. I couldn't feel it.
30:44
Speaker 2: That's different.
30:44
Speaker 1: I cried, nigga back, I spun the block. But maybe
30:52
Speaker 1: I miss you. Let's try again after that experience. So
30:57
Speaker 1: last question, will you ask your X the tough questions,
31:02
Speaker 1: like the tough questions about like why are our relationship
31:05
Speaker 1: dissolved and what can we do to make it better
31:08
Speaker 1: this time. Man, I feel like the people I've left,
31:14
Speaker 1: I'm not going back, like for real, like the real
31:16
Speaker 1: relationships you're in, like that last.
31:18
Speaker 2: Years, Like you tried for a really long time. Why
31:21
Speaker 2: are you going back? I feel like you just need
31:23
Speaker 2: to remember the bad things.
31:26
Speaker 3: That's what that to keep you away for that person, you.
31:29
Speaker 2: Know, because when when you're in a relationship, you're always
31:31
Speaker 2: trying to weigh the good and the bad to try
31:33
Speaker 2: and stay. And oftentimes women just need one reason to stay.
31:36
Speaker 2: Give me one reason to stay here. Yet I turn
31:40
Speaker 2: back around.
31:41
Speaker 1: That's a real thing, right, Give me me wh a
31:43
Speaker 1: million reasons to league?
31:45
Speaker 2: Right, But he'd be like, baby, I love you.
31:49
Speaker 1: I love you too, and right back, And then you
31:52
Speaker 1: were and then you're reminded shortly after why the fuck
31:55
Speaker 1: you left in the.
31:55
Speaker 2: First acting exactly so like the actual real relationships though,
32:01
Speaker 2: the relationships you're in for many many years. I feel
32:04
Speaker 2: like you know why you left. You tried for a
32:07
Speaker 2: very long time. You gave a lot of grace. It
32:10
Speaker 2: just wasn't working out. And a lot of times people
32:12
Speaker 2: just are better as friends. So the guy I told
32:14
Speaker 2: you about that I spun the block on because I
32:16
Speaker 2: did do him dirty, like and I don't know two
32:19
Speaker 2: thousand and eight or so, e remeybody I told you
32:21
Speaker 2: to do? Who hacked my Facebook page?
32:25
Speaker 1: That?
32:27
Speaker 2: No, it was soldier boy. So I spun the block
32:32
Speaker 2: on him, like after I got out my last relationship
32:35
Speaker 2: and during that relationship, like I never would entertain anybody.
32:40
Speaker 2: My ex knows now for sure that I will ignore
32:43
Speaker 2: the fuck out somebody I don't fuck with m Like,
32:47
Speaker 2: you know, while we were in a relationship, he would
32:49
Speaker 2: always like accuse me of doing this. And when I
32:51
Speaker 2: don't fuck with you, I make it known. So now
32:53
Speaker 2: he gets to feel that. So this this person was
32:56
Speaker 2: always like a friend of mine. So I'm like, you
32:58
Speaker 2: know how you always be like, oh you got to
32:59
Speaker 2: marry your friend, because I feel like my ex was
33:02
Speaker 2: never my friend. You know what I'm saying. We went
33:04
Speaker 2: straight into like boyfriend girlfriend shit, you know what I'm saying,
33:08
Speaker 2: Like he never knew me just as a friend.
33:13
Speaker 1: Well, I don't think it's necessary to like just be
33:16
Speaker 1: homies first, You don't think so?
33:19
Speaker 2: No, I think so, man, because some of some of
33:21
Speaker 2: my guy friends that you know, maybe I had been
33:24
Speaker 2: intimate before, or maybe we just you know, just straight
33:27
Speaker 2: platonica the whole time I've known them. They know me
33:29
Speaker 2: to my core, you know what I'm saying. So it's
33:31
Speaker 2: never like any weird ass misunderstandings, like they know who
33:36
Speaker 2: aj Ashley is? Right with that niggas like why are
33:40
Speaker 2: you playing with me? Like I don't know who the
33:42
Speaker 2: fuck I am?
33:44
Speaker 1: So did you not present yourself the same way?
33:46
Speaker 2: Yes, the very same way. So it's just a different
33:48
Speaker 2: level of respect. I think that men generally respect their
33:52
Speaker 2: female friends more than they respect women they actually deal with.
33:56
Speaker 1: Yes, I don't know if I'm the same way around
33:59
Speaker 1: my platonic male friends that I am around guys that
34:02
Speaker 1: I'm dating.
