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You've Got a Friend in Me with Ellen Goltzer · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast
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  Speaker 1: with iHeartRadio.
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  Speaker 2: Hey everyone, it's Ashley and I have I have the
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  Speaker 2: lovely Ellen from the Golden Bachelor. Here. Ellen, your storyline
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  Speaker 2: to me was probably like one of the ones that
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  Speaker 2: made me feel the most because right off the bat
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  Speaker 2: we hear about your friend who passed away, and I
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  Speaker 2: think that was like the first time I cried during
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  Speaker 2: the Golden Bacheloh, and then maybe you at the reunion
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  Speaker 2: show was probably the last time I cried.
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  Speaker 3: Oh. They really just brought it out of me. I
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  Speaker 3: mean like he really pulled me out of my covering
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  Speaker 3: zone because I'm not good with that. And you know,
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  Speaker 3: first I had to see the rejection with Gary, which
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  Speaker 3: was hard, and you know, I've come to terms with
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  Speaker 3: it and everything and I really have. It really is
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  Speaker 3: helped me. But we finished that and then he was like,
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  Speaker 3: but we can't like go without leaving without talking about ROBERTA.
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, oh no, this is going to be a
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  Speaker 3: double whammy. I mean it's really going to get to me.
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  Speaker 3: And the truth is when he started bringing that out,
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  Speaker 3: it started like saying, well, I probably would never have
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  Speaker 3: had this experience if it wasn't for her Roberta. And
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  Speaker 3: then when he said, I said, you know, I miss
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  Speaker 3: her a lot, and I sort of got chearry eyed,
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  Speaker 3: which I usually I'm okay with that, you know, I
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  Speaker 3: was usually controlled. But then when he said, like, there's
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  Speaker 3: someone here that wants to see you, and I was like, who, Like,
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  Speaker 3: don't freaking my kids are here or somebody. I mean,
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  Speaker 3: it is Courtney And I said, oh my god. I
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  Speaker 3: wasn't even supposed to leave the stage. I wasn't supposed
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  Speaker 3: to get up. I said, I don't, I'm making the
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  Speaker 3: rules and I went down, and I just like, it
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  Speaker 3: was amazing the last time you'd seen her. I see
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  Speaker 3: her a lot. I do, but not in California, you know.
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  Speaker 3: I mean staying at her mom's house, Roberta's house for
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  Speaker 3: the because she had bought a condo in my community
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  Speaker 3: and was her wish to live near us with our fiance,
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  Speaker 3: and he bought her a condo in my community. She said,
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  Speaker 3: I'm retiring, so you can use my office in the bedroom,
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  Speaker 3: you know, Roger, really, well, it's just going to be
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  Speaker 3: for the summer, like camp, you know. And we had
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  Speaker 3: one summer together and it was done, so I'm still
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  Speaker 3: there and she's not, so it's really freaky. But Courtney's
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  Speaker 3: been coming to visit and go through stuff with me,
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  Speaker 3: and you know, stuff like that, so she's like a daughter.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, we know Bert and I know each other
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  Speaker 3: since we're ten years old. So it's been a whirlwind.
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  Speaker 3: It is very high emotions, low emotions, feelings all over
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  Speaker 3: the place, which is so not like me.
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  Speaker 2: So you and ROBERTA, when did you sign yourself up
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  Speaker 2: for the show with her?
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  Speaker 3: I think she's sort of starting right. Well, it wasn't
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  Speaker 3: team at all.
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  Speaker 2: It wasn't she just did it completely.
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  Speaker 3: No, she did know I did it, but she gave
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  Speaker 3: me such gar built that this is my life right now.
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  Speaker 3: You're my best friend forever. We watched The Bachelor twenty
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  Speaker 3: years together. I need to see this first. That's why
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  Speaker 3: the first episode was so meaningful because I need to
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  Speaker 3: see this first episode with you. I need to get there,
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  Speaker 3: have a destination, have a desire to keep going, and
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  Speaker 3: how are you going to get realed? So but I
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  Speaker 3: just want you to do it for me And I said, no,
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  Speaker 3: I can't do that. She said, you're going to tell
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  Speaker 3: someone that you love since you're ten years old with
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  Speaker 3: stage four cancer, that doesn't have a really good prognosis
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  Speaker 3: that you can't do the one thing.
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  Speaker 1: Just apply, so you just.
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  Speaker 3: I didn't want to do it, so I just apply.
