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469: Your Fractal Family: The Cosmic Mechanics Behind Human Design · Unshakeable with Human Design - A Human Design For Business Podcast

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Nicole Laino: Show dedicated to helping entrepreneurs use human design to shift from hustle to flow without sacrificing results.
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Nicole Laino: Come here to become an unshakable human and build an unshakable business according to your human design.
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Nicole Laino: I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
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Nicole Laino: Hello and welcome to Unshakable with Human Design.
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Nicole Laino: I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
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Nicole Laino: And today this episode is really going to be for my human design nerds.
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Nicole Laino: And I consider myself kind of a leader of the nerds, so to speak.
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Nicole Laino: I love this stuff.
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Nicole Laino: I don't want the surface level things.
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Nicole Laino: I have all the books.
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Nicole Laino: It's for those people.
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Nicole Laino: You've read it all, you have listened to it all, but somehow you still can't get enough.
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Nicole Laino: And you want to go deeper, but people don't seem to go deeper.
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Nicole Laino: So this episode is for you if you feel that way.
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Nicole Laino: We are going to go deeper.
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Nicole Laino: We are going to get into the nuts and bolts of really why this works and some of the things that have been coming through for me lately, just personally and what I've noticed in my work and what I have been observing in other people, and I'm finding it very exciting.
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Nicole Laino: And I think that this is.
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Nicole Laino: I think this episode, my goal with it is for you to just have this maybe a perspective shift.
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Nicole Laino: Maybe it's a deeper knowing, maybe it's a deeper trust.
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Nicole Laino: Maybe we shed some light on some little things.
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Nicole Laino: Like, you'll go, oh, wow, okay, that makes sense why that works the way it works or why it feels the way it feels.
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Nicole Laino: Right?
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Nicole Laino: So I hope by the end of this episode, you feel more in tune with your design.
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Nicole Laino: You feel like you get it a little bit more.
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Nicole Laino: If you were intrigued before, now you feel like, oh, like I'm really understanding why I'm so drawn to this.
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Nicole Laino: Okay, so we're going to dive into it all, and maybe there'll be some terms or areas that you're not familiar with, and we'll shed light on those, or maybe we'll just go a little bit deeper or sometimes.
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Nicole Laino: People often tell me that the way that I explain things or when I bring it up or when I share my reflection, that they receive it and they receive it differently.
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Nicole Laino: And that's actually at the heart of what we are talking about today.
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Nicole Laino: Why is it that when we say some things, when some people say things, when some people connect with us, when we have you receive something from somebody else, it actually, like, hits.
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Nicole Laino: Why is that?
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Nicole Laino: So we're going to be covering all of this stuff today, but that is at the heart of what today's episode is.
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Nicole Laino: It's like, why does human design work for things like business?
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Nicole Laino: Why does human design work for putting us on our path where our mind choosing the path can't necessarily bring us?
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Nicole Laino: You know, I have a lot of people that will do work with me through human design, and they'll end up doing something very different than they came into our container looking for.
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Nicole Laino: You know, they'll be like, oh, I want to be a coach.
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Nicole Laino: And then they'll end up doing something totally different in the business world.
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Nicole Laino: Or maybe they do something outside of the business world.
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Nicole Laino: Everybody has their own path.
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Nicole Laino: And it's very interesting to watch people come home to themselves and realize that the things that they thought they wanted, they didn't actually want, that there was something else that was pulling them toward these things, and that wasn't their truth.
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Nicole Laino: And when they discovered their truth, they're like, oh, this is where I belonged all along.
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Nicole Laino: I couldn't see it, right?
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Nicole Laino: So we're going to go through all of that.
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Nicole Laino: Like, why?
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Nicole Laino: Why does that happen?
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Nicole Laino: Why is human design this tool that seems to feel like coming home?
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Nicole Laino: Right.
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Nicole Laino: I've been having this feeling lately where I was saying to.
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Nicole Laino: I was talking actually to Christina Luna, and I was saying how I really felt.
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Nicole Laino: Like, I've been getting a lot of intuitive hits.
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Nicole Laino: I've been journaling a lot.
