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What If It Actually F*^%ing Works · WILD SOUL ALCHEMY PODCAST

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  I absolutely love where my friend is. I remember being on a
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  conversation six months ago. I was driving to DC for work and
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  just stopped in traffic talking to a friend, and she was telling
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  me about an event she had done and did content creation for
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  just recording some reels, and she is really good at content
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  creation, like really good, and it lights her soul up. So I love
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  it whenever she was able to do things like that, and that's how
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  her and I had met because I was opening a local mocktail lounge,
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  and she absolutely loved the idea, and said, "Let me help you
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  with this." And we quickly found out how much we had aligned in
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  what we thought about the world and how thought things work. And
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  so we kind of talked to each other pretty frequently to just
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  check in and encourage the other. We knew that, like
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  manifesting with others increased our our
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  manifestations. So we would constantly talk and share how
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  things were working for us because we were both seeing like
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  gigantic growth. And she was telling me that she didn't think
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  she wanted to do the content creation anymore. She didn't
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  think people wanted it. They weren't going to pay her for it,
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  and she was also. I knew she had mentioned it was winter time,
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  and there had just been like a higher heat bill and needing
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  extra money. And I had just opened up our like Facebook. I
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  was just like stopped and listening to her, and I opened
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  it up. And the very first post was from our local community
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  group, where a lot of people like put in requests and shared
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  our businesses. And there was a lady looking for a videographer
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  for her wedding, and the videographer had like the
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  wedding was in a week, and the videographer had broken her or
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  their ankle, and she was like, "This is like I have some money.
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  I don't have like a lot of money, but I I will pay. I just
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  need somebody who can do this." And so I told my friend, I was
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  like, "Hey, here's a post on everything, Frederick. I want
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  you to go and post in there that you're the chick for this, and I
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  had already like put, hey, this is your chick, and my friend was
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  like, I don't think, and I don't do weddings, and I was like, you
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  you take video, and I was like, there's only one way to find
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  out, and I just wanted to like take her and shake her and be
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  like, but what if it works for you and you need money. Like
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  this is something you love to do, and I said, "Look, it takes
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  you 30 seconds. Just jump on, say I'm your chick." And she's
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  like, "Okay, fine, fine." And because she, I love that about
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  us because like we actually took each other's advice, and we did
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  very well at encouraging each other to what if the
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  possibilities, like the positive possibilities. And so she's
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  like, "Okay, let me get off here. I'm gonna go do this." And
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  10 minutes later, she calls me back and she is screaming, "I
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  got it! I got it!" And she's paying me way more than she, my
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  friend, had thought that she would be paid for, and so now
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  it's just amazing. To like six months ago, she was saying maybe
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  this isn't for me, and now, not only did she do well there, she
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  started picking up a lot more content creation, and she has
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  her own very popular podcast. Remember, I said six months ago,
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  very popular local podcast. She has been paid for several
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  projects. She is absolutely loving it. She got into a local
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  content creation group, so she's like really finding her people,
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  and that's exactly what we're talking about today. Hey, hey, I
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  am Ginger, and welcome back to Wild Soul Alchemy. Last episode,
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  I said there's one thing you'll hear me say over and over, only
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  one way to find out. Today, we're going to talk about why I
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  say it, why it might change how you look at every idea you've
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  been sitting on, and how to change your perspective to
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  actually take action on these things. So we always say there's
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  things that we want to do. I've always wanted to learn guitar.
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  I've always wanted to go see very specific waterfalls, and
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  I've always wanted to start a podcast. It's actually been
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  about three years in the making, and instead of doing the things
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  that we want, we sit here and we go off onto what if tangents,
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  and we what if the hell out of it. What if I'm bad? What if it
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  fails? What if I spend money and I hate it? Or we start beating
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  ourselves up and we're like, oh, what if people think I'm
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  ridiculous or they don't agree and I'm just wasting my time?
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  And so let me ask you this: How's that working out for you?