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  Speaker 3: And I said, Okay, what's a big I'll apply. Nothing's
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  Speaker 3: going to happen. I mean literally, I mean thirty thousand
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  Speaker 3: people applying, I'm just going to apply. So I didn't care,
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  Speaker 3: and I care enough for her, but I just did it.
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  Speaker 3: And then when the casting productive producers came on and
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  Speaker 3: I was like, go, go for ask me whatever you want.
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  Speaker 3: I don't care. And I was so relaxed because you know, Jay,
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  Speaker 3: I was so cute and it was just really nice.
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  Speaker 3: And he said, wow, you're so naturally so calm. I'm like, okay,
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  Speaker 3: I don't want to say to him because I really
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  Speaker 3: don't want to do this. You're like, oh, I was
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  Speaker 3: too comfortable. I was too comfortable, and he sensed that.
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  Speaker 3: And then one thing led to another. The next thing
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  Speaker 3: I know, I'm being fingerprinted and I'm getting a background check.
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  Speaker 3: I go, oh my god, I hope they don't find
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  Speaker 3: out about what's his name was? I was kidding and
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  Speaker 3: they thought it was funny, but I was just trying
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  Speaker 3: to be funny, just to do it, but it was
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  Speaker 3: really a lot of fun.
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  Speaker 2: So when you found out that Gary was going to
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  Speaker 2: be the Golden Bachelor, had you'd already been casted?
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  Speaker 3: Cast No, As a matter of fact, I was, Yes,
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  Speaker 3: I was really casted without knowing. If I remember correctly,
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  Speaker 3: I was anticipating his back being turned around.
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  Speaker 2: So we saw on that one post.
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  Speaker 3: I knew I was going, but I wasn't sure if
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  Speaker 3: I was definitely going. I was waiting for the call
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  Speaker 3: to come. They said, get ready, this is going to
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  Speaker 3: be it, but I didn't know until he turned around.
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  Speaker 3: When he turned around, I was like, oh, yummy, good.
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  Speaker 3: He's cute, you know. And I didn't mean yummy, you
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  Speaker 3: know what I mean. But he was really not hot
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  Speaker 3: on the eyes, and I was like, oh, he sounds
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  Speaker 3: really nice. He's got a cute personality. And he turned
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  Speaker 3: out to be a really great guy. He just wasn't
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  Speaker 3: a guy for me and I wasn't the girl for him,
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  Speaker 3: and it taught me a lot. He made very good
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  Speaker 3: choices tonight. He did exactly what he should have done.
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  Speaker 3: So I am really happy for her. I was her
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  Speaker 3: roommate also for a month. It was a crazy month,
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  Speaker 3: but I sincerely was happy for her. I'm happy for
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  Speaker 3: her and a family. They have a whole plan, you know,
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  Speaker 3: the whole exciting thing about the way, it's just going
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  Speaker 3: to be really fun.
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  Speaker 2: When you found out that you were officially cast in
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  Speaker 2: that Gary was the bachelor and you saw his picture,
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  Speaker 2: what was the conversation like between you and Roberta.
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  Speaker 3: I first I told her I hated her, and then
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  Speaker 3: I said I'm gonna go. What happened was I had
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  Speaker 3: developed a this is I never told anybody this lot
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  Speaker 3: of podcasts. I never did. I developed a absence on
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  Speaker 3: my cheek. And it was like three weeks before I
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  Speaker 3: was supposed to go, and I said, oh my god,
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  Speaker 3: I can't go. I mean, it was really like a
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  Speaker 3: golf ball and I said, I don't know what to do,
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  Speaker 3: and the doctors in Florida couldn't help. But I said,
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  Speaker 3: I'm going home to New York to my dermatologist. So
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  Speaker 3: I really had a lot of faith in and she said,
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  Speaker 3: I'm getting you on that Goddamn lady. It kills me.
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  Speaker 3: There's no way I'm not letting a patient mine be
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  Speaker 3: a goldenem Bacheloretta's no way. So she allowing she has
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  Speaker 3: to go. She has to go, and doctor D thank
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  Speaker 3: you so much because it wasn't for you. And Roberta
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  Speaker 3: kept saying to me the whole time. That's where I
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  Speaker 3: get this from. Never say never, so you'll meet somebody.
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  Speaker 3: It may not be your guy, but whatever, never say never.
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  Speaker 3: You're going on that plane. You're going to get to go.
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  Speaker 3: You are not going to look like a monster. You'll
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  Speaker 3: be fine. And sure enough it cleared up, like enough
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  Speaker 3: to cover it with makeup and now it's much better.