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Nicole Laino: There's been a lot that I have been working myself through.
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Nicole Laino: And I told her, like, as I journaled, and then I read back some of the stuff that I wrote.
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Nicole Laino: It was like, I didn't write it.
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Nicole Laino: That I was kind of saying to myself, I'm like.
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Nicole Laino: It's like I'm remembering things that I didn't have access to before.
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Nicole Laino: It's not like I'm learning something new.
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Nicole Laino: It's like I'm relearning something that very old that maybe is lifetimes ago or generations ago that I just.
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Nicole Laino: I lost connection to, or there was some barrier between me and that knowing, and that barrier is becoming thinner.
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Nicole Laino: So why does human design sometimes feel like that?
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Nicole Laino: Remembering?
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Nicole Laino: Why is it a path to remembering, you know, to that feeling of because I felt that way with human design, where it was like.
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Nicole Laino: It's like, oh, this is exactly what's right.
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Nicole Laino: And it didn't feel new.
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Nicole Laino: It felt very old.
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Nicole Laino: It felt new to me in this moment, but like something that was very familiar, right?
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Nicole Laino: It's like, you know, you hear the chords of a song or something, and you're just like, oh, I know that song.
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Nicole Laino: I. I know I've heard it before.
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Nicole Laino: Even if you can't place the name and if you can't place the.
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Nicole Laino: The exact lyrics, you're like, I know that song.
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Nicole Laino: So there's a reason for this feeling.
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Nicole Laino: And we're going to kind of explore all of that here today.
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Nicole Laino: And if you're interested in this topic, we actually created something very cool.
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Nicole Laino: I've never done anything like this before.
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Nicole Laino: And it's funny, I was talking to my team.
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Nicole Laino: I'm like, I can't believe I've never created anything like this before.
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Nicole Laino: But here we are.
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Nicole Laino: I created a coaching by human design guide.
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Nicole Laino: And so this is really about, you know, exploring a lot of what we're talking about in this episode about why it works and why it works specifically in the coaching industry.
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Nicole Laino: Because we are here to guide people.
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Nicole Laino: And the coaching industry in a lot of ways was guiding people to the not self.
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Nicole Laino: Was guiding people to be like me.
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Nicole Laino: And I think human design and getting human design into the hands of more people who are looking to guide people.
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Nicole Laino: And this can be.
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Nicole Laino: If you're looking to guide your kids or you're looking to guide your spouse, or you're looking to guide or just understand people better, this guide, we take you through, like, some techniques and ways that I think about guiding the types and just some more of these concepts.
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Nicole Laino: Like I'll be talking about today of what human design means and why it works and what.
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Nicole Laino: Why it's so needed now.
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Nicole Laino: So it's a really detailed guide.
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Nicole Laino: It's like over 20 pages.
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Nicole Laino: And you can download it right there on the website.
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Nicole Laino: Okay, so back to this concept about human design.
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Nicole Laino: Feeling like home.
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Nicole Laino: So why does it feel like home?
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Nicole Laino: Why does it feel like a remembering?
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Nicole Laino: Why does it feel familiar?
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Nicole Laino: Why does it feel so right that when you do it, you're just like, there's something here.
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Nicole Laino: This is right.
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Nicole Laino: And I want to introduce you to, if you don't already know it, to the concept of a fractal.
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Nicole Laino: We don't talk about it much here.
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Nicole Laino: I don't use the term all the time.
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Nicole Laino: I might say it, but I don't know if I necessarily dig into what it is and why it matters.
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Nicole Laino: So we are pieces of a whole, right?
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Nicole Laino: We are pieces of the whole.
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Nicole Laino: We are not the whole.
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Nicole Laino: While it feels that way as an individual walking through this life, that, like, I am me and here I am and, you know, I'm just me.
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Nicole Laino: And then there's other individuals in this world and everybody has their own individual thing, but it's not actually like that.
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Nicole Laino: That's not actually the truth.
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Nicole Laino: We are actually pieces of a whole.
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Nicole Laino: And obviously, you know, there are two sides to the human design chart.
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Nicole Laino: There's the personality side and there's the design side.