34:04
Speaker 2: At first, what's different.
34:06
Speaker 1: Because I'm a fart in front of one of my homeboys,
34:09
Speaker 1: I can be like, excuse me, my nigga, you know,
34:12
Speaker 1: like I'm like a whole nigga. I'm if I have to,
34:17
Speaker 1: it would not be on person. Yeah, okay, if it happens,
34:19
Speaker 1: I would never like to sleep. I would not lift
34:22
Speaker 1: up my leg to fart in front of my homeboy.
34:23
Speaker 1: I'm not like that, But if it happened, I wouldn't
34:26
Speaker 1: be you know, I wouldn't feel a way.
34:27
Speaker 2: Can you be at home by yourself lifting your leg
34:29
Speaker 2: up in fart, lifting my leg up.
34:31
Speaker 1: No, but you know how guys play with each other,
34:34
Speaker 1: right yeah, no, no, absolutely not. But I wouldn't feel
34:37
Speaker 1: like if I farted in front of a guy I
34:38
Speaker 1: was dating, I would be hugely embarrassed. Right but my homeboy,
34:42
Speaker 1: i'd be like, nigga just when.
34:43
Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. So, your mate, your lifetime partner,
34:47
Speaker 2: you should be comfortable farting in front of them. No,
34:49
Speaker 2: they don't give a damn. They could be a guy
34:50
Speaker 2: you just met.
34:51
Speaker 1: No, men do care about stuff like that.
34:54
Speaker 2: I know they do, which I'm saying like I wouldn't
34:58
Speaker 2: do it, but if it happens, it's not going to
35:01
Speaker 2: be like I didn't know. Women farn't what are you doing? No?
35:05
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, I don't want nobody who's gonna be like
35:08
Speaker 1: weird about it. My mom never farted in her life.
35:11
Speaker 1: Yes she did, Yeah, but I just I would not
35:14
Speaker 1: do that in front of someone. I would be mortified
35:16
Speaker 1: if I did it in in front of somebody. It
35:19
Speaker 1: took me so long to even you know, go number
35:22
Speaker 1: two at my.
35:23
Speaker 2: Guy's house that you'm hiding like a cat.
35:25
Speaker 1: Yes, I'm like, go get me some ice creep right down, bigga, God,
35:31
Speaker 1: hurry up, get out of here, like, go somewhere so
35:34
Speaker 1: I could use the bathroom. It took me so long.
35:36
Speaker 2: So I don't like people who want to come talk
35:38
Speaker 2: to me while I'm taking a shit, like I already
35:40
Speaker 2: know what you smell, like like know you?
35:42
Speaker 1: That's when you really really in there, that's when you're
35:45
Speaker 1: really comfortable with each other.
35:48
Speaker 2: Can I have some privacy? I don't like people like
35:51
Speaker 2: I don't know how we going into this type of shit, literally,
35:55
Speaker 2: but do men like I don't want to say, violate
35:59
Speaker 2: you like it could be a hot summer day. Have
36:01
Speaker 2: you ever had anybody like swipe your butt crack on
36:03
Speaker 2: a hot summer sunny day?
36:05
Speaker 1: No, what the fuck?
36:06
Speaker 2: Like why you want to know me that intimately? Like
36:09
Speaker 2: swipe smell? Who did that to you? Multiple people have
36:13
Speaker 2: done that to me in life.
36:16
Speaker 1: You must be walking around a little wingy.
36:22
Speaker 2: Like I do have HBO and I'm fully aware of it.
36:25
Speaker 2: That's why I shower the way I do. You're never
36:27
Speaker 2: gonna smell me just outside funky. But at what point
36:31
Speaker 2: do you think you don't stink? You? Not you about?
36:38
Speaker 1: Should you talking about good?
36:41
Speaker 2: Yes? Like just straight violating, like I just want to
36:43
Speaker 2: see what you sell, Like why I feel like there's
36:47
Speaker 2: some things women have to keep like a secret. You
36:50
Speaker 2: know what I'm saying. I don't believe in women getting
36:52
Speaker 2: dressed in front of men, Like can I get my
36:54
Speaker 2: space so I can do my magic? Bitch?
36:57
Speaker 1: You know it is my man. I don't mind getting
36:59
Speaker 1: dressed in front of them. I don't know, but it's
37:01
Speaker 1: just some things that I do need my privacy for
37:03
Speaker 1: for life, like and that number two.