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  Speaker 3: But it was. It was really scary, and I knew
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  Speaker 3: that I wasn't going to go, that's how bad it was.
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  Speaker 3: So but she kept motivating me and said, I said,
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  Speaker 3: how much you really want me to go? Look at me?
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  Speaker 3: My boys said, Ma, you can't go with it like that,
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  Speaker 3: No you can't. And she kept saying to the boys stop,
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  Speaker 3: She'll be fine, and I was and I was able
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  Speaker 3: to go. So there was like somebody, a higher power
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  Speaker 3: that was way above Roberta or me. That really made
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  Speaker 3: it really special because I just felt her presence the
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  Speaker 3: entire time I was on the show, and she was
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  Speaker 3: when I got home, and I couldn't communicate with her
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  Speaker 3: because she was like in a semi home estate. It
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  Speaker 3: was really difficult because I felt her like squeeze my
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  Speaker 3: hand and the next day didn't feel anything, and she
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  Speaker 3: was still with me, and I said, it's okay. This
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  Speaker 3: is when it got me at the women tell it's okay, go,
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  Speaker 3: it's okay. I want you to watch it. We'll watch
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  Speaker 3: together different places, that's all. And that got me because I,
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  Speaker 3: you know, and then I see Courtney right after that,
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  Speaker 3: and it was like, oh, you kidding me, you know,
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  Speaker 3: because Courtney was with me the whole time with all this,
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  Speaker 3: you know, at the hospital, this hospice and everything. I'm
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  Speaker 3: just so glad in a way. This is terrible to say,
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  Speaker 3: but I'm really glad I didn't get it because I
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  Speaker 3: wouldn't have been there for her for the last few days.
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  Speaker 3: And it wasn't a good match anyway, where we probably
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  Speaker 3: would be great friends because we had a lot of fun.
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  Speaker 3: Like he said that, Gary did say to me that
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  Speaker 3: he felt we'll sit to everybody. I always felt the
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  Speaker 3: most comfortable with Ellen, Like it didn't I want to
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  Speaker 3: see if there's a romantic you know part of this,
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  Speaker 3: But I always felt I could be myself with Ellen,
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  Speaker 3: so I knew there would always be a bond and
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  Speaker 3: a friendship. But yeah, I wouldn't. If I was with
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  Speaker 3: him and he picked me, it probably wouldn't have been
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  Speaker 3: a good match, and I wouldn't have been able to
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  Speaker 3: say goodbye to her. So everything happens for a reason.
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  Speaker 2: Your friendship is seriously so special.
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  Speaker 3: It was very feel like sixty years a long time.
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  Speaker 2: It feels like you guys were like.
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  Speaker 3: I lost my go to person, you know. I mean,
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  Speaker 3: I have a lot of very good friends in Delray.
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  Speaker 3: I have a lot of good friends in New York.
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  Speaker 3: I visit them all the time. My family is in
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  Speaker 3: New York. But there was something about Roberta that was
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  Speaker 3: just it was a true, honest to goodness sister friendship
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  Speaker 3: was So if anybody is lucky enough to have something
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  Speaker 3: like that, they are blessed. So treat each day like
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  Speaker 3: it's a gift. That's what I said doing Thanksgiving.
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  Speaker 2: Sorry, she did put you on a path that that
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  Speaker 2: like changed your life for sure, because totally you didn't
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  Speaker 2: want to go on the show. On the show, I
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  Speaker 2: know that you took so much goodness away from it,
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  Speaker 2: and you took a lot of hope from it. I did,
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  Speaker 2: And now you really feel like you can find love again.
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  Speaker 3: And I got three days on three Saturdays in a row.
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  Speaker 2: No tell us about these men.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know. I wish I did, either someone that
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  Speaker 3: knows somebody or somebody's grandpa that you know I was
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  Speaker 3: a teacher of a long time ago. Or it's just people.
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  Speaker 3: It's a drink. It's a drink, it's a hello, it's
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  Speaker 3: a meet and chat. You know, that's it. It's an hour.
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  Speaker 3: If it's longer than an hour, could be a dinner
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  Speaker 3: date one night. But I stop at an hour all
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  Speaker 3: the time. I haven't dated in a long time, but
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  Speaker 3: I remember stopping it an hour. If it really works,
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  Speaker 3: then it's time for another day. If it didn't work,
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  Speaker 3: it wasn't meant to be anyway. So the hour is
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  Speaker 3: like a healthy hour.
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  Speaker 2: I love that because my mom's always taught me leave
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  Speaker 2: when you're having fun, leave them wanting more exactly. And
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  Speaker 2: I feel like an hour day is the person, and
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  Speaker 2: I think about them, and.