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Nicole Laino: These terms that we would use in traditional human design, we would talk about them as crystals of consciousness.
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Nicole Laino: The personality crystal, which is.
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Nicole Laino: Comes into your body on your birthday, and the design crystal, which is what we get from that 88 degrees prior to your birth.
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Nicole Laino: That's when that crystal enters your being and creates you, right?
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Nicole Laino: So.
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Nicole Laino: Or it's when it's developed.
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Nicole Laino: So these two pieces, the personality crystal and the design crystal.
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Nicole Laino: I'm going to use the term crystal here because I think that it helps to understand the fractal thing, right?
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Nicole Laino: The crystals, we are not a whole crystal.
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Nicole Laino: We are a piece of it.
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Nicole Laino: That the crystals were once this one big crystal and they all burst apart.
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Nicole Laino: And this is how that we are all stardust.
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Nicole Laino: We are all pieces of something and we're all representing a piece of the whole.
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Nicole Laino: But this is something that we often forget.
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Nicole Laino: So.
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Nicole Laino: So these crystals of consciousness blow apart and now we are the pieces out, and we are further out from and disconnected from that original family that were a part of, right?
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Nicole Laino: The ones that were close to us in that big crystal, as were all part of one thing.
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Nicole Laino: There was some pieces.
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Nicole Laino: There are some other fragments out there that were very close to you, were right next to you.
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Nicole Laino: And there's some level to us unconsciously that knows that those pieces exist, that they're out there somewhere, right?
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Nicole Laino: The soul family, so to speak.
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Nicole Laino: The fractal family is how we would look at it.
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Nicole Laino: So the way that this works is that the universe is on these infinite repeating patterns.
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Nicole Laino: The geometry.
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Nicole Laino: You've probably heard me say that on this show a couple of times, where if you think about us not on Earth, think about us moving through space through an energetic field.
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Nicole Laino: And the energetic field works on these repeating, infinite patterns of geometry, sacred geometry.
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Nicole Laino: So if you've ever seen sacred geometry patterns out there like the flower of life and how these.
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Nicole Laino: And if you go into nature, you'll see that these are patterns that are everywhere.
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Nicole Laino: In nature.
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Nicole Laino: This is proven in science.
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Nicole Laino: So all of these infinite repeating patterns are.
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Nicole Laino: What we are doing is we are on these patterns, and we are unconsciously trying to find our way back to the one where the rest of our little fractal family exists.
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Nicole Laino: How do we connect with them?
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Nicole Laino: How do we get on them?
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Nicole Laino: So when you're not self, when you are out of alignment, then you are on the wrong geometry.
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Nicole Laino: You are on some other.
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Nicole Laino: The vision I get in my head is I have these, like, crystal grids that sacred geometry.
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Nicole Laino: If you've ever seen a crystal grid, which I have them, they're like coasters.
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Nicole Laino: I have, you know, these wooden spheres, these wooden circles, panels.
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Nicole Laino: And they have sacred geometry on them.
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Nicole Laino: And you lay crystals on them.
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Nicole Laino: And in my mind, I see them as like if you saw.
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Nicole Laino: Like if you just had hundreds and thousands of these little panels, right?
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Nicole Laino: Well, when you're out of alignment, you're on the wrong panel.
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Nicole Laino: So you keep going around in this infinite repeating pattern on that same panel.
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Nicole Laino: And you're not with the right people.
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Nicole Laino: You're not doing the right things.
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Nicole Laino: You're not seeing what you're meant to see.
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Nicole Laino: And all of these aspects that I'm saying here, being with the right people, your G center, connecting with people through your profile correctly, the way that you go about your life will draw you to those right people.
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Nicole Laino: The what you are meant to see, your personality nodes, and the way that you are meant to see things, you won't see what you're meant to see if you're on the wrong panel.
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Nicole Laino: So this fractal family, your fractal family, exists on a specific panel.
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Nicole Laino: And we're all kind of unconsciously trying to find our way back to that place, right?
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Nicole Laino: To that fractal family.
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Nicole Laino: The people, the places, and the purpose that you belong to or that belongs to you.