37:06
Speaker 2: Oh, go the fuck away.
37:09
Speaker 1: Get out my space, like right now, Or like I
37:13
Speaker 1: had a guy I used to like him so much.
37:15
Speaker 1: He was so fine. This was in college, but he
37:18
Speaker 1: just was so fucking goofy as fucking He used to
37:21
Speaker 1: do stuff that would piss me off. Like we'd be
37:22
Speaker 1: like laying down watching TV, having like just chilling good vibes.
37:27
Speaker 1: We just smoking. All of a sudden Dutch oving me.
37:29
Speaker 1: Do you know what that is like? And put the
37:32
Speaker 1: and hold me under the blanket with his fart. Nigga,
37:36
Speaker 1: I hate you. I'm leaving. I'm not coming back. That's
37:38
Speaker 1: not okay, that's terrible.
37:40
Speaker 2: That's discussing, is that, Jordan?
37:41
Speaker 1: You do that?
37:44
Speaker 2: Like I'm gonna fight you.
37:45
Speaker 1: But we were I mean essentially kids. I mean we
37:48
Speaker 1: were college and you.
37:49
Speaker 2: Weren't doing them crazy like that's terrible. Yeah, it was gross.
37:53
Speaker 1: I don't like that. I don't want to know you
37:55
Speaker 1: like that.
37:56
Speaker 2: Okay, So we all know recently that Nellie and as
38:01
Speaker 2: Shanty have spun the block. We talked about this in
38:04
Speaker 2: our stupid Internet news in another episode, it's cool spend
38:07
Speaker 2: the block. It's been ten years. He has been innother relationships.
38:11
Speaker 2: I don't know any other relationships she's been.
38:13
Speaker 1: In has been public.
38:14
Speaker 2: Yeah, I heard her dating floor Rider at some point.
38:18
Speaker 2: Maybe possibly, I don't know. We just know that she's
38:20
Speaker 2: just been findings hell on vacation with somebody's for the
38:23
Speaker 2: last ten years. We don't know what she's been doing,
38:26
Speaker 2: especially for her birthday. I live for a Shanty birthday pictures. Right,
38:29
Speaker 2: he looks good, Nelly. I just feel like if he
38:34
Speaker 2: was going to spend the block, I feel like you
38:36
Speaker 2: should come with a ring. Shouldn't coming? It needs to
38:40
Speaker 2: come soon. It shouldn't be the year after next, because
38:43
Speaker 2: how long were they in an initial relationship?
38:45
Speaker 1: Well, they have to get to read know each other.
38:47
Speaker 1: They're different.
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Speaker 2: How does that take shit for me at least are you,
38:51
Speaker 2: because you're a grown man. At least for you, like
38:54
Speaker 2: three months if I already known you. I'm pretty sure
38:56
Speaker 2: they spoke to each other over the last ten years.
38:58
Speaker 2: It's not like they con You think that Nellie and
39:02
Speaker 2: Shanti just never had any contact in the last ten
39:05
Speaker 2: years and now maybe not.
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Speaker 1: You never know, girloo, you never know. You never know.
39:11
Speaker 1: They might have. First time they seen each other was
39:14
Speaker 1: on that versus stage for all we know.
39:17
Speaker 2: I don't know, but if he's going to spend the block,
39:19
Speaker 2: I feel like he should come with.
39:20
Speaker 1: All a ring in three months.
39:24
Speaker 2: At their age, what you're waiting for? You don't waste
39:27
Speaker 2: how many years before? You just waste ten years of
39:28
Speaker 2: another woman's life. What are you here for?
39:31
Speaker 1: They wasted each other's time.
39:32
Speaker 2: No, I'm pretty sure Shanty wanted to be married before.
39:35
Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure she's a woman.
39:38
Speaker 1: That don't be shit. I'm a woman. I'm scared girl,
39:42
Speaker 1: I'm a commitment for That's what my therapist tell me.
39:47
Speaker 2: Let's unpack that for a moment. Why do you think
39:52
Speaker 2: it is that you're afraid of commitment? Tam them?
39:57
Speaker 1: Can I lay back? I'm just kidding all right. So
40:00
Speaker 1: I think I'm afraid of commitment because I don't want
40:03
Speaker 1: to choose the wrong person. I don't want to choose
40:05
Speaker 1: wrong And I have so many options too, that makes
40:10
Speaker 1: it harder to pick one. When you got like endless
40:13
Speaker 1: niggas in your dms, endless niggas every time you walk
40:17
Speaker 1: out the door.
