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SPECIAL PODCAST: By the Time They Support You, You Realize You Never Needed Them! · Naughty But Nice with Rob Shuter

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  Speaker 1: Sure hell level level Lo. Hello, welcome to the special
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  Speaker 1: weekend edition of the Naughty but Nice Podcast. I'm your host,
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  Speaker 1: job Shooter, and as well as being a gossip kellamist
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  Speaker 1: and entertainment reporter, I'm also a best selling author and
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  Speaker 1: an expert in habits, change and self help. So on
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  Speaker 1: the weekends we do these short shows, only about ten
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  Speaker 1: minutes long, but they've turned out to be so popular,
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to keep doing them as long as you
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  Speaker 1: keep listening. Let's jump into today show. By the time
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  Speaker 1: they support you, you realize you never actually ever needed them.
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  Speaker 1: I used to be one of those people who needed
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  Speaker 1: everybody to love and support me. I wasn't happy unless
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  Speaker 1: I felt like folks that I didn't even know supported me.
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  Speaker 1: I was so desperate for everybody else's approval that eventually
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  Speaker 1: I disappeared. I was immobilized by fear of what other
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  Speaker 1: people might think. I dimmed my own light rather than
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  Speaker 1: risk being seen as the real MEA even a comment
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  Speaker 1: on my Facebook page had the power to devastate me,
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  Speaker 1: to the point that I second guessed every single new
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  Speaker 1: post I put up. And it wasn't just onlyne that
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  Speaker 1: I started to disappear. I became invisible in my real
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  Speaker 1: life too. At work, I found myself speaking out less
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  Speaker 1: and less, and in my private life I almost stopped
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  Speaker 1: getting off the couch and going out at all. What
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  Speaker 1: I was doing was censoring myself in order to censor
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  Speaker 1: how other people reacted to me. In the end, it
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  Speaker 1: was like I completely vanished, leaving behind nothing for anyone
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  Speaker 1: to like or dislike. Does that sound familiar? Jim Carrey
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  Speaker 1: said the following quote. Your need for acceptance can make
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  Speaker 1: you invisible in this world. Don't let anything stand in
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  Speaker 1: the way of the light that shines through this form.
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  Speaker 1: Risk being seen in all your glory trying to win
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  Speaker 1: people over who aren't on board. It's a full time
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  Speaker 1: game that you are guaranteed to lois If you find
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  Speaker 1: yourself quickly swiping by all the people who are supporting
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  Speaker 1: you online just so that you can find the one
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  Speaker 1: who doesn't, you know you have a problem. Obsessing about
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  Speaker 1: that one negative comment all day long while ignoring all
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  Speaker 1: the positive ones is a total waste of time. Time
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  Speaker 1: you're never going to get back. Think about it. If
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  Speaker 1: you spend just thirty minutes a day thinking about people
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  Speaker 1: who disapprove and let's be honest, we all probably spend
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  Speaker 1: a little longer than that. That adds up to over
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  Speaker 1: two hundred hours per week. That is over ten thousand
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  Speaker 1: minutes per year. You are wasting one week of your
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  Speaker 1: life every three hundred and sixty five days, or because
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  Speaker 1: you don't feel important enough to know that you don't
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  Speaker 1: need them. Ariana Grande said the following quote. I worked
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  Speaker 1: with somebody who told me they're never like me, but
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  Speaker 1: for some reason, I just felt like I needed her approval,
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  Speaker 1: so I started changing myself to please her. It made
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  Speaker 1: me stop being social and friendly. It made me so unhappy.
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  Speaker 1: There are many many reasons people don't support you, but
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  Speaker 1: at the end of the day, it doesn't matter. You
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  Speaker 1: are not going to change them. But you can change you.
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  Speaker 1: Get rid of the idea that you must please others
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  Speaker 1: and start focusing on pleasing the only person who really
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  Speaker 1: truly matters, yourself. When you live your life without needing
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  Speaker 1: the approval of others, not only do you get back
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  Speaker 1: an enormous amount of wasted time, but you also get
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  Speaker 1: back all those hours to focus on you and what
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  Speaker 1: you think. The only person you need to please is yourself.
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  Speaker 1: Listen to your instincts and see what happens when you
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  Speaker 1: realize that you never needed anybody else. Raquel Welsh may
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  Speaker 1: she rest in peace said the following quote. Once you
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  Speaker 1: get rid of the idea that you must please other
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  Speaker 1: people before you please yourself, and you begin to follow
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  Speaker 1: your own instincts, only then can you be happy and successful.
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  Speaker 1: Watch once you no longer need their approval. Guess what's
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  Speaker 1: going to happen. You're gonna get it. And when you
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  Speaker 1: learn that there's only an audience of one, other people
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  Speaker 1: are going to want a seat at that performance called
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  Speaker 1: your life too. By the time they decide to support you,
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  Speaker 1: you already have all the support you will ever need
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  Speaker 1: from the most important person in the world. You. Let's
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  Speaker 1: end with a great quote from Pam Anderson quote, Eventually
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  Speaker 1: you just have to realize that you're living for an
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  Speaker 1: audience of one. I'm not here for anyone else's approval.
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  Speaker 1: By the time they support you realize you never ever
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  Speaker 1: needed them at all. Thank you so much for listening
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  Speaker 1: to these short weekend editions of the NORN Even I Show.
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  Speaker 1: My name is Rob Shooter. Monday Friday, we give you
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  Speaker 1: all the best celebrity news, all the best celebrity gossip,
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  Speaker 1: and on the weekends we give you these hopefully inspiring,
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  Speaker 1: short little podcast Thank you so much for listening to them.
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  Speaker 1: I am so so grateful, and remember altogether now, if
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  Speaker 1: you're going to be an auty, you've got to be nice.
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  Speaker 1: Take care everybody. I shall see you on Monday. It's
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  Speaker 1: start even nice with Bro