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Nicole Laino: This is why I believe, or the things that I have been contemplating and pondering lately are, you know, why do we get the calling?
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Nicole Laino: Why do we get the instinct?
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Nicole Laino: Why do we get the pull towards something that doesn't necessarily make sense?
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Nicole Laino: It was really uncomfortable.
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Nicole Laino: If you think about a calling, I think something that I've been thinking lately is, you know, is the calling that family calling to you?
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Nicole Laino: Is it that correct panel?
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Nicole Laino: Is it that correct geometry that is that magnetic pull is getting stronger?
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Nicole Laino: Why do we magnetize certain people to us?
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Nicole Laino: Well, when we're pulling the right people to us, everything seems to be working right.
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Nicole Laino: Well, how does that even happen?
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Nicole Laino: How do we start to magnetize?
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Nicole Laino: And that word feels so overused to me at this point because people have been saying it for so long and in ways that have sort of cheapened it.
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Nicole Laino: But this is what we're really talking about.
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Nicole Laino: Magnetizing people to you is being able to connect with your fractal family, with the people that you are meant to connect with.
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Nicole Laino: You are meant to lead.
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Nicole Laino: Maybe, maybe you are meant to be led by.
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Nicole Laino: In some cases, a fractal family isn't seven people.
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Nicole Laino: Don't think about it like a family like that you have in your house.
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Nicole Laino: Your fractal family is going to could be thousands and thousands of people.
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Nicole Laino: So we have to start to surrender to something different than our mind, because our mind will program us to be jumping around and moving around, looking in all the wrong places for what we are searching for.
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Nicole Laino: We'll get our ego involved, we'll get what other people are doing involved, we'll get other people's paths.
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Nicole Laino: And that's why I think the coaching industry has gotten so distorted, because it's wonderful to teach somebody what you know, but it's wrong to teach somebody to be you.
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Nicole Laino: That's not anybody's job.
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Nicole Laino: Nobody's meant to be you.
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Nicole Laino: Nobody is meant to be me.
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Nicole Laino: My clients aren't meant to be me.
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Nicole Laino: They're meant to be them.
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Nicole Laino: And it's my job to guide them back to the knowing that they have and to following their soul and their process so that they find that correct geometry.
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Nicole Laino: So they get the right people at the right time and things start to feel like they are on their path.
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Nicole Laino: The path I think, is like, if you think about it, this being on the correct geometry, it really is like being on a path, right?
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Nicole Laino: Because it's almost like we're on this track and we're either on the right one or the wrong one.
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Nicole Laino: We either wake up and we go, this wasn't my stop.
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Nicole Laino: I'm on the wrong train.
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Nicole Laino: Or we wake up and we go, oh, this is where I was meant to be all along.
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Nicole Laino: If we're on the wrong path, if we're not finding our correct geometry, then we're never really waking up, which is what we're all here to do according to human design.
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Nicole Laino: We're all here to wake up to the program.
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Nicole Laino: We're all here to wake up and say, I see how I've been led by outside forces and I'm finally coming home to what is true to me.
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Nicole Laino: To the point where the outside doesn't call to you in the same way.
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Nicole Laino: You have a different relationship to it.
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Nicole Laino: And.
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Nicole Laino: And this is where we get to like the meat of how this works in business.
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Nicole Laino: Now I'm not saying that to get human design to work in your business is a hundred percent alignment thing.
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Nicole Laino: I think anytime that we get our like ego desires in there of like wanting to make money and wanting to succeed and wanting to do certain things, of course we might have a little bit more of our seven centered three dimensional world involved in here.
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Nicole Laino: The material world.
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Nicole Laino: We live in the material world.
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Nicole Laino: I don't expect anybody to be 100% in alignment 100% of the time.
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Nicole Laino: I think that's a tall order for the world that we live in because that would probably require you to have a level of trust.
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Nicole Laino: Frankly, I don't have.
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Nicole Laino: I need to know where my money is coming from.
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Nicole Laino: I need to know and I have a lot of trust to move forward in faith.
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Nicole Laino: But I also do have priorities of taking care of myself and my family.