40:18
Speaker 2: That's that's everybody. That's most I do want to say
40:21
Speaker 2: most women, because all women don't have all those options.
40:23
Speaker 2: But if you're an attractive woman, you definitely got dick
40:27
Speaker 2: on our three.
40:28
Speaker 1: Yeah, everywhere I go.
40:30
Speaker 2: But it's hard for you to pick one. What do
40:34
Speaker 2: you entertain? At some point you have to You have
40:37
Speaker 2: to entertain at least one person, right, So is the
40:40
Speaker 2: person you're entertaining somebody that could potentially be your mate
40:44
Speaker 2: or is it somebody that is not?
40:46
Speaker 1: Also, that's some bullshit, so we both want the same thing. Nothing,
40:58
Speaker 1: So you are choosing, I'm not choosing.
41:01
Speaker 2: That is choosing. It's not you are choosing because if
41:05
Speaker 2: you're given this person the available time when you are available,
41:08
Speaker 2: if you're setting aside setting aside time for an unavailable person,
41:13
Speaker 2: you could be setting aside setting aside the same time
41:16
Speaker 2: for somebody who is available.
41:17
Speaker 1: You know what. More recently here I have been making
41:22
Speaker 1: time for people who make time havelftime. Yeah, okay, yeah,
41:27
Speaker 1: but it is a fear of mine because I just
41:29
Speaker 1: don't I just don't want to end up. I be ready, y'all.
41:34
Speaker 1: I love love. I mean, I just want to love
41:37
Speaker 1: first dates. What is it called?
41:41
Speaker 2: What is it called?
41:41
Speaker 1: When? Where's the what's the area where they had the
41:44
Speaker 1: babies at? After birth?
41:47
Speaker 3: War?
41:48
Speaker 1: This bitch got more war? Stay with me yesterday? All right?
41:54
Speaker 2: Baby? Have you maybe?
41:56
Speaker 1: Al right? Baby? All right, baby, I'm gonna call you back,
41:58
Speaker 1: getting ready to record. Baby, bitch, how many babies do
42:01
Speaker 1: you have? Babies? Meanwhile, I'll be like, all right, my boy,
42:08
Speaker 1: I'm gonna at you.
42:11
Speaker 2: That's all.
42:11
Speaker 1: I love them, Okay, I know, y'all, my baby.
42:15
Speaker 3: I got one baby.
42:17
Speaker 1: It'd be different niggas, all of them, all right? So
42:21
Speaker 1: do you have any last words for this?
42:24
Speaker 2: No? But I feel like, meanwhile, meanwhile, while I'm calling everybody,
42:33
Speaker 2: baby right, whichever baby steps up to the plate and
42:38
Speaker 2: does all the things I need right, that'll beat it forever.
42:42
Speaker 1: Baby.
42:43
Speaker 2: So in the meanwhile, all these niggas is that nigga?
42:48
Speaker 1: All of them is baby?
42:49
Speaker 2: Yes, Okay, let's be clear. That's what they do. This
42:52
Speaker 2: is me. I'll let you my boy, thank you for dinner.
42:58
Speaker 1: I'm scared. That's another thing. It's not just the options,
43:02
Speaker 1: the endless options and the fear of choosing wrong. I'm
43:06
Speaker 1: just scared somebody gonna fucking hurt me really badly too.
43:10
Speaker 1: Like I've been there before. I've been there anytime I've
43:12
Speaker 1: really allowed myself to be opened up, opened and vulnerable
43:17
Speaker 1: and like completely submit to a nigga. They take my
43:20
Speaker 1: little heart and they drop it on the ground.
43:22
Speaker 2: But are you opening up to the right people?
43:25
Speaker 1: Apparently not when you do pick so I don't know,
43:30
Speaker 1: And like they always seem like the right person at
43:32
Speaker 1: the time when I allow myself to be.
43:35
Speaker 2: And then show up with that representative and usually you
43:38
Speaker 2: don't find out who the.
43:39
Speaker 3: Fuck he is until after a second. Yeah, oftentimes, so.
43:43
Speaker 1: Once I've been conquered, that's how I feel, like, Oh,
43:46
Speaker 1: I allowed this person to conquer me now and now
43:49
Speaker 1: they playing with my top.
43:50
Speaker 2: Yeah, women chase after they give the pussy up before
43:53
Speaker 2: we have all control, and I ain't got time for that.
