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What Are You Saying? - Part 2: Transforming Miscommunication, Surrendering to God's Work in Marriage · Couples’ Journey Podcast Channel

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  Welcome back to our series on transforming communication in marriage.
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  Today, we're diving deeper into why miscommunication and poor listening are
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  more than just inconveniences. They can trap us in cycles of conflict.
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  So what truly needs to change?
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  Here's Rey and Annie as they share the transformative power of surrendering
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  to God's work in our relationships. Here's part two.
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  Miscommunication will happen, and when combined with poor listening,
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  it can easily lead couples into conflict.
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  It's a fact, inevitable, frequent, and often repeated.
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  Despite being reminded of this truth, many still find themselves overwhelmed by conflicts. Why?
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  Because we don't always recognize that our responses aren't effective.
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  It took us a while to realize we were in bondage to the wrong responses,
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  rooted in communication challenges within marriage.
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  We've mentioned this many times. Encountering Jesus Christ truly brings us to
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  a painful but genuine realization.
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  It's painful because we know that embracing His transformation requires us to
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  die to our old selves and welcome His work in us.
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  When it comes to miscommunication and poor listening, we often overlook another layer of truth.
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  This process requires a thorough transformation.
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  Too often, when faced with these challenges, we're quick to search for solutions
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  we think we can handle on our own.
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  Just search online for marriage communication advice, and you'll find countless
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  articles and self-help books. But are we really improving?
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  Unfortunately, communication issues still remain a major cause of divorce and
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  separation. So what are we missing?
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  The answer is a process of transformation aimed at intentionally addressing
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  the unhealthy behaviors that fuel miscommunication and poor listening.
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  This process involves submitting and surrendering to God each day.
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  We've attended many marriage retreats and are active in couple small groups.
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  Yet we still encountered miscommunication.
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  It was only when we genuinely reminded ourselves that our relationship with
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  God through Jesus Christ goes beyond religion that we started to learn how to approach each day.
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  We began asking for His help and guidance through the Holy Spirit.
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  Because we knew, deep down, that we had been stubborn.
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  Establishing unhealthy behaviors that triggered even more miscommunication and poor listening.
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  We had to embrace God's transforming work.
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  What keeps us on track is our daily communion with Him.
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  This constant communion drives us to submit in His authority and obedience to
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  His commandments, particularly in changing behaviors that trigger miscommunications and poor listening.
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  Let's remember that self-help books can be helpful, but only Jesus Christ can
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  truly take us into a journey of transformation, one that frees us from the bondage
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  of established, unhealthy, and unpleasing behaviors and habits.
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  Before we close, we want to invite you to engage with us and support the Couples
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  Journey blog series podcast.
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  By following this channel, leaving comments, and sharing episodes with your
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  family and friends, you're helping us in our mission to transform marriages
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  today. Your support encourages more couples to seek God's guidance and grow stronger together.
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  Learn more about this movement on the website www.couplesjourney.org.
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  Thank you for being part of this journey. Together, we can make a difference.
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  Here's the final part of today's episode.
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  Thank you for joining us in part 2 of this series. Remember,
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  true change comes from a daily surrender to God's guidance and the work of the
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  Holy Spirit. not just self-help solutions.
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  Stay tuned tomorrow as we share part three of our series. What are you saying?
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  Until then, keep seeking God's transformation. You won't want to miss what's next.