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Nicole Laino: And I like nice things, I want to go places, I want to enjoy my life and maybe that is part of my destiny too.
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Nicole Laino: So we do have to suspend a little bit of this.
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Nicole Laino: So when we're talking about business, I want to be really clear, you know, there is a business aspect to the business part, but this energetic part is what I want to get to here.
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Nicole Laino: The energetic part is why I teach human design with business.
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Nicole Laino: Because the energetic part is going to lead you to what works for you.
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Nicole Laino: And I'll use myself as a little bit of an example here.
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Nicole Laino: So following this is like the mechanical process here when we're talking about the inner workings of human design and how this all works.
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Nicole Laino: Inner authority.
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Nicole Laino: So we all get one right?
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Nicole Laino: I'm an emotional authority.
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Nicole Laino: You might be splenic or you might be an ego authority or a self projected authority, or maybe you're a lunar authority.
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Nicole Laino: That inner authority that you have the ability to tune in, not out and to tune into yourself.
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Nicole Laino: When you follow your design, that is how you will develop all of those things that I was talking about before.
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Nicole Laino: Your correct perspective.
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Nicole Laino: You'll be around the right people.
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Nicole Laino: You will start to do that naturally.
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Nicole Laino: You won't be thinking about it like should I be in this room or should I go here?
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Nicole Laino: It's going to be you come back to your authority.
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Nicole Laino: It's not going to be your mind making those decisions.
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Nicole Laino: It's going to be your gut or your emotions or through your process.
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Nicole Laino: Basically.
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Nicole Laino: Now this is so important because when you are truly following that is the only way to through being around the right People through having the right experiences, through living the life you are meant to live, seeing what you are meant to see.
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Nicole Laino: That perspective, that's what I talk about in the cosmic niche.
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Nicole Laino: The cosmic niche is about seeing what you are meant to see and being around the people that will help you see it, that you are meant to help with what you see.
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Nicole Laino: It's a multi dimensional thing.
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Nicole Laino: It's not just this is how you can start writing a niche statement.
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Nicole Laino: It isn't about that.
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Nicole Laino: It's about really connecting with who are the people that are here to nurture your purpose, either through you delivering for them or them giving you an experience you're meant to have so that you can see what you are meant to see.
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Nicole Laino: Right.
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Nicole Laino: This is how we develop through that process.
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Nicole Laino: That's you becoming who you're meant to become.
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Nicole Laino: That is you developing in the way that you were built to develop that perspective.
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Nicole Laino: You're going to say the things, you're.
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Nicole Laino: Going to say different things.
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Nicole Laino: If you're aligned, you're going to have different thoughts.
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Nicole Laino: If you're aligned, you're going to have a different message, you are going to have a different mission than if you are aligned, than if you are not.
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Nicole Laino: Right?
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Nicole Laino: So what you'll find is that what that is doing is that is developing what we call your outer authority.
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Nicole Laino: You can't have outer authority until you have inner authority.
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Nicole Laino: You can't be an authority to others until you are an authority to yourself.
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Nicole Laino: You've probably heard me say that before, right?
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Nicole Laino: When you have outer authority, so.
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Nicole Laino: So I don't believe I have my ultimate outer authority.
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Nicole Laino: I think I'm still evolving, developing, growing.
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Nicole Laino: And I believe it will get stronger.
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Nicole Laino: Whatever that means.
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Nicole Laino: It doesn't mean bigger.
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Nicole Laino: I don't know what it means.
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Nicole Laino: I don't know what my destiny is.
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Nicole Laino: And that is something I have to surrender to.
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Nicole Laino: But as an outer authority, my outer authority, I believe it is strong.
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Nicole Laino: I do have people who are incredibly aligned, find me in very synchronistic ways and easy ways.
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Nicole Laino: I don't feel like I have to work terribly hard for it.
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Nicole Laino: But I do recognize that there are some levels that I fight myself where I don't follow things completely.
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Nicole Laino: And I know that's what's standing in my way and that's the inner work I have to do.
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Nicole Laino: The deconditioning I still have to do.
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Nicole Laino: But my outer authority, I am a five line.