43:56
Speaker 2: Then all of a sudden, what happened? Like why am
43:59
Speaker 2: I look for him. Now in the dark in the daytime.
44:02
Speaker 1: Is my online trying to find use car parts for
44:05
Speaker 1: this nigga. You know, I just had a flash back.
44:12
Speaker 2: But as far as spending the blog, I had a
44:14
Speaker 2: homeboy tell me recently that he has intentionally like he
44:18
Speaker 2: saw a girl in the club that he tried to
44:19
Speaker 2: holler at before. And this is not somebody he actually
44:22
Speaker 2: got with. This is just somebody who didn't give him
44:25
Speaker 2: a chance. Like when he saw her one other time,
44:27
Speaker 2: he tried to haller at her and she like, So,
44:30
Speaker 2: I don't know, maybe his aura was different this day.
44:32
Speaker 2: She gave him the number, right they start talking, hanging out,
44:37
Speaker 2: he intentionally like got her number, hollered at her, made
44:40
Speaker 2: her like him just to fuck her and not talk
44:43
Speaker 2: to her no more. Yes, so you have to be
44:46
Speaker 2: careful of those type of spinners. Also, you coming back
44:50
Speaker 2: to around, just coming back around just to play me,
44:52
Speaker 2: Like maybe I was in a relationship the first time,
44:55
Speaker 2: maybe I had other shit going wide and talk.
44:56
Speaker 1: To you, but now you just doing it as a reveal. Yeah,
45:01
Speaker 1: because I didn't like you when you were fat.
45:02
Speaker 2: So there are some revide revenge spinners. Yeah here, y'all
45:06
Speaker 2: be careful.
45:07
Speaker 1: No, I know a guy that does that to women,
45:09
Speaker 1: Like he used to be fat and now he's not,
45:10
Speaker 1: and now he getting all the girls that he couldn't
45:12
Speaker 1: get when he was fat, so he could play them.
45:16
Speaker 1: Oh that's great, that's him out there barking. Would you
45:23
Speaker 1: like to do and tell your.
45:30
Speaker 2: Oh we can go back to Diddy and Karesha like
45:32
Speaker 2: so so then it just last week she said she
45:34
Speaker 2: was out of that relationship. She wanted her own nigga,
45:36
Speaker 2: her own nigga this summer, all this shit, now you
45:39
Speaker 2: back outside. Hey, I don't judge my friends when they
45:43
Speaker 2: do shit like that. If you like him, I love him,
45:48
Speaker 2: so yeah, I'm okay when my friends spend the block
45:51
Speaker 2: on a dude. To allow a dude to spend the block,
45:53
Speaker 2: I don't try to deter them me neither.
45:55
Speaker 1: I don't have I can't. I am in no position
45:58
Speaker 1: to tell anybody anything about their relationship when it comes
46:01
Speaker 1: to that.
46:02
Speaker 2: Spend the block, spind it. If you want to spend
46:05
Speaker 2: the block on my only.
46:06
Speaker 1: My only advice is just wear a condom. That's my only.
46:14
Speaker 1: He's a common guy.
46:15
Speaker 2: Just go get tested. See y'all can slip and slide,
46:18
Speaker 2: like make a whole date out of it.
46:20
Speaker 1: You know, you can get tested today and then he
46:22
Speaker 1: can follow and then come back to you with girl
46:27
Speaker 1: put in a lot unless you're getting tested every day
46:30
Speaker 1: a Christian, that's what he gave us, these kind.
46:36
Speaker 2: Of skin you So God gave y'all condoms connors be
46:39
Speaker 2: irritating like Cucie. Okay, y'all did not create that. God did.
46:44
Speaker 1: He created the mind that created that. So I'm just
46:48
Speaker 1: here for it. I don't ever want to be nowhere like,
46:50
Speaker 1: oh what happened to Tammy? Oh y'all didn't hear? It's
46:53
Speaker 1: so sad.
46:56
Speaker 2: Because I have got.
46:57
Speaker 1: Something in my vagina. Like, No, I don't want to
46:59
Speaker 1: be like on a be because it's some dick. No,
47:03
Speaker 1: that's just not how I'm going about it.
47:04
Speaker 2: That could happen from your husband.
47:06
Speaker 1: It is. But then at least I made a viow
47:08
Speaker 1: before God. Now this was Guy's decision for me. I
47:12
Speaker 1: guess I don't know both.