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  Of course, all of our what ifs could go wrong, but I want to
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  ask you: What if it actually fucking worked, we don't sit
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  here and spend much airtime with that thought. And I used to
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  think that planning for every way it could go wrong was what
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  mature, responsible people did. Now that we're adults, we have
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  to plan and be prepared for everything. They tell us that we
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  have to have a savings with so many months of mortgage and
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  bills, or we have to the life insurance and the car insurance
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  and the health insurance. Even if you're healthy, or we are
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  just conditioned to think about all of the the possibilities
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  that could go wrong. And when we go into these tangents, what if
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  it doesn't work out? What if you fucking love it, and what if it
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  makes you feel alive again? It could be a whole new chapter in
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  your life. And there are other things that we're in situations
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  where we don't like it, and but we think like we have to be
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  stuck in this permanent situation, and then you get out
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  of it, and years down the road, you're like, "Oh my God, I
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  remember! Like I thought, what if this didn't make, or what if
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  this didn't work out?" And look at me now. So fear is just a
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  spotlight where more love is needed. It's not a stop sign.
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  It's pointing at something that actually matters to you, or you
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  wouldn't be scared of it, so why don't we take these what ifs and
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  turn it into like instead of what if it doesn't work, and say
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  what if it actually fucking works? And that's why I always
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  say there is only one way to find out. And when you change
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  this perspective, it helps you take action. So you ask yourself
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  only one way to find out, and what if it actually fucking
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  works? And you go and you do the thing, and so now we have more
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  data. You know whether or not it works, whether or not you failed
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  at it, whether or not people loved you, and so you just
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  fucked around and you found out. Great. If it's not your thing,
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  cross it off. You don't have to give any more airtime to it. Or
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  what if? And this is my favorite what if game. What if it is your
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  favorite fucking thing now? And you wouldn't have known that if
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  you didn't try it. And that's the part that nobody tells you.
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  Like every time you try something, you find out whether
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  or not you like it, and you also get to take that data now and
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  use it as more discernment into knowing how to make better or
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  sorry future decisions on whether it's something you want
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  to try or not. So the more I went and like tried to find like
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  the only one way to find out, I started noticing that the things
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  that I didn't like or that ended up going terribly wrong, I
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  always had like this crampy feeling before doing it, and so
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  I started taking note of that, and then I also started
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  analyzing, and I was like, "Oh, well, what does it feel like
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  when I was like that nervous before doing something, and then
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  I did it, and I loved it, and then I like started noticing
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  those signs were something totally different. So I'm
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  sacral. If you're into human design, I'm a sacral authority,
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  and so I get pings or like my intuition is what it is in my
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  gut.
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  And so I started noticing like I would get stomach cramps or like
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  just my stomach didn't feel great before doing something or
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  doing something that I didn't think should be happening, like
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  about to go out on a date with a guy that the date ended up being
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  horribly wrong, and I always recognized there was this
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  feeling, and I started looking back through my life at all
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  these like major bad decisions I made and how I felt prior to
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  going, and I started noticing this pattern. And so, when you
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  go and you do these things, you get to find out like your body's
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  intuition telling you whether or not something is going to be
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  bad. And so now I'm so good at it that if I get this feeling in
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  my gut, I just listen to it, and I don't care how crazy it makes
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  me seem I have learned the hard way, way too many times, and I
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  listen to it, and I don't care anymore. Even if it like if I'm
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  wrong, if I like think something's bad that's gonna
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  happen, and I get this gut, and I don't do it, and then it ended
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  up being something that would have been okay. That's fine. I
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  am. I have been so right on. This that the like 2% I might
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  fail I'm fine with that so I encourage you because the more
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  you find the more you practice this the more you will have
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  better discernment and you can journal these things so that you
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  don't have to like have it in the front center just get a very
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  specific journal and before you go do something new, write down
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  like how you're feeling, and then afterwards write down how
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  you're feeling, how it went, and then you get more data. Because
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  fear gives us nothing to work with; it keeps you standing
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  still. And life is just one big experiment and noticing the
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  patterns. When we take action, it gives us something to build
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  from, and even a wrong decision is a step. Now you know which
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  way not to go. That choice that went sideways, it still counts
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  because you're moving forward. So I want to encourage you to
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  start catching yourself whenever a scary what if or a negative
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  what if comes, and write it down, and then right next to it,
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  write the other version. What if it actually fucking works? What
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  if I love it? And what if this is the thing that changes my
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  life, my chapter, my week? You don't have to believe it. Just
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  give it some airtime. And in addition to that, start noticing
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  where in your body we all have different intuition centers.
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  Start noticing these things and write these down on this piece
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  of paper. The next episode, we're going to talk about what
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  to do when the thing you want feels way too big or scary to
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  start, and this is like the big mountain thing. Stay curious,
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  wild soul. Toodles.