18:48
Nicole Laino: So my podcast being the place where I deliver my thoughts, my ideas, my perspective, I'm a 5i.
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Nicole Laino: I deliver my frameworks, I deliver to you how I think, how I break things down.
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Nicole Laino: I make it very easy for you to see a solution in things.
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Nicole Laino: Why?
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Nicole Laino: Because I am solution oriented.
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Nicole Laino: And I put that, I make that a priority for me in the way that I think about things.
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Nicole Laino: Before I deliver anything to you, I'm really thinking it through so that there is a tangible outcome on the other side for you now, that outcome could be incredible.
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Nicole Laino: Understanding, deep understanding.
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Nicole Laino: I don't deal in physical results all the time.
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Nicole Laino: I deal in very felt results.
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Nicole Laino: But it is practical, it is something that people can use, it is something that changes them.
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Nicole Laino: It's transformative.
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Nicole Laino: And that's what I'm here to be.
19:41
Nicole Laino: So my outer authority, this is how my fractal finds me.
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Nicole Laino: I'm doing what I meant to do.
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Nicole Laino: I am saying what I'm meant to say to the best of my ability right now.
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Nicole Laino: And I'm doing it in a method, using this podcast as an example in a way that's very in alignment with my design.
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Nicole Laino: And I could go into all of the aspects of my design from my Leo Midheaven, where I need a stage and I need a show and this feels like home for me.
20:09
Nicole Laino: But also as a five, you know, we are meant to have influence over the people we don't know more than the people that we do.
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Nicole Laino: So, so the fact that my message resonates with strangers and I've made it a priority for me to have a stranger connection platform, that it makes sense that this works for me.
20:28
Nicole Laino: It makes sense that my outer authority carries on a platform like this because it is very in alignment for my design.
20:37
Nicole Laino: Okay, so when you're not following your design, you're not calling out to your fractal.
20:42
Nicole Laino: That's why if you put things out there.
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Nicole Laino: So if you are a four line and you're not nurturing your audience to some degree, if you are not nurturing your network and helping them get to know you, then you're probably going to find that the people you're trying to reach.
20:59
Nicole Laino: So if you're being very impersonal on Instagram, it might not be Instagram, it might just be the way that you're approaching Instagram.
21:06
Nicole Laino: It might be that you are not nurturing that network of people who already know you there and getting them to introduce you to people or refer people or somehow connect you, or you're not letting people get to know you.
21:20
Nicole Laino: You're talking like a five and giving them things to do and things to understand.
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Nicole Laino: But you're not actually letting them know you as a person.
21:28
Nicole Laino: And that will probably break that connection where they don't feel as attached to you.
21:34
Nicole Laino: So your message doesn't carry as far.
21:36
Nicole Laino: That personal side of things for fours typically goes a long way.
21:42
Nicole Laino: So that's why these little tweaks can have such huge implications on our life and on our business, because this is how we're getting closer to what is meant to work for us.
21:52
Nicole Laino: So what we're noticing here right now is that intuition is coming online in a bigger way.
21:58
Nicole Laino: I kind of started the episode off talking about this.
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Nicole Laino: You know, the volume is being turned up on our inner conversation, and the outer world is starting to feel a little less reliable.
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Nicole Laino: Right?
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Nicole Laino: I think.
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Nicole Laino: I don't think that's an accident that the world feels kind of crazy right now.
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Nicole Laino: I don't know about you, but every day I have to stop reading articles and looking at social media because it all just feels insane.
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Nicole Laino: And I stay informed, but I have to, like, take a step back because it's just like, I feel like we're being overrun by completely crazy people.
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Nicole Laino: Like the world gone mad.
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Nicole Laino: So these systems and these institutions and these people where everything feels like it's a mockery, you know, intuition is coming online now because I think we're being called to tune in more.
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Nicole Laino: Right?
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Nicole Laino: And human design can be that mechanism that is helping us hear that part of us instead of hearing the program, instead of looking more for something to make sense out there or something to work out there or something to, you know, just keep going out to that program, you know, And I don't think I really talked about that here about the program, but when we do the transit episodes and when we are.