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  Speaker 3: I think about thank got out to spend another minute
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  Speaker 3: with them, or but I'm excited about it. And there's
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  Speaker 3: a lot of sexy, great fun, pickleball golfing, crazy people
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  Speaker 3: men out there that will be a lot of fun
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  Speaker 3: to be with. And I just hope the fact that
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  Speaker 3: I was on the Golden Bachelor doesn't freak them out
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  Speaker 3: a little because.
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  Speaker 2: It means like I'd like to be serious.
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  Speaker 3: Well, I'm enough to freak out anybody because I'm crazy
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  Speaker 3: and fun nutty, but the fact that it's part of
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  Speaker 3: the program makes them a little bit. I want them
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  Speaker 3: to be themselves. I don't want them to be like
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  Speaker 3: someone they're not, you know, And that's one thing I
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  Speaker 3: just always was genuine. I hope, and I just hope
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  Speaker 3: that they are too. And if they are, then I'll
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  Speaker 3: see it if I'll see right through it.
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  Speaker 2: So you are making it sound as if, now you
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  Speaker 2: have a lot of clarity that you and Gary weren't compatible,
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  Speaker 2: but when you're on the show, you were. You were
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  Speaker 2: very quick to start confessing your feelings. Oh yeah, the
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  Speaker 2: first one. So why the clarity now, Well.
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  Speaker 3: What happened was I felt like he felt very comfortable
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  Speaker 3: with me. I felt extremely comfortable with him because he
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  Speaker 3: was very attentive and really listen to me and funny
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  Speaker 3: and the jokes, and he was just totally like not
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  Speaker 3: what they portray as crying machine on television. He was
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  Speaker 3: really a lot of fun to be with. And the
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  Speaker 3: more I made him laugh, the more comfortable he got,
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  Speaker 3: and I felt comfortable. So I felt the natural attraction
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  Speaker 3: for him because he was very nice to look at.
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  Speaker 3: He was a lot of fun to be with, and
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  Speaker 3: I said, I haven't felt this way with a man
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  Speaker 3: in a long time. It's like I'm having these feelings
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  Speaker 3: come out. And then the more I would after the
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  Speaker 3: princess state, Oh my god, I mean I felt, I mean,
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  Speaker 3: this is so out of my comfort zone. If it's
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  Speaker 3: not sneakers and a riped T shirt, I'm not happy.
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  Speaker 3: So I walked into this room with these gorgeous gowns
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  Speaker 3: and then the earring say hello and you, and it
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  Speaker 3: just turned my like I saw the sensitive part of
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  Speaker 3: me that I never saw before. You know, I was
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  Speaker 3: always the one cracking jokes and being funny haha. But
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  Speaker 3: the truth is that I didn't want to be just
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  Speaker 3: funny jokes this time. I mean I really dug him.
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  Speaker 3: I mean I really thought he was really really cool
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  Speaker 3: and nice and funny, and he brought out a sight
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  Speaker 3: of me that I didn't know still happened. And there
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  Speaker 3: is that person inside that does want to be that serious,
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  Speaker 3: nice romantic side, and there's still the fun, silly craziness.
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  Speaker 3: So I'd like it to I would like it to
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  Speaker 3: work with someone else, send someone local, it would be nice.
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  Speaker 3: I don't want to sell my beautiful Kondo a love
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  Speaker 3: it there, you know, and I want to make it work.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, I was willing to do fifty and fifty,
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  Speaker 3: but I don't know if he was because I wasn't
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  Speaker 3: the right person for him anyway. So Teresa is definitely
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  Speaker 3: perfect for him. They'll be happily ever after.
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  Speaker 2: Oh so sweet? All right, Well, we are rooting for
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  Speaker 2: you and make upsdates on these dates? Can we you
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  Speaker 2: be our golden Bachelor on the Almost Jamous podcast and
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  Speaker 2: we're gonna send you on dates everywhere? You're going to
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  Speaker 2: report back? That'd be so fine.
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  Speaker 3: I will, but I will not mention names in case
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  Speaker 3: it's a real dud. You know. I don't want to
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  Speaker 3: save the embarrassment of Hopefully I will not have to
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  Speaker 3: kiss a lot of frogs, just a couple, and maybe
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  Speaker 3: the one of those frogs will turn into a prince.
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  Speaker 3: Wouldn't that be nice? Yes? Thank you, Ellen, thank you
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  Speaker 3: so much for having me. Bye.
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