47:13
Speaker 2: Ways, That's what I'm saying. I'm just playing, y'all. Safe sex,
47:22
Speaker 2: always practical play. You gonna make a whole date out
47:26
Speaker 2: of going and get tested together. Get y'all people work
47:29
Speaker 2: and have like a pink slip party.
47:31
Speaker 1: That is the worst idea, because what if somebody slip
47:34
Speaker 1: come back fucked up. Now it's no longer a party.
47:39
Speaker 2: A memorial ship.
47:42
Speaker 1: Yeah, go get your tests and bring your paperwork back.
47:46
Speaker 2: Niggas be cheating off their girlfriend tests or whoever they
47:48
Speaker 2: want test, So you've got to make sure they bring
47:50
Speaker 2: their own tests with their social and name on it.
47:53
Speaker 1: Niggas do not go get the first of all, they
47:55
Speaker 1: just don't go to the hospital period. That much. Black
47:58
Speaker 1: men are they be on I've seen black men literally
48:01
Speaker 1: on their deathbed before they'll even go to the hospital. Like,
48:05
Speaker 1: why won't you go check on yourself?
48:07
Speaker 2: That's why you need a wife. Y'all out here not
48:09
Speaker 2: making sure your women do the same thing. Goad bitches.
48:13
Speaker 2: Be'all have with bad livers pussy good though, because you
48:18
Speaker 2: went to the obg y am, but you ain't had
48:20
Speaker 2: a full physical.
48:20
Speaker 1: You point at me like you talk about I'd be
48:23
Speaker 1: going to the door.
48:26
Speaker 2: My heart, my heart bad, and my pussy good. Like, girls,
48:30
Speaker 2: that's crazy. We need to do a damn a physical
48:33
Speaker 2: challenge for the month of June.
48:36
Speaker 3: What do you mean, Like, yeah, go get a full physical,
48:38
Speaker 3: get a full blood work up.
48:40
Speaker 2: Okay, Yeah, make sure you're good, you know, get you
48:42
Speaker 2: some Obamacare.
48:43
Speaker 1: I have to Well, you can't get obamacare right now,
48:45
Speaker 1: I think the it is closed. But you can prepare
48:49
Speaker 1: for the end of this year to go get you
48:50
Speaker 1: some health care, or just go get you some health
48:52
Speaker 1: care if you get afforded, you know. But I have
48:55
Speaker 1: to get I have to get my body checked all
48:57
Speaker 1: the time, just because I have MS, so they're always
49:00
Speaker 1: usually checking my levels, my blood work and all that
49:03
Speaker 1: good stuff. But people don't go often at all.
49:06
Speaker 2: Nope, they be scared too.
49:07
Speaker 1: And I can understand the fear though, like sometimes ignorance
49:11
Speaker 1: is bliss, especially like if you got something going on,
49:14
Speaker 1: you might be scared to go. I can get I
49:16
Speaker 1: understand that.
49:17
Speaker 3: Today's just gonna be around here violating other people.
49:20
Speaker 1: Then I know, but I understand the fear though, so
49:24
Speaker 1: ooh lot.
49:24
Speaker 3: I don't like talk about stuff now.
49:26
Speaker 1: That's why it's just easier to just put on a condom.
49:28
Speaker 1: Anytime I ever fuck without a condom, I go to
49:31
Speaker 1: bed like this at night.
49:33
Speaker 2: Thank God. If you ever can't sleep just.
49:35
Speaker 1: Laying in the dark with my eyes offen, I'm not
49:38
Speaker 1: doing that no more. I be like you sleep.
49:41
Speaker 2: Peacefully up sull do.
49:45
Speaker 3: Y'all.
49:45
Speaker 2: These are jokes. Okay, let's be clear anyway, bitch listen,
49:53
Speaker 2: spend the block or not be careful. That's the that's
49:56
Speaker 2: my word, right, you know what I mean? Because sometimes
49:59
Speaker 2: certain people will and hit your phone. It's like, is
50:01
Speaker 2: this nigga coming to bring me some shit? I do
50:03
Speaker 2: think that about certain people, like does he have a
50:06
Speaker 2: special delivery he's trying to drop off? Because why are
50:09
Speaker 2: you on my phone right now?
50:11
Speaker 1: It's the dick they're trying to drop off. But what's
50:13
Speaker 1: in it?
50:14
Speaker 2: Right? What's in the dick?
50:15
Speaker 3: They might not know exactly, So why are you here?
50:19
Speaker 2: Sir?
50:20
Speaker 3: He careful y'all listen.
50:22
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