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Nicole Laino: When we talk about the program changing, you know, right now, as I record the sun is in Gate three in the human design wheel, we're programmed by that energy right now.
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Nicole Laino: So that program is always guiding us.
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Nicole Laino: It's always pulling us.
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Nicole Laino: And it programs the not self.
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Nicole Laino: It programs the part of us that is not in alignment.
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Nicole Laino: Alignment, it calls to it.
23:37
Nicole Laino: So that's why deconditioning is breaking from that program.
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Nicole Laino: Not because we're not affected by it.
23:43
Nicole Laino: Of course we are.
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Nicole Laino: We can't turn it off.
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Nicole Laino: It's energy.
23:47
Nicole Laino: But we stop looking for guidance from it.
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Nicole Laino: We stop blindly going along with it.
23:53
Nicole Laino: This is why the term in human design is waking up.
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Nicole Laino: That's why in 2027, it's called the Cross of the Sleeping Phoenix.
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Nicole Laino: The sleeping phoenix is meant to wake up.
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Nicole Laino: And it wakes up as an individual, it wakes up to itself.
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Nicole Laino: And I think that is what we are all doing right now.
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Nicole Laino: I think humanity is waking up to itself.
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Nicole Laino: We're waking up to ourselves.
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Nicole Laino: And we're seeing how my piece of this fractal plays a role in the greater scheme of things.
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Nicole Laino: Now, I don't know what my purpose is because, I mean, I have an idea of it.
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Nicole Laino: I have my own understanding of it.
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Nicole Laino: But do I know?
24:30
Nicole Laino: No.
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Nicole Laino: I'm not God or the universe.
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Nicole Laino: I don't have some magic connection to it.
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Nicole Laino: I just know my incarnation.
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Nicole Laino: Cross says I know what my design says.
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Nicole Laino: I know what I believe, I know what I feel.
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Nicole Laino: I know I have a voice, and I know I'm supposed to use it.
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Nicole Laino: I'm a 5:1.
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Nicole Laino: I'm meant to use this voice.
24:47
Nicole Laino: I'm meant to have a bit of a soapbox and stand on it and tell you what I think is wrong and tell you how I think that we can fix it.
24:54
Nicole Laino: And that's kind of what I do with this show.
24:56
Nicole Laino: But maybe I'm part of this waking up.
24:59
Nicole Laino: Maybe my job.
25:01
Nicole Laino: And not every fractal member is going to stay in your world.
25:03
Nicole Laino: Not every fractal member is going to hire me as their coach.
25:06
Nicole Laino: But you might listen to this show and I might be part of that journey for you.
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Nicole Laino: Maybe I'm the catalyst or the piece that makes it make sense enough that you start to take it seriously.
25:17
Nicole Laino: And my role is in helping you wake up in this way.
25:21
Nicole Laino: I think, truthfully, all of our roles are in helping each other wake up.
25:25
Nicole Laino: We all play a role in the Great Awakening.
25:28
Nicole Laino: What your role is might not be coaching people or guiding people or having a show like this or anything like that, but your way of waking people up might be in your own community, and it might be through something completely different.
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Nicole Laino: You might be tuning them into something totally different than what I'm tuning them into.
25:45
Nicole Laino: But you're waking them up in your way.
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Nicole Laino: That's your job.
25:48
Nicole Laino: And that's what life is all about, is finding our path to the things that are right for us.
25:54
Nicole Laino: So what all this means for you, I hope that you're grasping from this episode that this is why following your design works and why sometimes it feels like it doesn't when we're not in alignment, why things feel like they fall apart, because you're not just building a business.
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Nicole Laino: That's the strategic side of things.
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Nicole Laino: And I understand that, like, sometimes it feels like we do things and it's like, I did the Same thing they did and it didn't work.
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Nicole Laino: But at the core, what you're really doing is you're sending a signal out to either your people or to the wrong people.
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Nicole Laino: You are either shouting to the crowd of people that has their back at you because they're not your people.
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Nicole Laino: And you're wondering why it doesn't land or you are speaking and the right people are just more and more growing where they are turning toward what you are saying, what you are doing, what you are transmitting, whatever that might be.
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Nicole Laino: The geometry doesn't fight you when you stop fighting it.
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Nicole Laino: It's the not self that fights all of this.
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Nicole Laino: It's the not self that says, maybe it's over here, maybe you got to do it over there.
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Nicole Laino: And that's why surrendering to the boring part of human design, which is strategy and authority, because strategy and authority is the only thing that is going to take you out of your mind.
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Nicole Laino: Because think about it.
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Nicole Laino: Even when.
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Nicole Laino: And this is why if get the coach's guide to Human Design, please download it.
27:13
Nicole Laino: Because I go through these things and the types and if you think you know the types and.
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Nicole Laino: And if you think you understand that part and you think you understand strategy and authority can almost guarantee you're wrong.
27:22
Nicole Laino: Because almost everybody I talk to that says to me that they understand that their type and authority and all of that, but they want to go deeper.
27:29
Nicole Laino: And then I ask them questions about their type and authority and they really don't know it.
27:34
Nicole Laino: And I have to review it with them and have to bring them back to it.
27:37
Nicole Laino: Because in practice it's completely different.
27:40
Nicole Laino: If you are a generator and you've asked yourself the question like, oh, was this a response?
27:44
Nicole Laino: I think I'm in response.
27:46
Nicole Laino: So I'm trying to figure it out.
27:47
Nicole Laino: If you're trying to figure it out, then that's not it.
27:49
Nicole Laino: You don't need to go to your head to know if it's a response.
27:52
Nicole Laino: You go to your body.
27:54
Nicole Laino: If you are an emotional authority, you just have to.
27:58
Nicole Laino: You are comfortable waiting and you like as an emotional authority and alignment, everything gets kind of stretched out on this timeline that is so uniquely yours that you don't feel rushed about anything.
28:12
Nicole Laino: And the minute you feel rushed, you know it's wrong.
28:14
Nicole Laino: You know that it's not for you inner conversation you're kind of always having with yourself, but it is so fluid.
28:20
Nicole Laino: And you don't go up to your head with it.
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Nicole Laino: You don't go into was this or should I that's the not self trying to hop you over onto that other palette that is not yours, to that other geometry that is not yours.
28:35
Nicole Laino: So I hope that you download the guide, because I go into this in tremendous detail.
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Nicole Laino: And if you're a coach, you should absolutely download this and keep this by your side, because it's giving you actually ways that I coach people.
28:48
Nicole Laino: The things that I look for and the things that I'm always watching out for and the ways that I speak to and question my clients and get them into alignment to bring them home to themselves, not to become carbon copies of me, which is the greatest disservice that any coach can do to somebody.
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Nicole Laino: I don't care how successful you are or what kind of trappings that life comes with.
29:09
Nicole Laino: If you're helping somebody become not who they're meant to be and just another version of you, I don't know if there's anything more egotistical, and I know that might offend some people.
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Nicole Laino: But I think from my standpoint of what I know and what I've seen and how I have worked with people, I know that this is part of my message, is to stand up for people's individuality and every single person finding their unique stamp that they're meant to put on this life, and they cannot find that if they're trying to be somebody else.
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Nicole Laino: That is a fundamental shift that needs to happen.
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Nicole Laino: So if you'd like the guide, please go to nicolelaino.com/we will get it to you there.
29:48
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29:49
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29:56
Nicole Laino: Thank you so much for staying to the end of this episode with me.
29:59
Nicole Laino: Thank you for going deep.
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Nicole Laino: I hope that you enjoyed it.
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Nicole Laino: I hope it gave you some aha's.
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Nicole Laino: I hope it gave you some insight, and I hope that you download the guide and that you continue doing this work with your family, your friends, your clients, and that you spread the magic of human design and what it means to really appreciate people for who they are, not for who we think they should be.
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Nicole Laino: Thank you so much.
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Nicole Laino: I will see you in the next episode.
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Nicole Laino: Remember, in order to have an unshakable business, you must first become an unshakable human.
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Nicole Laino: So thanks for letting us help you become unshakable with human design.
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